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Breaking Boyfriend News with Aaron Nosler (Part 1) · Pursuit of Sassiness

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Speaker 1: Welcome back everyone. I have my very first guests, and
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Speaker 1: I wanted to have this special person on because he's
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Speaker 1: been through a lot with me and I am in
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Speaker 1: love with him. And I have my boyfriend here, Hi Erin.
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Speaker 2: So good to be here. Really excited for you.
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Speaker 1: Thank you. I get asked all the time how we met,
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Speaker 1: So I feel like that is where we should start,
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Speaker 1: because we have kind of a unique story, especially nowadays,
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Speaker 1: I feel like most people meet on apps, and we
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Speaker 1: certainly did not.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, because every time somebody asks us, how did you meet,
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Speaker 2: and we always have to say, oh, we met at
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Speaker 2: a coffee shop, and they're like, oh, that's so cute.
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Speaker 1: It is cute. I love that. Apparently you saw me
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Speaker 1: first before I realized what was going on in my surroundings.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. So there's a coffee shop that's right in between
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Speaker 2: where you used to live and where I live. And
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Speaker 2: I'm sitting there. I think you had Isabella in the stroller,
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Speaker 2: and I'm waving to Isabella from across the room and
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Speaker 2: she's waving.
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Speaker 1: To me, and I have my headphones on. I'm listening
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Speaker 1: to music, so I'm in the zone.
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Speaker 2: And yeah, I noticed Michelle, but I didn't say hi
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Speaker 2: to you at that time, and I think a few
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Speaker 2: days later you came back to the cafe. That's when
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Speaker 2: we were standing in line together. We ordered our drinks.
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Speaker 2: We started chatting, and yeah, I realized you were in
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Speaker 2: real estate. I said, hey, I'm in wealth management financial planning.
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Speaker 2: And we both had good energy together and we said, hey,
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Speaker 2: let's go out to lunch and talk about potential clients
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Speaker 2: and things like that. Yeah, so then fast forward, it
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Speaker 2: kind of turned into you know, just meeting out and
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Speaker 2: about while you were walking and while I was walking
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Speaker 2: my dog.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was very random and like here and there,
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Speaker 1: I am a walker and I say this a lot,
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Speaker 1: but it's very important to me. I, especially back then,
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Speaker 1: try to walk, you know, at least ten thousand steps
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Speaker 1: in the neighborhood or go on a hike. And that
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Speaker 1: was really my way of having alone time and having
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Speaker 1: my exercise and just like good for my mental health.
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Speaker 1: Like that walk was everything for me.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I used to do runying or I'm sure you
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Speaker 2: still do running all the time. I do running all
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Speaker 2: the time.
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Speaker 1: Runyon is a hiking trail in Hollywood Hills. So it's
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Speaker 1: it's pretty cool because it's like literally your backyard.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like four blocks from my house, so my playground,
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Speaker 2: and it's also a great place where a lot of
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Speaker 2: fitness people go. And So I have a honey company.
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Speaker 2: And I started this honey company as a passion project.
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Speaker 1: I remember I was so intrigued because it's like, who
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Speaker 1: doesn't love honey? It's so perfect, especially every night before
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Speaker 1: I go to sleep, I used to have honey. So
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Speaker 1: when you're like, oh, I have this unique white honey,
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Speaker 1: I'm like, what you mean white honey? What is that?
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Speaker 2: Yeah? Most people say I've never tried white honey. And
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Speaker 2: it started my friend brought me some honey from Slovakia
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Speaker 2: and it was white honey. And we're in the office
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Speaker 2: full suits, eating this honey out of a jar with
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Speaker 2: a spoon, and we're both so into it and we're like,
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Speaker 2: oh my god, this is best honey I ever had.
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Speaker 2: So I made it a mission to create my own
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Speaker 2: honey company and sell this honey so that everybody could
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Speaker 2: enjoy it. So I'm at Runyon Canyon and I set
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Speaker 2: up like a table and I'm selling honey there and
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Speaker 2: you happen to be there on a hike and you.
