Latest / Legacy Living with Dr. Gloria Burgess / Refresh and Renew | Episode #432
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- 0:21Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to today's show, Legacy Living, Make Your
- 0:27Speaker 1: Life Count. I'm your host, Doctor Gloria. Gloria Burgess, international
- 0:34Speaker 1: leadership expert and trusted advisor. Welcome to Legacy Living, Make
- 0:42Speaker 1: your Life Count. I'm delighted that you joined me today.
- 0:48Speaker 1: I want to give a big thank you to those
- 0:50Speaker 1: of you who are listening. I also want to give
- 0:53Speaker 1: a great, big shout out to all of you listening
- 0:56Speaker 1: around the world. I'm delighted and so great that you
- 1:01Speaker 1: tuned in. I sure hope you're enjoying a fabulous day
- 1:05Speaker 1: to day and that you're having a fantastic week, because
- 1:09Speaker 1: you know what, in the grand song of the universe,
- 1:14Speaker 1: life is short, very short. It's short, sweet and very
- 1:20Speaker 1: very precious. So I hope you're making a difference in
- 1:24Speaker 1: your own life, because when you do, you also make
- 1:29Speaker 1: a difference in somebody else's life. Now, a lot of
- 1:33Speaker 1: folks want to make their life count for something, and
- 1:37Speaker 1: they ask me, Doctor Gloria, how do you do that. Well,
- 1:42Speaker 1: it's very simple, very simple. You make your life count,
- 1:48Speaker 1: day by day, step by step, moment by moment, every
- 1:53Speaker 1: single day. Three sixty five twenty four seven. That's what
- 1:59Speaker 1: Legacy living Make your Life count is all about You
- 2:03Speaker 1: can learn more about legacy living make your life count
- 2:07Speaker 1: by visiting my website. That's the Gloria Burgess website. G
- 2:12Speaker 1: L O R I A b as in boy you
- 2:16Speaker 1: are Gess dot com the Gloria Burgess website, or you
- 2:22Speaker 1: can visit me on Facebook or LinkedIn, or you can
- 2:25Speaker 1: now find me on the Ted Talks website. Just search
- 2:30Speaker 1: for Gloria Burgess. Now. Today's focus is all about reflection.
- 2:37Speaker 1: What it is, what it means, and why it's so
- 2:41Speaker 1: important for all of us young people, parents, leaders, entrepreneurs.
- 2:47Speaker 1: Reflection is really for every single person. One way to
- 2:55Speaker 1: define reflection is to share an example. Now, I just
- 2:59Speaker 1: love of this collection of reflections from Patrick Lindsay's Now
- 3:05Speaker 1: is the time. Now is the time to lighten your load.
- 3:14Speaker 1: Drop tomorrow's worries, yesterday's baggage. Today is enough. Now is
- 3:25Speaker 1: the time to make the most of every day. There
- 3:31Speaker 1: are no guarantees how many we will get. Now is
- 3:37Speaker 1: the time to seek authenticity. To be genuine, it will
- 3:45Speaker 1: set you apart. Now is the time to be you.
- 3:52Speaker 1: Take time to discover yourself, find your unique you. Now
- 4:00Speaker 1: is the time to cherish your memories, relive them, learn
- 4:06Speaker 1: from them, hand them down to your children, then go
- 4:10Speaker 1: and add to them. Now is the time to cherish
- 4:15Speaker 1: your family, Treasure your time with them, to think of others,
- 4:21Speaker 1: look where you can help, do it with selfless passion.
- 4:28Speaker 1: Now is the time to try kindness. Step outside your world.
- 4:35Speaker 1: Chances are that many are caught in struggles. Now is
- 4:41Speaker 1: the time to spread love. It gives us meaning, brings compassion,
- 4:48Speaker 1: and gives us new eyes. Now is the time to
- 4:55Speaker 1: embrace your challenges. Look upon them as opportunities. Use them
- 5:01Speaker 1: to strengthen your resolve to gain wisdom and compassion. Now
- 5:10Speaker 1: is the time to fight for justice. Stand up when
- 5:14Speaker 1: you know something is wrong. Support others who promote righteousness.
