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- Lucas: So picture this — you've had four meetings with a prospect, they've told you they're interested, they've agreed on price, and then — silence. They stop returning emails. The deal just sits there. Luna: Classic pipeline limbo. It's the worst. Lucas: Yeah, and most reps respond by chasing. They send 'checking in' emails, they offer discounts, they try to create artificial urgency. But one rep I talked to recently did something different. Luna: What did they do? Lucas: They asked the buyer for a specific date: 'When can you commit to having a final decision by?' Not 'Can you commit?' Not 'Should we move forward?' A simple, concrete timeline question. Luna: Huh. So they're asking for a date, not a yes. Lucas: Exactly. The rep was selling a SaaS platform — call it about four hundred and fifty thousand dollars annually. The buyer had all the information. The rep knew the buyer's CFO was involved, so there was a process. But the buyer kept saying 'We're getting there.' Luna: That's code for 'We haven't prioritized this.' Lucas: Right. So instead of piling on more demos or offering a trial extension, the rep said: 'I understand you need internal alignment. To make sure we're both allocating time well, can you give me a date by which you'll have a final commit — even if the commit is no?' Luna: Wow. That's gutsy. What happened? Lucas: The buyer paused. Then they said, 'March 15th.' That was three weeks out. The rep marked it on their calendar, didn't send any follow-ups, and on March 15th the buyer called and said, 'We're in. Our CFO signed off yesterday.' Luna: So the deadline worked — but it wasn't a hard deadline from the rep. It was a deadline the buyer chose. Lucas: That's the key insight. When you impose a deadline, buyers can feel manipulated. When you ask them to name it, they own it. And psychologically, once you've said 'March 15th' out loud, you've made a commitment to the act of deciding. Luna: I've seen research on this — setting a specific implementation intention dramatically increases follow-through. It's not just about closing; it's about getting people to commit to a behavior. Lucas: Exactly. The rep framed it as respect for both their time. 'If you can't decide by a specific date, that's fine — but then let's both stop allocating energy to this until you're ready.' That defuses pressure. Luna: And it also surfaces objections. If the buyer can't give you a date, there's usually a hidden blocker — budget, champion, competitor. Lucas: Right. The rep told me that in another deal, when they asked for the commit-by date, the buyer said 'I don't know' — and that led to a conversation about an internal stakeholder who'd gone dark. So it's diagnostic, too. Luna: I love that. It's a low-pressure way to pressure test the deal. Lucas: And here's the thing — this isn't a new idea. It's basically an application of the 'planning fallacy' research. When you ask someone to specify when they'll decide, you're forcing them to think realistically about their own process. Luna: Right. Buyers often think 'we'll decide soon' without mapping out the actual steps. Lucas: There are a few tactical ways to phrase it. The rep I talked to uses: 'To help us both plan our calendars, what date should I mark as your final decision point?' Luna: I like that. No 'commit', no 'close' — just 'decision point'. It's neutral. Lucas: Yeah. Another version is: 'If we don't hear from you by X, should we assume the timing isn't right?' That can work, but it's a little more confrontational. Luna: I'd save that for later-stage. Early on, it might spook them. Lucas: Agreed. So the commit-by close works best when you've already established value and the buyer has all the information they need. It's not a first-call tactic. Luna: And it's not just for SaaS. I've seen this in consulting, in hardware — anywhere there's a decision process. Lucas: One thing that surprised me — the rep said that about thirty percent of the time, the buyer names a date and then actually decides earlier. They surprise themselves. Luna: That's the power of setting a target. It's like telling yourself you'll run a marathon in six months — you start training sooner. Lucas: Exactly. And if you're a rep listening, there's a flip side: you also have to honor that date. If they say March 15th, don't call on March 14th. Wait until the 15th. Luna: Or even until the 16th, to show you trust them. Lucas: Yeah. And if they miss the date, you follow up with curiosity, not pressure: 'Hey, what happened on your end? Do we need to reset the date?' Luna: That's a great way to keep the conversation alive without being pushy. Lucas: Alright, quick honest thing — and this ties back to the idea of respecting time. A handful of listeners chip in monthly through buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo, and that's literally what funds making this many of these episodes without ads. Luna: Yeah, it's a small group, but it makes a huge difference. Keeps us independent. Lucas: So if these conversations have moved your work forward in some small way, that's the place. No pressure, genuinely. Luna: Alright, back to the date. I want to talk about what happens after they give you the date. Lucas: Right. So the rep said the most important thing is to document it. They send a quick recap email: 'Thanks, I have March 15th on my calendar as your decision date. I'll wait to hear from you then. If anything changes, let me know.' Luna: That email is gold. It creates a paper trail and a social contract. Lucas: Exactly. And then you really do wait. No check-in emails. No 'just seeing if you need anything.' The silence shows you respect their process. Luna: I think a lot of reps are afraid of that silence. They think staying visible keeps them top of mind. Lucas: But the data says the opposite. If you've already asked for a commit-by date, following up before that date actually reduces your close rate. It signals anxiety. Luna: So the rep is basically betting that the buyer will follow through. And most of the time, they do. Lucas: Yeah. The rep's close rate on deals where they got a commit-by date was north of seventy percent. Without it, it was below thirty. Luna: That's a huge swing. And it's not because the deals were different — it's because the act of naming a date forces the buyer to either get real or reveal that they're not serious. Lucas: Right. And that's the real win. Even if they say no, you know. You don't waste three more months in limbo. Luna: There's also a version of this for internal champions. You can ask them: 'By when can you get a decision from your CFO?' Same principle. Lucas: Good point. The question scales. And it works because it's respectful, direct, and it honors the buyer's autonomy. Luna: So the takeaway for anyone listening — next time you're stuck in that silent phase, don't chase. Just ask for a commit-by date. Lucas: And give yourself permission to wait. It's one of the hardest skills in sales — but it might be the most effective. Luna: Alright, I'm going to try that on my next deal. I'll let you know how it goes. Lucas: Please do. I'll be waiting — but only until the date you give me.