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What's The Longest You've Gone Without Talking To Your Partner? · The Breakfast Club

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Speaker 1: It's topic times called eight hundred five eight five one
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Speaker 1: oh five. Want to join it to the discussion with
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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club talk about it? Wanting everybody in DJ
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Speaker 1: Envy Charlemagne the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. Now
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Speaker 1: if you just joined us, we're asking what is the
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Speaker 1: longest time you went without talking to your spouse, your boyfriend,
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Speaker 1: your girlfriend. Maybe you were beefing, maybe I were fighting,
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Speaker 1: and what's the longest period of time you went without
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Speaker 1: talking to him? This actually came from our producer that's
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Speaker 1: going through it now. Um, I'm not gonna lie. Me
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Speaker 1: and my wife get mad at each other, but when
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Speaker 1: you got kids, you gotta talk, you know what I mean.
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Speaker 1: It's it's this you stop. It's not like you can't. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I mean me and my wife we've been together twenty
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Speaker 1: five years. We've been married since two thousand fourteen. But
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Speaker 1: the longest I remember us not going to talking, not
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Speaker 1: talking MC when in college she had when she was
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Speaker 1: in college, she had broke up from me for like
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Speaker 1: a year. I don't remember what, Yeah, this was. This
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Speaker 1: had to be like h old old three old four.
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Speaker 1: Maybe I don't remember what year it was. We was
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Speaker 1: broke up for a year and like, yeah, I didn't.
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Speaker 1: She wasn't answering the phone for me nothing, So that
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Speaker 1: had to be win. I don't remember how long we
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Speaker 1: didn't talk four, but I though it had to be
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Speaker 1: within that year span. Boy, that was tort you man.
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Speaker 1: That brings up all kind of triggers to me. Huh,
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Speaker 1: that was the worst part. That was a terrible time
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Speaker 1: in my life. Yeah, I was thinking about I think
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Speaker 1: maybe a day and I was traveling and we were
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Speaker 1: arguing about something, and then you realize that, damn, I
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Speaker 1: gotta call off for something. You always gotta call your
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Speaker 1: wife for something, call your girl for something. But also,
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Speaker 1: I don't even play like that because life is short,
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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And you don't ever want
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Speaker 1: to be in a position where something bad happens. And y'all,
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Speaker 1: y'all not speaking over something petty, you know what I mean,
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Speaker 1: And then you think in yourself, damn, the last thing
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Speaker 1: we spoke about was stupid, something stupid trinking and made
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Speaker 1: us not talk like you don't want to ever want
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Speaker 1: to be in that position. So you know, I tend
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Speaker 1: to get over things quite fast in regard to them,
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Speaker 1: not not even just my wife, but just people I
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Speaker 1: love in general. You know, Oh, I haven't got there yet.
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Speaker 1: I get over things fast because to my wife and
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Speaker 1: family other people was taken all the time. But right
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Speaker 1: I was lying. You know what I'm saying. I was.
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Speaker 1: I'm still working through that in therapy. I'm not gonna see.
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sit here and I did lie to y'all.
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Speaker 1: Just now you know what I'm saying. But that's I'm
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Speaker 1: with v like you know, if it ain't my wife,
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Speaker 1: ain't too many of y'all I care about not talking
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Speaker 1: to you no more. I'm letting you know that right now.
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Speaker 1: Damn it. Man, All right, let's go to the phone line. Hello,
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Speaker 1: what's this? Hey, this is Brian from Detroit. What's happening? Brian?
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Speaker 1: What I'm telling? What's happening? My ampho kind of old brothers.
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Speaker 1: We'll see, Brian. See. I'm gonna be in Detroit this Friday. Brian,
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Speaker 1: you got a white Brian on boyfriend? Yo? You sound crazy?
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Speaker 1: Got Brian? First of all? First of all, m you
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Speaker 1: gotta start putting comments in between those statements that man said,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be in I'm gonna be in Detroit this weekend.
