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Tending to What God Gave Us ... · Overwhelmed to Overcomer

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What is up, friends?
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Okay, so we are going to talk today about just a little bit of a deeper dive.
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We talked about self -care last week, and now we're going to dive a little deeper
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and we're going to say, okay, like, how can this look?
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How can we practically, what are some things that we can do that are really
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simple to tend to what God has given us?
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And I'm going to again bring it back to, there was a period, a long period of time.
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Oh, no, no, no.
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We're going to pray first.
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We are.
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Lord, thank you so much that you are God and I pray for each one of my sisters
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that's listening today that you would minister deeply to her mind and her body
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and her soul, that she would feel you tending her and that she would fall even
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more deeply in love with you today.
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Please guide my tongue as I speak, let my words be uplifting and edifying, and let
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us go out from this time, from this conversation together, knowing and loving
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you better and being better able to serve our people.
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In your holy name, amen.
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Okay, so I like to say I'm a collector of wisdom.
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There is not a lot necessarily that I've really come up with on my own.
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The Lord has certainly given me things over the years, but there is so, so much y
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'all, so much that I have found that has just enriched my life deeply.
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And there was a long period of time where I was kind of living just in spirit world.
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And I alluded to this a little bit last week, just in spirit world, but much less
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in this idea of the physical and the tangible.
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So here is my story.
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I grew up in a non -Christian home.
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I had been saved since I was 11.
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But I didn't really have quality, healthy mentorship.
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So I hit my 20s and was really struggling.
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I had been walking with the Lord closely for years.
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I loved him.
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I devoted my life to him, but I was very much, I was messy.
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I had really challenging interpersonal relationships.
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I made bad choices.
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I didn't know how to clean up messes.
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I didn't know how to reconcile when things were hard with people.
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I tended to just kind of cut and run.
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And I really was, I was very aware of my sin.
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I was very aware of my shortcomings.
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I remember a friend of mine in law school being like, every time we talk, you're
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like really struggling.
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Like what's going on?
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You're never just okay.
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And I remember looking at him.
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I was friends with both he and his wife.
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And I remember looking at him and being really confused, like, are you actually
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just okay?
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Are you okay in your life?
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Because I'm not okay.
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I've never been okay.
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Over the years, and especially over the past decade, more and more, the Lord has
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healed my body as a way to heal my mind.
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It turns out, and if you don't know this, so I'm more of a crunchy girl.
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I bend a little bit more that way.
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The alignment between our body and soul is quite powerful.
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When our gut health is out of order, our mental health will be affected.
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When we're dehydrated, when we're sleep deprived, when we're living in a constant
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state of stress and fight or flight.
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And for me, I had some trauma from my...
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parents divorce and my dad's illness and paralysis, which I talked about in a prior
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episode, during my really formative years, I was kind of 10 to 12 years old, there
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were these 10 to 13, there were these huge changes going on in the stability of my
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life.
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This idea that no matter what, here's what your family looks like, when you lose that
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as a child, it hits hard.
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And that change...
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especially the age that I was when it all took place, really wrecked me and left me
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just limping along, desperately in need of healing and not even having a context for
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that.
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This is something that we've really reclaimed in this generation of parenting,
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this idea of looking back and healing what was before.
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But it wasn't something that as a child of the 80s and 90s was really part of the
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dialogue for parents at that time.
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And so lo and behold, what I had thought was my own sin and damage was that in
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part, but it was also needing to engage with the idea of permission to rest, drink
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water, move your body, get quality supplements.
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So I'm just, this is your sampler platter of many, not everything.
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but many of the things that the Lord has used to shore me up over the years,
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because lo and behold, when our bodies are better tended, our minds and our souls are
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better tended as well.
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My website is almost done.
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It might even be finished by the time you listen to this podcast, in which case
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it'll be in the show notes.
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And I literally have a whole section on mind, body, and soul care where I have a
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shortened version of this list of just like, boom, here it is.
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Here are all the things that, or here are some of the things that I love that have
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served well, because listen,
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if you are going to homeschool your children, if you're going to be on the
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front lines of educating your children, if you are going to run a business as a means
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of bringing in financial provision for your family.
