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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: You Get What You Give · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily Abadi here, you are listening to another
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  Speaker 1: episode of Five Minute Friday from a Hurdle. For this
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  Speaker 1: week's episode, I want to expand a little bit on
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  Speaker 1: a story that I shared some of over on Instagram. Yesterday,
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  Speaker 1: Wednesday night was absolutely beautiful in New York. The weather
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  Speaker 1: was perfect. I was wearing a sweater and the leggings
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  Speaker 1: and I just left pilates. It was around seven fifteen
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  Speaker 1: and I wasn't in a rush necessarily at home, so
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  Speaker 1: I decided to meander and walk around Soho and I
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  Speaker 1: make a left onto Prince Street, and I see a
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  Speaker 1: bunch of guys like hyping each other up in the
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  Speaker 1: middle of the street, like the physical middle of the street.
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  Speaker 1: And I look closer, I notice that there's a photographer
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  Speaker 1: taking their picture. And this isn't just like a regular
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  Speaker 1: group of guys. This is a group of ups men employees.
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  Speaker 1: And I laugh and smile at them as I continue
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  Speaker 1: on my way. I'm like walking to the right of
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  Speaker 1: them on the sidewalk under some scaffolding, and the photographer
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  Speaker 1: and all of the guys in Unison are like getting
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  Speaker 1: the photo, getting the photo, and of course, in my head,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like I don't know where this photo is going
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  Speaker 1: to end up, Like, I don't know if this is
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  Speaker 1: a photo that I want to be in. But they
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  Speaker 1: were so happy and so inviting, and I was like whatever, fine,
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  Speaker 1: So I walk into the middle of the street with them.
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  Speaker 1: We take this great photo. It's on my Instagram if
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  Speaker 1: you want to see it. And I kind of am like,
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  Speaker 1: all right, well, maybe that's that. But the group of
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  Speaker 1: men in UPS Garb are all like, you need to
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  Speaker 1: ask the photographer what he does. It turns out the
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  Speaker 1: photographer is a guy named Luke. He has the Instagram
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  Speaker 1: account Beautiful Souls in NYC, and he is both a
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  Speaker 1: street performer, trick shot kind of guy, and also a
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  Speaker 1: really excellent photographer. And so he's showing me his page,
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  Speaker 1: and then the UPS guys are also talking to me
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  Speaker 1: about their experience working during the pandemic, so when the
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  Speaker 1: streets were completely desolate and they were delivering packages and
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  Speaker 1: all of this Amazon stuff and also the vaccine, and
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  Speaker 1: they knew that they had to show up because people
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  Speaker 1: really needed all this stuff. And I'm just sitting here
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  Speaker 1: thinking about how funny it is that I was just
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  Speaker 1: having another normal quote unquote New York day, and in fact,
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  Speaker 1: I was kind of in my feelings about all the
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  Speaker 1: news surrounding Liza Fletcher, and I stopped and I looked
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  Speaker 1: up and I saw this genuine, happy, beautiful interaction and
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  Speaker 1: I took part in it. And I walked away from
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  Speaker 1: this great group of men feeling so content and happy
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  Speaker 1: and kind and wanting to pay it forward. Right this
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  Speaker 1: street photographer Luke usually sells the pictures that he takes,
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  Speaker 1: and of course to thank these men for everything they've done,
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  Speaker 1: he was sending them the photos and sent me the photos.
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  Speaker 1: And I just loved that all of these men were
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  Speaker 1: so positive and so friendly. And I realized as I
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  Speaker 1: was walking to the train, like I was smiling right,
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  Speaker 1: and not one, not two, not three, four different people
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  Speaker 1: like if I caught eye contact with them, said hi
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  Speaker 1: or waved at me as I was moving, And it
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  Speaker 1: reminded me of that saying like if you want love,
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  Speaker 1: then be love. If you want kindness, then embrace kindness,
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  Speaker 1: then embody kindness, like you get back what you put
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  Speaker 1: into the world. And so I was reminded to make
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  Speaker 1: that conscious choice to show up and be the energy
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  Speaker 1: that I want to receive, be the light that maybe
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  Speaker 1: other people need and know that if I choose that path,
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  Speaker 1: then I can expect that that same good energy is
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  Speaker 1: going to come back in my direction. It was truly
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  Speaker 1: like one of those magical, beautiful New York moments, something
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  Speaker 1: that definitely goes maybe let's say my top five since
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  Speaker 1: moving here, and again a really beautiful reminder that you
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  Speaker 1: get what you put out into the world, and I
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  Speaker 1: choose to put out positivity. I choose to put out kindness.
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  Speaker 1: I choose to bring my smile and you can too.
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  Speaker 1: My prompt for you this week, what do you want?
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  Speaker 1: What do you want to receive from the world and
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  Speaker 1: are you doing or part to give that back in return?
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  Speaker 1: What do you want to receive from the world and
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  Speaker 1: are you doing your part to get that in return?
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  Speaker 1: And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, this is Addie from Chicago. I love following
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  Speaker 2: your podcast and following you on social media. You always
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  Speaker 2: seem like you have so many irons in the fire
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  Speaker 2: and are incredibly efficient at getting things done. Can you
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  Speaker 2: share how you are so productive? How do you go
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  Speaker 2: about planning your to do list each day while balancing
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  Speaker 2: long term goals both personally and professionally. Are there any
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  Speaker 2: certain technologies that you use. Are you more of a
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  Speaker 2: pen and paper kind of gal, And how do you
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  Speaker 2: go about optimizing your schedule and energy? Thank you so
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  Speaker 2: much for putting out so much great content.
