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KOSTER REALTY 3-4-26 · One on One With a Professional

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  Speaker 1: Good morning, good morning, good morning, and welcome, welcome, welcome.
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  Speaker 1: It is time down from one on one with the
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  Speaker 1: pro and Shelley Costro is our pro today and my goodness, Shelley,
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  Speaker 1: we have got a lot of information to cover. You
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  Speaker 1: were so popular the first time you were on with
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  Speaker 1: all the information that you were dispensing, and that just
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  Speaker 1: leads to more questions.
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  Speaker 2: I guess yes, yes, yes, I enjoyed it and I
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  Speaker 2: did get great feedback, so I'm excited to keep doing
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  Speaker 2: and expanding it and bringing it all to our local residence.
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  Speaker 3: My goodness, sake. So we've been talking about seniors. We've
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  Speaker 3: been talking about transitional housing. We've been talking about just
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  Speaker 3: kind of getting ready for our next steps in life,
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  Speaker 3: and let's just jump right into it. What are some
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  Speaker 3: of the options that are available right here in Bartlesville
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  Speaker 3: for our seniors who need help but they're just not
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  Speaker 3: quite ready for nursing.
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  Speaker 2: Care Well, Bartlesfield, We're very fortunate that we have a
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  Speaker 2: lot of support here in Bartlesville, and many many families
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  Speaker 2: don't realize that, and unfortunately we don't realize it until
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  Speaker 2: it's too late. But we have a lot of in
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  Speaker 2: home health care such as Visiting Angels and many other organizations.
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  Speaker 2: We have transitional rehab options Bartlesville Health and Rehab. They
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  Speaker 2: have transitional where they come in and you can do
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  Speaker 2: rehab and then housing all the.
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  Speaker 4: Way through up to full care.
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  Speaker 2: We have assisted and memory care options Green Country Village
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  Speaker 2: and I'm going to be honest, I've had the opportunity
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  Speaker 2: to go there, and they have fun.
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  Speaker 3: They do.
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  Speaker 4: They have fun like, they have a lot of activities,
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  Speaker 4: they have happy.
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  Speaker 2: Hours and it's almost makes you excited to want to
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  Speaker 2: get in there.
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  Speaker 4: And then we have a lot of active adults.
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  Speaker 2: So we really tried to figure help them determine what
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  Speaker 2: is that transition plan?
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  Speaker 3: And these options are all right here, as you say,
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  Speaker 3: right here in our area, which is great and if
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  Speaker 3: you happen to explore it, well, we urge you to
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  Speaker 3: do that a little bit more too. What in home
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  Speaker 3: healthcare services do we have locally? When you know and
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  Speaker 3: when should our families start thinking about putting them to.
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  Speaker 2: Use well, And again I've experienced this, I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: go back and I've had the opportunity to meet with
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  Speaker 2: many families and so when they are getting to that point,
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  Speaker 2: especially if their family lives far away, and they just
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  Speaker 2: don't know what to do. What we look for is
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  Speaker 2: to make sure there's no fall hazards. So with my
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  Speaker 2: with my mom and other clients, I would remove rugs
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  Speaker 2: right are there stairs? I helped one lady that the
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  Speaker 2: stairs was upstairs. And you have to remember it's hard
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  Speaker 2: getting old is not for the week, right, and so
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  Speaker 2: it's hard to let go of that independence. So we
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  Speaker 2: help them gently realize and self discover some of the
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  Speaker 2: things that they need. You want to make sure that
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  Speaker 2: are they isolated or medical there's medication confusion, right, because
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  Speaker 2: that can create all kinds of other health issues if
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  Speaker 2: they don't take their medicine ride or they take it,
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  Speaker 2: they skip it, or they take it too often, or
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  Speaker 2: it can it can cause a lot of issues. And
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  Speaker 2: so we really want to go in there and analyze that.
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  Speaker 2: Are they eating properly right?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the one that gets by folks a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And so sometimes they might just need We have
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  Speaker 2: a lot of care facilities that'll come by in home
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  Speaker 2: and that is they'll organize the medicine for them. They'll
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  Speaker 2: just come in once or twice a week. However, often
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  Speaker 2: the family needs them just to check and it gives
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  Speaker 2: that family that they're you know, they're loved ones, that
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  Speaker 2: comfort to know they're being checked on and they're being
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  Speaker 2: taken care of. And it's not the cares, not a
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  Speaker 2: one size fits all, No, it's going to be very
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  Speaker 2: independently based.
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  Speaker 3: We're talking with Shelley Costro with Costra Realty, and we're
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  Speaker 3: also talking about a lot of transitions in life too.
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  Speaker 3: What transitional or assisted living facilities are available right here
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  Speaker 3: in Bartlesville.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, my goodness, we have. We have so many.
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  Speaker 2: Health care facilities and elder care is a great one.
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  Speaker 2: That's a great place to start. It gets them out,
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  Speaker 2: they have health care and they can also help you
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  Speaker 2: find other facilities. But we have a lot of again
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  Speaker 2: assisted living, and that's where you can start. You're independent,
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  Speaker 2: but then you're there to gradually move up as health
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  Speaker 2: care is needed. So and there's a lot of in
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  Speaker 2: home health care if your loved ones.
