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PORTA-POTTY PARTIES IN DUBAI - THE LATEST SEX CRIMES AGAINST WOMEN · CALL ME MISTRESS

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  Hi, welcome to the latest episode of Call Me Mistress.
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  I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia, and I've got with me today Evie
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  Boleyn. Hi Evie.
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  We have already had fun today. We sure did.
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  We have hung out and you got to punch a lovely man today in the
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  dungeon. So fun.
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  I punched. No, actually, I didn't know.
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  I don't think I actually punched him.
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  I think Liv punched him, but I did hit him with a hammer and it
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  means a meat tenderizer. So I mean the devil's in the
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  detail, but. Let's explain this so it wasn't
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  an actual hammer. It's like the the padded Thor
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  hammer. Yeah, like, think like a padded
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  Harlequin hammer. There you go.
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  Yeah, Really made for this kind of stuff.
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  There we go. Specifically designed for
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  safety. Yeah, for safety that he wanted.
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  He wanted to be punched or and or hit in the nuts and punched
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  in the stomach, which is great. Yeah.
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  So funny story, this gentleman has been coming to see me now
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  for 10 years. Yeah.
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  And he would always treat himself on his birthday because
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  because he lives like 3-4 hours away.
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  When he first started to come to see me, he never had any hernia.
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  OK, well, he would kind of see me consistently at the very
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  beginning. It was like once every month.
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  And then I didn't see him for the longest time and he came
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  back with a hernia. And he's like, yeah, Mistress
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  Mia kind of develop this hernia here, you know, because you're
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  punching me in the stomach where I wanted you to.
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  And it's just kind of gotten worse.
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  So if we could just not hit that spot.
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  Oh my. Gosh, so it was great because
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  ultimately I just took a Sharpie and exed it off.
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  We're not to hit. Smart.
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  Yeah, and when he came back this past year, he was just here a
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  few months ago, he said, Mistress Mia, look, I don't have
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  a hernia anymore. I made sure that I went through
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  surgery. So now you can hit me back in
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  the same spot all over again. Interesting.
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  Oh my gosh. I said so I can re injure you.
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  What a lovely plan, I mean. And this man is well into his
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  60s. Oh yeah, he's an older
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  gentleman. It I remember in the session
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  with Liv, I would kind of get a little like I would rear back a
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  little bit just because I'm like, oh, like where is the line
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  between, you know, doing something that a sub wants and
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  they they want it? Yeah, they want it.
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  But then being in that space, is the Dom saying like holding back
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  a little bit? It's it's always this line that
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  I feel like I'm towing. Where to?
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  You're pivoting on both sides. Yeah, I.
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  Want to create this experience for you?
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  I want to. I want to have a good time.
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  I want you to have a good time. Ethics.
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  Ethics. You're boring us, Evie.
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  I'm. So, so sorry.
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  Well, way out this way, you know, they're coming to us
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  willingly. They come here as very avid
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  participants and what they want, or once they get home a few days
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  later or they sub drop, whatever the realization is, they always
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  circle back around because they're always going to want
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  what they want. And if they don't get it,
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  they're only going to want it worse.
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  Right. But as far as physical
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  limitations and physical pain that we might cause people,
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  whether or not we're going to injure someone, I've injured
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  someone because they've wanted it right and and that's OK.
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  You're just being cautious because you don't want to hurt.
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  Someone. No, I don't.
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  That's all. It is.
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  You're just a kind soul. And also sometimes you can't be
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  kind. You just got to give it to them,
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  you know? Yeah.
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  You're right, you're right. You do.
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  Let me tell you, I now this gentleman that was here, he's a
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  little more hardcore because who else wants to be punched in the
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  stomach? Oh.
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  I don't know anybody. Yeah, like that's how.
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  Houdini died. That's what I'm thinking about,
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  yes. You know, what's interesting is
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  we all know our bodies. We all feel what we feel.
