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Finding Clarity in Midlife: What Would You Like to Try? | Lidia Ranieri | F*ck, I’m Nearly 50! · F*ck, I’m Nearly 50!

• 0:00
  Unknown: Hi, I'm Dom hind and fuck, I'm nearly 50. Actually, I'm 47 in two months, and I'm starting the countdown now because I want to hit 50 on my terms. The thing is, midlife sneaks up on you one minute.
• 0:13
  Unknown: You're charging ahead, building a career, juggling life, making it all work, and then suddenly you pause and think, Is this the life I truly want to be living?
• 0:25
  Unknown: That's exactly why I wanted to have this conversation with today's guest, Lidia Ranieri.
• 0:28
  Unknown: Lidia is one of those people who makes you see things differently. She's a coach, an astrologer and a former finance and trading expert who built a huge career advising the country's biggest portfolio managers before stepping into the work she truly loves, helping people find alignment, purpose and clarity in their lives. She's helped me through some of my biggest shifts, both personally and professionally, whether it was deep inner work, navigating big life changes all that one time we were nearly taken out by a shark on our epic hagerson Island trip. We spent New Year's Eve on the back of the boat with her boys, caught more fish than we could have eaten, and had some of the most game changing conversations of my life. Now she's fully embracing her purpose, blending strategy with intuition to help make people the kind of people who are actually fit with where they should be. So today we're getting into it all mid life, awakenings, astrology, purpose, finance and how we can stop fighting against ourselves and start living in alignment, because midlife isn't about holding on, it's about stepping into who we're actually meant to be. Let's get into it because fuck, I'm nearly 50, and isn't it amazing?
• 1:57
  Unknown: You some people are pure magic.
• 1:57
  Unknown: You meet them and suddenly you just see things a little clearer, you understand yourself a little better, and you feel like you are exactly where you're supposed to be that's Lidia. She spent years in high stakes finance, advising the country's largest portfolio managers, raising capital for companies like MYOB and Medibank. But along the way, she realised the real work she was drawn to was helping people see their own path clearly. Now she's combining coaching, astrology and deep transformation work to guide people through midlife shifts, whether that's questioning their career paths, moving through personal transitions, or simply figuring it out what actually makes them feel alive. She's got this perfect mix of big picture strategy and deep, intuitive wisdom, and she's someone you want in your corner when you're figuring out what's next. Today, we're diving into it all mid life awakenings, letting go of what not or what no longer serves you, which we've had many discussions about making space from What does and how we can actually start making choices that align with who we are.
• 3:35
  Unknown: Lidia, welcome to fuck. I'm nearly 50. How would you introduce yourself in the most Lidia way possible?
• 3:47
  Lidia Raneri: Oh, my goodness, Dom, I'm not sure that I should introduce myself in the most linear way possible, because the way DOM just introduced me was magnificent. Okay, well, I can obviously do what Lydia has done, and that's one way of introducing myself. And so, you know, as a first tier, yes, I have a background in finance, 25 years in stock broking, investment banking and advice, and it was an absolutely incredible dynamic, amazing career. One. I loved it. I loved every minute of it, and it suited me down to the ground.
• 4:25
  Lidia Raneri: I'm also a mum. I have two beautiful boys. I have a loving husband. I am the daughter of Italian migrants, and I'm very proud of my Italian heritage.
• 4:34
  Lidia Raneri: I'm just a regular down to earth girl, really, at the end of the day. And so I can talk about, yes, I've become a coach, and I've always had, even in my stockbroking days, you know, I've always had an interest in in the human story, and what makes somebody that person that's going to go and be differentiated in a really good way? So I've always been super curious about that. So yes, you know, broker, banker, coach, now, astrologer, but astrology has always been there, you know, that is something that has been with me, you know. And I really do remember the beginning of it, and I was 12 years old, and I just could never get away from the profound interest that I had in it. I tried to, I tried to definitely put it in the corner and ignore it, but it wouldn't allow me to. And so that's the doing side of Lydia, but the being side of Lydia is, you know, I am so deeply tied to giving my best, like, that's a real core value in everything that I do. If I'm going to do it, it's going to be my best, my best, you know, not the best in a kind of comparative way. I don't really buy into that. It's just, is it my best? I'm deeply interested in in in everyone's story. You know, even when I was a broker, the guys on the desk used to call me Oprah because and I was the only girl sitting on that dealing desk. And they call me Oprah because clients were calling to talk about pricing and stocks and advice and what's happened and what's your view when we talk exchange views. But they were actually also calling to have a big conversation about their stuff, and I actually really cared, and I'm interested in it. It wasn't just, oh, well, this is, you know, this is part of just what I have to do around the transaction. No, I genuinely was interested in in what they were going through. And so the coaching was just a normal, natural migration. So I've always been deeply invested in the human story and human potential, and care about people's stories. I've been a pattern recognizer like I that was part of the broking and and just came so easily, natural, naturally to me. I see patterns.
• 6:57
  Lidia Raneri: My connect dots, I can I can see a and b and go, Ah, well, I'll extrapolate that, and I can see the implications, whether that's in in market movements and pricing, but now I see it as an inherent skill, because it is really quite effortless for me when it comes to astrology and seeing the patterns in people's lives, seeing the patterns in in cultures and social structures and the moment, this moment for humanity. And so, you know, they're kind of really more the essence of who I am and and how I work. And I've always been on a quest for deeper meaning.
• 7:37
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah, you know, I really, I mean, deep thinker. And I think, really, really, you know, and I have those quiet moments where I am in that contemplation. What are we here for? What's it all about? What does it mean? I've been a seeker my whole life, yeah, and I
• 7:52
  Unknown: think that is, it is the the, you know, the best introduction, because it's who you are, like the stuff that you've done, but also who you really are, yeah, inside, yeah.
• 8:03
  Unknown: And I think that was probably why we connected. First it was, we were around so many super visual wankers that it was just more, oh, wow, you're a real person, yeah. And you actually think, and oh, you feel too, and you can actually verbalise how you're feeling. And, yeah, it was yes. It was amazing that we our paths did cross, absolutely.
• 8:23
  Unknown: Um, astrology. Can you just define what astrology actually is? Because so many people just think it is the, you know, in the olden days, the woman day astrology, the Woman's Day astrology, or the horoscopes, or whatever it is. How do you define it? Yeah,
• 8:47
  Lidia Raneri: you know, astrology is something that I think is widely recognised and poorly understood. Yes, you know, as you highlight, you know, not many of us have escaped, you know, the back of the newspaper or the women's magazine version of astrology, and it it's part of the reason why I think astrology is misjudged, yes, and I get it. I get why it is. And so it's been really dumbed down, what I think it is is the most powerful one of many. Not The Only there are many ways to access this knowledge, but it is one of the many ways to access profound insight into your own inner patterns and and how those patterns have been, I believe, personally chosen by your soul, so that when you are in this life, that this three dimensional reality, you're going to encounter the perfect scenarios, people, circumstances that are there to. To to test you and help you to evolve and grow. And astrology enables you to see what those patterns are and the timing of them, and with that awareness. So even as a coach, what we know is awareness is the code breaker to to getting out of your patterns.
