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121. Keep Small Promises · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safer, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for Impact.
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  Hey team, thanks for listening to the Impact Ready podcast.
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  I'm so glad you're here. This episode is going to be
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  short and sweet, and it is inspired by one of my coaching
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  clients who was working with last week who was preparing for
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  a series of interviews that is going to get her the promotion
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  that she has been wanting for so long.
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  We just did some rapid fire coaching sessions in succession
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  and she's ready to go. But one of the big things that
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  we were talking about was confidence, and it had me
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  thinking about how do people build more confidence?
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  And there's a hundred ways confidence is such a big topic
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  and we've touched on it a little bit.
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  But what I want to speak on today is a very powerful and
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  simple strategy to build more confidence, and that is to keep
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  small promises, to keep small promises.
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  And this is all about keeping the promises that you make to
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  yourself on a day-to-day basis. And I'm talking about the stuff
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  that you say that you're going to do when it comes to your
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  health. Maybe it's about eating a
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  specific way or working out a specific number of times during
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  the week. Maybe it's about quitting some
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  of the toxic health habits that you've had for so long and
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  replacing them with something better.
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  Maybe you want to stop drinking. Maybe you want to quit smoking.
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  Maybe you want to put your screens away and be more engaged
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  with the world and people. This is also about keeping small
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  promises around money, saving money or investing money, or
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  creating opportunities to earn more money and more wealth.
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  Maybe it's about being on time and showing up when you say that
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  you are going to. Maybe it's about doing the tasks
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  and working on the projects that you were committed to working on
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  today because you know it's going to make a huge difference
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  in your business. Maybe it's doing what you said
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  that you were going to do to your coworker, what you told
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  your coworker they could count on you for.
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  Maybe this is about the things that you committed to doing for
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  your spouse in your relationship.
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  Maybe it's about communicating with them in a specific way
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  because you created that agreement together.
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  This can also apply to our language as well.
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  Saying what you mean, not what you think other people want to
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  hear. It's keeping small promises.
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  Why is this so important and why does it boost confidence?
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  Because when you keep promises to yourself, you remain in
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  integrity. Think about it, if you are
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  constantly saying that you're going to do things and then you
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  do not do them, you are consistently breaking the
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  agreements and the promises that you've made.
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  And over time, it chips away at your self-confidence, yourself
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  trust, your ability to, to follow your intuition and truly
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  our, our sense of integrity. It's like the person who is late
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  all the time and they're constantly for as long as you
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  known them, showing up 10 to 15 to half an hour late.
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  And they always have an excuse. They always have a reason why
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  they are not there. But at the end of the day,
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  you're like, look, I don't care why you're not there.
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  It just shows me that you don't respect me.
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  And it breaks down that trust. It breaks down your confidence
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  in their ability to be reliable and capable and show up for you
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  when you need them. It's exactly what happens within
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  your own self when you break these small promises to
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  yourself. And the reason I bring this up
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  is because lack of trust in self is one of the biggest issues
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  that I see in people and it bleeds into every area of their
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  life. They don't trust themselves to
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  make decisions, big or small. They don't trust their
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  intuition. They don't take risks as a
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  result of that and it turns into this paralysis for them.
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  It is painful to be in self doubt all of the time and it
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  really does affect our ability to interact out in the world.
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  It affects our relationships, it affects our our work and our
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  ability to be intimate with other people, to be vulnerable.
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  Every bucket of our life is touched by the level of self
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  trust that we have in ourselves. And so when people are in lack
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  of self trust, it dramatically affects the way that they can
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  show up in the world, the energy that they have, and the impact
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  that they have in their space. But I'm telling you, this one
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  simple practice is an incredibly powerful way to start moving
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  that mental roadblock. It might feel like a small shift
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  in the beginning, but I promise you, if you practice day after
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  day, pretty soon you're going to be saying, wait a minute.
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  I really did stick to my calendar this week and work on
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  the projects that I've been putting off.
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  Wait a minute. I really worked out three times
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  this week like I said I would wait.
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  I spoke up like I told myself I was going to in that argument
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  with my spouse instead of going into people pleasing mode like I
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  always do. You will be surprising yourself
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  and it's such an empowering place to be.
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  When you discover that you have kept your word, that you have
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  kept small promises to yourself, it creates more confidence,
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  which then creates more competence.
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  You get better at that thing that you're practicing, which
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  then creates more self trust, it creates more integrity, it
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  creates more alignment, and you have a new kind of momentum
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  which then leads to more opportunity and more freedom in
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  every sense of the word. I am telling you, I see this all
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  the time. I've seen it in my own life.
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  When you keep small promises, your confidence grows and all of
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  those other things follow. And so if you have been
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  struggling to show up in the way that you've been wanting to in
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  your life, if you have been dragging your feet on things, if
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  you have been feeling like you're in paralysis and
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  stuckness, like you just don't have the the courage or the
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  boldness to do the things that you want to do, trust me, Start
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  looking at how you are showing up for yourself every single
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  day. Are you keeping those small
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  promises? And if you're not, can you
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  begin? Can you begin this week?
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  Because it is going to make a tremendous difference even after
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  a couple of days. And you're going to start
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  looking at yourself differently in the mirror and feeling
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  confident and empowered and standing a little bit taller.
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  So that is my challenge to you this week is to keep small
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  promises to yourself and to the people around you.
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  I hope this helps. Thank you for listening.
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  Thank you for being here. And as always, thank you for
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  being ready to Impact. Thanks for listening to Impact
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  Ready. I hope today's episode inspired
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  you to own your impact and recognize that you are powerful.
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  By elevating our energy and awareness, we can create
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  exponential change in this life. If you enjoyed today's insights,
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  I truly appreciate you. Thanks again for being here.