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Speaker 1: You got a wife for our girlfriend now, because I'm
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Speaker 1: DJ and you ain't say that. That's what I'm going
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Speaker 1: to get to it. I'm DJ and something and I
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Speaker 1: was gonna fight you and your wife. You got these
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Speaker 1: crazy run on sentences. Yeah, I was gonna fighte you
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Speaker 1: and your wife out. I got a DJ, the four Back,
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Speaker 1: fall Back in Love, Comedy, jam It trade songs as
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Speaker 1: Monica is, Uh, marry old Jack queez. If you want
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Speaker 1: to go, little Duvall, I'll set you up. Hey, that's
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Speaker 1: that's what's ups hell. Yeah, I want to go. Just
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Speaker 1: just stay on the line. After we finished talking, I
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Speaker 1: get you some tickets, brother, for sure. So what's the
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Speaker 1: longest you've been without talking to your your your wife?
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Speaker 1: About eighteen days? Man? It was a sweetest day. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and the sweetest day, bro, I had caught. I had
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Speaker 1: brought her a car like three days before and she
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Speaker 1: wanted to go to a Halloween party and I was sleepy,
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Speaker 1: so after the party I wanted to go home and
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Speaker 1: go to sleep. So she was upset that we didn't
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Speaker 1: do nothing. Sweetest day and end up not talking to
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Speaker 1: me for like eighteen days. You know, I'm Paddy, I'm
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Speaker 1: a brother though, so I'm look, so I'm coming the
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Speaker 1: days and I'm like, you ain't talking to me in
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Speaker 1: eighteen days, and now you just want to come back
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Speaker 1: around and hoods on the dude, No, it ain't gonna work.
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Speaker 1: First of all, you weren't concerned, y'all. Y'all weren't concerned
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Speaker 1: about each other, Like where was where was she? After
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Speaker 1: eighteen days? Where was you at? Because are you alive?
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Speaker 1: You in the hopel? No? We we you know, we
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Speaker 1: the work. We come home. We just didn't say nothing. Man,
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Speaker 1: we had kids, so we kind of time that way. Damn, yeah,
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Speaker 1: it was. It was rough. All right, We'll staying alone.
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get you those tickets, bro, see you'll see
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Speaker 1: you on Friday. Appreciate you. Hello, who's this? My name
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Speaker 1: is day Tisha. What's the longest you went without talking
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Speaker 1: to your spouse? I know it times unbelievable, but I'm
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Speaker 1: actually engaged, and um, we're going on we two without talking.
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Speaker 1: We live in the same house. That is so stupid.
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Speaker 1: I say the reason. First of all, I don't even
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Speaker 1: care what the reason is. If y'all live in the
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Speaker 1: same house and y'all not talking for two weeks, that
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Speaker 1: is so stupid, because what if something happens to either
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Speaker 1: one of your God forbid? And that's that's that's my argument.
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Speaker 1: But I think I'm so stubborn and he's so stubborn.
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Speaker 1: I don't think he really bothers. He one of us.
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Speaker 1: He worked that night. I worked in the day. Were
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Speaker 1: you from. I'm in Georgia. What's the reason y'all not talking?
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Speaker 1: Tell me the reason we're not talking because my fiance
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Speaker 1: say things that he don't really mean, get angry, and
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Speaker 1: he likes to make up with gilt money, date trills. Um,
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Speaker 1: we have most to make up. You know, I'm the
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Speaker 1: type of person you can't do that. You just can't
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Speaker 1: say you want to say to me and think it's
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Speaker 1: gonna be okay. And we've been together four years. He
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Speaker 1: knows that. So his birthday was last week. We didn't
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Speaker 1: even talk on his birthday. You didn't talk to one's
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Speaker 1: birthday on this birthday. I need to know what he said.
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Speaker 1: What did he say to you? He said, I'm stick
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Speaker 1: going through this every other day? Okay, what she was
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Speaker 1: talking about? I have no idea. I don't even know
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Speaker 1: what what the argument was. But because I have no
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Speaker 1: idea that he didn't want to explain. Until you're ready
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Speaker 1: to explain, we won't talk to get play sixty week.
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Speaker 1: Everybody got another to me, So why don't you ask him?
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Speaker 1: That doesn't seems like a cry for help. Just ask him, like, yo, bull,
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Speaker 1: what's going on? What's what's up with you? Something going
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Speaker 1: on in your life? Let's have a conversation right now.