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  And a lot of people, they have a very high tolerance for a lot of
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  things. And I can remember this one guy
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  years ago, believe it or not, he was, of all things, a
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  psychiatrist. Really.
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  Yes. And he would come to see me.
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  He loved the concept of humiliation, degradation.
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  But he would lay on my concrete floor.
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  And I had stained concrete floors in my bedroom.
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  And he didn't want a pillow or anything like that.
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  He would lay there for hours. And he's like, I want you to
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  blindfold me, cuff me up. And then periodically, when I
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  don't know you're coming, I want you to kick me right in the
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  balls. And yeah, I would kick him.
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  I would, I would do these things that he wanted and then he
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  wanted me to take needles and syringes and just stab in his
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  genitals all of these needles. And then he wanted me to hit
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  that off with a flocker. So I would hit them off with a
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  flocker and then I would urinate all over him.
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  Oh shit. Oh shit.
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  No, it was blood in urine, not shit.
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  But. A blood, it was blood in urine,
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  guys, I'm sorry, it was blood in urine, not shit, but.
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  That's what he wanted and. You know, I think that there are
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  so many, like, levels to BDSM kink and I and also my
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  perspective comes from someone who's still very much a novice.
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  I haven't been doing this as long.
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  I mean, you've got 30 years in the practice.
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  Yeah, and so maybe I'm just a type to error on the side of
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  caution because I just don't know.
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  Because you know, when you were talking a moment ago, you said
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  they tell you what they want to hear.
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  They tell you what names they want to be called.
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  The sessions I've had, I explicitly asked them.
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  I'm like, well, what are what are no goes for you?
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  What are things you want to be called?
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  Things you don't want to be called?
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  And they give me like it's the answer that I hate the most.
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  What do you feel like, man? Just like.
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  That is, yeah. Yeah, whatever you feel like,
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  like whatever I feel like, it's not what I feel like.
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  It's I need you to be direct, my boy.
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  I need you to. If you want something, I need
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  you to clearly articulate that to me so that I'm not having to
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  do guess work because I don't want to guess in the wrong
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  direction. I can guess the way if they're
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  your face is super red. Is that blood, your blood
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  pressure elevating or are you grimacing?
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  And is it like a real grimace or like a you know what I mean?
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  Like I'm always constantly like doing, you know, BDSM algebra in
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  a session because I'm keeping track of all of these different
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  things, the tools I'm using, the sensations I'm creating, the
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  getting you into subspace. And when you leave.
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  For me, when Subs leave a little too much for my imagination, I
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  start going into like hyper awareness of what I might be
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  doing wrong or what might not be OK.
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  And I, I prefer my clients and Subs to be more direct.
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  You know, I'm not a mind reader like.
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  I know, I know. And honestly, it's just because
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  a lot of them, men are very simple.
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  They really are, and very simple creatures and they want what
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  they want. But then when they don't want
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  it, it's more or less they want a woman just to guide them
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  through it. Right.
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  But ultimately the ones that say that they really can't take a
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  lot because they, they have never experienced it.
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  They don't know what it's like, you know, and they have a, a low
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  threshold for pain. So you just have to baby them
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  like we baby them in real life, don't we men?
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  Right. So totally off going into
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  something much more serious. You and I were having this
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  conversation and I had never heard of the expression before
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  the terminology, which was Porta potty parties in Dubai.
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  And it was interesting that you brought this up because Dubai
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  has been running this big promotion and they are really
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  trying to promote their country and all of this great little
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  stuff and and how things are over there.
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  I mean, it's elaborate. It's it's elaborate living.
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  It's very expensive. It's very costly.
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  Like everyone there. Obviously you have to be very
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  wealthy to maintain a lifestyle there.
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  Yes. So explain to me and obviously
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  the audience what these parties consist of.
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  It's like. I'm not entirely sure where that
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  term originated. I don't know if that's what the
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  terms are actually called in the language, but that's the term
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  that I came across when I found the story of this young woman.
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  So I'm going to give it give some context.
