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EP081: 3 Steps to manifest what you want · Unpause Your Life

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  You are listening to Unpause Your Life with doctor cally Es Says and Master Coach
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  Jenny Fontana, founders of the Life Coach method. Each one of our uplifting
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  and deep dive episodes is geared to help you tackle the things that hold you
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  back from having the most magnificent life you deserved. Sit back, relax,
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  and prepare to be coached. Hey everyone, this is doctor Callistis and this
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  is Unpleas Your Life Podcast. I am always excited to be here with you
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  and share interesting and fun things. And today I want to talk about my
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  high performance clients. As you know, I work with the top one to
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  five percent of clients that are considered high performers, CEOs, athletes, people
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  at HR, people that run companies, people that need to streamline what they're
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  doing and get really really good at it or really really fast. So I
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  see a lot of things on TikTok and YouTube that says this is the number
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  one thing of high performers. Right, they wake up at four o'clock in
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  the morning, they do more than you by nine am, and bam,
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  they read every self help book there is. They're so amazing, Right,
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  They're juggling this job. Kids car payments, house payments, They're traveling all
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  around and here's the reality. None of that's true. So what do my
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  high performers have in common? Sure, some of them, Yeah, they
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  listen to self help audio. Most of them don't read. They listen to
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  the audio books while they're in the car or on their plane. They get
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  up six o'clock in the morning, go to the gym, etc. But
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  what do they really do is the question? What do they have in common?
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  And the number one thing that they have in common is that they all
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  follow law of attraction, power of positive intention. That's the number one thing
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  that they have in common. Now, how do they do that? Right?
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  You see all these people on TikTok and YouTube and whatnot going, oh
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  my god, we are going to totally amazingly have law of attraction and you're
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  just going to manifest your dreams. Well, yeah, that's not how it
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  works exactly. It starts with the intent. So the first thing you have
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  to do in law of attraction is have an intent. Right. For example,
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  if you want money, it's money flies at me from all directions.
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  Very simple. There's the intent. My intent is to have more money.
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  Great, Okay, the next thing after intent, though, is gratitude.
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  This is where all these pop psychology YouTubers and TikTokers and all the nonsense you're
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  seeing on Facebook, by my program, in this they're just talking about manifestation.
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  Right, I feel lucky, therefore I am. That's just step one.
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  Step two is gratitude. I am thankful for what I have on a
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  daily basis. That is where I see a lot of people fail. They're
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  not grateful for what they have. So they say, I want to make
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  a lot of money. Okay, great, They make one thousand dollars.
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  The next day they go, that's amazing. But it's not a lot of
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  money. So Universe, here's I'm not happy. I'm not grateful. Then
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  they focus on making more money, and universes will wait a minute. I
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  gave you a thousand bucks and you weren't happy. Now I'm gonna give you
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  a hundred. And they get mad. This manifesting stuff doesn't work. This
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  is stupid. Nothing works, nothing makes any sense, right, we see
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  that. Then they become negative. Well, negative attracts more negative, So
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  now they're in a self fulfilling prophecy of nothing works. See, I told
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  you this didn't work, and I can't get what I want, I can't
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  get my needs met. So lav attraction sucks right. Well, that is
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  because they did not have gratitude. So number one is intent, I want
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  money. Number two is I'm thankful for what I have. I'm grateful for
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  what I have. I'm glad that I have one thousand dollars. Even if
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  I ask for a million, I got a thousand. When you show gratitude,
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  universe will bless you with more. That's just how it works. Once
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  you show gratitude, you also have to take an action step. That's part
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  three. That's another place people fail. They sit around and they say,
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  okay, great, so I'm gonna manifest making money. So here i am.
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  I'm gonna make a vision board, I'm gonna make a bucket list,
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  I'm gonna put all this stuff out to the universe. I'm ready to rock
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  and roll. I'm going to do this. And then they get a little
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  something. Then they have to apply gratitude. But then what happens is there's
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  no action step. What do they do to continue this process? Think about
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  it? What do they do? They look at their vision board and they
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  go, Okay, I'm manifesting really really hard. But how do you get
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  what you want? You have to have an action step. So, for
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  example, somebody says, I want to make a lot of money. That's
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  great, that's a great power of intention. I'm grateful for what I have.
