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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-Chesed and the Pillars of the World 9.30.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  So we were talking about the different examples of being a
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  hassid, which means taking a different topic, whichever topic
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  that you like, whether you incurring to or that we feel
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  important and taking it all the way, that's a hassid.
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  So next step, he says is gmu hassidim itself, Hassid, same
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  word. And it really displays a lot of
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  this concept of dedication. Ki hassidut.
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  That's the idea of hasidut, comes from the same word of the
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  word hasid. The world stands on three
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  things. And one of those three things
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  are the idea, the concept of a person taking care of another
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  person. And these are one of the
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  examples that the rabbis tell us so.
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  Hail put up the hand by the mazel.
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  When a person performs Hesse, they weep.
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  The reward, Partial reward. In this world they only get the
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  fruits of their labour. They get something.
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  Hesse is a mitzvah. And you actually get a
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  legitimate start in this world. You get payment from Hashem in
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  this world, from the Hesse. You don't, you see but a high
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  you see, some high, you see success.
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  All that is coming from your Hesse.
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  They're kidding. But the real payment is only
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  dividends. The actual payment, the real
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  investment is being placed in the world to come.
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  Kayamala lava. You're just getting off the
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  interest, so to speak. The dividends that's has said so
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  has said is in a certain sense a very powerful world unto itself
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  that every one of us wants to tap into, because this is a
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  world that brings out a person's great form of dedication of
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  hassidut that means if you're a person who's involved in Hassid,
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  you're a party at this place. It's not just you're doing one
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  of them, it's up. You're entering into one of the
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  three pillars of the world. The only pillar that really
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  involves other people. OK, it's the only people pillar
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  that involves other people. It's the only pillar that's man
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  to man, like we just said, and it's a character builder.
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  It creates all different kind of Jew when you involvement, I
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  think, and you can take it all the way to make yourself the
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  fullest person through the topic of his.
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  No other topic can make you into a full person.
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  A fully rounded person has it kind.
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  Tora makes you a very spiritual person.
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  Tivila makes you a very connected person to God.
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  The Hassan makes you into a fully rounded, wonderful person.
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  You find the people who are legitimately involved in Hassid
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  without the cavoid, without the fights, without the other issues
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  straight clear on the doctor has said those people are the finest
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  people that we have. What about that without the
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  other two, without the other two is complicated.
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  It exists and there's a very good question actually, and it's
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  one of the more it may lead to controversy somewhat, but the
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  reason it's complicated Joe is asking is if a guy is a hazard
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  guy and he doesn't learn toward our wall, but it's.
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  That guy on track later because he's already has like.
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  A yeah, so long as he remain pure, huh.
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  If he's if he's a pure guy, he's on the right track already.
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  If he's a pure guy, it's hard to imagine he's near Maine.
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  Such a beautiful person and not really be humble enough to
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  recognize Hashem and never want to pray to God or not be, you
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  know, not appreciate the meaning of life enough to feel a need to
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  study some turtle. It's hard to believe he's in
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  stay in one box. So what if he's really a pure,
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  beautifully caring, sensitive person toward others and every
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  time he sees a challenge and makes his heart cry and he wants
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  to give and he wants to get involved and he wants to be
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  there and he volunteers. He's really a wonderful person
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  in that sense. I believe most of those people
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  sense meaning in their life and they're open to all forms of
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  meaning. Taking the garden appreciate
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  what it sort of brings now they may not know I.
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  Think they're over liberal when you get like that with that.
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  That's the the different story. It's a hospital Jerome and is
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  still Greenberg building good enough.
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  So I'm sorry, they probably. Have a Palestinian.
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  No, that's their story. That that's their version of.
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  Which one? The the hospital?
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  Yeah, fine. So again.
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  But if they're pure and they're pure minded and they're around
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  Torah and know what the villa is, they're probably going to
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  adapt to the other two. If David just say which is they
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  go down that idealistic Rd. That's the mystery.
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  Once you idealism do it now with ego involved.
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  Now they're trying to push an agenda now and the old thing
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  goes away and boy, you know it divided.
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  Hey, there's a big percentage. He's right.
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  You are for sure. And I said, oh, that one, yeah,
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  that's not pure. It's no longer pure.
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  Pure means they retain the original reason.
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  Now again, the sad thing is, is it all Jews have an inclination
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  to be by. Like I said, we all do, and
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  therefore a lot of Jews start off the right way, mentioned
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  before and end up in David's world.
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  You just mentioned, sadly enough, the cause of the
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  inclination to do good, to feel good, to feel bad, to be
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  compassionate. It goes the wrong way.
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  But if you remain pure and you were just developing yourself,
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  rest assured that that person will go full circle so long as
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  it's around Toda. That's the idea.
