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Happy Hour with Tina: Diana’s Make-Out Era, Dating App Disasters & FaceTime Bar Nights · How Hard Can It Be? with Diana Maria Riva

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  Speaker 1: Welcome back to How Hard Can It Be? I'm Diana
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  Speaker 1: made Ariba, your host, and I'm here with another happy
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  Speaker 1: Hour episode with Tina Changing, my bestie of over forty years,
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  Speaker 1: logging on from my hometown in Cincinnati, Ohio. And little
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  Speaker 1: did we know we would be here, you know, from
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  Speaker 1: the halls of sant Antoninas Parish.
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  Speaker 2: And from the Huffy bikes.
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  Speaker 1: From the bikes that we would ride in the neighborhood.
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  Speaker 1: Here we are talking about our favorite episodes. Listen. The
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  Speaker 1: episode with Constance Marie was just so fun, was it not.
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  Speaker 2: I was fangirling about the dancing with Prince Yeah and
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  Speaker 2: David Bowie.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I was a back end dancer.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I danced with her at your birthday party,
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  Speaker 3: So technically I danced with David Bowie and Prince because
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  Speaker 3: Constance danced.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, sowhere.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you are a degree of separation and that's all
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  Speaker 1: you need.
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  Speaker 2: That's all I need.
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  Speaker 1: You are. You are not a demanding person. That is
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  Speaker 1: all you need. Let me ask you something, because Constant
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  Speaker 1: touched on something that I feel like you can relate to.
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  Speaker 1: She talked about how she had this pivotal moment in
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  Speaker 1: her life where she realized that in the household totem Pole,
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  Speaker 1: she was number five and that included the pets. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that was sad, that was That's a real but it's
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  Speaker 1: a big reality for a lot of women.
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  Speaker 2: There, and it's very true for a lot of women.
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  Speaker 1: Didn't you ever feel that way?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, oh, you are an anomaly.
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  Speaker 3: I guess it's because though in my own head, I mean,
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  Speaker 3: I might have been fifth or sixth. Yeah, but in
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  Speaker 3: my own head, in my own household, I'm I'm you know,
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  Speaker 3: everyone needs me, and I'm at the top.
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  Speaker 1: I'm queen.
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  Speaker 2: They will all falter without me, no doubt.
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  Speaker 1: That's the mindset to have.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I probably was very much at the bottom,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm saying, in my own head, I never felt
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  Speaker 2: that way.
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  Speaker 1: That's good.
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  Speaker 2: I never felt that way.
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  Speaker 3: My husband has never let me feel that way. We've
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  Speaker 3: always made sure that we have to, you know, to
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  Speaker 3: to our kids, displayed that the couple, the relationship is
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  Speaker 3: the you know, meat of the family and it is
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  Speaker 3: the reason that we all are here together.
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  Speaker 2: And this is you know, this needs fed too, This
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  Speaker 2: needs love and comfort and it needs its time. And
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  Speaker 2: you know, we still date, We still.
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  Speaker 3: Go out on dates and even though there's no one
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  Speaker 3: here and it's a random Tuesday, there's still a date night.
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  Speaker 1: So that's that's that's that's definitely the secret. I'm sure
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  Speaker 1: of it.
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  Speaker 3: How do you?
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  Speaker 1: How has it been for you? And you know because
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  Speaker 1: here I am by your side as your best sie
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  Speaker 1: of all these years and that wasn't my life. I
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  Speaker 1: did have a lot marriage, not thirty five years, but
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  Speaker 1: I had one that was you know, that brought my
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  Speaker 1: two beautiful souls into the world. And I had step
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  Speaker 1: children that I was a stepmother too, and I cared
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  Speaker 1: about them and loved them deeply.
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  Speaker 2: But that marriage gave, gave, gave, you gave a lot
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  Speaker 2: of your I did.
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  Speaker 1: I did, and then I found myself in similar situation
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  Speaker 1: as Constance, where I felt like I deserved love too.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't date in front of my children until they
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  Speaker 1: were like off in college, though, And you remember that.
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  Speaker 2: I do remember that. I remember picking through just you know,
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  Speaker 2: maybe not, Oh.
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  Speaker 1: I remember I remember one time before I met my guy.
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmm, before I met my guy.
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  Speaker 2: I already know this story. I already know.
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  Speaker 1: Gohead, I don't think, do you? When I called you
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  Speaker 1: and Mike so Sina and I would have happy hours.