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Speaker 1: Oh, yeah. So I run into you at Runnia, at
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Speaker 1: this hiking trail, and I see the honey, so I
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Speaker 1: buy it and I bring it home obviously, and Isabella
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Speaker 1: is addicted to this honey literally every single day for
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Speaker 1: about a year or a year and a half. She would
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Speaker 1: have to have this honey with her strawberries or any food.
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Speaker 1: So we develop a little friendship because we live in
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Speaker 1: the neighborhood, and you know, we were walkers and hikers,
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Speaker 1: and he was a good person to know because he's
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Speaker 1: a financial advisor, which is good for me. He could
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Speaker 1: refer me business, and you know, throughout the years, I
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Speaker 1: would just see him and chat with him whenever I
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Speaker 1: did see him. So why don't you tell us a
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Speaker 1: little bit about where you come from and tell us
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Speaker 1: about your parents, because I really love that dynamic of you,
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Speaker 1: just like that whole story.
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Speaker 2: You know, it's interesting that my story is is it's
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Speaker 2: funny that we're complimentary, but we're also there's some lead opposites.
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Speaker 1: There's so many similarities there are, and then there are
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Speaker 1: like drastic changes, just drastic opposites. Yeah, there is a
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Speaker 1: combination of both.
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Speaker 2: Almost like compliment tree opposite. So there was a time
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Speaker 2: that you and your mom like were side by side,
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Speaker 2: and you were raised by your mom and my dad. Actually,
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Speaker 2: so I'm the youngest of three boys, and my mom
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Speaker 2: and dad got divorced when I was young, when I
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Speaker 2: was like five years old. My mom, I was also
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Speaker 2: in real estate, and.
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Speaker 1: She she loves that about me, mm hmm.
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Speaker 2: And she's always commenting on the houses that you're showing
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Speaker 2: and she loves to be back in it.
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Speaker 1: She's like, I did that back in the two thousands,
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Speaker 1: nineteen nineties.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, my mom was was great in sales, and she
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Speaker 2: was she was a big motivation for me, just like
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Speaker 2: I really looked up to her as a businesswoman, as
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Speaker 2: somebody in sales, successful independent woman.
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Speaker 1: And so your parents got divorced when you were really young, yes,
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Speaker 1: and how old were you?
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Speaker 2: I was five. My mom ended up not wanting to
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Speaker 2: stay in Sacramento, where I'm from. But my mom was
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Speaker 2: born raised in Sacramento. My dad was born and raised
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Speaker 2: in Sacramento.
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Speaker 1: She wanted a change.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, she was really craving a change and anyhow, so
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Speaker 2: she moved to.
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Speaker 1: La And so you were raised by your dad.
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Speaker 2: My dad got full custody, and you.
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Speaker 1: Have two older brothers, So it's the three of you
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Speaker 1: plus your dad in one house.
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Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, a lot of past Australia.
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Speaker 1: I cannot imagine, have you.
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Speaker 2: There was a lot of things that took me some
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Speaker 2: time to learn about, like women or whatnot like that
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Speaker 2: I just didn't experience growing up. But I would come
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Speaker 2: down to la and I would spend the summers with
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Speaker 2: my mom. But being raised by my dad. He was
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Speaker 2: a holistic health and wellness radio talk show host and
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Speaker 2: he spent his whole career just like educating people on health.
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Speaker 2: Imagine like Joe Rogan and jf RFK combined like with
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Speaker 2: a little bit of Jacquela Lane or whatnot. Like that
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Speaker 2: was my dad. He was this sort of pioneer of
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Speaker 2: the holistic health and wellness movement. I didn't get the
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Speaker 2: brand name foods. I didn't get soda. I didn't get
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Speaker 2: you know, the sandwiches and the fast food and the
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Speaker 2: things that all my other friends were getting.
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Speaker 1: And this is how there's a lot of similarities there
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Speaker 1: because growing up to a mom that cooked me homemade
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Speaker 1: food every single day, Like I didn't have any type
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Speaker 1: of fast food growing up to this day, A lot
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Speaker 1: of a lot of my friends make fun of me, like, oh,
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Speaker 1: you've never had McDonald's, Like, no, I tried it once,
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Speaker 1: but I've just that's not part of my diet.