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  Speaker 4: Don't.
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  Speaker 2: And I'll be honest, I had this conversation with my
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  Speaker 2: mom and I struggled with this and it was we
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  Speaker 2: promised her from a young from when I was young
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  Speaker 2: and my dad was young, you know, they were younger,
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  Speaker 2: that I'm never going to go into a nursing home.
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  Speaker 2: But the great thing about it is nursing homes aren't
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  Speaker 2: what they used to be or the perception of them are.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, they used to be perceived as like a warehouse
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  Speaker 3: for people, and that's not quite the case anymore.
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 2: And you can walk into any of them and they're
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  Speaker 2: just full of You see them all playing cards, they
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  Speaker 2: have activities for them, yes, and it's it's a great
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  Speaker 2: it's a great place.
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  Speaker 4: So introduce them to that also helps.
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  Speaker 2: Before they get to that stage where they need that,
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  Speaker 2: so they're not as scared and they're not as you know,
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  Speaker 2: and it's it's they're not lonely. It's just really helping
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  Speaker 2: them asking those right questions to help them discover that's
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  Speaker 2: what they want to go. You don't want them to
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  Speaker 2: lose that independence or to feel like their voice isn't heard.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's very important. It truly is you put
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  Speaker 3: yourself in their place. Yes, But the best way to
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  Speaker 3: do that, because that's really how it works now. Our
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  Speaker 3: can families identify what level of care that their loved
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  Speaker 3: ones actually need. It's not like you said, the one
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  Speaker 3: size fits all. It's not from house to nursing home
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  Speaker 3: and there's a whole lot of in between.
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  Speaker 2: So we do what we care, what we call a
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  Speaker 2: care kind of method. So first is the sea is
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  Speaker 2: for we do clarity, right, we want clarity what's actually
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  Speaker 2: happening with them on a day to day basis. Are
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  Speaker 2: we seeing that because a lot of times they're not
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  Speaker 2: going to tell you, or they don't recognize their memory,
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  Speaker 2: or you know, they took those two pills because they
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  Speaker 2: thought that's what they were supposed to do. So we
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  Speaker 2: look for little signs like that, and then we do
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  Speaker 2: an assessment. We talk with our doctors. Are you seeing
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  Speaker 2: any any other signs of this?
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  Speaker 4: Again?
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  Speaker 2: You know, with my mom, if we had to managers
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  Speaker 2: because we didn't want her to get fluid and we'd
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  Speaker 2: end up in the hospital, we really wanted the family
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  Speaker 2: to be involved with that. And then the R is
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  Speaker 2: the reality mapping, what does it look like and what
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  Speaker 2: plan We help the families determine what stage when are
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  Speaker 2: they going to be ready? And then what stage of
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  Speaker 2: health care do they need? And we create that roadmap
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  Speaker 2: for them. And then the E is engagement plan, Right,
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  Speaker 2: how can we engage in, how can we help you
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  Speaker 2: along and assist that? So it really is when I'm talking,
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  Speaker 2: I'm talking to not only the seniors but also the families, right,
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  Speaker 2: because we want the families to be able to love
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  Speaker 2: them and take care of them and make it as
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  Speaker 2: stress fee as possible because it is. And we want
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  Speaker 2: to make sure if you have if you have two
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  Speaker 2: parents in the home or two loved and you got
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  Speaker 2: to make sure that you're taking care of the caretaker
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  Speaker 2: of that too, because it is very stressful for them.
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  Speaker 2: And I know with my stepdad it was. He took
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  Speaker 2: amazing care of my mom, but we were also very
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  Speaker 2: worried about what it was doing to him because it
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  Speaker 2: can be very stressful.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my goodness sake. So we have to watch out
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  Speaker 3: for everyone who's involved. Yeah, it's like a circle of
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  Speaker 3: de Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So we just try to reduce the emotion and by
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  Speaker 2: adding structure. Right, people make decisions on emotion. We want
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  Speaker 2: them to. We want to bring that logic into it
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  Speaker 2: and not wait too late until they're making an emotional
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  Speaker 2: panic decision.
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  Speaker 3: Now, we touched on this a time or two earlier,
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  Speaker 3: but some of the warning signs that we need to
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  Speaker 3: consider for transition. We you know, forgetfulness is one, right,
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  Speaker 3: and then a few other things like maybe.
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  Speaker 2: Balance balance, cognitive changes. Are they forgetting to pay their
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  Speaker 2: bills right? We want to make sure their finances and again,
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  Speaker 2: medication is huge. Are they having a lot of falls?
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  Speaker 2: That's a big sign, you know what I mean? Is
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  Speaker 2: there bathrooms where they can get in and out easily?
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  Speaker 2: Is their home prepared for that?
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 2: And so waiting for a crisis often often removes options.
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  Speaker 2: So we want you to plan early so you could
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  Speaker 2: avoid that.
