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EP #57 - Greg Olsen Talks Dad Life, Parenting Teenagers & An INSANE Dad Hack For Dating | For The Dads · Bussin' With The Boys

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  Speaker 1: In my mind, I'm like, I need to be with
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  Speaker 1: her all day, and meanwhile in her mind, she's like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't need to see you until it's time to eat.
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  Speaker 2: As a young male, this is what goes through MARGETA.
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  Speaker 2: Is there a world, Greg, a guy might date your
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  Speaker 2: daughter to hang out with you.
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  Speaker 3: What is something that you feel like you had a
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  Speaker 3: strong opinion about that you feel like you fully changed
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  Speaker 3: your mind on.
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  Speaker 4: Was there anything cooler than when you got your first
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  Speaker 4: raising your lies?
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  Speaker 1: Man? I hope those mistakes happened while they're still under
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  Speaker 1: our roof.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, mister Compton, this is Greg is Jess.
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  Speaker 3: You're just outside doing yard work while they pull in
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  Speaker 3: the driveway.
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  Speaker 1: Because they got you're home right when you come lost
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  Speaker 1: track at first. We're all in such a hurry to
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  Speaker 1: like go to the next thing. Don't apply those standards
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  Speaker 1: to your own kids. I could sit here and talk
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  Speaker 1: about all the things that I've done wrong in parenting
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  Speaker 1: all day. So this is actually a great pod for
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  Speaker 1: me to get on.
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  Speaker 3: Papa Team six. You just heard Greg Olsen. We had
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  Speaker 3: Greg Olsen on for the days this week. We are
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  Speaker 3: happier here beat D six Empty six st six all
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  Speaker 3: the sick goes out there. This is going to be
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  Speaker 3: a phenomenal episode, a phenomenal episode. Greg Olsen was in
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  Speaker 3: town for tight End You, so we had about a
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  Speaker 3: forty five minute scheduled interview for him this morning. When
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  Speaker 3: you're listening to him, it was the am he had
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  Speaker 3: to get out to a golf tournament with George Kittle
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  Speaker 3: and the boys. We pressed him and I think we
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  Speaker 3: got what schef. Did we get an hour out of him? Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: we got a full hour. He had a fun time.
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  Speaker 3: We talked dad life. He's got twins. His oldest is
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  Speaker 3: going to be a freshman in high school. Yeah, he's
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  Speaker 3: got twins. One that's a girl. She's thirteen years old.
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  Speaker 3: She was out here with them. He talks about the
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  Speaker 3: strategy in the game of does she like being out
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  Speaker 3: here with me?
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  Speaker 2: Is she comfortable with me around her? Does she think
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  Speaker 2: I'm cool?
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  Speaker 3: We dive into so much girl dad talk, sports dad talk.
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  Speaker 3: You were going to absolutely love greg Olsen, but we
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  Speaker 3: managed to get him in here for about an hour.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. It was awestly really good.
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  Speaker 5: It flew by so fast because of how much and
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  Speaker 5: he even talked about it after we wrapped. He was like, man,
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  Speaker 5: wasn't expecting to talk that easily about my kids.
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  Speaker 2: We'd get him.
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  Speaker 3: Going in a couple yeah, yeah, cause he'll generalize or like,
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  Speaker 3: tell us about a situation, man, give us the deattail.
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  Speaker 2: Dive in there.
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  Speaker 5: But then once he like truly realized, oh where this
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  Speaker 5: is really just kind of shooting the ship.
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  Speaker 2: It's this therapy for the dads.
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  Speaker 5: That's what he said outside, That's exactly what he said.
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  Speaker 5: He said that almost felt therapeutic because I don't want
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  Speaker 5: to seem like I have it all figured out. I'm like,
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  Speaker 5: that's the thing, bro, none of us have the shit
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  Speaker 5: figured out. All of Papa Team six knows. This isn't
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  Speaker 5: an expert some expert pod. It's just talking to some dad,
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  Speaker 5: just talking dad life, mostly about failures in our shortcomings,
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  Speaker 5: and we just make it.
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  Speaker 2: We just try to laugh about it. Yes, some serious.
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  Speaker 2: Some we tear up. And he apologized too.
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  Speaker 5: He said, you know, I feel I feel that this
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  Speaker 5: was after we wrap I feel bad because like, honestly,
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  Speaker 5: whenever I talk about myself as a dad, it's usually
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  Speaker 5: just me fucking up.
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  Speaker 2: Man, I'm always fucking up. And we're like, WHOA to
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  Speaker 2: the show, yo, Welcome to the show Welcome to the
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  Speaker 2: big leagues.
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  Speaker 3: But dude, it was awesome hearing about him talk because
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  Speaker 3: it's just him and his thirteen year old daughter out
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  Speaker 3: here in Nashville for tight end to you, and then
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  Speaker 3: hearing him talk about like we're like, hey, when do
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  Speaker 3: we gotta be prepared? Like when do they start like
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  Speaker 3: not liking you? When does it like you start to
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  Speaker 3: put your foot in your mouth when you should be
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  Speaker 3: listening to your wife the middle school drama. You're asking
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  Speaker 3: about the middle school drama? When did you give them
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  Speaker 3: their first phone? How did that go down? How are
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  Speaker 3: the rules and boundaries around the phone when she's now
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  Speaker 3: that she's thirteen getting older? What's it like having her
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  Speaker 3: twin brother and her older brother when they have friends
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  Speaker 3: over knowing that you've coached these athletes, Like what's the
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  Speaker 3: entire dynamic? Like are you prepared for when she gets
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  Speaker 3: into dating life? How's that gonna go crazy?
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  Speaker 5: The roster that he has now that I'm thinking about
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  Speaker 5: his family dynamics of he has both boy and girl.
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  Speaker 5: He's got two boys. Yeah, he's got both boy and
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  Speaker 5: girl and twins. He's got said twins as well. So
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  Speaker 5: he really was all encompassing as far as I know,
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  Speaker 5: the pt sikos and the comments have been get a
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  Speaker 5: boy dad on, Hey, we get rid ends all the time,
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  Speaker 5: I got twins, and we're always sitting here going, oh
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  Speaker 5: my gosh, what would having twins be?
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  Speaker 3: Like, We didn't even really go into the twins thing. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: because we knew we were short on time. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: like we knew when we got here. Your boy was
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  Speaker 3: fashionably late. You'll see at the top of the episode,
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  Speaker 3: was doing kids stuff.
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  Speaker 2: At home as we all are.
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  Speaker 3: But we were short on time because he had to
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  Speaker 3: get out to a true bad or to golf. So
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  Speaker 3: it was like, yeah, Greg could easily Again we said
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  Speaker 3: it with our dads a couple of weeks ago, but
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  Speaker 3: he could be a three hour podetor we were just
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  Speaker 3: talking shop because he has a polethora of experience. Now, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: knowing that his youngest, his daughter the twin boy and
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  Speaker 3: girl are thirteen and his oldest is going to be
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  Speaker 3: a freshman high school. And Greg also, if you guys
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  Speaker 3: want to consume more dad talk or sports dad talk,
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  Speaker 3: he has a channel called youth Ink Sports Yeah awesome
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  Speaker 3: follow go subscribe to his channel. They have vlogs of
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  Speaker 3: him coaching on Game Day, all things revolving around youth
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  Speaker 3: sports essentially.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, and for our we'll look into it section this week.
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  Speaker 5: Immediately after the podcast, he was bringing up his channels
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  Speaker 5: talking about this show and.