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Speaker 2: And it's I don't want to say it was a
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Speaker 2: non negotiable for me, but it's something that I fell
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Speaker 2: in love with. Also, is that we have similar taste buds.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think I could. Like I can't imagine
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Speaker 1: being with somebody like you're a healthy person individual trying
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Speaker 1: to cook healthy homemade and then you're somebody that like
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Speaker 1: only goes out to restaurants or only eats fast foods.
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Speaker 1: That's just so opposite. I've never yeah, wanted that.
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Speaker 2: And it's not like I'm like a diet dietary maniac,
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Speaker 2: Like I don't like meal prep or make sure that
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Speaker 2: I have you skinless to dress with.
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Speaker 1: People ask me that all the time, like how many
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Speaker 1: calories do you eat in a day and what you
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Speaker 1: like what do you eat? And it's not about like
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Speaker 1: I don't track my food. It's just like I just
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Speaker 1: eat healthy in general, and that's just my philosophy. It's
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Speaker 1: like I don't need to I don't need to do
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Speaker 1: anything specific as long as you're healthy, like you're gonna
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Speaker 1: look good.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I call myself a qualitarian, and so it's not
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Speaker 2: a diet. It's like the quality of the food matters.
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Speaker 2: And I have staples like I drink raw milk and
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Speaker 2: you know, sprouted grain bread and pastured eggs. The funny
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Speaker 2: thing is I've been doing this for over twenty years.
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Speaker 2: But so yeah, a lot of influence by my dad.
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Speaker 2: He was mister mom. He cooked dinner almost every single night,
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Speaker 2: and he was an amazing father. Before I moved to LA,
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Speaker 2: my mom remarried. This gets fun, So she remarried the
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Speaker 2: complete opposite person of my dad. My stepdad, tool and
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Speaker 2: die maker, machinist from Ohio, Harley gun hunter, businessman, right,
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Speaker 2: very very different from my dad. And so yeah, when
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Speaker 2: I would go down to LA during the summers, I
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Speaker 2: got a really good sort of you know, mentorship from
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Speaker 2: just a completely different side of the brain, if you may. Like.
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Speaker 2: He ran pawn shops in LA and so I would
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Speaker 2: work at the pawn shops during the summer when I
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Speaker 2: would come down. Fast forward, I graduate high school, the
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Speaker 2: plan was I moved to LA, I work at the
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Speaker 2: pawnshops full time, pay my own way through school. It's
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Speaker 2: another similarity that we have, Like as soon as I
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Speaker 2: started going to city college, I paid my own way
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Speaker 2: and I worked. I worked at the pawn shop, and
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Speaker 2: I was learning about people. I was learning about things.
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Speaker 2: I was learning street smarts. I was learning how to
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Speaker 2: praise things and understand the authenticity and the quality and
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Speaker 2: the resellability. And then you get to yeah, you get
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Speaker 2: to know a lot about people. And so, yeah, my
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Speaker 2: stepdad was the kind of guy that like, hey, let
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Speaker 2: me buy your rifle, take your hunting, and turn you
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Speaker 2: into a man kind of thing. And so for me,
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Speaker 2: like being raised by my dad the sort of healthy
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Speaker 2: hippie philosopher to my stepdad being this very street smart,
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Speaker 2: business savvy sort of hunter mentality. It was a good combination.
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Speaker 2: M h.
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Speaker 1: And what I liked is that you told me growing up,
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Speaker 1: you were really close to your dad and your stepdad.
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Speaker 1: So it's like holidays, you guys would all get together,
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Speaker 1: which was a very different dynamic. Like I was not
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Speaker 1: raised like that, didn't I wasn't in a situation like that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, my stepdad had an ex it's actually how he
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Speaker 2: got into the pawn shop business. But he divorced and
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Speaker 2: he stayed partners at the pawn shop, but they also
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Speaker 2: he stayed friends with his ex wife and she remarried,
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Speaker 2: And I mean, I'm what thirteen, twelve, thirteen, fourteen years old,
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Speaker 2: and they're coming over, like my stepdad's ex wife and
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Speaker 2: her husband. They're coming over to the house just casually
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Speaker 2: all the time. So it's just like community of ex
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Speaker 2: partners and current partners. And it was just seemed like
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Speaker 2: a normal thing back then. And so obviously, you know,
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Speaker 2: people change and that dynamic didn't stay forever.
