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S8 E7 Catching Up with Blake Hortsmann and Annaliese Puccini · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with R Radio. Welcome Ashley the studio. Thank you, Ben,
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to the studio. How he sound great? Yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 1: so glad you're here. It's always nice. Feel like you've
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  Speaker 1: been here a lot lately. Yeah, it's Ellie's become a
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  Speaker 1: second home. I was actually asked about my buddy the
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  Speaker 1: other day when I was going to move out here.
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  Speaker 1: I might say, well, that time was about three years ago,
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  Speaker 1: and I think at this point it's a little late.
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  Speaker 1: That's like Jared, Jared wishes he were to move out
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  Speaker 1: three years ago. That's a question I've had about Jared.
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  Speaker 1: So when Jared moved remember talking about this on the podcast,
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  Speaker 1: it was a big deal for him. He wanted to
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  Speaker 1: stay in Providence. Oh yeah, how is he liking l
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  Speaker 1: A now? He doesn't like l A at all, And
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  Speaker 1: all the sports happening right now is making him hate
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  Speaker 1: it even hard. Boston. He couldn't have He couldn't have
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  Speaker 1: rooted against the Dodgers any harder. He was going to
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  Speaker 1: root against them either way. But then, of course with
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  Speaker 1: the Red Sox playing, it was even more like he
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  Speaker 1: wanted the Red Sox to win. Just as much as
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  Speaker 1: he wanted the doctor to lose. Like, that's how much
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  Speaker 1: he hates l A. He likes to pretend like he
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  Speaker 1: doesn't and then like he'll be like, uh no, at
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  Speaker 1: least fine. You'll be like you hate all it, and
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  Speaker 1: then he'll be like, no, it's fine. It's like the
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  Speaker 1: weather is nice. I'm like, you can't find one thing
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  Speaker 1: you like other than the weather, and then you can
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  Speaker 1: played about that half the time because it's not cold
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  Speaker 1: enough for the fall, you don't feel the holidays and
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  Speaker 1: all that. So we just have a five year plan.
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  Speaker 1: We say that we're gonna be here at least part time,
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  Speaker 1: like have a place here for five years and then
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  Speaker 1: at like thirty five for me, and then we'll probably
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  Speaker 1: move to Rhode Island. I do love Rhode Island. It's
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  Speaker 1: so nice. It's so cozy. It's like the perfect little
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  Speaker 1: East coast, you know, on the water field. It's very romantic. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: you and Jared are living together. Correct, Yes, that's amazing.
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  Speaker 1: But Jared also like he he wanted to move to
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  Speaker 1: l A. He he thinks he should have moved to
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  Speaker 1: l A three years ago because of the opportunity, because
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  Speaker 1: he feels like he's kind of delayed on it compared
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  Speaker 1: to me, But he also loves his little comfort zone,
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  Speaker 1: like Jared defines the person who you know that that
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  Speaker 1: I'm being very inarticulate, but you know that diagram that says,
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  Speaker 1: like the magic happens out here. You know, there's like
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  Speaker 1: a picture of your comfort zone, and the magic never
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  Speaker 1: happens in your comfort zone. He loves being in his
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  Speaker 1: comfort zone, and I'm like Jared, like one of the
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  Speaker 1: things that he loves about me the most is that
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  Speaker 1: I pushed him to get out of it, and it's
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  Speaker 1: what I can imagine that that is. So we haven't
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  Speaker 1: talked about this in a while. When you first announced
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  Speaker 1: your engagement, UM, people were thrilled obviously about it, and
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  Speaker 1: you get a lot of attention immediately. Do you feel
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  Speaker 1: like that attention is calming down. Do you feel like
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  Speaker 1: it's now kind of settling out where you guys can
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  Speaker 1: kind of grasp what this relationship is gonna look like.
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  Speaker 1: Are you guys just getting hounded everywhere? No, it's got
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  Speaker 1: a lot calmer, especially in the past month. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like this weekend was my first weekend here in l
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  Speaker 1: A where we could actually hang out on the couch
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  Speaker 1: and we had nothing to do. Like, I was like,
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  Speaker 1: is there anything you can do on the computer? Like
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  Speaker 1: I almost felt lost because there was actually no job
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  Speaker 1: for me to do on Saturday. I was like, I
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  Speaker 1: have nine hours to do nothing. It's kind of awesome.
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  Speaker 1: But then I also kind of freak out the same
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  Speaker 1: time because what we do is so fleeting. Whenever I
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  Speaker 1: have a moment to breathe, that kind of freaks me out.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, no, is this moment of breath gonna
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  Speaker 1: last too long? That's interesting, right, there's a good statement.
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  Speaker 1: Is that moment of breath gonna last too long? Are
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  Speaker 1: you ready for it to go away? No? Not yet,
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  Speaker 1: but I think in five years yes. So that's why
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  Speaker 1: we say in five years, I think I'll be over.
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  Speaker 1: Like my intention always was, you know, I went to
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  Speaker 1: I got my masters in broadcasting because this is what
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to do. But I think come thirty five,
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  Speaker 1: it'll be out of my system and I want to
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  Speaker 1: just concentrate on being a mom. Yeah, isn't it crazy?
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  Speaker 1: I think this this whole thing. I mean, we were
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  Speaker 1: just talking to Easton. I was talking to a little
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  Speaker 1: bit ago. He's just starting to watch my season The
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  Speaker 1: Bachelor he's never watching before. The very first comment was
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  Speaker 1: your hair is different back then. I've gotten older Easton,
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  Speaker 1: But you know, it's so crazy to look back on
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  Speaker 1: that season of life and almost from me feel like
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  Speaker 1: I don't remember it. I think if I were to
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  Speaker 1: watch my season again, um, it would almost feel like
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  Speaker 1: I'm not watching myself. But you know, Almost Famous has
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  Speaker 1: done great, and I think this has legs. I think
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  Speaker 1: we'll be around for a long time. But I also
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  Speaker 1: think that all the other stuff, the ancillary stuffs of
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  Speaker 1: stuff that kind of comes on the side, are getting invited,
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  Speaker 1: like that's gonna go away. And I've almost thought to
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  Speaker 1: the point where I don't know if I'm ready, but
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I am. Like I'm tired. For the
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  Speaker 1: first time this weekend, I looked at my buddy and said,
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  Speaker 1: I'm I'm really tired, like and not just like I
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  Speaker 1: need to sleep for twenty four hours. It's like this, this,
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  Speaker 1: this needs to come to an end. That was kind
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  Speaker 1: of me. At the end of August, I felt really
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  Speaker 1: burnt out because I was doing like five Bachelor recaps
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  Speaker 1: all week and I felt like every time like everything
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  Speaker 1: was done, it would just restart. Again the next step,
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  Speaker 1: like all of a sudden, there was another influx of it.
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  Speaker 1: But I think I want to do something in this
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  Speaker 1: capacity and this broadcast capacity, like for all long time,
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  Speaker 1: beyond five years. But I feel like I'd like to
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  Speaker 1: like switch gears to it not being my focus and
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  Speaker 1: from years, well, we've done great, Ash, you've done awesome
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  Speaker 1: a weekend, sit on your couch, do nothing, hang out
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  Speaker 1: We have Blake Hortsman the Day, Annalye and Kelly Joe Higgins.
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  Speaker 1: we still feel a lack of connection. Anyways, I we
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  Speaker 1: spoke this weekend at a retreat I shared and I
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  Speaker 1: was kind of doing my research because my topic was
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  Speaker 1: on loneliness, and I found all this stuff out and
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  Speaker 1: I was like, Wow, I could smoke fifteen secrets today
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  Speaker 1: and just be as healthy as if I was lonely. Anyways, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: Blake Hortsman's on the podcast. Blake is America's heart throb.
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  Speaker 1: He has loved, he has admired, He was let's just say,
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  Speaker 1: runner up to the Bachelor, Blake Hortsman, are you out there? Hi? Blake? Good?
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  Speaker 1: How are you so? Ben just did this thing called
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  Speaker 1: like Win a Date with Ben where he's going to
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  Speaker 1: bring someone into the studio to do the podcast with
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  Speaker 1: him tomorrow and he's gonna go shopping with them and
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  Speaker 1: he's going to go to dinner with them. And it
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  Speaker 1: went for very many, many thousands of dollars. We wanted, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's wild. Yeah, Blake, do you think you're worth I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if um? Yeah. To get to get started,
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  Speaker 1: we brought Blake on because we have an idea. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: As we mentioned last week in the podcast, we are
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  Speaker 1: trying to raise some money for Humanity Hope United. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: We're trying to raise money to buy the Grand Farm,
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  Speaker 1: which will apply twenty plus people with jobs in ro Hoan, Duras.
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  Speaker 1: I was giving two tickets to jingle Ball in Los Angeles.
