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How an Introvert Tried to Flirt and Accidentally Short Circuited · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Sai, and this is the story of how
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  Speaker 1: I tried to flirt with my crush as a full-time
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  Speaker 1: introvert and instead nearly short-circuited from secondhand embarrassment caused by myself.
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  Speaker 1: Let's just say I didn't get the love story I expected,
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  Speaker 1: but I did learn a lot about what introverts do
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  Speaker 1: when they catch feelings. Spoiler, it's weird. It all started
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  Speaker 1: in my last year of high school. I was the
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  Speaker 1: quiet kid, the background character. The, oh, I didn't realize
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  Speaker 1: you were in this class, student. Enter Alex. They transferred mid-year. Confident,
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  Speaker 1: but not arrogant. Friendly, but not fake. You know, that
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  Speaker 1: kind of person who just feels easy to be around.
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  Speaker 1: And suddenly I was like, oh no. I have a crush.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't even really know them, but they smiled at
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  Speaker 1: me once during attendance and my brain printed out a
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  Speaker 1: wedding invitation. Now, as an introvert, I had zero idea
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  Speaker 1: how to express interest. So here was the plan. Step one,
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  Speaker 1: sit vaguely near them. Step two, never speak. Step three,
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  Speaker 1: hope they magically fall in love with me by sensing
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  Speaker 1: my energy. I once made eye contact for maybe two seconds.
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  Speaker 1: It was electric. And then I immediately tripped over a
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  Speaker 1: desk trying to look away. I spent weeks just existing
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  Speaker 1: near them. Saying hi in my head. Smiling in my head.
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  Speaker 1: Having whole conversations in my head. Meanwhile, Alex probably thought
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  Speaker 1: I was avoiding them. Or weird. Or both weird. I
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  Speaker 1: tried to psych myself up. Every day I told myself,
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  Speaker 1: today you're gonna say something. Even just hi. But every
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  Speaker 1: time the moment came, I froze. My heart would race,
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  Speaker 1: my mouth would dry up, and I'd default to pretending
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  Speaker 1: I was very busy looking at a pencil. I also
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  Speaker 1: developed a crush anxiety tick, erasing my own messages before
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  Speaker 1: hitting send. I'd open our class group chat and type,
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  Speaker 1: hey Alex, did you get the homework? then delete it
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  Speaker 1: and Google it instead. One time, I almost said hi.
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  Speaker 1: I raised my hand, waved, and they waved back. It
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  Speaker 1: was working! And then my brain screamed, PANIC! And I
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  Speaker 1: walked straight into a door. I wish I was exaggerating.
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  Speaker 1: After that, I waited them for a week. Not because
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  Speaker 1: I didn't like them anymore, but because I couldn't survive
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  Speaker 1: the flashbacks. Eventually, I realized I was doing that introvert
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  Speaker 1: thing where you wait so long to act that your
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  Speaker 1: feelings start to turn into guilt and self-hate. Why can't
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  Speaker 1: I just talk to them? What is wrong with me?
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  Speaker 1: They probably like someone more confident. It wasn't even about
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  Speaker 1: Alex anymore. It was about me not feeling like I
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  Speaker 1: was enough. That I'd never be the type of person
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  Speaker 1: someone would choose. And that hurt more than rejection. So
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  Speaker 1: I decided no more imaginary flirting. I was gonna talk
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  Speaker 1: to them, really talk, even if it was awkward, even
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  Speaker 1: if I turned into a tomato with anxiety. My chance
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  Speaker 1: came during a group project. Our teacher paired me with Alex.
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  Speaker 1: I died internally, but also thank you universe. We started
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  Speaker 1: working on the project together, and I learned something shocking.
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  Speaker 1: Alex was kind of shy too. Not in the same
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  Speaker 1: way as me, but still. They asked me, hey, do
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  Speaker 1: you like Studio Ghibli? I love Studio Ghibli. I practically cried.
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  Speaker 1: And that one question turned into more. We started texting,
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  Speaker 1: sharing memes, sending playlists. I found out they were also
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  Speaker 1: anxious sometimes, and that they noticed when I got quiet
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  Speaker 1: in group chats. No, we didn't fall madly in love
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  Speaker 1: and run away to an anime-style hilltop. But we became friends.
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  Speaker 1: Real friends. And who knows, maybe something more, someday. But
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  Speaker 1: I realized this. I didn't have to become someone loud
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  Speaker 1: or outgoing. I just had to be brave, in my
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  Speaker 1: own quiet way. Sometimes flirting doesn't look like roses and declarations.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes it looks like showing up, stuttering through small talk,
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  Speaker 1: and staying long enough to be seen. And honestly, that's
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  Speaker 1: way more real. So yeah, that's the story of how
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  Speaker 1: I tried to flirt as an introvert and didn't totally fail.
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  Speaker 1: Have you ever had a crush and panicked every time
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  Speaker 1: they looked at you? Let me know in the comments.
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  Speaker 1: It might make me feel better. I'll be down there
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  Speaker 1: reading your awkward stories so I feel less alone. And hey,
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  Speaker 1: introverts unite, not in a crowd, in a quiet room
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  Speaker 1: with snacks and preferably Wi-Fi. See you next time.