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  Even if you find twenty dollars on the street today, I'm grateful for
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  that. Right then you have to look at action. What can I do
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  to make more money? What are my options? Send out job applications.
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  Maybe maybe it's doing a side hustle. It's something I can't just sit on
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  my sofa and expect the money to manifest amazingly in my bank account. But
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  unfortunately, that's what a lot of people do. They lack gratitude and they
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  lack action. So what happens is they sit there and they say, okay,
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  I made this amazing vision board. There it is and nothing happened,
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  and this is stupid. Or they spend a ton of money on gurus,
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  which always blows my mind, hundreds of thousands of dollars in these gurus that
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  stand up there on the stage and say, oh my god, you're gonna
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  manifest anything you want. This is how you do it, and they follow
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  the process and nothing happens because they're not following the right process. That is
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  the problem. The right process is very simple. Intent First, I want
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  this, I want a new house. I want a boyfriend, I want
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  a husband, I want happiness. Whatever it is. You have to define
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  and refine the message. You can't just say I want to make money.
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  That could be ten dollars, that could be ten million, that could be
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  ten billion. You have to be a little bit more specific. So what
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  exactly is it that I want? How much money do I want to make?
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  And that goes on my vision board, and then from there, what
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  is my intention? What is my intention? I set the intention I want
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  to create abundance. I want to make whatever amount of money. Take that
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  and put it all over the house in sticky notes. Whatever your intention is,
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  whatever your desire is, and every morning when you see the sticky note,
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  you repeat the intention, I want abundance, I want happiness, I
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  want a husband. Whatever. It is, followed by refining the message exactly.
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  So if you say I want a husband, it needs to be way
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  more specific. I want a husband that has the following traits. Right,
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  then, every person you meet, you say I'm grateful for meeting that person
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  today. Thank the universe, say how grateful you are and send back gratitude.
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  When you do that, the universe receives the message of love. Love
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  creates abundance, very simple. You cannot create abundance with negative thoughts, feelings,
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  and actions. You cannot be angry and successful. It's not possible.
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  The universe hears anger and aggression and creates more anger and aggression. If you're
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  living in lack, which a lot of people do, panic Oh my god,
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  I don't have enough money, I don't have enough food, I don't
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  have a good job. If you live like that and you say that that's
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  intent, the universe will provide more of lack because that's what you are putting
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  out there, and you're not grateful for what you have. So coming from
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  someone who's been homeless twice, had a company that was worth millions of dollars
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  and lost a company and completely bankrupt, you have to be grateful for what
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  you have. When you're grateful for what you have, universe provides more.
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  When you're not grateful, you get less, and if you live in lack,
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  you get even more more of the less that you're putting out there.
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  So you can not create from your brain in a sense, of being in
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  scarcity mode. I know you've heard that. You've probably heard it on a
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  TikTok, on a podcast somebody after running around in pop psychology. They are
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  one hundred percent correct with that. If you're in survival mode, your subconscious
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  brain is not creating new things. It just isn't. So you know the
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  rent is due, you know the mortgage is due, you know when the
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  credit cards are due, you know when the car payment is due. Stop
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  stressing over it. Every month when I work, I started zero. Every
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  month, we started zero, and we have to recreate that amount of money,
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  and a lot of people say, oh, that's stupid. You should
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  create a subscription, or you should do this, or you should do that.
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  You know what, I enjoy starting at zero sometimes because it makes me
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  grateful for what I got last month. And then I focus on the gratitude
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  of how I felt for what happened last month. And then I set the
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  attention for this month, and I focus on how great I am. Every
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  time we get a new client, every time we get a new student,
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  every time someone signs up from my program, I express gratitude. And I've
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  also learned when I give back and do things for other people, I get
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  more in return. So how does all of that work? It's subconscious brain
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  attracting. Like so, if you don't believe me, tried in reverse,
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  go out into the world one day, pissed off, irritated. What happens?