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  Speaker 2: We got to get a collaboration.
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  Speaker 5: Go yes, and we were teasing that and he I mean,
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  Speaker 5: you know, his eyes didn't like pop out of their sockets.
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  Speaker 5: But he was like, yeah, like that's a no brain.
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  Speaker 3: His eyes didn't pop out of his sockets. Because we
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  Speaker 3: had a fun little night before at the concert. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: Taylor Swift shutting it down. I said that in a way,
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  Speaker 3: and we were having some good convos to where.
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  Speaker 2: I know my man was operating on he when he.
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  Speaker 5: Walked down the door, as was I, And I said
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  Speaker 5: that in a way of in case Greg is listening
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  Speaker 5: to this, we did go like and he was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: y'all come and we're going to do a blog.
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  Speaker 2: I never said that he'd be fired up.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but it is awesome. You're gonna enjoy it. We
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  Speaker 3: had fan questions. You guys who're shot in questions on Instagram.
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  Speaker 3: I believe a lot of them came in. Yeah, we
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  Speaker 3: get those answers with Dad Hacks stuff. We're cracking cold.
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  Speaker 2: Ones too.
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  Speaker 3: We hit some segments, but a lot of this was
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  Speaker 3: just around us. Pepper and Greg with brother tell us
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  Speaker 3: what's to come now that his daughter's thirteen. We're both
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  Speaker 3: obviously Sherman and I were girl dads. We got we
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  Speaker 3: did get into some good boy dad stuff and some
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  Speaker 3: sports talk and everything else. This is a fun one.
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  Speaker 1: No, I'll tell you what no one tells you. I've
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  Speaker 1: been coming to TEU now for six years and I
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  Speaker 1: got to come with my daughter she's thirteen, which was
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  Speaker 1: an awesome daddy daughter trip. I'll tell you what though,
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  Speaker 1: like no one tells you how hard single parenting a
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  Speaker 1: thirteen year old daughter when you actually like and then
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  Speaker 1: I have some things I need to do, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like I was stressed, like should I be with her
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  Speaker 1: all the time? Should I never be with her? Does
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  Speaker 1: she want me with her? Does she not want me
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  Speaker 1: with her? I'm just talking about these last two days,
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  Speaker 1: like I don't have like my wife's not here to
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  Speaker 1: like take her, like I'm the only human being here
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  Speaker 1: responsible for her, but like she's not a baby anymore?
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  Speaker 4: Does she need me all day?
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  Speaker 1: Because I in my mind, I'm like, I need to
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  Speaker 1: be with her all day. And meanwhile in her mind,
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  Speaker 1: she's like, I don't need to see you until it's
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  Speaker 1: time to eat.
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  Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: So, I don't know where is that middle ground. I'll
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  Speaker 1: tell you what it's been a it's been a forty
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  Speaker 1: eight hours of learning for me.
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  Speaker 2: When how often has it just been you two? Rarely?
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  Speaker 4: Rarely?
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  Speaker 2: So when was the last time?
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  Speaker 1: So she's thirteen, now, I bet you maybe within the
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  Speaker 1: last year or two she came. I took her for
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  Speaker 1: her birthday to La for one of my rams games.
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  Speaker 1: So it's just the two of us, different environment, like
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  Speaker 1: not a lot of social requirements. Right, I'm out there
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  Speaker 1: for my game, I'm broadcasting, I'm going to meetings. She's
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  Speaker 1: hanging in the hotel room and then she's sitting in
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  Speaker 1: the booth while I call it so not as much
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  Speaker 1: like socializing dinners, Taylor Swift concerts, TEU football practice, like different,
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  Speaker 1: he's a different vibe.
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  Speaker 4: But I feel like I passed.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I did a really good job single
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  Speaker 1: parenting for two year oldest. No, she's my twin. She's
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  Speaker 1: technically tied for youngest. I have a fifteen year old.
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  Speaker 1: I have a fifteen year old son and thirteen year
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  Speaker 1: old twins. My boy twin TJ is like a minute
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  Speaker 1: and a half older than her, so I guess technically
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  Speaker 1: she's the youngest, but I just say they like tied.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it was just who got grabbed out for first?
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  Speaker 3: In your brain as a girl, dad, what makes you
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  Speaker 3: feel like it was a successful trip? When question you're
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  Speaker 3: telling us, I think it went well, and I'm like, okay,
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  Speaker 3: for the girl that's out there, well, it's actually tilling.
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  Speaker 2: You'll have to be like, I think she had a
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  Speaker 2: good time.
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  Speaker 1: I think lots of photos, lots of pictures that she posts.
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  Speaker 1: That's obviously a huge deal with these teenage boys and girls,
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  Speaker 1: but specifically the teenage girls.
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  Speaker 4: Great experiences. Went to bed last night very happy.
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  Speaker 1: Got a big hug, got smiles, have not had any
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  Speaker 1: like teenage girl sass drama, eye rolls. Like she's been
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  Speaker 1: she's been happy, she's been appreciative. We've had good experiences together.
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  Speaker 1: I'll take that as a win, Like I don't need it,
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  Speaker 1: doesn't need to be a lot, Like you just got
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  Speaker 1: to go home on top and you'll just take it all.
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  Speaker 1: Dads get that, like you're not looking to be mom
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  Speaker 1: because you never will be mom, but just don't be
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  Speaker 1: a disaster.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's a win.
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  Speaker 5: But you also you have the opportunity to bring her
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  Speaker 5: in the same atmosphere as Taylor Swift.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm a hero just like that's a massive win. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I mean again, the bar I'm crossing was not overly difficult.
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  Speaker 1: I brought her to Nashville, right, I brought her to Nashville.
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  Speaker 1: She got to get all dressed up and go to
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  Speaker 1: two nights of fun parties and the last one she
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  Speaker 1: got to watch Taylor Swift sing with Landy Wilson from
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  Speaker 1: the front row. Like how much did I do or
• 10:25
  Speaker 1: how much did I just pick a great week?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 4: I didn't take her?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but still like massive win.
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  Speaker 5: It's a huge win and hanging out with dad led
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  Speaker 5: to that exactly, like you are the driving connects.
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  Speaker 1: When I hang with Dad, we do cool shit. I'm
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  Speaker 1: hoping that connection gets like reinforced.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and we've all we've all been young sons just
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  Speaker 3: watching our parents, Like I'd imagine her seeing you from
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  Speaker 3: Afar too, like just seeing like all the relationships you have,
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  Speaker 3: Like she just gotta I'm sure she knows, like, Yo,
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  Speaker 3: my dad, my low ki, my dad's a badass. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I I hope my boys think that because I have
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  Speaker 1: that conversation with my wife all the time. Like if
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  Speaker 1: I have one regret about my career, is I wish
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  Speaker 1: I played a little bit longer or had the kids
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  Speaker 1: a little bit earlier that the boy especially the boys
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  Speaker 1: were older and like experience, I retired. They were probably
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  Speaker 1: six five. They were young though, Yeah, decent, but like,
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  Speaker 1: how sick would it be if like your fifteen year
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  Speaker 1: old son, now I would have had to play forever
• 11:25
  Speaker 1: but yeah, or just knocked up my wife in college either,
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  Speaker 1: But how fun would it have been if you brought
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  Speaker 1: like your teenage boys like to football and to the
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  Speaker 1: locker room and they're walking at the gym, you know,
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  Speaker 1: walking out of the stadium after you go for one
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  Speaker 1: twenty and it's like they get to go to school,
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  Speaker 1: but they're in seventh grade.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we can't all be Philip Rivers. No fair fair.