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Speaker 1: So fast forward, I had separated an asked for a divorce,
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Speaker 1: and I had seen Aaron and I wanted to give
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Speaker 1: him an update.
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Speaker 2: It had been a while since the last time we
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Speaker 2: saw each other, so there was a lot to catch
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Speaker 2: up on.
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Speaker 1: And then he starts telling me about a trip that
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Speaker 1: he had recently had. He has a brother that lives
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Speaker 1: in Thailand, and he brought he took his dad to Thailand.
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Speaker 1: So he was just telling me what he's been up
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Speaker 1: to the last couple of months. And he told me
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Speaker 1: a funny story about he was in a relationship with
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Speaker 1: this Russian girl and why she broke up with him
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Speaker 1: while he was traveling. Do you want to kind of
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Speaker 1: say that story because it's kind of funny.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, this was I would say we were dating
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Speaker 2: and I went to Thailand. I had originally planned for
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Speaker 2: somebody to watch my dog and it ended up last
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Speaker 2: minute not working out, and so I just I think
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Speaker 2: she volunteered to say, hey, if you need help, like
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Speaker 2: I can walk your dog. But then I was getting
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Speaker 2: updates and things, and she she was sort of hinting
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Speaker 2: that she doesn't, you know, she hates doing this. She
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Speaker 2: doesn't like picking up the poop, like, and I mean.
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Speaker 1: You really have to love a guy to pick up
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Speaker 1: his dog's poop.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so that means we were not that we weren't in.
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Speaker 1: Love, she text you.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. So then one day she texts me and basically said,
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Speaker 2: f this, I'm over it. I'm tired of walking your dog,
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Speaker 2: like we're done. And I was like, are you being serious?
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Speaker 2: She said yes. I knew that what she said she
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Speaker 2: meant it, and I knew we were done even from
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Speaker 2: just how drastic that was and just out of the blue,
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Speaker 2: I felt like it was. I knew that this is done.
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Speaker 2: And so I went on to Japan and I was
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Speaker 2: there for ten days in Tokyo, and but I had
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Speaker 2: gotten back and so yeah, when we met up that day.
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Speaker 2: I was I was telling you about all all, and I.
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Speaker 1: Was like, I half agree with her, because I really
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Speaker 1: have to love, Like I would really have to love
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Speaker 1: you to agree to do all that work. But some
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Speaker 1: people are just like natural animal lovers. And I have
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Speaker 1: a dog, Malibu, which I love, but like, actually, my
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Speaker 1: mom was very scared of animals, so I am kind
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Speaker 1: of afraid of birds, and like, I didn't grow up
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Speaker 1: in that environment, so I'm like deathly afraid of birds.
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Speaker 1: Just FYI, that's it's the scariest thing. And I can
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Speaker 1: ever imagine just like having a pigeon near me, I
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Speaker 1: would scream.
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Speaker 2: The feathers. Yeah, you tried to kill me the other
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Speaker 2: night because I put a feather on you.
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Speaker 1: So then I say, well, interesting, not so interesting story.
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Speaker 1: But I'm actually getting divorced and moving on with my life.
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Speaker 1: And it was a very weird and interesting time for
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Speaker 1: me because it's like I did it and there was
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Speaker 1: just so many unknowns about my future and I was
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Speaker 1: scared and and I think that was the moment that
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Speaker 1: we were like, well, if you ever want to go
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Speaker 1: on a date, I think we should. We like, why
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Speaker 1: don't we try going out on your date?
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Speaker 2: The moment was an expression and it was really interesting.
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Speaker 2: I've never told you this, but like, as you were
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Speaker 2: mentioning that to me, I'm like looking at you by normal,
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Speaker 2: but I'm looking in your eyes and then all of
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Speaker 2: a sudden, I just like see a different potential for us.
15:57
Speaker 2: I honestly still remember looking at your face as you're
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Speaker 2: telling me that you're separated and that you divorce, and
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Speaker 2: so I'm kind of seeing you in like a different light.
