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Giving up your power · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Giving away your power, it's something we all do and we don't
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  even realize it, we do it quite frequently.
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  As a matter of fact, we do it nearly every day in one way or
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  another, we give away our power. Now, if I ask that question to
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  people, I say, do you think you give away your power?
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  The typical answer I get is no, no, I don't, I don't do that but
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  when you break down the minutiae of it and you realize what I
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  mean, when I say that, you're going to be quite shocked about
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  how much you do, give away your power.
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  One of the biggest ways we do this is Is by letting people
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  push our buttons and as my favorite mentor of all time, dr.
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  Wayne Dyer, apparently Ravens, favorite mentor to.
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  He used to say it's not their fault for pushing your buttons,
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  it's your fault for having the buttons they push, and it
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  couldn't be more true. If you allow people to get in
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  your head, if you allow people to, you know, take up residency
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  inside your head. Going to end up in a very
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  difficult situation because you're not in charge anymore,
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  they are in charge. So, you know, you all have heard
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  me say this many times when emotions go up, intelligence
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  goes down and that stands true. No matter what.
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  When we are out of control with our emotions here, we are
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  allowing other people to come into our head and have a grand
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  situation of getting in there and telling us how we're going
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  to feel and You know, if really if being happy is the most
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  important thing and we are focused on being happy and we
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  are focused on, you know, having our own level of Happiness, be
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  the way we want to Trend. We have to pay attention to
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  those emotions that we're having and residing in every day.
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  So while you don't think, you give away your power, every time
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  that you allow someone to upset you.
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  And every time you allow someone to tell you how you are supposed
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  to feel that is What happens you give up your power, you give up
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  what you were supposed to be able to control.
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  And we don't even realize we do it just happens.
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  So this this today is all about you recognizing, how many times
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  do you give up your power? How many times do you let?
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  Somebody else get in your head and tell you how you're supposed
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  to feel? And if you can track this, if
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  you can keep track of what's happening.
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  If you can look. And say, this is a place where
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  By fall down, this is a place where, in the words of Gandhi,
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  you know, he's to say, I refuse to allow anyone to walk through
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  my mind with their dirty feet. It when you figure out who those
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  people are with dirty feet, or in my analogy of the bus, you've
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  let the nuts on the bus. You've pulled the bus over,
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  you've, let people get on there, pushing your buttons and you
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  lose your cool, your ability to organize, your thoughts, goes
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  out the window, your ability to control your emotions, goes out
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  the window and and And we're screwed in that moment and then
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  all our powers gone because we don't have the power of choice.
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  We have that power of reactivity going on and nothing is more
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  important than keeping your power of choice and staying
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  cool. Now, as human beings, this is
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  probably one of the greatest challenges we have, we have to
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  constantly constantly constantly work on this being able to pull
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  our emotions back. We have to really sit there and
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  say, how do I feel about this? We have to really stop ourselves
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  from going down the rabbit hole so to speak and we're just not
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  great at it. Let's face it, we're just not
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  great at it. This is like going into the gym.
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  It is mental Fitness. It is something you have to do
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  every day. Every moment throughout your day
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  and you just have to accept it. I have a lot of clients that
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  will say to me, I'm so frustrated.
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  I've been working on this for such a long time and It keeps
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  coming back. Well, I want to congratulate
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  you, that means you're alive and that means you have blood
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  pumping through your veins. Your heart is beating your
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  breathing, you're alive because that's what being human is all
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  about. This is not about a destination
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  of getting there and then having it fixed, this is about a
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  journey of saying. This is what being alive is, you
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  have to manage and pay attention to the direction that you are
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  allowing your emotions to go regularly.
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  And once you nail that one, You say, I accept that that's the
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  case, then it becomes a lot easier.
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  You stop getting wasting time, getting mad at yourself for
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  losing it and then you regain it quicker because really the game
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  is about saying I can regain myself quickly.
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  It's not about saying I'll never lose it.
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  It's about how quickly you were gain it.
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  It's about how quickly, you know that the off that's a button
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  Pusher. Ah, I know that there are
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  certain things in my world that push my buttons and I can tell
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  you as much as much as Worked on them.
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  Over the years, they are still things that push my buttons.
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  Listen, I grew up, I'm an only child.
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  I don't handle teasing. Well, and I'll be the first one
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  to admit. I don't like it because I didn't
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  grow up with it. I didn't, I didn't have brothers
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  and sisters, that did it. So, if my husband gets teasing
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  with me, and he grew up with a brother and he is that person,
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  he thinks it's okay. And it's fine and maybe it is,
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  but it doesn't mean, it doesn't push my buttons.
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  It doesn't mean it doesn't make me feel bad sometimes, and as
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  much as I work on it, it's still something that That I have to
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  work on. I've accepted that about myself,
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  I've accepted it and I've recognized that I don't have to
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  have a perfect track record with it.
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  I can just be like, okay, I lost it.
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  I can regain it. I can be in control about it
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  again. I don't have to stay in a place
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  where somebody else is pushing my emotions in a direction.
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  Does that make sense to everybody?
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  So don't be mad at yourself for it.
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  Be happy for it because if you, if you feel that and you
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  recognize it, then, guess what you caught it, and With this
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  game is all about catching yourself as quickly as you
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  possibly can. Instead of driving the bus off
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  the road off the Ravine down into the water and drowning you
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  say wait, wait, wait, I hear the clunk clunk, clunk clunk, clunk,
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  clunk clunk of the driving off the road grids on the side?
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  You know, and then you go up, let me drive back on the road
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  and you catch yourself quickly. That's what this is about.
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  Not going into the ravine. You're going to go off the road,
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  just don't go so far. So, hopefully, this is helpful
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  today. Hopefully, you don't give up
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  your power too much today, hopefully you control who you
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  let on your bus, hopefully, you stop.
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  And say, you know what? I'm just going to drive the bus
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  right by this crew because I don't want anything to do with
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  this mess. That's I'm being presented with
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  and you move forward. And I hope you guys have an
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  incredibly blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.