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Wouldn't It Be Nice to Stop Pretending You're Healed While Secretly Replaying the Heartbreak Every Night? | Heartbreak Healing, Emotional Attachment, Relationship Grief, Emotional Restoration & Healing Through Christ | Season 5 Ep 8 · Welcome to The Vineyard Podcast with Montoya Williams

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Vineyard Podcast where her identity in Christ becomes the foundation for a healthy Christ-centered relationship.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_00: Hi, love.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: If this is your first time here, we welcome you.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_00: And before we begin, we always start by inviting God into the conversation.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_00: So, Lord, thank you for every heart that you have led here today.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: And Lord, I ask that you will bless our ears to hear what needs to be heard.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: And I ask that you anoint my voice to speak what needs to be spoken.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I pray that we will receive it in Jesus' name.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_00: Amen.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: Hi, love.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: Can I love you enough to share a message of truth with you today?
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: Some women think healing begins the moment the relationship ends.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: But that's not always true.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: Because some relationships end physically while remaining emotionally alive for years, the conversations keep replaying, the disappointments keep resurfacing, the memories keep returning, and the wounds keep bleeding long after everyone else thinks you've moved on.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, love, that's what heartbreak does when it goes unhealed.
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: It keeps women emotionally attached to what hurt them.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: Not because they want the pain, but because they never fully healed from it.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_00: So they replay the relationship, replay the ending, replay the disappointment, trying to understand what happened, trying to understand what they missed, trying to understand why it hurts so deeply.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes healing is learning how to let go of the pain.
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: Learning how to release the disappointment, learning how to stop carrying yesterday's wounds into today's relationships.
• 2:34
  SPEAKER_00: Because many women by the name of love can only see the breakup.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: They can only see the rejection, the disappointment, the loneliness, the confusion.
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_00: But God sees something bigger.
• 2:49
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: God sees the woman you're becoming.
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe that's what makes healing so difficult sometimes because pain has a way of narrowing our focus.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: All we can see is what's happened.
• 3:11
  SPEAKER_00: All we can see is what we lost.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: All we can see is the wounds.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: But God sees beyond the wounds.
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_00: He sees the restoration.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: And that's why I love what God says in Jeremiah 30, 17.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_00: He says, but I will restore you to health and heal your wounds, declares the Lord.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: Notice that God does not say ignore the wounds.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: He does not say pretend it never happened.
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  SPEAKER_00: He doesn't say act like you're okay.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: No.
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  SPEAKER_00: He says, I will heal the wound.
• 3:48
  SPEAKER_00: Because healing is not pretending the pain never existed.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: Healing is allowing God to restore what was damaged.
• 3:59
  SPEAKER_00: And love, that's what I believe the vineyard is really about.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_00: It's not about perfection, it's about restoration.
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_00: Not pretending you're okay.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_00: Restoration.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_00: Not hiding the wounds.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_00: Restoration.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_00: Because through Christ, broken things can heal.
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: Wounded hearts can heal.
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_00: Disappointed women can heal.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: And one day, the very thing that once caused you pain may become part of the testimony that helps someone else find hope.
• 4:37
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: Because unhealed heartbreak has a way of convincing women that love is supposed to feel painful.
• 4:46
  SPEAKER_00: That love is supposed to feel uncertain.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: That love is supposed to feel exhausting.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_00: But healthy love was never meant to feel that way.
• 4:56
  SPEAKER_00: Healthy love feels safe.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: Safe enough for you to have peace.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_00: Safe enough for you to be yourself without constantly fearing the loss.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: So let's pray.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_00: Let's pray together.
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_00: Lord, thank you for every woman listening right now.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for carrying her through heartbreak, disappointment, rejection, loneliness, and emotional pain.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: And thank you for loving her even in the moments when her heart felt forgotten.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: Help her stop replaying what you are trying to heal.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: Lord, please restore her peace.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_00: Restore her trust, Lord.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_00: Restore her hope.
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: Restore the places within her that pain tried to damage.
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_00: And remind her that healing is available through you, God.
• 6:00
  SPEAKER_00: Not because the wound wasn't real, but because your restoration is greater in Jesus' name.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: Amen.
• 6:11
  SPEAKER_00: Love, if this episode spoke directly to your heart, stay close.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_00: Because health is unfolding inside the vineyard.
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_00: And I truly believe God is preparing something beautiful for the woman by the name of love.
• 6:25
  SPEAKER_00: So keep listening, keep growing, keep healing.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_00: And why?
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: It's because I want you to be among the first to know what's unfolded inside the vineyard.
• 6:37
  SPEAKER_00: So until next time, I encourage you to stay anchored in Christ and covered in love, and we'll chat again soon.