• 10:20
  Lidia Raneri: And so I just see astrology at you know, and the kind of astrology that I practice, which is evolutionary. Astrology goes one step further, and it takes in the view about your past life, karma and the purposeful intention of growing beyond it.
• 10:42
  Lidia Raneri: And I, you know, I often hear my clients when I when I lay out and I say, I'm not a psychic. I don't know exactly, I don't know that you were Cleopatra in a past lifetime. You probably weren't. It's just not statistically possible that everyone is Cleopatra. No. All jokes aside, I'm like, I don't know the details of yeah life, but I can share with you the emotional resonance that comes with carries forward and what you hear to resolve, and you're going to come into encounters with that emotional resonance.
• 11:19
  Lidia Raneri: And everyone goes, yeah, yeah, wow, yeah, that's my childhood.
• 11:22
  Lidia Raneri: Oh yeah, wow. That's, that's exactly what I'm battling against. And once you see it, then you're able to transcend it.
• 11:30
  Unknown: And it's funny because it was, I can remember when you did both jazz and my astrology charts, like, years ago, and we were both like, yeah, like, let's just see what what it actually is. And it was great because it looked into the past or behind us, and there were triggers or moments that we went, Oh yeah, that Yeah. That was Yeah. That's when that happened, or that's when this happened. Oh, okay, you can actually see the patterns and how they did actually translate from astrology. But in, you know, like it is, you start sceptical, until you actually see it on paper, and go, Wow.
• 12:09
  Unknown: Okay, this is actually what is happening, yeah. And
• 12:13
  Lidia Raneri: so that's the interesting thing, you know, it's not really, I don't believe, I don't think it's best use is in the way that some people like to like you go see a psychic, tell me what's going to happen in my future. Am I going to, you know, get the job I want, or am I going to have the relationship? And in truth, no one can tell you that, because that really comes down to the choices that you make. But what astrology will highlight for you is what you are going to encounter as a critical question about, well, what kind of relationship is important to me?
• 12:48
  Lidia Raneri: Why do I keep making choices that aren't aligned with what is going to serve me best, that honours me, or what kind of career is in alignment with who I truly am? You know, I always knew I needed to work in a dynamic way. I couldn't be told what to do every day. I needed something really unscripted and, you know, and, and so that's what I need. And I find that in my, my dynamic movements through my they're different careers, yeah, but they each feed that inner need that I have, yeah,
• 13:22
  Unknown: which is, which is amazing, and you've had such a fascinating journey with finance, trading, coaching, astrology, astrology and now bringing them together. What was the moment you realised this was the work that you're meant to do? Yeah,
• 13:41
  Lidia Raneri: I think I've always had a really strong intuitive connection. And I can't say it's like a lightning bolt moment where you're, you know, at home, or wake up in the morning, or, you know, and you go, Aha, but I think it's definitely been a journey for me. And I have to say, you know, for example, when I was, you know, I left university, I was working at a law firm, and I done, I done a double degree, one of which was, was law degree, and I got a call out of the blue from a friend that I'd done my finance degree with, and he said, Hey, lead, you know, I know you're, you know, you're on your way, you know, on the path of becoming a lawyer and at a great firm. But, you know, I'm working at this stock broking firm, and they want to hire someone, and they can't be bothered advertising. This is classic stock working in the 90s, yeah? And they asked me if I knew anyone good, you know.
• 14:44
  Lidia Raneri: And I thought of you, what do you think? And I knew in that moment I wasn't happy, yeah, right. I didn't want my boss's job, which is a really good sign, yeah, me. And so I thought, um, what's it about?
• 14:55
  Lidia Raneri: Kind of said, well, you know.
• 15:00
  Lidia Raneri: It's a bit of analysis and a bit of, you know, I knew nothing about the stock market. I knew nothing about the stock market, and I went and so that was a gut reaction, but what I followed was, I get to work dynamically.
• 15:10
  Lidia Raneri: It's kind of, every day is different. You're responding to market events, you know, it's not same, same, and you got to think on your feet. And I was, knew I was quite analytical, and I got to use those strengths and talents. And I went, sounds good, let's do it. And so was that the work that I wanted to do absolutely back then I just knew. And so, fast forward 30 years. Fast forward 30 years, and here I am. You know, I'm doing what I want to do again. I knew I wanted to work in coaching, but my story is that the piece of me that is my heart and soul, which is astrology, was always left behind. Why?
• 15:55
  Lidia Raneri: Because it wasn't. It didn't fit that corporate image. And I just got to the point, and this is where the beauty of the strength and power of midlife, where I thought, literally, fuck it.
• 16:09
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah, I'm tired of fitting into it's an illusion, right? No one is thinking, Oh, Lydia, should it's just my own crazy stories in our own heads, right? And I thought, I'm a coach, for God's sakes. I do this stuff, and I'm gonna walk my talk. I am going to do the thing that is right for me and to help with what anyone thinks or cares and by the way, they don't think or care or anything anyway. And so I'm just doing what's right for me, and this is my passion, and I know that astrology with coaching is a powerful combination that can really help people that are aligned with finding that kind of service to, you know, to to embrace their own passions and walk confidently and powerfully through their own lives. And so Dom I was washing the dishes, I was out of the sink, and I'm like, Oh, I'm not doing the thing that I want. And how does this all come together? And I had the, I had a lightning bolt moment where I went, I'm the cosmos coach, yeah. And that started a process. It was literally that, that, you know, intuitive, deep searching and the flash of but it's come on a series of many times where I've listened to, this is the work I'm meant to be doing, yes, and this is just another additional part of the the structure of me that's been built over time, where I've listened to, okay, what do I need to do? Yeah. And many times I've done the thing that no one thought was the sensible thing to do, but was right for me, you know what?
• 17:46
  Unknown: And that's the thing that I love about your story, is what is right for me at this point in time? Yeah, because it's so interesting how things do change, and you shouldn't be doing the same stuff as what you were doing when you first started, right? Because you grow, you change. Yeah, I want to be stuck in being, you know, a lawyer, because it just didn't fit you. No,
• 18:08
  Lidia Raneri: like, God no, not me. Yeah. It's yeah,
• 18:12
  Unknown: yeah. How so many people here? Many women hit midlife feeling like they've been living on autopilot. How do you how do we start reconnecting with what we actually want? Such
• 18:27
  Lidia Raneri: a good question.
