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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just : Your Unique Path 6.22.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  I'll stop in 523 actually. 520. 3523 So the overall idea at the
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  end of the book is for a person to realize that I, although I
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  gave you massage and gave us all the different steps of life of
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  how a person could develop. He wants a person to realize
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  that I didn't give you everything.
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  I only gave you, in a certain sense, a little bit of which
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  one. I gave you the beginning and our
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  our own minds. And what time does it happen?
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  You start to fill up your own opinions.
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  You start to develop your own approaches to life.
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  And those approaches and opinions, if they're built on a
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  good foundation, literally are a larger mosaddis effort.
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  You are writing your own mosaddis effort based on your
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  life experience, based on what you've learned.
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  You combine the two and you build a certain picture.
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  You know how to respond to a fight.
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  You know how to how to think about a certain situation.
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  You know when you're being tested by your side.
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  I have an understanding of yourself and on the situation,
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  and that's your own moose eyes. And the person is supposed to
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  constantly be developing more moose ideas and more moose ideas
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  for themselves. I'm to be honest with you, if
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  you develop these ideas well enough, you for sure can give
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  them over to other people the same way you talk to your
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  grandchildren and give them some advice.
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  That's what that is. It's a combination of your, to
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  our knowledge, combined with your experiences and therefore
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  your perspective on life. That's what he tells you.
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  And every person's got their own, right?
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  So on 5/23, he writes a wise person listens and he takes more
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  when I want a smart person develops different ideas and as
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  a person wants to become better. So you know to us and helps me
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  peeped out when Hashem gives a person more wisdom Ayashirish
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  ish to shrink each person and the way with neighbor on the
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  service of Hashem. In other words, Hashem helps us
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  develop and obtain more tools to our development is that for a
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  shoot. It's obvious he called Adam.
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  Every person, the Theo Minuto Chebiador, according to his own
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  life situations via SSI, was sick.
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  Every person, according to his profession, has to have his own
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  way and his own approach to developing himself.
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  If you're in one business, you have one sort of challenge.
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  If you're in another business, you have another sort of
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  challenge, Right. If you're a rabbi, you have a
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  whole set of challenges. If you're a layman, yeah, go say
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  child. Even within each line of work,
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  yeah, be set of challenges. Key data has a dude how to
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  really meet the way of a person to develop.
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  If a guy learns all day for him to become a good person is
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  different. Misha Tarato Manute and Odeda
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  Kahassidu how to really Misha Sarika ask you that's more if
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  you're learning all day, you have one social challenges, you
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  have your own challenge of how to support your family.
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  You have your own challenges of how to develop and turn
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  different ways financially. And then if a person works and
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  he works with his friend, he has his own set of challenges.
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  Veloze Vaze Tedaka has a dude. So now I give you 3 people.
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  He gives you so far three people.
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  Take a quote out. Person, person spends as they
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  were. Does he have challenges?
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  Does he have challenges? Sure, he has challenges.
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  And our age challenge is unique and different than the guy who
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  works for a boss. Very much so.
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  And is that employee, his challenges very different than
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  the guy who has no boss and he himself is his own boss?
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  They're very different, right? And everyone who's been in these
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  situations knows just how different they are.
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  I mean, I have to some degree to call no challenge.
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  I had it for a long time. I have to some degree I don't
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  have they're working for somebody else challenge.
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  I never applied that one. I have some degree.
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  They're running something challenge and they all have
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  their own issues. For example, running something
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  you have the issue of a nod. I mean, boss, you have to have
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  your own self motivation. You have to have your own self
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  pushing. You have to have in a certain
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  degree. If you're running something on
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  your own, you have to have certain degrees of honesty that
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  you can test yourself with for sure.
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  If you're in the Coral world, challenges are clear that
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  support your family. You have to figure out and make
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  enough money to support your family.
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  You have to figure out a remain very low budget in order to do
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  that properly. You have to make sure your whole
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  life is consistent with the way you're trying to your ideals a
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  lot there right? I call a person, for example,
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  has to be just give me a classic example.
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  He has to make sure that his entire life is consistent with
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  the ideals of life he's trying to live.
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  It means if you're spending your whole life learning Hashem soda,
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  you're not allowed, whether someone tells you or not, you're
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  not allowed to do certain things that don't fit with that
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  lifestyle. And you have to challenge
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  yourself to to keep yourself on that level.
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  And the same thing is true for someone who works.
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  You have your own level of challenges.