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  Rabbi is does so hased coming from a person that always does
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  hased versus hased coming from a person that never does hased is
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  1 greater than the other. 1 is really a more complete person.
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  You could always it's a simple answer.
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  Both always. Does he like?
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  What the greater act? The two guys do the same thing.
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  One guy, he had come out of a shell and it was.
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  It's the. Exact same question as what's
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  greater, a guy who SAT and learnt his whole life or a
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  person has 70 sides in there, right?
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  So in a certain sense, the person who learnt his whole
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  life, he's got years and years of learning under his belt.
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  It's unbelievably connected to God.
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  He's unbelievable person and he's the Gadot.
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  Another person George mentioned Balka Shiva.
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  Balka Shiva manually pulled the chains much further, much
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  stronger than the other guy did. And they both have their own
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  strengths in a certain sense. But Malcolm shabaled the Shiva
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  Amdim, so the king, the place stand.
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  Even the greatest of people don't stand.
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  Got to keep that in mind. The answer is is a strength to
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  both. All right.
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  There's a strength to both about the Zuva Sir, and closes the
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  Hashem. No, the guy does not.
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  On the other hand, he tells you that spot like remember I said
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  that he goes through. That the.
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  The Santee can't reach. What does that mean?
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  Doesn't mean we're raiding them. Who do you go to for a better
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  ha? Do you go to Israel?
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  You go to the you go to the guy that did his whole life right.
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  Who do you ask advice to? The person does a lot because
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  there's something else that happens when someone does it.
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  The whole life has a cause special room that nobody else
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  has. That's the idea.
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  Now we're assuming that there's a constant of the shuvara comes
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  to. I said it's not exactly the same
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  because I said is not a person really taking yourself from bad
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  to good. It's taking yourself from blah,
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  from vague to amazing. It may not be as simple as your
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  point as you because it may not be a constant about the truth.
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  I would think simply that a guy that was involved in the has his
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  whole life has softened and softened and softened.
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  His character has made himself literally a link in the chain of
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  our people, has become a the the camel that holds all the burden
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  of our people. And such a person is the most
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  wonderful, beautiful person. And I would go into that guy
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  much more than I would the other person.
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  My humble opinion when it comes to Hester Joe and when it comes
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  to other areas, I see the neck and neck and I could see the
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  balance. You've all even leading the race
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  to drop when it comes to HESA. I think the lifetime HESA person
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  is a whole different person. He's unbelievably developed and
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  careful and weeds. That's what he is.
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  All right. The guy said if you learn it out
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  all the time, he's supposed to use it for sure.
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  You should just learn it without you.
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  Absolutely yes, yes, we said it. Well, there should be some like
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  correct right here on the parts. Torah.
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  Tahila gimmel hasanim, the sofa gimmel hasanim.
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  Ever this concert before Torah opens with Hesse and closes with
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  Hesse. What is the opening of Hesse?
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  The world that open with Hesse? What is the first example of
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  Hesse because you but that would be your answer right?
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  I shouldn't create the world none the first example has to is
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  he might bring general when Adam and is shown sinned and he
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  didn't have any clothing and God dressed him.
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  That's the first example. It's considered the first
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  example has an everyone else He just hinted What about the
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  creation of the world That's also has the simple answer is
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  real has it comes when the guy wronged you and the guy is not
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  the best guy and he do something for him anywhere he's not really
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  perfect and you do for him anywhere that's real.
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  Hesse it's opening. It's a bookmark the the two
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  sides of the what's the closing with Hesse Where is the closing
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  of his last example Hesse this goes to the end.
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  Well, sure, I've been up being buried by God.
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  That's the last example. So first.
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  And last is. God first and last is God
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  exactly and God's example to pick a point.
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  God's example to people is be like me and display a headset
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  and both of these headsets are headsets that are heads in the
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  science then showed and met. Which means they're both
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  examples where by abdominally shown because Adam didn't
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  deserve it and by Moshe had been already passed away and God is
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  displaying the Hesse is not getting anything in return.
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  And in one example not deserved and the other example not going
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  to be reciprocated. And the idea is is it has it
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  opens and closes out that out, which means, excuse me,
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  everything inside are all involved and engulfed in that
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  original open and closing of has it.
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  It's all related. That's the goal.
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  Start with the end with the that's the goal from Dara Shaba.
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  Call me any person who has these three character traits be a dua.
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  Show me Zarosia, Rama, Bino and they are Akaman, your mercifully
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  compassion Ubaishan, you are shy.