• 18:27
  Lidia Raneri: So how you reconnect with what you actually want starts with asking yourself the question, right? And I know that just sounds so obvious, but ask the question and then listen, yeah, to yourself. And I'm laying this out because some women don't even ask themselves the question. But
• 18:52
  Unknown: you know why, even, even with that? Because I know we've had a lot of discussions about this with, you know, everything that's happening in, you know, midlife. And when you say to me, ask the question, I ask the question, but then I get distracted, and I don't actually give myself time to stop and answer the question about what I actually want. Yeah,
• 19:16
  Lidia Raneri: and it's hard, and it's hard because at this stage of our lives, in midlife, you know? And I'd argue, you know this, this is, it's part of the setup. So you come into your 20s, all you're asking yourself is what you want. You're only doing what you want, right? It's all about you. It is right, and it's the adventure, and it's the journey. And I'm tuned into what I want. I'm going overseas. I'm gonna, you know, go here. I'm taking a year off. I want
• 19:50
  Unknown: this. I'm going out to dinner. I'm doing it, yeah, all of it. And so by
• 19:55
  Lidia Raneri: the time you get to your midlife, 40s, 50s, mm.
• 20:00
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah, you have answered that question many, many times, but then you're in the execution of it and and some of them are long tail things, my career, my family having, my children.
• 20:11
  Lidia Raneri: They're all things that I want, but somewhere in that journey, you just lose the connection to repeating the question, because I'm in the process of executing something I wanted 10 years ago, 10 years ago, and so there's no, there's no real refresh on it.
• 20:29
  Lidia Raneri: We'll, we'll get into the astrology of it. But you get into midlife, and there is a shift in the energy, let alone many other shifts, that happen and and it's time to ask the question again. But you've been so used to now putting it off or delaying because you've got to get the kids to school and I'm making sandwiches and I'm supporting my partner in what they're doing. And, and you've become less connected to asking the question and being able to answer Yeah, I can't answer it, so I'm just not going to bother asking or
• 21:05
  Unknown: Yeah. And I do think you know what, it's even hard answering it, because you do have so many of these things that are dependent on you, yeah, whether it is your family, whether it's your husband, whether it is your work, getting back to the core of you, it's actually quite hard, yeah? Like, really hard. And it is, yeah, the time, making that time well,
• 21:33
  Lidia Raneri: so there's the the I'm out of practice, huh? Yeah.
• 21:38
  Lidia Raneri: And then there's the I'm afraid of the answer hard, yeah, because the answers can be quite disruptive, and so I dare not ask anymore, and that's a tragedy, yeah, right. And so we have to ask the question, because there is a life force that doesn't stop pulsing through you, and life wants vigour and expansion and movement. It doesn't want stagnation, no. And if you stay stagnant, there are consequences, right? Stagnant water is putrid, right? And so it's movement and energy that creates life. And so the stagnation is, is can be met with health issues. Yeah, can be health met with mental health issues. There are consequences to stagnation, but there's consequences to asking the question again, yeah, because it can be disruptive. It does not have to be No, but it can be.
• 22:38
  Lidia Raneri: But, you know, like I've had my own disruption through asking myself this question. You know, outwardly, no one would see it, because my life continues to be the same, but the inner turmoil of asking the question means you have to face some of the things that have held you back, my fear of being judged, yeah, by an old kind of network, or a corporate network about being an astrologer, about, you know, that's not credible. Where's the evidence base in that? Well, you know,
• 23:11
  Unknown: I think even for you, like, I can remember when you first launched, and I think a big milestone for you was putting it on Facebook. Oh, my because that was your family and your friends it had known you from, yeah, forever, yeah, and you were really worried about that, yeah. And it's like, no
• 23:27
  Lidia Raneri: one cares. No one's outgoing stuff, yeah, you know. And on. And this is, this is the beautiful thing as you face into these fears, and just take the steps, yeah, just take the action that is aligned with what you want, you're really it's not as it's not through selfishness. It's through honouring. Yeah, it's their diff. They have different qualities and energies. You know, you got to be able to differentiate when it's, it's honouring, because it's, it is self love, it is self respect, yeah, and, and then that's different. Those fears, they just melt away, and they're not then that they don't really they're just non issues. You know, in psychology, when people have phobias, the way that they get them to to move past and beyond their phobia is through exposure. So if you've got a an arachnophobia, fear of spiders, the only way to get over it is exposure to spiders. Yes, fear of open spaces, you need to slowly take small steps towards getting yourself to the door outside, to the lift, into an open space, right? And so there's no different with any of our fears. As we take the small steps an inch towards facing the fear it melts away. Yeah, right, because they are illusions well,
• 24:39
  Unknown: and I mean, the fear it builds up in your head more than what it's actually going to be like in reality as well. Yeah.
• 24:46
  Unknown: And that's where the the hardest thing is, is getting it out of your head and just doing
• 24:52
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah, yeah. So look connecting to what we really want. Ask the question, yeah, spend the time with yourself to. Really listen, and you're so right. We distract ourselves life is busy, and social media is always there, waiting, and we can distract ourselves so easily from our true inner calling, and then you have to actually choose to be okay with the discomfort that will emerge. Yeah, and we are also really good at making ourselves feel okay and comfortable. You know, there's so so we've done so much, even as a species, to remove discomfort. And you know, when I'm coaching, one of the things that I love saying to my clients is, if you can remember, or if you're even blessed to be near a small child before they've learned to crawl, notice the struggle, the strain, the frustration, the the I can't do it, and what's that child doing?
• 26:00
  Lidia Raneri: They're doing little mini push ups, and they're on their tummies and they're they're lifting their heads up, and it's freaking hard, yeah, and it's hard, and it's hard. But what do you want? You want to see that baby push up and off and start crawling, they're moving, yeah?
• 26:16
  Lidia Raneri: And that. But they can't do it without the struggle, without the strain, without the discomfort, you've got to lean into that discomfort over and over. It's not once, it's a lot.
• 26:25
  Lidia Raneri: And then eventually you are strengthened and you move, yeah.
• 26:30
  Lidia Raneri: And then what are we doing?
• 26:30
  Lidia Raneri: We're all gathering around going, go, oh my god, did you see that we're cheering, and it's still the same in adult life, yeah, but the struggles are abstract. They never leave us, and we are always to the day we leave this earth confronted with our own things that we must struggle and strongly don't avoid it, yeah, because that weakens you and you'll be the baby that never crawls, yeah? So start to strengthen yourself and face into the discomfort, yeah, and be with it, and then you'll move.