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  Speaker 1: But like the boys, I'm like I remind them all
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  Speaker 1: the time. I'm like, you realize, Like I know, you know,
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  Speaker 1: the dad of now were like I can't run in
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  Speaker 1: the backyard without the fear of blowing out my achilles,
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  Speaker 1: Like don't get it twisted now back in the day,
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  Speaker 1: like I could.
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  Speaker 4: Go oh, and you're like, no, you were never fast.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, there's too much tape out there, too.
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  Speaker 4: Much, like pull it up. I don't care about that.
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  Speaker 1: For my daughter, like I don't need her to think
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  Speaker 1: her dad, I need her to think that her dad
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  Speaker 1: loves her more than any guy on this earth will
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  Speaker 1: ever love her. And no matter how old she gets,
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  Speaker 1: she's gonna have to just deal with like I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: give you a hug, and I'm gonna ask you to
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  Speaker 1: hold my hand, and we're gonna take a picture together.
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  Speaker 1: And I know one day I'm gonna embarrass you. I
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  Speaker 1: probably already am, but too bad.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, as a non ex NFL athlete, it actually makes
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  Speaker 5: me feel so good that you face the struggle of
• 12:39
  Speaker 5: not being cool to your kids like that, because I
• 12:43
  Speaker 5: know Will has brought up multiple times. Ru's growing up
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  Speaker 5: so fast, and he's like, when's the last time she's
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  Speaker 5: gonna want to hold my hand? When's the last time
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  Speaker 5: she's gonna want me to pick her up? We got
• 12:54
  Speaker 5: to ask him, Yes, dude, it's hard. We okay, So
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  Speaker 5: eleven month old daughter Scar she's about to turn one
• 13:01
  Speaker 5: year on July third, sick and how old?
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  Speaker 4: God, she's a patriot.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah's a Patriot's patriot pre firecracker baby. Yeah. Scotty's nineteen
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  Speaker 2: months and Ruges turned four in April.
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  Speaker 4: You guys are in the girl.
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  Speaker 1: They're the boys are great, Like, don't get me wrong,
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  Speaker 1: Like all the kids are awesome in their own rights
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  Speaker 1: and whatnot. But like there's something people tell you and
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  Speaker 1: you don't really know until you do it. Like there's
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  Speaker 1: something different about a dad and a daughter relationship. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's just it's just different. And I don't know why.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know the reasons behind it, but like it's
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  Speaker 1: just different.
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  Speaker 2: Put us on game. We need games.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have any of the answers, but I'll answer
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  Speaker 1: the you have experience, you have brewing everything else fire away?
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  Speaker 3: When does it start? When do things start to shift
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  Speaker 3: like from you? Like because right now ruse four, so
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  Speaker 3: I'm a superhero, Like they're obsessed with you. I'm putting
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  Speaker 3: ten kisses in the hand every day.
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  Speaker 2: We have to do this.
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  Speaker 3: It's ire monologue back and forth before I leave the
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  Speaker 3: But when does that start to shift to where? Because
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  Speaker 3: you as dads, like as guys, like we care so
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  Speaker 3: much about what our daughters think. Yeah, and when I'm
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  Speaker 3: just wondering, like when it starts to take a turn
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  Speaker 3: for like, man, I kind of don't know what's going
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  Speaker 3: on in her head right now, Like am I doing yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Like does she just like oh yeah, yeah, Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It's a hard I don't know. If I have like
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  Speaker 1: a firm number, I will tell you at thirteen it's uh,
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  Speaker 1: everything now is just a little bit different. You know,
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  Speaker 1: when they're free four, you're picking them up, you're holding
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  Speaker 1: their hand. They want to in the mornings, they wake up,
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: they want to get in bed with you, and and
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  Speaker 1: like you don't even think about it through your little baby.
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  Speaker 1: And it's no different if it was your boys or
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: your girls. It just it's all the same, right, Like
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: you'd walk into their room unannounced and never even those
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  Speaker 1: days are over, I would say having a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of like boundary set and just having some awareness as
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  Speaker 1: a dad that sometimes mom needs to be the tip
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  Speaker 1: of the spear. Mom needs to go check on her
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  Speaker 1: getting ready for bed. I would say, like in our house,
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  Speaker 1: probably started like ten twelve.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, like were you're coming down stairs and you're like, hey,
• 15:09
  Speaker 3: when did this happen?
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 15:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so like maybe click ten.
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: Like they're in fifth grade now, they're into like getting
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: close to middle school. Like things are a little bit different.
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: Their bodies are changing, their interests are changing. But like today,
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: like I remember vividly one day, like having a realization
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: being like I can't just keep like walking in her bedroom.
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: Like as much as it's like, oh it's my daughter,
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go check on her before bed, it's like.
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: Can dad come in?
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: Hold on?
• 15:40
  Speaker 4: Like and I it's just it's a I didn't grow
• 15:42
  Speaker 4: up with sisters.
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: I grew up in a house of all boys, where
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: like every room was just left open. People changed in
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: the kitchen, people walked around and they're like there was
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: no it was a locker room. Yeah, in our house,
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: my poor mother, a husband who was a high school
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: football coach, and three boys.
• 15:58
  Speaker 4: Like it was a wild experience. There was no boundaries.
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: We are now like fully into boundary mode, not only
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: like dad daughter stuff, but like brothers, brothers friends. We
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: have a sleepover tonight. When they were six, it was
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: cute because all the boys and girls they were friends
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: at school.
• 16:16
  Speaker 4: They'd run around. It's not cute anymore. They're thirteen.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and all of a sudden, your brothers have five
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: teenage boys over the house. Well, guess what, Talbot's going
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: to top my daughter's names, Talbot. Talbot's going to grandma
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: and grandpa. Like it's just it's just different, yea. Even
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: now sharing a hotel room here in Nashville, Like, Okay,
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: daddy's got you go shower, change to your stuff. Daddy
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: will sit out here in the other like little side room.
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: Let me know when you're done. But then I need
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: you to either like go to your friend's room or
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: go out in the other area, and I'll go.
• 16:47
  Speaker 4: Shower and get dressed. Obviously with the boys.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: When I'm on the road with the boys or at
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: a baseball tournament for two weeks with the boys.
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: Just the boys, just with the boys.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: So again I think I think it is though all
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: joking aside, I do think it's good for them to
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: understand like privacy and boundaries and the way they look
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: at themselves and the way they value them Like, I
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: do think those are valuable lessons that you can have
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: in your house that then you hope they take out
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: when they're older and they're you know, doing whatever they're doing,
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: Like they need to learn that, like it's okay to
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: have some self respect. And I don't know, we're figuring
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: all this girl stuff out as we go, but it's awesome.
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: Can I can I ask?
• 17:30
  Speaker 5: As far as Scarlet getting older, the thing I worry
• 17:35
  Speaker 5: about the most is the drama at school with friends.
• 17:39
  Speaker 5: Yea like girl friendship relationships because I know nothing about
• 17:44
  Speaker 5: it as grown up in a house with all boys.
• 17:48
  Speaker 5: Is it something where you kind of take a back
• 17:50
  Speaker 5: seat and if she invites you in and gives you
• 17:53
  Speaker 5: trust to like listen and deal with stuff, how do
• 17:56
  Speaker 5: you deal with mom?
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: Mom?
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: He's a tip of the spirit. Yeah, mom is much
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: more in tune with Mom.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: Gets much better, Like car ride home from school, especially
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: from my daughter, the boys tell you nothing you know.