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  So I heard of the term when I was, you know, sleuthing on the
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  Internet and I had never heard this term.
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  This you? There's a good article on it.
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  Was the BBC right? Yeah.
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  It was the BBC I'd be reading this article on and but it
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  started they sent back in 2022, yeah.
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  So this has been an ongoing. Thing for the last three years
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  and it. Could be longer than that
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  without the tech of social media, but it basically what
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  they do is they kind of recruit, you know, only fans, girls,
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  adult models, people in that realm.
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  And they, they lure them to Dubai with gifts like luxurious
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  gifts, obscene amounts of money. And then they get them to come
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  into these parties. And these parties are basically
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  no holds bar. They are, and it's not a typical
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  BDSM scene because a lot of it is not these girls are, they're
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  not aware of what they're walking into.
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  They're not there's no informed consent.
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  There's no this, you come to this party to be a pretty girl.
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  And then what ends up happening is some unscrupulous activities,
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  sexual assault, violence there. I'm not going to sugarcoat it.
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  There are realms of BDSM to it. But when BDSM, it's not real
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  BDSM. It's just torture and abuse and
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  crimes. I don't want to speak for every
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  single person who's been there because I'm sure some people are
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  kind of given like a, oh, we'll give you more money if you are
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  more open to getting peed on, or we'll give you more money if
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  you're more open to doing this. Or, but I, from what I've read,
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  I've, you know, I've gone through Reddit, there's a
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  documentary. The levels of awareness for each
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  individual person who's ever gone to these parties varies.
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  So it's very hard to speak broadly about the experiences.
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  Some are a little bit. It's still so unethical.
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  It's oh, it is so BBC they were saying that the reason why
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  they're called port a potty parties is because that some men
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  are urinating and defecating on some of these women afterwards
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  and or during the parties. And there was one woman, and she
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  was from Norway, and she was scalloped after being used up at
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  this. Party.
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  But her family was extremely concerned.
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  She was actually on her way to Thailand.
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  She was approached by this Russian and a Ukrainian
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  businessman going into the airport and missing her flight
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  because she had overslept. And she's invited to one of
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  these parties. And then it just LED from bad to
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  worse very, very quickly. I mean, it's pretty.
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  So what are you, what are you thinking about that Mia?
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  What do you think that that says about?
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  Because there are elements like, you know, there's we, you know,
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  urination, defecation, like those are things that do happen
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  in the BDSM realm. But when it's in this context,
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  what does that make you feel? Oh, it's horrific.
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  Yeah. Because you know, sure, they
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  they might think at the very beginning they might get, they
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  may have negotiated that there was going to be maybe a golden
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  shower. I don't know, I don't know the
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  specifications on that. But regardless, if all of this
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  is nonconsensual, then it's highly illegal, highly morally,
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  ethically wrong. Yeah.
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  And yet they're going to get away with it.
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  That's the sad part. And so like you said, there was
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  one woman and she was just 20 year old girl.
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  She went over there and got her spine broken.
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  Yeah. Like, what are they doing to
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  these poor girls? That's.
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  Horrible like actual torture like.
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  Actual. Yeah, actual.
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  Things and I think that the reason that I I link it to not
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  BDSM because it's not it's not it's this is torture.
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  This is these are crimes but the way that it will be likely spun
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  in narratives and rhetoric is that these are people these are
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  there is a there is distinct separation from practitioners of
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  ethical BDSM and you know criminal enterprises.
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  But the reason that I feel that this would never these
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  situations scalping. From a roof.
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  Being thrown from a roof. Yeah.
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  These are things that could never be negotiated in a BDSM
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  space because we would never, we would never want to.
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  Those are those are non negotiables.
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  Absolutely. And so, and they can't pay
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  someone really to do that. So they coerce them with, you
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  know, like the Pied Piper, like come to my Merryland of wonder,
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  and then you get scouts. One model, she was at the gym
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  and she was approached by someone on the treadmill.