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  You have levels of shame, the Gomel Hassadim and you're
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  giving. You have to have these two
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  traits to be to have a sign shy is a way of displaying him your
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  movie shy means you get embarrassed when you make a
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  mistake you have shame shame is a wonderful character tree in
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  this world without shame, good luck to what the world would
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  look like Thank God for shame, right so you have compassion
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  it's. What out in the streets?
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  Right, the people. That anymore?
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  The arrogance of the people, everyone understood.
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  What has Dingo press challenge with, you know, some display
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  challenge with children today is a lack of shame.
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  I like a real Moody in that sense.
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  We go medal Khazadim. I'm giving now just the sorry
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  point and we'll probably close to this point right now during
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  this week, right now, during these two days pre Yom Kippur,
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  it's very well recommended to adopt these medoth specifically
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  a haman, to be compassionate and to meet Comer khazadim and to be
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  generous and to be giving and to be sensitive to relatives.
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  Why is it so important? Because you're hoping we all are
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  for God to do the same. And we know how it works.
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  Mida Kaneki, Mida Hashem treats us like we treat him.
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  If we do a right, God will treat us right.
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  If we don't, then the opposite. That's much more.
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  So that means if you care for other people and you're generous
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  of the people and you even look the other way when other people
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  insult you, all those are things that'll lead to Hashem doing the
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  same for us. Yom Kippur, we go in with him
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  for a meeting. I was thinking about this this
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  morning. OK, I don't know if I'm saying
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  the speech. If I do, you got to open it
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  there. You got the first hearing.
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  If I didn't, it's good to know this.
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  I had this question this morning.
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  I'm saying it's the the second the last time.
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  OK, it's time 39, right Or not. I think protecting, speaking
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  Shabbat in between, but it's a lot of days absolutely hard.
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  So I have this issue, a lot of things that we're saying.
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  What is the 1 theme of all the silly hots?
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  What is the 1 theme of all these forty days?
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  What is the 1 theme of Yom Kippur?
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  This bothers me. Got 1000 themes.
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  Give me the one theme. Send mercy, send mercy,
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  forgiveness, forgiveness. Keep going introspection.
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  OK, Now this is not a fair answer because it's my own
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  answer. It's not a fancy to ask you the
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  question that you have my own answer.
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  But the answer I believe is very simple and that is that we're
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  going in to a face to face meeting with God.
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  And in that meeting it played out, let's say, in that meeting,
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  OK, and I may say this, I mean that in that meeting, hazelnuts,
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  if you were sitting in a meeting with Walmart, build a speech.
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  It's not a great example because it's not because, well, it's not
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  a good example. You want to succeed, but it's
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  not like example doesn't play all these details out.
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  You sit there and you're asking them better.
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  You better give you a better example.
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  You're going in, the person's going in, and I've dealt with
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  this and they're giving in their paper to get funding from an
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  organization. They do it as he ain't married
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  and they need some money and they go organization, money.
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  And the organization, the guy was a very benevolent guy.
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  He gives money straight. He doesn't have any secretary.
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  You deal with him straight, OK, He coming to him, he says, I
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  know my daughter's going to marry.
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  I need the money. Can you help first?
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  Then first, have you ever messed this guy over?
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  Well, if you did, good luck with Amini, right?
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  It's hard to mean. So first of all, you need to
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  show. If you did, you have to show him
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  remorse #2 are you a good guy? Well, God has the ability to
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  look at not just what you did. He also is asking your friends.
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  Because your friends, God knows your friends and knows their
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  mind and asking them what do they think of you, right?
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  If they say you're not a good guy, they say you're wrong them.
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  It's more difficult meeting with this donor.
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  Tell me so far #3 do you appreciate the man you're
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  standing in front of him? Do you recognize the fact that
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  he's willing to give you of his own money, his own hard earned
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  money is willing to give you all right?
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  Do you appreciate how he's been there for you in the past?
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  This is not your first time. Do you appreciate even if you're
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  in face face, do you have any personal relationship with him?
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  Does he know your father, your grandfather?
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  Are you any very similar to your parents and grandparents?
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  Are you displaying the same good character?
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  In other words, you're in a meeting with Usher.
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  In order for the meeting to go well, you have to check all
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  these boxes. It's not 1000 things.
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  It's a bunch of things all staying the same point.
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  I want to have a clear convo with God.
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  If I prepare properly, if I talk, probably the conversation
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  will be one-on-one, it will go up.
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  But if I come in with sins still existing, so I messed my the God
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  over, how can I talk to him? Other people don't like me.
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  So God knows that his children don't like me.
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  How am I going to talk to him, right?
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  My plans are to take the money and you splint and spend it on a
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  vacation in, in, in in Miami. God knows what I'm going to do
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  with the money and not just in giving it to me, right?