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  Speaker 1: What's going on? Addie? You know what, I love this
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  Speaker 1: listener question from you because it is clearly very well
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  Speaker 1: thought out. It was probably written out in front of you.
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  Speaker 1: So I appreciate you for taking the time to make
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  Speaker 1: such great content so that I can come here and
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  Speaker 1: give you an answer. I appreciate your compliments as well.
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  Speaker 1: You know, sometimes I definitely feel like I have more
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  Speaker 1: irons in the fire than others. I am one of
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  Speaker 1: those people that's really content that we're all kind of
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  Speaker 1: in this mindset that it's time to get back to
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  Speaker 1: work because I am ready to work and I am
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  Speaker 1: ready for what lies ahead. I listened to a really
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  Speaker 1: great podcast today with Ashley Graham and Jay Shutty. It's
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  Speaker 1: from twenty nineteen. I'll linked in the show notes, but
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  Speaker 1: in it, Ashley says something that really resonated with me.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, you think you work hard, now, just wait
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  Speaker 1: until you get to the top, when you have to
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  Speaker 1: work even harder to stay there. And so it's funny
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  Speaker 1: to me because I think about how hard I feel
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  Speaker 1: as though I'm working now and understand that I have
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  Speaker 1: so much more to do and it's only gonna be
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  Speaker 1: hotter from here with all of those irons in the fire. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: I digress tools tricks how I make my to do lists.
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  Speaker 1: I would say that on the day, the to do
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  Speaker 1: list is either a shorter list of four to five
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  Speaker 1: items that I know are attainable for me. So I'm
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  Speaker 1: not one to make a massive to do list of
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  Speaker 1: ten to twelve items, knowing that I'm going to feel
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  Speaker 1: really overwhelmed if I stare at it. Rather, my hot
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  Speaker 1: tip for a great to do list is one that
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  Speaker 1: is actually attainable, one that you know is within your
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  Speaker 1: bandwidth to execute during the day, which may involve a
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  Speaker 1: little bit of prioritization on your part. Also, depending on
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  Speaker 1: how hectic the day is, I will choose to give
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  Speaker 1: certain tasks a time period. I've talked about this on
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  Speaker 1: the show before, but by doing this, you may be
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  Speaker 1: surprised just how long something actually takes you to do,
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  Speaker 1: versus if you weren't to give that a time limit
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  Speaker 1: at all. By now, a lot of the things that
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  Speaker 1: I do are things that I've done in some sort
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  Speaker 1: of capacity before, whether it is writing an article or
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  Speaker 1: recording a podcast, recording an intro, doing it edit, etc.
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  Speaker 1: So I have a pretty good idea of how long
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  Speaker 1: those tasks take. I'm sure that you have a rough
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  Speaker 1: idea of what may take certain amounts of time when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to your schedule, So try it right and learn,
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  Speaker 1: and this way you may also find out how much
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  Speaker 1: time you're wasting doing things that aren't exactly important aka
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  Speaker 1: scrolling or tiktoking or who knows what. I am a
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  Speaker 1: pen and paper kind of gal, although I do have
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  Speaker 1: appointments on a Google calendar and I will write down
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  Speaker 1: those in the scheduling format so I know what's on
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  Speaker 1: deck aside from the work that I have to do
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  Speaker 1: on my own time for the day. And the last
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  Speaker 1: thing I'll touch on is how do I balance it
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  Speaker 1: all when it comes to my personal and professional goals?
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  Speaker 1: And really it's prioritizing both right, Like, yes, I treat
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  Speaker 1: my work week like the work week Monday to Friday
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  Speaker 1: is my time like many of you listening to this
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  Speaker 1: to make things happen, But I also recognize that most
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  Speaker 1: of my Sundays end up being a work day in
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  Speaker 1: some capacity, so I don't necessarily have parameters as to
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  Speaker 1: when I can do certain things. I might decide that
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  Speaker 1: the best time for me too, I'm staring at my
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  Speaker 1: nails right now, go get a manicure is on Tuesday
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  Speaker 1: at ten thirty am to noon, right because I know
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  Speaker 1: that Sunday, when otherwise I might do something like that,
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  Speaker 1: I am probably going to be at my desk, editing, producing,
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  Speaker 1: doing something with the show. I'm really big at taking
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  Speaker 1: a look at my schedule for the week at the
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  Speaker 1: very front end of the week on Sunday, so I
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  Speaker 1: know what's coming down the pipe where I may be
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  Speaker 1: able to slot in certain priorities or action items. And again,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes those action items are work related, sometimes they're not.
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  Speaker 1: I have chosen this lifestyle as an entrepreneur, a solopreneur,
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  Speaker 1: someone who works for myself, because I feel like it
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  Speaker 1: suits me and my personality type and enables me to
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  Speaker 1: go after the things that are important to me and
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  Speaker 1: prioritize the things that are important to me. I say
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  Speaker 1: that knowing and recognizing that maybe not everyone would feel
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  Speaker 1: comfortable with this kind of flexibility and need for self reliance.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to know you, and you've got to do
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  Speaker 1: you and that at the end of the day, how
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  Speaker 1: you feel about yourself when you're by yourself, how you
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  Speaker 1: feel about what you're getting after when you're getting after it.
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  Speaker 1: That is uh, that's what's most important. I will say
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  Speaker 1: I love answering questions about what entrepreneurship looks like for
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  Speaker 1: me as well as all of your questions, so keep
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  Speaker 1: sending them in. If you have a listener question, there's
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  Speaker 1: a link in the show notes for you to ask
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  Speaker 1: one yourself. That's it for now, Thanks again for checking
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  Speaker 1: in for being a hurdler. It means the world over
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  Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.