• 27:04
  Unknown: Yeah, yep, that is it's great advice. Definitely great advice. With astrology, you've talked about a lot, but how do you see it as a tool for personal growth, rather than just bang, you know, the horoscopes that we've all all had or read in the past. Like, what is it as the
• 27:25
  Lidia Raneri: tool? Yeah, so look, that's probably a good segue from this discussion in midlife, right? So the tool for it as to use it as a tool for personal growth is to actually go deep into your own blueprint, right? And use it as a tool for self awareness, just like you would like a
• 27:51
  Unknown: metric, yeah, just before you go. So how do you, and I mean, I know this, the answer this, but how do you actually judge or your chart?
• 27:56
  Unknown: Like, how what are the criteria for understanding what your chart is. So it's the time and date and the day
• 28:06
  Lidia Raneri: you were born, yeah, your birth date, yes, the place you were born, that's right, yes. And the time that you were born, time of day, yeah. And for an astrologer, you know, four minutes makes a difference, yeah, right. So as exact as you can get it if you have a hospital record, brilliant. Mother's memory is not very reliable, but at least it does tell an astrologer it was the morning, or mum remembers it was like after midnight, but not yet morning.
• 28:33
  Lidia Raneri: And it gives you you can narrow it down. And what that means is you narrow down a range of potential rising signs. And okay, anyway, sorry, so yeah, that's yes. And so that's how a birth chart is constructed with the that those three points of data. And so then you have your cosmic blueprint, and you have your karmic story, and you have the you know life is, is unscripted in the the the choices that you make, but what is kind of, almost soul chosen by you, and that then shows up is the questions that you will face. And that's how I use astrology as the tool, yes, you know, if I see a Mars transit to somebody's, you know, you know, to their sun, to their moon.
• 29:24
  Lidia Raneri: Then the question is being asked, what part of me is avoiding taking a risk? What part of me is avoiding a brave choice? Right now, what part of me is devolving into petty conflict? These are all, this is all Mars energy, right? You know, you know, misdirected Mars energy is going to find itself on a battlefield, internally or externally, in petty arguments.
• 29:53
  Lidia Raneri: Why? Because that energy is actually about, oh, why am I avoiding the. My need for adventure right now. And so when you come at it through that lens of of exploring the energy, but through a coaching lens, almost Well, that leads you into a deeper inquiry with yourself.
• 30:13
  Lidia Raneri: Ah, yeah, well, I'm afraid of or I can't. Well, why do you feel you can't? What's that about?
• 30:20
  Lidia Raneri: Because right now, you're being invited. You don't have to take up the invitation, right? The universe is inviting you. You can ignore it. You have free will. But you know, for every move we make, there are ongoing consequences, and so I you know, again, back to like a coaching lens, as I say to my in you know, when I'm coaching, it's like your beliefs shape your reality, yeah, because they will craft what you expect to see and find in the world. And so through astrology, I can interrogate, yeah, the beliefs so powerfully, right? And the you can choose to take this time to to get rid of the lies in your beliefs that you shouldn't be holding on to, or you can continue with
• 31:11
  Unknown: them. Yeah, and I think that's the biggest thing, and it's we've had so many chats about, you know, you get to this age and you go, what are my beliefs for now versus what they were when I was younger. But also the biggest thing is, what stuff do I need to leave behind, like the stuff that I thought was true early on in my life? Is it actually still true for me today? Or Have I grown or have I got things that are absolutely different to what they used to be, yeah? And that's a that's a hard question, or it's actually hard to go, okay, that part of my identity can stay there, yeah, and I don't need it anymore, yeah,
• 31:53
  Lidia Raneri: yeah. We do change. We do. And you know that process of shedding, you know, from, from when, for as children, you know. And this is the beauty of astrology as well.
• 32:07
  Lidia Raneri: It really does show us what happens in the family system.
• 32:11
  Lidia Raneri: And, you know, astrology calls this the conditioned self, because, well, Dom, if you are a good girl, and you tidy up your bedroom, then I'll think that you're and so then you adopt those beliefs that are given to you through from the family system. And you know, of course, families impart their values, but there's always something about you that's unique and different and maybe needs something somewhat adapted from those original beliefs, and some of them just don't serve you at all, right? Because your parents have got their own issues, and they're they're trapped in and so we come out a conditioned self, and we spend the rest of our lives addressing, ah, I was given that belief. Is it really true for me? Yeah. And then there's really a path we walk, a path of courage to dismantle it and find what, what really is the truth. For me,
• 33:06
  Unknown: yeah, and it's funny, like even you talking about the the beliefs you were given when you were little, like, I'm just thinking back to, you know, even the house that the houses, because we moved around a lot, that we lived in, they were all showroom or beautiful or, you know, never anything out of place, and no photos, no nothing. And you go, now I'm like stuff that I want a bit of mess, like occasionally, but I do want a bit of mess, and I want a bit of colour, and I want photos everywhere, yeah, because I want it to be real,
• 33:36
  Lidia Raneri: to look like someone is living a life. That's it. That's it.
• 33:39
  Unknown: And it is, it's, it's hard to break that mould, or hard to leave even just something as simple as that behind. Yeah,
• 33:46
  Lidia Raneri: yeah, because those conditions feed a story into us of how I have to be to be okay, how and
• 33:53
  Unknown: no, but how I have to be to be okay, but how I have to be to be accepted as well. Oh, which is a massive thing, 100%
• 34:01
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah, and, and, you know, where those beliefs make you feel energised and expansive? And, yes, this is me, and I'm I like it this way, versus trapped and controlled or shackled or burdened, or, Oh, my God, the dread of, I've got to maintain this part of me that kind of tyrannises me under its kind of, you know, cracking the whip way of being, yeah. Then that's when, you know, yeah, yes. It's time to let it go.
• 34:39
  Unknown: Why does midlife feel like such a massive identity shift. And is this just age, or is something bigger happening?
• 34:49
  Lidia Raneri: There's a lot happening in midlife, and it feels like a big identity shift, because it is like it really is so the way that. I think about this is what's happening. We've got biological shifts. Yeah, you know, for women, you know we know we go through Peri and then post menopause, so there's the biological shift. There's the effects of gravity on your faces and bodies. Yeah, yeah, right, that we have to confront, yeah, run away from one way or another way. We're dealing with it in our in whatever way we choose, but we have to deal with it. And then there are social shifts.
• 35:30
  Lidia Raneri: You know, for some of us, you know, kids are growing up, going through different stages with our children. For some people that had kids early, they're now leaving home. So there's social shifts, and there's career shifts as well, usually in 40s, because where, where you were used to, if you were blessed to have kind of got it right and took the action, you've gone through a rising star phase, and now in your 40s, you're plateauing. And what do you do with that? What do you do when you're used to momentum and movement and and now stagnants, yeah. And so what's happening in midlife is all of these waves are crashing on the one shore right at once, yeah? And it's so it is a unique time that you've got these, the multiplicity of these shifts. Then, if I look at it through an astrological lens, when we get into our early 40s, we have a we all experience this. It's called a Neptune square. Neptune transits around and makes a square to our natal Neptune. What does that mean?