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  Speaker 1: I cannot go. I cannot make it. So I called
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  Speaker 1: up one of my good buddies, Blake Hurtsman, who people
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  Speaker 1: want to see and be around a lot more than
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  Speaker 1: they want to see and be around me. So here's
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  Speaker 1: what we're gonna do. We're gonna win a date with
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  Speaker 1: Blake Hurtsman, just like it was one a date with me.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna stay at the Ritz Carlton Marina del Rey,
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  Speaker 1: where Blake is staying as well. Just don't go knocking
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  Speaker 1: on his door. That's weird and creepy. You're gonna go
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  Speaker 1: to Kiss FM's jingle Ball in Los Angeles, meet one
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  Speaker 1: of the performing artist Sean Mindez, Cardi b Calvin Harris,
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  Speaker 1: can be like Cabello, do a Lippapa, do Alipa, Alessia Carra,
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  Speaker 1: Bobe Rexa and more. It's gonna be awesome. You're gonna
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  Speaker 1: to spend some quality time with Blake, run around l A,
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  Speaker 1: get wild, and stay at the Ritz called from Marina
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  Speaker 1: del Rey, one of my favorite hotels in the world.
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  Speaker 1: Is beautiful. So if you're interested and having a date
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  Speaker 1: with Blake Hortzman, Amy, where do they go? If only
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  Speaker 1: dot com? If only dot com search, it'll come up
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  Speaker 1: search Blake. I want to know what kind of date
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  Speaker 1: Blake is. Well, that's what I was gonna say, Blake,
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  Speaker 1: what do you have to offer? Like, I mean, this
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  Speaker 1: person is going to come from somewhere around the country.
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  Speaker 1: They're gonna want to spend time with you. Why should
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  Speaker 1: they want to go on a date with you? But
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  Speaker 1: do you ask me to self describe myself? Friend? One
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  Speaker 1: thing I do know Blake has and I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 1: speak Blake thinking from here, but you he can dance.
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  Speaker 1: I was just about to say that I was ready
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  Speaker 1: to dance. They bring the dancing shoes to the single
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  Speaker 1: ball with me if if they want to win a
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  Speaker 1: date with me, because I would be dancing a lot
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  Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, can you he? Like? I saw a
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  Speaker 1: video of you tipping like Caitlin bristow Um during like
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  Speaker 1: a formal I don't know what you called. It was
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  Speaker 1: like the foxtrot or something. Yeah, so yeah, that was
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  Speaker 1: for her podcast. Yeah. So I a big swing dancing guy.
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  Speaker 1: I love to swing dance girls, girls to my legs
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  Speaker 1: in the air, just acrobatics, that kind of thing. So
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  Speaker 1: like the girl who's gonna be bidding on you, basically
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  Speaker 1: she's gonna want to know that you're single, So can
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  Speaker 1: you confirm that because she definitely doesn't want to go
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  Speaker 1: on a date if she doesn't think there's any chance
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  Speaker 1: of a romantic connection. Let's yes, So that's that's a
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  Speaker 1: great point. Yes, I can confirm I am single right now,
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  Speaker 1: so it will yees so that my date, you know, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I am single, will say that. We'll just say that. Okay, great, Well,
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  Speaker 1: can we address what's with all those rumors? Can we
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  Speaker 1: address the rumors about Christie A. Shulman because I heard
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  Speaker 1: them like a month ago and they're still circling. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, we talked, we've got it. Um, we did
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  Speaker 1: hang out a couple of times. Um, she's amazing, she's straight,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and we get along really well. But right now,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I um, we're just you know, we aren't.
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  Speaker 1: We're hanging out. But it's nothing serious right now. But
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  Speaker 1: so we're a point in my life and our you know,
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  Speaker 1: our lives. And I mean, and Bennett talked about this,
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  Speaker 1: you know, dating publicly now it's very hard, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and um, so that's something and I just new to
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  Speaker 1: me obviously having a hard time with. But right now
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  Speaker 1: now we are we are not quite great girlfriend. So
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  Speaker 1: there's there's the answers to the rumors because I hear
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  Speaker 1: it a lot too. And then there's a little while
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  Speaker 1: that I was dating Brandy Spyrus, and I also heard
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  Speaker 1: I was dating Tia. It's a little hard, little different.
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  Speaker 1: You hung out with Christina's ex Dean all weekend long.
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  Speaker 1: Is there any weird tension? We are No, No, there's
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  Speaker 1: in zero attention now much. We're hanging out now. I'm
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  Speaker 1: here in Buffalo right now with Jason Dean right now.
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  Speaker 1: Do you guys go to the Buffalo game? Oh? It tonight?
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  Speaker 1: Isn't it tonight yet? We are actually getting ready to
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  Speaker 1: go gate tailgate now where I was hanging out with
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  Speaker 1: the entire Tarctic family all weekend and the Buffalo boys.
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  Speaker 1: So it's in an interesting week. I did. They took me.
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  Speaker 1: We were going to someplace tonight to eat wings. Um,
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  Speaker 1: but I can't remember what the name before. But the
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  Speaker 1: hype is real. The hype is real. The wings there
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  Speaker 1: are incredible. I'm not gonna really good. Do you like
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  Speaker 1: to dip in rams or blue cheese? Because apparently in
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  Speaker 1: Buffalo they only do blue cheese and I'm not okay
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  Speaker 1: with that. I'm not either, I'll be honest. Random question, Blake,
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  Speaker 1: would you go on Paradise? Who go back for the show?
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  Speaker 1: When I first got off the show, I was like,
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  Speaker 1: we'll not. First off, when I first found out I
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  Speaker 1: wasn gonna be the bastard, you know, I obviously got
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  Speaker 1: asked that a lot. And yeah, at first I was like,
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  Speaker 1: for sure, absolutely, you know, I was giving up two single,
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  Speaker 1: I was giving me the opportunity, um, and the timing
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  Speaker 1: was writing all that, you know, I was definitely fiter.
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  Speaker 1: It's uh. And now I'm going back and forth, you know.
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  Speaker 1: I just it scares me to think, you know, put
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  Speaker 1: myself pack out there on television again. Uh, you know.
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  Speaker 1: And now I almost scared that I know too much almost,
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  Speaker 1: you know. And I'm said that it would be hard
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  Speaker 1: for me to not be worried about editing, And like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so happy that I went into that. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: know what to expect, didn't know what I was getting
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  Speaker 1: myself into. I'm so happy I did that. Now I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I do know what I'd be getting myself
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  Speaker 1: into if I went into Paradise. So it kind of
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  Speaker 1: scares me a little bit. But actually I want to
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  Speaker 1: hear from you though, was the idea of knowing too much? Right?
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  Speaker 1: I think you know what you know, you know you're
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  Speaker 1: you're taking a risk. But again, I I still blake.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if for me says I still stick
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  Speaker 1: to there is I've never watched this season where anything's
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  Speaker 1: happened completely different than what it happened on the show,
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  Speaker 1: so that edding me never was like is a fear
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  Speaker 1: because I know people are going to be portrayed pretty
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  Speaker 1: accurate to who who they were and how they where
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  Speaker 1: as a person. Ashley, how do you respond to knowing
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  Speaker 1: too much? Was that hard for you? You've been? I
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  Speaker 1: mean you've done Paradise over over and over over and over.
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  Speaker 1: I did over once. Oh she did over and over
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  Speaker 1: over again. Um, I knew too much starting my third season.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm pretty sure you're safe to go do it
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  Speaker 1: one more time? One more time. Okay. The only time
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  Speaker 1: where I thought it was totally different than uh what
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  Speaker 1: actually went down was that their time to really um.
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  Speaker 1: But I honestly, I think a lot of it will
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  Speaker 1: do to UM. When I watched Colden season, if there's
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  Speaker 1: you know some girl I think that I really get
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  Speaker 1: along with. They can grow up connection with I think
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  Speaker 1: you know that there there would be something I definitely
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  Speaker 1: would give a shot. But if I kind of watched
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  Speaker 1: the season and I'm like, you know, I don't really
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  Speaker 1: think anybody that I think match meat, and I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if I do it or not. Are tying to
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  Speaker 1: watch Colden season? Yeah? Yeah, oh yeah, I'm definitely gonna
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  Speaker 1: go season. Going to be jealous. I don't jealous to
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  Speaker 1: the right word, but I mean actually a little bit
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: because all these in Criple places after they thought too
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: so a little jealous of that and they went to Denver.
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: They were in Denver, Yes, they were. They were definitely
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: in Denver. Blake, Um, question for you, since coming off
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: the show, you've been on this wild ride. You thought
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: you might be the bachelor, you weren't. You were single
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: for a while. Then, like you said, you've you started
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: to tip your toe back in the dating world. What
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: has been the best part for you about this news
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: like season of life? The question I was gonna ask
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: us the worst part I just trying to get dirt
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: on you, Blake, just trying to talk here. No, no, Um,
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: I would stay honestly, Um, it's totally the friendship that
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: I've made after I mean, whether the woul chase better
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: be with you guys. You know the people that I've met,
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: everybody has been so incredibly nice and so'll be welcoming um.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: And it's just like it's crazy, how you know, the
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: experience that we go through together, it really you know,
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: brings us, kidding, bonds us because there's not you know,
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: such a unique experience that we have can really relate to,
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: and so we can relate to well with each other.
