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Why You’re Not Attracting High-Level Men (Even If You’re Feminine & Elegant) · Mindful Success Path

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  Imagine this.
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  You're doing all the inner work, you lead with grace.
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  You're feminine, you're elegant, and yet men, high level, high quality men are still.
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  Not showing up for you or still not wanting to commit to you.
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  You're still dealing with emotionally unavailable men who, or just men who are not on your level.
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  Let's be real.
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  If you're feeling like the clock is ticking and wondering, what am I missing, then this video is for you because this video is gonna help you understand what's really going on energetically.
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  And how to shift it.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda.
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  Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to.
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  Lately we've been talking a lot about feminine energy, masculine energy, healthy relationship dynamics.
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  So let's first talk about the fact that you're not.
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  Doing anything wrong per se, right?
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  Normally when I get emails from women who are like, I'm so feminine, I'm so elegant, I feel like I'm doing everything right, and I still can't get men to commit, or I can't get men on my level, uh, normally I have to do a little truth bomb.
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  So here is the truth bomb.
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  Being feminine and elegant does not guarantee aligned love.
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  If the femininity and the elegance is only skin deep.
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  Or if the energy underneath is rooted in fear.
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  Here's what I mean by this.
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  I will oftentimes get an email from a woman that says exactly that I'm feminine, I'm elegant, um, and I'm not attracting high quality men.
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  I'm concerned because time is running out.
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  That last piece right now is the key because that tells me that a woman is in urgency or lack and is rooted in fear.
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  And if you want to attract a line, high level, high value men.
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  We have to start getting rid of that because that is the little thing that is sabotaging you and a lot of high achieving women.
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  They will master the look of femininity, the softness, the beauty, the poise, the high heels, but they carry unconscious urgency or lack.
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  They worry about time running out.
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  They worry that the clock is ticking.
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  They worry about, you know, not being able to have kids.
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  Some women are like, I'm almost 30 and everything is a disaster after 30, which is not true.
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  I got married in my thirties.
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  Don't let anybody tell you that.
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  And what happens is that a lot of times the communication that we have with other people a lot of times is unconscious or energetic.
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  So when your energy is saying, I need this to happen now, or I'm not safe, it actually ends up repelling the very energy that you are trying to attract.
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  So let's talk about this urgency wound that so many women struggle with.
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  Time is running out is one of the most seductive lies of the wounded.
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  Feminine because urgency creates pressure, and pressure actually kills polarity.
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  Men don't wanna commit when they feel pressure.
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  So what might be going on here is you might be over vetting, you might be meaning, uh, you're too strict.
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  You're too stringent on what it is that you're looking for In a man, it might be that you are overly attached to outcome.
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  So maybe you become.
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  Obsessive.
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  Or you're like, is it this guy?
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  Is it that guy?
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  Is it the guy that I just went on a date with?
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  All that type of energy, or you might be subtly chasing without even realizing it.
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  Now, there is a biological reality and the biological reality that exists is that women want to have children.
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  So if you want to have children, if you're on the younger side of this,'cause I will get some women who are younger and still in school and still studying.
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  And things like that.
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  And you know you want kids don't put it off.
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  And there's also a reality that I deal with with a lot of my clients of women who are already in their late thirties and forties and they're like, holy crap, I'm running out of time to have kids.
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  Yes, that is a reality, and if that is you, you're going to have to forgive yourself.
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  A lot of women have to go through this process that they have to forgive themselves.
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  For not having had children sooner or not having prioritized relationships sooner, or not having prioritized marriage sooner.
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  And they're going to have to forgive themselves for that.
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  And they're going to, um, have to let it go.
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  And I don't mean in a sense of like you let go of the idea of having children.
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  There's lots of ways to have children.
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  It doesn't have to be biological.
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  You can always adopt.
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  Right?
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  So for example, for me.
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  I was never hell bent on having kids.
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  I was like, if I have'em, I have'em.
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  If I don't have'em, that's cool too.
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  And in that kind of a sense, it gave me a bit of an advantage in the dating space because I did not feel any sort of biological urgency because I didn't care if I had children or not.
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  I was totally cool with not.
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  Having children, and it did give me a bit of an edge because I wasn't dealing, uh, with that urgency of needing a child.
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  Now there are some of you who are feeling the urgency of needing a child now.
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  And another thing that I would, um, venture to ask you, just real girl talk right here.
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  Why?
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  Um, not because, you know, having children is bad or, you know, they get in the way.
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  I don't believe in a lot of that stuff that's going on right now, but I do oftentimes find that women who are very obsessive over having children will let that obsession or urgency of having children cloud their discernment.
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  So this is when you will see women, uh, laying down with whoever just to have a.
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  Baby.
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  And that's what I do not want to have happen here, because you would rather be childless and with the right person than have a child with the wrong person.
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  So, and believe me, you rather would do that because if you have a child with the wrong person, that's it.
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  You gotta deal with them for the rest of your life.
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  And that is not something, um, that.
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  You know, if you're gonna be dealing with somebody for the rest of your life, you better be really discerning about who that person is, is what I'm trying to say.
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  So do not let the urgency of, I want to have a baby put you in a position where you have clouded judgment and bad discernment because you can make mistakes that will affect you for the rest of your life.
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  So if, and we have to work on this urgency, because the reality is, you know.
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  Okay.
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  Yeah, some of you waited too long, you're in your forties and now time is running out and you're like, am I gonna be able to have a kid?