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I talked last week about self care.
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It's not optional.
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It is not optional.
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You must maintain the engine of the car.
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If we are the car, right?
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You must maintain the engine of the car.
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You must tend to the vehicle for you to be able to live out your purpose well.
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Okay?
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And when we choose not to tend to the vehicle and we choose not, and this is not
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about like, we can get so fixed on results.
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Like I want to lose weight.
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I want to sleep better.
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I want to have more peace in my life.
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And we can get really frustrated when we don't start seeing the results that we
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want.
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But what I want to come into you guys is the idea that when you take action in the
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direction that you want to end up,
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the results will follow.
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And so maybe we need to be less concerned with whether it takes a year or three
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years or five years and be far more concerned with our trajectory.
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Because when our trajectory is oriented towards tending to ourselves, to our
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spirits, to our hearts, then the results will follow.
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And it may not be in the timeline we want.
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It may not look exactly the way that we want it to.
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Listen, this world is fallen.
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It's imperfect.
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But we first need to decide, okay, it's worth it.
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And we can feel really uncomfortable saying, well, I'm worth it.
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Okay, listen, if that feels uncomfortable, put a little asterisk and say, I'm worth
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it because he deems me worthy.
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Okay?
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It's not because you're better than anybody else.
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It's not because you're not broken and sinful, but he has imp...
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Oh gosh, there's this great quote that my dad grabbed hold of right before he got...
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cancer when I was about 13.
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He was starting to engage more deeply in the things of God and he ended up coming
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to faith through his ordeal with cancer.
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And this quote became a lifeline for me while he was sick.
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Let's see if I can catch it all.
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I have great worth apart from my performance for Christ gave his life for
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me and therefore imparted deep value to me.
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I am deeply loved, fully pleasing,
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totally accepted and forgiven in Christ.
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I think I caught it all pretty close.
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Okay, so he has imparted great value to you, okay?
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And therefore, it is right to tend what he has given you, okay?
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And the beautiful thing is, first of all, when we tend what he has given to us, we
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are coming from a place of fullness when we serve.
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I don't know if you've ever been around anybody or maybe you've been this person I
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certainly have at times where you're kind of giving, but you've got this little chip
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on your shoulder.
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I remember I would make dinner for our family when we were really, really new
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with all the little kids.
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And I was trying to be more natural.
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So like things just did not taste great because I was still learning.
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So it was like, oh, we're not going to use any sugar.
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It's just maple syrup.
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Maybe, maybe maple syrup and not much of it either.
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And then, you know, black bean brownies and all that thing.
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I'd listen, I'm sure they're, I'm sure you can make them in a way that tastes really
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delicious, but I was not, I was just learning.
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So it was a mess.
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And my husband would look at me with this.
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I'd be like, how do you like it?
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And he'd look at me with this funny expression and the line, which has become
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an inside joke ever since was it's not you, it's the ingredients.
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And I would be so furious because I was like, what do you mean you don't like it?
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I worked so hard on this, right?
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Because my worth was tied up in his response.
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The kids wouldn't eat it.
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I would be so mad.
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They would start eating before I sat down.
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Rather than training my children, I just fussed because bad fruit was coming out
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because of my wayward heart, because of my bad heart in that context.
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And so...
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We've all been around people like that.
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Sometimes we've been people like that.
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It's a sign that we're coming from deficit instead of fullness.
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When we can really rest and I did my best.
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And by the way, no, you don't have to be rude about it.
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But like I did my best.
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I was called to feed you.
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I fed the people.
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I've done what I can do.
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I'm actually giving you something that's better for you than you would have gotten
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otherwise.
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And then we can rest in that.
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Then all of a sudden the complaints don't bother us, right?
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Okay.
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So we're going to, we're going to be filled.
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The other thing is we're teaching our people how to tend to themselves.
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I mentioned in last week's episode that one of the studies that, or one of the
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findings that Brene Brown found in her data, so she's actually looking at
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quantitative data, what comes out in the stories that people are telling, is that
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we are unable to give what we have not been willing to receive ourselves, okay?
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So if we are always beating ourselves up for any mistakes, our children will catch
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that.