- 5:22Speaker 1: Now is the time to keep trying. When things are
- 5:27Speaker 1: not going your way, believe in yourself keep going. Now
- 5:35Speaker 1: is the time to watch the sun rise since the stillness,
- 5:42Speaker 1: enjoy the warmth, marvel at renewal. Now is the time
- 5:49Speaker 1: to care for our planet. We hold its future in
- 5:54Speaker 1: our hands. Make your commitment. Now is the time to
- 6:00Speaker 1: find your inner leader. We all have an inner leader
- 6:06Speaker 1: within us. Now is the time to live in the present.
- 6:13Speaker 1: Your time is precious. Spend it wisely. Live in the present.
- 6:24Speaker 1: Your time is precious, spend it wisely. In other words, celebrate,
- 6:34Speaker 1: celebrate the music of your life. As I always say
- 6:39Speaker 1: in the Grand Song of the Universe, life is short
- 6:42Speaker 1: and very precious, So make the days in your life count.
- 6:48Speaker 1: So that's it, Folks, you just heard an example. You
- 6:53Speaker 1: just heard a wonderful example of a reflection. Now I
- 6:58Speaker 1: love this example because it's all about what it means
- 7:01Speaker 1: to truly take reflection to heart and actually do it.
- 7:08Speaker 1: Did you know that reflection is one of the many,
- 7:13Speaker 1: many facets of vision, which is all about seeing, and vision,
- 7:19Speaker 1: of course, is not only about what we see. It's
- 7:22Speaker 1: also about how we see. So reflection is about taking
- 7:27Speaker 1: time to look not just once, but many many times,
- 7:32Speaker 1: to look at what holds heart and meaning for us.
- 7:37Speaker 1: And when we find out what holds heart and meaning
- 7:40Speaker 1: for us, we must be steady, which allows us to
- 7:45Speaker 1: hold fast to our vision. Reflection also requires discernment, so
- 7:54Speaker 1: we can look at our vision with new eyes, with
- 7:58Speaker 1: fresh eyes, with a new person, so that we can
- 8:02Speaker 1: gain insights and so much more. Now, many of us
- 8:08Speaker 1: have just celebrated our festive winter holidays right or summer
- 8:13Speaker 1: holidays depending on where you are on the planet, or
- 8:16Speaker 1: maybe you celebrated another special occasion a birthday, an anniversary,
- 8:21Speaker 1: a naming ceremony, whatever your celebration with your family and
- 8:26Speaker 1: friends and other loved ones. I love nothing more than
- 8:30Speaker 1: just to set aside a few days to kick back,
- 8:34Speaker 1: to take time to reflect, to take long walks, to
- 8:40Speaker 1: take a nice warm bath, to make myself a cup
- 8:43Speaker 1: of tea, to put my feet up and savor all
- 8:48Speaker 1: the lovely memories I've made, all the memories made throughout
- 8:53Speaker 1: the past year. Reflection, true reflection, is a time to
- 9:00Speaker 1: look again. The month of January is named after a
- 9:09Speaker 1: Roman god by the name of Janice. That's right. In
- 9:14Speaker 1: Roman myth and religion, Janice oversaw beginnings, doorways, passages, gates, transitions,
- 9:25Speaker 1: time and endings. Now. He's usually depicted as having two
- 9:30Speaker 1: faces right or with a face that looks one way
- 9:34Speaker 1: and another way right, so with one face he looks
- 9:40Speaker 1: to the future, and with the other face he looks
- 9:44Speaker 1: to the past. So in many cultures, we often think
- 9:47Speaker 1: of January as opening the doorway to look at endings right,
- 9:54Speaker 1: what's in the past, as well as a doorway to
- 9:57Speaker 1: envision new beginning. All that lies ahead. January opens the
- 10:05Speaker 1: door to reflection. In fact, in some cultures, this is
- 10:10Speaker 1: the time of year when people step back and take
- 10:13Speaker 1: time to reflect on their life. Why. Because they want
- 10:18Speaker 1: to be intentional about taking stock of where they are,
- 10:22Speaker 1: where they've been, and where they are going. Do you
- 10:30Speaker 1: know how to be reflective? That's a great question, isn't it? Now?