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: And so that's why coming out of this like these
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: these cool trips are off them, but it comes down
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: there absolutely, I would agree. Yeah, the lasting friendships. I
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: have one last story before before we let you go.
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: I know that you have a game to get to
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: and tables to jump off over. Whatever I'm up through.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: Make sure you tell Dean and Jason that the almost
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: Famous podcast had a load to you. So the other day,
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: actually listen this. I'm sitting in the gym twenty four
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: Hour Fitness on thirty eight Street in Denver, Colorado. Oh wow,
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: wait to tell people where your work out? Yeah, well
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: come on, yeah, I'm I'm doing some shoulder presses and
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: I mean I'm feeling good like I'm and they're not
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: just a little bit amount of weight, like I'm lifting
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: a lot of weight. Ashley very impressed myself. I get
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: a tap on my shoulder. Guess who is? It's Blake's
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: at the same gym I do, and had no clue.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: And so then I just started watching him right, because
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: Blake's just a very in shape man, and he had
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: commented at one point I need to work on my traps,
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: and so I was like, well, how is he working
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: on his trap? You know, it's very sensitive about that.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: So he showed me his ad work out, Blake. I've
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: been taking that ball that you you show me, putting
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: it between my legs and lifting it up and then
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: catching above my head and dipping backwards. I'm starting to
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: see the V. Y are those the sex lines? Yeah,
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: that's what those? He told me. He I said, like,
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: if you could give me one piece of advice for
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: working out, like one exercise is you look at my
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: body and you're like, Ben, you need help. He's like, well,
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: here's the thing, man, Take this ball, put it between
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: your legs and lift it up over your head and
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: you'll start to see the V. And so what I
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: took that is he's saying my core needs a little help.
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: But I'm telling you I've been doing it every day
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: consistently because i want to be like Blake and I'm
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: looking good. That's so awesome, at least this week I'm
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: looking I just can't believe you guys just told Bachelor
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: Nation where they can go find both of you on
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: a regular basis. I mean, if you really want to
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: go to the twenty four hour Fitness on thirty eight
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: Street in Denver, Colorado and hunt for me. I'm there
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: about once every two weeks, so this will be a
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: lot of fun and j it's the best place all over. Hey, alway,
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: I have a more question. Are you gonna go meet
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: Rob Gonkowski tonight? Yes? I think that's so. I think
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: I need to go. Send jar on the plane right now. Yeah,
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: you should, crap, it could be a fun day. I
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: think I'm a little scared, to be honest, I've heard
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: how crazy this bill is. I don't care to be honest. Yeah,
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: we arrested. Tell Jason he's being rude for not inviting
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: Jared to this, Okay, and make sure he knows that
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: he's rude for not inviting me to this. To just
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: make sure he's in general okay, make sure he feels
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: really small to say, all right, bye, okay, thank you. Ben.
• 19:42
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  Speaker 1: It's super easy to navigate the site to like that.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to get you guys some presents, so I
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  Speaker 1: went on Thrive the other night and picked out things
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  Speaker 1: that I thought you would love. And I knew actually
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  Speaker 1: likes chocolate, and I knew Jared does too. I actually chocolate. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: So I got you the Justin's Milk chocolate peanut butter cups.
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  Speaker 1: And I happen to know everybody's favorite, so that's one
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  Speaker 1: of Jared's. And then Ben, I ordered for you and
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  Speaker 1: it's all like organic, so you don't have to worry
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  Speaker 1: I thought maybe on your flight you could have the
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• 20:53
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  Speaker 1: I just kind of skipped through that. I was I
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  Speaker 1: was talking about thrive Market. Did you know if we
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: were talking about had a speech impediment? I was held back. Yes,
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: we have talked about that. We have talked about that.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: I feel like I have a speech impediment every day
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: of my life. Yeah, I really did. It was my
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  Speaker 1: rs and and so sometimes it's coming back a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what it is. I'm getting lazy. I
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  Speaker 1: need to go back to a little like speech therapy.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: I really do. I've I've noticed even this weekend when
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: I spoke at this retreat. It was a two day
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: full retreat where twenty five people spent time in winter Park,
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: both part of the Generous and Humanitian Hope team. And
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: I was doing something like I was just talking a lot,
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  Speaker 1: and by the end of the weekend, I was just
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: tripping over my words. Interesting, I feel like I tripped
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: my words all the time. It's one of my biggest insecurities,
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: especially since I have to talk on a mic so
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: often that if I'm not talking just perfectly, I'm like, Oh,
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: there's something wrong with your brain. I feel like I
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: have a weird brain connection. But I feel like there's
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: no there's no connection between my left and my right brain.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: What does that mean? You know how? Like there's the
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: right creative brain and then there's like the left analytical brain.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: I feel like there's no connection between them. Like you
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: just feel like a little disconnected right now. I always
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: feel this disconnect. I get it. I mean, do you
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: get it? No? No, I do I get it. I
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: I mean I undred percent get it. I just I'm
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: I'm tired. I think I think that's my excuse. I
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: really am tired. Hey, I want to go back to
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: um some of this stuff we talked about earlier on loneliness. Okay, UM,
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: I want to hear your thoughts on this. Okay, So
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: here's some of the stats if anybody out there that's
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: feeling lonely. Last week we were able to talk to
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: Ashley Spivy about a topic that is is incredibly important
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: to speak on that great feedback. Everybody really liked that podcast.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: I think our emails and our listeners have responded well.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: I think actually feels loved and supported, which is really
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: one of the most important things here is that anybody,
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: um that is has has been a victim of sexual
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: assault feels love and supported and not alone. So let's
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: move into the loneliness category. Um. Since okay, so the
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: New York Times came out with an article called how
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: social isolation is Killing Us. This article kind of sparked
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: my interest to dig a little deeper, um and talk
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: about this amongst the group this weekend. Since the nineteen eighties,
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: isn't that the percentage of American adults who say they're
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: lonely has doubled from twenty to so this is just
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: people saying they feel in their heart that the sense
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: of loneliness, they feel alone. And as I mentioned earlier,
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: that isolation, that loneliness feeling. When you do feel that,
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: you're at more likely to suffer from heart disease. So
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: what this told me and what my my topic was
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: obviously for the retreat was, I don't care if you
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: if you believe in a god, you believe in a
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: creator or not. Just just as humans, no matter what,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: if we just biologically as humans, we are not meant
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: to be alone because our bodies, right, our bodies don't
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: respond to alone. This we are tribal, we we we
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: were meant to be together and connected. And I wonder
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: for anybody out there listening, is if maybe last week
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: listen to the podcast with actually Spivy and her saying,
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: you know, she was she was, she was hurting, she
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: didn't know how to talk to you know, she couldn't
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: even hardly talk to her mom, that that feeling of aloneness.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: Wonder if anybody out there is feeling alone, it has
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: to I Americans claim to totally. Well, there's a big
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: difference between you know, feeling lonely and having people around
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: you because you can have a lot of people around you,
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: but you still feel lonely. So that's what I think.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: It's a connection. I feel like if you feel like
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: people are understanding and connecting with you, you won't feel lonely.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: But if you're in a room and you feel like
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: you're not really expressing yourself and you're not being your
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: true self around them, then you're probably feeling lonely. Here's
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: how we tie back into the show or just kind
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: of the world we're living with social media and this
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: podcast or whatever. I think people enjoy watching The Bachelor
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: and Bachelor at because the characters on the show are
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: living a real life. They're being themselves, and I'm thinking
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: they're most vulnerable, the most vulnerable. So I think as
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: people watch it, they can say, while these people who
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: are on TV, who are supposed to have it all
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: together don't, And as a result, I can relate and
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: and I feel a little less alone. Way I watch
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: the show because I can live vicariously through these figures
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: or these characters and go, oh, yeah, I feel that too.
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: I'm hurting too. I've been I've been hurt in past relationships.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: I've lacked love, I've lacked connection. I'm desiring a partner
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: whatever that is. You know that long list that we
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: see kind of season over season. I wonder, and I
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: want to hear your thoughts if that's the reason why
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: The Bachelor has consistently stayed so prevalent in pop culture,
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: because people go, I care for it because it's my
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: two hours or now like thirty hours each I can
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: watch to where I no longer feel alone. I think
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: you have a point there. I would have never thought
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: of it like that, but you're right, because it just
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: strips us of all of like the filters that we
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: normally put on ourselves, you know, normally, you know, the producers,
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: and like the whole show concept itself just kind of
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: strips you and makes you the most vulnerable possible. That
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: people are seeing these people who are expressing the same
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: concerns as they do, but don't always feel as comfortable
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: expressing them, and then they therefore connect um to the
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: characters of the sea on the show. I will tell
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: you this, actually, Um, I think you just said it perfect.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: And I think this next season with Colton, from what
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: I know, is going to be a season where a
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: lot of people watch and they start to connect with
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: the characters, maybe more than they ever have. I agree,
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: maybe he really allows himself to get there, and I
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: think we're going to see him grow as a person. Um.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: I'd like to think that I tried to do it
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: in my most authentic, genuine, like most vulnerable way. I
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: don't know if I did or not totally did. I
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: don't know, but I know he is. I really know
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: he's going to I know this show is going to
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: break him. I know it's gonna break him. But I
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: also think we're gonna see him built back up all
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: in this you know episodes. I think so too. He's
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: down to his top four now, which is crazy. Four
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: years ago. I think I was eliminated on crystals this season,
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: like the twenty three of October. It's crazy how much
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: how many girls are eliminated from like that toy that's
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: just like the killing point. Yeah. It goes from the
• 29:27
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• 29:30
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• 29:32
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  Speaker 1: you been doing. I know it's been a really rough
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  Speaker 1: month for you. I'm so sorry to hear about your data.