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  If my parents are not really the best people or I don't act like
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  my parents, all these different things ruin our meeting on
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  people. Would we go in with a meeting?
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  And one of the big things are not hamim pass it.
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  One of the big things are to go in with the mindset, with the
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  medot that I care for other people and when I care for other
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  people, Hashem says, look at this guy, he's a beautiful son
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  of mine. He does.
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  He may the other kids like him or the other kids like him.
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  Everyone likes him. He's really a good guy.
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  So it's a great meda to go into keyboard to go into that meeting
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  with the Chris of you out of the people, because ultimately all
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  you're doing is a very simple thing, having a conversation
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  face to face with God, with ma'am when I'm standing here
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  back in my shins. That one, huh?
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  Are you trying to sell them? Yes, you're trying to sell them
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  in earnestly real. Now I'm trying to convince him.
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  He's trying to sell them in earnest.
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  I'm trying to sketch him. It's a real, but I imagine a
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  sale with Walmart was fully real and legitimate.
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  That's what you're trying to do, so.
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  When you have a a trip, you and your mind, you're preparing for
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  a week of preparing for a month. When you finally going to get to
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  the thing, the whole conversation is being played out
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  in your head before it happens and what you're going to say and
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  how you're going to think and what you're.
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  Going to do what are you doing by all?
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  Right. What are you days, right?
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  Well, that's true. Is exactly.
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  And now you look at all the parts we mentioned.
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  Hashem, you, Hashem protecting me like my father.
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  In other words, you see me, I'm a little bit of my father, so
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  give me the same treatment like I'm Mohammed talking to alcohol.
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  Hashem, I'm I sinned. I really sinned badly.
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  Why am I saying that? I'm saying don't be upset at me
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  as we talk. My plans are for good.
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  Why am I saying that? Invest in me, right?
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  I forgive all the people around here.
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  Why am I saying that? Don't listen to their
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  complaints. I mean, they don't have any
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  complaints. They're good with me.
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  And it's therefore I stand in front of God.
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  Trust me and him now my past, now my mistakes.
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  And they're just a pure version of me.
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  And then Hashem says go for it. So.
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  Yeah, so. He judges you at the moment, the
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  way your mindset is that I'm a. 100% but I said if you like,
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  bring out that mindset. So this, and it's not my, my
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  perception today, but my, when I would get to Yom Kippur, I'd
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  say, you know, really, if you're being honest with yourself, we
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  abuse our relationship. We take it for granted that he
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  gives us life, that he gives us money, that he gives us health,
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  that gives us everything. And the second we get an
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  opportunity, we complain to him on everything we don't have.
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  And we don't really deserve anything because we don't do
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  much to keep that relationship. If the relationship was that of
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  a human being could right, But but with that, with that
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  mindset, it never helped to get me over the hump until I
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  realized that we will build with these challenges.
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  And there is a chance that every year as you peel off layers of
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  your physicality and you become more inclined to understand what
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  it is a relationship with HM, then you could get over that
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  hump. But it's really, it's really if
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  you want to call it, I don't know if it's proper word, but
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  it's abusive. You know relationship you're all
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  right and if a person dealt with the fact that we do do that it
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  hurts us 100% fact that we are somewhat ungrateful and we don't
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  really treat her properly and all that things are absolutely
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  reasons and he really. Looks the.
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  Other way. But Hashem has His renewal every
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  year, which is something that's beyond the Hamim, and that
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  renewal every year allows us. To basically start 1st and every
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  single year next we can come forward in a very currently real
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  way and God says face to face, how do you look face to face?
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  Do you have those past problems? They're not part of any more
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  good. Has anyone else had a problem
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  with you? Not really because you you will
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  more help than they will more help you.
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  Great. Do you do you have bad plans?
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  You seem to have very good interests.
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  You want to do good things with money.
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  Awesome. Are you a caring person or a
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  caring person? Are you a committed person?
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  All these things and now the meaning is face to face and
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  God's got in his pocket all the money in the world.
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  And the camera says these words are just not throughout
• 20:37
  yesterday, the camera says and the pursuit that says that
• 20:40
  Hashem will give you his full hands.
• 20:42
  Milo Hovnov is a problem because it doesn't make sense for God.
• 20:46
  You have to convince the full of hands.
• 20:48
  There's no room in this world, all the world to come for
• 20:52
  anybody to get his full hands. All there's room for are the
• 20:55
  space between two fingers of God, whatever that means.
• 20:57
  But the idea is if God wants he can give me endless he's ready
• 21:01
  to go. All he needs us to be the to
• 21:03
  accept. But us means us minus the
• 21:06
  negatives, minus the bed planes, minus all those problems.
• 21:09
  The plane you and I are golden. So I was just.