- 10:36Speaker 1: I often include reflection in the courses I teach, and
- 10:40Speaker 1: I always include reflection when I'm leading retreats or when
- 10:44Speaker 1: I'm coaching a client. Why. Reflection is a way to
- 10:49Speaker 1: hit the pause button so we can slow down, and
- 10:53Speaker 1: so we can remember who we are and whose we
- 10:59Speaker 1: are and what's important to us. It allows us to
- 11:03Speaker 1: take time to be intentional. It allows us to take
- 11:08Speaker 1: time to pause and slow down from our typical hectic
- 11:12Speaker 1: pace and to breathe, actually breathe, right. It allows us
- 11:20Speaker 1: the spaciousness of time to become conscious and to digest
- 11:26Speaker 1: and to metabolize what we have achieved or accomplished. When
- 11:33Speaker 1: we consciously and intentionally digest and metabolize who we are,
- 11:39Speaker 1: whose we are, and what we do, we can actually
- 11:43Speaker 1: integrate all of that into our lives. Now, reflection doesn't
- 11:48Speaker 1: have to be hard work, but make no mistake about it,
- 11:53Speaker 1: it is work. It is work. In just a few moments,
- 11:58Speaker 1: I'm going to give you some questions you can ask
- 12:01Speaker 1: yourself to help you slow down so you can track, digest, metabolize,
- 12:07Speaker 1: and integrate the various arenas of your life now. I
- 12:13Speaker 1: find these questions especially helpful when you want to look
- 12:17Speaker 1: back at your life during the past week, or past month,
- 12:20Speaker 1: or even the past year. The cool thing is that
- 12:23Speaker 1: you can also use these questions for your work or
- 12:27Speaker 1: for your business. If you are a coach or teacher,
- 12:31Speaker 1: or doctor or nurse, or a mayor or a parent
- 12:34Speaker 1: or whatever whoever you are, whatever you do, you can
- 12:38Speaker 1: use these questions for you to help build or reimagine
- 12:43Speaker 1: yourself or your business, or your relationships within your family
- 12:48Speaker 1: or at work, or as I mentioned earlier, for the
- 12:51Speaker 1: goals that you have in your personal life in general
- 12:56Speaker 1: right now. Maybe you want better health or a new job.
- 13:02Speaker 1: Maybe you want to go back to school, or maybe
- 13:06Speaker 1: you're already in school and you want to get better grades.
- 13:09Speaker 1: Or perhaps you want to start a new project or
- 13:12Speaker 1: make more money, or you already have money right and
- 13:17Speaker 1: you want to decide what to do with that unexpected bonus,
- 13:21Speaker 1: or maybe you want to save money so you can
- 13:23Speaker 1: move into that new apartment or buy that new car
- 13:25Speaker 1: or dream house. Or perhaps you simply want to look
- 13:30Speaker 1: back at the past month or year and take it
- 13:33Speaker 1: all in, right, take it all in, all that you
- 13:38Speaker 1: set out to accomplish, and see how you made out,
- 13:42Speaker 1: to see how you did and achieving those goals that
- 13:45Speaker 1: you set for yourself. Okay, here are the questions. Are
- 13:52Speaker 1: you ready? Okay, grab a pen, pencil, and some paper
- 13:56Speaker 1: or tablet something to drop these questions down. You can
- 14:00Speaker 1: always listen to the show again. Right, So, here are
- 14:03Speaker 1: the questions. Ask yourself, what goals, what goals or milestones
- 14:11Speaker 1: did I set for myself? What goals or milestones did
- 14:16Speaker 1: I actually achieve? So? What did I set, what did
- 14:21Speaker 1: I achieve? What did I learn? Right? What did I learn?
