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Do you and your significant other have totally different ideas when it comes to gift giving? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with a bang.
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  Speaker 2: And the club on nine four seven anything.
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  Speaker 3: Now, So this here has been a topical conversation, especially
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  Speaker 3: in the past weekend.
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  Speaker 1: Because it was Mother's Day.
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  Speaker 3: Correct way, it dawned on me that I really thought
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  Speaker 3: my husband and I are on the same level in
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  Speaker 3: terms of like gifting.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I think this happens in every relationship, that your
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  Speaker 1: idea of a gift is not necessarily your partner's idea
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  Speaker 1: of a gift. Is that what you're saying.
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  Speaker 3: I think where we miss each other here is you know,
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  Speaker 3: obviously it was Mother's Day, so he let the kids
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  Speaker 3: give the mom. But I'm just like, where's your gift?
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  Speaker 1: Well, I mean you're not his mother.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm mothering your kids. Tough conversation, you know
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  Speaker 3: what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: They are three the father's mothering, then they are.
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  Speaker 3: Not they are they're three knugly idea that are all
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  Speaker 3: under my case.
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  Speaker 1: No, So to his defense, right, I do agree with
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  Speaker 1: you on this because whilst you are not his mother,
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  Speaker 1: the kids are still small. He's got to help them,
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  Speaker 1: he's gotta he's gotta guide them.
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  Speaker 3: Do you know what I'm saying? He has to be
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  Speaker 3: the one who says, Okay, mom is gonna leave early
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  Speaker 3: in the morning, so before she leaves, y'all need to
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  Speaker 3: be up doing cartwheels, a concert, a burnt pancake or something.
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  Speaker 3: So you say, I got it on stage at work.
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  Speaker 2: So so I feel sad. I feel not sad, but
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  Speaker 2: I feel like sorry for the dads because you do
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  Speaker 2: have to step up for the kids. But there comes
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  Speaker 2: a time where the kids are old enough to say,
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  Speaker 2: it's Mother's Day, what are we doing? Well, like, it's
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  Speaker 2: what ten? Yeah, and very switched on.
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  Speaker 3: I know, I like, it's old enough to put himself lights.
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  Speaker 3: I don't see why he's not old enough to order
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  Speaker 3: me some flowers.
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  Speaker 2: So it's just a case of two weeks because kids
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  Speaker 2: are not gonna think that far in advance because they
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  Speaker 2: can't keep track of time. But just two weeks before
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  Speaker 2: to go, Mother's Day is coming up. Is there anything
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  Speaker 2: you would like to get Mom? What can I get her?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? I think we're speaking the same gifting language here.
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  Speaker 1: I mean this man, but that's what I'm asking, So
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  Speaker 1: there's a gifting language thing for context. How did they
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  Speaker 1: fail last year?
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  Speaker 3: I don't remember, I really.
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  Speaker 1: Don't, because maybe I wasn't upset. Last year something happened.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, actually last year it was the same night as
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  Speaker 3: the engagement party.
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  Speaker 2: Oh and oh they fared well. There was a huge
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  Speaker 2: bouquet of flowers and that whole jo alone calendar.
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  Speaker 1: They blew their budgets.
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  Speaker 2: That's what they did for the next ten years.
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  Speaker 3: And also a little bit to their defense that JOm
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  Speaker 3: alone think there's things there that I still haven't opened.
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  Speaker 1: They just like Larry wrap one of them.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 1: But you didn't even get a burnt toast, like a
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  Speaker 1: breakfast burnt toast, toast.
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  Speaker 3: With like a peanut butter and sliced bananas something.
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  Speaker 2: Then, But then the argument is okay. So then there's
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  Speaker 2: also the argument of like I I always like have
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  Speaker 2: my expectations for Mother's Day very low, because you can
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  Speaker 2: only It's not your kids can only do so much,
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  Speaker 2: do you know what I mean? So as they get older, yes,
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  Speaker 2: they can make you breakfast in bed, they can do
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  Speaker 2: all of that. But I also don't want to say
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  Speaker 2: to them, I expect breakfast in bed, and I expect
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  Speaker 2: you to know it must it must come from the heart.
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  Speaker 2: But if nothing comes from the heart, you're going to
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  Speaker 2: hear about it.
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  Speaker 1: And past Mother's Day. Now, when it comes to normal
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  Speaker 1: gifts with your partner, is he good? So he speaks
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  Speaker 1: your language? Because I know, like with guys, guys like
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  Speaker 1: I personally like to buy practical things because that's you know.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, wait before I down your throat.
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  Speaker 1: What's a practical thing.
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  Speaker 3: Give me an example of this practically.
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  Speaker 1: Like a really nice knife for the kitchen, because because
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  Speaker 1: the knife we have is not great. So I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: let's get her because you.
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  Speaker 3: Do some birthday, you get her a knife.
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  Speaker 1: So much chopping. You do so much chopping, it's too
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  Speaker 1: chopping with a nice knife, or we need it. I
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  Speaker 1: think guys do this all the time. We buy practical things.
