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EP| 41 WHEN DID SURVIVAL BECOME YOUR NORMAL? | Getting Off the Hamster Wheel · Life, Finance, & Real Estate with KirbyTheRealtor

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  SPEAKER_02: Welcome to Life, Finance and Real Estate, where we discuss how to make smart money moves, the ever changing real estate market, and of course, things going on in life.
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  SPEAKER_01: And here to talk about it more with you is your host, and we're going to be able to get a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_03: Change in your habits and the boundaries and the relationships with money.
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  SPEAKER_03: If none of that changes, more money is not gonna make you happy, it can give you more things that you have to maintain, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: More bills.
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  SPEAKER_03: Because a lot of times, and just be honest with yourself, the more money we make, we feel like we can afford to do other things, right?
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_03: And you're creating more debt.
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  SPEAKER_03: So that's why I always tell you I don't just teach you how to earn it.
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  SPEAKER_03: I teach you how to what?
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  SPEAKER_03: I teach you how to sustain it.
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  SPEAKER_03: So here's what I want us to do.
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  SPEAKER_03: I'm gonna do it too.
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  SPEAKER_03: I want you to ask yourself four questions, and I don't want you to rush through them because I really want you to hone in and just ask yourself these questions, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: Number one, what am I doing repeatedly that isn't producing a different result?
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  SPEAKER_03: What are you saying?
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  SPEAKER_03: Here we go again.
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  SPEAKER_03: Pay attention to that again, and that word might be showing you the cycle.
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  SPEAKER_03: What am I doing repeatedly that isn't producing a different result?
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  SPEAKER_03: Number two, what am I carrying that God never assigned to me?
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  SPEAKER_03: Now, that's between you and God, but ask him, Lord, show me what's mine and show me what isn't mine.
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  SPEAKER_03: When you ask, he'll do it, but you gotta get where you gotta get somewhere, sit down, be still, and listen.
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  SPEAKER_03: What am I carrying that God never assigned to me?
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  SPEAKER_03: Number three, what am I maintaining simply because I'm afraid of what will happen if I stop?
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  SPEAKER_03: Now, be honest, that's a hard one.
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  SPEAKER_03: It's a hard one for me because sometimes it's not that um it's not that we're not maintaining something because it's healthy, we're maintaining it because we're scared.
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  SPEAKER_03: The fear, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: The fear.
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  SPEAKER_03: What am I maintaining simply because I'm afraid of what will happen if I stop?
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  SPEAKER_03: Number four, and this one, this one might be the biggest one.
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  SPEAKER_03: If nothing changes, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: Where will this same routine have me one year from now?
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  SPEAKER_03: If nothing changes, where will this same routine have me one year from now?
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  SPEAKER_03: Now don't answer based on where you hope you'll be.
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  SPEAKER_03: Look at the direction you're currently traveling.
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  SPEAKER_03: And if nothing changes, where does this road lead?
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  SPEAKER_03: Because direction predicts your destination.
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  SPEAKER_03: And sometimes, y'all, that's a wake-up call.
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  SPEAKER_03: Not I need to work harder, but I need to change direction.
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  SPEAKER_03: Now, family, I don't want you turning this show off thinking, oh Kirby, now I got 25 more things fixed.
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  SPEAKER_03: No, don't think that.
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  SPEAKER_03: That's another hamster wheel you're gonna put yourself on, and I'm telling you the total opposite.
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  SPEAKER_03: You don't have to fix everything today.
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_03: Maybe you can leave, you can't leave your job today, you can't eliminate a debt today.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_03: Maybe your family situation isn't changing today, or that business isn't gonna magically fix itself, right?
• 25:07
  SPEAKER_03: Maybe you still have responsibilities waiting on you when this show goes off.
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  SPEAKER_03: But you can do something.
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  SPEAKER_03: You can identify one cycle, create one boundary, and make one more financial decision.
• 25:22
  SPEAKER_03: You can ask for help, you can delegate, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_03: You can say no, you can pray before automatically saying what yes.
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  SPEAKER_03: And sit quietly with God.
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_03: Take one step because getting off that hamster wheel doesn't always start with something dramatic, life change thing.
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  SPEAKER_03: Sometimes it starts with recognizing I cannot keep living like this.
• 25:48
  SPEAKER_03: We are approaching y'all the last two months of 2026, and I don't want us going into another year saying this year is gonna be different.
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  SPEAKER_03: You're saying it, but you're carrying the exact same systems, the habits, the financial decision, the boundaries, the expectations.
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  SPEAKER_03: The same things that exhausted you this year.
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  SPEAKER_03: Just because you get a new calendar doesn't mean you get a new life.
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  SPEAKER_03: Something has to change.