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  They started up a conversation and she said no sooner that
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  she's leaving the gym that she was approached by another
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  gentleman and said that he was a friend of the guy who was on the
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  treadmill next to her and he brought in a diamond bracelet,
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  like a diamond set. She said it was well into a
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  value of three to $5000. And that's when they made the
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  transaction. Hey, this is your gift.
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  This is your. Oh, we brought her flowers as
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  well, made it look all pretty. And I think to me, the reason
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  why when you brought this up to me, I thought, oh, we need to
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  educate women out there because you know, we're, we're in kind
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  of like the Mecca of, you know, social media and, you know,
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  going through the podcast that we're all over, you know, the
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  world and that there's so many women that we know that are
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  submissive women that are in the lifestyle.
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  I know a few influencers who within their community and with
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  BDSM and that kind of thing, and they put themselves out there in
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  such a way that it really makes them vulnerable and they don't
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  even realize it. So, you know, of course, you
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  know, women, honestly, women, we can all be very naive.
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  And so when you're getting that perspective and saying, oh, you
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  know, we're going to overwhelm you with gifts and it's going to
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  be great. And who doesn't want to go to
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  Dubai? I mean, we're seeing all these
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  amazing things about Dubai. My cousin lived there for
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  several years with his family and he loved it.
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  He's like, you know, you can leave your house, your car
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  unlocked because the ramifications for any criminal
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  act is, is severe, right? And so, but it's really a double
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  standard here. Because sex crimes aren't seen
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  as because a lot of the women that I feel are targeted in
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  these Porter potty party scams, PPS, the PPPs is they're women
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  who are they're already seen as socially because a lot of them
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  are, are, are in the sex work realm.
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  So maybe they're Cam girls, maybe they're models, whatever.
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  They're already seen as well. You, you do this, you ask for
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  it. And so when they go to these
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  parties, they're the, the victim blaming because it's not, it
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  wouldn't have happened to you or if you weren't that kind of
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  woman. And it's like, let me be very
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  clear, they have very stringent laws for lots of other things,
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  but sex crimes. They I mean, a woman was
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  throwing from a roof a young girl with Scout.
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  You know, there are, I think though, they're alive, right?
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  I think that's what I. Read Yeah, she did survive.
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  Now the the documentary you're talking about is called Death in
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  Dubai. It was, it was a journalist who
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  actually did this and produced this documentary and explores
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  the events leading up to the death of this one girl who was
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  originally lured to Dubai. So yeah, it it's pretty bad.
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  She was an influencer and she died.
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  She was obviously killed. Yeah.
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  So that's one that they know of. And it's, I think it's very
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  important for the male listeners and the female Subs and the
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  female listeners that we all take a collective pause and
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  recognize that we all have our biases, we all have our our own
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  prejudices. But we just have to all come to
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  a consensus agreement that what like this is not OK.
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  And I know so many people do, but it's, it doesn't matter if
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  someone was, you know, I'm like, that's insanely silly.
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  I would never, you know, someone luring me to some foreign
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  country, but that I don't want that that thought to trickle
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  into well, like it wouldn't have happened if you didn't go.
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  What did you think? It's still, it's not said with
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  malice, but I, I feel like a lot of people do.
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  And that's the rhetoric that I'm seeing online is some people
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  trying to turn it into, well, it wouldn't happen if it just
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  didn't go OK, I don't think it would have happened.
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  It shouldn't have ever been allowed to happen from the get
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  coercive behaviors. This is showing like love
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  bombing behaviors, trafficking behaviors.
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  Why are we tolerating that as a collective?
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  And I don't just mean American Society, but just in society in
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  general. Why are we tolerating that?
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  You know Tale is oldest time. Tale is oldest time like.
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  In the documentary here it says that there's a A1.
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  There was there was another lady here and she said she was on
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  Instagram and a gentleman went on her Instagram and offering
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  her 16,000 for her and her friend to attend the party
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  allegedly in exchange for participating in fetishes
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  involving feet and urination. Though these messages have never
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  been independently very. It's crazy.
