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5 Min Pocket Pep Talk: Goal Setting 101-Why You’re Not Getting There · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hi there, this is Nadia with the 5-Minute Pocket Pet Talk.
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  Today, we are talking about coaching 101, if I can say.
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  Why are you not reaching your goals?
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  And we're going to go over some really basic stuff that most of you skip,
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  and then you wonder why nothing is working and why you're not going anywhere.
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  So, if you've been feeling stuck, if you are not moving forward,
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  or like your goals are just kind of not happening, this five minute pocket pep talk is for you.
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  So listen up and save it and download it and put it into your back pocket. Okay.
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  I'm going to be honest with you. You're not reaching your goal,
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  probably because you're not clear about what you actually want.
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  This is so basic, but you would be amazed the amount of people that I ask,
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  what do you want exactly?
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  Like I literally tell people, If you had a magic wand, what do you want to see happening?
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  And people are often very vague. So the first step is to know exactly what you want.
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  When I ask people, do you know what you want? And they say, well,
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  I kind of know, or I might have an idea.
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  Your brain doesn't move on kind of. I kind of know what I want.
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  It doesn't work that way.
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  Your brain needs direction. So what happens when you're not clear?
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  You overthink, you kind of go in circles, you question things and you wait and
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  you hesitate and you're not very specific about the outcome, about the end goal.
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  So you're trying to figure out the perfect plan, but you don't move.
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  So let's reframe this together. All right.
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  Overthinking isn't about being done.
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  Thoughtful, if I can say. It's only about avoiding.
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  It's avoiding taking action. It's fear. Really, that's what it is.
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  I always say it's fear dressed up as, oh, I just need a little bit more time to think about this.
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  So here's the truth. Thinking has never been the one thing that moves you forward in life.
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  I'm going to tell you what it is. Drum roll. It's action.
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  Action is what gets you moving, not overthinking everything.
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  All right. So let's simplify this together. Okay, like real simple.
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  Right now, I want you to ask yourself, what do I truly want?
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  And sit with that for a second.
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  Not what sounds good on paper, not what sounds good for the people in your life,
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  not what you should want, not what other people are doing.
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  What do you want?
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  And here's the part that most people miss. You don't find the clarity you need
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  by thinking more. All right.
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  You create clarity by deciding, even if it's not perfect. I talk about this all the time.
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  Even if you change your mind later. All right. You need to step into action and decide something.
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  Then ask yourself this question. What is the next right step?
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  If you know me, you know what I always repeat is small hinges swing big doors.
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  All right. So you don't need the whole map figured out. So what is your next best step?
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  The smallest, easiest, most simple step forward that you can take right now,
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  not tomorrow, not in a week, because you won't do that.
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  All right. So not the whole roadmap figure out, not how everything plays out, just the next step.
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  All right. Momentum isn't built on having everything figured out. It's built on moving.
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  Your life doesn't change when you're sitting overthinking.
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  Your life doesn't change when you are in your head.
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  Your life changes when you move, when you take the step, when you show up,
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  even when it's uncomfortable, actually, especially when it's uncomfortable.
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  So it happens when you show up, when you do the thing that you've been avoiding.
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  That's where confidence come from, not before, after.
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  So if you are in a phase of your life right now where you feel stuck,
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  this is your reset. I need you to get clear, okay?
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  Pick a direction, take one step forward, that's it.
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  You don't need extra time, you don't need to overthink everything,
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  you just need to move, all right?
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  That was your little reminder, your little coaching 101 moment today.
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  Very simple but not always easy if
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  this hits please sit with it all right and then go take a small step forward
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  and reach out to me if you need a kick in the butt I am here to hold you accountable
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  all right I'm always here cheering
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  you on thanks for listening and I'll catch you in the next episode.