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Speaker 1: Hello, my beautiful rare butterfly. How are you doing it? Day? Good?
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Speaker 1: I'm so happy you're here. Do you guys want to
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Speaker 1: see something really cool? I thought you might look at that.
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Speaker 1: One of you guys sent this to me. His name
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Speaker 1: is Will Smith. No, it's not that Will Smith. Can
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Speaker 1: we just take a second to appreciate this. He three
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Speaker 1: D printed it and then painted it and she's going
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Speaker 1: on the shelf, So let's do that there. That's cute. Yeah. Also,
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Speaker 1: if you guys are wondering how Will got that to me?
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Speaker 1: I have a secret. I have a bit of a secret.
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Speaker 1: Caleb and I my husband, we have been making some
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Speaker 1: videos making videos on YouTube kind of discreetly, and it's
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Speaker 1: called The Too Late Show, and we just do whatever
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Speaker 1: we want on that channel. We're just it's a channel
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Speaker 1: where we can just goof off and just do whatever.
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Speaker 1: And there's a po box in there and stuff. So
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Speaker 1: if you guys want to send stuff, and we talked
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Speaker 1: to you guys on The Too Late Show as well.
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Speaker 1: People call in and we chat. It's been really fun
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Speaker 1: and we read people's messages from discord and everything. So
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Speaker 1: go over there do all that stuff if you want.
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Speaker 1: If you don't. That's fine. I figured i'd let you
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Speaker 1: guys know. Now you know, and if you don't want
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Speaker 1: to watch it, that's fine. Anyway, we're reading Reddit today,
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Speaker 1: so let's get into it. My girlfriend, twenty two female,
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Speaker 1: got me a very weird birthday gift and I, twenty
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Speaker 1: three mail, don't know what to make of it. Okay, oh,
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Speaker 1: I don't even want to guess. Let's just get it
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Speaker 1: to it. Yesterday was my twenty third birthday, and as
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Speaker 1: is the usual when it comes to my birthday, I
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Speaker 1: didn't want anything big. My girlfriend simply prepared a homemade meal,
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Speaker 1: got a nice little cake from a bakery, and we
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Speaker 1: sat down and just enjoyed the evening to ourselves. But
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Speaker 1: then came the gift that she gave me. Hey, you
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Speaker 1: like birthdays like me? Just hella lo key. Not expecting anything.
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Speaker 1: I'm scared. She gave me a little gift bag and
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Speaker 1: when I opened it, I saw something that I didn't
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Speaker 1: expect to see a little packet of smucker scrape jelly. Okay,
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Speaker 1: at least give me some bread with it, you know,
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Speaker 1: some butter? All right, I'm talking one of those tiny
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Speaker 1: little packets that they have on the table at breakfast restaurants.
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Speaker 1: I'm familiar. I really didn't know what to think and
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Speaker 1: just gave a weird look at my girlfriend. Her initial
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Speaker 1: response was, do you get it? Okay, this is like
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Speaker 1: a really cute way of being, like, we're going on
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Speaker 1: a trip and we're gonna stay at this place where
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Speaker 1: we got this jelly pack. I don't know, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I'll shove up. Let's just read. And I honestly said
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Speaker 1: that I didn't know what she was talking about. Her
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Speaker 1: expression immediately switched to angry, and she got up, walked
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Speaker 1: away and muttered under her breath, asshole, it's his buff day.
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Speaker 1: He just doesn't get it. Just explain it, love, What
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Speaker 1: are you to do? She locked herself in our room
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Speaker 1: for the whole night, and I had to sleep in
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Speaker 1: the living room. Is your girlfriend a four year old?
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Speaker 1: She still hasn't come out except to use the bathroom.
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Speaker 1: She avoided eye contact with me, won't talk to me,
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Speaker 1: and refuses to let me in our room. What did
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Speaker 1: I do wrong? What's the significance of Smucker's grape jelly?
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Speaker 1: I mean, how would we know? Dude, I'm not living
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Speaker 1: your life. Is this some widely known thing that I'm
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Speaker 1: unaware of. Oh that's fair, like if it's a trend
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Speaker 1: thing or something not that I'm aware of. What does
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Speaker 1: this gift mean? Someone please help me. What immature behavior
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Speaker 1: is she? Oh? No, she's twenty two. I mean she's young,
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Speaker 1: But this is like, what are we doing? It's his birthday.
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Speaker 1: You're ruining his birthday unless it's something crazy, maybe we're
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Speaker 1: missing something where it's like, you know, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I don't even know what it could be. Like. I'm
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Speaker 1: scared for you a little bit because I feel like
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Speaker 1: maybe you screwed up. I don't know what you did, man,
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Speaker 1: I don't know what you did. Luckily, though, I'm just
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Speaker 1: skipping any comments. I'm going right to the update because
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Speaker 1: I am scared. After reading through some of them and
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Speaker 1: scavenging for some type of advice to deal with this situation,
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Speaker 1: I went out and bought a new jar of peanut butter.
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Speaker 1: What I left it at the foot of the bedroom door,
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Speaker 1: knocked and said, there's a gift out here for you.
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Speaker 1: Do you even know why you're giving it to her?