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even if we speak a message of grace, if we speak a message of grace but we are not
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willing to offer it to ourselves, we are acting as hypocrites in that area and our
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children will catch what is true.
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Okay?
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So I'm going to underline that a little bit.
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Okay?
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Let me just say this one more time.
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When we are saying one thing and we are not
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practicing it ourselves.
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When we are speaking to our children grace, but when push comes to shove and
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everything hits the fan, we are not willing to extend grace to ourselves.
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Our children will identify the hypocrisy and they will grab hold of what is true.
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Now I'm not talking big T true.
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I'm talking true of our own actions.
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They will read between the lines.
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They will see, okay, they say grace, but what they really mean is grace until you
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mess up.
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and then it's condemnation.
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And that, my friends, is what our children will exhibit.
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Okay?
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So that's why tending to ourselves is so important.
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Okay?
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So it's going to keep us from like having that chip on our shoulder, having the yuck
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come out.
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It's going to allow us to equip our children to walk in grace and mercy.
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And it's actually going to increase our effectiveness because when we are truly
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operating from a place of fullness instead of deficit, man, there's no stopping us.
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There is no stopping us, okay?
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The impact is powerful.
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Keep in mind, we've talked in here before, our impact is both deep and wide.
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So it may be that you're in a season where most of what you are doing is deep, sowing
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into the lives of your children, ministering to them, educating them,
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tending to your marriage, rebuilding crumbling foundations.
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That is key critical kingdom work.
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Do not disparage it just because it's to a small number.
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That's the way the world counts things.
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How many followers do you have?
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How many likes did it get?
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How many people were at that conference that you spoke at?
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Whatever it might be, that's the world's economy.
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God's economy says, what are you giving that I have given to you?
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He does not differentiate between the two talent servant and the five talent
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servant.
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They both get the same blessing.
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Well done, good and faithful servant.
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You have been faithful and little, I will set you over more.
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Enter into the joy of your master." We both receive the same blessing.
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So it is not for us to decide how big the number of people in our audience is,
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whether it's just our family or whether it's beyond.
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And keep in mind, this season of deep, it ends.
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It doesn't last forever.
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And then beyond that, there is ample time for us to spread out and minister to the
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people beyond our four walls.
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Okay?
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Now, so the way I talk about this with a friend of mine is I'm like, sometimes you
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just need a little whatever it is, you know, sometimes you just need a little
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collagen.
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That's one of my favorites.
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Y 'all, I'm going to give you guys a list of all the things that have served me
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well.
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Okay.
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Some of these are affiliate things.
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So you just so you know, but I'm not going to share anything that has not been tested
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that I don't love that.
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I don't like wholeheartedly like feel the benefit of myself.
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Okay.
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So.
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Oh, I had a story in my notes.
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I'm like, do I tell this right now?
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All right.
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So I'm going to talk to you guys about the health piece first, because this is the
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thing that, that really was transformative for me.
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So I had a lot of anxiety.
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I had digestive issues growing up.
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I, and I didn't even know that that wasn't normal because how, you know, that's, you
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just don't talk about that stuff.
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And then, um, going into my twenties, I had Graves' disease.
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I was able to get it managed by.
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actually getting out of the really stressful situation I was in.
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It turns out that being in a bad relationship and eating McDonald's all the
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time and not sleeping because you're working at a law firm and basically being
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stressed out because everybody was getting laid off because it was 2008, which, you
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know, wasn't a great time to be in the marketplace at all.
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Isn't that great for your health?
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So we got that managed and that was kind of the beginning of me really digging into
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this holistic health world.
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Fast forward to about a decade later, I started getting hives.
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I broke out in itchy spots all over, and I was like, what the monkey is this?
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What are we dealing with right now?
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And I hit it hard with all of my lawyer energy.
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I'm going to take whatever supplements you want me to.
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I'm going to do whatever testing you want me to.
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I'm going to do the blood work.
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I'm going to do all the things.
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I got myself more and more frustrated because every day, what was I doing?
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Nothing but looking at my skin and getting really frustrated and really irritable.
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So there came a point where I was working with a functional medicine person who was
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fabulous.
