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90 Day Fiancé Before the 90 Days Season 8 Episode 15 “Mayday! Mayday!” · Vanity Farah with Chris Farah

• 0:04
  Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, Welcome back to Vanity Farrah. My name is
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  Speaker 1: Chris Fara, and I am very excited to talk to
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: you about a little show called ninety eight. Fyance, honey,
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: it's before the ninety Days at season eight. It's episode fifteen,
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  Speaker 1: May Day, May Day. Yeah. I mean, this is the
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  Speaker 1: worst flight possible. This is scary. This is the kind
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  Speaker 1: of flight that when you board a flight you think
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  Speaker 1: about and then you have to take an adavan. It's
• 0:31
  Speaker 1: the worst possible case scenario. Here's the thing. I want
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  Speaker 1: marriages to work, and I want love relationships to work,
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  Speaker 1: and I want you to travel from point A to
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  Speaker 1: point B safely, and yet that's not the way it works.
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  Speaker 1: All the time. I think it's absolutely safer to travel
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  Speaker 1: by plane than it is if you don't want to
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  Speaker 1: get your heart broken and you try your luck and love.
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  Speaker 1: But at the same time, you know that's the risk,
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  Speaker 1: no risk, no reward. I don't know. Here's the thing.
• 1:03
  Speaker 1: I am very excited to talk about this episode, and
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  Speaker 1: I have a pictures galore, and it's interesting because like
• 1:09
  Speaker 1: when it comes to Laura and Burkon, we haven't had
• 1:12
  Speaker 1: them in a second. When they came back on screen
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  Speaker 1: at first, I was like, nah, now I'm good. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm this couple is so weird, and I don't understand
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  Speaker 1: the point because like, and I wasna actually gonna start
• 1:26
  Speaker 1: with them, but let's start with Laura and Burkon. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: A lot of fodder has said this. She very much
• 1:31
  Speaker 1: acts like she is in a romantic fantasy. She's obviously
• 1:36
  Speaker 1: an erotica writer, and she has had moments where she
• 1:40
  Speaker 1: trips up and lets us know that she's living in
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  Speaker 1: a fantasy land. She wants Bierkon to be like a
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  Speaker 1: provider protector who's like a hot kind of like maybe
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  Speaker 1: dark souled, but like deep in love with her guy.
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  Speaker 1: And she also wants Michael to come somehow realize that
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  Speaker 1: he's left, you know, he's let the love of his
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  Speaker 1: life leave him, and he's left to the devices of
• 2:10
  Speaker 1: coming and getting her and bringing her back like a
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  Speaker 1: caveman to America. She like has this fantasy that these
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  Speaker 1: two men I think are going to like fight over
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  Speaker 1: her and she's going to be this damsel between like
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  Speaker 1: no beer con no, Michael, No. I hate it. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I hate the idea of two men that I have
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  Speaker 1: literally made me when they would never want to meet
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  Speaker 1: like Michael. I brought Michael here, Michael wouldn't have to.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the thing, why is Michael there? In the beginning
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  Speaker 1: where like Michael loves her or b he's worried about her,
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  Speaker 1: or see which is true, she's making it seem like
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  Speaker 1: she could be, you know, being taken advantage of by
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  Speaker 1: someone who is a gambling, attic, blobbady blue. Michael shows
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  Speaker 1: up with like all of the errors of her older
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  Speaker 1: brother or father who would be like highly protective of her.
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  Speaker 1: And then as we go on we remember they're like
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  Speaker 1: they've known each other for like a year and a half.
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  Speaker 1: It's just so interesting, is what is happening with them
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  Speaker 1: and why he would spend money to come to a
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  Speaker 1: country for someone you know he doesn't love. So as
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  Speaker 1: we start, it's awkward, right, and they're making it seem
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  Speaker 1: more awkward the producers there's bad music. You know. Michael
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  Speaker 1: is full again ned Flanders energy, like taking every morsel
• 3:33
  Speaker 1: of coal being thrown his way by Beer Khan and
• 3:36
  Speaker 1: those pieces of coal being thrown his way or either
• 3:39
  Speaker 1: verbal daggers are just the energy and looks that he's getting.
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  Speaker 1: He's transforming all of those negative negative negative reactions to
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  Speaker 1: him into like very positive, light filled, almost too jovial responses.
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  Speaker 1: He's very like, well, I'm just so happy to be here. Okay, Well,
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  Speaker 1: let's see what relationships like. And ber Kan, of course
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  Speaker 1: is like you love Now. At this point, Berkan's still
• 4:06
  Speaker 1: being awkward, and Michael's like, well, I have two gifts
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  Speaker 1: for you, and Laura's like, great, I love gifts. I
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  Speaker 1: love and men give me gifts. So then he gives
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  Speaker 1: her a copy of her book. Okay, maybe it's like
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  Speaker 1: the one that's released recently and she didn't get it
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  Speaker 1: or I don't know, okay. And the second thing is
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  Speaker 1: more packing cubes, packing cubes. He had given her packing
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  Speaker 1: cubes before she loved him. Guess what he brought more.
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  Speaker 1: Nothing says romance like packing cubes. Now at this moment,
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  Speaker 1: we're supposed to be like, wait, is beer Kan still jealous?
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  Speaker 1: It could have been anything? Could you imagine me? Like?
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  Speaker 1: I got YouTube presents and one of them is packing
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  Speaker 1: cubes on a trip you're already on. No lingerie, no flower,
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  Speaker 1: no weird poem, no like sentimental gift from their inside joke,
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  Speaker 1: no pickleball ball you know it's just okay, so then
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  Speaker 1: it kind of like picks up where beer Khan I
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  Speaker 1: think it's somewhat charmed by these gifts and somewhat charmed
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  Speaker 1: that Michael isn't being mean, isn't being aggressive, and it's like, well, okay, ill,
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  Speaker 1: never mind, I'll do a one ady and guess what
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  Speaker 1: I'll show you on my city. Yeah, that's nice. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: let's get in the taxi first and let's talk about
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  Speaker 1: baseball versus soccer, riveting conversation. We'll get your hotel checked
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  Speaker 1: in and then you know, I'll take you on the town. Honey,
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  Speaker 1: let me show you my city. And we're like, oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, yes, honey, the bizarres, maybe museums, maybe like
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  Speaker 1: historical stuff, like so many things, you know, like Michael's
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  Speaker 1: first day. But his city, beer kan City is a
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  Speaker 1: shisha lounge. That's where he's mayor so of course he
• 5:41
  Speaker 1: does take him to a sorry shesha lounge and we
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  Speaker 1: get a lot of great information. So beer Khan at
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  Speaker 1: this point either a senses that there's no threat in
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  Speaker 1: this conversation and in their relationship and then becomes like
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  Speaker 1: an open book, or of course the producers are leading
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  Speaker 1: this all on. Basically Michael's like, here's the problem. I
• 6:09
  Speaker 1: got told some crazy things and that's why I'm here.
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  Speaker 1: And then he's like, Laura, does he know what we
• 6:15
  Speaker 1: talked about? And Lord's like the dead, Yeah, we talk
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  Speaker 1: about it, and so we get the same story, which,
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  Speaker 1: of course beer Kan had three Shesha places, and then
• 6:24
  Speaker 1: Corona happened. It's always weird. It's like I forgot that
• 6:27
  Speaker 1: we call it coronavirus or corona almost to the point
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  Speaker 1: where like, I understand that in the first this is
• 6:34
  Speaker 1: obviously like a little tingential, But here we are, in
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  Speaker 1: the first couple of months of like the coronavirus COVID epidemic,
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  Speaker 1: we called it coronavirus for sure, or the novel corona,
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  Speaker 1: like the novel virus or something like. You just kept
• 6:46
  Speaker 1: hearing the verbiage over and over again, the novel virus,
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  Speaker 1: and I feel like at one point we were like,
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  Speaker 1: that's so pretentious. Can we just say COVID it's fucking
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  Speaker 1: COVID or COVID nineteen. We don't even say nineteen anymore.
