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The True Value of Helping Just One Person | Ep 262 · Voices for Voices®

• 0:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Hi everyone, thanks for joining us again on another episode of our show, the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast.
• 0:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm your host, as Justin Alan Hayes, and we are grateful and humbled for you to join us on this episode, for you to join us on this episode.
• 0:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We've already pushed through episode 260, which seems, just like yesterday, we hit the number 200 total in studio and out of studio shows.
• 0:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So it's just very incredible and thank you for tuning in.
• 0:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whether you're watching, whether you're listening, whether you're here in the United States or whether you are at any other point across the world.
• 1:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We value you, we value your time and we just can't get over how successful, how many people, how many organizations are interested in Voices for Voices.
• 1:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Really, it's a godsend to be here with you, as we have in all past episodes and all future episodes, so thank you for being with us.
• 1:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Today was a scorcher.
• 1:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Anybody who is in a good part of the United States had a pretty hot day.
• 2:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We actually had probably this last week's been one of the hottest that I can remember, not only on the degrees Fahrenheit or Celsius, however you want to look at it, but also on the humidity scale.
• 2:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Just then, just like step out of wherever you're at and automatically have a pretty good sweat going.
• 2:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I have a pretty good sweat going, but to see sunshine and blue sky, knowing Jesus is looking down on all of us, knowing that my dad, he's watching down and he's never going to miss an event, a game, a show, whatever comes in the way of life.
• 3:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I'm very emotional, very sad, that he is in heaven watching over us.
• 3:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But again, it's not my will to be done, god his will, what he wants me to do, what he wants all of us to do on earth.
• 3:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have some, if any, control over how things go, whether they go well, whether they don't, whether we need somebody to help our career, whether we don't, whether we go through a great season or seasons or whether we go through seasons that can have a lot more positive way to go, way to go.
• 4:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And finding that introspection to come to that realization, I don't know.
• 4:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, if you're anything like me, it's it's hard to really put all this into into words and put it into into context.
• 5:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Right, we, we want to do the right thing, we want to be ethical, we want to be moral as much as we can, understanding that you know, jesus is the sinless one, not me, not you, not anybody here on earth, not you, not anybody here on earth.
• 5:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so then we get to the next point of well, if I don't have a whole lot of control or I'm not able to impact events, whether it's a ball game, whether that is, whatever that may be Then what am I doing here?
• 6:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What am I doing here?
• 6:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Why am I here?
• 6:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Why should I continue to be?
• 6:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, I think we're all optimistic, so it's not.
• 6:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, why should I be optimistic?
• 6:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's just getting that understanding that, no matter how how much I may want something, that you know the Lord above, it's what he wants, what he wants me to do, what he wants me to do, what he wants me to experience.
• 7:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Then could it be riches, could it be, I don't know.
• 7:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Really, you throw anything in there.
• 7:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It might be.
• 7:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But I think there's more to it, because we like to just remind ourselves, remind myself that, as my one cousin said, as my one cousin says, that you can go to Grac his things, his stuff.
• 8:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: However, the one thing we don't find is Elvis Presley himself.
• 8:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Elvis Presley himself.
• 8:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So, whether that's a car, whether that's a house, whether that's a signed picture a musical instrument, a pen, whatever was important, and in this case Elvis' life and how he accumulated different pieces of wealth that you can go to his house, you can see his things Probably, can see pictures of them.
• 9:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But there's one thing that we're not going to find there, and that's Elvis Presley himself.
• 9:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So I bring the conversation back to me, to Voices for Voices.
• 9:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: To me, the voice is for voices.
• 9:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No matter what, no matter what I think, no matter what I want, and it's hard to get to this point.
• 10:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's really not one part of life that is really easy.
• 10:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You may hear a song here and there that talks about something being easy, but it's not.
• 10:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And we don't get to take these things, these mementos, individuals who have been able to earn Olympic gold, silver, bronze over the time that the Olympics got kicked off in Greece many years ago.
• 11:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: When they pass, they're not going to show up to heaven's gates with all their gold medals or silver medals or bronze medals or or any of that.
• 11:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So when I say I think there's more to it, more, think there's more to it, more to life, more to I'm going to try to understand and more to be able to put our lives into God's hands.
• 12:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You don't have to be religious I am, but you don't have to be and you could follow a different religion.
• 12:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So, again, I can only speak for me.
• 12:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know a different religion, so, again, I can only speak for me.
• 12:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so, knowing that I don't get to, I don't get to decide unilaterally what tomorrow is going to hold, or the next day or the next evening or the next morning, as much as I want to.
• 13:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And one of the things we always look at is the weather, and one of the things we always look at is the weather.
• 13:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We look at our phones whatever weather app that we have that we look at to see what tomorrow morning, what tomorrow afternoon, tomorrow evening, tomorrow evening.
• 13:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We try to prepare if we have something that we want to do outside, having time where there's not rain or snow or storms, and that, and so we look at it from that angle.
• 14:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then we also look at it from, as I mentioned at the outset, about you know, we've had some scorchers Just basically means we've had not only warm weather, we've had high levels of humidity as well, and so when we look at the weather for tomorrow, that's one of the things that we look at, but we don't get to decide what the weather is.
• 14:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We don't get to decide if there's a last-minute storm that pops up and for how long, and if that's going to interrupt whatever activity or activities that we have planned.