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And I started crying on the phone.
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And I was like, I can't do this anymore.
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I think I just need to be itchy for a while.
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And I spent the next few months taking baths, taking walks, going to bed, taking
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naps, just really taking care of myself without any sort of expectation on the
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results.
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Instead of being so results driven of like, I better feel better.
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I better look better, this better get resolved or else I'm gonna be really mad.
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I just accepted where my body was in the moment.
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And I was healing from some pretty significant disruption at the time.
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There had been some really hard moments that had happened in our family preceding
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that.
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And do you know what?
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Like three or four months later, my husband looked at me and he was like, you
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haven't talked about your skin in a while.
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I was like, you know what?
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Yeah, I don't itch anymore.
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Like I wasn't even thinking about it.
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And so this is the beauty you guys.
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of just these small practices to tend to our souls.
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Okay?
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So here's my laundry list of many favorites.
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And I talked about some of these last week.
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So this is kind of like we're looping back to a similar conversation, but we're going
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a little bit deeper.
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And we're also saying like little things matter.
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Okay?
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These little nudges, these little ways of tending to ourselves, this is part of how
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we ensure that we are going to be able to operate with maximum effectiveness.
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and we just create a new habit and we pick it up for a season and maybe we then
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incorporate another habit in another one or then we maybe lay down the one that we
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had before.
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Like there are some things in here where I'm like, oh, I'm not so mindful to do
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that anymore, but at the time it was really helpful.
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So we're just gonna take a moment and I just wanna invite you guys to just kind of
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like put your hand on your heart or take a deep breath and just see what the Holy
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Spirit highlights for you as I give you this list.
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So again, just as a reminder, I'm a crunchy girl.
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These are kind of more holistic in their bent, okay?
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And so take what you like and leave the rest, but know that this is an opportunity
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to just get quiet before the Lord and say, what do you want me to do next?
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To take care of this vessel that you gave me so that I can steward it well, so that
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I can serve your people well and receive your love at a deeper level because I am
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more accessible.
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I'm not in all the stress and anxiety and shoulds and ought tos.
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I'm really listening to you and to what you.
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what you are telling me this body that you gave me needs.
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Okay?
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So we're going to cultivate curiosity.
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We're going to pick one thing today, maybe two.
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Okay.
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All right.
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So here are a few of my favorites.
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Grounding.
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Did you know if you get your feet in the dirt, like I'm talking grass, I'm talking
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mud, I'm talking sand, anything that God made, not concrete.
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Okay.
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The earth has polarity to it and our body starts to like be part of that circuit.
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and it actually helps detoxify our body.
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It brings us out of fight or flight and into rest and restore.
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It can literally be just as simple as being out with your kids while they're
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playing and kicking your shoes off.
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Okay.
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Doesn't matter what temperature it is.
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Although of course it's more fun when it's summertime.
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Breath work.
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I talked to you guys about James Nestor in the book, Breathe.
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Breath, the book Breath.
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Gratitude.
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Keep a list.
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Okay.
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or make a practice like whenever I wash dishes, I'm gonna list three things that
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I'm grateful for.
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And I'm like, y 'all, maybe this is the one that I pick up because I've been more
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intentional in my gratitude practice at other times and I need to bring it back.
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Water.
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One of my friends keeps her big water carafe on her kitchen counter.
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No, it's her bathroom counter.
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And every time she goes in to use the restroom or brush her teeth or whatever,
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she takes a big long drink.
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And so she's getting more than twice her body or more than half her body weight
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every day, which is our recommendation.
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It's not eight, it's not eight glasses.
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It's actually half our body weight in ounces.
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Okay.
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Nourishing food with no guilt.
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Enjoy, enjoy the plethora of flavors that he has given you.
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Sleep.
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My, uh, my functional medicine lady or one of them, one of my people, um, she, she
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read this thing that said,
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Imagine that you are putting your favorite toddler down for a nap when you go to put
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yourself to sleep.
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Think of like the soft music and the dim lights and the cozy blanket.
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We need to nurture and nourish ourselves with sleep.
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I heard someone else describe hushing the house.
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My eyes start to hurt if the bright lights are on too late.