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  Speaker 1: Like I spent many of Friday nights, many of Friday
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  Speaker 1: nights at home alone, and I would call you up
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  Speaker 1: and say, can we do a bar night? And you, guys,
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  Speaker 1: because you were three hours ahead. You were just home
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  Speaker 1: from the bars or going out or what to dinner, whatever,
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  Speaker 1: and you're like, yeah, came the party going. And we
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  Speaker 1: would log on FaceTime and I would have my little
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  Speaker 1: glass of wine in my house and you were my
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  Speaker 1: You guys were my social life. And I remember saying,
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  Speaker 1: I just want to kiss somebody. Do you remember that?
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  Speaker 1: Is that what you remember?
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  Speaker 2: That's one of them? No, okay, because I'm afraid of
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  Speaker 2: what you're going to say.
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  Speaker 3: The one I was thinking about, which is very similar
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  Speaker 3: to a bar night where we would either meet and
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  Speaker 3: we would talk about it. We're going to meet Are
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  Speaker 3: we going to meet for tequila tonight? Are we going
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  Speaker 3: to meet for wine tonight? What kind of mood are
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  Speaker 3: we in? And we would meet up at the bar.
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  Speaker 3: And the one night you shared your screen and we
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  Speaker 3: got to look at these lunatics.
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  Speaker 2: And we laughed hysterically for hours on the dating app
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  Speaker 2: living through and here you're living it, but we're living through.
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  Speaker 2: You're going and then we had like debate. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 2: then there was probably some.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know, probably some bald headed construction dude that
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  Speaker 3: Mike was probably like, yeah, I like him, but he
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  Speaker 3: probably had a stupid prompt that we didn't like.
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  Speaker 1: It didn't Yeah, it was about the language for us
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  Speaker 1: and the fact that he was he was was that
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  Speaker 1: cartoon what was that cartoon guy? Tim?
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  Speaker 2: Not the little Bob the buildolder.
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  Speaker 1: He was like a Bob the Builder and Mike is
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  Speaker 1: like that guy, and.
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  Speaker 2: You and I would just look at each other.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, he's a he's a nice looking guy, but
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  Speaker 1: his favorite pastime is something that I couldn't relate to.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I do remember that, but I remember telling
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  Speaker 1: you guys, I'm like, I just want to kiss someone,
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  Speaker 1: like I want to have a makeout session. And you're like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm on it. Uh. You're like, next time you come
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  Speaker 1: in town, because I come and I come home. I
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  Speaker 1: come home like twice a year. You're like, when you're
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  Speaker 1: here for the fourth of July, I got you. I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to find somebody And you actually did.
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  Speaker 2: I did.
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  Speaker 1: You had someone on what do you call it on deck?
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  Speaker 1: You had somebody on deck, somebody ready to go that
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  Speaker 1: we had known for many years, actually like a friend
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  Speaker 1: of ours. But it didn't happen. It didn't happen because
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  Speaker 1: that'd been weird. I'd be like, Hi, can I make
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  Speaker 1: out with you? I just want to make god nothing else,
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  Speaker 1: just just make out, and then this is weird.
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  Speaker 2: This is so weird.
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  Speaker 1: It would have been better almost if it had been
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  Speaker 1: a stranger. But then I'm like, eh, I don't like
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  Speaker 1: the kids strangers.
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  Speaker 3: Dada da, How was there was a thirty two year
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  Speaker 3: old that wanted to make out with you?
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  Speaker 2: The thirty two year old?
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  Speaker 3: Remember we discussed that we could be as mother, no all,
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  Speaker 3: the thirty two year old.
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  Speaker 2: I'm forgetting this.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, flatter my ego please, because I don't remember that.
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  Speaker 2: You were at a party. Oh I remember this badly
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  Speaker 2: because here I am married one hundred thousand years going.
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  Speaker 3: What you did?
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  Speaker 1: You did not and you did it, and I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: I say you.
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  Speaker 2: Said no because your dignity came through and said to
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  Speaker 2: this young man, listen, sonny. There's some things like there's
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  Speaker 2: this just this age factor, like I can I can
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  Speaker 2: handle a few years here and there, but this is a.
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  Speaker 1: Future too much like if I had started. If I
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  Speaker 1: had gotten married when I was twenty one, like you,
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  Speaker 1: he could have been my son that was.
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  Speaker 2: In your dying to make out era, So I thought maybe.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I don't know why I don't remember that,
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  Speaker 1: but it's on it tracks. It's on par with me.
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  Speaker 1: I you know, there was that element of me too
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  Speaker 1: that's just like shy and I'm like, I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to make out on this. Well, you know, I loved
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  Speaker 1: hearing those stories and I did. I appreciate you helping
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  Speaker 1: me scout at the time because it was worth it.
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  Speaker 1: And I found my guy.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and we love him. We do love him.
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  Speaker 1: Here's to you know, random men coming up to you
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  Speaker 1: at a bar and finding.
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  Speaker 2: Your guy making you feel young again.
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