• 15:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Somebody else is making those decisions, and it's not me and it's not you, and so that's one way, by putting our ourselves, our interests, in whomever's hand you want, I'm going to put them in God and Jesus' hand because, at the end of the day, he's much closer to he's much closer to being able to predict the weather than I am, just plain and simple predict the weather than I am, just plain and simple.
• 16:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We can think that he creates the weather, he creates the weather conditions and that, or we don't have to think that.
• 16:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But just in a just kind of thinking, maybe like organizationally wise, is an intern an intern somebody that is just starting their career versus the president or CEO?
• 16:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well, the president and CEO is going to have a lot more impact and a lot more influence on what products and services come out, when they come out, what they're priced at, who we partner with, where we get our materials from, than somebody who's at the outset of their career.
• 17:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've been there.
• 17:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Come out of school, I'm going to change the world, my ideas are going to be listened to and executed upon?
• 17:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Nuh-uh, not even close.
• 17:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so, in a little bit of a parallel, as a person that has had trust issues and at different points, those times in the workforce where I'm the new person, the new person on the block, they weren't.
• 18:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The organizations weren't looking for me as as the savior, because I'm not.
• 18:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: None of us are.
• 18:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: They looked at me as a resource, somebody to do different jobs, different calculations, different research.
• 18:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But not one time was I in that position where I was able to unilaterally make those decisions and execute against them the same way.
• 19:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, we either really like the weather, or if we're playing a sporting event and we want to do well, and however that's measured, if it's the amount of points, if it's the amount of hits, if it's the amount of aces, if it's the amount of strikes, whatever sport we're thinking about oh, we can practice, we can practice, yeah, yeah.
• 19:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And by practicing, the more we practice, the better chances we have of doing, of doing good or on that level that we think we should be at.
• 20:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But even that's not a foolproof method.
• 20:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So, again, we can't do anything really on our own.
• 20:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We could say, oh Justin, well, I can brush my teeth or I can eat this piece of pizza or whatever that is.
• 20:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm talking about, like the big stuff.
• 21:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that's where having to level set myself, level set really anybody that I interact with, and it's hard to do as much as we have goals, we have aspirations.
• 21:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're going to achieve some of them.
• 21:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Oh yeah, we already have, but there's going to be some.
• 21:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're going to achieve some of them oh yeah, we already have, but there's going to be some.
• 21:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're not Some.
• 21:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're going to get close to Some we're going to be far, far away from.
• 21:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so when I think, when I think about where I was 20, 25 years ago, 20 years ago, 20 years ago, where I'm now, I'm much more at peace doesn't mean I'm at peace.
• 22:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm much more in that direction.
• 22:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And instead of focusing on accolades and achievements, awards, whatever you want to think of All that's nice, it's nice to be recognized, don't get me wrong.
• 22:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's nice to be recognized, but don't get me wrong.
• 23:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But right here, right now, for me, for myself, for Voices, for Voices, for voices, for voices, having one less person suffer and one less person feel alone and one less person feel like they can't step out from the shadows of whatever that may be.
• 23:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: To me that's way more important, because I'm not going to be able to take any medals, any trophies with me, nobody is.
• 24:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so having that emotional connection but yeah, you know what I did what I can, did what I could, I helped somebody, I help somebody, I help expose negative, I help expose things that are not, are not and should not be acceptable in society, and so there's easy things and there's hard things.
• 25:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's going to be much easier to not expose, not bring to the United States attention or the whole world's attention.
• 25:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Again, I meant this to help people.
• 25:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I meant this not to help people.
• 26:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm in this not to hurt people, and one less person that has to feel hurt, be hurt, be hurt, will her be her at this stage for me means a heck of a lot more than a trophy, because, as much as some of us want to put a value, a number, on how much a human being is worth, we really can't.
• 26:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's not up to us To really decide that.
• 27:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If anybody Can and wants to decide, that's God or your religion, who you follow.
• 27:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Will this athlete for this particular sport, for this particular team, sign the contract worth X amount of dollars over X amount of years or over Y amount of years, and that's, in a way, putting a value on an individual, but not as an overall person.
• 28:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's an athlete with certain experience and certain statistics and there's, like it or not, some type of a comparison of why was this, this player, drafted at number one versus this other player who was drafted at number 100?
• 28:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm just talking about the worth of a human being and for me to have a mindset that I can't control a whole heck of a lot here on earth, I can't impact a whole heck of a lot, and I may try, I may aspire, and that's what makes life really so hard, because when we're not getting trophies, we're not getting awards, when we're not being called onto the stage to give a statement or to give a speech, we can just feel crappy, we can feel like nobody cares, nobody's interested in us, nobody's interested in what we do, and I think that that makes things much, much, much harder.
• 30:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so, for what we do, voices for Voices, and for myself, it takes all the more, all the more faith, all the more mental strength, believing in a power above me, and so that gives me some solace and some of these things we can't put a lot of value on will help.
• 30:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Be one person.
• 30:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know how much is that worth?
• 30:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, we can try to put some numbers around that, but again, it's not really up for us to decide.
• 31:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's really a I was given two decisions.
• 31:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No, I was given two decisions or no.
• 31:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I was given one decision to try to do good or to not care if something bad happens.
• 31:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And being like you know what.
• 31:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Not care if something bad happens and being like you know what.
• 31:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: My hands are clean.
• 31:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So you are strong, you are brave, you are beautiful, you are enough and your life is worth living.
• 32:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We'll see you on the next show.
• 32:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you so much for joining us today.
• 32:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Bye, bye.