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  Speaker 1: I was so sad. Thank you. Yeah. I just feel
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  Speaker 1: like it's been one thing after another. But I'm trying
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  Speaker 1: me to do so, but it's been it's been an
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  Speaker 1: it's been kind of crazy. Um. I feel like like
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• 32:04
  Speaker 1: and then two weeks after the breakup air and then
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: that was when I got the phone called and my
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: dad was in the hospital, was being rushed to the hospital.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: And then I spent ten days like living there. I thought,
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: like like spending night there and you know, and uh,
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: and then after those ten days of being in the hospital,
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: he just couldn't fight anymore because there were so many complications,
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: and then he passed away. So then I feel like July, August, September,
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: October has not been great to me and ready for
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: some good stuff. What do you kind of how are
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: you handling it? How are you dealing with We just
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: got done talking right before you came on about kind
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: of some of the things that there are some of
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: the most hard you know, birdens that we carry in life.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: How are you moving on in this season? Um? You know,
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: I think for me, I have a really I'm a
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: pretty positive person. I would say for the most part,
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: I'm like a very optimistic person. So even when it's
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: when I'm in kind of like a depression or like
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: things aren't going great, like I try my best to
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: always be like, Okay, what's the selverly, like, what am
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: I going to grow, you know, from with all of this,
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: and I know, like we all go through these downs
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: in life, but then that always makes up so much better.
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: And so I know they're I mean, I know they're coming.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: You know. It's like, um, it can't always be not
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: everything is going to be terrible forever. It's going to
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: get better. So UM, I think it's just kind of
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: surrounding myself with really positive people. Um. And then like
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: I'm getting back into therapy so that's been really helpful
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: as well. So I think just like doing as much
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: for yourself so that you're, uh, you're not just like
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: wallowing in it and depressed and you know, you're actually
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: getting out of bed and like going and doing things
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: and being around people who are making you feel like
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: it's worth Um, it's it's worth doing doing things, and
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: like I'm allowed to be happy, you know, like even
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: though I'm I've gone through a breakup recently and I'm breathing.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: Like I think that's one thing that's sort of difficult
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: for me with social media right now, especially is that
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: i feel like I'm not allowed to be happy right now.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: And I'm like it's been good days and it's been
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: really bad days but um, but I think that's one
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: of the things too, is to allow yourself to like
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: still be happy and like go out and do things
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: and have fun once in a while, because it's important
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: to kind of get out of that of being like
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: really sad and like take your mind off things. That's uh,
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: what you just said there is is really wise. I'm
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: kind of sitting here in meditating on it because, um,
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: you know, these hard times, these difficult seasons often lead
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: to something um uh really beautiful and the and the
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: tough you know, the really the tough times that we
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: we don't want to live in and be in. Um,
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: kind of open our eyes to something, um so, something
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: something grand. Where does that perspective you come from? Like,
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: how how have you been able to get that into
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: your head and start living that? Because I think a
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: lot of people out there listenings will probably going you know,
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: i've lost the loved one that you know, I've been there,
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: I felt lonely at times. How have you been able
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: to kind of refocused and say, no, this is going
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: to lead to something really good. I think the hardest thing, um,
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: the hardest thing for me has been to think about
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: like the things but I'm not going to get to
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: light with my dad and not the stuff, like I'm
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: trying really hard to. I think it's important not to
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: not to necessarily go there, but to appreciate this stuff
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: that we we did have together in the time that
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: we did have together. And so I think that has
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: been that's been a challenge, but that's also been something
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: that has um given me some perspective on it in
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: in just reflecting on like all the good times that
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: we had and not thinking about like what is being
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: missed out on. And I mean, honestly, like grieving a
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: death is a lot like a breakup, but they're a
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: lot like you know when friends part ways. There's i mean,
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: obviously there's a more final chapter and it's this with
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: my father, So it's like somebody very close to me,
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: but um, it's done in my entire life. But you know,
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: it's it's it is important to think about what you
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: had together and not think about all of the things
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: in the future and um and be sad about that.
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: If that did not make sense, it makes complete sense. Yeah,
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think you're just you know, I think
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: you're speaking to a lot of people right now who
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: listen to this podcast. And have felt this and just
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: never never been able to audibly say or they haven't
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: maybe listen to anybody else kind of walked through it
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: with him. So thank you for talking to us about it.
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: I know this is not easy. I know it's not
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: something that you want to continue to to relive every second,
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: every day. But the point that you're doing is you're
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: increasing his value by talking about it. So thank you.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: It's been very strange too, just because, um, like death
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: is a difficult thing no matter what. But my done
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: and I had a very complex, complicated relationship too, so
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: I have very mixed emotions even not about his death
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: but about like my motion just like a confusing time.
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: It was a confusing time when I went into the hospital.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: Um my step mom was the one that called me,
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: and I hadn't seen her spoken to her, and like
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: and all years I have no idea how long it
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: had been. My dad and I didn't speak at one
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: point for seven years, and we were like kind of
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: on a mending, rebuilding our relationship positions. It was like,
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: you know, there's there's so much more to um to
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: to everything in life, you know what I mean. So, um,
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: it's it's just been kind of a little bit of
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: a confusing a couple of months. But um but I
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: think yet there's a lot of growth that can happen
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: from going through these really really huge life changing moments.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: So I've been looking forward to those those growth moment
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: where I looked back and you're like, wow, that was
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: really really terrible time, but look at where I am got.
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: You know, would there be anything you would share, um
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: with the listeners who have been through this, or just
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: listening for a piece of advisors, or any lessons learned
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: already that you you don't want to speak to him. Um,
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I can't think of anything like really
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: maybe pointing it, but I will say so we already
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: had my dad's memorial and I was considering not speaking
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: at it because I was like it was just gonna
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: be too emotional for me, and um, I for a
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: couple of days before I said, you know what, like
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: put me in the program and if I can, I
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: kind of if I can't off somebody else read what
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: I wrote, but I would say, maybe try to do
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: whatever you think you need to do for you and
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: like even and be really honest about it too, because
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: even um so I ended up speaking and I cried
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: through the entire thing, and um that I was, like
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: I was, I kind of said what I needed to
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: say and got it. You know. It's like it was
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: my opportunity to to share my relationship with my dad
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: and and those little things like I know that I
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: would have probably really regretted it if I didn't speak,
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: And so whatever that is for you, it might not
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: be that per se, but like for me, just pushing yourself,
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: even in those moments where you're like I can't get
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: out of bed and all I'm doing is crying and
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: I can't even imagine, like you know, whatever it may be,
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: like push yourself to maybe do those things just because
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: you might regret it later on in life if you don't.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: You know, maybe like little things like that, like just
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: push yourself because it also like when you do push yourself,
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: it gets it forces you to step out of that
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: comfort zone and then not from really beautiful things happen.
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: Whatever it may be. Again, like mine was. That's just
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: the example that I'm giving. But yeah, you you mentioned
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: here and I know, um, we're gonna dig in. Ashley
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: has a lot of digging here. You mentioned that you
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: know that is death is very similar to breakups you've
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: been through a breakup on Bachelor in Paradise, we saw
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: that play out. Ashley was very upset about this breakup.
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: This was one that she she had her heart invested into.
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: How are you doing from that? I'm mean, I'm good now.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: I think it's enough. Time has passed and I actually
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: feel like with everything that happened with my dad, um,
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: it was good. Some of my my best friends actually
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: reached out to Camille the day after I think he
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: was admitted into the hospital, and so he and I
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: were corresponding a little bit on texting during that time,
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: and it was very eye opening to me to realize,
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: like I think before that I still was very um.
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: I would say hopeful for like the future, like I
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: know that Queen and I couldn't hold on hold on okay, wait,
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: I'm literally writing my notes right now. That he was
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: such a jerk to you, like the worst thing really
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: a human could do to somebody that I think that
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: you would be so over him, you'd be like I
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: on even have a break up morning period because he
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: was such a jerk that I just want him to
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: be slandered by everyone. I have no interesting corresponding with
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: him ever. Ever, again, I don't even feel sad because
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: he's such a jerk. This is I told you, actually
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: was feeling this for you. Um No, and I completely
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: hear what you're saying. Um it's easier said than done.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: To remind everyone, he broke up with you on TV. Yeah,
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: I know, he broke up with me on national television.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: And it was like when I watched the Blast Blast
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: actually when the breakup really stung, because I think I
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: was so numb when it happened the first time around.
