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EP84: The Secret to attract what you want · Unpause Your Life

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  You are listening to Unpause your Life with doctor Kelly as Says and Master Coach
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  Jenny Fontana, founders of the Life Coach method. Each one of our uplifting
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  and deep dive episodes is geared to help you tackle the things that hold you
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  back from having the most magnificent life you deserved. Sit back, relax,
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  and prepare to be coached. Hey, guys, doctor Kelly says, Unpause
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  your Life, the Addiction's Coach and the Addiction's Academy and so brun demand glad
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  to be here and giving you, guys some content. I'm really big about
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  content, giving you the tools you need to succeed. And one of the
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  big buzzwords right now we're hearing is vibrational alignment or power of intention or law
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  of attraction. Right, everybody has the secret to this. There's a certain
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  way to do it. How do I track to what I I want?
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  What do I do when I get what I want? How does this all
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  work? So you hear a lot of people say positive affirmations, right,
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  I wake up and I say, you know, money flies at me from
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  all directions. Great, that's awesome, but that's only part of it.
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  Your vibrational alignment is key to getting what you want. So you don't get
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  what you want, you get what you are. That's different. So if
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  I wake up and I'm angry, all I'm going to do is attract more
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  anger. I'm not going to attract the happy, positive, butterflies and cupcakes
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  lifestyle that I want if I wake up and I'm angry. So if you
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  want positivity, you have to wake up and be positivity. So what that
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  means is if you're trying to attract love in a relationship, you have to
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  be love. You have to love others, you have to be happy,
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  you have to be excited about life. Then you will attract that vibration.
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  So in the dragon alcohol culture, which I've been for the past twenty years,
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  you will see people say, I don't know why I gravitate towards that
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  culture. So if you're doing drugs and alcohol, that's a low vibration,
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  you will attract low vibration individuals, low vibration settings, that's a low vibration.
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  Right. For example, if you had trauma, right, you know
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  what chaos is, You're going to attract more chaos. That's why you hear
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  somebody say I date the same person over and over and over again because I
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  have unhealed trauma. That's partly, but it's also because you seek out that
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  vibration because it's comfortable to you. So this also goes this way. When
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  you hear people say, well, I'm an mpath, I can pick up
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  other people's energy. Yes you can, but chances are you're an mpath because
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  you grew up in a chaotic environment. That chaos where you had two parental
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  givers or one parental giver that you didn't know what was coming through the door,
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  made you figure out I have to be on high alert. I have
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  to be on guard at all times because I don't know what's going to come
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  through that door, and I'm going to seek out what's going wrong consistently.
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  That's why when you walk into a party, there could be twenty people in
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  the room, nineteen of which are amazing individuals with high vibrational energy, and
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  you will focus on the one negative individual because that's the threat. That's the
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  threat that you think needs to be neutralized, that stems from childhood. Because
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  you did that with the parental giver, you had to be on I have
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  to neutralize the threat before it happens. So you do that now in adulthood,
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  and we call it an EmPATH. I'm an EmPATH. I know there's
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  something wrong. Yeah, you know there's something wrong because of childhood, because
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  of what you had to do, not because you have a big psychic ability
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  no one else has. Now, could you have some ability, sure,
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  but a lot of this stems from that. So now you see that threat
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  and you say, oh, my goodness, I have to neutralize it.
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  Well, then we get into trauma bonds and we talk about I'm attracted to
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  that I like that person because we understand each other. That's a trauma bond,
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  meaning we both had some problems in our childhood, problems in our past,
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  and we got together, we talked about it, we feel connected.
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  Does that mean it won't work, No, But that's what that is.
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  It's called a trauma bond. So what happens is if you understand vibrational frequency
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  and you understand high frequency and low frequency. If you're having a bad day
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  and you're vibrating at low frequency, you will attract other low frequency individuals.
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  People that are angry, people that are hurt, people with trauma, people
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  with drug and alcohol problems. You're going to attract all of that, and
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  depending on what you're doing, you may want to try to fix it.
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  So the first thing is, if you want to get something, you have
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  to vibrate at the frequency of which it vibrates. So if you want love,
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  you have to be love. If you want money, you have to
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  vibrate with money. You have to say I already have what I want,
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  and then you have to act as if you have it. So you've heard
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  about me talk about this in the other podcasts. I've said there are three
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  keys to law of attraction, right. Number one is intention, this is
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  what I want. Number two is gratitude, I'm thankful for what I have.
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  And number three is action. So let's break that down. Number one
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  intention, I want to find a romantic partner that loves me as much as
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  I love that great. That is a great intention, right, But if
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  you wake up every morning and you're angry that they're not here, and you're
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  frustrated and you're lowly and you're sad, you are not going to attract that
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  person because they are vibrating at a higher frequency than you are at the moment.
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  You have to bring yourself up to that. That's gratitude. So gratitude
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  is I'm grateful for being alive. I am grateful for my house, I
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  am grateful for my friends. You have to be the love you want to
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  attract, and then it shows up because you have said to the universe,
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  I want more of this and I'm going to match this vibration and it shows
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  up. We hear people call that luck. I got lucky, right,
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  I'm lucky. Everything I want just comes to me. No, you're vibrating
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  at a higher frequency. It's not luck, it's vibrational frequency. So if
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  I raise my frequency, I get more of what I want. That's simple.
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  And drugs and alcohol will cloud all of this. So if you're a
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  drinker or a drug user, you're going to have trouble getting to that higher
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  frequency. You're gonna have trouble getting peace and love if you're out drinking every
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  single day, because you're going to attract more of the low vibrational frequency that
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  which you just put out. So that's what's happening right there. The third
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  one is action. So the only way for this to work is if all
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  three pieces are in play. Meaning I have intention, I have gratitude,
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  but I also have action. Where am I going to find love? Where
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  am I going to find that romantic partnership. I'm not going to find a
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  playing Xbox at home. I'm not going to find it binge watching Netflix.