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  Speaker 1: All you know now, it's just COVID all. It's all COVID,
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  Speaker 1: COVID one, COVID two, COVID three anyway, So he gives
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  Speaker 1: him the story he had all those places Corona hits,
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  Speaker 1: he loses all those places. Then he can't find any
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  Speaker 1: sort of jobs, and he sells all his stuff and
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  Speaker 1: he's still have fifty thousand dollars debt, but it's all
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  Speaker 1: from the shisha places and definitely not from gambling. Now
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  Speaker 1: he just makes money from gambling, and we're supposed to
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  Speaker 1: believe he just gets even if you remember early on
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  Speaker 1: he was like, I'm gambling to like pay the debt.
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  Speaker 1: But I think he said he started with fifty thousand
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  Speaker 1: dollars in debt, so the gambling has not made a debt,
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  Speaker 1: so I guess we're supposed to believe that he's making
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  Speaker 1: just enough to live. Sometimes now Michael has more than
• 7:47
  Speaker 1: one cent and so he's like, you can't like make
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  Speaker 1: a living gambling. Now I said this, of course you
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  Speaker 1: sort of can. And that is like if you want
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  Speaker 1: to like get your fiduciary and licenses and become like
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  Speaker 1: a whole stockbroker and hope like or a wealth manager
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  Speaker 1: or portfolio manager. I mean, in a sense, that's kind
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  Speaker 1: of what that is. But of course different training and
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  Speaker 1: different research. But you know, and It's interesting because beer
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  Speaker 1: Khan is wildly confident in himself. It's like, I have
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  Speaker 1: a whole system. Don't worry about me. I know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing, I do it well. And it's like a
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  Speaker 1: little bit like, okay, if that is the case, if
• 8:22
  Speaker 1: you were, don't get mad at me. But like you
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  Speaker 1: already told us that you don't have a place to live,
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  Speaker 1: you've been sleeping on people's couches. You haven't made a debt,
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  Speaker 1: a dent in the fifty dollars. Sorry, you have not
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  Speaker 1: made a dent in the fifty k debt. So what
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  Speaker 1: exactly is your system? And how confident are you in it? Really?
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  Speaker 1: And why are you so confident in it? And can
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  Speaker 1: use some tweaking just to you know, I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: you tell me, okay, So then Berkan's like, you know what,
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  Speaker 1: thanks for asking me some questions, got some coming your way.
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  Speaker 1: Why didn't you two fall in love with each other?
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  Speaker 1: And it's weird because you know, Michael had made a
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  Speaker 1: comment like two people that fall in love should be
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  Speaker 1: best friends and the best friends and would know each
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  Speaker 1: other because they hang out all the time, and so
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  Speaker 1: they all, you know, best friends. If you hang out
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  Speaker 1: all the time, You'll go to bed at the same
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  Speaker 1: time and wake up at the same time, just like
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  Speaker 1: Laura and I. We get up at four am and
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  Speaker 1: we play pickleball and then we both run thirty miles
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  Speaker 1: and then we get into a kayak and we kayak
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  Speaker 1: forty miles and then we have a cup of coffee
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  Speaker 1: and then I leave her beat because I do not
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  Speaker 1: want to touch her. What So Yeah, after Michael says
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  Speaker 1: this whole thing about being best friends and beer Coan's like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: why an't you guys together, the editing goes like this,
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  Speaker 1: nothing happens. She's like it's a weird question to ask,
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  Speaker 1: and then they are not in the Sisha place anymore.
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  Speaker 1: They just leave that place, and next scene is that
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  Speaker 1: boy time are happening, and then Michael and beer Khan
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  Speaker 1: are like playing pool and at this point beer Kan's like, yeah, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: remember that question I just asked you in the other
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  Speaker 1: scene that didn't get answered. Producers, what a weird cut? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: So then Michael has to be like, you don't have
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  Speaker 1: to worry about me, and beer Khan's like, yeah, here's
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  Speaker 1: the thing. I mean, if you want her, go get her,
• 10:21
  Speaker 1: and he's like, yeah, I don't. Oh, if I wanted her,
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  Speaker 1: I would have had her. If I wanted her, she
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't be here. I had my opportunity. Oh beer Khan,
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  Speaker 1: Laura threw herself at me in a way that is undeniable.
• 10:36
  Speaker 1: We're like, what did she do? What did she do?
• 10:39
  Speaker 1: Did she just like have a zipper dress and then
• 10:42
  Speaker 1: just zipper the entire thing and then let it drop
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  Speaker 1: to the floor with her like naked body and it
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  Speaker 1: wiz there like a shining spotlight on her and she
• 10:52
  Speaker 1: was like take me, honey, take it. I'm yours. I'm
• 10:57
  Speaker 1: like what, I like want to know, Like, was there
• 11:00
  Speaker 1: a moment that they were playing pickleball and she like
• 11:03
  Speaker 1: raised his thigh accidentally and He's like, that's it undeniable?
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  Speaker 1: Or yeah? Was she just like drunk one night? She
• 11:11
  Speaker 1: was like dig me, get it, dig it And he
• 11:13
  Speaker 1: just was like, no, I'm scared. It's really weird. And
• 11:19
  Speaker 1: I mean this in a fucked up way to be
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  Speaker 1: like I could have had her, but I'm gonna make
• 11:24
  Speaker 1: your life a living hell, and I'm definitely gonna put
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  Speaker 1: a lot of effort into her. When Michael says that
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  Speaker 1: he could have had her, but he didn't want her.
• 11:31
  Speaker 1: He's also like not didn't want her, but he's like
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  Speaker 1: this is how he says it. I could have had it.
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  Speaker 1: She threw a pass at me. I told her that
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't reciprocate. Why are you here? And like, how
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  Speaker 1: can you spend so much time with someone who has
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  Speaker 1: like made a pass at you and you're not into them?
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  Speaker 1: Why are you there? Then? Is her like affection for you?
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  Speaker 1: Like yeah? And is it feed your ego? Are you
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  Speaker 1: lying to yourself and you do want to be with her?
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  Speaker 1: Are you playing hard to get? Why would Laura want
• 12:03
  Speaker 1: to continue to spend time with someone that much if
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  Speaker 1: she has feelings for him and she made it clear
• 12:09
  Speaker 1: and he wasn't into it. I mean I would just
• 12:11
  Speaker 1: be honest, like I couldn't if you're my friend, like
• 12:14
  Speaker 1: if we're hanging out and we have like common interests
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  Speaker 1: and this has happened to me where like I've felt
• 12:20
  Speaker 1: like someone and I are like really jelling and we
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: hang out and this person's calling me and they want
• 12:24
  Speaker 1: to talk to me, they want to hang out with me,
• 12:25
  Speaker 1: like all that stuff, and then I'm like, okay, cool,
• 12:29
  Speaker 1: feels like you like me? Do you do you want
• 12:31
  Speaker 1: to like go out. Yeah like that. I've had a
• 12:34
  Speaker 1: time where like someone was like, no, I'm not into
• 12:37
  Speaker 1: you that way, and I sure as hell never spent
• 12:39
  Speaker 1: one fucking more more soul of a moment time talking
• 12:43
  Speaker 1: to that person. No why because here's the thing. I'm
• 12:47
  Speaker 1: not saying people can't be friends. It's like people can
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: be friends if like that line isn't crossed and like
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: no one likes the other one you know enough to
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  Speaker 1: like make a move. But if like someone feels like
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: there's a chemistry and a vibe and they say something
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: about it and the person denies it, I mean, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I guess it's it maybe a stronger person to be like, Okay,
• 13:07
  Speaker 1: then let's go back to being friends. That's fine. You
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  Speaker 1: don't want to you vibe with me this much like
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  Speaker 1: your connection is this loose and this fun and like
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  Speaker 1: this familiar, But you can't be with me because why
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  Speaker 1: you I'm not a your type or you think that
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  Speaker 1: you are gonna be with someone else. It's that what
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  Speaker 1: is like wittier or you have a better banter or
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  Speaker 1: better kem. Is that what you're like holding on for
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  Speaker 1: or are you holding on for like a physical specimen
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  Speaker 1: that's different from me, that you then hope will have
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  Speaker 1: this connection that you're what I guess more attracted to.