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  You notice everything? The car doesn't start, you're late to work,
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  you're stuck in a traffic jam, you're irritated someone took your parking spot.
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  It just gets worse all day. It doesn't get better. You're creating that
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  whole environment. You don't have to create that environment. And that's where my
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  philosophy differs from a lot of people, because I say you get what you
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  create. You don't get what you deserve. You get what you negotiate,
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  and you get what you create. So if you're going to put out into
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  the universe anger, resentment, frustration, nobody loves me, I'll never be
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  successful. I'll never make any money. Everybody's more successful than me, everybody
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  has a better job than me. Guess what you will create all of that,
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  And then it's called a self fulfilling prophecy. When you sit back and
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  you go, oh my god, I can't believe I got nothing. You
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  didn't create it. I didn't come from money. I didn't come from resources.
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  My parents were broke. My dad never finished high school. My mom
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  had this same job since she was eighteen, and it wasn't a good one.
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  So I didn't have resources. They didn't hand me money. They didn't
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  introduce me to people that could help me make money, or teach me finances,
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  or teach me how to build a company. I got none of that.
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  I learned it all by using law of attraction. If I need something,
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  I focus on the intent I produced, the gratitude, and then I
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  set an action step. And when I say action step, I don't mean
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  spending a ton of money to make money. I know Pitt Bull says scured
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  money don't make money, but that's not exactly what I'm saying. It's as
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  simple as putting a post on Facebook, Hey this is what I'm doing,
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  or filling out a resume and sending it in. And if you don't get
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  an answer right away on what you want or what you need, that's not
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  a no from the universe. You may need higher clarification. For example,
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  I want to find a husband. Universe goes, okay, there's a billion
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  people in the world. What kind of husband do you want tall, short,
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  blonde hair, dark hair, dreadlocks. What do you want? Walks,
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  bicycle, drives, a car, flies, a plane. You've got
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  to be more specific. So if you're not more specific, what's going to
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  happen is that the universe isn't going to send you what you want because you're
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  not giving enough details in your intent. So you have to be very specific
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  in your intent. And once you have your intent, you have to give
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  gratitude. Even if you get something that you feel is small and insignificant,
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  you have to have gratitude because if you're not grateful, Universe hears I'm not
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  grateful, therefore I don't deserve more, and then universe gives you more of
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  what you're asking for, which is lack very simple. So you have to
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  start with intent. That's where it starts. I'm intending to create this.
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  I'm intending to attract that as a magnet. They give yourself as a magnet,
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  and whatever that is comes to you, money, time, happiness,
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  a husband, a new car, whatever you need comes to you. Express
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  gratitude for what you have and then action step to get what you want.
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  So let's look at the new car. Right intent, I want a new
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  car you may have a car. Let's say you have a Honda, but
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  you want a BMW. Okay, I want a new BMW. Be very
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  specific, I want a BMW X three white tan interior. Okay. Great
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  gratitude. I'm thankful that I have a car that runs. I'm thankful that
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  I have a Honda gets me to and from work. I'm thankful I still
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  want my BMW. Action step go to the dealership, walk around and look.
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  See what's possible. See if you can trade your car in. See
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  if you can get a monthly payment that's doable. Go to a US dealer,
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  search online. So intent, gratitude, action, those three things will
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  bring you what you want. And I'm going to cover this more in depth.
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  And I also cover this in the unplausure Life certify me course for life
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  coach method and performance coaching, and also in coach me services. So if
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  you go to unplausurelife dot com and take a look on there. We work
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  with individuals one and one. We all also work with groups, and we
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  also certify people on how to teach this stuff so it's learnable. Everybody can
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  learn this. People say I can't learn this, or I didn't come from
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  money. I don't have resources, neither did I, and I can teach
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  you how to make this happen. It's not look it's a process by which
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  you're using your subconscious brain to connect to the universe, which has a lot
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  of energy in it, and utilizing it for what you want. So I'm
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  sure you've heard having money and resources is my birthright. It absolutely is.
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  You just don't know how to get it. So reach out to me if
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  you harness the power of the universe with intention, gratitude, and action.
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  Have a great day. Thank you for listening to Unpause your Life with doctor
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