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Ep 40 | Divine Human Beings: Permission to Rest, Discern, and Breathe Love · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise, sensitive, authentic self. So episode 39
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last week titled, there is nothing to fix, feeling
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to heal and the breath as your bridge. I reflected
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on what it means to really face our fears and
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feel what needs to be felt. And that's to allow
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us to really release it and to heal. I often
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say we need to feel it to heal it. Um, I talked
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about how the breath serves as the bridge between
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the guarded waterlogged, right? Like stress states
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that we fall into and the coherence and clarity
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that is always available to us. We just don't.
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always remember. You know, I have shared previously
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that I view us as, you know, we're beings of
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love and light having a human experience, right?
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But another way to describe it is, you know,
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we are divine human beings, right? But we're
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not. always living in a way that honors both
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the human aspects of our journey right what we
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see hear feel touch right taste all of that smell
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right like the metrics what we can measure right
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and um and the more divine right where you know
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we know that we're so much more than our human
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forms, right? We're not limited to what our genetics
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are, or, you know, what our body composition
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is, or, you know, even what our lived experiences
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have been, right? Like, I just see it as such
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a beautiful gift when we do start to remember.
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And you know, of course, this podcast is called
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Rise and Realign Conversations for the Sensitive
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Soul, because, you know, this is about, you know,
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my interpretation, right? This is my soul perspective,
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that as highly sensitive individuals, right?
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Like, we're given the opportunity to realign,
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right, with our true essence, our wholeness of
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who we are, because we feel things so much more
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deeply. And depending on how and where we're
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raised, right, like that human experience, it
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can really cloud our perspective, it can create
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very skewed, right? A lot of interference in
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how we view ourselves, view others, understand
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ourselves, right? Understand the world around
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us. And I really want to honor, you know, everybody's
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very unique paths and journeys because, you know,
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I know my mind, you know, is so curious and it's
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always wanting to figure out like, why? is that
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person having that challenge right and how might
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i assist how might i support that person right
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and what i really really love about supporting
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uh highly sensitive women um in whether it's
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an individual session a group format whatever
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it is is because We can see so much more, right,
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than meets the eye. We can feel what others are
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feeling. We can sense the subtleties, right?
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The energy, the frequency, the vibe, whatever
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language you use, right? And that really is a
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true gift. But we don't always understand the
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difference between what we're feeling as our
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own and what is potentially coming from someone
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else. Or even, you know, the cosmos, right? The
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shifts. And when we are living a really hectic,
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busy, kind of like, you know, you're on that
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hamster wheel or treadmill, right? It's not so
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easy to notice the patterns or notice the things
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that might be showing up. And that's where that
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interference and that being waterlogged, right,
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is really important to pay attention to. most
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challenging period of my life you know which
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you know is you know being married having kids
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and having health challenges and you know just
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trying to manage it all like we're really just
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trying to stay afloat right we're just trying
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to keep our head above water so that we can see
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the beauty right and enjoy and love um life right
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ourselves our family our friends right but And
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this is just my journey, like my journey of really
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tough stuff, you know, was, of course, when I
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was 19 and my brother passed. But then, you know,
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it just kept compounding, right? And really peaked
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before my spiritual awakening. And I just want
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to say that we all, like, it's part of both the
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divine and the human nature, right? come here
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to this earth school you know to to live a variety
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of experiences and some of us say yes i'm i'm
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ready sign me up let me let me birth you know
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be birthed into this this um 3d reality right
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and sometimes from the start you know life is
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really difficult and challenging i know I've
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talked about for myself right I had health challenges
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you know by the time I was one I was already
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being diagnosed with health challenges right
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and I know that for some of my own children you
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know their whole entry into this world was was
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um really challenging uh for health and of course
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there's countless other um individuals on this
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planet who are either you know during conception
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or right from birth or in those early years really
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having um serious challenges and then there's
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others who you know the challenges come later
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you know in that bigger you know density kind
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of way and so i just want to again honor whatever
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your path is whatever your journey is right like
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there's nothing wrong with you and there's nothing
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wrong with what you're going through um because
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we all do come with this unique soul curriculum
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this unique you know biochemistry you know makeup
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and um There's no one right way to live life.
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You've maybe heard me say before, I've had this
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motto. for a while, like just live and let live,
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you know, and I'm not saying that that's always
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easy for highly sensitive individuals, especially
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because of how deeply, right, the heart feels
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and cares and wants to be helpful and supportive
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to others, right, but it's also important to
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recognize in those moments, right, like Oh, let
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me pause. Let me take a break and breathe love
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right here. You know, I'm feeling something powerful.
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Is it, you know, my own? Like, am I feeling my
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own feelings? Or am I feeling what my friend,
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family member, client? colleague whoever it is
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you know am i feeling their intensity right because
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again you have this emotional responsivity this
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heightened empathy right and activation like
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that's really a key part of noticing right and
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we need more space to be able to feel what we're
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feeling to even discern is this mind to feel?
