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Women Interviewing Men · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question in for American mama's. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: have you seen the clip of a woman interviewing men
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  Speaker 1: for jobs the same way women are interviewed.
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  Speaker 2: Let's ask our American mama's Mamma mama, she said, And joining.
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  Speaker 1: Us now are American Mama's Terneedoville and Kimberly Berlason. So
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  Speaker 1: there was this online video of a woman asking men
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  Speaker 1: for a job application. The men were coming in for
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  Speaker 1: an interview, and she was interviewing them, and she was
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  Speaker 1: asking them questions that she said women get asked in interviews.
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  Speaker 1: And I thought maybe we'd play a little bit that
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  Speaker 1: you guys want to hear some of that. All right,
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  Speaker 1: here we go.
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  Speaker 3: Do you think that your looks helped you getting promoted
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  Speaker 3: or moving up to your current position?
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  Speaker 1: Looking so good?
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  Speaker 3: By the way, I do love the shoes. Are these
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  Speaker 3: designer are to your particular brand that you really like?
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  Speaker 3: Do your hormone sometimes get.
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  Speaker 2: In a way? I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I see that.
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  Speaker 1: It's a bit of an awkward question that.
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  Speaker 3: Do you sometimes wonder whether you've been chosen for this
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  Speaker 3: position because you're a man?
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  Speaker 1: No, not because I was a man?
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  Speaker 3: How do you handle in your job being assertive without
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  Speaker 3: being perceived as aggressive or bitchy.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so there's more of this, and eventually the guys
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  Speaker 1: catch on that they're being set up for this. What
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  Speaker 1: do you think of these questions? What do you think
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  Speaker 1: of this interview? And is it a fair critique?
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  Speaker 5: I thought it was an interesting interview to watch, and
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  Speaker 5: whenever I finished watching it, I went to the comments
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  Speaker 5: and I saw a lot of women on their commenting.
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  Speaker 5: I'm so glad that men finally know what we feel like.
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  Speaker 5: You know, very much victimhood like a lot of women do,
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  Speaker 5: which drives me crazy, and I feel like no one's
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  Speaker 5: being honest.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, we as women, we use to.
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  Speaker 5: Our advantage whatever we have, whether it's charisma, brains, looks,
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  Speaker 5: we use it. Just like a man will use the
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  Speaker 5: exact same thing that he has as far as his
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  Speaker 5: it's some talents, he'll use the same thing to us
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  Speaker 5: his advantage.
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  Speaker 1: That's absolutely true.
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  Speaker 5: I use pretend it's not something that we as women
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  Speaker 5: are doing. Is a joke.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I use my charisma, brains and looks all the time.
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  Speaker 5: I know you do every day.
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  Speaker 1: No, but shouldn't you. Shouldn't you do that regardless of
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  Speaker 1: what sex you are. Shouldn't you use whatever your best
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  Speaker 1: assets are to get further in your career, to uh
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  Speaker 1: improve your station, isn't isn't that what we're all trying
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  Speaker 1: to do one way or the other.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, And if you're offended because someone asks you those questions,
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  Speaker 4: then you're weak.
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  Speaker 2: To me.
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  Speaker 4: If you're offended, or if some question comes across and
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  Speaker 4: you're like, wow, that's kind of shovinistic. Use humor. Use humor.
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  Speaker 4: They like that, you know, that's part of the arsenal.
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  Speaker 4: That's partly what you can use. If they say something
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  Speaker 4: like do you what was the question? Do you think
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  Speaker 4: that your looks gotch you where you are? You know,
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  Speaker 4: if you are offended by that, say something funny like, well, gosh,
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  Speaker 4: if that's the case, then I'm feeling pretty good about myself,
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  Speaker 4: if I've gotten this far or whatever. Use humor in
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  Speaker 4: times of uncomfortableness or if they ask you something, because
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  Speaker 4: when you come across like you're so offended, that also
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  Speaker 4: says a lot to them, Like you're going to be
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  Speaker 4: working with a lot of people different sexes, then you
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  Speaker 4: need to learn how to navigate through those times that
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  Speaker 4: are uncomfortable and make it easier on other people. There's
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  Speaker 4: so many times that you use humor in life to
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  Speaker 4: help quell something that could build up into something that's
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  Speaker 4: more than it should be. So the other thing that
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  Speaker 4: was interesting is that they were asking European men this question.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I noticed that these were European men.
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  Speaker 4: And they are more of they're more lefties, and they're
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  Speaker 4: also softer in my mind, just my opinion, they're softer
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  Speaker 4: than American men. So they're going to be like, I
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  Speaker 4: will be very mindful of this, you know, when I
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  Speaker 4: want an American man. Like my husband last night was
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  Speaker 4: we were reading this and he said, this is a
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  Speaker 4: bunch of bees. Are you kidding me with this? Like
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  Speaker 4: ask whatever you want to ask if you're in an interview,
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  Speaker 4: and I'm you know, I've got a man. I've got
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  Speaker 4: an American man that's not going to say, gosh, is
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  Speaker 4: this really how y'all feel?
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  Speaker 5: Exactly?
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  Speaker 4: You know?
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  Speaker 5: You know what, men and when we're so different, we
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  Speaker 5: come at the world differently. That's why we work in relationships. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: that's why it works to have a woman's frame of
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  Speaker 5: mind because she comes at things completely different and a
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  Speaker 5: man comes at things completely different. And that's why it
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  Speaker 5: works together. So to me recognize that it is, Okay,
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  Speaker 5: this is what makes it beautiful being a man and
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  Speaker 5: being a woman. So recognize that and see where you
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  Speaker 5: can use it to your advantage in your work environment.
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  Speaker 1: And for some of this, I feel like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: people are like, oh, well, men have advantages and men
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  Speaker 1: have privileges and all that, and for me personally, that
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  Speaker 1: always falls flat. Because there were jobs that I was
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  Speaker 1: up for and I was the best candidate on paper,
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  Speaker 1: and yet the bosses at the company went, what do
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  Speaker 1: you mean man? And that's a direct quote actually from
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  Speaker 1: from a big TV station in Texas that I was
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  Speaker 1: up for, and they went, is the this is the
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  Speaker 1: guy we want? And they went, what do you mean, guy?
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  Speaker 1: And so they gave the job. A year later, the
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  Speaker 1: job went empty for a year, so they finally gave
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  Speaker 1: it to a woman. So, and I understand it was TV.
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  Speaker 1: They wanted a female in that role. Okay, fine, you
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  Speaker 1: get a female on that role, but don't tell me
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  Speaker 1: how privileged.
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  Speaker 4: Do you can tell when that started happening in the
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  Speaker 4: era of you know, the two thousands. You know, now
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  Speaker 4: they have Jitna Bush and hurt like, there's a lot
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  Speaker 4: of women who have come into those roles that men
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  Speaker 4: used to have. Ye, the morning shows is what I'm
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  Speaker 4: talking about, about news and things, and of course then
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  Speaker 4: the weather the weather men became weather women, and then
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  Speaker 4: the sideline sports reporters went from men to women. So
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  Speaker 4: you see a bunch of women on the sidelines of
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  Speaker 4: these sporting events. So you're right, there was a big
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  Speaker 4: shift during that era.
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  Speaker 1: If you like to ask our America Mama was a question,
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  Speaker 1: go to our website America Ready dot com, sash mamas
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  Speaker 1: and click. I'm the ask the Mama's button Terry Netical,
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Brothers and thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, thanks m