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Discover Your True Self Through Silence and Reflection! · The Eugene Hamilton Podcast

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[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, grow squad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to another episode of the Eugene Hamilton podcast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hope you don't well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hope that this week is treating you well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hope that life is going as well as it can be.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And listen, if it's not at this point going as well as you would like hanging there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: One thing I've discovered along the way is that consistency, I think I heard one influencer say this, consistency is the only cheat code.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We've always looking for shortcuts or a shorter route or shorter way to get to our desired goal, but just stay consistent.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right wherever you are and I promise you as you move forward things will eventually get better.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's pray and let's get into it today real quick.
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[SPEAKER_00]: God, we thank you for this day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for my friends or tuned in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you just for all that you do to let us know that we're loved.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We appreciate it and that you protect us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Bless us now as we have this conversation today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I pray that you would lead us and guide us open our hearts and minds a man today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to kind of extend on what I talked about last week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I say extend because I had a lot of questions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: People were emailing me or sending me direct messages along the lines of how do I really truly reset?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I believe people walked away after listening to last week's episode, believing that resetting during the midpoint of the year means going harder.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And for those that are not familiar with that kind of terminology or that language or that vein of information, we understand sometimes that when we go harder,
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[SPEAKER_00]: That means we lose more sleep.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That means we find ourselves, I don't know, staying up longer or doing more double the work that we've been doing before.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that doesn't always serve everybody well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Certainly there are seasons when we have to do more work than we did before.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Certainly there are times when we've got to just double down and try to do what we can to reach certain deadlines and goals and I get it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But part of our reset process today, we're going to talk a little bit about discovering your true self through the reset process.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because sometimes resetting does not mean going hard.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes reset means for you and or for me at times, pressing the pause button.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I recently don't laugh at me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I recently started taking golf lessons.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And there are several things that are apparently, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Challenging for me, one being mobility.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And when I talk about, you got to run or you got to lift heavy weights during the game of golf.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you have to use your entire body to get your swing right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: One of the things that happened for me, I spent a lot of time in the golf simulator and people were laughing to me, oh man, you haven't played golf yet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're in a little cubicle hitting a ball against the wall.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's not a real game of golf.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I took it upon myself to find one of my good buddies who I knew would not be judgmental.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You got to have those kind of people in your life sometimes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I found somebody who I knew would not judge me and I said, bro, let's go play golf.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He said nine holes, eighteen holes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I said the holes are bang.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's do eighteen holes, brother.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, of course, I'm biting off more than I could chew, because once again, my only reference with golf at that point was the golf simulator and top golf, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So just fun hitting the balls, playing a little games.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, my wife invited me, she went on a work outing, and they played a game called Angry Bird with top golf.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I gotta do it in a minute.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But anyway, that's not why I'm here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I went out in the field or in the field.
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[SPEAKER_00]: On the course,
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we're hitting the balls, or we're teeing off, I should say.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And after we finished, both of us hit the ball, I said, oh, let's go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He said, oh, no.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Before you hit at the next hole, you got to make sure the people ahead of you are out of the way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In other words, we're not the only ones on this golf course.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So as much as you eager to get to hold number two, brother, take a deep breath.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Slow down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a man who's got to hold number two, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Get rid of T-Off.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He said, hold on, don't you see?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a man who's not paying attention to them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He said, well, you need to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And as we began to take our time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and kind of let the game come to us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now keep in mind, this is out of my league, it's out of my normal routine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not used to spending three, four hours out hitting a ball on the golf course.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm used to my forty five minute sessions, fifty minute sessions with the coach, and I'm out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I'm out there and I'm hearing the burrs chirping.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I'm out there and I see people take us out, but I don't hear people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're out there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a lake to my left.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The beautiful trees.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I guess I'm saying they're right down the fairway.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Excuse me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Excuse me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Excuse me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Excuse me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm saying to myself, wow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This
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[SPEAKER_00]: Game of golf, and I'm not sure how far I'll take it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not sure if I'll get real serious about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not sure that I'll be a one that that that starts paying attention to my handy cap and all these numbers just stuff for still it's like speaking another language for me at this point.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know that stuff is right now But what I do know that as I was on that course Having to take my time
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[SPEAKER_00]: having to do what I am constantly telling my four-year-old to do half patients.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I said to myself, wow, this is an awesome reset in the middle of the week because I've been going, burning the candle on both ends, trying to make stuff happen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's not happening for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes when things aren't happening for you, the way you think they should happen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes when the work you put, you're putting in, you're saying, wow, I'm not getting out what I've been putting in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes doing more work is not the answer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes like the game of golf, you got to be patient.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You got to slow down and enjoy the ride and enjoy the scenery.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and joy that which is around you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Enjoy sometimes seeing people but not hearing people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes a reset requires solitude, stillness and peace.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When was the last time you appreciated peace?