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Speaker 1: After just a few seconds, she opened the door, saw
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Speaker 1: the peanut butter, and I walked up to her and said,
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Speaker 1: if you start talking to me again, I'll be the
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Speaker 1: peanut butter to your jelly. Nice. Nice, dude. She's like,
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Speaker 1: that's not what it meant. She couldn't help but smile
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Speaker 1: sick after that, and her response was, you're so dumb,
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Speaker 1: while clearly trying to fight back a laugh. Oh okay, everybody,
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Speaker 1: everybody's gonna be fine. Oh my god. Immediately began to
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Speaker 1: ask her what her deal was with the grape jelly.
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Speaker 1: Here was her explanation. I'm guessing that it just had
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Speaker 1: a deeper meaning that we don't know, So I feel
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Speaker 1: like that's the only way I could guess. But let's see.
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Speaker 1: She said that she got that as a gift for
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Speaker 1: me to remind me when we first met. She's a
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Speaker 1: sentimental girl. She's a sentimental girl. That's fine, but you
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Speaker 1: can't act like that. You could have just said that, like,
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Speaker 1: I understand if you're a little bit upset, but it's like,
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Speaker 1: remember the first time that we met, cute and you'd
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Speaker 1: be like, oh right, you're just making a mountain out
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Speaker 1: of a frickin' molehill. What are we doing. We first
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Speaker 1: met back in our senior year of high school, and
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Speaker 1: it was at lunchtime. She was new to our school
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Speaker 1: that year, and I offered her a spot on my
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Speaker 1: table since she didn't have anywhere else to sit. The
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Speaker 1: meal I was eating at the time a sandwich with
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Speaker 1: nothing but smuckers grape jelly in it. That sounds good.
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Speaker 1: That sounds good. That's her explanation for why she got
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Speaker 1: me the jelly as a gift. She really clocked that,
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Speaker 1: and she was like, you know what, seven years from now,
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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna lay this new cottam and hope he
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Speaker 1: gets it. And if he doesn't, I'm gonna make him bay.
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Speaker 1: That's her explanation for why she got me the jelly
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Speaker 1: as a gift. I was confused and asked her how
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Speaker 1: she expected me to remember what I was eating when
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Speaker 1: we first met. She just shrugged and said, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I was just hoping you'd remember. Be so for real
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Speaker 1: right now, that's I don't even know what I ate
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Speaker 1: for lunch yesterday. That's critzy. And it's not like it
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Speaker 1: was a significant thing. It's not like, you know, he
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Speaker 1: spilt the grape jelly on your shirt and there was
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Speaker 1: a moment in it. It was just like he was
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Speaker 1: just eating it. It wasn't like you got it for
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Speaker 1: him or he let you share it or something. There's
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Speaker 1: not an event you just noted. She's just really observant,
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Speaker 1: which is cool, but that's you're asking for a lot.
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Speaker 1: I didn't know what to say to that, so I
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Speaker 1: just apologize for not remembering and asked if she can
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Speaker 1: forgive me. She said that she does forgive me, and
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Speaker 1: she also apologized for behaving so poorly when I didn't
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Speaker 1: understand the gift. Okay, okay, we like to hear that.
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Speaker 1: That's that's good. At least we've made up since then,
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Speaker 1: and I'm finally glad that this whole ordeal is behind us,
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Speaker 1: at least, she apologized. Hopefully she learns from that. I mean,
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Speaker 1: to do that to you on your birthday, of all days,
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Speaker 1: and to mope like a toddler for no good reason
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Speaker 1: like that is I cannot be on her side with that.
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Speaker 1: I like I would have said, what's what is this for?
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Speaker 1: And I mean, that's what you did, So yeah, I
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Speaker 1: know this isn't like am ib asshole, but you're not
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Speaker 1: in this scenario. I'm glad you guys made up and everything.
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Speaker 1: Hopefully this isn't a reoccurring thing for you guys, but
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Speaker 1: just you know, make make note of that and see
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Speaker 1: if this becomes a pattern, if it's if it becomes
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Speaker 1: a me me me kind of thing. But I don't know.
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Speaker 1: You guys are young. I think you'll figure it out.
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Speaker 1: Let's see what the comments say about I mean, until
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Speaker 1: you factor in that it was his birthday and she
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Speaker 1: decided to give him the silent treatment and make it
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Speaker 1: all about her. And this was supposed this was under
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Speaker 1: best of oudt or updates like positive ending edition, which
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Speaker 1: people are just like, was this supposed to be positive?
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Speaker 1: Partner had unreasonable expectation, kicked me out during my birthday.
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Speaker 1: I had to do something good for her just so
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Speaker 1: she would talk to me. She didn't apologize. I had
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Speaker 1: to apologize instead. I mean, she did apologize, but I understand.
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Speaker 1: It's like you had to go out and buy peanut butter, hoping,
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Speaker 1: praying that that might help the situation. This is a
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Speaker 1: positive update their girlfriend sounds exhausting and made OPA's birthday
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Speaker 1: about herself. Yeah, I don't disagree. I don't disagree. I'm
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Speaker 1: glad that she apologized, but sounds like it's a personality
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Speaker 1: trait more than a mistake. But what do I know?
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Speaker 1: You know, am I the scalleywig for having my ex
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Speaker 1: arrested at my wedding? Why is your ex at your wedding?