• 13:41
  Speaker 1: Like now I do have like a rejection dysphoria for sure,
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: but I need you to tell me, like how does
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: that work? It's just I don't know. It's just like
• 13:49
  Speaker 1: it doesn't make sense to me. So at the same
• 13:51
  Speaker 1: time this does feel heavily produced. Emma also feels heavily produced. God,
• 13:58
  Speaker 1: I wish that I didn't say that, because I wish
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  Speaker 1: that I could just like live in a world of
• 14:02
  Speaker 1: it not being so heavy handed. But it feels so contrived,
• 14:06
  Speaker 1: like the setups of things like yeah, the Laura Michael
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  Speaker 1: set up with Beer Khan feels you know, yeah fake.
• 14:14
  Speaker 1: But the Emma thing, honey, let's get into it. So
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: we pick up on Emma. She's ten minutes to go
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: see Mohammed. She is driving through Casablanca, honey, and she
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: has a monologue where she's like, guess what, I still
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: have my old ring and I doesn't have it on me,
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: but also like have it on me literally like on
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: my finger. It just feels good and like, oh my god, girl,
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: did you have that? First of all, how expensive is
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: that ring? And did you get that ring? Like, looked
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: at did you buy that ring? She makes it seem
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: like she has to pay for all her men. Okay,
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: So then she goes to a cafe, honey, And at
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: the cafe there's a nice gentleman. He's like, do you
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: want someone to drink? And she's like, nope, no, I'm
• 14:49
  Speaker 1: gonna wait for my guy. And then she texts him
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  Speaker 1: that she's there. She sends a picture of the table
• 14:54
  Speaker 1: she's at, and she sees that he's online and he
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: doesn't write that, so she calls him, you know, like
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: I'm assuming with WhatsApp. He doesn't respond. So then the
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: guy comes back and she's like, you know, I need
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: a cappuccino, and then Mohammed who I guess looking back,
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: it was a little shady that we didn't know what
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: his face looked like. Didn't seem like I think either.
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: I think Matt or Jake of Reality Gaze were like,
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: he probably would have signed off that release. We would
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: have seen that face if he ever made it on screen.
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, yeah, I guess that's right. So anyway,
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: so sitting there, honey, and she's beautifully at this gorgeous cafe,
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: with like nice waiters and a Botega bad kind of
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: look at the weave, look at the gold hardware. It's why.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: Suddenly she gets a text from Mohammed and it says,
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: leave me alone. I don't want to see you anymore.
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: I have a fiance and it has like an emoji,
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: and I want to talk about what the emoji is
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: because it took me a long time and I'm still
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: kind of being like, let's talk about this. She's pissed
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: as hell because she's like, you told me to come here,
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: and I think the emoji and I don't know for
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: one hundred percent sure. I try to blow it up.
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: It looks like the emoji has a ballooness to it,
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  Speaker 1: which wouldn't make sense if it was a smiley face
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: with like one of the tears kind of either coming
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: out of the eye or crying and tears coming out
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: one of those. She's like, you invited me to this cafe.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: Why are you not going to show up? So here's
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: two things. Yeah, why if it's real? Then he was
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: what fucking with her? Because what he knew there was
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: a camera crew and he just hates her that much
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: that he wanted to make her look bad like or
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: wanted to like shame her like in like a fucked
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  Speaker 1: up kind of high school way or b. This is
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: set up by the producers because they don't even need him.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: All they would need is the promise of some dude
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: they have to blur a face and they just have
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: to get a production assistant on WhatsApp to text her
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: at the same time. You know what I'm saying, I'm upset.
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: And the reason why I'm upset is because, Yeah, I
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: was tricked, I was sharped. It would have been so
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: fun and I get like we've had the trope of
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: like a second Hurrah. Like that's basically what happened to
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Vanya right like in a in a different way, because
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: Vanya had met obviously Boso off you know online, went
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: met Bozo and then like that didn't work out, and
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: then a new dude there and that was the second
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: round of her being like in a relationship abroad. And
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: of course Emma Mohammed is you know, was supposed supposedly
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: the person she met before is I ed, So I
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: really would have enjoyed like a continuation and for us
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: to meet Mohammad or whatnot. And the fact that we
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: don't meet him, yet definitely makes me feel like it
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: was all fake, a fraud. I really feel that way.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: I'm upset. You can't do that to me. I don't
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: deserve it. Okay, I'll tell you what I deserve. What
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: dogs Elise and Josh or as Elise is now call
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: him Joshua. Alise and Joshua. This dog honey is like
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: me looking at look at this dog honey. Alista and
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: Josh's whole segment, the whole actual episode starts with like
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: a bunch of dogs frolicking on a BESI and I'll
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: say frollicking a lot. They're wet, they're having fun, They're
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: like poodles. I don't know if there's like a dog walker,
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: if they're random Australian dogs, just MutS and a water honey.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: But this dog staring into camera is exactly me staring
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: at the producers being like, how much longer do I
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: have to deal with this? I mean, I wonder, like
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: how many production teams they are right now on Sharp Productions,
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: And I wonder if there's like the A team and
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: the B team. I wonder if there are producers for
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: niney D Fiance that are known as being a little
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: more natural or allowing like natural storylines to happen. I
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: don't quite understand why they have to be so heavy handed.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: I mean, I guess I do. It's for the drama
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: or whatever, and certainly they're not the only ones to
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: do so. But some some times I want to sometimes
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: I think, in the beginning, was it always like this,
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: or was it just newer and so I wasn't so savvy?
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: Or again, did they like blow their load, you know,
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: season two, and now we're like, you know, season eight,
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: and we have to like make the puppets do the dance.
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not quite sure. You tell me so.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: Lese is not doing well. Those dogs not doing great.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: Elise also spiraling. The apartment's messy, and she hates it.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: She hates that it's messy. She's like, it's a frat
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: house in here. You can imagine what it smells like.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: There's stuff everywhere. There's not a clean towel to be had.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: There's no more paper towels, you know, there's no toilet paper.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: There's like, you know, gross hair, like pube hair, like
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: in the shower. You know, there's about maybe like two
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: tablespoons of milk left and a carton and she doesn't
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: even know if like they've been drinking at a hole,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: you know, like the toilet seed is always up and
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: there's just pe everywhere. She hates it, but she he
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: wakes up and this is of course like the morning
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: after the whole nap debacle, and Josh Joshua is nowhere
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: to be found. He has just left her a text
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: like I'm out, I'll be back soon, and she's not happy.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: She's like, I want to leave. This isn't great. She's
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: like texted him like where are you? He dishearted it
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: was he. She can tell he's being weird. She starts crying.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: The producers are there, and then honey, he walks in
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: the door. He takes one look at them, tears, and
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: he walks right back out, walks right back out. Now,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you this right there. I don't know
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: how I would get over it if I'm like and
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: I watched someone walk in see me, clock me, and
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: be like, oh no no. It's interesting because it's easy
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: to see, like from a third party. And I'm not
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: saying Elise is perfect and I'm not saying Josh is perfect,
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: but you could really tell he doesn't want to fucking
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: deal with her. This is really early on. If I
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: was em emotionally instead of crying and crying and someone's
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: first opportunity to show me they care about me, or like,
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: is even surprised that you know, I'm in an emotional state,
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: Like if that person doesn't give me any care, I
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: think it's a really bad sign. And he immediately his
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: first reaction is to get the fuck out, is to
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: run away. So anyway, he was like, whoa, what happened?