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: How boys are, Like how a school good?
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah? How is practice good? Okay?
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: They could have gotten in three fights and gotten expelled,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: and like you would.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: Never know my daughter.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: The girls tell you a lot more so that's how
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: we know most of the scoop in school. But she's
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: really good at being open with my wife. She's very
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: honest with her. She knows when there's girl drama, she
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: knows if boys like her, she knows who her crush is.
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: She knows, like my wife gets all that information, she
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: picks and chooses what she tells me my daughter. Meaning
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: so I get debriefed from mom, and some of the
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: times when I get debriefed from my wife, it's like, hey,
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: just keep that between us, like that's our conversation. And
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: other times I'll go follow up and have like a
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: conversation in the car, drive into a practice or school
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: with her.
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: But I'm.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: As you guys know, like the relationships, especially at this age,
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: teenage girl, there's a lot going on. There's a lot
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: of new thoughts, a lot of new impulses. Social media
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: is a big thing, like oh god, friends posted you
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: know who got invited to a party. But then the
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: people you know back in our day, like you had
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: a party, invited who you wanted, and unless somebody told
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: everyone Monday in school, nobody really knew who was there.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, those days were over.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: You know who was there, how long they were there,
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: who they took a picture with, what they were wearing,
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: you know, every you know everything.
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so there's no secrets anymore.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: So, you know, there's feelings that are hurt, there's kids
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: that feel left out, and there's definitely more of that
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: with with the girls than we feel, at least in
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: our house. With then with the boys. Talbot's not a
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: huge drama person. She doesn't like it. She doesn't really
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: encourage it. We try to continue to push, like don't
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: get involved in all that stuff, like just let it go.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: But uh yeah, right wrong or indifferent the the some
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: of the greatest things about raising a daughter that are
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: so easy are the really big challenges of raising two sons.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: And then on the flip side, some of the easy
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: things about the boys, and they get into a fight
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: with their buddy by Monday, just like the rest of us,
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: it's like it never happened. With the girls, it's like
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: four weeks of conversation and parents and talking and how
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: are we going to work through this? I'm like, they're
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: in seventh.
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: Grade, their work through it. It's over.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: So there's good and bad and challenges and ease with
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: both of them. But that's the magic of it all.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: Like that's the fun of it all. And especially for me.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: My wife grew up with only a sister, so like
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: girl households.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: Is all she knows.
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so I'm really like the man left out.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: I'm literally experiencing all these things in real time as
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: a dude who's only known boy locker rooms and boy households.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: And my wife's like, you got a lot to learn,
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, yes, I do, and I'm here to
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: learn it, and I just please don't let me screw
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: it up.
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: And like, not only you grew up around boys in
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: the locker room stuff and everything else, but you're also
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: a dad who really cares, like all these sports you
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: do as much as a family man you are. I'm
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: sure there's a lot of career balance issues that go on,
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: but caring so much, what is a what is like
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: a dad loss you've had where you've gotten the tea
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: from mom and with the boys, you almost know how
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: to walk in and kind of address the room or
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: kind of just be the guy for them. But as
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: a dad mom tells you some tea, I'm almost putting
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: it in my shoes. I would almost be curious, like, man,
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: how could I work my way into a conversation with
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: my daughter even though my wife saying I need to like, hey.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: This is between you and me. Yeah, yeah, but daughter
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: comes down for breakfast.
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: You're trying to like you're trying to find your way
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: into that conversation. What's been like a dad loss you've
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: had in the realm of like sticking your foot in
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: your mouth.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: Yes, So that's a great question, and it's so true
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: because I'm I don't like letting things linger, Like I
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: don't like letting things fester and linger, and I'm a
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: big believer, like, let's nip it in the bud now
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: head on the direct communication and whether we ever, you know,
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: whether it was you and I or me and my
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: sons or whoever, like you're going to know exactly where
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: I stand. We're going to get to the root of
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: what the issue is and then we can move on
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: and it's addressed and we don't need to continue to
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: let it kind.
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: Of carry forward.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: So with the boys very direct issue at school, issue
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: with a friend, a grade on a paper, how I
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: think they're you know, working for their sports teams or
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: the game, whatever the whatever. The different parenting thing is
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: like I just go at them like right in the.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: Moment, and.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: That's just the way it is. We're going to have
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: a man to man talk. We're going to address it.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you exactly how I feel, tell
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: you why I think you're doing good bad in between,
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: and move on. When something's going on with my daughter,
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: typically my wife's like the first to know, like what
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: the what the issue is, or I want to jump
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: immediately right in and be like, let's just address it
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: right this second, and she's like, now is not the time.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: I'm like, now is always the time. Why She's like,
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: we'll talk about it in the morning, and I'm like,
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to sleep, you know what I mean.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: My brain doesn't work like that. But I'll be running
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: through scenarios in my brain all night. We need to
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: address this right now.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: You can't tell you my daughter shruggling expectation.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: Well, I'll tell you and I'll tell you when you
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: get home. I'm like, what, No, you need to call
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: me immediately and tell me what's going.
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: On like that. That's hard for me.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: That is just I'm not I'm not a procrastinator in
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: that world because I'm like mental and the longer it lingers,
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: I almost manifest it. It's something even worse in my
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: own brain. And so that's why I need to just
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: like address it right now in the moment, no matter
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: how good or bad it is. Let's have this conversation,
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: address how we're going to move forward, and we all
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: can move on. That's not always the right path. That's
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: not always the right path for my boys, it's not
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: always the right path for my marriage. It's not always
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: the right path with my daughter. So that's something that
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: my wife's really good at, like knowing when's the time
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: to go into it, and when's the time to just
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: like give them some space and like let them catch
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: their breath and we'll circle back to it in the
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: morning or tonight at dinner or when we're just alone
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: in the call. Like I want to have the conversation
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: in the middle of the ball. Yeah, I'm like, I
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: don't care, let's do it right now. She's like, this
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: is not the time, and I'm like you're right, but
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: when I don't, I've never known waiting for the time,
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: like everything's the right time. So I have to improve
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: a little bit in like my self awareness about that
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: kind of stuff, and I'm trying. Fortunately, my wife, her
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: uh social intelligence and emotional intelligence is a lot of
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: the times a lot better than mine.
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: Are you able to talk about a situation that you've
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: just royally messed up?
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: I mess up a lot?
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I stanned out and you're like, oh, yeah, it's
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: this is yeah with the wife.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: Was you know, a lot a lot of mine, unfortunately,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: and fortunately revolve around like sports. You guys know obviously
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: do a lot of the stuff with you sports, and
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: we talk about it, and I'm the first to raise
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: my hand and be like I'm the one out here
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: like having these conversations with people, and like we're offering
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: all this advice, but I'm like the first one to
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: be like, ninety nine percent of this.
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: Advice should be dhre to by me, you know.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: What I mean, Like if we're not expert.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: So I do not pretend I'm like the interviewer for myself.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: I always joke like it's my It's like I'm going
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: through like my own like psychiatry, psychology, whatever, to go
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: through all the therapy my own like therapy, and then
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: if you want to like listen in and try to
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: gain some stuff, great, But like I'm almost doing it
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: more because I keep sucking everything up. So that's that's
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: just kind of the reality of it. So I'm I'm
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: trying to get better. I'm trying to not be so hard,
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: but a lot of it is typically probably through the
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: sports stuff. Like it's hard for me to understand how
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: anyone would do any do things different like other than
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: how I did it, Like I only know doing things
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: obsessive and like full till and all in, and the
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: notion that other people don't necessarily always want to do
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: that is hard for me to wrap my head around
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: at times, even my own kids. So that's been, uh,
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: that's been something I'm trying to improve on. Like just
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: because it was the way I did it doesn't mean
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: it's healthy and doesn't mean it's the way I should
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: want my kids to do it. But in the heat
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: of moments, it's hard for me to disconnect those two things.
