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Season 3 - Episode 290 - Confidence is paramount · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  We're talking today about confidence and whether we have
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  it or not. Is it just something that we all
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  have or do we have to build it like on any other tool that we
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  have within us? So when's the last time you
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  checked in with yourself on your level of confidence?
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  Like in all seriousness, like asking yourself the very simple
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  question, am I confident most likely drives you to a place of
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  going well, it depends on what area you're talking about
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  because we all have areas of of our lives where we feel more
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  confident and then we have areas where we feel less confident and
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  some of us have zero confidence and some of us have too much
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  confidence maybe where we should not have confidence.
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  I say that jokingly, but it could be true, especially in
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  some of our work worlds. So, but getting back to the core
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  of the subject is how do we cultivate it?
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  How do we build it? What are the things that we need
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  to focus on in order to bring this to the to the best it can
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  be? Very first thing is remembering.
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  Is there a time in your life when you felt like you were just
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  on fire when everything was clicking, everything was
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  working? No doubt you're going to say yes
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  to that question. Yes, I remember that.
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  OK, great. So think about that.
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  How present was confidence? Probably pretty present, but you
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  never actually thought about it that way.
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  You just thought it was like everything was clicking.
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  I was blessed. I had all these wonderful things
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  happening and boom, it was all present.
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  But ask yourself the question about confidence.
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  How confident were you and what you were doing?
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  What was the situation? Kind of go back and debrief the
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  situation on paper. Actually write it down so you
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  can see where it showed up, how it showed up, what it felt like,
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  what it looked like. Because if you can do that, it's
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  huge, it's tremendous, and it gives you such a big push into
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  understanding how to pull that forward.
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  Because that's what we're trying to do.
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  We're trying to take that confidence from a time when you
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  had it, it was buried, you didn't identify it as
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  confidence, but we want to pull that forward and have that be
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  usable in your everyday world now.
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  And the way that works is it's cross pollination is what I like
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  to call it. But if I can remember a time
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  when I felt confident in one thing and then I debrief that
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  completely and say this is what took place, this is how I showed
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  up with it, this is what was happening, then I can create
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  that in my mind and say, OK, now if I take that version of myself
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  and I bring it to this situation over here, what will that look
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  like? How will I show up?
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  How will I handle this differently?
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  You'd be amazed at how much different your response is to
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  the situation you're currently dealing with or thinking about.
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  Maybe you're not even dealing with something right now, but
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  you would be. And how do I, how do I handle
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  that? So we often will do this with
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  ourselves where we will spend time like, let's say you have a
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  pastor at your church that you go to and you really like this
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  pastor and he's very kind and he's soft and he's, he, he talks
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  very nicely and you just really admire this person.
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  And then out in the world, something happens and you say to
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  yourself, well, how would Pastor Bob handle this?
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  And you would come up with an answer based on what you know to
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  be true about Pastor Bob. And then you adopt some of that.
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  You're grabbing it, You're cross pollinating from how Pastor Bob
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  might do it. Well, you can do that with
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  yourself. You just have to go back to
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  those other situations and dig through them, pull them forward
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  to make sure you have them with you.
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  Once you do that, when you have that down, you can say, OK, this
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  version of myself, give it an identity, really name it as
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  something like any of you that regularly follow.
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  No, I refer to myself. That version of myself.
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  That's the relaxed girl is the hippie chick Zen girl.
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  So I will say, OK, well how would my hippie chick Zen girl
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  handle this right now? What would she do?
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  How would she respond? What would she say?
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  What would she think? How would she be acting?
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  And then it becomes way easier to call on that and call it up
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  and feel confident about it. So this is, this is a very
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  tricky subject to deal with because confidence isn't
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  something we think about until we don't have it.
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  Really truly, we don't think about it until we don't have it.
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  Once we realize we don't have it, then it's one of those Oh no
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  moments. It's like I got to pull myself
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  back. I hate that I don't have it.
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  But the truth is we can all have it anytime we want to if we just
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  tap into it. We just have to figure out the
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  piece of how we call it up, what we believe about it, and then
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  move ourselves in that direction.
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  So I'm going to challenge you to come up with that discovery.
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  Go and do the homework, sit down, write it out.
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  When was there a time when everything was clicking, feeling
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  like you were on the flow, feeling like you just were like
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  on top of the world? Debrief that moment because that
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  is the core in confidence and take that with you and you will
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  be able to decipher it, learn from it and pull it forward from
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  there. All right my friends, I hope you
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  have a very blessed confidence filled day and I will see you
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  all tomorrow. Bye.