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: I can't do that accent. She's like, why did you
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: just walk away when you saw me crying? He's like, yeah,
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: just saw you crying, and I thought she needs some space. Also,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: just I need some space. You know, you saw me
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: crying and you thought I don't get the fuck out
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: of here. You didn't think, oh my god, is my
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: loved one? Okay. It's just so telling that he knew
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: that the reason why she was crying wasn't important to him.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: It wasn't important his like, his own well being, his
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: own comfort level is more important. And I think, yeah,
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: I think it's a great it's a great thing to know.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: Almost I'm like, I don't want to like pull the lease,
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: but like, is that something I should do? Should I
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: like try and fake cry early on in a situationship
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: or whatever, and just like see how they react. It
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: can't be a fake cry after a situation where they
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: think I'm mad at them because the nat thing happened.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: It's like a I'd have to do a fake cry
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: and just see how they react to emotion. Anyway. I Yeah,
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: sometimes I feel like you do have to test people
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: early on. Okay, why do I say that. I'll say,
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: some people lead with like intention and openness and directness
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: and honesty and I and you can feel that when
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: it's happening. And I think that when you feel that,
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: there's like a certain amount of like ease and like
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: comfort and like oh great. And I also think that
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: there's oftentimes a murkiness and like someone being like not
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: clear or not their actions are not like aligning with
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: their words. And that type of person will waste your
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: time unless you test them, test them. Don't let people
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: waste your time. Honestly, I'm not talking about like one week.
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: I'm talking like, you know, if someone has like shown
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: a pattern of being a little unclear, find a way
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: to see if this person is being real with you,
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: because yeah, I think that people just want to buy
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: time without showing their cards, and then not showing their
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: cards like in romantic relationships is really shitty. Like sure,
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: if you're beer gone, you don't want to show your cards,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: especially if you're gambling. But the point of being in
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: a relationship I think is emotional vulnerability and openness and
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: to like connect, and I think the way you do
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: that is like showing your cards, is like being truthful
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: about what you want and like being able to communicate
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: and also like having respect for you know, both parties involved. Yeah,
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: so to me, Josh doesn't respect her at all. Now
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: here's the thing. I can say that. Now it's hard
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: though when you're in it, and she I think feels it.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: But here's the thing. Let's move on and then I'll
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: get to her parent conversation. I think it's really interesting.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: So he, you know, was gone. She's like are you
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: at NATS? And he was like really upset by that.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: He paused when he answered, do you guys notice that?
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: She's like, were you at NATS? And he was like no.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: Then he's like, no, my job called and they want
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: me to do a boat thing, but I won't do
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: the boat thing, So I said no, and I got
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: to drop in the keys. We're like, oh, I thought
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: we were fired from your job or you're on probation only, Like,
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: if you're fired and you are on probation from your
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: job either one. I'm assuming that if your job calls
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: you and you want work again, you would have to
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: like do what they're saying. I mean, I don't know,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: how are you on probation in the jobs? Like do
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: this thing? You're like, nah, are you still with that job?
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: Doesn't make any sense. Also, would a job want you
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: to drive a boat to a new place if you're
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: the type of person that's gonna fucking willy nearly take
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: a boat enjoy ride around like a twelve year old.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm what, I don't believe it. So then
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: they go surfing and that part happens, and then they
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: go get sandwiches, and I agree with Alice that I
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: do hate fish. That's fine. She's like, what chicken schnitzel.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: I'm like, girl, come on. So they get two chicken
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: sandwiches and we find out that Australian people don't refer
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: to ketchup as ketchup? How do they call it? Tomato.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: Just can they call it tomato, which is interesting because
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: there's also tomatoes, So like, honest, like, this is where
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: it's weird to me. I'm like, that chicken sandwich could
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: have a slice of tomato. And then if you also
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: wanted to have a ketchup? Are you, like, Hey, can
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: you give me that sandwich with tomato tomato? I want
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: a sandwich with tomato and tomato? And would that person know? Okay,
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: one slice of tomato and a side of ketchup, honey,
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: tomato tomato, ketchup, ketchup. I'm just kidding. Okay, we get
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: a piece of information. Josh has a son and he
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: was real busy taking care of that son. Hu. And
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: the son has a mom, and the mom's gotten remarried.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: Uh huh and the mom's and like so the son
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: and the mom and then have has a brand new family,
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: uh huh uh huh. And that's who's resually probably taking
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: care of them. And they decide that because you know,
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: Joss isn't shit, that they have no need for him,
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: and they're gonna move. Aw, They're gonna move at least
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: an hour plane ride because it's better for the family,
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: which Josh is not a part of and Josh is like, yeah,
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: when that happened and made me, you know, spiral and
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: you know it's been really hard. And this is something
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: that Elise has to really hear because the least then
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: is like, oh, don't worry about that. When I was
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: also upset, I spiraled and we're like, no, bitch. What
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: he's saying is he is in a downward trajectory and
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: he's telling you that he doesn't have his life together,
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: that he's drinking and partying all the time because he's
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: like massively depressed. And then he's like, but also, I'm
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: working on myself, so you don't have to worry about it,
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: and it's like, nope, you're not working on yourself. You
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: don't have a place to live, you don't have a job.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: You have a Chris and not even a me, not
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: even a Chris Farah. Someone fun that it's a podcast
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: that you should give five stars to and talks about
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: dumb television shows and did a two parts of The
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: Secret Lives, a Mormon wives drama. It was heavily triggered
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: by that because of her own past issues, but like,
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: that's not even what he has. He has a Chris,
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: that Chris just works out with him, has tattoos. And
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: it's interesting because this moment happens where he, you know,
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: gets the chicken with her. They go back to the
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: place she's still in hell because it's so dirty. He's like, Okay, bye,
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go hang out with my best friend, Chris.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: Ha ha. And he's like, Chris. She keeps fucking talking
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: about how broke I am. I hate it, Chris. She
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: keeps saying that I'm not stable and broke and living
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: off of my friends, and it's really emasculating. Now, two
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: things can be true. It is emasculating because you know,
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: you don't got your masculine shit together, if that's what
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: you're saying. But the second thing is is that Elise
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: definitely has a fixation on your financial situation or lack thereof.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: And Alise has no problem like repeatedly pretty much asking you,
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: and I mean this, why are you poor? Like that's
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: kind of like every part of her argument, like why
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: would you live with Nat? Why would you let Nat
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: like have financial like you know, help for you, Like
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: why are you living with Chris now? Like why? Like
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: she just keeps asking him that and I feel like
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: what she again is she's just like, why are you
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: so poor? Why are you poor? Why don't you have
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: a dad that's going to help you? Tell me why
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: you're poor? Tell me why you choose to act like
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: a poor person that has no money. Why are you
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: shaming yourself by allowing women to pay for you? Why
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: do you have like a shitty job, and why are
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: you bad at your shitty job enough to have you know,
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: a probation on your shitty Like why are you not
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: good as a man with money? Like that's kind of
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: like what her vibe is. And I don't want to
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: say man with money, but it's like because he says
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: emasculating and kind of because she's like you can tell
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: that they're a little traditional. Okay, So it's that's the
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: lol's part of me is that she literally is like
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: she makes making him feel so bad, and he like
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: tells Chris, He's like, yeah, she's you know, like you
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: don't know, deal with her making me feel bad? And
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: it's like, well do other women do this too? Like
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: I just want to know, Like you said you had
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: a girlfriend before her, this was like your trauma before
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: the whole kid thing was that you had a girlfriend
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: that wanted you to make more money and that was really,
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: you know, upsetting towards you. And I think that Joshua
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: knows that his lifestyle is like not exciting for a
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: serious woman or a serious partner. Sure to like buff
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: Australian guys with like aging faces could be somewhat fun now,
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: but I mean there seems to be like, you know,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: an absolute almost like Laura style fantasy land for Josh. Right, Like,
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: what does he think is going to happen? Does josh
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: think that someone like Elise can be happy the way
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: that she looks with whatever he can provide, which is
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: two chickens, which is on the beach. He's upset, right,
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: He's like, but they're gonna start talking about She's like,
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be used. You know, I had
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: this situation, she tells us whole the situation. Two things.
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: She had a situation where she got financially abused by
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: like some con man, right, and her parents had to
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: like help her out. And that's why she's also like,
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: I don't trust, you know, men to not use me.