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Speaker 1: You see how easy he said that, and the response
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Speaker 1: you have been an easy a cun Yes, it's not
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Speaker 1: going to be the response I want. So instead of
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Speaker 1: arguing with you, whenever you're ready to have that true conversation,
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Speaker 1: we can have it. But until then, I'm gonna keep
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Speaker 1: having my fun. I go out, he go out. We
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Speaker 1: still a live set for lives. So well, either y'all
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Speaker 1: need to go to therapy or you need to tell him. Look, man,
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Speaker 1: you got two more weeks because after thirty days or
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Speaker 1: of this card, this card not being claimed saying you
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Speaker 1: know what I mean, I've already made that. I've already
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Speaker 1: made that conclusion we got. We really got another couple
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Speaker 1: of days. Once this week is lever, we're not speaking.
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Speaker 1: We're definitely gonna be speaking, but it's not gonna be
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Speaker 1: about what he wants to be damn damn all right, well,
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Speaker 1: happy birthday to him. I hope he's listening. Maybe maybe
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Speaker 1: he knows. My boy can hear this? In it together?
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Speaker 1: What's his name? Just tell him, tell him right, and
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Speaker 1: tell him you want him to get it together. Say
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Speaker 1: it tall, I really need for you to get it together, okay,
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Speaker 1: because maybe we had to end the boy a road. Okay,
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Speaker 1: all right, tell him if you're listening, come on, you
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Speaker 1: gotta get it together. If you really love this woman,
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Speaker 1: you want to marry this woman, and you want to
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Speaker 1: the rest of your life with this woman, you call
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Speaker 1: them and you got some things on your chest. I
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Speaker 1: know it's difficult sometimes to get it off your chest,
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Speaker 1: but get it off your chest so you can continue
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Speaker 1: move on and be happy and then get back in
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Speaker 1: that that that sat away you need to be. And
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Speaker 1: if y'all need a mediator, go to a therapist. Go
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Speaker 1: sit down with a therapist. A couple of therapists, and
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Speaker 1: y'all sit down and you know, get everything out. But
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Speaker 1: you know, not talking to each other in the same
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Speaker 1: house that is wildly unhealthy for no damn reason. And
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Speaker 1: you ain't gonna be in my house not talking to
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Speaker 1: me for no, damn two weeks. That ain't your house.
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Speaker 1: It's their house, you know what I mean? Right there,
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Speaker 1: thank you, Mama, ap Jesus, and you're having sex. No, no,
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Speaker 1: ain't nobody got time for that. Eight hundred five eight
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Speaker 1: five one oh five one. We're asking what's the longest
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Speaker 1: you've been without talking to your spouse? Call us now,
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Speaker 1: it's the Breakfast Club the morning. Call me your opinions
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Speaker 1: to the Breakfast Club to get five one five one morning.
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Speaker 1: Everybody is DJ Envy Charlemagne the guy. We are the
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Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. Now if you just joined us with asking
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Speaker 1: what's the longest you've been without talking to your spouse?
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Speaker 1: Maybe after an argument, maybe after a disagreement, whatever it
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Speaker 1: may be, what's the longest you've been me, it's probably
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Speaker 1: been not even a day. You know, I'm virgo, so
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Speaker 1: I get upset, I get attitudes and gets to the
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Speaker 1: point I'm gonna always need my wife something or not.
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Speaker 1: I mean, like, you know, me and my wife been
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Speaker 1: married in twenty fourteen, but we've been together since you know,
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Speaker 1: ninety eight, so we've been together to be twenty five
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Speaker 1: years this year. So it was definitely she broke up
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Speaker 1: with me for a year, and like I think it
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Speaker 1: would be the old two or old three, and she
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Speaker 1: definitely was not talking to me, like she definitely had
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Speaker 1: disconnected U from me. So it had to be within
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Speaker 1: that time. Man, I don't know how long we went
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Speaker 1: without talking, but it definitely was within that year. We
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Speaker 1: didn't talk a lot. Yeah, somebody always told me if
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Speaker 1: you if you're having a problem with your wife or
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Speaker 1: your husband, the worst thing you do is not talk,
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Speaker 1: and the second worst thing you could do is leave
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Speaker 1: the house. Bro. The worst thing you can do if
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Speaker 1: anybody you're having a problem with it not communicate. Like ya,
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Speaker 1: I really truly believe that most situations can be resolved
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Speaker 1: if people just communicate. Nobody likes to communicate with each other.