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Speaker 1: I feel like we already have the answer, but let's
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Speaker 1: dive in. Okay, this happened two days ago at mine
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Speaker 1: twenty eight and my wife's thirty nine wedding, and a
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Speaker 1: lot of people are telling me I'm in the wrong
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Speaker 1: for having my ex twenty seven arrested, and my wife
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Speaker 1: is saying I ruined the wedding and caused a scene. Oh,
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Speaker 1: I am salivating. Let's read this first, A little backstory
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Speaker 1: on my ex. We were together over five years ago
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Speaker 1: for a matter of weeks. Oh my nail pop, that's
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Speaker 1: how excited I was. I was squeezing my fist. My
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Speaker 1: damn press on fall fell off. Let me glue that
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Speaker 1: back on really quick. I broke things off because I
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Speaker 1: just wasn't inter that much. Shegan to pester me over
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Speaker 1: text and social media all of the time to get
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Speaker 1: back together or just hook up. This went on for months,
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Speaker 1: and in a particular week moment I gave in and
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Speaker 1: slept with her again. At this point things got a
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Speaker 1: lot worse. I mean, you obviously had relationships with her again,
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Speaker 1: but it's like getting borderline stocker behavior. I tried to
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Speaker 1: explain that it was a mistake and I still didn't
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Speaker 1: want anything with her. From then, the messages ranged from
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Speaker 1: abusive to begging me for spicy time. Eventually I just
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Speaker 1: blocked her. From then, she started turning up at my house, work,
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Speaker 1: and social spaces I went too often. Okay, so this
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Speaker 1: is that's a full blown stocker. Okay, this is scary.
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Speaker 1: She attempted to force herself on me and threatened violence,
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Speaker 1: and at that point I got a restraining order. Since then,
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Speaker 1: I haven't heard from her in the years. Oh my god.
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Speaker 1: I met my wife three years ago and she is
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Speaker 1: honestly the best thing in my life. We fell in
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Speaker 1: love hard and honestly have a great relationship. We got
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Speaker 1: engaged after two years and two days ago, finally had
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Speaker 1: our wedding. The day was going amazingly into a friend
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Speaker 1: of mine, who i'll call Chris great name, turned up
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Speaker 1: with his plus one, my ex. Oh my gosh, chriss cross.
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Speaker 1: She was playing him because she wanted to get to
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Speaker 1: you on your wedding. Oh my god, it's like a movie.
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Speaker 1: I spoke to him, and he had absolutely no idea
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Speaker 1: about my history with her because you dated her for
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Speaker 1: five seconds and we tried to get her to leave.
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Speaker 1: After she refused, I decided to just ring the police.
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Speaker 1: Two officers showed up to arrest her for breaking her
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Speaker 1: restraining order, and she flipped out. She was shouting and screaming.
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Speaker 1: She hurled abuse at my wife and claimed that we
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Speaker 1: were meant to be together, which obviously distracted from my wedding.
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Speaker 1: Now my wife is upset with me for causing a scene,
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Speaker 1: and a lot of friends are saying that I should
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Speaker 1: have just ignored it and focused on the day because
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Speaker 1: she wasn't causing any problems up until the police showed up.
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Speaker 1: So am I the asshole? You know what? I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: go ahead and say no, you're not. And I don't
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Speaker 1: know if the comments will agree with me, But I
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Speaker 1: don't know. I like roles reversed if it was the bride,
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Speaker 1: the wife and a man came that has been actively
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Speaker 1: stock and saying awful things to you and shows up
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Speaker 1: like how scary is that? And it doesn't mean a
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Speaker 1: woman is incapable of doing something. She could have hurt
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Speaker 1: your future wife or your wife. She could have done
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Speaker 1: something terrible because I mean, this is like a catalyst
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Speaker 1: for her, I'm sure, and she snuck into the wedding
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Speaker 1: basically started dating your friend that I'm sure she looked
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Speaker 1: up with your friend, Like this is another level of
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Speaker 1: horrifying scary. Like, I understand it ruined the wedding, but
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Speaker 1: something worse could have happened, potentially, like the stocking thing.
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Speaker 1: You got to take that seriously. So it sucks that
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Speaker 1: it took away from your guys' day. But I feel
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Speaker 1: like you just don't know what's going to happen, and
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Speaker 1: you clearly have experienced it firsthand. I mean, she you
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Speaker 1: said she tempted to force herself on me and threatened violence.
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Speaker 1: I can't even imagine what she would plan to do
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Speaker 1: to somebody that you were about to spend the rest
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Speaker 1: of your life with. You know. Oh, there's an edit
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Speaker 1: to answer some questions. Yes, my wife knew I had
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Speaker 1: a restraining order against a stocker. We spoke about it
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Speaker 1: when we started to become serious. A few family members
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Speaker 1: also knew, but my friends didn't, as I never spoke
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Speaker 1: to them about it. Like, I get it, it like ruined
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Speaker 1: it the day, and I'm sure a lot of people
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Speaker 1: will that's what they'll talk about and everything. But I mean,
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Speaker 1: like again, like roles reversed, wouldn't it be crazy if
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Speaker 1: the husband was, like you ruined the day by calling
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Speaker 1: the police and getting him arrested just because he threatened
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Speaker 1: violence at you and all this. It's just it seems
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Speaker 1: so obvious in that point of view for me and
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Speaker 1: probably for everyone else, But it's just as serious in
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Speaker 1: this way. I don't know why this is making me
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Speaker 1: so mad. I don't know. You just don't know. And
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Speaker 1: I think it's better to make the literal scary, crazy
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Speaker 1: person exit the premises so you guys can enjoy your day.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure you could not enjoy your day
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Speaker 1: knowing that she's lurking around during your wedding day. I
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Speaker 1: don't know. And am I being a little too wild
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Speaker 1: on that. I don't know. There's an update, actually, oh,
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Speaker 1: there is an update. Oh oh my goodness. Okay, I
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Speaker 1: guess so I won't read the comments until after. I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna stick with what. I'm gonna stick with how I feel. Okay.