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  And he's trying to tell you that every person has a development
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  and every person has a growth. And that's why you'll never see
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  two people that are looking exactly the same, because you
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  never see two people with the exact same life situation and
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  the same challenges. And because of that, the outcome
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  and the development will be very different.
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  That's what he tells you all right, called the Kala Misha,
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  who the female shoe that will in law that has to do it.
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  And it's not because a great Jew has different forms.
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  There's only one great Jew that's a person who serves of
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  Shen and because of his different life situations, it
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  develops differently. Every single Jew has the exact
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  same rule become a great person. Yet because of the different
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  situations developed, every person has one job to do what I
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  Shem wants about because life changes and the situation
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  change, it's impossible that no two people.
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  It's impossible that every person is going to have the same
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  outcome even though the overall goal is the same.
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  So you can imagine that every person has one task to be a
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  great Jew, yet every person has a completely different path to
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  people, to brothers, to friends, to people, even in the same line
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  of work, especially to people in different lines of work, they
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  are going to be different. Even if they were both going to
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  be great, and you could say about both of them at their
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  special they great and impressive.
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  You can't find the flaw in them. And yet they're still so
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  different because everything about them and their makeup and
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  the situation is so different. That's it tells you and
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  therefore your job is never to try to copy somebody else, never
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  your job, never in your mind. You think I want to be like that
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  person, I want to be like them and I want to have their
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  approach to life, want to have the understanding.
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  I want to have maybe their character that yes, but I do not
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  want to be them because I don't have them.
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  I don't have their marriage, I don't have their children, I
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  don't have their parents. I don't have their line of work.
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  I don't have the level of income, I don't have the health
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  situation. I have no idea their experiences
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  in their background. I don't have them, so how could
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  I be like them? The perfect Jew is a perfect
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  cocktail of combinations. That's a perfect Jew, someone
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  who took the situation and made the best of it.
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  And I think about this whole time, What if you have a guy
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  who's got a rough background? Lily didn't have the greatest
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  upbringing, didn't have the greatest parents.
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  That person, it's possible he can become a Sadiq.
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  No, no shot. He can hold anything against
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  him. It's possible he can become a
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  Sadiq. Yet his pathway to becoming a
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  Sadiq, becoming a great person requires fighting a lot of
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  things. Fighting and molding himself,
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  developing himself, creating basic ideas that you and I grew
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  up with. The obvious, he has to create
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  those and he therefore might slip and fall a little more than
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  you and I would and he might make some mistakes.
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  Are you going to comment about him and say that guy doesn't
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  know what he's doing? That's not true.
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  He's finding out what he's supposed to be doing and that
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  for that person is literally his pathway to greatness.
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  The pathway to greenness is not the way the cookie cutter system
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  in the book. It's not the pathway.
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  The pair of the greenness is a person working on themselves,
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  developing themselves and growing.
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  That's the pathway. And it could be starting from
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  the ground up, or it could be learning from a higher platform
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  and going even higher. But it's the same, same concept,
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  which is a person has to work at themselves and grow and serve
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  action. But do not expect two people to
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  look or seem at all like that's not the goal, never the goal.
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  And even if they start at the same place, they still have so
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  many different things coming their way and therefore their
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  challenges are very different. For example, the given us says
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  how one person in one line of work and beat the horn, right?
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  Beat the horn is trusting Hashem.
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  Simple concept, trusting Hashem and everything.
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  Are you and I alike in the in the system of beat the horn or
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  not? No, because you have to deal
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  with certain business things and you have to deal with certain
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  the industry changing and all these different things.
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  And I have to deal with my own challenges financially and
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  they're completely different. Pita Horn, which is 1 simple
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  concept, Trust Hashant has so many different branches that
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  come out of it and they're completely different, right?
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  If you have a person who's about to say about to go to chosen
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  too, you have a person whose kids always behave properly.
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  OK, So for him, he doesn't even never really applied.
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  He could say they didn't fully apply the constants of pita horn
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  toward raising children. And then you have someone.
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  I spoke to someone last week, a few days ago.
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  I said I have no idea what I'm doing.
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  And you guys, that's very normal.
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  We all went through that and you can have someone who's facing
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  that and that person throws up their hands and says, God, I
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  need your help. That person hates beat the horn
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  in raising children is a completely different beat the
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  horn than the other persons, yet they're both two people raising
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  children. They look the same, they act the
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  same, but it's a completely different level, one out to dig
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  deep and pull out a lot of trust of God.