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[SPEAKER_00]: As I mentioned all the time, if you are regular listener to the Eugene Hamilton podcast, in fact, if you have not subscribed, if you have not really engaged in community with us, go ahead and hit that subscribe button, please.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, let us know who you are that you're long for the journey as we go as we grow and as we glow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But along the way, you discover this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm oftentimes calling other people to reset and enjoy peace.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And there are days, right now we are, we are, my son's in school steel, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, he'll be in school for a while.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But we've, because we've gotten some cases of sickness from other kids and we're hearing about this and that, we've up to this dose of vitamin C, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So one of the things that my wife, the other day she was giving him a little peel of vitamin C, she says, you should take some too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And this you said, you know what, I should take some too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In other words, we should take, excuse me, I had a little cold.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We should take some of our own medicine sometimes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're telling our son to take this, we're giving our son what's good for him, but have we sometimes discovered that what's good for him?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's also good for us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: See, if you're a leader, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're someone who's in charge, if you're someone that's leading other people, sometimes you all, you find yourself looking out for their well-being, but you don't look out for yourself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're a parent, if you're a leader of a household, you're always looking out for the best interest of those that are under your influence.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I want to challenge you today during your reset mid-year,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever considered the reality that what's good for them?
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's also good for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever considered that the advice that you're giving them?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is advice that is good for your own soul?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So here's what I've discovered.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because oftentimes we find ourselves being great at vice-givers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But many times, people who are great advice givers are horrible advice takers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We've seen people who are, who are out of shape, who have the greatest advice on how people can get in shape.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I said to myself, wow, you got some grand ideas.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Again, I say it to myself, not to them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And often in process, I said, man, you got some grand ideas.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I don't see you taking your own advice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What's something's pressing here?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not saying that you're not qualified to give advice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you feel, lay it to give me that kind of advice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll give others advice that you're not taking.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's cool.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you might do yourself a great deal of service if you take your own advice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever seen people give relationship advice?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But they have difficulty applying it to their own relationships.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And here's the funny part.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Here's the funny part.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you'll agree with me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, if you're on YouTube, watching this in the chat, let me know if this has ever been your experience of you agree with what I'm saying.
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[SPEAKER_00]: People I've seen people give great relationship advice in every single one of their relationships they've sabotaged.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They have great counsel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They've they've learned things to me out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is funny part.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They've learned things from their relationships that they haven't applied.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But they're great at giving it away to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The same thing happens with peace.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The same thing happens with reset.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The same thing happens when you get to the middle of the year and you're one and a throw on the towel, but but hit me out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It ain't it's not time to throw in the towel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's time for reset.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes that reset includes taking time each week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: to enjoy some peace.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Three ways you can do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I want to encourage you to take full advantage of the opportunity to walk this thing out with a great deal of seriousness.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want you, I'm inviting you, I encourage you to take time every single day just to simply meditate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Close your eyes with no agenda, reflect, be grateful, just meditate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: meditate on your peace, meditate on what is going to take for you to really enjoy this moment of peace.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's sometimes when I feel brave enough, I get into the infrared sauna and man, there was some of those moments of quiet, sweat pouring down my face, I'll close my eyes and I'll just sometimes, there's nothing on my mind.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I will absolutely positively, purposefully, or on purpose, I should say, think about nothing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was funny because if you're watching this in real time, if you're not on the replay, that's cool.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But my son has been listening to this soundtrack from Daniel Tiger, something like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you know, but he always finds something unique.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Daniel Tiger.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and he has this one song, Daniel Tiger does, about when he gets mad, he counts the four, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So he takes a deep breath, and he, excuse me, and he begins to count.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the other day, I'm sorry, today this morning, my son was trying to put, he had this little toy, and he was trying to press the button, and the toy has this little latch where he shoots the ball, through this little hole, and he kept missing it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And he kept saying to me, Daddy, it's okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll try it again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I could tell, even though he was saying that, he was actually getting frustrated, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been saying anything, though.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm saying, okay, go ahead, try again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He pressed the button, he'd miss, and he would repeat the same thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That is, okay, I'll try again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: By the fifth or sixth time, I know that he's, he's fed up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, tool himself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's just, he closes his eyes, he stands up, and he starts breathing in, and he starts breathing out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, where are you getting this from?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Look at my wife.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And she just smiles.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's like, I got it from that song.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Breathing in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He said, Daddy, can you do it with me?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So he lifts his hands up and he says, one, two, three, four.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, he exhales and he tries to ball again and he made it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Wow, interesting what a child can teach adults who always running, who always in a rush, who always mad at ourselves, who don't take the time to process what we're doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: to take a deep breath as Daniel Tiger say, isn't right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Count to four and try again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes meditating.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He is us a fresh start.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking about you, you, you, you, you're upset about whatever a business deal upset about a relationship upset about some kind of interaction upset about something that works, something you can't control upset about family challenges, whatever it is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, to get that peace back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, check this out because there's this saying, and I'm paraphrasing because I don't remember exactly what it talks about, what it would it say, let's just say.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But the gist of it is, when you've got God in your life, you've got peace and peace is not the absence of problems, but peace is accepting that God is with you through your problems.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll say it again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Peace is not the absence of problems.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So just because I'm inviting peace in, just because I'm tapping into my peace doesn't mean that my problems will disappear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean that my relationships with all of a sudden overnight they are healed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Doesn't mean that I have wounds that will all of a sudden go away because I'm inviting peace in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, peace is saying, you know what?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Through the storm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not gonna get rattled.