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So we turn everything down low.
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We quiet the music.
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We quiet the activity and we start to get ready for sleep.
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Okay.
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Activating the senses, touch, smell, taste, hearing, and sight.
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What are we listening to?
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What are we looking at?
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This morning I went outside and I just listened to the birds for a few minutes.
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Music, lotion, nice essential oils, correcting our posture, napping or
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resting, just lying there, even if we don't fall asleep.
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Cuddling with other people, touch is so key.
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Lymphatic drainage.
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Our lymph system is one of our main detoxifying tools and it's kind of taking
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out the trash by collecting.
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There's like these collection points.
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I think one is at your sternum and another is kind of at the creases of your legs.
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And it's this dumping ground that brings the toxins from our cells and the waste
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from our cells and helps excrete it out of the body.
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I think it ends up going in our, I don't know, it's excretory system somewhere.
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Anyway, we need to be well hydrated for the lymph to move.
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Okay.
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We also need to move our bodies for the lymph to move.
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Okay.
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Because it does not have its own pumping mechanism like blood does through the
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blood vessels.
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So we actually need to be in motion with muscles contracting and expanding,
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contract contracting and whatever the other word for it is.
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I don't know if it's expanding to move things along.
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So rebounding is huge, like getting on a trampoline and jumping, even walking and
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running in.
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motion to get things moving.
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Cold plunge, y 'all, I don't want to do this.
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It's on my list where it's like, if I get something real serious, maybe we're doing
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this, it can literally be as simple as turning down the shower, making it colder,
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colder, colder as you're in there or starting it cold.
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And then you can have your warm shower when you've had your medicine and you're
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good to go.
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Right.
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But I'm going to just be really honest.
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This is one of the places where I'm kind of a baby where I'm like, I don't want to
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do that.
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But you know what?
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There may come a season where that's exactly what I need.
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So cold plunges are key.
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They do a really good job resetting your system and helping your metabolism.
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So it's really great.
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And I'm just not going to be a hypocrite about it.
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I have not gone there.
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Movement, walking, stretching.
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I told you guys about the Lindywell app.
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I really like them.
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I'm still struggling to catch rhythm, but this is one of those things where I was
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like, I'm going to keep talking to you guys about it.
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so that I can't get away with whether I'm doing what I want to be doing for myself
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or not.
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I'm just going to keep being real with you guys.
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Movement is an area where I'm still really working.
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I actually wear a steps counter that my goal is to get to 10 ,000, but I put it on
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every day so that I can at least hold myself accountable even if I don't
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actually pull it off.
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This is a big one, mamas.
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Eat your food at the table.
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Sit down and breathe.
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and chew.
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So interesting when I worked with one of my functional medicine people, one of the
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first things she talked to us about was food etiquette.
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Do you sit at the table and chew your food?
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And I had to laugh.
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I'm like, I'm a mom of four.
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Do you really think I do that?
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I wait until the lunch is cold and they've all left the table.
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And then I basically go in like a scavenger and eat what they have not
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eaten.
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Like that's how we roll around here.
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But it's been so interesting to be like, oh, there's a different way to do it.
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And it's actually way better because you digest a lot better when you're breathing.
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and chewing and just kind of resting in your food.
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Not literally.
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Intermittent fasting.
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Y 'all even just saying, I do not eat between 7 a .m.
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Nope, flip it.
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7 p .m.
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and 7 a .m.
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or 8 p .m.
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and 8 a .m.
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Now, people who are really looking to reset their systems, they do longer
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stretches than that.
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But even just being intentional about that extended gap over bedtime can really help
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give your body...
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room.
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So because it takes energy for our body to digest food.
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And so when we're in digestion mode, we're not in rest and restore mode.
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We're not in detoxifying mode.
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So we need to give our body a nice long pause so that it can take out the trash.
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Okay.
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Take a bath, up some salts, essential oils, baking soda, apple cider vinegar,
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all of these things to help nurture our bodies.
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Okay.
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Now here are some of my like my go -tos that I have really loved.
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massage and craniosacral therapy all help bring your nervous system down.
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And y 'all, I have a couple of wild craniosacral stories.