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, what is what is something that you feel
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: like you had a strong opinion about, could be a
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: couple of years ago, it could be a few years
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: ago that you feel like you've fully changed your mind on.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: I mean, the first one that comes to mind is like,
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: there's no fighting like social media, especially with the teenagers
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: right and their interest in willingness to share photos and
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: share every aspect of what they're doing. I think if
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: you would ask me as a young dad with a
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: two or three year old on the plane, it's like,
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: we are not going to be the tablet parents. We
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: are not going to be the parents who kids have
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: phones and there's no reason a thirteen year old girl
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: needs to have Instagram and you know whatever. And I
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: think as you start entering, I think oftentimes you're the
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: biggest critic of things that you've yet to experience and
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: you've yet to really enter that world. And then you
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: go okay, like, at some point, these kids are going
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: to get it. At some point they're gonna have social
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: media and they're gonna have phones. I think the big
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: realization that we've had in our family is like, wouldn't
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: you rather go through all those things when they're still
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: home with you?
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: Right, Like where.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: Hopefully they don't post anything inappropriate, but things happen, Like,
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: I hope those mistakes happen while they're still under our roof.
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: I hope, because what you see a lot of is.
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: You reject it. You reject it, you reject it. Well,
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: it's coming at some point.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: When you're no longer in charge, right, they're no longer
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: under your roof, and then sometimes the lid pops off.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: So like social media and that stuff, like our kids
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: have it, and we put limits on it, we have timers,
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: we have we're pretty adamant about, like what they're allowed
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: to share the pictures, but like we're not going to
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: sit here and lie to ourselves. My teenage daughter is
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: going to send five hundred pictures and snaps to her
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: friends of last night's party and pictures and what she's wearing,
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: like it's gonna happen.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: Do I love it?
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: No?
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: Do I love what girls wear?
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: These?
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: I always joke my life has turned into my daughter
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: wears what I wish my wife would wear, and my
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: wife wears what I wish my daughter would wear. And
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: that's like the perfect way to summarize like my current
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: situation in life. But like if you teach them boundaries
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: and you teach them morals, and values and self respect,
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: which obviously is a huge one for all the kids.
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: The realities of the world are going to be out
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: there no matter how much you try to fight them.
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: You're not going to fight other people's battles. You're not
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: going to change other people's household rules. You got to
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: worry about your kids and what you control, but they're
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: going to enter the real world whether you like it
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: or not, and you can't control all those aspects are
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: our audience.
• 28:38
  Speaker 5: We call Papa Team six, and then there's Pt. Sikos,
• 28:42
  Speaker 5: and then you have Mama Team six, Milk Team six.
• 28:46
  Speaker 5: They know that Will and I constantly say we're not
• 28:50
  Speaker 5: experts on the show, Like, no part of us coming
• 28:54
  Speaker 5: on here and talking do we ever say, hey, this
• 28:57
  Speaker 5: is the way to do it.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: This is blah blah blah.
• 28:59
  Speaker 5: So I think a lot of listeners have been asking
• 29:03
  Speaker 5: Will and I questions that involve like their teenage kids
• 29:08
  Speaker 5: that we just have we have no experience. What if
• 29:11
  Speaker 5: you don't mind, like how old were your kids when
• 29:14
  Speaker 5: you allowed them to have their first smartphone? And like
• 29:18
  Speaker 5: what did that transition look like?
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that's a great question because just for
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: just context on Greg, this is a perfect example of
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: like Greg, yesterday we were at Tighten You. Tighten You's
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: got some more entertainment value to it than it has
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: in years past. Hearing Greg talk about Tighten You with
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: all the music and the people and the cameras here
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: and Bruce Kittle talk about Tighten You, Like these.
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: Guys are like old souls that love just ball.
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: You're like, when we're going to get to the ball,
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: Greg's like, I just hope these next three hours, all
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: the tight ends we have here, I just hope they
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: get something out of us playing football. So when you
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: asked that question, I think it's an awesome question because
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: even when you're allowing them to do this, I know,
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: I feel like Greg's a guy and it's like, oh man,
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: he was very resistant to all of this stuff that came.
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: Oh for sure.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: I'm my greatest strength in my career is probably my
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: greatest weakness as a real human, just as a parent,
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: a person, a friend, all that. I am very singularly
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: focused on what I deemed the time as being the
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: most important thing, right, Like you don't keep the main
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: thing the main thing and all the cliches from our
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: ball Like that was my entire existence, like vacation was about.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: If I didn't get my training and all that stuff done,
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: there was no vacation. I was no fun. I was
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: not going to go hang at the pool and throw
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: the kids up in the air. It was just the
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: way I was wired. Yeah, So the problem with that.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: It was very good to play in the NFL for
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: a long time because there was never a question of
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: are you going to be ready?
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: Well what you meant it?
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: That was almost like a given.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: You stay ready.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: I was ready at all times. No whether I ended
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: up being good enough in the long run, and as
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: you get older, it was not for the lack of effort.
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it just the road ends. One day you didn't care.
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: What anybody else did, and it's like, no, yeah, they
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: might do this one.
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: There was nothing in the world when it was time
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: for me to get what I had to get done done.
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: There was nothing.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: I mean, just take family, my kids, and there was
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: nothing in the world more important than my training, than my.
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: Career, than my goals and all that.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: Then nothing when I got married and had kids, obviously
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: some of those goals were challenged. And that's a whole
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: separate conversation we can have. But as far as like
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: these rules in the house. I was a big believer
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: in like you got you know, I expected our ten
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: year old kids, like what do you want to do,
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: Like let's get up every day with a purpose of
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: like what we're going to achieve and how are we
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: going to get there? And you say you want to
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: make this team, and you say you want to play
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: you know whatever it was. And I think back and
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: I was like, what am I talking about. They're in
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: fourth grade. They're in fourth grade. I'm looking at it
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: through the lens of a forty one year old man
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: who like understands the value of like objectives and goal
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: orientation and processes and systems and.
• 31:58
  Speaker 4: Blah blah blah blah blah.
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: They're in fourth grade. You know what they want to do.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: They want to come from home from school. They want
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: to eat a bag of chips. They want to sit
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: on their phones, send a couple snaps. They want to
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: do their homework. If we let them play video games,
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: they were We don't let them play video games on
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: the weekdays. And then they'll go to whatever their team
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: practices that night, will come home, they'll fight us to
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: go to bed, and we'll get up in the morning,
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: and we'll do it all over it. That's what every
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: but you only know what you know. I'm like, well,
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: what do you mean you don't want to come home
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: from school and get extra swings? Don't you want to
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: be good?
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: Dad, I don't want to be good. Well this is
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: what he means being good. And my wife's like, they're ten.
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: I'm like, you're one hundred percent right, So that meant
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: to I've gotten a little bit better. But like the
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: way I approached everything has now I'm trying to dial
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: it back that it's not how I always approach parenting, right, Like,
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: let them go out and do their thing, even if
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: it's not what I think they should be doing in
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: the moment, which is hard for me to bite my tongue.