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  Another girl, she was badly, badly injured, $16,000 is not a
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  large sum of money. I mean, it really isn't.
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  You're going to Dubai. That's just not a lot of money
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  for Dubai. You know, I'm like, I could, you
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  know, put this aside, have a nice little nest egg, you know
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  what I mean? Or I could go on a decent
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  vacation and have some leftover. I think for a lot of people,
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  they see it and they they see these dollar signs and and
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  they're like, Oh well, it's just P it's just feet in excess with
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  very little context. You need to be questioning those
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  motives because there are dozens of people, dozens of beautiful
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  people be willing to engage in these activities.
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  So if they can't find people to do it, there is something going
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  on that they know is not right. And because we.
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  Says that the women involved in these parties could find
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  themselves prosecuted, said Raha Sterling, CEO of Detained in
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  Dubai. He's warned that women involved
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  in these parties, even against their will, could face charges
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  of adultery or indecency, especially if married men are
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  present. Sex outside of marriage has been
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  legalized in Dubai, but organizers have exploited this.
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  Women think they're attending a private party, and instead
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  they're thrown into horrific, dangerous situations with real
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  legal risk. Isn't that some shit?
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  It leaves you speechless. I.
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  Mean it really does, because what do you say to that?
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  You know, the social practices are Islamic customs
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  significantly influenced daily in Dubai, including laws,
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  holidays and their social norms. So if we're basing that on
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  Islamic culture, we know in Islamic culture it's very
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  different from what we have here in in the USA.
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  I see people doing the work, Mia, You do the work you, you
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  put out these podcasts, you educate yourself, you talk
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  unflinchingly about sexuality and BDSM and those you know the,
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  the, the interesting little delights, right, that are
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  unconventional. Certainly.
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  But and you do so with care, and then I just see, see these
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  people. I know.
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  Completely just I'm thinking I'm like, you could absolutely have
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  an ethical PP party with someone.
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  That's what people crave, that's what they need.
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  You know, they don't need to get someone and take them to Dubai
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  with empty promises of small amounts of money because 16,000
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  is not a lot of money. It's just not.
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  It's not, I can't wait to shit on someone or, you know, be so
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  fun. But I think these men in Dubai,
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  I think they're fucking scum. And I look at there's so many
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  women in our area too. And it's like we have to
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  advertise on specific sites because men, they don't know
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  what to call Doms. They don't.
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  There's a lot of men that they want BDSM.
• 21:15
  They don't even know what it is or how to word it to find it.
• 21:19
  But we advertise on these sites. And the women that are on their
• 21:22
  sites, they're staying at a hotel, you know, they're using
• 21:26
  drugs, they're offering sex, you know, and they basically post
• 21:31
  pictures of themselves compromising everything.
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  And it's like, for what? You know, that's why I was just
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  like, women save your dignity. Men don't deserve to see what
• 21:42
  they get to see. Yeah, so that's just me.
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  And I know there's a lot of women out there, and they're
• 21:48
  cool with, you know, exploiting their bodies.
• 21:50
  And that's cool. I mean, I think that there's
• 21:53
  positive attention, but then there's always going to be some
• 21:56
  negative attention. Like I said, I used to post
• 21:58
  pictures of of my Hoo Haas and my boobies.
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  But you know, there's a point where it's like, okay, I'm not
• 22:05
  single. I'm not 20 anymore, so I get it.
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  What girls who are 20 do it because they get all this
• 22:12
  positive attention and a lot of women want that and it's great.
• 22:15
  It's great that they want that and maybe they're.
• 22:16
  Exhibitionists, if you're really are an exhibitionist and that's
• 22:19
  your thing, like but there's. Always gonna be a devil standing
• 22:22
  at the door, waiting. Yeah.
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  So just be aware. Yeah.
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  OK Are we ready to call it? Yeah.
• 22:29
  All right. So until next time.
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  This has been the latest episode.
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  On Call Me Mistress.