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168. The "Just One More Moment" Theory · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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  Hello and welcome to the Impact Ready podcast.
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  I'm so glad you're here. Merry Christmas, team.
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  Happy holidays. I took a couple days off to
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  spend with my family around the Christmas holidays, so this
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  podcast is coming to you a day late.
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  I appreciate you being here and I hope that you had a great week
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  with your family or your loved ones or whoever you like to
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  spend time with around this time of year.
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  We're getting towards the end of the holiday season.
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  We're approaching the new year, which is always a time where
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  people can feel a certain way. Maybe people are feeling a
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  little frustrated or short tempered or, you know, they've
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  packed a lot into the end of the year.
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  There's been a lot of social activities, a lot of family
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  time, hopefully good stuff. But we all know that we can feel
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  tired towards the end of the year.
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  People are partying a lot, there's a lot of social stuff.
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  And so there's a lot of feelings.
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  And I think what's funny is that this time we might not always
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  see the best in people. I was just picking my teenagers
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  up from the mall and being in the parking lot and having
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  interactions with people in the parking lot.
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  I can tell people are feeling a little frustrated, a little
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  burned out and a little irritated by the fact that
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  there's just a lot masses of humanity out in the world.
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  Everybody's trying to get last minute stuff in.
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  So this episode is about something that I've heard in the
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  past. It's a theory that I've come
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  across and I saw it again recently and I wanted to share
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  it with you. It's called the Just one more
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  minute theory. It's kind of a long time, the
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  Just One More Minute theory, and I come back to this theory in
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  times like this where nervous systems can feel a little shot
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  and rest is hard to come by. I saw this theory posted
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  somewhere again recently. I believe the author's name is
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  Jordan Younger, but I wanted to share it with you because I
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  think it can be helpful when we're entering a new year.
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  We're sort of closing the loop on some things in this year and
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  resetting our nervous systems. The Just One More Minute theory
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  is an idea that acknowledges the temporary nature of things.
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  We all know that things are temporary, that moments are
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  fleeting, but this idea is about realizing that every single
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  version of the people that you know, the people you love, and
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  every version of you is fleeting.
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  It's temporary. This moment that you're in right
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  now listening to this podcast, it's temporary.
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  The version of you that is navigating the moments that
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  you're in now, The circumstances, the end of year
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  temporary. The person who's trying to
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  figure out what happened in 2025, to make sense of it, maybe
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  to heal or to grieve or process, to shed old skins, to step into
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  a new identity. The person who's grown out of
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  some things or maybe is searching for meaning in what
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  was what happened. That version of you will never
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  exist in this exact form again. Temporary.
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  Your spouse's laugh, their voice, the way they lean into
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  one hip when they're standing in the kitchen, how they look when
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  they first wake up in the morning.
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  Their eyes when they're telling you a story, something that you
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  might have heard hundreds of times before.
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  That's something that will change, will shift.
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  Your kids little quirks. They're small voices, their
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  fight for independence as teenagers, the way they show you
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  all of their new skills or ideas, the way they sidle up to
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  you kind of quietly and conspicuously to get a hug.
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  That is temporary. That will shift and change.
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  Everything is in motion. Every person.
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  Your parents, your friends, the people you serve in your work,
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  your colleagues. They're all temporary versions
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  of themselves, versions that will change and continue to
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  evolve. And the just one More minute
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  theory says this. If you were given one more
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  minute with this exact version of somebody that you love, how
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  would you treat the moment you're in now?
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  I want to say it again because I think this is really important
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  to think about, not just while you're listening to this podcast
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  episode, but moving forward to use this as a filter sometimes.
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  If you were given one more minute with this exact version
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  of someone you love, how would you treat the moment that you're
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  in right now? Would you put your phone down
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  and look right into their eyes? Would you listen without
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  thinking about your next response or trying to be right,
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  or your next item on the To Do List?
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  Would you smile at them and pay attention to all the details of
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  them? Would you memorize something
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  that you know you'll miss later? And even in conflict or in
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  trauma, would you pause and just recognize the magic of who that
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  person is right now? It would most likely be a
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  reminder that this moment was small, yes.
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  Fleeting, yes. But important, but precious.
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  Sacred instead of forgettable. And fast.
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  Now I want to call it the distinction here because we
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  always talk about the distinctions, what it is and
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  what it isn't and what this isn't.
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  It's not about urgency, it's not about scarcity.
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  It's not Oh my God, we're never going to have this again.
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  It's not that energy. This is not coming from a place
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  of lack or fear. This is about reverence, team
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  reverence. We talk about reverence for
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  life, reverence for the beautiful moments.
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  If we slow down and we we feel the reverence.
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  That's what this is about. It's an it's an awareness that
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  the present moment here that we're in is sacred.
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  It's special, it matters. And it could be the last time
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  that will ever look exactly like this.
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  And oftentimes we don't know when that will be.
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  You know, you hear parents talk about I there's always a last
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  time. There's a last time that your
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  kids say a cute little word that they say in a funny way when
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  they're young, when they're toddlers.
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  There's a last time that they want to hug their little lovey
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  at night. There's a last time that they
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  need you for a certain thing. And now they're independent.
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  There is always that last moment.
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  And to have the awareness that this present moment is sacred,
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  that's so special. It's so important.
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  Now, I recognize that it's hard to be 100% present in every
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  living moment. I mean, just think about the
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  last month. I'm sure that it was full for a
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  lot of you. I'm sure that some of these
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  moments feel fast and furious and sometimes we we do feel
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  tired or depleted or checked out even.
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  But I know for me, there are many more moments that I could
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  have reverence for. I know that I have the tendency
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  to live in my head a little bit, that I have the tendency to be
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  forward thinking, really examining or thinking or
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  analyzing what the future might look like and preparing and
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  planning for that. I know that I can go to those
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  places in my head. There are more moments that I
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  could have reverence for. I could be more present.
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  I could be more in awe. I could be more in grace with
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  the version of the person who's standing in front of me or
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  myself. I could be more in grace with
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  the version of me. Wouldn't that be a gift?
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  There are a lot of people sleepwalking through their days.
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  That's the truth. And I know you see that.
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  I know you notice it. There are a lot of people who
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  are sleepwalking through their days.
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  And it just made me realize how much of life people live half
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  present. And I think it's because we
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  assume we'll get another chance. But this theory, that Just One
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  More Moment theory helps us recognize that these moments
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  matter and that the versions of who we are becoming might look
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  back and whisper, God, I wish I had paid attention to all those
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  past moments. And so this is a reminder to you
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  that wherever you are, whatever the circumstances, however you
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  might be closing out this year, think about the Just One More
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  Moment theory. And whoever's standing in front
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  of you, can you be present with them?
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  Can you take in and appreciate what is here now?
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  And especially with yourself looking in the mirror and
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  saying, man, this version of me, I can really appreciate who I am
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  right now. I can appreciate all she is
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  dealing with, all she is wrestling with, all she is
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  moving through and all she is anticipating.
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  That is such a gift to yourself. So that's all for today.
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  I hope that this inspires a little bit of thinking.
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  I hope that it helps you get through this last week or so of
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  this year, 2025, with a little more joy and fulfillment and
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  excitement because this version of us right now, it's beautiful.
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  Something to have reference for. So thank you for being here and
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  for listening as always. And thank you for being ready to
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  Impact team. Thanks for listening to Impact
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  Ready. I hope today's episode inspired
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  you to own your impact and recognize that you are powerful.
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