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  And you're gonna have to come to terms with the fact that you might not be able to have a kid, but it's also not the end of the world if you don't have a kid.
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  Or there's other ways in which to raise children.
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  You can adopt.
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  Um, some of you maybe will do surrogacy, and I don't have any opinion on.
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  Surrogacy you, you do Y Boo and whatever works for you.
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  The point is like you no longer really have to have that urgency, but if you are on the younger side and you know that you wanna have a family and children, then what I recommend to you so that this urgency wound does not take over, is not to listen to this.
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  Um.
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  Societal programming that tells you, you know, that can wait, the children can wait.
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  It can only wait until so long.
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  There is a biological, uh, reality there.
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  So if that is something that's very important to you, then you're going to have to prioritize it earlier on in your life.
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  That might mean that you prioritize that over your career for a little while, and then you come back to your career later.
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  Women have this beautiful ability that we go through seasons and we're very flexible.
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  And that's a beautiful thing.
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  So you might have a season of having children and then you come back, uh, to your career when they're older and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.
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  The next thing to keep in mind here is attracting versus auditioning.
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  Um, so embodied attraction is different than you trying to earn love, and the reality is that you do not attract high level masculine men by performing.
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  Femininity, you attract them by embodying femininity and it being a part of who you actually are.
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  So here are some questions to ask yourself to help get you there.
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  Am I showing up as if I'm already chosen?
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  I've oftentimes said this, that when I was ready to get married and I was going out on dates and I was talking to men and all those kinds of things, in my mind, I was already a wife.
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  I was studying on how to be a wife, not how to be a girlfriend.
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  So I was showing up with the identity of I'm already chosen, do I believe that I deserve?
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  That caliber of man, or am I waiting for the man to validate that I am worthy and be really honest with yourself?
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  Because when I ask this question to a lot of women, a lot of them will start coming up with all the reasons why that, um, they are not deserving.
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  Of a higher quality man.
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  Oh, I've gained too much weight.
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  Oh, I'm not as pretty as you.
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  Oh, uh, I don't make enough money.
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  Men don't care.
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  Like healthy men don't care about how much money you make.
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  Um, you know, oh, I'm not far enough along in my career.
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  It's just like one excuse after another rather than being like, you know what?
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  I am the kind of woman who can attract this caliber of man, or I'm going to learn, uh, how to be the kind of woman who has the attributes that this kind of man is attracted to.
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  And the other thing you wanna learn how to do is you wanna learn how to elevate your standards, but without panicking.
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  Okay, Empress Energy.
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  I recently did a video on the four stages of divine feminine energy, and the last one is we have Queen, uh, conscious, queen and Empress.
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  Or the final two.
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  They are not desperate.
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  They are discerning.
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  They do not water down their desires just because it's taking too long time is a human construct anyway.
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  So what you wanna learn how to do is you wanna release the timeline and you wanna deepen your self trust and you wanna deepen your trust in God or life or the universe, that it really does have your back when it comes to this.
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  Because that actually really helps a lot in the process.
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  It's why I tell a lot of women, you know, part of surrendering isn't just surrendering to your husband or surrendering to a a man.
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  The first thing, or person or entity, or whatever you wanna call it, that you have to surrender to is a god of your own understanding.
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  So here's the thing, if you're feminine and elegant and you're still not attracting the quality man that you desire, look deeper.
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  'cause this is about energetic congruence, not just a presentation.
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  And if you're presenting as feminine, but on the inside, you're anxious, you are urgent, you're worried about time running out, that's actually repelling healthy men, because the feminine is all about embodying in the present moment.
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  And the feminine is all about enjoying the process.
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  Not being focused on the outcome itself.
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  So when you're out on dates, instead of thinking in your head, oh my gosh, is he the one instead, just enjoy the moment.
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  Enjoy the date, enjoy the conversation.
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  Enjoy the meal, enjoy the wine.
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  Enjoy um, you know, connecting with another person.
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  Enjoy this process.
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  'cause I'll tell you, as a married woman, and I love being married that you're not, you're, you will have that when you're married, but you're, there is something special about the process of courting for marriage and you being in those beginning stages.
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  Like I look back on that stage of my life now and although there was a lot of difficulty that had gone on.
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  Right before that, I don't ever wanna repeat again.
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  Um, the reality was like I was really enjoying myself.
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  I was really enjoying myself on being on this new journey.
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  I was really enjoying myself, learning from men.
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  I was really enjoying myself, you know, having these experiences.
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  And because I was enjoying myself, then I was able to manifest my husband.
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  And now, you know, my husband and I go on dates all the time, so it's a little bit different.
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  And I'll be doing more content for the married women.
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  As well.
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  But even those of you who are married, it's still important to realize, you know, enjoying the process of your marriage and whatever season of, of your marriage you're in right now is just as important because a lot of married women will again, focus on outcomes.
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  Uh, you know, why isn't he making more money?
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  Uh, why isn't he treating me this way?
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  Why hasn't he bought me this thing yet?
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  Why did he go get the wrong milk instead of just enjoying the process of being married and enjoying whatever season?
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  You are in right now.
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  It's kind of the same as, uh, women who, who have adult children and they say, you know, I miss when they were little.
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  I know it was totally chaotic and I was very stressed out, but I also miss their little faces and all their little milestones.
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  So you wanna make sure that.
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  You are enjoying that process.
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  The feminine enjoys the process.
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  She's not worried about timelines or urgency.
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