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Speaker 1: I got a lot of requests for an update on
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Speaker 1: my original post, so here it is. It's been a
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Speaker 1: very long day since I first posted, I have to
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Speaker 1: both my wife and Chris. Starting with my wife, we
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Speaker 1: had a very long, tearful conversation about everything from my
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Speaker 1: ex to our wedding. I apologize for the fact that
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Speaker 1: I didn't consider involving her before calling the police. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I didn't know that unless I might have missed it,
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Speaker 1: but like, yes, you should have told her, like been like, hey,
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Speaker 1: I feel super uncomfortable. Can I please? I don't know
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Speaker 1: i'd say I am calling the police. I don't think
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Speaker 1: i'd ask at that point, just to let her know.
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Speaker 1: Like you're starting a marriage, you need to you need
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Speaker 1: to let your wife know these things. Calling the police,
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Speaker 1: which meant that X's outburst when being escorted out came
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Speaker 1: as a complete surprise to her. Fair, wife has the
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Speaker 1: right to be upset about that. Talk to your new wife,
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Speaker 1: what do we know it. She apologized for the way
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Speaker 1: she reacted and explained that she wasn't angry at me,
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Speaker 1: but is angry at X. The fact that the wedding
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Speaker 1: was ruined and that the focus was shifted away from
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Speaker 1: us into the ex. Her anger was misdirected. Totally fair.
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Speaker 1: This is good, by the way, good, good, conversing on
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Speaker 1: your guys's part. I mean, it should have happened before.
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Speaker 1: You should have told her at the wedding. But I
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Speaker 1: think this is very healthy the way you guys are
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Speaker 1: handling this right now. I'm a therapist, I would not.
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Speaker 1: Another reason for the anger is that a lot of
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Speaker 1: the guests had no idea who X was. So ex
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Speaker 1: comment of were meant to be together has apparently led
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Speaker 1: to people theorizing that I had been cheating on my
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Speaker 1: wife with my ex. So we are now having to
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Speaker 1: put our fires before rumors being yeah begin to spread.
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Speaker 1: That's oh my god, that's crazy. My wife is now
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Speaker 1: very much focused on making sure I am okay after
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Speaker 1: all of this, though she is still distraught about our
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Speaker 1: special day being ruined, but we will work through that together.
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Speaker 1: Onto Chris, this is where things get a little scary.
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Speaker 1: Oh I'm scared. I'm scared. I don't want to read it.
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Speaker 1: Oh read it me? And why I called him together
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Speaker 1: firstly to check that he is okay he is, and
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Speaker 1: secondly to see how the hell she managed to worm
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Speaker 1: her way into his life in order to get to
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Speaker 1: my wedding. Hopefully Chris isn't like she's the one for me.
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Speaker 1: I love her so much. According to Chris, they connected
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Speaker 1: over social media, of course, because she was fbieing that
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Speaker 1: she started liking his posts over the course of about
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Speaker 1: a month. Oh, she played that long game and then
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Speaker 1: DMed him and they started chatting from there. The crazy
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Speaker 1: part is that, to Chris, X has a completely different name,
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Speaker 1: but the posts on her profile dated back three years,
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Speaker 1: meaning she has had this profile with a fake name
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Speaker 1: for at least three years. And it's not the only one.
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Speaker 1: You're saying that as if it's not surprising that like
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Speaker 1: doesn't surprise me at all? Is it scary? Yes? I
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Speaker 1: mean I personally don't, but I know pretty regular people
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Speaker 1: that just have like different profiles just to like look
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Speaker 1: at stuff. Still weird, though, Chris told us that a
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Speaker 1: few other guys contacted him after the wedding, saying that
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Speaker 1: they recognized her as they had all also got dms
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Speaker 1: from her on different accounts, all with a different name.
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Speaker 1: There is at least three other accounts that we are
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Speaker 1: currently aware of. Wow, let's up that restraining order to
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Speaker 1: like thirty miles. Okay, this is crazy. Apparently, X showed
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Speaker 1: no signs of being obsessed with me or even that
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Speaker 1: she knew who I was. He invited her as a
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Speaker 1: plus one, thinking that they might eventually get serious, as
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Speaker 1: they were having a really good time together. He has
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Speaker 1: apologized profusely, but we have made it clear that we
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Speaker 1: do not blame him for this, of course not. Poor
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Speaker 1: guy didn't know. Can you imagine me and Chris, You
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Speaker 1: just you thought you found the love of your life
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Speaker 1: and you were just being used to get to your
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Speaker 1: other friend. Oh my gosh. There has been no word
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Speaker 1: currently on what's going on with X, but considering her
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Speaker 1: breaching the restraining order and resisting arrest, we assume she
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Speaker 1: will probably end up in prison. Me and my wife
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Speaker 1: have spoken about it, and if we are contacted by
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Speaker 1: the police, we will absolutely press charges, and wife will
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Speaker 1: also be getting a restraining order as she should. For now,
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Speaker 1: we are going to try and enjoy our honeymoon and
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Speaker 1: deal with the rest of this mess when we get back.