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  Speaker 3: Give me another practical thing because I got a lovely
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  Speaker 3: knife seat last time, and that's my favorite thing. But
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  Speaker 3: that's because I cook a lot.
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  Speaker 1: It's my thing.
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  Speaker 4: But they should have known to get you like fine
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  Speaker 4: china man, because you love cockware, crockery, that sort of stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Evand the camp tapers.
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  Speaker 1: Like a fitness tracker because you're trying to track your
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  Speaker 1: fitness and go to gym all the time. So I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I may I help you do the do that? No?
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  Speaker 1: So I think, why are you.
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  Speaker 2: I think that for your birthday you should be able
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  Speaker 2: to say, okay, these are the things I would like,
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  Speaker 2: and maybe list three or four. And then I think
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  Speaker 2: for like Christmas and Mother's Day, you get what you get.
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  Speaker 1: You don't complain to some point.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, if you have a wedding registry, why can't
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  Speaker 2: you do a Mother's.
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  Speaker 3: Day whether as they registrate. This is what I'm gonna
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  Speaker 3: do now I'm never having this again.
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  Speaker 2: My kids once brought me. I said to them, please
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  Speaker 2: don't buy me whatever is at the pay section of Woolworth's.
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  Speaker 2: And because every year I kept getting soap, like the
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  Speaker 2: soap that they sell at the at the Charter, I
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  Speaker 2: was like, I don't even look. I don't anyway. And
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  Speaker 2: now they throw soap in as a joke.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, because guys also saw such a communal thing in
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  Speaker 3: the house.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody's gonna use the soul dove? Would you get? That
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  Speaker 1: is a gift, very practical when you think about it,
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  Speaker 1: That six pack of protexts.
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  Speaker 3: One person in the relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks.
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  Speaker 3: Gift giving is about thought and meaning and the other things.
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  Speaker 3: Petrol is expensive.
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  Speaker 1: That is, there's a good practical gift. That's a big gift.
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  Speaker 1: Spilling up a tank for someone that's huge.
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  Speaker 3: Oh one one eighty eight thirty eight nine four seven.
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  Speaker 3: When did it click for you that you and a
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  Speaker 3: specific person you're not speaking the same language when it
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  Speaker 3: comes to gifting. He's just like, WHOA, I'm speaking English,
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  Speaker 3: you speaking gibberish. That's not the same, not the same,
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  Speaker 3: not the same, sent as a voice, not zero eight
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  Speaker 3: four double zero double zero, night for seven. It's a
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  Speaker 3: great chance, now, ladies to come through and let us
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  Speaker 3: know how did Sunday go?
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  Speaker 5: Hey?
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  Speaker 1: Eh, my husband always, for many years now gets it wrong.
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  Speaker 2: Birthdays, you name it.
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  Speaker 1: So I usually end up with a whole bunch of
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  Speaker 1: gifts that I have to just go and exchange.
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  Speaker 4: My husband would buy me cup on Mother's Day, but
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  Speaker 4: I think it's when he walks into Willias and you
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  Speaker 4: see those happy Mother's Day cups, then he picks one.
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  Speaker 4: Every year, I've been getting a Mother's Day cup every year.
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  Speaker 1: Are gad slippers?
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  Speaker 2: So last year I've got a pair of slippers, but
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  Speaker 2: the slippers are got We're exactly the same pair of
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  Speaker 2: slippers that.
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  Speaker 1: Have got previous year.
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  Speaker 2: So I two pairs of slippers that were exactly the same.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, because one can never have too many slippers?
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  Speaker 3: Do you know what I'm saying? Even you guys forgot
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  Speaker 3: that these are the slippers that you got me last day.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, I just want to also add to this
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  Speaker 1: right by saying that I know that I'm talking about
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  Speaker 1: men buying practical gifts, but also it's the other side
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  Speaker 1: as well. What are you buying us? What are you
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  Speaker 1: guys buying us? Say? Are those gifts we are happy with?
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  Speaker 1: I'm just saying, gents, you're welcome to see.
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  Speaker 3: Please because Father's Day is around the point. So let's
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  Speaker 3: year level inventorio.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think.
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  Speaker 3: I after fifteen year as being married, You guys are
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  Speaker 3: speaking the same language.
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  Speaker 6: Absolutely. Now hey we are going once for sixteen years
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  Speaker 6: and la and my husband is just not scaling they
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  Speaker 6: I've tried everything to me buying him the sort of
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  Speaker 6: gifts that you know are so important or to the
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  Speaker 6: monetary value, just to show him, like listen, this is
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  Speaker 6: this is, this is what we do on on birthdays,
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  Speaker 6: on Father's Day, on this Nope, nope. The best I
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  Speaker 6: got this year for Mother's Day was the cup.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 6: My my six year old literally insisted on getting me
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  Speaker 6: a cup from school.