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Am I feeling, you know, what's natural and moving
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through me? Or am I tapping into and feeling,
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you know, what's going on for someone else or
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what's going on in the collective or the cosmos,
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right? But the most important thing is that we
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do need to be present and feel what we're feeling
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and just allow the clarity to arise from being
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present. And as I was saying, the density that
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we go through at times, right? Whether it's a
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condensed stage or phase, right? You know, because
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of a loss, because of, you know, just compounding
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stress and different variables, right? Like that
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is a time when we sometimes... lose that connection
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to our divinity and even that divine orchestration
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and timing of all things, right? And again, some
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of us are aware that there is this divine orchestration
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and timing, but the density and how heavy things
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feel can make us feel separate and lost from
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it. And I just want to, to share with you that,
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you know, you're always connected. Even in the
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times when you feel disconnected, right? Maybe
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you even feel, you know, like you're not really
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feeling anything because you're just trying to
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keep your head above water and you're just trying
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to survive, right? Trying to get through. So
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I just want you to know that, you know, you're
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not alone in your challenges. You know, we do
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all experience it. we experience them in a variety
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of ways a variety of time lines of a variety
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of even reasons right some people it might be
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health challenges some people it's relationship
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focus some people it's financial career right
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like existential purpose right like Again, it's
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all part of the journey. You know, we're all
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here to just keep experiencing the vastness of
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what life has to offer. And you taking a break
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to breathe love as often as you can throughout
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the day and every day, right? Like is what helps
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you to realign with what's true for you. in each
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moment so even in these periods that feel dark
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or heavy or you know that that you're alone you
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can still take a break and breathe love connect
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with your breath with your heart with your body
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connect with the ground beneath you that supports
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you And I invite you to do that now. Let's take
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a break and breathe love together. I invite you
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to rub your hands together and just, you can
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either keep your eyes open and just look at your
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hands or you can close them and just feel, feel
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the sensation between your palms as you're rubbing
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your hands together. And you can move them fast.
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You can move them slow. Again, there's no one
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right way to any of this. So just focus on those
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hands. And I invite you to just slow them down.
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Just gradually start creating just a little space
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between the palms of your hands. And just tune
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in and see if you can sense. Do you feel any...
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light waves, any electrical pulses, you know,
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energy, just in your fingers and hands, between
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the palms, just tune into that subtleness. I
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invite you to put one hand on your heart and
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the other hand wherever your body is calling
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for that contact, that love, that light. And
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then deep inhale through your nose. Second inhale.
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Nice tall spine. And then exhale long and slow
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out your mouth. Just releasing, relaxing, and
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letting go. You don't need to carry it anymore.
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Just continue at your own pace. Taking that nice
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deep inhale through your nose. Second inhale.
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Really lengthening your spine. And then nice
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long and slow exhale. Just release. Relax. Let
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go of whatever you've been carrying. And do one
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more. Nice deep inhale. Second inhale. Now long
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and slow out your mouth. And just again, you're
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tuning in. You're connecting with your heart.
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Connecting with this moment, being fully present.
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I invite you to say to yourself out loud or silently,
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I am here. I am safe. And I am loved. This is
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so important. You know, I'm aware of my own journey
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as a highly sensitive woman and how strongly
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I felt criticism and judgment from others. And
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that is what's true for those of us who are highly
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sensitive. You know, we experience criticism
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on a deeper level. Again, because we have this
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depth of processing. So we're thinking about
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things more and we're feeling things more deeply.
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So I remember those days and I just remember,
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you know, how. how frustrating it could be, you
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know, to feel like, geez, nothing I do is ever
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good enough, you know? And that's just what I
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experienced from other people's opinions, right?
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Not to say that I didn't have people in my life
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who loved me, you know, and supported me, or,
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you know, that I had, you know, careers and colleagues
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and supervisors, right, who would certainly speak
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to my strengths. But sometimes we do we inherit
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this um it's like compounded right like you have
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one experience where somebody is judgmental um
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or maybe they're not maybe they're just talking
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about something that you know has happened before
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and it's interpreted by you as judgment right
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um and Maybe they didn't mean it that way at
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all, but this is why it's so important to understand
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and tune in to what is the inner dialogue that
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you're experiencing, right? And we feel it first,
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you know, and I often say like, when you are
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feeling those, you know, like on the map of consciousness,
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the lower level. Feelings like fear and guilt
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and shame, right? Like those feel so horrible
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because we're believing something that's not
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true, right? But we can have that skewed perspective
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that interprets something that we may have done,
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something that we may have experienced as a true
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judgment about our character, about our true
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nature. And that's really important to understand
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because, again, as humans, we all, you know,
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are living and learning. And so it's not like
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anybody walks this path and is, you know, making
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the perfect right decision in every single situation.
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So some choices we make, right, they do feel
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crummy. We don't feel good about it, right? But
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that's also there to show us like. Is that how
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you want to show up in the world? Is that how
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you want to treat yourself? Is that how you want
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to treat somebody else? Right? So it's feedback.
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And again, as highly sensitive individuals, we
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feel these things so much more deeply, which
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is why, you know, I absolutely want you to See
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the power and feel the power in taking a break
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and breathing love throughout your day. Because
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even if something came up, even if you said something,
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right? And then you later were like, Oh, why
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did I say that? Or I didn't mean it that way.