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: I didn't even really realize how bad it was. And
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: then when I watched it again, I was like, oh
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: my god U And that was actually that. There was
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: like two weeks after it aired. In that period, I
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: was like I don't want anything to do with him,
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: and he was texting me like every day like pleas
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: going to need to talk, and I was like, I
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: just can't right now if I need space. Um. But
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: that's what I was going to say that with my dad,
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: I was my friend's reach up just to let him
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: know what was going on. And and during that time
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: that was kind of for me when it was like, Okay,
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: this is now, we're going to happen because he wasn't
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: there for me the way, like even even as a
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: friend friend, like I felt like he just didn't know
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: how to to be there and like, were you going
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: through difficult times? Do you want somebody who couldn't really
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: be there for you? I don't think you should have
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: wanted him to be there for you, know, I mean,
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: and I didn't. That was the thing I think in
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: those moments where like when he was checking or whatever,
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: I was just like, I'm I started was seeling like
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: I'm done. Um, I think I needed like a final
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: straw with him, And that was a little bit Okay.
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: I know I should have my final straw sod to
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: him when he broke up with me on national television,
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: but um, yeah, I wish, I wish I could have.
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: You asked him, he said, swear on your mother's life
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: that you will not break up with me during this
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: union show, and he didn't. Well, I'm scared for his mom. Now, Yeah,
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: I mean, I was so blindsighted. I there, in a
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: million years, I would not have thought that that was
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: going to happen, just because of the conversations but we
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: had leading up to it, and I was saying it
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: because I thought he was going to break up with me.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: Like I didn't say t I mean, you're not going
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: to It was just kind of like a jokey thing,
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: you know really because that's interesting, like they're not going
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: to propose to me, So like what are the other
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: big things that happened? Like we didn't break up with me?
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: And he's like, I would you ever do that? I
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: start remember those ways. So you're saying, you're saying that
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: you were blindsided because that was a joke because like
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: I'm sure the audience was thinking, like, oh, they were
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: on the verge of a breakup and she was worried
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: about it. But now oh no, no, oh no, I
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: didn't say it. I was like, I'm afraid that we're
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: going to break up, so please don't break up with me.
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: Um no, I I said it kind of when I
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: stood it for him, it was like, hey, we didn't
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: break up with me, Like that's what's do that on
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: the national television? You know, It's like, no, definitely was
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: a little bit lighter. Um. It wasn't like a concern.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: We had had some rocky points, like I mean I
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: was going to break up with him. A couple of
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: weeks prior to that, because I was just not getting
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: enough from him. But then the last couple of weeks
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: right before the reunion, we were actually like really doing
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: pretty good, um, and so I was like just excited
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: about it. Well that now that you reconnected with him
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: in some sense after the breakup, I want to know
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: what Mel said was his reasoning behind breaking up with you,
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: aren't TV. Honestly, I think I think he's still I
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: think he's just a confused person, like and I think
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: he just had a lot to figure out still in life,
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: and I just don't think he's really ready for a relationship.
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: And so I don't think he said to me many
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: times doctor would break up, He's like, I don't I
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: don't want to break up with you. I just I
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: don't even know like how that happened, Like I don't
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: know why I did it. And I'm like, well, you
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: did it, and you're not trying to get me back,
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: so you know. UM. But I think like once he
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: actually said he was kind of like, oh, maybe I'm
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: okay with being single. I don't know, I have no idea.
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: We had many conversations about it, trying to get some
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: clarity and trying to get some closure, and I just
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: don't think. I think the closure Sauce is like is
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: really just like watching watching that final reunion episode. I'm
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: watching his break up for me because that's when I'm like, Okay,
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: that was pretty bad. Antilies. I think, uh, you've been
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: on the podcast not three times. Every time I feel
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: like there's something, you know, major happening in your life.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: I hope this next season of life is one of
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: just majorly great things. And before you go, because I
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: know you've got a busy thing life ahead of you. Here,
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: Ashley has one last question, but I want to personally
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: just say Annaly's thanks for coming back on the podcast,
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: especially during a season that it's probably not I would
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: assume I'm gonna speak for you. Tell me if I'm wrong.
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: It's not the easiest to talk publicly, So thanks for
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: coming on and hanging out with this. Thank you so much,
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: um Antilies. I don't know where I saw this, but
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: I saw a picture of you, a millionaire matchmaker from
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: like two thousand eleven and the brown hair, and it
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: was crazy. Yeah, tell us about that. It was when
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: I first moved to l A and I was like
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: recently out of my first series, and I can't remember
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: how it happened. I was like just out and about
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: and somebody was like, hey, do you want to do this?
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: And I went with a bunch of girlfriends like we
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: just thought it would be fun and uh and then
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: I was like in my twenties, I definitely dyed my
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: hair every every couple of months. It was like a
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: new hair color and hair both ways. You look at
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: both ways, thank you. I've had red hair um as well,
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: and I love changing it up. But now I'm like,
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: it's just easier and it's cheaper to be with my
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: natural hair colors. Well that's where I'm at now. But
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: you're natural blonde and you go brunette. Yeah uh yeah.
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: So it was fun. I mean it was fun. It
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: was like it was like many many many movies like that.
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: It was, but it was It's funny about it was
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: like kind of came full circles. So looking I'm like, well,
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: wherever you can find it. It's funny that people are
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: always like, don't find love on TV, like go on
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: the dating sites. They're like, get cut up. I'm like,
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: what do you think I've been doing for the last
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: twenty years of my life like of course, like I've
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: gone on every dating site I've gone, you know, I've
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: been shut up. I've done almost all the ways to
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: meet meet man who went not on TV. Well and
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: my thought then not my pot. Now you are such
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: a routable character, and we really hope I can't wait
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: see you what the ring on your finger? One day?
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be sop you alrighty, We'll talk to you soon.
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: We always do. Thank you for coming on and being,
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: you know, as honest as you were today. I know
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: it's not an easy thing to talk about. I feel
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: like my brain is a little fried. To be honest,
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: I'm not like you've been my hard for me to
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: make sentence of still, but thank you for at least
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: letting me try. Oh you did, you did a great job.
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: All right, bye, all right by I think days. Thank you.
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: She doesn't have a ring on her finger. I know
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: one thing we can get her a fab fit fun
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: box Fait Fun of the Seasons ruption box with full
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: size beauty, fitness, fashion and lifestyle products. I don't know
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: if it would replace a ring in an Lisa's life,
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, probably won't, but it is going
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: to be a nice quarterly treat for It's like a
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: little a little piece of medicine. Their retails but always
• 48:15
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• 48:19
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• 48:23
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• 48:25
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• 48:28
  Speaker 1: miss this box. Actually, what's your favorites in this year's box?
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: Favorite there was an awesome exfoliant which I always find
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: the greatest exfoliants and sunscreens in there. There was a
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: very cozy scar from my editor's boxes, like more of
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: like a cozy thing. Um. I love the Free People
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: eye mask because not only does it block out all lights,
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: but it also has this gel insert where you could
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: you could put it in there and then deep off
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: your eyes your sleeping brit Huge for me. Yeah, So
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: there's like a there's always incredible things. I discover something
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: new that I will continue to buy for like the
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: foreseeable future every quarter when my fabfit fund box comes along. Uh.
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: This season there's stuff from Dr Brandt and Juice Beauty,
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• 49:37
  Speaker 1: is one of the biggest weeks of the year. Everybody
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: in studio is super excited to ask you. We're getting
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: emails and callers. Ashley, are you and Jared dressing up
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: as a couple? Yeah, that's so exciting, you guys. Is
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: my first couple's costume of all the button we need
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: that buttony. It's my first Halloween with a significant other.
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: And the Jasmine costume that I've literally worn I think
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: for fifty of my Halloween's like fifteen Halloween's no I have.
