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Season 3 - Episode 297 - Assessing boundaries · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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coach. Filled with inspiration,
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distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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of yourself you could ever imagine.
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Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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So let's talk about assessing our boundaries as we go into the
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holiday season. There is one thing that we know
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for sure that takes place and we all feel like I have to have
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boundaries. I have to know, I have to put up
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boundaries. I have to make sure I know this.
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This word is tricky for me because while it's necessary and
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people get it, when we use it, I almost feel like, you know, it's
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that old, old story of like, well, when you build a wall, you
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keep things out, but you also keep things in and it's, it can
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be tricky. And sometimes while you're
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keeping out the bad stuff, you're also keeping out good
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stuff. So I like to look at this more
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in the sense of using boundaries.
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I'm really kind of prefer for myself anyway to say, OK, what
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are my rules around this? And, and rules seem much more
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like I'm a rule follower in general.
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So I want to say, OK, let me look at this and really figure
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out the particulars of how I operate with this.
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What are my internal rules that are not written down or my
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external rules for this and assess what needs to happen so I
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can go through this. Now I'm bringing this up because
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I'm hosting Thanksgiving coming up in a month.
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And I am, I think it's actually a month from, yeah, it's, it's
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just about a month away. So, and I have to look, I'm
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having a lot of people and I'm having my cousin help me in the
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kitchen. And we are doing this together.
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And I'm looking at it and I'm saying, OK, I'm going to have to
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really understand my rules because my kitchen is like, I'm
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not the cook in my house. But when I do cook, I want to be
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100% focused on organization and doing things a certain way
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efficiently so that I feel like I don't lose control of it all
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because my certainty girl will be driving to make sure I don't
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miss anything. Because I'm not inherently a
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good cook. I love to bake and do things
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like that, but I'm not a good cook.
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So I have to pay attention. By my nature, I'm not a good
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cook. I I just experiment too quickly
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and then it goes all to hell in a handbasket.
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So I have to follow the rules and I know that and I'm
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assessing what has to happen for me to have a successful time.
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What are my rules around this? So not necessarily a boundary,
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but a rule. And I also know that I have
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guests that are coming that all have different needs.
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So I'm going to make sure that I understand all of it.
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I also know that as my guests come and I, you know, you have
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all these different personalities, all these
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different things. I have lots of animals here on
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the farm. I have my dogs, I have a cat.
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I'm going to have to think about my rules around engagement with
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my animals because if there's one thing that sets me off, it's
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that seeing somebody do something that I don't think is
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a good thing for my animals. And I have to make sure I have
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myself clear on that so that I handle it ahead of time.
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Many of you who are regular followers know I have a very
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large American bulldog, and he is like a Sherman tank.
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He does not feel things. He's, you know, gigantic and
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just like literally like a tank, takes a lot of hits.
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But because of that part of him, he doesn't necessarily do well
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in big groups of people because he's always moving around,
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checking everybody out and drooling.
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And people don't like that. So I have to take him out of
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that before it even happens. A rule of mine is he will not be
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out with everybody. I'll bring him out at some point
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in time, but I will put him away so that he doesn't get stressed
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out by all their energy and they don't get stressed out by his
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energy. It's just a good way to think of
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it. You have to assess all the
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little factors. My chickens, OK, they are, they
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are a big hit out here. Everybody wants to come see
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them. But when kids run to pick them
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up, it horrifies them because remember, they are prey items.
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They all day long the Roosters are working to protect them
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because everything wants to eat them, whether it's a fox,
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whether it's a coyote, whether it's a red tail hawk, a smaller
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hawk, owls, you know, you name it, we have it out here.
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And they are prey items. So they, they trust the people
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they know. And yes, they are smart enough
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to recognize the people they know.
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And when they don't recognize somebody, they look at you like
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you are a threat. End of story.
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So I have to make sure I have the rules up around that so I'm
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not adding stress to myself. Hopefully these examples let you
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see I'm assess the rules and whether you use the word rules
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or boundaries, whatever works for you, assess where you are,
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figure it out so that you can be successful with it and limit the
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stress. Okay, my friends, I hope you
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have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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Bye.