• 36:38
  Lidia Raneri: Well, Neptune has to do with, with what is it that is beyond what I see? And so it has to usually do with disillusionment.
• 36:50
  Lidia Raneri: And it can also have to do with, it's got to do with many things but loss and surrender in its creative expression. It's it's vision, and it's imagination, and it is real creativity. But there's a transcendence that comes with Neptune when that square hits, which is a tense alignment. What the questions that are being asked is, How does who I am now? How do I line this up against the vision that I had of myself? And is it time for a new vision? And usually this is the beginning of starting to seek deeper meaning in our lives. And no one prepares us for no one prepares us for this. There is so much joy in the striving, and there is emptiness in the arriving, yeah. And in our mid life, usually true, we've arrived, and Neptune comes along, and we really feel that emptiness of, now what? Yeah, and it's time for a new vision. It's time for a update of those questions, or what does it mean for me? What is meaningful? What do I want?
• 38:06
  Dominique Hind: And then stuff can I leave behind? And
• 38:08
  Lidia Raneri: then on the back of that, a couple of years later, the classic midlife crisis alignment happens, and that's our Uranus opposition, where, you know, we see this. It is the classic middle life crisis, because Uranus is the planet that encourages us to individuate right individuation means not divisible. Coming back to wholeness was what I've gone through. I need my whole self to be expressed. And so what we have is this energy that rises up within us that is deeply calling for more authenticity, more of an update of who am I now, and a a kind of that individuation I need to be me and so, you know, Uranus Opposition actually is where we really start to get serious momentum around. Well, I don't care if that's the way other people are doing it, I want to do it my way. I don't care if this is how it should be. I need to do it the way that feels right for me. So we start to become more sensitive to the conditioning that we've had, and we It's an invitation to to align ourselves with what we really want. Now you don't have to take that invitation. And some people obviously want to feel that useful radicalness, which is Uranus, yeah, and embrace that. And so it's the fast cars, and it's the updated relationship, that I'm going and I'm, I'm starting, I'm, it's a start off, and it's a thing, and it's whatever, right? And so that's, that's a way of accessing the energy. Yeah, okay, there's many deeper ways to access it. Yeah, yeah,
• 39:54
  Unknown: okay, good. And I think this question probably is a good one to. All from but so many of us feel like we should have it all figured out by now, but we don't.
• 40:08
  Lidia Raneri: Why is that? Do we ever? I don't. Let's all figured out, you know? And so again, that's just one of those. That's just one of those illusions that we carry around. And, you know, this, this, this one really links into compared to your despair. Yes, right? Yeah, yeah, look around and we compare what we see out there, and we therefore, then we don't know anyone else's you know true, where they're at in their lives, what they're really experiencing, how they're feeling through their own life, their friendships, their relationship, their relationship with their kids, what's going on in their family, with their parents? We don't know yet. You know, particularly in our and our you know, consumer driven, materialistic world, if they're driving the right car that we might aspire to drive, or if they're living on the right street or in the right suburb, or seem to, you know, their kids seem to like, you know, whatever represent something that our kids are not. It's the compared to your despair. And we just make up the stories that reinforce they have, and I don't, and it's such a disempowering one, because it's just not true. No, no one has it figured out. And two, it kind of becomes self fulfilling for you.
• 41:28
  Lidia Raneri: And that's the real danger, that the more that you are in that state of comparing to your despair, you are dragging yourself down and convincing yourself that what you have isn't what enough? Yeah, and then it's the tyranny of more and striving and and so all we really need to do is check in with ourselves and ask that fundamental question. You know, what is it that I want? And the the power behind that question really should be, you know, almost like the the preparatory material for that is, do I know what my values are, yeah, yeah.
• 42:11
  Lidia Raneri: If I know what my values are, yeah, yeah, and I really am clear on my values, then I can ask safely, ask myself what I want, because I know what I need to feel meaning and fulfilment, but if I don't actually check in and honour what my true values are, then I can ask myself what I want, and I'm still going to be manipulated by a willing media and the stories I tell myself by looking out at other people, yeah, and I get a distorted sense of what I think, I think I should want.
• 42:45
  Unknown: And it's funny. So Shannon was on the podcast previously, and she was one of the ones who made me just focus on the values. And for me, those values, they're just such a critical thing for any decision I make. Yeah, it's not health, family, happiness, pleasure, adventure and fun, not interested. And it does stop you by having those comparing to others,
• 43:10
  Lidia Raneri: yeah, yeah, because you come back to this is what I know matters to me exactly, yeah. And I
• 43:19
  Unknown: do think that there are so many people who just do not know what matters to them, yeah, and they are guided by everything that is going on around them, yeah, which is not right,
• 43:29
  Lidia Raneri: no. But, you know, I guess in that sense, I bring a lot of compassion to that. I think it's part of the human journey. You know, sometimes we need our own pain and suffering through these misguided, you know, the misfiring of, Wow, I really thought I wanted that.
• 43:44
  Lidia Raneri: Now I've got it, and it doesn't make me happy at all. And you know what? There's value in that too. Yeah, there, if that's your road to learning, yeah. Then I celebrate that too, yeah. And
• 43:55
  Unknown: I think there is something in that where you actually get something and you go, Oh, yeah, is this it? Yeah.
• 44:04
  Unknown: That actually doesn't make me happy. No, okay, great. And I do think that that is a good learning in itself. You're right, you're right, because at least, you know,
• 44:14
  Lidia Raneri: yeah, yeah. And sometimes it's the things that create a version, you know, sometimes we learn faster through a version, because, because we're so primed for avoiding threat, and you know, we've, you know we are, we have to rise above our fears. And so anything that creates a version in us kind of really locks in.
• 44:31
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah,
• 44:34
  Unknown: so you've made some bold choices, moving to the buyer and hind lambs, balancing two worlds, coaching astrology and everything in between diving deeper into astrology and actually owning that. What's been the hardest thing about embracing that change? Look
• 44:51
  Lidia Raneri: confronting myself. You know? I think, you know, I think I have gotten much. Much better as I've gotten older. Yeah, at adapting to change, and I I kind of use this little radar check with myself, right? Change comes. It's inevitable. We know it, and astrology has helped me so much, yes, right? I really do use it to not what's going to happen, but to check in and go, where's the energy flowing? The energy is flowing this way. I have to flow with this tide. And it's lemons and lemonade, right? And so when a change is moving through my life, I'm like, How do I make this the best possible thing it can be for my family, for my relationship, for me, and what's in this for me, if life is taking me in this direction, you know? Okay, so let's make the most of it. And so, you know, change for me is is something that we can really learn to work with. And I use the acronym for myself, creates healthy and necessary growth experiences. Yeah, right, okay, adds change, yeah, yeah, and so you can resist it, but it's pointless, yeah, what can be
• 46:21
  Dominique Hind: rose in
• 46:22
  Lidia Raneri: create, creates healthy, ch, G, A, creates healthy and necessary. And, yes, growth, G experiences, okay,
• 46:32
  Unknown: right? Necessary. I think that's a good one. They are necessary for our growth.