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Speaker 2: And I was like, Oh, do you ever want to
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Speaker 2: go in a date?
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Speaker 1: And when you asked that, I was like, okay, Like
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Speaker 1: why not, let's do it like I had. I had
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Speaker 1: gone on in a couple of dates and they were awful,
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Speaker 1: like terrible and wanted to get out of there as
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Speaker 1: soon as possible. And I was just like, I think
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Speaker 1: that's honestly they say that and it's like very cheesy
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Speaker 1: in movies, but it's like knowing somebody who's your friend
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Speaker 1: first makes such a difference because it's just way more
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Speaker 1: comfortable and easy.
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Speaker 2: I was really excited, like really excited.
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Speaker 1: It was an interesting time for me because I was
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Speaker 1: still living in the house, in the Marmont House. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: there was just so many unknowns. I had asked Jessie
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Speaker 1: to leave, and he was just like, I'm not leaving
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Speaker 1: this house, but you can sleep downstairs. And so there
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Speaker 1: was a whole separate downstairs area bathroom, and so I
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Speaker 1: started sleeping downstairs while Jesse was in our primary bedroom
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Speaker 1: we have to now call it that in real estate,
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Speaker 1: but the master bedroom. He stayed there and I stayed downstairs,
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Speaker 1: and you know, I was very firm. It was just like,
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Speaker 1: I want to ask for a divorce. We're not together,
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Speaker 1: let's split at financials. We weren't speaking at the time,
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Speaker 1: and it was very uncomfortable, like imagine having to share
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Speaker 1: the living room space or kitchen or just like run
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Speaker 1: into each other. And so I was just like I
17:44
Speaker 1: kept asking him to please leave, please leave. You know,
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Speaker 1: most men leave in this situation, and he was just
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Speaker 1: very adamant, like I'm comfortable. This is my house. He
17:56
Speaker 1: is very entitled, and he was like, I'm not leaving
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Speaker 1: this house. So if you want to go, you go,
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Speaker 1: but you still have to pay me half the rent.
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Speaker 1: And so I didn't know what to do because I'm like, okay,
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Speaker 1: he's making me liable to pay half the rent and
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Speaker 1: then I have to find a place and what's going
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Speaker 1: to happen with the furniture. So I was just kind
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Speaker 1: of like dealing with it a day at a time.
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Speaker 2: Mind you at face Like I'm taking this at face
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Speaker 2: value too, So I mean, for me, it took an
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Speaker 2: incredible amount of love and trust that that you are
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Speaker 2: living in in this first time.
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Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I'm a great question what is that like
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Speaker 1: for you as a man. So it's like, I'm newly
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Speaker 1: getting separated, I have a daughter. How do you feel
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Speaker 1: about going on a date with somebody who has what
18:56
Speaker 1: you want to call it, a lot of baggage?
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Speaker 2: And you know, first off, I knew you are an
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Speaker 2: incredible mother, and like there was there has been times
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Speaker 2: where I think about that and it gets me emotional,
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Speaker 2: like I have fallen in love with somebody who's an
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Speaker 2: amazing mother and I want to have kids in the future,
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Speaker 2: and it just makes me just, yeah, love you that
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Speaker 2: much more. And I see how good you are with
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Speaker 2: Isabella and how much attention you give her, and you
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Speaker 2: have this like philosophy like I don't want her to
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Speaker 2: be on the iPhone. I don't want her to be
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Speaker 2: on an iPad, Like you spend really really good quality
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Speaker 2: time with her. You also don't give her sweets like
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Speaker 2: you give her eats, real good, high quality food, and
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Speaker 2: like all these things, like even though that was not
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Speaker 2: part of what I thought was my story too, you know,
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Speaker 2: to get into a relationship with somebody who's already has
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Speaker 2: a kid and and who is splitting and in the
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Speaker 2: middle of kind of a nasty di worse, that was
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Speaker 2: not what I thought I was was my destiny. Like
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Speaker 2: the more I, uh, the more I fell in love
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Speaker 2: with you, it it just it wasn't And seeing you
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Speaker 2: know that my stepdad he was you know, my stepdad
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Speaker 2: wanted kids, and my mom she was she tied her
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Speaker 2: tubes that after me and she didn't have any more kids.