- 14:28Speaker 1: What are my key takeaways? In other words, another question
- 14:35Speaker 1: is what can I improve on? What can I do better? Right?
- 14:42Speaker 1: Another question, and I love this one? Where am I stuck? Right?
- 14:48Speaker 1: Where am I stuck? And then the follow on question
- 14:54Speaker 1: of that is what's keeping me stuck? What's holding me back?
- 14:59Speaker 1: In other words? All right, could it be procrastination? Could
- 15:04Speaker 1: it be because I'm just not resourced, not quite fully
- 15:07Speaker 1: prepared or equipped. Do I need more people around me?
- 15:12Speaker 1: So what is that? Okay, where am I stuck? And
- 15:14Speaker 1: what's keeping me stuck? What's holding me back? Now? If
- 15:18Speaker 1: you're like me or most people these days, you lead
- 15:20Speaker 1: a very busy life. And when you lead a busy life,
- 15:24Speaker 1: it's very easy for your achievements to get muddled up
- 15:28Speaker 1: or lost under the weight of all those check marks
- 15:31Speaker 1: on your daily to do list, right, or maybe you
- 15:35Speaker 1: just zap them and poof, they're gone, never to be
- 15:37Speaker 1: seen again. Hey, but wait, you can actually restore your
- 15:41Speaker 1: calendar these days, right, all right, So it's so important
- 15:48Speaker 1: to really look back at all of your yeses, all
- 15:54Speaker 1: of those coffee dates, all the time that you had
- 15:57Speaker 1: with family and friends, all of your business meetings, your
- 16:01Speaker 1: work meetings, all of your engagements with clients. That great
- 16:05Speaker 1: vacation you had or planned but had to postpone, all
- 16:09Speaker 1: the time you spent with vendors and suppliers, with your doctors,
- 16:13Speaker 1: nurses in the hospital. Okay, all of those encounters with
- 16:19Speaker 1: staff and co workers, all of those walks with your
- 16:23Speaker 1: son or daughter or spouse, all of the conferences you
- 16:28Speaker 1: attended or spoke at, or trained at all of the
- 16:31Speaker 1: blog posts you wrote, the newsletters, the courses you developed
- 16:35Speaker 1: and taught, right all of those projects you have said
- 16:39Speaker 1: yes to. Now take a good long look at how
- 16:45Speaker 1: you've moved forward. Are not what you did that worked
- 16:50Speaker 1: well and what you can do better, what you need
- 16:55Speaker 1: to tell somebody to share with someone else, and what
- 16:59Speaker 1: you need to do to move ahead into your future. Now,
- 17:05Speaker 1: you don't just want to move ahead in a knee
- 17:07Speaker 1: jerk way, but you want to really be intentional and
- 17:12Speaker 1: in tune with who you really are and with your purpose.
- 17:19Speaker 1: That's what Reverend doctor Howard Thurmann calls listening to the
- 17:24Speaker 1: sound of the genuine within you. Okay, being really intentional
- 17:32Speaker 1: and on purpose. So doctor Thurman reminds us that there
- 17:38Speaker 1: is something in each and every one of us that
- 17:42Speaker 1: waits and listens for the sound of the genuine within.
- 17:47Speaker 1: He says, it is the only true guide you will
- 17:51Speaker 1: ever have, the only true guide you will ever have,
- 17:59Speaker 1: and if you do not find it, you will for
- 18:02Speaker 1: the rest of your life beyond the strings, the end
- 18:07Speaker 1: of strings that somebody else pulls. Now, I don't know
- 18:13Speaker 1: about you, but I don't like that image of being
- 18:16Speaker 1: on the end of the strings that somebody else pulls.