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: And she like accuses him of maybe using her and
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: for money, and he's like, I haven't made you pay
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: for one thing? And she's like, oh, really, I guess
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: I didn't pay for the goldfish crackers. Great. Also, why
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: would I pay for you running me to some bar
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: for some stupid race, And like, what do you think
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna pay for anyway? God bless. So it's like,
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I looked at at something and I he
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: is upset about that, and she, of course then gives
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: us another piece of information, which is that her past
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: isn't just this one con man. We've known that she
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: has been engaged a bunch of times. She's really excited
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: about that. We start to see pictures. She's like the
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: first guy that I was into, and we see her
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: like a picture from her past, like, oh girl, there's
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: our girl. Oh my god, Alise, honey, Elise. Alise has
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: always had great hair. She's also always loved to tan Alise.
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: Of course, Yeah, I definitely got a nose job and
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: definitely got like that botox made her like you know, eyebrows,
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: like you know, higher godless, she got a lot done.
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: She tells us a really sad story, like she fell
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: in love with this dude. She moves to Florida. They
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: get engaged and he passes away, and she says it's
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: from issues she had no idea about, which sounds like drugs, right,
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: sounds like a hidden drug problem. Or I guess it
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: could be like someone unliving themselves because of depression. Either way,
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: obviously really traffic and really horrible. And she also is like,
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: that's another reason why I don't trust men. So as
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: he's working with Chris, she goes and gets juice at
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: a place called Calie Pressed Juice, which I was really
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: excited about, and she calls her parents, Woody and Beth,
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: and she's They're like, well, how's it going, And she's like, oh, well, honey,
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: I caught him in lies. Now at this moment, we're like, oh,
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: oh gosh, this is what's gonna happen. Like her parents's
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: gonna be like, no, Alise, you can't trust him, come back.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: But that's not what happens. Just caught him in a lie.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: He said he was looking at his parents. He's living
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: with Nat. They're like, you know what, girl, we know
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: you and you love to pick out the flaws. What
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: are some good things about him? And she's like wait
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: what She's like, yeah, Alise, okay, what are some positive
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: things about your relationship that you don't just like focus
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: on all the bad things. And she's like, oh, well,
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: I can tell he's obsessed with me. He made his
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: wallpaper me without me asking, which lol. Now here's the thing.
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: It is flattering for someone to make your wallpaper you
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: without without asking. I think that he truly is like
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: understandably attracted to her physically and like a wallpaper of
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: like one of her Instagram pictures, you know, surely is
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: hot and he can just like be out in a
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: boot and then like you know, someone sees a lock screen,
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: they're like, who's that? He can be like mine? Now,
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: I don't know because of everything I said earlier about
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: how he reacted to her emotional state, if he, of
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: course is actually into her. In fact, if I was
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: to throw something out there, I would say, from what
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: I'm seeing, like only physically, he's not asked her about
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: like her past relationships, like this story of like this
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: really tragic story about her ex that passed away. Think
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: about if that story was told to us through her
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: telling him in a scene where she would have opened up,
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: maybe because he would have asked like something she would
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: have opened up, he would have listened and sat with
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: her shared space as she told this story, and there
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: would be like a different level of the relationship, but
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: we have never seen that. She tells the story and
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: a confessional as like a reason, why does he even
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: know it? Anyway? Then you know then her parents really
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: her dad says something very insightful when it comes to
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: like being with someone in the first couple of weeks,
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: why don't you try discovering more and judging less. Discover more,
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: judge less. And I feel like there's something I've heard before,
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: like to not be judgmental, Like can you replace that
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: with an honest emotion of like curiosity, And I think
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: it's really important. I am someone who judges a lot,
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: like and to try and where you can give yourself
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: space for different types of thinking, because a if you're
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: a negative person, or you worry a lot, or you
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: judge a lot, or like you know, you're insecure about
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: you know, relationships, you can get almost in a habit
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: loop of like always thinking the bad thing for sure
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: and always judging and always sort of like being like
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: is as good as it's bad? Do they like me
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: because of this? Do you like me because of that?
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: How is their behavior in relationship to other behaviors. Blah
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah. And it's hard, right because we're
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: all looking for red flags. And I just got done
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: saying that. Like, you know, if someone walked in on
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: me crying and walked out, I'd be like, get the
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: fuck out of here, you know, And so that's judgmental,
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: And so yeah, what do you be, Like, Chris, why
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: don't you try discovering? I would have to discover why
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: this person ran away from my tears, just like trying
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: to adjust the way you see a situation from a
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: negative to a positive or a negative to a neutral. Yeah,
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: it's more neutral, right, Like discovering could be good, could
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: be bad, mostly good though it's the because there's a
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: when you I guess the word discover almost is like
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: an exciting possibility of like what's here, what's new? But
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: the good thing about discovering something is it feels like
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: you have a propensity to find something and then there's
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: no pressure to have to like keep it or make
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: it meaningful in your life. To discover something and then
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: also is easily discarded and let it go, you know,
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: because a you trust you'll discover something more or B
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: because you feel so safe in yourself you know your
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: discovery actually is not going to help you, it's going
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: to hinder you. Yeah, as I said, I think it's
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: if you can be mindful and aware of changing like
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: the way that you view certain situations, it's great. And
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: the reason why is because, yes, as you get older,
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: you just sort of do the same things over and
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: over again. And I think that like growth can happen
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: obviously when you approach things differently, and it's really hard
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: to change, like your perception you're thinking in the way
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: that you do things, the way you see things. I
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: think there's like a really great challenge and also like
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: a it's okay, it's a good challenge to be able
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: to keep yourself positive. But also there's like an ultimate
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: end goal I sometimes have. And that's why I maybe
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: like do the mindfulness stuff and the breath and the
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: stuff I'm talking about now at the end of the day,
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: which is like to control my mind. It's not gonna
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: ever happen, for sure. I would love to control my mind.
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: What that means is like my emotional state, my nervous state,
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: my mind. I'd love to be like a Buddhist or
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: someone like a you know, like a mindfulness teacher that
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: can just really hone in on separating emotional my emotions
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: from my feeling or sorry, my feelings from my thoughts,
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: and trusting that things pass quite easily and quieting a
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: part of your mind if you don't want to hear it.
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: That would be great. Anyway, That's why anyway, that's why
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: mindfulness is very important. And I think that like if
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: you can exert control over your mind in every way,
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: or if you can practice that, if you can practice
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: the discipline of training your thoughts and or making your
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: thoughts neutral and positive if they are negative, like, it's
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: only going to serve you and your circumstances discover more,
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: judge less or I guess like be curious, you know,
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: start with curiosity. Let's move on to rickontristion piece. Someone
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: I don't want to have to be curious about they
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: waking up in bunk beds. Honey, it's hot. Now we
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: know that he has to take a shower, and he's
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: gonna make a big to do of it. He's gonna
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: go in the shower. He like wants to not wear
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: clothes there, Like he just wants to have a towel, like,
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: so he runs out naked and then he gets in
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: the shower and then he uses little cups of water
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: to like cool them off. This is what's interesting. How
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: cold is the water? Because it's hot there, like, so
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: how cold is the water? He makes it seem like
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: the water is like tap freezing from you know, like
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: pipes in Chicago. He's screaming. She's like, he hates the water.
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: He's a little baby in the cold water. He's like
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: a you know, like, oh my god. Sometimes when it's hard,
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: because Trisha sometimes to me seems like she's over the
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: fuck him. And then sometimes she's like I really love him,
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: and I'm like no, why. How So when he is
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: done showering, her dad is like, let's talk, and she's
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: like wait a second, one second, hey, babe, we're gonna
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: eat some cassava leaves, your favorite those like bitter cassava
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: leaves you love so much? Can you help these ladies
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: pick them? And these are the same ladies. I had
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: to watch him come out in his towel, right, and
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: he uses his hands to I guess, devein or devein
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. The leaf and they're like
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: his pinky looks like a big thumb, and we're like babes.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: His whole demeanor looks like a thumb. He is a thumb.