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Speaker 2: So I had heard my stepdad talk about how he
20:38
Speaker 2: had fallen in love in love with my mom and
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Speaker 2: that he had to accept that he wasn't going to
20:43
Speaker 2: have kids of his own. But you know, my mom
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Speaker 2: was worth it, and so I saw you as as
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Speaker 2: worth it, and so.
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Speaker 1: I could cry right now. I was like, oh, that's
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Speaker 1: so sweet.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was that was a big deal.
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Speaker 1: Because I was very nervous about that. I was like,
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Speaker 1: oh my god, Like I wasn't worried about my age.
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Speaker 1: I was just worried, like what does that mean in
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Speaker 1: the dating world, Like I now have a child. Like
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Speaker 1: when I was in my twenties, I remember thinking, like,
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Speaker 1: I'm not going to date a guy who had been
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Speaker 1: married or have kids, Like that was just my mindset
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Speaker 1: back then. And so now I'm like, Okay, now I'm
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Speaker 1: in my mid thirties and I'm getting a divorce and
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Speaker 1: I have a daughter, Like is it going to be
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Speaker 1: that much harder, especially in LA when it's already hard
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Speaker 1: to date in general? Like am I going to find
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Speaker 1: love again? Because I didn't want to, Like I didn't
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Speaker 1: want to be single. I didn't want to date a
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Speaker 1: bunch of guys, Like that's not who I am, Like
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Speaker 1: I want to be with one person, and I do.
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Speaker 1: But I still believe in marriage, even after everything that's
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Speaker 1: happened to me, Like I believe that there is such
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Speaker 1: thing as being in love and being married till you die.
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Speaker 2: And I wanted you and I fell in love with you.
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Speaker 1: So I feel like we dived a little bit into
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Speaker 1: the beginning of our relationship. But there's so much because
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Speaker 1: it was so unique. I mean, I had filmed a show,
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Speaker 1: but the show hadn't come out yet, and then we
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Speaker 1: started dating, and I'm like, quietly, you know, I had
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Speaker 1: asked for a divorce, but we didn't. You know, when
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Speaker 1: you're getting divorced, it's very tricky, and it's like we
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Speaker 1: don't know is there when is the time to tell
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Speaker 1: your friends? And so like there was a very period.
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Speaker 1: There was a period of time where it was like
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Speaker 1: we were Jesse was seeing somebody else or seeing other people,
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Speaker 1: and I was dating. We both agreed it was just
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Speaker 1: like we were done, but we hadn't told our friends
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Speaker 1: and people from the valley didn't know. But we continued
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Speaker 1: living our life and so having to be in that
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Speaker 1: weird what do you call it? Yeah, so it's a
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Speaker 1: weird period of time where it's like we're not together,
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Speaker 1: but nobody quite knows. And then we're living our lives.
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Speaker 2: I'm dating a girl that lives with their ex husband.
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Speaker 1: Totally normal, technically still living with my ex.
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Speaker 2: Like I wasn't wrestling with that at all.
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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, trust me, I was trying to move out,
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Speaker 1: but he didn't make anything easy whatsoever. And I was
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Speaker 1: just like, okay, so I'm going to have to pay
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Speaker 1: half of this place and half of the place where
23:26
Speaker 1: I move in a deposit and he wasn't going to
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Speaker 1: take let me take any furniture. So just like that
23:31
Speaker 1: that dynamic.
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Speaker 2: Surprisingly, like we got through that without arguing, Like we
23:38
Speaker 2: didn't argue, and we were so good together, and like
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Speaker 2: we got through that whole situation, got you into a
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Speaker 2: new apartment that was.
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Speaker 1: So wild, and then I want to continue on because
23:52
Speaker 1: we can really like there's so much to say, but
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Speaker 1: it's like we watched season one together the very first
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Speaker 1: time I had ever seen any of the episodes. You
24:02
Speaker 1: and I were holding hands and we would.
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Speaker 2: Watch it and I loved it. Watch watching my girlfriend's
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Speaker 2: ex marriage untangled was a great new experience for me.
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Speaker 2: So let's let's dive in more next time.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do it next week