- 18:19Speaker 1: You know, I get this image of being a puppet
- 18:22Speaker 1: and somebody else is controlling all my movements, all the
- 18:26Speaker 1: things I do, you know, with my head, my fingers,
- 18:29Speaker 1: my arms, everything, Right, So he says, listen to the
- 18:34Speaker 1: sound of the genuine within you. It is the only
- 18:38Speaker 1: true guide you will ever have when you take time
- 18:44Speaker 1: out for reflection. It actually helps you locate and pay
- 18:50Speaker 1: attention to that sound of the genuine within you. Taking
- 18:56Speaker 1: time out for reflection invites you to look with and
- 19:02Speaker 1: it invites you to look back and also to look ahead,
- 19:06Speaker 1: like that January image right, looking back and looking ahead.
- 19:13Speaker 1: Now as you look ahead, here are some more questions
- 19:16Speaker 1: to ask yourself. Okay, get your pen pencil out. Ask yourself,
- 19:23Speaker 1: where do I want to go? Where do I want
- 19:28Speaker 1: to go in the next month or three months, or
- 19:34Speaker 1: six months or twelve months? In other words, where do
- 19:38Speaker 1: I want to be at the end of that time period? Right?
- 19:43Speaker 1: And ultimately you want to say, you know, where do
- 19:45Speaker 1: I want to be at the end of this year?
- 19:47Speaker 1: And you might just want to break it down into chunks,
- 19:49Speaker 1: into months or three months or six months chunks. So
- 19:53Speaker 1: that it's doable. So where do I want to go
- 19:58Speaker 1: in the next one month, month, months, six months, or
- 20:00Speaker 1: twelve months. Where do I want to be at the
- 20:03Speaker 1: end of this year? The next question is, as I
- 20:10Speaker 1: am going wherever it is I want to go, Okay,
- 20:13Speaker 1: going after whatever it is I have set out to do,
- 20:16Speaker 1: who do I want to be? Who do I want
- 20:21Speaker 1: to be as I do this work? So you don't
- 20:24Speaker 1: want to be a human doing you want to be
- 20:26Speaker 1: a human being? So ask yourself? Who do I want
- 20:29Speaker 1: to be as I do this work? As I complete
- 20:34Speaker 1: this project? As I commit to another six months or
- 20:40Speaker 1: nine months or twelve months to the courses I enrolled in? Right,
- 20:45Speaker 1: as I invest time, money, and energy into being a
- 20:48Speaker 1: healthier person, or being a friend who is more available,
- 20:52Speaker 1: or building a bigger nest egg or planning that garden.
- 20:56Speaker 1: I keep planning in my head, but I keep forgetting
- 20:58Speaker 1: to begin right, So who do I want to be
- 21:02Speaker 1: along the journey? The next question is what do I
- 21:07Speaker 1: want to accomplish? I mean specifically, what exactly do I expect?
- 21:13Speaker 1: What are my goals? Are they specific? And how will
- 21:19Speaker 1: I hold myself accountable? Will I check in with myself?
- 21:25Speaker 1: Will I have someone that I trust check in with me.
- 21:29Speaker 1: How will I do that? Another question is how will
- 21:32Speaker 1: I get there? What do I need? What resources or
- 21:37Speaker 1: support do I need to get from here to there?
- 21:46Speaker 1: Another question is how will I know? How will I
- 21:49Speaker 1: know that I'm there? Okay? How will I know that
- 21:53Speaker 1: I've arrived? That I'm successful? So that's why it's really
- 22:00Speaker 1: important to be specific, to hold yourself accountable. Okay, ask
- 22:04Speaker 1: yourself that question again. Who do I want to be
- 22:06Speaker 1: as I'm going along this journey? And how will I
- 22:10Speaker 1: know when I've arrived? And a final question for you,
- 22:16Speaker 1: and this is an important question. It's a legacy living question.