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: I have never seen a more thumblike person. Then he's
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: he's thumb. He's the thumbiest. Come on. I was so
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: happy when they said that, A because I like body
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: shaming men. And also yeah, just because of that, do
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: I like body shaming men? No? But why will I
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: do it? I will body shame a man who my
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: soul and my heart has let me know has body
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: shamed women. I won't do I won't punch down to
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: someone who I think hasn't done that. But Rick has,
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: I feel like has judged women about their looks before.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: And so I mean my heart of heart is telling
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: me that, so I feel no remorse. Also, he does
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: the like a thumb. So basically, Dad is like, here's
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: a thing that asshole is indecisive about having kids with you.
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: If you know one thing in this world, it's that
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: you are a goddamn queen, and if you want kids,
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: you get kids, and don't fuck around with some asshole
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: who just wants to have fun with you, who's not
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: serious with you. And who certainly does not care about
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: how you want to live in the future. She's like, yeah,
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: I can't even imagine my life without kids, this is
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: what she kind of says. But I love Rick, and
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: you know, I have to like talk him into having kids.
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: I have to like convince him. The dad is like
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, what no, And she's like, well, I don't
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: know to do because if he doesn't want to have kids, Like,
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: are you gonna make me choose between him and you?
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: And he's like, yes, I'm sorry, I'm gonna make you
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: choose between yourself and him. It's not your choosing between
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: like stupid ass Rick and your family. At the end
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: of the day, if he's not going to give you
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: a basic thing that you want and how you like
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: want to live in your future, then you're choosing between
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: Rick and yourself. Isn't that so sucky? Like she's she
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: thinks she loves him. I mean, I can't imagine that
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: she you know, that's real. I'm not saying that she
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: doesn't love him, but I can't imagine that what she's
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: feeling is actually love. But she will give up every
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: part of herself if she, of course decide to be
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: with him, right, we know that she would like move
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: to America. He's not gonna have kids, he's too old.
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: He has the kids, he's just gonna be like take
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: care of them instead, he's just gonna like make her
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: push play on his stupid hair lives. And you know,
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: and like if she makes him feel inadequate or I'm sorry,
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: if he feels inadequate at any moment, he's going to
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: take it out on her. And that could easily be
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: cheating on her. And guess what he's gonna feel inadequate.
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: Why have you seen Trish? First of all, he's jealous
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: of Trish, like you know there like get Trish to
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: America and watch them people look at her, and then
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: tell me how Rick's going to treat Trish. Gorgeous ash ass, right,
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: gorgeous ass young ass Trish in America. Well, no, he's
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: gonna treat her like he like she owes him. And
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: then if he feels bad about himself what she will
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: at any time, it's gonna be even worse for her.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: Got it. There's a moment where it almost feels like
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: her dad knows it, and it's like he you know,
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: he just can't say it by word or name yet
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: because it would seem crazy, like this man isn't shit.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: I don't know. So basically, she's like in a very
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: hard place, and we feel for her. It's hard though,
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: because I don't understand why she loves him. We don't
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: understand why she's like he's a really good man because
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: he's nice to you and like says he loves you.
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: I guess, yeah, he just is nice and says that
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: he loves her sometimes. Did she ever forget the bathing suit?
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: Remember how she wanted a new bathing suit and he
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: yelled at her about that for asking. I don't know.
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: So we'll see what happens with them. I really, you know,
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: want her to just leave him immediately. It's it has
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: to happen in your god. Okay, So let's move on, Honey,
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: Stig and Aviva. So they're snorkeling and hanging in a hammock. Honey,
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: she's wearing an orange bikini with like a light blue
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: border and like a gene textured bucket hat. The gene
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: textured bucket hat is two thousand and two. It is
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's Hailey Duff, It's Hillary Duff. It's she
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: looks like Hillary Duff. She looks like Hilly Duf and
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: Hillary Duff for sure kind of it's she It's like,
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: so y two K, I'm dead over it. I love it,
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: I hate it, I hate it, I love it. Would
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: you wear this? Would you wear that hat? Here's the thing.
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: Of course I would not wear that hat, but I
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: would look crazy in that hat. She is the perfect
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: age where she's I mean, she looks like she's plucked
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: from like my life twenty years ago. That's so crazy,
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: so spring, her aunt has sprung the nest. She's left
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: bleaze and like, guess what. None of what she did
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: was important because they're still together and they you know,
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: they really didn't get to like prove anything otherwise. Like
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: she literally Aliva's just like yeah, I trust him, So
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: thanks anyway for all of that wasted time. Okay, so
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: you're like, okay, they're in the hammock and he's just like,
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: you know what, I love you. She's like, oh, thanks,
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: I love you. She's she gives a reaction that's just
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: kind of like oh thanks being are they stone all
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: the time? I don't know, Like definitely her reaction isn't like,
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: oh my god, the person I love is saying I
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: love you for the first time. She's like, I'm great,
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: I love you. He's like, it's so great to hear
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: it back. You're like, oh was that great? Was that
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: a great moment in your life? So then they go
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: to have like a Mayan cooking class. Oh my god,
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: I love this so much. Oh goodness, gracious, how I
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: would love to get really good rate. I'm making fresh
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: massa corn tortillas, and it's like, you have to like
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: use a certain kind of like massa. It's like I
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: looked it up. Oh no, it's like a massa with
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: a different word in it. Well again, I'll tell you
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: what it is, because you know massa. Bob's Redmill mix
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: makes a massa, but there's massa herrena massenda. If you
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: want to actually do any of this, yeah, massenda is
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: really really good too. There's like, and then do you
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: nix nix tumalies. So here's the thing. If you've made
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: corn tortillas, you know this. Obviously no gluten. And it
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: was interesting that she said this. Yet the Mayans didn't
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: have wheat, and it's because, like you know, wheat was
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: like a whole thing. We had a process. God bless.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: So you take the corn, the corn, you like, grind
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: it down, and then you are supposed to put like
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: an acid lime juice or something, and then it becomes
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: with amount of grinding like a yeah, like a Doughey
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: kind of pasty dough, if you will. And then yeah,
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: from there we can fry it. We put we pound
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: it flat, and we fry it. And if you care
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: about this kind of stuff, it's important that you get
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: either organic or heirloom corn. It's why what I was
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: saying before, like the names of the kind of like
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: massa subcategories that give you high quality corn tortillas. You know,
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: I care about such things. So besides that, though, they
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: have this thing, and this is the funniest part of
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: the entire episode for me, fifty five minutes of this
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: recap let me tell you. So they're like doing the
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: corn and it's kind of like a thing where you know,
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: like when someone's going to show you how to playpool,
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: where they come up behind you and then like you know,
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: they're doing it that way. It's all sexual, like, you know,
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: So she's grinding the corn and he's like, you know,
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: grinding behind her, and you know what I mean, And
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: they have this perfect shot of this lady honey looking
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: on and I mean, first of all, a you can
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: see in front of her there's like chicken being smoked,
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: and you're like, oh my god, it's chicken over like
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: a fire. You can imagine how good it is. Be
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: her face's judgy, it's not it's she discovered what she discovered,
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: and she's judging it. A She's like, that's not even
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: make a corn tortilla. I don't understand. You both need
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: to push the rock like that. She's not that weak.
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: He's like, let me help you push the rocks. Thanks me.