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I'm gonna tell them to you real quick.
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Okay.
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First, we had three children who were lip -tie, tongue -tie restricted, which was
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kind of a big conversation starting, I didn't find out about until our second,
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when I was like, why is he not crawling?
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And then we started, I think we started having some nursing issues or something.
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We somehow figured out that he was,
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that he was restricted.
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And this is pretty common with the whole, there's this gene that they call the MTHFR
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gene, which causes difficulties with detoxifying basically.
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Okay, so bring him to a craniocicrel therapist.
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And she looks at me and she was like, has he started crawling yet?
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I was like, no.
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She said, let me guess.
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He lays on his belly and kind of flaps his feet like a fish.
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And I was like, yeah.
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It's because of his lip tie, tongue tie.
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It was like having a rubber band stretching from his mouth to his ankles or
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to his feet.
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So he didn't want to crunch his legs up underneath him to start crawling.
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One session with her and he was crawling.
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So that was the first one.
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Second, I'm going to tell you this.
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I'm going to actually tell you the third story before the second, because the
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second one's so crazy.
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You're not going to believe it.
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Second story and craniosacral therapy basically deals with the fascia.
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which is that little membrane that covers the muscle.
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And the idea is it can get tangled like a bed sheet.
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And so craniosacral therapists help straighten it, which brings a lot of
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relief and brings you into that rest restory store instead of fight or flight
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and helps with a lot of physiological challenges.
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Fell down the stairs when my youngest was a year old, I was holding him and I really
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jacked up my back.
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I went to the chiropractor, I think six or eight times, didn't move the needle very
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much at all.
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I was still in a lot of pain after several weeks.
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I went to one craniosacral visit and they work with emotion too, how emotion traps
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in the body.
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Um, she, oh gosh, I have four craniosacral stories.
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You guys, I was not going to make this a craniosacral thing, but these stories are
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so wild.
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I can't even help myself.
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Okay.
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So she had me talk about the fall, how I felt guilty.
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I was worried about my son.
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I felt like a bad mom.
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I felt stupid.
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Like she had me talk through the emotional experience.
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I walked out of there, you guys, a hundred percent better.
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Could not even believe it.
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Like just that one session.
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Similarly, after my dad died, I was having trouble breathing.
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This is not uncommon grief stores in the lungs and I was with him when he died.
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So I would wake up feeling like I couldn't breathe, like I'd forgotten how to
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breathe.
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Like it was hard because of course I was with him and all the way through.
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And went to a craniosacral therapist.
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There are two ladies that I've worked with in Charlotte.
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They're both amazing.
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So if you're in this area, let me know if you want their names.
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She had me talk about my dad.
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and what he meant to me, what was great about him, what was hard in our
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relationship, what was great in our relationship, what I remembered, his
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passing.
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While she worked on primarily my heart and chest, she was just kind of helping me
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around my lungs, basically, but also up into my throat, all the places where we
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breathe.
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And I've never had an issue with breathing after that, but I cried.
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and released the emotion.
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It was very precious.
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I'm so thankful for her.
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And then the last one I'm going to share with you is I was in session just trying
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to do some self -care while we were in the middle of the childbearing years.
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And all of a sudden, this is the craziest story.
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So she's working on my back and all of a sudden she goes, oh.
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And then she gave me this really weird look and she was like, have you started
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your cycle since having your...
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your kid.
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This was after my second and I had come in for us to fix his lip tie, tongue tie
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stuff.
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I was like, no, actually not yet.
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And she goes, oh, okay.
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Well, there might be something going on there.
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Like literally a couple of days later, we found out I was pregnant with my daughter.
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And I was like, did you know?
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She's like, well, yeah.
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She was just kind of like, hi.
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Literally you guys, this was like, this baby was like a handful of weeks old.
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She was no more than six weeks old at that time.
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Isn't that crazy?
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So she knew I was pregnant before I did from craniosacral.
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So.
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That's one of my favorite self -cares.
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Adding electrolytes to your water.
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I've got one that's got minerals in it that I just love.
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It's called Revitalize.
