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You Are Strong – Overcome Depression and Take Control of Your Life · Motivational Podcast

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  Speaker 1: I've been there a lot in my life, especially before
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  Speaker 1: my car accident my teenage years. Then the first woman
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  Speaker 1: I ever loved we had a big breakup, and that
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  Speaker 1: breakup sent me down in depression and suicidal planning. And
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  Speaker 1: it's tough to dispense advice to people other than get help.
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  Speaker 1: And I'll share why because that time in my life,
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  Speaker 1: I had so many people coming up to me. You know,
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  Speaker 1: my friends would come into my dorm room, but I think,
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  Speaker 1: let's go do something, and you just there's just the
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  Speaker 1: hope is lost. And what people, I think makes the
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  Speaker 1: mistake of trying to do is hype people up. Everything's
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  Speaker 1: gonna be okay, You're gonna be great. The most important
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  Speaker 1: thing is when you are super down, outside of finding
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  Speaker 1: that emotional reasoning for where you are, is to start
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  Speaker 1: getting momentum, because with momentum comes hope. With momentum comes motivation.
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  Speaker 1: With momentum comes you know, that feeling that there's a
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  Speaker 1: reason for tomorrow. And so it's as simple as just saying, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: what are three things I'm gonna do today?
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  Speaker 2: Dude.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes that first goal is I'm gonna shower today. I'm
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  Speaker 1: really in an shower today. I'm gonna walk to the
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  Speaker 1: library and I'm gonna come home, and that's all they got,
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  Speaker 1: Like literally, that's all they got. And you gotta honor
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  Speaker 1: that struggle when you're in that place, like know that
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  Speaker 1: where you're at it is okay that you're there, and
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  Speaker 1: now you're gonna need help, and now you're gonna have
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  Speaker 1: to set up some daily practices. Just every day win
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  Speaker 1: a little bit, not like when your dreams, not like
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  Speaker 1: crush through goals, not like be badass, not like no
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  Speaker 1: just momentum man gloomy and bad dark days. Trust that
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  Speaker 1: those are going to be there. They'll get less and
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  Speaker 1: less and less as you learn how to cope, but
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  Speaker 1: they're going to be there. And so when they're there,
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  Speaker 1: it's one of them. I mean, outside of teaching people
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  Speaker 1: to bring the joy in my life, I teach people
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  Speaker 1: to honor the struggle, honor the difficulty. When we honor
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  Speaker 1: the struggle instead of hate the struggle, we can really
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  Speaker 1: achieve extraordinary things because our mindset's in the right place.
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  Speaker 3: In your hands, this very moment is your journey, the
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  Speaker 3: journey that allows you to be someone fueled by your potential,
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  Speaker 3: take the risk that allow you to become something more,
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  Speaker 3: that allow you to change your view on life, that
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  Speaker 3: allow you to look through a different pair of eyes,
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  Speaker 3: one that grants you the power to see something and
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  Speaker 3: to know how to change it. To look at life
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  Speaker 3: an opportunity, an opportunity to feel like somebody knew, someone
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  Speaker 3: with the potential that can keep moving forward. Set yourself
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  Speaker 3: your own rules, like why play by someone else's rules
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  Speaker 3: when you can set rules that help you become the
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  Speaker 3: best version of yourself, rules that don't hold you back,
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  Speaker 3: but rules.
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  Speaker 2: That pull you forward.
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  Speaker 3: Be grateful for the position you're in, and be grateful
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  Speaker 3: for the chance to give it one more go. This
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  Speaker 3: opportunity could be wasted, but being here gives you the
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  Speaker 3: drive to put in the effort for your future.
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  Speaker 4: She's so many people stuck in the same routine and
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  Speaker 4: they hate it. They hate it. They're not happy in
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  Speaker 4: their life, They're not happy with their with their whatever
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  Speaker 4: they're doing. You know, and and and and and and
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  Speaker 4: and if you want to advise from me, if that's
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  Speaker 4: your lie right now, go find something else. Just just
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  Speaker 4: just try try something else out. You know, if you're
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  Speaker 4: miserable in your life, and and I've actually been miserable people.
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  Speaker 4: People can be miserable even though they have everything. You know,
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  Speaker 4: you see super successful people in life and you think
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  Speaker 4: there's no way they are miserable. But but that's that's
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  Speaker 4: not the case. You know, even though you are yourself,
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  Speaker 4: something you're doing well, you can still have about this.
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  Speaker 4: I have gone through some very difficult times to monswer
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  Speaker 4: with you, and lately in the last two or three years,
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  Speaker 4: I've been going through some very hard times, some very
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  Speaker 4: very hard times, and I haven't been very open about that. Yeah. Uh,
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  Speaker 4: it's been very tough for me. I had to deal
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  Speaker 4: with some some some difficult things that I couldn't control,
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  Speaker 4: and that's life. Like I'm human like everyone else. I
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  Speaker 4: have feelings, I go through heartships like everyone else. And
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  Speaker 4: sometimes you were put into difficult positions and that's life.
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  Speaker 4: It's very unfair.