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: I've got this custom Jasmumine costume, which I'm sure I
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: talked about last year too. Um. I got it when
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: I was twenty two, and I swear I've worn every
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: other year since. Um, I get to wear it this
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: year with an Aladdin, and I'm so excited. I ordered
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: his costume and came a couple of days ago. We
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: got a magic carpet and he has a lamp and
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: um my sister is going to dress up as Red Jasmine,
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: the one that is like under Jafar spell and her
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: boyfriend's gonna be Jafar. And now our best friend is
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: gonna be the Genie, and we need to get a
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: little boot costume for my dog. Yeah, we're going as
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: the whole Aladdin. I don't know what this is. That's
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: so crazy. Jared and I are invited to dinners and
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: parties all the time, and they're you know, and usually
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: you're like, You're like, I guess we'll go. I guess
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: we'll go, right, But I never get invited to a
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: Halloween party. Really what I have not dressed up in
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: a Halloween costume? Honestly, probably way before college. No way,
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: Jared too. I don't think Jared has like dressed up
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: since he was twelve. I haven't dressed Yeah, and I
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: didn't go to treating as a kid. My favorite was
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: passing out to candy. I never liked to dress up.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: I don't know why. My last official outfit that I
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: remember really wanting to be with Elvis. You could really
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: pull that off if you could watch I can do
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: look very good at that, and we all know that
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: you could do the hip manyeah. So that was what
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: I wanted, But I just don't dress up anymore, and
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: nobody comes to my house for trick or treating. Nobody
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: comes to ours either, And that's all Jared and I
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: wanted to do this year. We're like, okay, so if
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: we're not invited to a Halloween party, then at least
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: can we I even tweeted, I said, can I come
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: to somebody somebody's suburban house and pass out candy, dress
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: up as Jasmine a lot? Yeah? I don't know why.
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: Here's my strategy too. This is where this really gets
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: upsetting for me. My very first year living in my house,
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: I went out to the store and I was like,
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: I want to be the cool neighbor, Like I want
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: to be known for something. You know, I'm twenty four
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: years old living in a neighborhood a bunch of thirty
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: and four years Like, I need to prove myself worthy
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: of being in that neighborhood. So I went out to
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: the store and I bought king size candy bars, like
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: a lot of king sized candy bars. I wanted to impress,
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: impress the people. I had a great turnout, right, I
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: was selling it obviously. Walk on the street, Hey, take
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: a candy bar, thinking next year it's gonna be wild.
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: Nobody showed up. No, I still have the candy in
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: my drawer from last hallowe. I'm not going to serve it.
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: Parents out there, you can come to my house. It's safe.
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: But I still have the candy. I did not. I
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: probably got four trigger treaters. Four and they were like
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: high school kids, like the ones that you don't want
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: to pass out candy. It's just weird, You're you're just
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: being odd. I did that once. I've actually think I
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: graduated college. I think when I was twenty three, I
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: trigger treated and it was like a joke. So I
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: went with all of my college friends and we were
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: all like three. We went trick or treating with masks on,
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: and then they'd be like, where do you go to school?
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: And we'd be like, Blangley, I like peed my pants,
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: laughing so hard going house to house. Yeah, back in
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: the day, we're weird. We're just weird. People are weird. Yeah,
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: but we're in it together. Like Jared is just like you,
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: or he doesn't dress up and I just don't understand.
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: He's like, I can't believe you're spending sixty dollars on
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: my Aladdin costume. I'm like, I cannot believe that you
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: think that I'm not going to spend sixty dollars on
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: your Aladder costume. I hope he looks as good as
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: he typically does. Jared is going to be one good
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: looking Aladdin. If you're out there dressing up, please emails
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: at Ben and Ashley at iHeart meatia dot com. Make
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: sure you write and what you're dressing up as and
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: who you're going with her Halloween. And then I have
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: a question, as a twenty nine year old mail what
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: is my role? Like? What do I do on Halloween?
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: Pass up candy? Right? I can't like dress up and
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: go to like a party. And of course if you're
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: invited to a Halloween park, does still happen? Yes? Do
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: you not look at the internet? Wells and Sarah Hiland
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: dressed up a taco bell and they're like everywhere pictures
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: are everywhere. Yeah, but they're like celebrities and stuff. Um,
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: hey you have Joshua. He got married this weekend. Jared
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: and I wanted to go to the wedding, but it
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: would have been our third straight wedding and we're just like,
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: we can't fly to a third story wedding. Yeah, I
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: want to go to I had to this retreat um
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: and I couldn't make it. I was sad. I haven't
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: seen Josh a long time. He was a good buddy
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: of mine. He really is. Here's my question, we gotta
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: bring Josh on at some point. I want everybody's opinion
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: out there. So he's now married. So I looked at
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: his Instagram today. I was actually looking at his wedding
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: pictures when I was on the flight or just once
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: they've posted in People of tagament he still has in
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: his profile Bachelotte season eleven. Is it time to take
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: that down once you get married? The question? Or do
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: you keep it up there? I was like, Hey, at
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: one point in my life I was on the show.
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: I don't think there's an issue either way. Decide Yeah,
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: I just thought I thought, I thought I sit out
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: to me Bachelors season eleven. You're married now? Maybe maybe
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: change that to like married? Anyways, Hey, we are bringing
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: on uh one of our favorite segments. It's been consistent.
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: It's two years in the making, it's two years in
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: the running. The who the heck are you segment? Joe Higgins,
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: Kelly Joe Higgins, Who the heck are you? The one
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: they called me for crying out loud? Could be cousin? Yeah,
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: I wonder, Um, that's what I was gonna get to here,
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: We're gonna we're gonna talk about family and grandparents and
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: uncles and see if we can make a connection. Kelly, Joe,
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: we do a segment on this podcast called who the
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: heck are You? From people that have been on the
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: show from years past. Please give our audience a little
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: rundown of how they would know you, where they could
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: watch your season and what happened on your season. Well,
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: if they have a VHS case, they'll be able to
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: um play back our old grizzled season. I was one
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: of the finalists on Bob Guinea's season. And yes, years ago,
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: I was a h a twenty three year old and
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm like a Bachelor grandma compared to
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: you guys right now. But on our season, Um, I
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: was the finalist. So he's the one that gave me
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: the however in the end, and yes, and he shows
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: Estella beautiful Estella and I became a part of the
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: Bachelor of Love. But you know we weren't even an
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: eight d for crying out loud. So we're old. Your
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: name is Kelly. When you watch Bob Guinea season, we
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: had to go back and pull up some tape. Um,
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: Kelly Joker, How in the world did you say you
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: made name? It's fanetic, it's Torsky. And then one of
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: our listeners, as a big fan of yours, she wrote
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: us an email and said, hey, could you bring in
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: Kelly Joe Higgins to the podcast to hear what she's
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: doing in life? So you have a fan base that
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: still last today. Congrats. Oh that's fun. I'll tell her
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: thank you. She's probably listening. I'm assuming, but I guess
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: there is no relation between your husband, who is a
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: hockey player, Matthew Higgins, to Ben Ben Higgins right here.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: No relation. No, it's probably not. I don't think so.
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: It is a common last name, I suppose, although they
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: do kind of look alike. It's a little bit strange.
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna look him up right now. What's his name? Matthew?
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: And Matthew who does he play for? Does he still play? Well?
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: He is retired now. So he played for the Montreal
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: Canadians back in the day, and then Um played in
• 57:42
  Speaker 1: Europe for nine professional seasons and that's when I met
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: him actually right after we did this show. Um. Actually
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: I met him before the show and he was signing
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: his first contract in Europe, and I knew that I
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: was ready to go and that signed with the Bachelor franchise,
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: and I told him listen, let's just see what happens.
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: And back then we had the friends moved into the
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: house and they asked me. He asked me if I
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: had met anybody before the show or if I had
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: dated anybody seriously, and I said, well, there's a potential
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: happy patati that I might figure out if if Bob
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: gives me the boot, and that's what we did a while. Yeah,
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: we're looking at a picture of your husband. Now, no
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: offense to Bob getting but it's definitely cuter than Bob.
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: I think, Yeah, I think, I definitely. I don't know.
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: I think he's pretty than cute. Uh So that's interesting
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: that you guys were kind of talking before the show,
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: because I remember the Bachelor producers were like, after you
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: go on the Bachelor, the guy in your life, if
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: there is a guy in your life is either totally
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: going to come around or it wasn't meant to be
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: and they're just like, there's something about the Bachelor. Of course,
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: seeing your girl in the Bachelor is go going to
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: make the guy be probably jealous and be like, oh
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: my gosh, I what am I missing out on? I'm
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: losing this girl and now she's like off doing big
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: things in their life. So that's absolutely hilarious that you
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: think that, because my husband is totally the opposite. He really,
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: you know, face deep in his hockey perfection and over
• 59:20
  Speaker 1: in Europe. And of course they caught wins somehow that
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: he and I had met before she started his his
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: career with this German hockey team. And then I went
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: on the show and I think I was in US
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: Weekly or something like that, and one of the teammates
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: brought to US Weekly to him and he's like, look
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: here she is. And then I think somebody got one
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: of the episodes from the American Air Force a network,
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: which is way back before all of the internet. Gosh,
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: I'm aging myself. This is crazy. Anyway, so he was
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: able to watch I think the hometown date, and the
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: hockey team was just rather in him, and then I
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: think he was kind of put up to it after
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: they knew that the show was done, he called me
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: was out of nowhere and just said how are you?
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: What's going on? And then that's kind of how we rekindle.