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: Then they eat and you know, I'm happy for them,
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: and then they have a conversation about her period. Now
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: here's the thing. The entire streets of Nane Fiance have
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: been clocking her confessionals and doing a thing. We're like,
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: she looks different to her confessionals, and she does, you know,
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: look a little different, And so here we are. It's like,
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: have you had your period? And her answer at first
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: was like I was supposed to do, but it hasn't
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: happened yet. But then she says, well, I'm like irregular
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: all the time, so I don't really know. But also
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: it could be happening right now. And then she says
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: the thing that we all love, which I feel like
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: is the producers like made her say this so that
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: it would be like the Bridge where she's like, I
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: fought you literally just got done saying how like you
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: only wanted to use condoms blah blah blah blah, and
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: now you're like, whatever, okay if I'm pregnant or whatever,
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: and he's like, yeah, yeah, somehow we're now supposed to
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: believe that he's in love with her, that he's clocked
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: that she hasn't had her period, and that he's like,
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: you know what, let's hope it's a yes, let's get
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: that test and let's just let's do it. And she
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: is really thrilled about that. I mean it really, I guess,
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: And technically it is like a little bit of a
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: fairy tale for her. It's what she wanted, you know,
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: Like she's been wanting to have like, you know, full
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: on raw dog sex and then she wants to be
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: with him and she wants to be married, you know,
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: and she's getting what she wants. Yes, he put the
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: little hiccup in of maybe like using condoms, but he
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: surely now is like, let's shot up the club and yeah,
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: he wants to make up deby with her, and it
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: probably already did. He's like, yeah, I want you to
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: take a test here before you go back. And I'm like,
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: why is she going back? Why is she going back
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: to what a very lucrative job. It seems that you
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: guys are in love. I don't know why. Why it
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: has to be that you moved to America. Why don't
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: you guys just stay here and live your life. He's
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: famous here anyway. So our last couple, my loves, can
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: you believe it? Are Lisa and Daniel? Just boring old
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: Lisa and Daniel? Not much happening there, Okay, So obviously
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: we are hot on the heels of her having confessed
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: all of her sins A, the marriages, B the lesbianism.
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: How much he's been practiced practicing it a lot, honey,
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: She's been practicing slight of hand and lesbianism for a
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: long hand, long time. I mean, I'm mad at her
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: for this reason. I would have loved for her to
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: really really sit in when she was like, we should
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: love what we want to love. You know what you
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: think I'm evil and I haven't done anything when I've
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: been buying all your clothes. Fuck you. That was her
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: last episode. Unfortunately, she came back around to being like
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: obsessed with him, and he also went from being like
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: you're evil to the being like, but I still want
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: to see you. This is gonna work because my uncle
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: could forgive you, which makes no goddamn sense. So now
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: they weren't in a van to go visit the uncle,
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: and she's like, will you speak first? And he's like, yeah,
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: you don't get that. You're in Nigeria, Like you're not
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: supposed to speak at all. You're supposed to not be
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: a lesbian, be have hair, sea, never ever talk and
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: is kneil wherever you're suposed to be knel until I
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: tell you to move? And also do you know how
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: to do that head wrap? That's what you're supposed to
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: be doing? She yeah, it's like it's it is telling
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: how far off she is from like the knowledge of
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: the workings of like that kind of culture. Will you
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: speak first? Yeah, girl, they don't care about you like
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: they you know, like you don't have bearing here, you
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: barely need to speak. So then the uncle comes up,
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: Honey in full blown purple and a purple ensemble. Modestus
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: is his name, and basically Daniel has to be like hey, uncle, Hey.
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: So remember when I said it was two marriages, Well,
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: let's go ahead and add three. And remember when I
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: said that she did hook up that one time with
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: a girl, but it was like a lug situation, like
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: lesbian until graduation. That's such like a millennial term. I
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: don't think they even use it anymore. Yeah, that's so,
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: oh my god, they don't. Yeah, that's an old term.
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: It's a generational term. Kids are not lugs until graduation.
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: But that was like a whole thing in the nineties,
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: in the two thousands. It's a homophobic thing. But basically
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: it's like saying that girls in college will get drunk,
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: you know, fucked up and drink and like you know,
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: kiss other girls or whatever like obviously hooked up with
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: girls or whatever, and that it was only until graduation
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: and then they you know, like graduate and they're like
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: back to dick. But like, of course, we're beautifully in
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: a generation of people like really living their authentic selves.
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: And so I didn't realize how archaic and extinct that
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: term was until just now. That's so funny good anyway.
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: But that's I still think it's a funny joke. And
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: so yeah, they're like Daniel's like, yeah, I lied. I
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: did say that she was a lug, right. But here's
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: the thing. She didn't just stop at the graduation, honey.
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: She kept practicing it for twenty years. She was a
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: lesbian until retirement. She's allure. Oh god, it's good. Yeah,
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: she's one of those allures. Honey. She retired and then
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: she's like, maybe we'll see what happens now, and she
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: found me he he, Okay, so now here is where
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: she again does not know her place, and I'm not listen.
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: I'm a feminist. I don't want to say shea to
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: know her place. But again, she's just like in Nigeria,
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: these two men, she's lied her puff fucking balls off,
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: like she didn't like every every day and every weird
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: thing that's happened is like, no, you place, you stay there,
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: let men talk like it's just so much of that,
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: you know, and she like hates it so much and
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: she is anti yet like she is obviously like a
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: progressive person. She has progressive beliefs about at least love
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: or whatever. I don't know what her fiscal beliefs are.
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: I don't want to fucking know, but you know, anyway,
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: So she keeps trying to interrupt everyone to talk, and
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: they're like, bitch, shut up. Can I just try to
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: explain myself? No? I yeah, I love I love that
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: it's so hard for her not to talk. It's just
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: she Yeah, she's so American. The idea of like being
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: told when to speak is like so foreign to her,
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: as it should be. But yeah, she that's how much
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: she has no idea of the culture her like beloved
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: is from I keep I've okay, let's just talk about this.
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: I think the whole thing is a scam. Obviously not
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: a hot take, but I love the I don't love
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: the idea. I love the idea of how horrible it is.
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: I think it's a interesting idea that Daniel created all
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: of these barriers and like kind of challenges that she
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: would have to go through in order to make it
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: seem like more special, that she did those things and
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: got Daniel in the end, and therefore should be lucky
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: and therefore shouldn't think about the fact that maybe he's
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: using her. Maybe this is a con because because at
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: first she had to get the uncle to say yes,
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: and he had to go to the elders, and then
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: she had to go meet the king that like had
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: a fake looking lion on him. Like all of this
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: seems so fake that I'm like, is this his uncle?
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: Because we know that guy wasn't a king with the
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: simba stuffed animal on him, with the jeweled blue eyes. Right,
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: that's a costume. And I'm not even saying yeah, it's
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: a costume and it's not a king. I feel like
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: the uncle. I feel like that king. I feel like
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: the everything is like Daniel's way of being like, I
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: need her to make sure this is real. I need
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: to make sure that she's preoccupied with the opinions of
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: the elders and the ancestors. It's almost like this way
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: of nagging her, of being like, you aren't good enough
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: unless all of these things happen. It's like a like
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: a special quest to distract her from the fact that, like,
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: this is all a con. He just wants money, because
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: if it's like it might make someone feel special to
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: have gone through such trials and tribulations to get the
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: one they love. It's almost like playing hard to get,
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: but instead of like him being like no, no, no.
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: It's like, well, ask my uncle, and the uncle's like no, no, no,
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: We'll ask the ancestors, and the answers like no, Like
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: ask the king. The King's like no, ask the elders.
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: The elders, no, ask my dead mom. No. You know,
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: it's like she keeps having to get other people's approval
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: and like therefore her preoccupation about that isn't so much
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: like the things she had put together before that he
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: had talked to other Americans that he was scamming, that
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: he certainly is living a better life with her money.
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: Now that you know that he is enforcing her to
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: not live the way she wants to live and making
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: her feel bad when she should have the power in
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: the situation because she has the money or makes the goal,
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: makes the rules, you know. But like she's not being
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: able to sit in any of that because she constantly
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: has to prove herself to the different entities of his
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: igboo man life. You know, it's kind of brilliant if
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: you want to fuck someone over. Yeah, it like creates
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: like scarcity almost or just like and he creates the
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: idea that something is super special you have to work
• 56:46
  Speaker 1: for and work towards and it might not happen, and
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: sofa does. It seems that's that much more special, and
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: you certainly wouldn't want to fuck it up in any
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: sort of way. It's brilliant. God. I would love to
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: just be like, are you the one? How do you?
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: I don't know. First off, you gotta go talk to
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: my cousin, you know, and I actually do have cousins
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: in the Monique and they had to go talk to Monique,
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: and Monie's like, let me consult the Catholic gods. You know.