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  Speaker 5: I think the more things are talked about, more comfortable
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  Speaker 5: we are, and the more we can understand them. Uh.
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  Speaker 5: When I woke up one morning and saw that in
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  Speaker 5: a tweet that Prince Harry came out talking about his depression,
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  Speaker 5: it made me really happy because I've been places and
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  Speaker 5: someone has said, well, you lost an arm and the legs,
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  Speaker 5: so you had a right to be depressed, and I stopped.
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  Speaker 5: I was like, depression is real. You don't you don't
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  Speaker 5: have to go through something traumatic. Some are caused by,
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  Speaker 5: you know, something traumatic. Some can be a chemical balance
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  Speaker 5: in the brain. And I feel like if you had
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  Speaker 5: heart problems and so a cardiologists will everyone would be
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  Speaker 5: concerned about you would know you're doing better, and it
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  Speaker 5: would be open and honest with the crew, anybody you
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  Speaker 5: work with. Yeah, but the most complicated organ in your body,
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  Speaker 5: if you have a problem with it, suddenly there's a
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  Speaker 5: we don't want to talk about that. No, And you
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  Speaker 5: can get over it. And that's what people need to realize.
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  Speaker 5: You can be cured, you can get past it.
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  Speaker 6: Today is your day to tell your story, to speak
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  Speaker 6: your mind, to tell the truth about your future, to
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  Speaker 6: speak about the power you've always had, the potential you've
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  Speaker 6: always had. This is how you succeed. You will be
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  Speaker 6: your power. You have this power.
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  Speaker 2: Communicate your problems, communicate the power you know that you have.
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  Speaker 2: This is the beginning of your power, the start of
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  Speaker 2: your progress. Take every day as an opportunity to be
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  Speaker 2: better every day, to have the power to try something new,
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  Speaker 2: to become something new. This is where your progress can
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  Speaker 2: be kick started, accelerate your life into your direction. Now
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  Speaker 2: is it the time to wait? Now is it the
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  Speaker 2: time to waste. Let this be the power that takes
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  Speaker 2: you towards your success. This is the opportunity you've earned,
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  Speaker 2: This is the potential you've always had. Step out of
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  Speaker 2: the crowd and step into your success.
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  Speaker 7: I would lay in my bed and just want to die.
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  Speaker 7: I just I didn't want to exist. I wanted an
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  Speaker 7: anesthesiologist to come and give me a shot. It's like
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  Speaker 7: my soul would just And at the time, I was
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  Speaker 7: in a bleed system where there was an afterlife was impossible.
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  Speaker 7: You couldn't get you couldn't be gone. You were around
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  Speaker 7: forever no matter what you did. And in fact, if
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  Speaker 7: you took your life, you would You're not behaving in
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  Speaker 7: a way that this belief system could, you know, rewards.
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  Speaker 7: And so I was trapped in existence and it was
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  Speaker 7: the worst feeling the entire works.
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  Speaker 6: I had no out.
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  Speaker 7: But not only that, I had kids, so I had it,
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  Speaker 7: you know, like I felt responsible for being a father,
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  Speaker 7: and so I was building brain tree, and you know,
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  Speaker 7: I had challenges at home with my significant other, and
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  Speaker 7: I had kids who are sleeping. I was myself at
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  Speaker 7: twenty four to seven having companies break and like all
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  Speaker 7: the pressure and it just drove me into the ground
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  Speaker 7: to a point I just I was just delirious. I
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  Speaker 7: mean I was, I was broke. I climbed in Mount
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  Speaker 7: Kilmajaro at the tail end of the situation and I
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  Speaker 7: got sick. I got the stomach virus and like three
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  Speaker 7: or four days in I had the virus for a
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  Speaker 7: couple of days plus I was out. I was sick
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  Speaker 7: with altitude sickness, and I just felt terrible, like the
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  Speaker 7: worst I've ever felt. And we got to base camp
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  Speaker 7: and they were fifteen thousand something and I had to
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  Speaker 7: make a decison where I was going to climb to
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  Speaker 7: the top the next morning, and I thought, still, I'm
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  Speaker 7: not going to back down from this, and so I
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  Speaker 7: did it, and that four hours the summit changed my life,
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  Speaker 7: where the mountain became my problem and it became a
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  Speaker 7: representation of my life. And I started listening to Eminem,
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  Speaker 7: my favorite artist, and his defiance against the problems.
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  Speaker 8: Anyways, I I mante to the top and I just
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  Speaker 8: broke down and cried, and it was like it was
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  Speaker 8: the mountain was my depression. It was my marriage, it
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  Speaker 8: was my belief system.
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  Speaker 7: And I went home and I was changed. I sold,
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  Speaker 7: I sold my company. Shortly after Braintree, I got a divorce,
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  Speaker 7: I left my religion and I was back at my
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  Speaker 7: twenty one year old age, and I said, why am
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  Speaker 7: I like what? How do I rewrite myself from scratch?
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  Speaker 7: Or do I care about what matters, what exists, what's true,
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  Speaker 7: what's not true all