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: We never really chatted much after because I knew, I mean,
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: I put myself all in because I was excited about
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: doing the Bachelor, and and he was starting a career
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: in Europe. So who would have thought that we would
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: ever meet up again. So do you think was there
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: ever a talk about you being the bachelrette? Yes? There was, yea,
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: And um, I think this with demographics as well as um,
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: Meredith Philips was the bachelorette after ours, So I think
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: it came down to and I don't remember the legality
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: behind all of it, but it was between her and I,
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: and she was a little bit older, I think, way more,
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: you know, I think, just ready to have a commitment.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: And I was twenty three and I didn't want my
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: space kind of with the split down us weekly, So
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: of course I was looking for love and I'm you know,
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: I was ready, but I think, um, I think the
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: viewers were ready for someone to something to stick on
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 1: the show too. So these guys are too young to
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: remember Meredith. But what happened to is when she was
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: on with Bob. Remember her grandma died and she like
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: won the Hearts of America because her grandma died and
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: and she stayed or she left or something happened. And
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: I just have this memory and I feel like that's
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: why they made her the bachelorette. Do you remember that.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: I don't know, she's she's awesome. I'm not saying, but
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: it was like that was like the she made this
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: big impact on the audience because of that. So that
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: was to me why then she became the bachelorette. It
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: was like, Oh, God, to help the girl that, you
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: know what I mean? That was how I remember it. Yeah,
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: I don't remember. I mean, they never told me the
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 1: full story, but I just said, hey, list you want
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: me after, I'll do it. But then it all works out.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 1: God has this amazing way in a path, and I've
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: just pumped that my journey went towards where I am now,
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: which is with my husband and now I two kids.
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: And well that's kind of what I want to talk about. Now,
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 1: your journey took you to marry your husband, changing your
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: last name, and now we're cousins. Let's figure out how
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: I mean, I want to I would love to be
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: related to your husband. That guy he's a stud. Um,
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: But I think so, how is here's a really important question.
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 1: I'll set of everything else. I'll say the Bachelor, Bachelor
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: atte is, Here's what I really wanted to get to know.
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 1: How has the Higgins last name worked for you? Well?
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: It puts a big smile on my face that I'm
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: able to be his wife. So if that helps you,
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: it all, go for it. Will you just tell my
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: future wife that please that when you get the Higgins
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: last name, it puts a big smile on your face. Yes,
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: thank you. I need that. I thought your back. I
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: need the support. Um. Before we let you go, a
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: couple of questions. You were back in a day, like
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: you said, I wasn't going to bring this up, but
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: you you allowed me to. Um. You you were on
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 1: the show while back and it was before really internet
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: and social media and all that became popular. What kind
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: of feedback did you get, Like if you go back
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: in that time of life, did you feel like a celebrity,
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: did you feel like people were watching you. Did you
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: feel the criticisms and the celebration in the praise or
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 1: was it kind of just kind of more Quiet. Well,
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 1: first of all, I'm so thankful social media wasn't fierce
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 1: when I was on, because I think it would have
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 1: been way worse. But I think at that time ABC
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: had a blog or something, and I think after the
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: second so aired, I went on just because I was
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 1: interested to see what people were saying. And it was
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: terrible because it was Kelly Joe. I was getting called
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: Kelly hell because I was the first one that kissed Bob,
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: and I just was like, oh, I'm never going on
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: this again because I didn't even imagine what you guys
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: go through on a daily basis. Just was so so
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 1: and just the haters out there, which is a ridiculous
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: because all it is is taking a chance on the
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: what if. Which I love the show for that because
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 1: you never know what will come of it. Right, look
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: at you guys. You're doing an awesome podcast and you're
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: on different shows now. It's amazing. So I'm thankful at
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: that time we didn't have social media and all the
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 1: spin off either, because I have a feeling that I
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: probably would have done back for in Paradise and my
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: wife different. But yes, um, I mean I auditioned, I
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: submitted my audition at an with an old dial up
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 1: that you know, remember the old noise. Yes, I submitted
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: it so and I mean going back, is that I
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 1: feel famous? No, because but people didn't know us. I
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: mean I was in Chicago at the time and what
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 1: we were going out and I remember being able to
• 1:04:53
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• 1:05:44
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  Speaker 1: Kelly Joe Higgins. Um, as you said, I I'm in skincare.
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  Speaker 1: I'm almost also in business development. So if you're an
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  Speaker 1: You're no longer a who the heck are you? You
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  Speaker 1: We have an email from one of our favorite fans.
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 1: He has a long time listener named Rebecca says Hi Ben,
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 1: huge fan of you and Ashley and the Almost famous podcast.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: My best friend Casey and I have been listeners since
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 1: the beginning. That's a long time ago. I mean that's like,
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 1: how long does this? Yeah, I mean she's it was
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 1: a lot younger then, as Easton would say, my hair
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: look different. It's Casey's birthday tomorrow, and it would mean
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 1: the world to her if you would wish her a
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 1: happy birthday. She's the kind of friend who always loves
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: caring for other people. Then I want her to feel
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 1: extra cared for and loved on her birthday. Thank you,
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 1: we love you, Casey. Happy Birthday to you. You can
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 1: sing it for thirday to you. Happy Birthday, Dear Casey,
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 1: Happy Birthday to you is the happy birthday song that
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  Speaker 1: old that we don't have to say for the right.
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 1: It's one of those songs that you know, what is
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 1: that called mark? There's like some public domain anyone public domain? Yeah,
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 1: I think there's some lullabies we can sing to figure
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 1: those out. We'd love to do a singing singment the podcast.
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: I think all of our listeners gonna respond in huge
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 1: ways after hearing that. Yeah, I've got a good point.
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 1: Any feel like I'm not done talking to you yet.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: I just like like having the playful, regular conversation, you
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like, I just want to talk
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 1: about regular things with you sometimes because that's so fun.
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 1: You haven't seen a Stars Born yet. I haven't. Now
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 1: I see it twice. Now I don't want to see it.
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 1: I don't need to cry. I don't need that. Everybody
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 1: needs it because it makes so many things. You guys,
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: don't need the sadness. I cried too much? Do it?
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: Is love? A good work of art that moves me,
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 1: that does yes, a good work of art that moves you.
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 1: I'm into that. I mean, I guess I could get
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: behind it. I just I have to be prepared to
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: be moved. Yeah. I can't just be moved all of
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 1: a sudden. It's just it just it could really when
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 1: I get moved, I mean I'm moved for a long time.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 1: My sister was drained for the entire day. She's like, yeah,
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 1: that's why she had to want to go. Actually, that's awful,
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 1: you guys. It's fine if you do it on a
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: day where you're not going to do anything for the
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 1: rest of the day. I go see like a five
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 1: o'clock movie. You could go home be sad, and then
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 1: you're gonna sleep, and then you're gonna wake up next morning.
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: You're gonna want to listen to the soundtrack. Then for
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 1: some reason, there's a weird crack in it, because no
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 1: matter how sad you were, you're gonna want to see
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: it again after twenty four hours. No. Yeah, my sister
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 1: said the exact same thing happened. She was like, we
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 1: left the movie theater and she said, I cannot believe you.
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 1: Just you saw that twice and I go, wait twenty
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 1: four hours and you're going to think differently. Twenty four
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 1: hours later, she was like, I want to say it again.
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 1: I saw Halloween, Ben us too that good? Did you
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 1: like Halloween? Yeah? I get scared easy? Oh I don't. Yeah,
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 1: I don't love it. I just get nervous. I know,
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 1: I just rough right now. I'm just emotional. I don't
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 1: get scared easily. And all I want to do is
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 1: see a movie that scares the crap out of me.
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 1: And I can't come up with one. Why. Why shouldn't
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 1: we dig into why Ben is emotional? Do you want? Really?
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 1: Is there something or help for that? Nocause I'm doing
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 1: brain training. Yeah, I'm rewiring my brain. Are you going
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 1: to a different therapist or sometime? I mean, I just
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 1: watch a lot of videos, read a lot of articles,
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 1: and it takes work, but it's all worth events. So
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 1: you could retrain your brain too. I don't know if
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: that seemed really really intense. I don't know if I'm
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: there yet. Well, I mean, I'm just saying it's working.
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 1: It's not working. I'm not cured by any means, but
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 1: it's working. There's improvement, but it's slow. It's all about
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 1: training your brain to think positive thoughts and good thoughts,
• 1:12:46
  Speaker 1: and when you go to the negative place, you just
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 1: switch it back. You want to know why I don't
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 1: want to go see a Stars Born? Why I have?
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 1: I was just looking through my list. I knew I was.
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 1: I was mad about something, and why don't go to
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 1: movies anymore? The last time I went to a movie.
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 1: I'm sitting in this movie. I'm getting ready to emotionally
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 1: prepare myself for Um, for this show, from Halloween, for
• 1:13:08
  Speaker 1: Halloween and the movie. More than ever, I think this
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 1: is a sign that I'm getting old because it never
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 1: used to bother me. I know that I'm I'm that
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 1: whatever it's ticking inside of me is happening at at
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 1: a faster rate than ever. There's two high school kids
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: sitting two rows in front of me, three seats to
• 1:13:25
  Speaker 1: the left. I can hear everything they're saying, and they
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 1: refuse to stop talking during the movie, and then they
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 1: want to comment to each other during the movie, like
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 1: so when something funny happens, it wasn't that good? Remember
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 1: that one time? You know? Was that during Halloween? Now,
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 1: because that's all all kids do is talk during horrors.