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  Speaker 3: From school and your husband didn't inter certain black. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: hang on, we can listen to the cup and this
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  Speaker 3: lit't to the cap.
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  Speaker 6: No, no, no, I don't even hold my breath anymore.
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  Speaker 3: And then okay for you, Now, what do you get
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  Speaker 3: your husband when it's time to give him?
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  Speaker 6: I try everything. If I know that, so he he
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  Speaker 6: has the company, and he has a ninety five. So
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  Speaker 6: if I know that he's been exhausted or whatever, I
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  Speaker 6: literally book him a day at a spar or. I'd
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  Speaker 6: buy him tools. So he's a carpenter part time, so
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  Speaker 6: I'd buy him like the the whatever machine or the
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  Speaker 6: tools that I know he needed if he needed something
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  Speaker 6: like that, And those things don't come cheaper, so I
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  Speaker 6: literally just they are really thoughtful. Sometimes it's just clothes,
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  Speaker 6: because that man hardly buy his clothes, so I literally
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  Speaker 6: go shopping for him and buy him everything.
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  Speaker 1: I'll say. I'll say, now, yes to the clothes, like
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  Speaker 1: a lot of guys dig that because you don't like
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  Speaker 1: going to the shops. Yes to the absolutely, Yes to
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  Speaker 1: the woodwork tools, absolutely absolutely No to the spa day. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: that's what you bought yourself a gift day level. You
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  Speaker 1: didn't buy him again.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, but he really appreciated it because he like he
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  Speaker 6: needed the time out and stuff. And I said to myself,
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  Speaker 6: why not just get him a day and a spar
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  Speaker 6: and have him have a good time. But that was
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  Speaker 6: just the one time. Most of the time, it's just
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  Speaker 6: things that are very expensive that I know he needs
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  Speaker 6: for his work.
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  Speaker 1: Get him a weekend away. That's guys like that stuff
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  Speaker 1: as well.
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  Speaker 3: With you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I.
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  Speaker 6: Mean I did. I did that a year before last.
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  Speaker 6: I literally forced him to go on his first international.
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  Speaker 5: Trips, you see, and we decide.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, and you got a cab.
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  Speaker 6: I got a cab.
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  Speaker 1: Does it say based bummy in the world.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, it does with some chocolate that my child hounded
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  Speaker 6: me for the whole day.
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  Speaker 5: The chocolate.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I know that it comes with like marshmallows and
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  Speaker 3: everything inside and half the thing.
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  Speaker 6: They want them. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Level, it's not going to get better, babe. I wish
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  Speaker 3: I could say it's gonna get better, but this is
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  Speaker 3: your life and you love that man, girl, So it's fine.
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  Speaker 3: From Level to Limo in Bradban Limo, good morning.
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  Speaker 5: Good morning with morning guys. What are you guys doing?
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  Speaker 1: Morning? Great?
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  Speaker 3: So Limo, you said you feel your partners should do better.
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  Speaker 5: Guys me, I'm a gift. I'm a gift that hey like,
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  Speaker 5: that's I think one of the languages I speak. I'll
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  Speaker 5: give you for waking up in the morning, you know,
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  Speaker 5: like you know, and so I'll just go pay birthdays,
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  Speaker 5: special occasions everything. This person only celebrates two days, which
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  Speaker 5: is Christmas and your birthday. Anything in between. Don't come
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  Speaker 5: to me with that. Wow, so you anything in between?
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  Speaker 5: Like you know what Valentine's Day for?
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  Speaker 1: What?
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  Speaker 5: Foundation's got the same kind of mentality. It's like, you're
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  Speaker 5: not my father, but I got a daughter. So she'll
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  Speaker 5: try and help the daughter with the cards and all
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  Speaker 5: of that, but there will be no extra effort from her.
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  Speaker 5: Enjy Like, okay, cat, you know what I mean Again,
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  Speaker 5: a Father's day as well all the other change in between. Now,
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  Speaker 5: none of that Christmas to do something.
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  Speaker 1: Birthdays, Yeah, but now let me ask then for Chris
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  Speaker 1: and birthday. She's only doing two a year. What are
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  Speaker 1: you What are you getting? Yeah? What are you getting?
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  Speaker 1: Are you happy with that? Gift?
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  Speaker 5: Talks and a handkerchief. It doesn't have any initials.
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  Speaker 1: I could have at least got the personalize.
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  Speaker 5: You know, I'm even thinking your bracelet, even with her
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  Speaker 5: name on it, so it doesn't.
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  Speaker 1: Even my name.
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  Speaker 5: I know why I am. People know why I am.
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  Speaker 6: Can't even.
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  Speaker 3: Lemo. You are in the doull terms of gifting, my guy.
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  Speaker 3: You are in the slow lounge to a how gift.
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  Speaker 3: This woman does not give a jam. Can okay give
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  Speaker 3: me somebody with your name on something anything.
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  Speaker 5: You give me something called a handkerchief that is Markeams
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