• 46:35
  Unknown: And that's something that we get into when you know, things do happen for a reason, and there has to be some growth taken out of it. So rather than getting in the like the dumps about it, it is okay. What can we actually learn?
• 46:53
  Lidia Raneri: No one gets out of this experience without some serious scars on the heart?
• 46:58
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah, no one, yeah, and we're here to learn. The purpose of this, this journey is learning and growth, yeah? And you can choose it or not, but it's going to get dished out to you. Yeah,
• 47:14
  Dominique Hind: yeah, accept it or don't.
• 47:15
  Lidia Raneri: Well, how do you make the most of it? Yeah? And when you, when do you kind of surrender to that. And you know, so many of the ancient traditions, they already knew this, the beauty and the art of surrender, right? Yeah, you know, say yes to where life's taking. You see what comes of that. Stop resisting. Be curious. Go on the adventure.
• 47:36
  Lidia Raneri: Um, then life doesn't it doesn't get magically easier, but life gets more meaningful. Yeah,
• 47:45
  Unknown: yep, I think I definitely agree with that, talking about letting go, whether it's relationships, old identities or just things that no longer fit maybe close. How do we do it without feeling like we're losing ourself? Isn't reframing it. So even just based on what we're talking about as a growth opportunity, it's not losing, it's actually growing.
• 48:14
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah, well, you know, we, you know, we do have to shed our old identities. We just don't stay the same. You know, somehow we get into adult life. And, you know, I had this conversation yesterday with a beautiful 21 year old, and she was saying to me, I am about to go and live overseas for a year, and I'm so excited, and I really want to do this, and I don't know what it's going to be and and I was listening to her and watching her express her joy, and she's like, I really don't know what I'm going to do over there. And I thought, isn't it amazing? Like, it's a stage of life where we have an expectation of, I don't know what I'm doing. I'm just feeling like I want to do this, and yet we get into midlife, and we've lost the touch with that, and we stop thinking that we continue to update our identity, but it's why would we? Yeah, and we get stuck. And so it's our own expectations that we're done, but we're never done. And back to the stagnants, right? Yeah, we have to keep and so it's just that, I think, as we go on, we've just accumulated, you know, you know, relationship.
• 49:34
  Lidia Raneri: We've usually, we've got a partner, a marriage, we've got children, we have assets. It's harder to update that identity.
• 49:45
  Lidia Raneri: But some people find that, wow, I thought I wanted all of this, and actually turns out I don't that's one extreme version, or I really have wanted all of this, but now I'm feeling. Into something more or different, and I need to go in this direction, to honour the things that my new interests that are emerging or now it's a time of life where I put things on hold, but I have the space or the money or the whatever to pursue that and going to and so we never stop updating the identity.
• 50:20
  Unknown: What? Do you think the biggest fear is with people in accepting the new identity or moving into that new identity?
• 50:30
  Unknown: Two things. It's what other people will think.
• 50:33
  Unknown: Yeah, 100% how do we care so much? Like no one actually thinks about you.
• 50:39
  Lidia Raneri: And look though, if there are people out there that have got a crappy thing to say, well, you don't really want them in life. They're not the ones. You're happy friends.
• 50:48
  Lidia Raneri: They're not your people, right?
• 50:48
  Lidia Raneri: They're not your people. And usually they they're saying those things because they are in deep in their own suffering, of their own judgement, yeah, their own, you know, fear factors that are controlling them. And so yes, it is our fear of what other people will think. But hopefully we don't marinate in that too long, and we just take the and action is is the self.
• 51:08
  Lidia Raneri: Action is the thing that gets you out of that funk, and you just kind of feel good by taking the action. And we know that it's action that builds confidence, right? Little steps that show you Yeah, that you can do what you say you're going to do, that you're going to show up for yourself. That's how you build confidence. Confidence means faith in myself with faith in me. That's what confidence actually means. And so take little actions and steps that are for you when you go, yeah.
• 51:38
  Lidia Raneri: That feels good. That feels right, yeah, next one. And the other thing is, you know, some people do face a disruptive moment, and so of course, it's only normal and natural to kind of want to put the brakes on ahead of that big disruption.
• 51:56
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah, right. That's not easy stuff to know through, yeah, but, you know, your midlife can be a full rebirth moment, you know. And it is a real, incredible opportunity to rebirth because, you know, we usually kick off from our 20s, you know, now I'm talking through the lens of a Saturn Return type frame astrologically, you know, we have our first Saturn Return in our late 20s, and that marks the moment where we truly become adults, or we start adulting, right where we we face a choice point where it's like, am I going to stop partying? Am I going to stop having the late nights or whatever? I know that's not good for me. I got to get serious about my career, or I need, I want to find a partner and settle down. Those sorts of things start to creep in. And what happens at that Saturn Return is we have come through youth with so much idealism, and we're meant to, we're meant to.
• 52:59
  Lidia Raneri: You know, we start out as children in Dress Up mode and imagining ourselves here and there, and we play all these different characters as we're feeling what, what's happening is we're really feeling into, who am I in here, and what do I want? It's the way a child does it. So you get into that Saturn Return phase, and that's the time to realise that's what Saturn is. It's a realisation type, and it makes things real.
• 53:22
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah, it gets real. And so we start the process of walking the path to realising our dreams, yeah. And so we we leave with that energy and that passion and that vigour and the and the real work of work starts, right? And plan. And Saturn is that planet that makes us work hard, do the hard stuff. And so then we can that carries us with a lot of momentum through our 30s. And mid life is kind of halfway.
• 53:55
  Lidia Raneri: Your mid 40s is halfway to your next sort of Saturn Return. And it's the checkpoint, yeah, it's the checkpoint to say, Oh, I've realised all this stuff. I've arrived, or I'm in the process.
• 54:07
  Lidia Raneri: You get there in your 50s, and then, you know, you kind of go, right. Well, now what is it that I'm going to do? I have to update my dreams. Yeah, yeah.
• 54:17
  Lidia Raneri: And the next one around is about the dream with the wisdom,
• 54:25
  Unknown: yeah, okay, right? And the knowledge and the knowledge and the letting go and the being yourself, right? Because
• 54:33
  Lidia Raneri: what happens once you get the second Saturn Return comes at around 58 and so that kicks us into the next 30 years, 58 to 88 and we like our elders not to say, don't be cool and funky. We love a cool, funky elder. But there needs to be gravitas. There weight. You know, the benefit of the wisdom seemed, experienced, lived, and then that we want the elder to have. Put it into practice in their life, and we kind of revere and respect that, but the elder that's like man doing burnouts in the car park. No, actually, something's not right,
• 55:13
  Unknown: definitely, definitely or not right, that is 100% sure. And that's a metaphor, yeah, right. If someone has never looked at their astrology chart before, what's the first thing they should pay attention to?