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Speaker 1: We either don't talk, or when we do talk to
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Speaker 1: each other, we don't tell each other the truth about
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Speaker 1: what we're mad at. We'd be all passive aggressive with it,
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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like, just lay it out
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Speaker 1: on the lay it out on the table, don't worry
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Speaker 1: about hurting other person of feelings. Just get it out.
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Speaker 1: That's the only way you can, actually, I believe have
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Speaker 1: healthy relationships and to communicate. Hello, who's this Hey? From Jersey.
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Speaker 1: We're part of Jersey, not no, all right, what's the
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Speaker 1: longest you've been without talking to you? Boo um. Me
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Speaker 1: and my husband we probably went like four hours, he
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Speaker 1: called ourselves, getting mad at you. One dance for him
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Speaker 1: and out the house just to go with it in
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Speaker 1: front of the house of the car. Four hours. Then
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Speaker 1: he realized he needs you for something. Got to come
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Speaker 1: back in hours. Right of course. You know you got
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Speaker 1: a wife. You know that'd be funny though, when when
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Speaker 1: guys leave the house acting like we're going somewhere, knowing
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Speaker 1: damn well, I know where to go, no where to go?
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Speaker 1: Right I was, I was like, what are you as?
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Speaker 1: He wasn't answering me nothing the whole time He's spend
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Speaker 1: in front of the house. Thank you Mama for I
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Speaker 1: was ain't too bad though. I was actually necessary, even
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Speaker 1: even in a healthy relationship when y'all not beefing over nothing,
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Speaker 1: sometimes you just gotta get away from your significant other.
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Speaker 1: You need your your a long time. Hello, who's this good?
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Speaker 1: Nika calling from I'm calling from Florida, Florida. What's the
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Speaker 1: longest you went without talking to your boyfriend or girlfriend?
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Speaker 1: I went by the week because I was super upset.
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Speaker 1: You know, sometimes men, you know y'all, just you know,
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Speaker 1: put some button. So I went by the week. What
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Speaker 1: did he do that? Oh? Hell so he well you
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Speaker 1: you just triggered her. Just now, Jesus, you have to
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Speaker 1: take a breath before you tell this story. Okay, go ahead,
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Speaker 1: But yeah I did. He's like the kind of person
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Speaker 1: that he's like the kind of man that feels like
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Speaker 1: he can do things and I can't. So he can
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Speaker 1: stay out late, but I can't, you know, because it's
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Speaker 1: it's nothing in the street on women, you know, stuff
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Speaker 1: like that. So he's like to kind of I can
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Speaker 1: do it, but you can't because you a woman type
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Speaker 1: of person. So they really like gets something to my
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Speaker 1: end with him. So you know, he did it again,
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Speaker 1: you know, came in his house late. It's crazy. So
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Speaker 1: I was upset, of course, so I had to show
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Speaker 1: my true colors. No cookie, no clean it, no none
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Speaker 1: of that nisty, none of that stuff. So I was
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Speaker 1: mad for about a week. But tut the way she
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Speaker 1: acts down there when he passed by, Yeah I gave
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Speaker 1: in how that thing started tingling? Yeah, she started. She
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Speaker 1: had an owner personal hearty and now you know at
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Speaker 1: a gaze in It's like a man, I'm whatever. I'm
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Speaker 1: glad to hear that, glad to hear y'all got over.
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Speaker 1: Let's go to one more caller. Hello, who's this? Hey?
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Speaker 1: Dj envy to see that? How are you doing? Hey?
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Speaker 1: That where you calling from? I'm from Columbia. I'm not
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Speaker 1: from Columbia, but I'm in Columbia. They know three to metro.
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Speaker 1: What's the longest you've been without talking to your spouse? Mama?
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Speaker 1: A week and a half? Why so long? That is
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Speaker 1: not long? The week and a half? Is that your husband?