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: Monique like goes to like one of the you know,
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: Malchid Byzantine chapels that we had to grow up, and
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: she like, praise to Saint Charble. These are all real,
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: you know, God bless and then what you know, like
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: Saint Charble has to come through and then be like
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: yes or no. Then they have to go to my dad,
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: you know. Then they'd go to like the priests I had,
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: priests had to go to like you know, if I, yeah,
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: if I wanted to fuss over some guy and just
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: made it seem like I was the ultimate prize, specifically
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: in a divine way, and that he had to prove
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: his worthiness to me and the gods at every step.
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: It would be a great thing. Now I don't you
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: can tell why I'm single, A I haven't done that,
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: but be even the thought that I would like to
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: do it, you know, God bless. Okay, the uncle isn't
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: cool with her. It isn't like the uncle's like, oh
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: you have the with the girl. You know, like that happens,
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: you know, like the uncle's real piss. He's like, you
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: crocodile tears. You keep crying fake tears, and you know
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: she's not crying fake those are It looks real. I
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: mean I'm seeing water come out. She has a full
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: bone like panic attack, she's like, And it's so interesting
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: because yeah, it's you can tell that she has a
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: she has obviously issues and there's no need for her
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: to have such a life or death situation with Daniel.
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: He holds no power over her. They just met in
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: real life. So she also had just shown us a
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: part of her soul where she was like fuck you.
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: So to go from I'm not evil, I did this
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: for you and if you don't see it, fine, fuck
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: you to then being like over the possibility of not
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: being with him in front of his uncle. It's yeah,
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: it's like, well, it's a hard watch. I mean also
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: like in an easy reality show watch. She is to
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: me somehow very authentically having her experience on this show.
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: Like for some reason, to me, it very much feels
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: like she is authentically in this and everything we're saying
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: to her seems real. I'm not saying everything is real
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: because I think that Daniel like sometimes I feel like
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: wants to look at camera and wink. You know what
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: I'm saying. You know that show have you guys been watching? Well,
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: there's like Jury Duty and stuff like that. They have
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: a new season out. It's like an improv show. I
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: think it's on Amazon Prime. It's basically like, well, it's
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: kind of like there's like, okay, it's kind of who's
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: that Jim Carrey movie? Oh no, okay, Truman's World. It's
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: kind of like Truman's World and kind of like Wendy
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: City Heat, where as one person in a whole production
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: isn't aware of the whole production right, and it's very
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: funny like the television show is. But Lisa in this
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: situation seems like the person in a production that does
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: not realize everything is fake. Daniel does, and definitely his
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: uncle does, and definitely the King with the lion head does,
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: and like all of Matt Sharp's production team obviously knows.
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: It's like it seems like Lisa is like naive. She
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: really does seem in it, But at the same time,
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: no one else truly feels like we are taking advantage
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: of someone who has like mental issues. And it's interesting
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: because we're hot on the heels of like the whole
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Taylor Franky Paul situation, and
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: she allegedly or I'm not a professional, but it seems
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: like she has mental issues or personality issues, one of
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: the two. And I didn't understand, like, you know, the
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: extent until recently or whatever. And it's gonna be a
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: heart We can't watch her now, Like I don't think
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: she's gonna be on the show, Like I can't imagine
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: she's going to continue on the show unless there's some
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: weird pr you know, come around that she does, like
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: either by going to rehab or you know, I'm not
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: quite sure what her situation is truly, but we wouldn't
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: be able to watch her again. And I think that
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: watching Lisa feels a little cringey because it does feel
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: like watching someone who is not quite aware like we
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: all are, so I think, like that's why I think
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: I like held my hat on that moment last episode
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: where she was like fuck you fucking cause I kind
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: of was like if this was her like ultimate, like
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: fuck you, burn everything down and like get back her life,
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: go back to America, tell faith that she is gonna
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: love herself and fuck that person, like I would love it.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't know what you would do for the next
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: like four episodes unless she's back in America, you know,
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 1: like truly dating, living it up, or if he was,
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: or if she's got another person. But it's a hard
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 1: watch to watch someone like hate themselves and go back
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 1: to like someone who isn't into them. It's also be
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: hard to watch when that person's a female, because I am.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: But also see, yeah, it does seem like Lisa might
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: have like some other things happening, which orre I'm like,
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 1: are we watching someone being taken advantage of and more
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: so than just being conned by a man? Yes? Also
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 1: what being used as like entertainment by a production team? Maybe?
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: And am I culpable? Sure? I can't quite remedy all
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: that for you right now, but I want you to
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: be aware that I'm aware of it and we're all
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: doing our best. There's parts of this show where I'm like,
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: let's get back to like couples that feel safe within themselves. No,
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: that's not it. Like, well, okay, I liked Greta and
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: Matthew from last season and a lot of people were like, oh,
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: they're so boring or whatever, but I liked it, like
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: it seems like it was real, like really real, and
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: it also seemed smaller than like some of the other
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: craziness we had we had, but like it wasn't less
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: interesting to me, So I mean, yeah, we can lean
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: into that. Please, all right, my loves That is actually
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: the end of the episode, but we are going to
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: do all of the things that we usually do. A
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 1: I usually tell you at this point, thank you, thank
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: you for listening to me, thank you for being here,
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: and thank you for spending like an hour and fifteen
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 1: minutes listening to my stupid ass voice. However, if you
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: want to see more of me, or if you ever
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: want to like follow me on social media or see
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: fun things I create, or just like what I'm doing
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: in my day stories or I mean my TikTok where
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: I literally do minute recaps of pop culture stories as
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 1: well as different ninety day memes and stuff you can.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 1: I'm at Chris Elfara, like I said on TikTok, I
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: am also on Instagram. I have a Facebook page Chris Fara.
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: I have a Facebook group Vanity Fara. I have a
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 1: substack It's Chris Farra. I have a Patreon It's Chris Farah.
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: Just getting ha ha Okay, so all of that exists.
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 1: Let's breathe. You know, why control our mind? I want
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 1: to say this, The goal is to control our mind.
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: But at the same time, it isn't like you're going
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: to do it once and it's going to be done
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: and you're not going to ever get it right for
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: the rest of your life. But it's just the process.
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 1: And then continue cuation of the process, because as you
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: continue to train your mind, you continue to have a
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: grasp of control of your mind. And if you don't,
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 1: then your mind is just a monkey mind doing where
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: the fuck it wants all the time. So through the
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 1: act of trying, you do does that make sense? Through
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: the act of trying to control your mind, you do
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 1: it's just that time goes on and minds think. So
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: don't be perfect about it. You don't have to remain
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: in a perfect present state for long. It might not be,
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 1: but if you do it once, you won Isn't that great? Okay? Again?
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: Plant your feet on the floor, or if you're sitting,
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: feel something. It can be with your butt on the seat,
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 1: of course, it can be your hand on the seat.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 1: Feel a sensory thing right now, so that you if
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 1: you know you're in the present moment in space and time,
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 1: and then allow your mind to forget anything you're considering,
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 1: like an embarrassing thing that happened in the past, or
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 1: what you're going to eat tomorrow, or if you need
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 1: to go to the supermarket, or how you're going to
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 1: plan a drive, or if you're going to talk to
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 1: someone about something. But instead, right now you're with me.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: Thank you, use my voice or your breath to give
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: us both an opportunity to control our minds. So blow
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: everything out and just if you can be here now
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 1: with all of us two breasts briefing out more, how nice,
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 1: Thank you. Thank you're spending some time with me. It's
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: important that you take care of yourself it's important that
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 1: you can do that, so you can, of course take
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: care of others. We're all connected in this world, and
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 1: taking care of you means that you can show someone
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 1: how to take better care of themselves as well as
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 1: if that person can't take care of themselves, you step in,
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 1: how lovely, and then because you gave that person some strength,
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 1: maybe when you don't have any, they'll give it back
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 1: to you. It's such a beautiful gift. So take care
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 1: of yourselves, take care of yourselves, and take care of
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 1: someone else, stand up for what you believe and make art.
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 1: And I'll talk to you later and I wish you
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 1: the best, all right, Bye,