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Dry brushing, castor oil packs, you guys, those can do so much to help bring your
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nervous system down, to get you out of fight or flight because it's helping
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detoxify the liver.
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So much of our anxiety can actually be caused by these trapped toxins.
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Like we need to be expelling for, you know, in delicate terms, okay?
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listening to audiobooks, fun books, reading fun books, not just eat your
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vegetables books.
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There's this really cool system called the Kacelia system that actually brings you
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back into proper alignment using gravity.
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Okay.
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And I have it on my website.
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So once it gets up and rolling, you can check it out there.
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Essentially you lay on this pillow system and it brings you into spinal alignment
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like a chiropractor does, but it's actually stretching the muscles.
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So you hold your shifts much better than with simple chiropractic, I personally
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think.
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Okay.
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movement.
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We talked about that.
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And then here's the last thing, and this has been such a sweet story for me.
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So I had struggled with anxiety throughout my life.
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And I always thought I was crazy, you guys.
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Within the past four or five years, somebody started talking to me about the
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importance of iodine.
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And that...
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So I started taking a high dose iodine.
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I worked with a practitioner to figure out what I needed.
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And I went from, I think I'm crazy to, oh, I think this might be chemical.
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So that brought me one step.
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And then about six months ago, I started taking this collagen.
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And I started taking it because I was like, okay, this is supposed to be really
30:15
good for fine lines.
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It's supposed to be really good for your hair.
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I'd had some thinning hair since COVID.
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It's supposed to be great for your, like just all your organs.
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So it's a great preventative was kind of how I saw it.
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So I saw it as like a foundational health tool.
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Y 'all, all of a sudden I'm more patient.
30:36
My mental margin has expanded.
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Brian and I's ability to work through challenging things, cause he's on it as
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well, has greatly increased.
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This particular collagen, unlike any other on the market actually mimics all, not
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mimic, sorry, I always say that word.
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That's the wrong word.
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It stimulates collagen production across all the types.
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So it's actually giving you the couple of dozen types of collagen because not only
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do you get the dose itself, which is what most, so with a collagen supplement,
31:05
typically you get collagen.
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You take a tablespoon of collagen, you get a tablespoon of collagen.
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With this collagen, you take a tablespoon of collagen, it gives you a tablespoon of
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collagen and stimulates your body to produce its own collagen.
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Okay?
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So then you're getting that.
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as well.
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And it's also like 90 % bioavailable.
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And so it was actually helping my gut.
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And I've got friends where they have food sensitivities that they've actually been
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able to overcome because they've got this.
31:31
The other thing I started taking is this supplement called OVA, which is an herbal
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supplement that helps balance hormones.
31:39
And so y 'all, I went from like five years ago, it was there's something wrong with
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me.
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Got the iodine going and it was like, okay.
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I know that I think that there's something wrong with me, but that it's actually a
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chemical thing.
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And it was always like the couple of days before my cycle.
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Now there's nothing.
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Like the anxiety is gone.
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The PMS anxiety is gone.
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The discomfort during my cycle is gone.
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It's gone.
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One pill.
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So for me, like self care always felt hard and heavy.
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And now it's like one pill, one tablespoon of collagen.
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The collagen's twice a day, the pill is once a day.
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And I'm taking care of myself.
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I feel better.
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Our quality of life has improved.
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So y 'all, it doesn't have to be hard.
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It can be simple.
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It can be small.
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If you guys want information about any of the stuff I've shared with you, there's
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going to be links in the show notes.
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I've got a $25 off coupon for the collagen.
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I think you can get $20 off for a subscription for Lindy Well, like $45 off
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for the Caselia system.
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I've kind of pulled together those links for you guys so that you can get the best
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bang for your buck.
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Think about what feels like it would serve you well today.
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What does your soul need?
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What does your body need?
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What does your spirit need?
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And then take the next step, okay?
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All right, so that's today.
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Kind of practical, we're going boots on the ground, but sometimes we need these
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things.
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We forget sometimes that we're physical beings as well as spiritual beings.
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And so tend to what God has given you.
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This is actually the best way to be of service because then you are coming from a
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place of fullness instead of deficit, okay?
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All right.
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That's it for today.
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Until next time, friend, you got this.