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: I gotta let them. I gotta let them go out
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: there and make the wrong move, train, not do their
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: homework and time, go out with their friend, like, go
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: be kids and experience life when the repercussions of the
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: failure is not really that big of a deal because
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: you're in seventh grade, now's the time to make all
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: those mistakes. Now's all those times to have trial and error.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: In the beginning of parenting, and even at times now.
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: The best way I'd probably sum it up is in
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: my mind, I was like, if you just listen to me,
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: I can probably prevent all the error, right like I
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: could probably prevent you from making all the mistakes. As
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: I've parented more, the lessons are better when they experience
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: it for themselves versus anything that we tell them. We
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: could tell them something's bad for them or good for them,
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: until they experience it for themselves in a good or
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: a bad experience, it's not reinforced as strongly. So as
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: much as I want to give them all this wisdom
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: about what path to take and how to do it,
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: and this is what it looks like and if you
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: put in these this day every day, you'll achieve your goals,
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: but it's not real Like that's not a realistic way
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: to parent. And as hard as that is for me,
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: that's probably the area I'm trying to improve on the best.
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: Does that make sense? So that's it? Is that a
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: right now thing too?
• 34:08
  Speaker 4: Like this radiation it's every day in real time?
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah? Yeah?
• 34:13
  Speaker 5: Did you come to this realization though, that it's okay
• 34:16
  Speaker 5: to kind of let them live and learn the experience
• 34:19
  Speaker 5: within Like the last four or five years.
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: As they've gotten older. Ten's the mark. Yeah it's ten again.
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: I probably use ten. I probably can't.
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess they are.
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: I guess ten. I keep saying ten.
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: I don't.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: I don't know what is it about ten. Maybe it's
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: double digits, or maybe it's that they're, you know, they're
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: almost on the brink of middle school ish, Like what
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: is that, like fifth or sixth grade? Yeah, maybe four.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: I don't even know anymore, but like, maybe it's that,
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: but it probably is.
• 34:46
  Speaker 4: An arbitrary number. But all in all, I think.
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: The biggest realization and failures or whatever you want to
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: classify it as that I've personally had as a parent.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: The simplest way to put it is, as much as
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: you think your advice is really good and sound and
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: comes from a place of experience and success and failure
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: and all those things, it makes sense in my brain
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: to be like, I'll just tell you what you need
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: to do, you do it, and you will have great success.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: Like that to me is like one plus one equals too.
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: Why would you not take the advice? And when you
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: look back on it, I'm like, because that's not the
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: real world. Everyone everyone achieves what they achieve and goes
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: through their own journey most of the time, through their
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: own experiences, and we can guide them, we can shape them,
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: we can help kind of steer the path to give
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: them some guardrails. But like until they have that big
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: failure or that big disappointment or that big success, what
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: dad says, what mom says is not as it's not
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: nearly as impactful as that experience. And when you watch
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: your kids have failure, it's like I'm the king of like, well,
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: if he just did what I said, you probably wouldn't.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: I'm probably I'm better at that. I'm a little better
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: at that. Now I'm still not where I they need
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: to be. But that's a huge conflict for me. Yeah,
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: I think that just being honest.
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, even though you see it as like you know,
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: I'm a little bit better, I'm not where I want
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: to be. To me, it's still it still works out
• 36:15
  Speaker 3: because then your boys and your daughter, they grew up
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: like us when our parents were hard on us, Like
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: my dad was more tough love. I'm sure your dad
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: was a ball coach. He was probably the same with you,
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: like you end up appreciating it later in life because
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: you realize how rigid they were in some areas, no doubt,
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: even though our dad's probably wished they were a little
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: like my dad's, Like I wish I would have listened a.
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: Little bit more too. We're behindsight, we're empathetic.
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: The ability to reflect on things in hindsight, yeah is
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: so powerful, right, Yeah, And what we all know now
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: and my appreciation for my parents, or my appreciation for
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: how hard my dad was as our high school coach
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: and what he put us through, Like at the time,
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: did I love it? When I was sixteen and I
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: had to be home at nine o'clock because such and such.
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: And you wanted to eat.
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: I wanted to eat, and I wanted to be out
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: with my friends at the carnival or you know, whatever
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: we were doing, And like, I look back on it now
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, if I didn't learn those lessons early
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: in my life, And there were probably times where I
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: went up to my room pissed off and this isn't
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: fair and the other kids get to do this, And
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: but now I look.
• 37:12
  Speaker 4: Back and I'm like, my life's pretty good.
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: I could do whatever the hell I want now And
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: was it worth at sixteen making a couple of sacrifices,
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: not going on spring break with your buddies as a
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: senior because you had to stay home for track.
• 37:24
  Speaker 4: Me and I can go. I can go back to
• 37:26
  Speaker 4: Aruba anytime I want.
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, now you don't go with your high school boys,
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: which is a different animal. But that perspective is only
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: earned through experience.
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and Suram, I feel like I completely hijacked your
• 37:39
  Speaker 3: question about the the tech and social media coming in
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: because I am all of the understanding all of that.
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: I would love to know, like when did the conversation
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, first start as Shuran was asking
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: when those started coming to the household.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: I think our kids got a cell phone, not like
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: loaded up with everything. So the way we did it,
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: and when I say we, like my wife drove the
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: ship on all of this.
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: Let's go. You wanted to have a flip phone?
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I'll go back.
• 38:11
  Speaker 4: To a razor.
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: Was there anything cooler than when you got your first
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: razor slipped in that front pocket and it was this
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: thing You're like, wait, texting.
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: I need another flip because that was clean.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: I mean, so I think our kids got stuff. I
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: will say I don't think there was like a one
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: size fits all. I don't have the exact dates, but
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: I do think our two boys and daughter, I think
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: they did get things at like relatively different times, all
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: within the same span.
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: I would say fifth sixth.
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: Grade was probably the window of when things started to
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: be introduced. When they were younger, they each had like
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: an iPad, but that had to be at the house
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: so they could they could like message friends or go
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: on YouTube and watch videos and stuff. But it was
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: like a home iPad that stayed at the house and
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: they actually walked out of the house with a phone
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: in their pocket. It was probably fifth or sixth grade,
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: but we were very particular about what was allowed on it,
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: Like I think they couldn't get like they've got certain access,
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: like they were allowed to have Instagram kids or whatever
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: they have. They weren't allowed to post, and they could
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: only follow people that we knew, Like that was our
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: rule in the house, Like you can only follow people
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: that mom and.
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: Dad know, not people that you know. People that we know.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: So our friends, our friends' kids, your friends at school,
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: kids on the team, So that was like our guardrails early.
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: I can't imagine that that rule is still being followed
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: by I can only imagine who my two boys follow
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: on social media.
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: Not that bad of a rule, though, when you think
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: about it.
• 39:42
  Speaker 4: Everybody at the time.
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: Personally, I'm legit, We're legitimately listening. Like I'm thinking, Okay,
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: this is going.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: To be the game.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: The one they all wanted that we held out the
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: best on. They all have it now, But we held
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: out pretty well on was Snapchat.
• 40:00
  Speaker 4: I don't love it.
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: Nothing against the app itself, Snapchat and TikTok. The algorithms
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: there are pretty are pretty interesting, and like, the more
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: you learn about it, and now.
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: Are you doing this research yourself, like with your wife?
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I again, I'm first to admit, like wife driving
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: a lot of these decisions, and I look back and
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: I'm like, really, good decision.