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[SPEAKER_00]: through this season where things are rough at work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to lose my way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Through this season, this season, during this season with things, maybe aren't right in your relationships or you have in parenting challenges or issues with a neighbor, issues with your landlord, issues, issues, issues, whatever the case might be, inviting peace in does not mean that these challenges will all of a sudden go poof evaporate and disappear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, whoo, almost this?
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[SPEAKER_00]: As we're inviting peace in, our problems or our challenges are sometimes magnified.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's not a bad thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because sometimes when we don't have the piece that we need, we can't see the full picture of what we're up against.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But sometimes when we take a deep breath and stand back, I was about to say that dang it's how you're encountering the four.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But when we take a deep breath and really size up what's in our way or what we are challenged with, that gives us the opportunity to do step two.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that is to learn how to journal and figure out a path as to how we're going to climb that mountain.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's sometimes when we're inviting peace in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's an opportunity for us to step back and get a complete picture of what's in front of us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that after we meditate, I should say, the second step to inviting peace in to your life and resetting is learning how to write down your thoughts journal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Get whatever is inside, get it outside.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes your journaling can create a pathway for you in terms of steps as to how I'm going to navigate what I'm up against.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then lastly, I'm going to advise you to do this if you really, really want to invite peace into your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to invite you, encourage you, to get away from the noise sometimes of your neighborhood, of your house, of your job, and go out of nature.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, it's funny because there are large cities that some of us live in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I live in the L.A.
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[SPEAKER_00]: metro area.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's interesting how sometimes people think, oh, I got to drive an hour and a half out of the city to find nature or to find some kind of trail.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But don't you know, I've been right in my city.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I stumbled upon an area that has a running creek or an area that has trees and a little hill.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, man, I can enjoy nature right here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's far enough away from the hustle and bustle.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to get him on the hard and fight traffic and drive.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can enjoy it wherever it is for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes dipping back and watching how the squirrels navigate challenges.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, stepping back and watching even how ants who are trying to pick up a big piece of bread.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I watched this myself there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My son is fascinated by nature, so of course being an older parent.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'mma say, I'm old, I'm saying, just the age difference between myself and my son is pretty vast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so sometimes I've got to sit down and take some lessons from him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: another day he jumped out the car and he was so just like daddy there's a black ant this one is not one that could hurt you is not ready he began to talk about all this stuff that he learned um i don't know through some kind of educational programming or from his teacher um he said watch it daddy
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm watching this ant try to carry a piece of bread and it's too big.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I watched how another ant showed up and they kind of carried it together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I've said to myself, wow, we can learn a lot from nature.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In other words, some stuff that you are trying to carry right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The reason why it's difficult for you to have the peace that you need because you're trying to carry it by yourself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're trying to carry it without help.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There are human beings that God put in your path sometimes to help you carry stuff.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And there are other times where just you and God can carry it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Ask for discernment so that you know the difference between the two.
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[SPEAKER_00]: that you can govern yourself accordingly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I hope that as you've listened to this episode
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[SPEAKER_00]: that you've taken away some nuggets that will help you get the reset and the peace that you need to go after your goals with the renewed kind of energy, renewed kind of mindset, and renewed effort that is refreshed, that is refueled, and that is rid of the tackle the second half.
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[SPEAKER_00]: of this year.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sinners episode of somebody who is struggling, somebody who may get used a little pepper in their steps, somebody who may need some peace in their life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know that it's difficult sometimes to communicate with people but sometimes they'll hear another voice and they'll get what they need to move forward.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, help somebody else go growing low and I'll see you next time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Until then, take care.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Peace.