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Speaker 1: That's good. Good. Thank you red It for all the
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Speaker 1: advice and opinions. You gave a lot of perspectives on
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Speaker 1: the situation that I had not considered. Wild. I'm glad
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Speaker 1: everybody's safe, everybody's good, and everybody got together and figured
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Speaker 1: it out. Together, and I think you guys are gonna
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Speaker 1: have aiful marriage from the way that you worked it
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Speaker 1: out and everything. Those are really good stupping stones and
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Speaker 1: screw the X. Holy crap. I hope she does go
17:08
Speaker 1: to prison. That's wild. Ah, Poor Chris, Poor Chris just
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Speaker 1: wanted to get some you know, you just wanted to
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Speaker 1: get lucky. Let me know what you guys think if
17:17
Speaker 1: I went in a little too hard, let me know.
17:20
Speaker 1: But let's read another one. Am I the sclly wegg
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Speaker 1: for choosing my dog over my future wife? Oh? Dear, Yeah,
17:29
Speaker 1: hello everyone. I'm in a pretty big mental pickle and
17:32
Speaker 1: I'm reaching out for help and no idea where to turn.
17:35
Speaker 1: My fiance and I have been living together for five
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Speaker 1: years now, proposed to her three years ago. For the
17:42
Speaker 1: most part, living with her is easy. We get along
17:45
Speaker 1: just fine, and we enjoy each other's company. About four
17:47
Speaker 1: years ago, we adopted a beautiful chocolate brown husky mix,
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Speaker 1: and in the beginning she absolutely loved her, playing, training,
17:54
Speaker 1: walking and taking her to the park regularly. At the time,
17:57
Speaker 1: we had a large apartment, so space wasn't an issue. However,
18:00
Speaker 1: I lost my job during COVID we had to move
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Speaker 1: into a much smaller, one bedroom apartment, while they managed
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Speaker 1: financially and adjusted by giving the dog more walks and
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Speaker 1: park time. My fi, I don't know why, bro, fiance,
18:16
Speaker 1: I don't know why. In my head that was a
18:19
Speaker 1: spelling mistake. Let me say that again the first one,
18:22
Speaker 1: my fiance, why did I? In my head, I was like,
18:25
Speaker 1: this guy's an idiot. Guys spelled it wrong. My fiance
18:28
Speaker 1: started to feel overwhelmed, especially by the dog's frequent whining
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Speaker 1: for attention, which felt much more intense in the smaller space.
18:36
Speaker 1: She felt like she couldn't escape her whinding. Over the
18:38
Speaker 1: course of about a year and that apartment, her feeling
18:41
Speaker 1: shifted from frustration to dislike, and eventually to outright hate.
18:49
Speaker 1: Don't get a dog if you can't handle a dog,
18:52
Speaker 1: especially a husky. Oh my gosh. I feel like this
18:56
Speaker 1: guy really cares about this dog, though, and is doing
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Speaker 1: his due diligence. He's trying to give her a good
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Speaker 1: life for him or whatever. She stopped helping with, feeding, walking,
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Speaker 1: or engaging with the dog entirely, saying she only puts
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Speaker 1: up with it. It you hot, this wench because she
19:13
Speaker 1: knows how much I love her. Oh so she's jealous
19:15
Speaker 1: of the DOGO. This caused a lot of arguments at first,
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Speaker 1: but eventually I took on full responsibility for the dog.
19:21
Speaker 1: Since then, we've moved to a larger apartment in another
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Speaker 1: state after I secured a well paying job, and now
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Speaker 1: there's plenty of space for both the dog and my
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Speaker 1: fiance to have separation. What a miserable apartment to be in.
19:34
Speaker 1: Just like juggling your fiance, being miserable for the dog
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Speaker 1: with the dog you love, and like having to hang
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Speaker 1: out with them separately. This sounds terrible. I hope this
19:46
Speaker 1: change would improve things, but her attitude toward the dog
19:48
Speaker 1: has stayed the same or even gotten worse. I don't know.
19:52
Speaker 1: She just gives me bad energy. I don't like it.
19:55
Speaker 1: I don't like it, and she's jealous of the dog
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Speaker 1: that you love the dog, and you know, I'm I'm
20:00
Speaker 1: not I'm not there. I don't know if you're actually
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Speaker 1: maybe spending more time with the dog than you are
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Speaker 1: with her. I don't know all the ins and outs,
20:06
Speaker 1: but from what it sounds like, she just like doesn't
20:09
Speaker 1: like the presence of an animal in the home anymore,
20:12
Speaker 1: which that sucks. A recent situation that pushed me to
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Speaker 1: make this post. Happened when I took a week long
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Speaker 1: vacation with friends. Oh no, I left my fiance in
20:20
Speaker 1: charge with the dog. I swear to God if she
20:22
Speaker 1: neglected this dog. When I came back, it was obvious
20:24
Speaker 1: our dog had been kept in her crate almost constantly
20:27
Speaker 1: except for eating or going to the bathroom. What's her name?
20:33
Speaker 1: Which made me furious because it felt like outright animal abuse.