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  Another one never really went down that Ave. same thing's
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  truth, like we said, finances, raising children, health, right?
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  People fully trust Hashem in health only once they face
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  something. Once they face that something
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  and they realized that they were completely out of their control,
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  that's when they dug deep and they pulled out trust in God for
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  health. And the other person, he might
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  say trust Hashem in health, but unless he applied it to certain
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  challenges in health, he hasn't really had never really fully
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  relied on God. And it's one after the other,
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  after the other. Health, marriage, relationships,
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  running a business, functioning Shalom in general, There's so
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  many different areas where you're trusting our Shim.
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  How about a character flow? A person's working on the
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  character flow and they're working.
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  They're working and they can't really get past it.
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  It's an anger issue. They can't get past it.
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  And they turn into our Shim and say our Shim, please help me.
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  Please help me avoid the triggers.
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  Please help me develop myself better.
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  That person, his trust in God when it comes to character, when
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  it comes to the assistance of just being me, it's a completely
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  different level than the other guy who never even thought that
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  he's supposed to go to Hashem for that area, right?
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  A lot of people don't realize you should go to God to help you
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  fish our lament to go to God to help you feed a character for
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  us. And again, one person developed
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  in that area, the other person did not.
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  And it's endless the differences between different people.
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  And therefore it's endless to understand that you and I never
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  supposed to look alike. Never.
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  Instead, we're supposed to become the best version of
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  ourselves. And therefore we look at our own
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  situation. Here's what it does.
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  You look at your own situation, your life, and you say God gave
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  me a full world I own. It's got my own picture on it.
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  It's got my own structure, completely mine.
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  And this world has so many different ways for me to
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  develop. It's all mine.
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  It's all unique to me and every single aspect of my life are
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  forms of my development, every aspect.
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  And I cannot find one area of my life that is not there for me to
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  develop. They're all, we said, tailor
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  made it for me. They're all unique.
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  They're all not like the other guy, but they're all developing
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  the perfect machine and they also developed the perfect you
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  and you and you. That's the idea and you should
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  see that in your life. That means you look at your life
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  and you look at every single Ave.
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  You cannot find one Ave. that isn't there for Goose.
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  It isn't there to help you develop.
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  You want to develop your money. You want to develop how you
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  handle money, how you handle your family, all these different
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  areas. You want to develop your
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  character, every aspect of your character.
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  That's all tailor made to you. But it's based on this concept
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  that the greatest Jew is the greatest you, not the greatest
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  person that you heard of. Even being like a Gadol doesn't
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  mean you want to copy their structure exactly.
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  I'll give you an example that happened to me number years ago
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  when rebel Yasha passed away. It's happened to a few people
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  actually, whenever Yasha that's all passed away.
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  So he was known for his his diligent learning, OK.
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  And he was known specifically for the fact they learned all
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  day long, never took a break towards something unbelievable.
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  So a lot of people, young learners out there tried to
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  copy, OK, myself included. I can't say I tried to copy him
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  literally, but I remember once fully honest with you, I
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  remember once I made AI, made a chart, I made a calendar on my
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  day and I went through hour by hour, minute by minute, how I'm
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  going to be a little like him. And I started to wake up very
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  early in the morning, go to sleep very late, even though he
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  went to sleep early. And I always start, I was some
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  for a couple of days. It was unbelievable.
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  I remember looking I have the paper in somewhere where has
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  every minute and I got a few minutes for lunch, few minutes
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  for dinner, few minutes for my wife to do so unbelievable.
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  I can't tell you how much I crashed and burned.
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  Have no idea. Have the couple of days I was
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  fighting. I was angry, I was tired, I was
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  exhausted. Why?
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  Because now you still should have that motivation.
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  But you can't be like him. That's not the goal.
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  Your goal isn't to be yourself. Now it helps to try to be like
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  somebody because it makes you be much more highly motivated.
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  But at the same time it leads to a person, like we said, not
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  being the healthy self. Your job, my job, our job, all
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  of us is to always be the best version of ourselves.
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  That leaves you a little bit open-ended because you don't
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  know what's the best version of yourself.
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  But it just means take every area of your life and say to
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  yourself, how can I work with that area?
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  And I can't just say that's handled, not handled.
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  Every single area can be perfected, can be developed, and
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  they're there for your developed and they're tailor made for you,
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  for your development. OK, we'll stop with this.
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  That we can understand these people who were abused as
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  children, correct? They end up abusing their own
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  kids.