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 1: It's absolutely the most frustrating experience because I paid a
• 1:13:45
  Speaker 1: ridiculous amount of money these days to be in that movie.
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 1: I only pay to that movie for the experience, and
• 1:13:51
  Speaker 1: my experience is not gonna be ruined where you're immature
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 1: young communication between whatever you're happening, where you listen and
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 1: google for each other, then poke your buddy in the
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 1: side to make him giggle louder during this really scary
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 1: part of the movie. Because that makes me jump even higher,
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 1: because it makes it more real. I don't want to
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 1: go to movies anymore. I will sit on my couch
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 1: and enjoy it on my own, just like most things
• 1:14:13
  Speaker 1: in life these days. That's why I'm getting old. You
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 1: need I pick in your life. They have that. I
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 1: think it's amazing, but also okay, so I pick as
• 1:14:23
  Speaker 1: a movie theater around here where your seat completely reclines.
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 1: You have a blank ee like, no joke. They give
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 1: you a blanket and a pillow before. Yeah I didn't
• 1:14:31
  Speaker 1: check that. The baby would definitely check that out. That's
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 1: like a gamy thing. And then they give you wine
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 1: and food and they come and deliver it to your
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 1: seat and the seats are spread out. It's more expensive,
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 1: but you couldn't hear what someone else is signed next
• 1:14:47
  Speaker 1: to you, Like one time, I'm not gonna lie. I
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 1: actually brought my laptop in there and did work while
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 1: watching the movie. Like your brain rewied. Yeah, that's just weird.
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 1: That's there's nothing okay about that. You paid to in
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 1: a movie. Why would you pay to be in a
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: movie and work on your computers in your living room? Well, no,
• 1:15:03
  Speaker 1: because it was a new movie. It was a Liam
• 1:15:05
  Speaker 1: Neeson tasks I don't like I'm one I'm one way go,
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 1: which actually next week let's talk about that a little bit,
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 1: because I think a lot of women struggle with understanding
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 1: that men only can do one thing at a time.
• 1:15:19
  Speaker 1: They totally and we don't get it, and so it
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 1: totally befuddles us because we're like, I don't understand why
• 1:15:24
  Speaker 1: he can't text me back, But he can't text me
• 1:15:26
  Speaker 1: back because he's busy. But when we're busy, we can
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 1: text you and Iron and talk on the phone an
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 1: type emails and watch TV. I don't know why ironed
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 1: so much, but yeah, to let's talk about that. Hold.
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 1: I have so much more to say, Like I don't
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 1: like going. I can't watch movies at home because I'll
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 1: fall asleep. I will fall asleep and I'm never invested
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 1: because there's either my phone or my computer, or like
• 1:15:49
  Speaker 1: I can go like wear a face mask and then
• 1:15:52
  Speaker 1: go wash it off, and then I can go get
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 1: a snack and like, no, in the theater, I am
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 1: fully concentrated on the film. Then when I go to
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 1: I pick I also have the same problem because I
• 1:16:02
  Speaker 1: want to fall asleep because I have a glass of
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 1: wine and a blankie and I'm reclined, So I really
• 1:16:05
  Speaker 1: can't go to I Picky Um. And then I'll tell
• 1:16:09
  Speaker 1: you why Halloween was scary to me because it was
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 1: a very similar situation to you. And by the way,
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 1: I'm glad that you just did a bend bitches by accident.
• 1:16:18
  Speaker 1: Did you realize that that wasn't by accident. Okay, okay, Well, um,
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 1: in Halloween, Jared and I want to go see it
• 1:16:26
  Speaker 1: in Puerto Rico. We're in Puerto Rico because Jared like,
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 1: literally a good way to spend your time when you're
• 1:16:31
  Speaker 1: on vacation. That's what everybody said to us. But it
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 1: was our fourth night, and this man is so obsessed
• 1:16:38
  Speaker 1: with the Halloween series in all movies in general, and
• 1:16:41
  Speaker 1: like all Halloween movies in general, that we had to
• 1:16:44
  Speaker 1: see it because he was like, if I don't see
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 1: Halloween tonight that I'm not going to see it until Monday,
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 1: and I can't wait that long. So we went to
• 1:16:49
  Speaker 1: see Halloween in Puerto Rico and there was this kid
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 1: behind us. Okay, he wasn't a kid. He was in
• 1:16:54
  Speaker 1: his twenties probably, and these seats are weird. Was an
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 1: older theater, so they leaned back really fall like, you know,
• 1:17:01
  Speaker 1: they leaned back because they were just like flimsy. So
• 1:17:04
  Speaker 1: this kid behind us, he gets he we think, came
• 1:17:08
  Speaker 1: with two other friends, but he never interacted with his
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 1: two other friends next to him, and they just wouldn't
• 1:17:13
  Speaker 1: shut up. So that was annoying. But then he gets
• 1:17:15
  Speaker 1: up to go to the bathroom. Something comes back, and
• 1:17:19
  Speaker 1: then he's leaning right by my head, like he's leaning
• 1:17:23
  Speaker 1: down in his seat and his head his chin is
• 1:17:26
  Speaker 1: literally four inches from my ear. No, we were scared,
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 1: crap lists because we were watching Halloween rereathing out my
• 1:17:38
  Speaker 1: neck and I'm thinking that he's going to literally take
• 1:17:41
  Speaker 1: a knife out. No, seriously, that's why I was scary.
• 1:17:45
  Speaker 1: And then I keep looking back at him and he
• 1:17:47
  Speaker 1: either got his chin right by me or he put
• 1:17:50
  Speaker 1: his coat up all the way to his eyes, like
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 1: covering his But no, he wasn't scared. He was like
• 1:17:56
  Speaker 1: cold or something, and he was just being eerie. The
• 1:17:59
  Speaker 1: dude was being so creepy that we had to move
• 1:18:02
  Speaker 1: seats ten minutes left in the movie. So I don't
• 1:18:04
  Speaker 1: go to movies. People are creepy, especially Halloween. UM never
• 1:18:08
  Speaker 1: been a movie in a while. If you're out there,
• 1:18:10
  Speaker 1: you want to go to a movie. I mean, I'm
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 1: sure there's one nearest to you. Halloween, recommend it, not really,
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 1: what did you? I don't like it? Oh I don't know.
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 1: Jared is also ruins me because he's said, oh, I
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 1: thought you did see it. Oh I thought the old
• 1:18:24
  Speaker 1: one talking about the world. Oh, no, no, no, can
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 1: we please? Okay? Fine, I just want to say that
• 1:18:34
  Speaker 1: Jared ruins all movies because he watches it like a critic,
• 1:18:36
  Speaker 1: so he finds all the flaws in the storyline. So
• 1:18:40
  Speaker 1: he's like that part that they brought it up for
• 1:18:42
  Speaker 1: a second and all of a sudden wasn't a storyline anymore.
• 1:18:45
  Speaker 1: So he like all these pieces. Is they talking about
• 1:18:47
  Speaker 1: how they brought up that she's not related to Mike
• 1:18:50
  Speaker 1: m did that intentionally? And you can tell Jared, we
• 1:18:54
  Speaker 1: know it was intentional. We know it was intentionally because
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 1: they were making that a sequel to number one, racing
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 1: all the other sequel. Do you remember when in that
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 1: movie the psychologist goes bad for a second and then
• 1:19:06
  Speaker 1: he was only bad for like two seconds before he
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 1: dies spoiler. Then he was like, what was the point
• 1:19:11
  Speaker 1: of all that? I don't know, to get rid of him?
• 1:19:15
  Speaker 1: You can't overthink it. Well, let tell Jared about Okay,
• 1:19:18
  Speaker 1: not to get political. Last weekend, I spoke at politic
• 1:19:21
  Speaker 1: con Um. It is a conference colliding entertainment and politics
• 1:19:26
  Speaker 1: on one. It was one of the wildest experiences in
• 1:19:29
  Speaker 1: my life. A lot of very passionate people out there
• 1:19:31
  Speaker 1: on both sides of the parties. Uh, my biggest takeaway
• 1:19:35
  Speaker 1: from the whole thing, get out there and vote, coming
• 1:19:38
  Speaker 1: from tomorrow, one week from tomorrow. Get out and vote.
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  Speaker 1: If you're listening now, it is important. It is responsibility.
• 1:19:44
  Speaker 1: And to end this podcast because one of the themes
• 1:19:48
  Speaker 1: is uh kind of combating I would say loneliness. Right,
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 1: we talked about it from the very beginning. Here's a
• 1:19:55
  Speaker 1: quote doctor from Dr Tang. This relates directly with voting.
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  Speaker 1: Knowing your value you and a contributing member of society
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