• 55:28
  Lidia Raneri: Wow, okay, so many things. I really, really think the first thing they have to pay attention to is their north and south node. Okay. Begins there.
• 55:38
  Unknown: Okay. And what does that actually normal? What does that mean? What is she
• 55:42
  Lidia Raneri: talking about? So the north and south node aren't physical objects in the sky.
• 55:46
  Lidia Raneri: Yep, they are points that represent the plane of intersection of where the moon's path of travel. Yep, with the earth intersects around the ecliptic around the path around the sun. So these are intersecting planes of travel, and as you map out that point of intersection, it occurs at the moment of your birth. Where is the moon in the sky? Where's the earth in the sky? Where's that relationship of those three bodies. And how do we mark out the it's almost like the north and south pole of the moon. And why is it so important? Because from an evolutionary astrology perspective, those points are like the an energetic portal through which the soul moves through the various dimensions to move from non physical into this physical dimension, and it carries the soul is carrying soul memories of previous incarnations. And so that point happens to delineate the specific karma that your soul wants to address in this lifetime. It's not have the immediate prior life. I can't say whether it was the one before this one. It's just you might have lived 1000s of prior lives. It's just that the alignments, the way that the energy is reflected, creates the opportune, energetic field for which you move through in your lifetime. To address that specific, you know, karmic set of limitations, the wounding.
• 57:22
  Lidia Raneri: For some people, it's trauma, yeah, my goodness. I mean, I've, you know, one woman couldn't explain her deep trauma that she had, and had this attachment to going to Burma and being with the Burmese people. And, you know, we, I didn't know anything about this, and I kind of laid out, you know, what, the trauma that she'd brought in from a previous lifetime of, you know, of a displaced people and, you know, you know, a potential genocide, or whatever it was.
• 57:57
  Lidia Raneri: And she was, you know, I'm not saying she was Burmese, but she went there to be, and she couldn't ever explain why she needed to be there, you know, so things like that that help people go, ah that, gosh, I could never explain what that was. And I,
• 58:13
  Unknown: yeah, I think it's fascinating just from the, you know, the the internal ah Aha, moments that you go, Oh, that was my thing, or that was something that was playing on my heart or internally within me, and you helped to code that, yeah,
• 58:29
  Lidia Raneri: yeah. And so that as a starting point, yeah is the first most impactful thing.
• 58:33
  Lidia Raneri: Because before we even get into what your sun sign is and how your ego is constructed in this lifetime, and what things that ego needs to you know, what experiences it's seeking, what its values are going to be, you know, what it needs to overcome?
• 58:50
  Lidia Raneri: It's so important to understand, first of all, what's happening for me at a soul level. Yeah, yeah. And so, and then what that those soul points not only talk about the past life karma, but the most impactful thing is the North Node tells us what our greatest potential is, our North Star, genuine, genuinely, our North Star in this lifetime, what we would love to think We achieve by the time we have departed this life, yep, and that actually is a really, you know, we can look at big thing.
• 59:26
  Lidia Raneri: It's a big thing. Actually understand, well, you know, you, you've got an intimate understanding already of your sun sign, or when we look at, you know, your Venus position, and we talk about your the nature of you've already got an innate connection with it. When an astrologer kind of describes it to you, but no one comes in here knowing how to do their node, and that's the work of the lifetime, and that's where we go. I just feel on track, and we know it when we're off track, I feel so wrong.
• 59:57
  Unknown: I can feel that what's.
• 59:57
  Unknown: Something small we can do daily to start living more with purpose.
• 1:00:07
  Unknown: Something small.
• 1:00:10
  Dominique Hind: Ask yourself, what do you want? Yeah, look,
• 1:00:13
  Lidia Raneri: of course, ask yourself that question. So, what is purpose? Like? What's our purpose? You know, I get asked this question a lot, and it's both incredibly simple and ridiculously challenging, yeah, and our purpose is to live our lives with and in love and like.
• 1:00:33
  Lidia Raneri: That's just so ordinary, right?
• 1:00:40
  Lidia Raneri: But what when it's like when I say to you, do you love without conditions and without limitation and fully freely? Do you love your work? Do you love your life? Do you love where you're living? Do you love your friendships? Have you got people around you that maybe aren't good for you. You know, do you live your life wholly and entirely with love? Because when you're loving life, yeah, I love that you are on purpose, yeah.
• 1:01:13
  Lidia Raneri: And so then the second derivative, derivative of the purpose question is also, what should I do that expresses me living wholly, totally, no holds barred, in love with my life. I love my job. You know, when you meet people that love their work, they're living their purpose. Yeah, but a lot of people come to the purpose question with the what should I do? Yes, and it's actually, how should I be? First, I need to be in love with we aren't living our lives as much as we can in love with our life, and I mean all of its facets and aspects.
• 1:01:55
  Lidia Raneri: And this is where, you know, what would I do that shows love?
• 1:02:00
  Lidia Raneri: Sometimes we need to be loved to another person. And yes, we make, you know, sacrifices for another, and that's a choice through love, not through obligations, right? Yeah. So I'm empowered in this. I'm not like, Oh God, I gotta do this. I'm choosing for love to do it. So, you know, when we when we do that, life takes on a completely different quality becomes really magical. But it's not a question of, what's my purpose? What should I do? That drops out of, what do you love? What enables you to connect to the feeling of love? And if we're not living that way, it is a literal waste of our time, yeah? Wasting this time? Yeah? I
• 1:02:36
  Unknown: actually, I love that.
• 1:02:36
  Unknown: I love the thought of it's in love like it is. The purpose is being in love, being in love with every part of it, yeah?
• 1:02:42
  Unknown: Because if you're not, you can feel it. When you're not in love with something, you feel it. And you just feel
• 1:02:52
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah. And look from a philosophical perspective, my way of coming at life is, I don't believe that, you know, life ends here. I believe that we're spirits, and we've come into this we are parts of the divine source that wants to understand itself through consciousness, through this third dimensional material experience. And so when we return to that, we are love. We are in the body of love. And so the purpose of being in this physical vehicle and moving around is for love to have the experience of of physical, real touch based interactive. What does love feel like in a physical way, in a physical expression, because out of these bodies, we are that, but we don't have the physical expression of it anymore. So what we do, who we're with, what, how we spend our time in action, in in the doing, is that extension of the expression of love, ourselves as love,
• 1:04:02
  Unknown: if someone is feeling stuck, what should they do?
