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The thing I did every day to get through my divorce · Magic Divorce Club Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: So welcome to today's Magic Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you would get yourself into a comfortable seated position,
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  SPEAKER_00: but before you do,
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  SPEAKER_00: just a quick reminder to have a notebook handy and a pen for the end.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might want to get yourself a blanket.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might want to lay down and just get as comfortable as you can.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll give you a few moments just to gather all the bits that you need.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, so with Magic Mondays, sorry, my hair's doing something weird.
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  SPEAKER_00: There we go.
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  SPEAKER_00: With Magic Mondays,
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  SPEAKER_00: this is basically the practice I did every day when I was going through my divorce.
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  SPEAKER_00: In...
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  SPEAKER_00: That I needed to be a little bit delusional because everything felt so hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it was like,
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  SPEAKER_00: this was my practice to call in all the good energy that I possibly could
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  SPEAKER_00: into my body and to dream.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that was like, that was my way out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, and at the time I didn't have any,
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  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't working with any gods or deities or I just had this vision of the universe
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  SPEAKER_00: and being like,
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  SPEAKER_00: there has to be some sort of connection and meaning and trying to connect into that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I would just
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  SPEAKER_00: do a meditation and then I would sit and script out everything
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  SPEAKER_00: that I wanted as if it had happened.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because a lot of my mind would be spiraling and going into the stuff I don't want.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so...
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  SPEAKER_00: In order to kind of switch it around,
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  SPEAKER_00: I would think about what I don't want and then write it as if it's gone.
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  SPEAKER_00: So say I like,
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know,
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  SPEAKER_00: I was worried about how my kids were instead of being like,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so worried about my kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd be like,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so happy and grateful that they're loved,
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  SPEAKER_00: that they're surrounded by people that care about them, that they are safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I would feel it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I'd probably write to the point where I was writing pages and pages
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  SPEAKER_00: and crying my eyes out because I'm like, this is so good.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what I want.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I genuinely think it's a thing that kind of kept me going through it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just having that moment, obviously not all day.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd be like, yay.
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  SPEAKER_00: There were moments that weren't okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: But having this moment in the morning or whenever it is that you want to do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lots of people do it before bed because it's nice to go into sleep feeling like,
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  SPEAKER_00: even if you don't feel like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so that's where it all kind of came from.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'll take you through a little meditation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then at the end, I'll invite you to write.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so that's why we've got the notebook handy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So get yourself comfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: If it feels nice to close your eyes, go ahead and do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to lie down at any point,
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  SPEAKER_00: feel free to move and shuffle and get yourself comfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: But closing the eyes and just take a few moments to connect in with your breath.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that could be as simple as just noticing it, slowing it right down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Seeing if you can get it all the way down into your pelvis, almost down into the ground.
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  SPEAKER_00: Softening the shoulders as you exhale, relaxing your jaw.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just being aware of the space that you're in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Any sounds that you can hear.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether they're inside your room or outside.
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  SPEAKER_00: Noticing the temperature on your skin.
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  SPEAKER_00: The taste in your mouth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feeling all the points that you're in contact with the ground.
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  SPEAKER_00: Use the next few breaths to really let yourself be held by the ground beneath you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Softening the muscles in the arms so that they really relax.
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  SPEAKER_00: Allowing your legs to feel heavy
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  SPEAKER_00: You may want to wash your breath around your hips.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then with the exhale, soften the top of the hip flexors and the top of the thighs.