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Speaker 1: It is. When I confronted her, she just repeated that
20:42
Speaker 1: she absolutely hates the dog and that she needs to
20:46
Speaker 1: be rehomed. Okay, ye, I see why we needed to
20:49
Speaker 1: rehome this woman? Rehome you okay. I initially resisted the idea,
20:54
Speaker 1: but when she pointed out that the dog would be
20:56
Speaker 1: happier with the yard, it genuinely got to me. She's
20:58
Speaker 1: got a point, but I'm not on her side at all,
21:02
Speaker 1: and I agreed to start looking for a new home.
21:04
Speaker 1: I've since found someone willing to take her, but delays
21:06
Speaker 1: have pushed back the timeline, and every time I tell
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Speaker 1: my fiance the dog will be with us another week,
21:12
Speaker 1: she has an extreme reaction and even threatens to take
21:15
Speaker 1: her to the pound. It's a woman so hot less
21:22
Speaker 1: like literally, this woman has a heart of rock of ash,
21:27
Speaker 1: which leads to major fights. Because I'm trying to make
21:29
Speaker 1: sure my dog ends up in a safe, loving home.
21:32
Speaker 1: Just get her out of there, the woman, not the dog.
21:35
Speaker 1: This takes us to today. She was supposed to start
21:37
Speaker 1: rehoming this weekend, but the person has been dealing with
21:40
Speaker 1: a pretty bad medical issue for the past few days.
21:42
Speaker 1: I haven't told my fiance yet because I just already
21:45
Speaker 1: know it's going to lead to a massive fight. I
21:47
Speaker 1: want to rehome her on my terms, but my fiance
21:50
Speaker 1: is fed up with it already, saying no matter what,
21:52
Speaker 1: she leaves this weekend. Speaking with friends, they warn me
21:56
Speaker 1: about my fiance, saying, if she's doing this to your dog,
21:59
Speaker 1: what if your future can kids drive her crazy with
22:01
Speaker 1: their crying and screaming that. It's a pretty heavy leap.
22:05
Speaker 1: But I mean, I mean, maybe she gets hello over stimulated.
22:10
Speaker 1: I mean, she didn't at the beginning, so it's kind
22:12
Speaker 1: of weird that it's happening now, like she was good
22:14
Speaker 1: for a while. I feel like it has to do
22:16
Speaker 1: more with me. I mean, maybe I feel like there's
22:19
Speaker 1: correlation there, probably with even the potential jealousy thing with
22:22
Speaker 1: him with the dog. It's like gov forbid. You know,
22:26
Speaker 1: you had a little kid and the dad loved the kid.
22:30
Speaker 1: Defend the kid, and she's like, what about me. We've
22:33
Speaker 1: been having more frequent fights as of late, and just
22:36
Speaker 1: makes me think this time, if she doesn't understand that
22:39
Speaker 1: I'm just going to have to choose my dog over her,
22:41
Speaker 1: I'd be losing friends, her family that I'm on great
22:44
Speaker 1: terms with, and any support in the state I'm in
22:46
Speaker 1: as my family is in an entirely different state. Oh
22:49
Speaker 1: that's so hard. I feel financially I'll be fine alone,
22:52
Speaker 1: but it's the mental cost of losing everything over my dog. However,
22:57
Speaker 1: I do also feel that maybe I'm the asshole considering that.
23:00
Speaker 1: I mean, no, I mean, it's how you feel about
23:02
Speaker 1: a person. It's how a person treats a waitress or
23:05
Speaker 1: a waiter, it's how they treat any any other person.
23:09
Speaker 1: It's how they treat animals, it's how they respect other
23:12
Speaker 1: living things. Or don't I mean that could be This
23:15
Speaker 1: would be a complete no go for me, Like if
23:18
Speaker 1: I mean I came into the relationship with Kevin and Caleb,
23:21
Speaker 1: came in with Frankie and Peatie, and you know, if
23:24
Speaker 1: if he were to treat Kevin like garbage and to
23:28
Speaker 1: be overstimulated with him when he knew that what he
23:30
Speaker 1: was getting into with all that stuff. And Kevin's a lot,
23:33
Speaker 1: Kevin gil be a lot. Okay, he's a German shepherd
23:35
Speaker 1: Akita Norwegian Elkham but a mix of but he's he's
23:38
Speaker 1: a sweet boy, and Caleb loves him and everything. But
23:40
Speaker 1: I would be so I'd be like, Okay, we're good,
23:42
Speaker 1: I'm done. Like I'm not. I'm not gonna give up
23:45
Speaker 1: my my my son. Yes, I'm gonna call my son.
23:48
Speaker 1: I don't have kids yet, Okay, he's my first son.
23:50
Speaker 1: For somebody who's unwilling to compromise and to own what
23:54
Speaker 1: they creed to do, Like you can't, like you can't
23:57
Speaker 1: just dispose of animals like that drives me nuts. I
23:59
Speaker 1: see so many tiktoks of people getting huskies or like
24:05
Speaker 1: a Vishla or like malanois. All these dogs that require
24:08
Speaker 1: so much work and training and exercise and everything, and
24:11
Speaker 1: they live in like apartments. They're like, I don't know
24:13
Speaker 1: why they're so crazy or why they bark so much.