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  Speaker 3: There you go, very good. Now can adult how can
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  Speaker 3: adult kids? And we are the adult kids because we
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  Speaker 3: have parents and we were both in this, you know
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  Speaker 3: at the same time, how can adult children start this
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  Speaker 3: conversation without you know, hurting feelings and getting things all
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  Speaker 3: balled up and creating a conflict. Is I did this
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  Speaker 3: wrong the first time? I can tell you it's really
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  Speaker 3: easy to do.
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  Speaker 2: It is very easy to do because and it can
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  Speaker 2: be frustrating, Let's be honest, because they're set in their ways,
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  Speaker 2: they are determined to do that. I think it's really
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  Speaker 2: and I think this is true with any conversation. Tom
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  Speaker 2: it's what you say, it's it's it's not it's it's
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  Speaker 2: how you say it as well. So instead of saying,
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  Speaker 2: you know, dad, it's time to move. It is more
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  Speaker 2: of a what could we do to make your life easier?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 2: You want to ask those questions to help them self
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  Speaker 2: discover right. And the thing is is what a lot
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  Speaker 2: of adults I see too, they don't want to be
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  Speaker 2: a burden on their loved ones, so therefore they're not
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  Speaker 2: going to be as open and honest. So it's asking
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  Speaker 2: those questions and always from that contribution, not a telling them,
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  Speaker 2: but help asking those questions so that they discover that
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  Speaker 2: so they don't feel.
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  Speaker 3: Pressured, so that it becomes their idea.
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  Speaker 2: It's their idea, they feel heard, and then you're helping them.
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  Speaker 2: You're helping them make that transition and the earlier again
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  Speaker 2: that you can do that, you're not making a panic
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  Speaker 2: decision when it's too late.
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  Speaker 3: Boy, I'll tell you what that Truer words have never
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  Speaker 3: been said there. Yeah, what is one practical first step
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  Speaker 3: that we can take this week as we're following along
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  Speaker 3: here and trying to trying to to make this plan
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  Speaker 3: for either ourselves or for our parents.
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  Speaker 2: I think just doing a home walk through and then
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  Speaker 2: sometimes it can you know, you have to do that
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  Speaker 2: general like why don't we move this rag mom, because
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  Speaker 2: I think this house it would look better right, or
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  Speaker 2: if they have a walk or we want to move
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  Speaker 2: any trip hazards. Lighting because it's very depressing if the
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  Speaker 2: room is dark, so we want to keep them in
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  Speaker 2: that positive, you know, frame of mind. And then staircases.
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  Speaker 2: Is it easy to access that? Do we need to
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  Speaker 2: address that? If their bedroom's upstairs, do we need to
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  Speaker 2: move it downstairs?
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  Speaker 4: Again?
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  Speaker 2: Bathroom safety? Can they get in and out of it?
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  Speaker 2: Do we need to install a handicap shower? And then
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  Speaker 2: medication storage story right, storage for medication and then you
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  Speaker 2: know a system for that, So that alone often reveals
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  Speaker 2: what level of impact that they might need, you know.
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  Speaker 3: And when you're doing this slowly, deliberately and together and
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  Speaker 3: intentionally intentionally, it works out a whole lot better. I'm
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  Speaker 3: just telling you. And if someone wants some help in
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  Speaker 3: navigating these options, Shelley, how can we reach you?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'm Shelley Costerer with the Coster Team with Keller
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  Speaker 2: Williams Partners, and I'm here in Bartlesdale and I also
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  Speaker 2: serve Grand Lake.
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  Speaker 4: And if your family needs.
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  Speaker 2: Just a clarity about the transitional part of moving a
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  Speaker 2: family or in home care and just want to create
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  Speaker 2: a thoughtful pan I'm here to help you and guide
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  Speaker 2: you along the way so you can reach out to
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  Speaker 2: me social media and the cost your team, my emails,
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  Speaker 2: the Coster your team, and so we're happy.
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  Speaker 4: To help you.
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  Speaker 1: Now.
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  Speaker 3: When we were on the last time, about a month
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  Speaker 3: to go, I guess it was people had to ask
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  Speaker 3: of the They said that lady is in real estate
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  Speaker 3: and she's talking about transition, yeah, housing and everything. I said,
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  Speaker 3: she's here to help the whole family. She's here to
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  Speaker 3: help them the whole picture. It's not like, hey, there's
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  Speaker 3: a house, we're the house belongs to a family. House
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  Speaker 3: belongs to people, and she's taking care of the people.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, and we really truly do care.
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  Speaker 2: And again I'm passionate about it because I've helped a
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  Speaker 2: lot of family members. I've helped other people that don't
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  Speaker 2: have kids that are closed and so we're just very
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  Speaker 2: passionate about that, very passionate.
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  Speaker 3: And it shows. Thank you, It really really shows again
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  Speaker 3: the website and the phone numbers, so folks get a
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  Speaker 3: hold of you.
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  Speaker 2: My phone number is nine one eight nine one four
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  Speaker 2: three four four four and it's the Costerteam dot com.
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  Speaker 3: Shelly. I thank you very much for being here with you,
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  Speaker 3: and I look forward to our next visit.
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  Speaker 4: Right that, I am the same Alrighty, folks
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  Speaker 3: You've been watching and listening to one on one with
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