• 1:04:09
  Lidia Raneri: Hmm, well, they should, I guess I would say, Have you got someone who can listen? Yeah, a really, really good friend who will just allow you to talk, you know, journal, yeah, right. Journal, without any objective, just start writing. But you've got to take some time to be with yourself.
• 1:04:41
  Lidia Raneri: See if you're stuck, you're avoiding yourself, yeah, something,
• 1:04:46
  Unknown: yes, I like that. If you are stuck, you're avoiding yourself, or you're avoiding something, yeah, okay, great, and you we've had some pretty wild experience. Together, like fighting away sharks, crocs, being in boats. What's a moment in your life that you've had so far that is your Fuck yes, moment
• 1:05:13
  Lidia Raneri: in my whole life, in your whole life? Oh, gosh, oh, I've had so many
• 1:05:22
  Unknown: that's great, because you're actually, if that means you've, yeah, living in love and yeah, living with that purpose,
• 1:05:27
  Lidia Raneri: yeah. Um, there was one time I'd gone travelling on my own, and I was in South Africa, and I decided I'd go for an afternoon walk and climb Table Mountain on my own, um, and I got to a point where I was in a really narrow ledge, and I knew I was, this is my like in my super fit days that you know, being able to do a chin up and lift my body weight and get up the ledge was not an issue. So I had so much confidence in my physical ability, and I went to do the ledge, and for some reason, my my mindset shifted, and I just got a sense of that thought came in of what happens if this goes wrong? And I literally had a whole body freeze, I'm on the edge, and I'm like, Oh, no one knows. I'm here travelling on my own. What would my mother say?
• 1:06:22
  Dominique Hind: What would you want?
• 1:06:23
  Lidia Raneri: You crazy anyway.
• 1:06:23
  Lidia Raneri: So I, I, you know, I kind of edged myself back down off, and I went a ways back down. And I just, there was another guy coming up, and we chatted. And in that moment, you know, I kind of, he said, Look, I'll walk with you up the path, and I got back to the same ledge point.
• 1:06:48
  Lidia Raneri: And sometimes, you know, maybe it's a metaphor for life.
• 1:06:50
  Lidia Raneri: Sometimes we just need at certain moments in our lives the right person to come along for that little push or that little encouragement. He didn't help me. He was just there. And I got to the same ledge point, and I pulled myself up, and off we went. And we got to the top. And so that was a real fuckiest moment because of the the heart stopping, my body won't work.
• 1:07:11
  Lidia Raneri: The adrenaline was coursing through me. And then I came back around, and up I went. And so, gosh, I didn't even know I was going to tell this story at all.
• 1:07:19
  Lidia Raneri: You know, I think that that's just so important to sort of for me to remember that sometimes we get to something the first time and we think, I can't, yeah, and we just need to breathe, regroup, maybe we retrace a little bit, and we go again, and he and we, you know, we know that we've got everything we need to carry us up and over and forward. And that was a real, you know, and it's a moment of, I've got everything on it, yeah, I can do this, yeah, yeah. I love
• 1:08:00
  Unknown: that story, that it's such a good thing, isn't it, because you go but you did it, yeah? You just needed that little bit of encouragement, yeah, just a little bit, not too much. Okay, so, lids, this has been amazing. I feel like, even though I know a teensy bit about astrology, I feel like I've know so much more. It's always a joy to see you, and you always bring so much love with you whenever you come around. And we've covered everything from purpose or now, which I think is much better definition of in love and living in love, and astrology, finance, we didn't talk about how you left finance, but that's okay, and how to trust ourselves more in this next phase, because I think that's really what it comes back to, is, how do you trust yourself? How do you actually understand you and what you actually want more? And taking the time to do that. So before we wrap up, I've got one last question for you, if I should try just one thing before I hit 50 something fun, bold and pushes me out of autopilot. What should it be?
• 1:09:21
  Lidia Raneri: Okay. Well, it's you're gonna get a linear answer. You're thinking like, whatever. It's not jump out of a plane DOM. It is so not that this is the one, and this is from my recent experience.
• 1:09:34
  Lidia Raneri: Become i a beginner at something, something that scares you, and maybe you're doing it.
• 1:09:44
  Lidia Raneri: Maybe it's this, maybe it's the podcast, right? And the reason I say it is because I've just done this, yeah, right. I have become a beginner again, and it's kind of why? Why am I saying this?
• 1:09:58
  Lidia Raneri: Because. If you give yourself the permission, the licence, and if you frame it in the right way in your mind, you can get that stagnance out of your life and moving again. Because when we, when we give ourselves the permission to become beginners again, on, you know, we, we we can suck at something for a little while, and it's okay, yeah, we get the joy and the satisfaction of learning again, and that's so stimulating, but we don't have with it the expectation of being a master at it yet, and it's okay to, like, not know what you're doing. We get into midlife and meant to have it all figured out, we're adults and and so I'm sort of saying, choose something. It doesn't matter whether it's learning to play an instrument, learning a language. You know, doesn't have to be a whole identity reinvention, like I've gone through, but just begin again at something and and you will connect to the joy of climbing a new mountain. And that's really cool. Yeah,
• 1:11:09
  Unknown: it is. And I do think, you know, this is definitely this podcast is definitely becoming a beginner, because I am learning so much. And you know, I always talk about the first pancake flip, the first pancakes, the first few are a bit like BA, but it's yeah, the joy. It's just fun talking to amazing people, yeah, hearing their stories and,
• 1:11:38
  Lidia Raneri: yeah, yeah. I love that. Yeah. Become the beginner.
• 1:11:41
  Lidia Raneri: Yeah, allow yourself, give yourself the permission to begin again. Yeah, and again. So anything that you have an interest in and don't have any expectation of being good at it, yeah, start. Yep,
• 1:11:57
  Unknown: yes. Whatever culture, what anyone says. You're just doing it for you. Yeah, go on the journey.
• 1:12:02
  Unknown: Okay?
• 1:12:05
  Unknown: Lids, thank you. Thank you.
• 1:12:05
  Unknown: Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
• 1:12:08
  Unknown: Incredible chat. Thank you for sharing always, your wisdom, your journey, and all the cosmic and practical ways that we can step into our purpose or being a month. And if you love this conversation, make sure you check out Lydia's website, which will all be in the show notes.
• 1:12:26
  Unknown: Whether you're curious about astrology, looking for deep coaching, or just want to make, start making choices that actually feel like you're living your true life. If you enjoyed this episode, hit, subscribe, share with a friend and connect on socials. And before you go, why not take Lydia's? Try this before your 50 challenge. What was it? Let's become a beginner.
• 1:12:50
  Unknown: Become a beginner. Come a beginner. Give it a go. See how you feel, and let me know.
• 1:12:59
  Unknown: Because fuck, we're nearly 50, and isn't it amazing? You.