24:16
Speaker 1: You're like, they always want to go outside and then
24:19
Speaker 1: they rehome them, and I've seen people do it, like
24:21
Speaker 1: multiple times rehome dog called the time. You are the problem.
24:24
Speaker 1: You know, stop getting an animal if you can't handle
24:26
Speaker 1: getting an animal. But I don't know. This all just
24:28
Speaker 1: makes me upset. I have seven dogs, dude, this I'm
24:31
Speaker 1: not on your side if you don't like animals. I
24:34
Speaker 1: mean I am if you're responsible and you don't get
24:36
Speaker 1: an animal if you don't like animals, but if you're
24:39
Speaker 1: just getting an animal and agreeing to it and then
24:41
Speaker 1: just like going back on what you think, and most
24:44
Speaker 1: of all, abusing an animal, like that's the biggest part.
24:47
Speaker 1: It's okay that she just doesn't want a dog anymore,
24:50
Speaker 1: I guess whatever, But to abuse a living thing is
24:54
Speaker 1: so so disgusting and upsetting. I think that's where I'm
24:58
Speaker 1: just like, no, no of the doubt here, sister, Like
25:01
Speaker 1: I can understand if you're not an animal person, but ah,
25:05
Speaker 1: I don't know. This just is really upsetting. Let me
25:07
Speaker 1: know what you guys think of the comments. Let's see
25:09
Speaker 1: if there's if there's uh oh no, there's no updates.
25:12
Speaker 1: So but there's comments. So let's read some comments. Oh
25:15
Speaker 1: my goodness, I'm so sorry you were going through this.
25:17
Speaker 1: If your friends are seeing the address in your girlfriend's
25:19
Speaker 1: actions toward the dog, then you should seriously reconsider your future.
25:22
Speaker 1: Huskies whine and talk. Nothing will prevent that. Why is
25:25
Speaker 1: her reaction to the whining so visceral? Yeah, that's the
25:27
Speaker 1: funniest thing I hear about people with huskies. It's just like,
25:30
Speaker 1: oh my god, they make so much noise. Yeah, dude,
25:35
Speaker 1: that's all they do. That's that's what they do. They
25:37
Speaker 1: run and yell. The person I'm working with on rehoming
25:41
Speaker 1: her thinks she's possibly getting over stimulated by the whining,
25:44
Speaker 1: which is fair. That's fair. I'm not a big fan
25:47
Speaker 1: of dogs like barking constantly. That's why I train the
25:50
Speaker 1: dogs crazy, and I know you can't help it. Sometimes
25:53
Speaker 1: when I talk to my fiance about it directly, she
25:56
Speaker 1: really just goes into details about her despising the dog
25:59
Speaker 1: and she she's never been a good fit for us.
26:01
Speaker 1: It's incredibly difficult, especially looking back at older pictures of
26:04
Speaker 1: my fiance and my dog smiling and enjoying each other
26:07
Speaker 1: at times. Is incredibly hard for me to believe it's
26:09
Speaker 1: just the whining that caused her to hate her. In general,
26:12
Speaker 1: I think it's just the dog being so vocal. I
26:14
Speaker 1: mean a lot of noise can be a lot, you know.
26:17
Speaker 1: And here's a little benefit of the doubt. Was she
26:21
Speaker 1: the best fit for you guys being in an apartment? No,
26:25
Speaker 1: definitely not. So she has a point there. But I
26:29
Speaker 1: don't know. This is really hard. I don't think you're
26:31
Speaker 1: the asshole based on what your fiance has done and said.
26:34
Speaker 1: But huskies are a very challenging breed. A lot of
26:37
Speaker 1: people can't handle them. That said, my dog would come
26:39
Speaker 1: before any relationship with the attitude and actions your fiance
26:42
Speaker 1: has displayed. Not the asshole. That's how I feel. That's
26:45
Speaker 1: how I feel for sure. Yeah, I can't imagine getting
26:47
Speaker 1: rid of a pet that's like a family member, loves
26:50
Speaker 1: you and is dependent on you. I can't imagine staying
26:52
Speaker 1: with such a hateful and abusive person. Nail on the head.
26:55
Speaker 1: Can you imagine what kind of parents she'd be? I
26:57
Speaker 1: feel like there, yeah, there probably is correlation with that.
26:59
Speaker 1: I'm short the therapists in the comments I know you're
27:01
Speaker 1: there is their correlation with that. Let me know, I
27:04
Speaker 1: hear you. I have three dogs and one of them
27:06
Speaker 1: drives me nuts. We got him at fourteen months as
27:08
Speaker 1: a rescue, but he's very stupid and highly strung suspect
27:12
Speaker 1: brain damage. He cannot be trained. The other two are
27:14
Speaker 1: extremely well trained, and he is super clingy and licks
27:16
Speaker 1: constantly when which hicks me. But I never ever show it.
27:20
Speaker 1: My husband and kids love him, and I know he
27:22
Speaker 1: had a tough life before coming to us. I find
27:24
Speaker 1: myself actually giving him more attention because I feel guilty
27:26
Speaker 1: about not liking him as much as the other dogs.