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Right? Sometimes that can just compound your
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own self judgment, your own self blame. But when
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you can take a break and breathe love into that,
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right? And to realize that it's about your ability
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to see it, to feel it, which allows you to heal
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it and not carry it forward, right? We're not
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our mistakes. right we're not the things that
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we view or others you know may point out as being
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wrong or not optimal right we are all here for
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a variety of different experiences and perspectives
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and our timelines and our time frames for learning
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information is different for all of us but i
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know that especially you know here in america
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where i am born and raised, you know, when we
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are put in a schooled environment for, you know,
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over a decade of our early development, right?
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We're just, we're just looking around and there's
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so much comparison and there's so much, you know,
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that constricts us to like a box, right? Like,
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oh, this is the way I'm supposed to live. This
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is what I'm supposed to do, you know? And not
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that... that affects everybody strongly, right?
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Some people find that being in that box in a,
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you know, schooled situation sets them free where
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they're like, I want to travel the world, you
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know, I don't want a nine to five job, I don't
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want to go to college, right? And there's plenty
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of people out there who are doing exactly what
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they want to do, right? And so My invitation
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is for you to just tune in to you more often
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so you know how aligned and true is each day
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for you. So the work I do, I call... the realigned
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journey is all about you know just acknowledging
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that it is a journey you know I've said before
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I had a profound shift in consciousness right
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a spiritual awakening a soul remembrance right
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whatever you want to call it and It has not been
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easy despite waking up and remembering these
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things, you know? So I call it the realigned
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journey because it's something that we continue
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to do, right? We keep coming home to ourselves.
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We keep realigning what's true for who we are,
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each of us, as divine human beings, right? But
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oftentimes, especially for highly sensitive women,
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we see the needs of others. We want to be helpful.
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You know, we want to give and give and give.
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And we also experience that depletion, that exhaustion,
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and we don't understand. Why our health, you
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know, is all of a sudden, you know, showing up
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all these different issues. You know, sometimes
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we do notice it's a more gradual, but sometimes
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for people it just comes on all at once. Like,
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what? I thought I was so healthy, you know? And
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all of a sudden these medical emergencies happen,
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right? So, again, I speak so that you can slow
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yourself down. right recognize the power and
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the importance of rest of tuning into you you
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know to really caring for yourself and to consider
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you know has life been compounding more stressful
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than restful for you you know have you needed
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to you know look outside yourself to help calm
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yourself and and i don't mean um you know there's
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a lot of wonderful modalities and tools that
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we of course can access ourselves or work with
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a professional but sometimes right individuals
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will use a substance right and um they feel like
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well this this helps me relax i know it works
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so let me do it it can't be that bad right but
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Again, in my line of work as an integrative mental
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health professional and a quantum biology for
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health informed approach, I just love to shine
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a light on how there's so much more that can
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support each of us, you know, as we realign with
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our divine human nature. And the less we rely
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on substances and just work on developing a deeper
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connection and relationship and understanding
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with how the mind operates and what the body's
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communicating and what each of our unique bodies
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need, you know, like what my body needs. You
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know, as somebody who developed an autoimmune
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condition, Hashimoto's hypothyroidism over 20
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years ago, right? I know I am in. I'm in optimal
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health and there's things that I do every single
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day to support my body, to support my mind, you
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know, and so that I can enjoy my life to the
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fullest and I can appreciate all the beauty and
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abundance that is all around me, you know, and
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to celebrate the relationships and, and just
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all the wonderful aspects. So I just want to
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encourage you to, again, remember that you tuning
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into you is number one. And that when you have
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tended to your needs first, then, and only then,
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you know, do you have something that you can
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share with another. And if you're a highly sensitive
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mom, I know that can be really challenging to
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wake up to after you've already been doing something
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for a long time, because I didn't understand
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this stuff until after I already was a mom and
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already was depleted. But I assure you, you can
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do it. It may be a journey to get there, right?
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But it's just one. Breath at a time. One moment.
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One step. One decision. Right? Like you don't
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have to go from A to Z in one day. So. If something
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in today's conversation resonated with you and
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you'd like to explore working together, you can
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find all the current ways to do that on my website,
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realignwithmelissa .com. And there is a page,
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ways to work with me that outlines holistic psychotherapy.
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embodied somatic therapy intensive. And then
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also my other offerings, um, with the realign
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circle and rise and realign, uh, immersive and
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different things. Because again, I know that
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not everybody is looking for the same thing.
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You know, not everybody is, um, interested in
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deep dive therapy, right. And, um, That's okay.
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You know, I honor each person wherever they are
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and respect your decisions. So before we close,
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I invite you to return to your breath, to your
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body, to what feels true for you right now. There's
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nothing you need to fix. Just notice what's here.
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Where the heart leads, the body remembers, and
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the soul awakens. As a reminder, we are here
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together to rise, reclaim, remember. And as always,
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I'm so, so grateful that you're here. Your presence,
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you know, your voice, your interests, it all
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matters. So just remember, if you'd like to walk
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this sensitive and strong path with me, you can
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explore everything at realignwithmelissa .com.
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Take good care of you. Much love and light.