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  I'm not going to find it on a bar stool. So you have to
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  be where you want to attract love. It's that simple. You go where
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  those people go. I heard somebody say you won't find a successful male on
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  a dating site, and I thought this was interesting. You won't find a
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  successful mail on a dating site because they're not looking for desperate people. They're
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  already doing what they want. So the guy that was talking about this on
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  TikTok said, if you want to find a successful mail, go out and
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  be successful. He'll find you. And a lot of women said, well
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  that doesn't make any sense. Where will he be? How will I find
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  him? How will I know? So this is the vibrational frequency idea.
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  If I want to attract the successful individual, I go out and I be
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  successful with whatever it is for me. I work out, I work out
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  every day, I go to the gym. That's my thing. So I
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  want to attract a partner that works out because that's the same vibrational frequency.
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  Right. I don't want somebody that's idea of fun is binge, watching Netflix,
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  eating Ben and Jerry's. That doesn't match my frequency. So where do
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  I go? I go to the gym, I go to yoga, I
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  do fitness oriented activities. The idea being the more you're in that element,
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  eventually you're going to run into like minded people or people with that frequency,
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  and then you attract love from there. So this is where and it doesn't
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  have to just be loved, but this is where a lot of people fail
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  because they say, here's what I want, but I can't get it.
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  So a good example is I want to lose thirty pounds. Okay, great,
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  you want to lose thirty pounds. That's an intention, right, I'm
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  grateful that I'm alive and I don't have any health problems. My action plan
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  is to change my diet and work out. And by diet I don't mean
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  fad diet, I mean change what I eat, change my lifestyle, and
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  work out. Will that make me lose weight? Yes, that's an action
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  plan. If your intention is to lose weight and you're grateful for Ben and
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  Jerry's and you're sitting on the sofa eating Ben and Jerry's, you are not
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  going to lose weight because your action isn't matching your intention and your gratitude.
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  That's all vibrational energy. So if you understand this core concept of vibrational energy,
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  any goal you have you can obtain. It's very simple. So people
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  say all the time, yes, but I don't come from a family that
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  has money. How am I going to make money? Follow my story.
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  I didn't come from a family that had money, no money, no resources,
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  no help, not even a word of encouragement of hey, you can
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  do this. It was hey, you're never going to be able to do
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  this. You're never gonna make any money. You're never gonna be successful.
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  So can you overcome toxicity, Yes, we're going to talk about that later.
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  Can you overcome a family lineage of trauma? Yes, you can overcome
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  all of these things. But you have to get your vibrational frequency up to
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  what you want. It's that simple. You cannot lay in the low level
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  frequency and expect to achieve seven figures or love. You will pick the same
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  people in the frequency at which you emulate. And what I mean by that
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  again is you are what you attract. You attract what you are. It's
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  that simple. If I want love. I cannot be angry, frustrated,
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  irritated, hating light, getting up and going this sucks? What am I
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  going to attract more of that? I wake up and I emulate love?
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  I am love? How do I do that? I do acts of kindness.
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  I hold the door for somebody, I say thank you and please,
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  and how is your day and how are you? I flew this past week
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  and I took candy for both my flights. The first flight I went on,
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  I gave the candy to the flight attendant, She said thank you,
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  threw it down. Wasn't even nice, and I wasn't expecting any favors,
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  but I thought, well, I'd do something nice for someone, and she
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  didn't appreciate it. The second flight was even was very interesting. I gave
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  it to the flight attendant, sat down, didn't think about it. She
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  came over thanked me. Her co worker thanked me, another coworker thanked me.
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  But then the pilot came out and thanked me. That whole plane,
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  that whole crew, was operating at a higher vibrational frequency than the other crew.
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  They were happy, they were excited, They were happy to see the
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  passengers, and the passengers were happy and you know what, That flight was
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  flawless. Everything went right on that flight. The flight with the negativity,
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  we were delayed two and a half hours. There was multi who broken parts
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  and every part of the game that didn't fit, they tried to fix it
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  that part broke. That is a lower vibrational frequency. If you find yourself
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  in a situation where the car is breaking, the mortgage went up, the
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  I don't know, the faucet broke in the house, you need a plumber.
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  There's all these things stacking up. Your vibrational frequency is too low.
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  You have to rise it up to start fixing stuff. It's that simple.
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  You cannot operate at a low frequency and expect things to work. They won't.
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  And then if you focus on all that negative, you're gonna get more
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  negative. That's why you hear people say I'm never lucky, I never win
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  the lottery. I play it every day but don't win. Well, then
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  don't play it because your attitude, your intention is off. Your vibrational energy
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  is I'm not going to win. So guess what. You're not that simple.
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  If you focus on I'm gonna win, I'm gonna win, I'm gonna
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  win, and how much you're gonna win. Every single day you play,
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  you will eventually win a dollar, five dollars, twenty dollars. You're gonna
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  win something that matches your vibrational energy. So we're going to continue talking about
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  vibrational energy. We're going to talk about the law of attraction. We're going
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  to talk about those three things, intention, gratitude, and of course action
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  you need all three. Intention is what I want, Gratitude is what I
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  have. Action is how I'm gonna get there. So start focusing on those
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  three things raising your vibrational energy. Use your positive affirmations that we taught you
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  in class, start bringing it up a notch and watch what happens. Follow
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  for more. Thank you for listening to Unpause your Life with doctor Kelly Estez
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  and Master Coach Jenny Fontana. Head over to www dot the Lifecoach method dot
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  com to learn more about coaching yourself and how to become a master coach.