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Speaker 1: Your husband and boyfriend? Now, yeah, that ain't long for that.
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Speaker 1: But what happened? He had a situationship? Oh he had
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Speaker 1: another move. Yeah, and it only took you a week
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Speaker 1: and a half to get over it. She didn't say
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Speaker 1: she got over it. We got four kids, so you
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Speaker 1: know how she looked? Shut up? Shut up? How she looks?
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Speaker 1: I will look the other girl. You're pretty No, but
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Speaker 1: I mean, let's let's be objective. Let's set I understand
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Speaker 1: you upset, and you have every right to be upset,
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Speaker 1: but let's just be objective. Can you can you see
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Speaker 1: why he might have made that mistake? No, Okay, I
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Speaker 1: want him in the background. No, that's okay, I'm with you.
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Speaker 1: So what happened? How do y'all figure it outlaw? Story boy?
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Speaker 1: You said, don't. I don't want y'all call him a
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Speaker 1: pear when you'all trigger. I want y'all calling y'all therapist. Okay,
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Speaker 1: these stories be triggering, y'all so bad? Huh. No, I
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Speaker 1: didn't actually go to Thursday, though I did. You should have.
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Speaker 1: I'm glad, all right I did. I did. So what happened?
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Speaker 1: What happened after the weekend? Half? What made y'all start
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Speaker 1: communicating again? Because you add questions? I had questions. I
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Speaker 1: had questions, and we have children, damn, and I still
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Speaker 1: love Are y'all? Are you over it now? Because you
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Speaker 1: can't go No, but no, you can't forgive them if
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Speaker 1: you're not over you can't exactly, you can't forgive them.
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Speaker 1: If you're not over it, you have to get over it.
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Speaker 1: That's right. I have to get over it. So are
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Speaker 1: you over it? Yes? Okay? You sure? Yes? Well? I
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Speaker 1: wish I knew her name. If I knew her name,
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Speaker 1: I shared name just to see if it's still you
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Speaker 1: have a good one? Mom? Yeah, go with my mom,
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Speaker 1: hang up Red. See that's your problem. See that's your problem.
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Speaker 1: Right now. He's at work, right now, he's happy, he's
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Speaker 1: gonna get a phone call today. And then it's all
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Speaker 1: because of you, because it's because you know, it's because
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Speaker 1: of the conversation that we was having triggered her. So
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Speaker 1: because we asked her specifically, why didn't you talk to
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Speaker 1: your significant others? So she had to think about that,
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Speaker 1: and that triggered her and she had to go back
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Speaker 1: and think about that man cheating on her. No, you
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Speaker 1: asked how the other girl. Look you, we have to
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Speaker 1: go there. I just wanted to know, you know what
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Speaker 1: I mean. I wanted you to know what she thought.
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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. What's the mall of the story.
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Speaker 1: The mall of the story is communication is the key man.
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Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I understand, you know, especially
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Speaker 1: I understand disconnecting when you think you're going to say
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Speaker 1: something that you regret. I respect that, But god dang,
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Speaker 1: a week and a half and all of that, that's
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Speaker 1: kind of crazy to be living with somebody and not talking,
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Speaker 1: and life is too short and you do not want,
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Speaker 1: you know, your your last words to somebody, you love
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Speaker 1: to be you know, silence. You don't want that. Well, yeah,
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Speaker 1: let me shout out to my wife, because she is
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Speaker 1: the communicator in our relationship. She when when it's just crazy,
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Speaker 1: she's like, let's stop what we're doing, let's figure this
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Speaker 1: out and we can continue on. That's her. I'm more like,
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Speaker 1: I gotta keep it moving. But she's like, no, no, no no,
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Speaker 1: we're gonna stop what you do. I don't care what
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Speaker 1: you got to do. We're gonna sit there, we're gonna
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Speaker 1: talk about this, we're gonna discuss it, and then we're
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Speaker 1: gonna get over it and then we continue on. I
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Speaker 1: think that's a great way to be. And if you
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Speaker 1: can't do it by yourself, go get a therapist. Go
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Speaker 1: sit down with a couple of therapists, okay, and figure
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Speaker 1: it out. All right, But we got rumors on the way.
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