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  SPEAKER_03: And maybe that change starts small, but maybe maybe this week isn't about figuring out your entire life.
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  SPEAKER_03: So don't make it that.
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  SPEAKER_03: Maybe it's simply about getting quiet enough just to hear God.
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  SPEAKER_03: See, my Bible tells me in Jeremiah 29, 11, for I know the thoughts that I think towards you, said the Lord's thoughts of peace and not of evil to give you an expected end.
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  SPEAKER_03: God hasn't lost a plan because you got tired.
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  SPEAKER_03: He hasn't lost a plan because life happened.
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  SPEAKER_03: God hasn't lost a plan because you're in this season where you can't see how everything's gonna work out.
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  SPEAKER_03: And maybe you're listening today thinking, Kirby, I'm tired.
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  SPEAKER_03: I understand.
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  SPEAKER_03: Trust me, I promise.
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  SPEAKER_03: I understand.
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  SPEAKER_03: Maybe you've gotten so good at surviving that everybody thinks you're okay.
• 27:08
  SPEAKER_03: And maybe everybody comes to you because you're on you're the strong one.
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  SPEAKER_03: Maybe everybody thinks you you've got it figured out.
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  SPEAKER_03: And maybe you're probably saying, Lord, I'm tired of figuring everything out.
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  SPEAKER_03: Maybe your prayer today isn't God make me stronger so I can carry more.
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  SPEAKER_03: It can simply be God give me wisdom to know what I'm supposed to carry.
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  SPEAKER_03: I've lately, lately, y'all, I've been asking God to give me the capacity to carry the things.
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  SPEAKER_03: Because you know, in I'm in a season where I'm like, Lord, I need this and I need this and I need that, and I'm like, I ask him for it, and he blesses me.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I'm like, Lord, I pray for it.
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  SPEAKER_03: Now I don't have the capacity.
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  SPEAKER_03: So like I'm asking him, God, give me the capacity.
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  SPEAKER_03: God, give me wisdom to know what I'm supposed to carry, give me wisdom to know what to release, wisdom to know when to move, wisdom to know when to wait, wisdom to recognize what you're doing in this season.
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  SPEAKER_03: And give me enough faith to trust you when I can't see the entire role.
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  SPEAKER_03: I had that conversation, I think, on yesterday about faith.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I'm sitting there pouting, you know, during this conversation, because I'm like, I got faith.
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  SPEAKER_03: I be trusting God, that's why he's blessing me.
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  SPEAKER_03: But all while I'm saying all of this, I'm still complaining.
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  SPEAKER_03: Proverbs 3, 5 through 6 tells us, trust in the Lord with all thine heart.
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  SPEAKER_03: Right?
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  SPEAKER_03: And lead not unto your own understanding.
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  SPEAKER_03: In all your ways, acknowledge him, and he shall direct your path.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_03: Listen, family.
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  SPEAKER_03: Maybe you're not feeling.
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  SPEAKER_03: Maybe, maybe you're exhausted from running a race that doesn't have a finish line.
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  SPEAKER_03: And maybe the answer isn't to run faster.
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  SPEAKER_03: Maybe it's time to get off the wheel long enough to simply ask, where am I actually trying to go?
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  SPEAKER_03: And more importantly, God, where are you trying to take me?
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  SPEAKER_03: Because we don't need another year to run faster.
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  SPEAKER_03: We don't.
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  SPEAKER_03: We just need insight, we need that clarity about where we are going.
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  SPEAKER_03: Because as I always tell y'all, remember, ownership starts where?
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  SPEAKER_03: In the mind first.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I don't just teach you how to earn it, I teach you how to sustain it.
• 29:22
  SPEAKER_03: I need you to own your life so that you can own a piece of America.
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  SPEAKER_03: Listen, guys, I am Kirby the Realtor, and this has been Life Finance and Real Estate.
• 29:31
  SPEAKER_03: And until next time, family, keep God first, take care of yourself, take care of your money, and make sure all things, make sure that all that running that you're doing is actually taking you somewhere.
• 29:44
  SPEAKER_03: You're not going in circles.
• 29:45
  SPEAKER_03: I appreciate each and every one of you for taking out time to tune in to Life Finance and Real Estate.
• 29:51
  SPEAKER_03: Bye for now.
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  SPEAKER_03: See you soon.
• 29:54
  SPEAKER_02: Thank you for tuning in to Life Finance and Real Estate with Kirby the Realtor.
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  SPEAKER_02: You can catch us every Thursday at 12 p.m.
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  SPEAKER_02: If you happen to miss the live recording, don't fret.
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  SPEAKER_02: We'll replay it at 6 p.m.
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  SPEAKER_02: tonight.
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