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: You nailed that.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: I'm so glad I get to take half credit. But
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: you nailed that whole timing. He was ready, she wasn't,
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: whatever the case may be. And you have a great
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: feel for what the kids can handle and can't handle.
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: That one gets a little challenging, right because it's the
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: only way they communicate with their friends is like snapping
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: each other and messaging through these apps.
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: They don't text.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: They don't call, they don't FaceTime their friends, they don't
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: face and text us. Everything's through these apps, so they
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: snap you.
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: I do not have.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: I refuse to snap with my children. That's where I
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: draw the line. I think my wife has snap. I
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: don't know if the kids actually snap her. I make
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: them text me, and if they don't respond to my text,
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: I'm like, we have two options. I can take your
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: phone away, but you have your phone in your hand
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: the entire day. It's amazing that when I text you,
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: you don't respond. So I have no patience for that.
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: So I address that pretty clearly. But now I refuse
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: to snap with my I know a lot of parents do.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: I'm not judging. I'm just speaking from my own perspective.
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: I refuse to snap pictures with my children.
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know, you know Greg's giving them
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: the You know, when I was young, we had to
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: be at the friend's house and call from that landlord.
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah we did.
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: Let you know we were safe. And you can't just
• 41:36
  Speaker 3: text me back when you got your phone, when you
• 41:37
  Speaker 3: had your.
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: First girlfriend, you called the house line and when mister
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: Compton answered.
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: Oh mister Compton, this is great. Is Caro home? She's
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: not home. You want us to call her?
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: No, No, she does have to call me back. So
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: like that ship you learn if you talk.
• 41:53
  Speaker 4: About being a man.
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, truly call your.
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: Middle school or high school girlfriend's landline. Yeah, to mom
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: and dad and have and just pray mom answers. Pray
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: mom answers, because if dad answers, immediate panic attack.
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that. Could I would.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: Love that a boy right now that'd be interested in
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: dating my daughter would have to call Like imagine if
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: they had to call my cell phone, like a middle
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: school boy called my cell phone to talk to k Talbot.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: That'd be sick amazing. Is there.
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: Prep that is in place for you mentally or something
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: that steps that are going to have to happen when
• 42:32
  Speaker 3: that first boy does want to take your daughter on
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: a date.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: Okay, So it goes back to your earlier question, Like
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: things that I thought of years ago that I'm different
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: on now. I was that like tough guy dad. I
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: probably was just saying it just to be that dad
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: when the kids were little. But I was like, my
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: daughter's never gonna.
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: Have a boyfriend. I might kill him, yeah.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: Right, Like I always think of like I always think
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: of that Will Smith, Martin Lawrence and back when he comes.
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: Like I think every dad that dream. I think every
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: day I think dad had. Every dad has that dream,
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: like they would love to meet their daughter's boyfriend at
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: the door and be able to just go at him
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: like that. But I but when they were little, like
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: it's your little girl, Oh, your daddy's your only boyfriend, Daddy, Dad.
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: The way I look at it now is very different,
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: And my thought is she's going to date someone. Most
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: likely inevitably she's going to date someone. Same thing with
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: the boys. You could either make it that she goes
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: and dates these boys around your back or in hiding
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: or sneaky and sneaking out and going to a friend's house,
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: but then meeting up with the boy because you don't
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: allow him over and make her uncomfortable around boys, and
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: you make her feel insecure. At some point she's gonna
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: want to have a boyfriend and at one point she's
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: going to go on a date Like that is the
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: real world for all of us dads, Like, no matter
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: how well we want to talk tough, I would much
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: rather that boy feel like he can come to my
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: house and ring my doorbell, shake my hand, and take
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: her out to dinner with no fear, with no intimidation.
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: I can't believe I got to go to Greg's, Like,
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: I don't want that to be the experience for her.
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: I don't want that to be the experience for the boy. Now,
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: we're gonna have high standards, we're gonna have rules, we're
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: gonna have shit that.
• 44:09
  Speaker 4: Needs to be abided by.
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: But I don't want the relationship to have to be
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: in fear, in awkwardness, because then she could either end
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: up with guys that I would never want around my
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: house anyway because they're not people that hang out with
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: my boys, or they're not people that So she's going
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: to date someone. So if it's a family friend, if
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: it's your brother's friend, okay, I'd rather that than like
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: some guy we don't know.
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: Yeh.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: So I've come around pretty good on that we have.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: She has not really had like a boyfriend yet, but
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: the day is coming. And as long as she treats
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: herself right and as long as she has a lot
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: of self respect and he treats her with a ton
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: of respect and treats her right, like, I'll be happy
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: that day when she gets picked up to go out
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: on a date with a boy, but like if we
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: say you got to be home at whatever time she
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: needs me in the door?
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, is there a world Greg where you a guy
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: might date your order to hang out with you? Like
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: I genuinely have that thought. Is there a world where you.
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: Know that's an interesting question? Is you know it's it's
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: an interesting question. I guess anything's possible. The vast majority
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: of the boys that like we circle with, because I
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: have two boys that are relatively the same age, I've
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: coached most of these boys since they were five years
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: old in.
• 45:25
  Speaker 4: Some team, our general group of.
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: Boys, especially at our school, but even some kids in
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: town that don't go to our school that we just
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: know through the teams and stuff over the years. Unless
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: she just goes completely outside of that pool, I guess maybe.
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: But I do think for a lot of these boys
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: that have known me as coach and have known me
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: as Tatan TJ's dad for years and we've been through
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: football practices and long days and heat and workouts, and
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: they know me a little bit more on that side.
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: With the boys, I do think whatever boy is like
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: I'm interested in dating Talbot, like he's gonna have to
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: like her because I think to like come over and
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: like experience a different side of our house and a
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: different side have dinner with us at the kitchen table. Like,
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: I'm going to give that kid a lot of credit
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: because that's going to be an unless it's some stranger boy,
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: which hopefully it's not. One of these boys is going
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: to have a long standing relationship with our family, with
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: our sons, and it's going to be a little different
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: sitting with your two buddies at the kitchen table and
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: your former pop porner football coach at the head of
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: the table eating mashed potatoes. You know, yeah, it's Is.
• 46:32
  Speaker 3: There a conversation you envision having with the first one
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: who wants to date your daughter? Because as I'm listening
• 46:37
  Speaker 3: to you, I feel like you're when you say I'm
• 46:39
  Speaker 3: coming around, I feel like you're giving a lot.
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: Of respect to the situation.
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: And I would almost assume that at some point, whether
• 46:49
  Speaker 3: they try and push a boundary or whatever, you're going
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: to want that respect to be reciprocated because you are
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: trying to, you know, do as well as you can.
• 46:57
  Speaker 3: Is there like not like a tone center, but is
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: there conversation you envision when that first boy come or
• 47:02
  Speaker 3: the first one that feels like, hey, this this, this
• 47:05
  Speaker 3: could be serious, This could lead to something serious.
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah maybe the high school.
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like come high school, right, so come high school
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: and things are a little bit more serious, especially nowadays,
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: Like some of these high school relationships, like some of
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: our older friends, like kids are friends with older kids
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: have like some of these relationships in high school nowadays
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: are very serious, like much more serious than like what
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: a high school boyfriend girlfriend situation was like when we
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: were growing up. They go on trips together, they travel together,
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: they're at each other's houses, like on weekday nights, like
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: the thought of when I was in high school, like
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: having your girlfriend over on a Wednesday, Like, no, you
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: saw your friends and your girlfriend boyfriends on the weekends.
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: After the football game on Friday night, you go out
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: to dinner, right, like where we ja?