- 22:24Speaker 1: And the question is who will I take with me
- 22:28Speaker 1: on my journey? Who will I take with me on
- 22:33Speaker 1: my journey? In other words, this is not worth doing
- 22:35Speaker 1: if I'm doing it on my own by myself. Who
- 22:38Speaker 1: will I serve? Who will I support? Who will I
- 22:41Speaker 1: bring with me along the way? Okay, and encourage them
- 22:46Speaker 1: to pass it on as well. Remember, legacy living is
- 22:52Speaker 1: all about living, loving, learning, and serving. Not merely for yourself.
- 23:00Speaker 1: It's about living, loving, learning, and serving. It's all about
- 23:07Speaker 1: making your life count sell that you can make a
- 23:11Speaker 1: way for others. So that you can build a bridge
- 23:14Speaker 1: for others to cross. Now is the time as you
- 23:24Speaker 1: launch into your reflections. I sure hope you're filled with gratitude, love, wonder, joy, hope, forgiveness,
- 23:34Speaker 1: and compassion, because if you are filled up, guess what,
- 23:38Speaker 1: the months ahead will also be filled with gratitude, love, wonder, joy, hope,
- 23:44Speaker 1: forgiveness and compassion. Now is the time you are exactly
- 23:52Speaker 1: what the world needs now, and be sure be sure
- 23:58Speaker 1: to make it a point. No, I'm gonna say, get
- 24:00Speaker 1: a priority to be intentional about reflecting on what matters
- 24:05Speaker 1: most to you now more than ever, our world needs
- 24:12Speaker 1: your voice. So that's how you do it. That's how
- 24:18Speaker 1: you make your life count. If you want to be
- 24:22Speaker 1: the change you seek, remember this. How you live is
- 24:27Speaker 1: how you lead. How you live is how you do everything.
- 24:32Speaker 1: You have the power to make our world a better place.
- 24:39Speaker 1: All right. I want you to be sure to listen
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- 26:42Speaker 1: Before I close today, I want to thank each of
- 26:45Speaker 1: you for tuning in to today's show, for allowing me
- 26:49Speaker 1: to share a bit about my journey with what legacy
- 26:51Speaker 1: living is all about, not just living and learning, but
- 26:55Speaker 1: living and learning and serving so that you make a
- 26:59Speaker 1: difference in your own life and in the lives of others.
- 27:04Speaker 1: It's all about being on purpose every single day. Three
- 27:09Speaker 1: sixty five twenty four seven. Legacy Living is a powerful
- 27:14Speaker 1: way to make your life count. Once again, thank you
- 27:20Speaker 1: for joining me for today's show. I'm your host, doctor
- 27:24Speaker 1: Gloria Gloria Burgess, and this is Legacy Living, Make your
- 27:29Speaker 1: life count. Please join me again next time right here
- 27:35Speaker 1: on Talk Network Radio for another show of legacy living.
- 27:39Speaker 1: Make your life count. Don't just count the days in
- 27:45Speaker 1: your life, Make the days in your life count. That's
- 27:52Speaker 1: what legacy living is all about. Have a fantastic day
- 27:57Speaker 1: and remember, make the day in your life count. God
- 28:03Speaker 1: bless you. That's our show today. I'm your host, doctor Gloria,
- 28:21Speaker 1: Gloria Burgess. I hope you'll join me again next time.
- 28:26Speaker 1: Until then, don't just count the days in your life.
- 28:31Speaker 1: Make the days in your life count. That's what legacy
- 28:35Speaker 1: living is all about. Here's to you have a fantastic
- 28:39Speaker 1: day and be sure to make it a yes kind
- 28:43Speaker 1: of day. Remember to celebrate the music of your life.
- 28:50Speaker 1: Make the days in your life count.