27:29
Speaker 1: I'd never abuse or neglect an animal, no matter how
27:32
Speaker 1: annoying they are. This is a huge red flag. I
27:34
Speaker 1: think OP should reconsider a life with this person. Yeah again,
27:37
Speaker 1: that is that is the breaking point, is the abuse
27:39
Speaker 1: of neglect. I think it's completely fine to have multiple
27:44
Speaker 1: dogs or a dog and just kind of grow to
27:47
Speaker 1: maybe not enjoyed as much. I know a lot of
27:50
Speaker 1: moms that have kids or babies. They and I see
27:53
Speaker 1: this on TikTok and stuff. They you know, the baby
27:56
Speaker 1: takes you know, is higher on the on the scale
28:00
Speaker 1: than the dog, no shit, and they just get over
28:02
Speaker 1: stimulated and really annoyed by their dogs, and there's a
28:04
Speaker 1: different relationship there. I see a lot of other moms
28:07
Speaker 1: who are like no, I love my dog just as much,
28:09
Speaker 1: if not more are than my kids sometimes, which I
28:11
Speaker 1: feel like I'll be on that spectrum. But I also
28:15
Speaker 1: understand that you know, you can get over stimulated and everything,
28:18
Speaker 1: but that doesn't mean you tweet the animal like it's
28:21
Speaker 1: like it's not a living thing. Op said to that,
28:24
Speaker 1: Oh wow, see, I just wish she'd see it in
28:26
Speaker 1: the same way. My dog literally only wants treats, pets
28:29
Speaker 1: and belly rubs. Her intention is to love unconditionally. Even
28:32
Speaker 1: when I scold her, she still just wants a belly
28:35
Speaker 1: rub right after. With that being said, my dog's intention
28:38
Speaker 1: isn't to bother my fiance or make her upset. She's
28:40
Speaker 1: just a fun, loving dog. But anytime she makes a mistake,
28:43
Speaker 1: such as going inside the house, she has a bladder
28:45
Speaker 1: issue from previous abuse before we rescued her. I've heard
28:48
Speaker 1: my fiance say she's doing this on purpose. They're probably
28:51
Speaker 1: so for real, If you don't mind me asking, how
28:54
Speaker 1: has the husband been helping with that, and then the
28:57
Speaker 1: person underneath answers, My husband has been pretty understand as
29:00
Speaker 1: he does get frustrated at times too when the dog
29:03
Speaker 1: Scout just doesn't listen. The main thing is he helps
29:05
Speaker 1: make sure Scout doesn't lie next to me and lick.
29:08
Speaker 1: That's the worst bit. I think I have a sensory
29:09
Speaker 1: issue around that sound. Well, I'm not a big I
29:12
Speaker 1: don't like dogs lick in my face and my hands
29:14
Speaker 1: and all that kind of stuff. Do love my dogs
29:16
Speaker 1: to death. I would throw myself in front of a
29:18
Speaker 1: train for them, But I'm not a big fan of
29:19
Speaker 1: that either, So I understand that. And he does the walks,
29:21
Speaker 1: and he can't be walked with other dogs as he
29:23
Speaker 1: gets too over stimulated, so it's a team effort. But
29:26
Speaker 1: still I get that he was a poor puppy that
29:28
Speaker 1: was abused and it's not his fault, just like it's
29:31
Speaker 1: not a taller's fault that it soils. It's nappier spills
29:33
Speaker 1: of drink. And that is what I'm concerned about with
29:36
Speaker 1: this woman. She seems to lack any empathy. Yeah, I
29:38
Speaker 1: think she needs to just not have anything that she
29:42
Speaker 1: needs to take care of. I think, And you know,
29:46
Speaker 1: there's a whole other spectrum of this where like a
29:48
Speaker 1: dog is deadly or bites or is dangerous, that's a
29:54
Speaker 1: whole other thing. I understand not wanting that around and
29:57
Speaker 1: it sucks, but you know your kid take precedence over
30:01
Speaker 1: that or your partner or whatever. You don't want to
30:03
Speaker 1: put anybody in danger. Not that you shouldn't try to
30:06
Speaker 1: make it work. I don't know. It's just different on
30:08
Speaker 1: every case, so I can't really speak to all cases, obviously.
30:11
Speaker 1: I'm sure people have cases where they're like, no, like
30:14
Speaker 1: my dog would have had a better life doing this
30:16
Speaker 1: and we rehomed it. Totally fine, do what's best for
30:19
Speaker 1: the dog, you know, But I just don't get an
30:22
Speaker 1: animal if you cannot take care of that animal for
30:24
Speaker 1: its whole lifespan and then some if it gets sick,
30:27
Speaker 1: if something bad happens. You know, it's just you're taking
30:30
Speaker 1: a responsibility. Be responsible for it and be empathetic and just,
30:34
Speaker 1: I don't know, be human. I don't know. Ah, that's
30:39
Speaker 1: all we have for this one, and I think I'm
30:40
Speaker 1: gonna end it on that now. I just want to
30:42
Speaker 1: go hang on with my dogs. I have a dog
30:43
Speaker 1: right here, Ruby, Can I hug you? Come here? Oh?
30:48
Speaker 1: Bobby baby all. I love Rupert so much. She's such
30:54
Speaker 1: a good boy. I want to say bye to everybody. No,
30:57
Speaker 1: you can't look at me on the face, you know,
30:59
Speaker 1: that good boy. Soak it in, soak in rupert Oh,
31:04
Speaker 1: good boy, good boy, he's so cute. Dude, don't do it. Okay,
31:13
Speaker 1: we'll see you guys later. Okay, say bye bye.