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: Where hopefully you set a couple of tuddies. But like
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: so that again, just with time, things evolve. I guess
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: the simplest way I would try to answer it, And
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: again I'm anticipating what I'm gonna do.
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: I have not had to do any of this stuff yet.
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: Hopefully we've done a nice job with our sons and
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: daughters that like the person they choose to enter into
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: a relationship with, they already apply their own high standards, right,
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: like someone who treats them good. Hopefully we taught them
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: like what that looks like? What does a relationship look like?
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: What does it mean to look after someone else more
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: than you look after your own self interest? Like can
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: we start introducing those early like selfless principles that then
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: they can apply to someone who also shares those said principles.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: Hopefully they drive those high standards and we don't have
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: to be like the big tone setter. I feel like
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: if I have to like set the tone of like
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: how this boy is going to treat my daughter and
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: it's got to come out of fear of me, that's probably.
• 48:46
  Speaker 4: Not the best situation.
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: Like, hopefully this guy wants to treat my daughter right, Yeah,
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: because she demands it right, Like she's earned that and
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: the way she carries herself and the way she treats
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: him and the way she treats herself in the way
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: she sets her boundaries and sets her expectations.
• 49:03
  Speaker 4: Hopefully the guy meets.
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: Her standards and it's not like, oh man, I'm only
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: gonna be nice to her because it's Greg's daughter. I
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: don't want any of that to ever be the case.
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: But we got to teach our kids, like what do
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: those relationships look like? And yeah, we can try to
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: do it, you know through your your own relationships in
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: your house, which are you know, challenging and have ups
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: and downs and all that. But hopefully it starts with
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: them and then obviously if there's things that need to
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: be addressed and things expectations that need to be put
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: on top of that, like that's whereas parents we get involved.
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: But yeah, I mean there's gonna be a time where
• 49:34
  Speaker 3: it's like she's going to be getting in the car
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: with somebody else to go on their first date. And
• 49:39
  Speaker 3: she's gonna be in somebody else's not like a buddy's vehicle,
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: parents vehicle.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: It's gonna be a sixteen year old boy.
• 49:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and he could be he's gonna he's probably gonna
• 49:48
  Speaker 3: be awesome.
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: But I'm your old boy. You're getting in the car now,
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: like my daughter's get in the car.
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: Well, I'm gonna definitely have a little powering message.
• 49:56
  Speaker 4: It's like good decisions here.
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: There's no more prize possession in the world than that
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: little lady in the front seat, Like phone rings down,
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: like she's home at a certain time, Like let's keep
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: our shit together. Like but there's such an element of
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: like willing parenting. Fuck I don't, I don't. I'm sitting
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: here like I have all these answers because I don't know.
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: I know, I can't wait when you call.
• 50:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I guess we're on that go and I'm
• 50:26
  Speaker 4: like everything like.
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: Most times, I'm probably gonna be like everything I thought
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: it was going to be, it was the complete opposite,
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: you know, like everything that I envisioned in my brain.
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: Disregard everything I said because it's all wrong. Yeah, you know,
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: I think there is an element to parenting where sometimes.
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: You just have to step back.
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: And say we trust you, like we trust you to
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: make good decisions, and until you burn that trust, will
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: reconsider what we're allowed and not allowed to do. But
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: like she's they're gonna get in the car with teenagers. Yeah, yeah,
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: they're gonna get in the car with boys. They're gonna
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: get in the car with girls. They're gonna go to
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: parties there gonna like they're gonna do it. You hope
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: to God that you've taught them some ability to make
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: good decisions. And yeah, sixteen year old decisions look a
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: lot different than forty year old decisions. And we were
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: all in those places at one time too. And it's
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: very hard for me to sit here and say that
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: because I want to control every situation.
• 51:19
  Speaker 4: It's just my personality.
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: But the reality is I'm not going to follow them
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: to high school parties and I'm not going to sit
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: in the back seat when she goes on a date.
• 51:26
  Speaker 3: And We've had a couple of dad hacks come in
• 51:29
  Speaker 3: and now I think this one's a good one.
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: When when they come home from the date to you're
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: just outside doing yard work while they pull in the driveway.
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: It might be a night throwing off the driveway, Yeah,
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: because they know you're home right.
• 51:41
  Speaker 4: When you come off track.
• 51:42
  Speaker 3: And something about when you come home with your girlfriend
• 51:44
  Speaker 3: you're sitting in the driveway. You don't want to any
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: hanky piky going on. Dad's outside the yard doing yard work.
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: That's a great move. I got to go in to appropriate.
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: It's not menacing like a shotgun on the porch. You're
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: just doing a little guard.
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't even know what time you guys were
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: coming home. I'm busy being a dad all day, I
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: haven't had time.
• 52:02
  Speaker 4: To blow the leaves.
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're like dad, you never moved the yard.
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: Power washing the front steps at ten thirty on a Saturday.
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they're filthy.
• 52:10
  Speaker 4: Have you seen the mildew?
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: Have you seen the moss your mother lets grow between
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: the cracks. It's embarrassing. Can't have your boyfriend drop you
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: off with weeds in the cement.
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: That would one hundred percent work on me.
• 52:23
  Speaker 5: By the way, just thinking of myself as a teenager
• 52:25
  Speaker 5: and rolling up, I would probably even have more respect
• 52:28
  Speaker 5: for the dead and be like, dude, he's always on it,
• 52:30
  Speaker 5: like he's just.
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: This guy's a dog. Yeah, hopefully it's creative and hopefully
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: you're like I just got to tip my cap to him,
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: like he's on it.
• 52:37
  Speaker 4: Hopefully at this time, like you got some peptides and
• 52:39
  Speaker 4: some tea.
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: You're looking Jackson everywhere and you're wearing like a sleeveless Hey.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: I'll tell you one thing though, that I will never
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: I will never go back off this rule. There's no
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: like X opposite sexes.
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: In bedrooms now.
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: I also don't want them in the base so basement
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: for me bad news.
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: Everyone knows all the games as a guy.
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: We all know what that looks like. So like I
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: got to figure out in my head. Okay, high school boyfriend,
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: high school girlfriends, whatever comes over the house for the boys,
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: Like I know they don't want to sit on the
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: couch and watch TV with us.
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: But you break it down, it's like, well you go
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: where you're going?
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: Got a basement and you got a bedroom. We sure
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: as hell an going in the bedrooms? Do we let
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: them go in the basement? Like I almost feel like
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: if you had like a TV room like on the
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: first floor, that doesn't feel as bad as the basement
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: has a bad connotation?
• 53:35
  Speaker 4: Am I wrong?
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: No?
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: You're you're right? So where do they go? I haven't
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: figured this one out. If you want them at your house,
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: where do they go that they can like be teenagers
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: and they can hang and watch a movie and whatever.
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: But like you're not sitting in your bedroom. That's not
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: that isn't non negotiable. Where do they go?
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: Is your is your basement?
• 53:59
  Speaker 4: It's above ground? Does that count?
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 54:03
  Speaker 4: Does that make it a little bit?
• 54:04
  Speaker 2: That makes it better? Is there a TV like on
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: a back porch somewhere?
• 54:07
  Speaker 4: There is?
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: That's always like, no doubt. I feel like we've all
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: been young men. Even when you're going in your girlfriend's.
• 54:16
  Speaker 3: House and they got you know, if that doesn't allow
• 54:19
  Speaker 3: them to go into the bedroom, You're like, okay, you
• 54:21
  Speaker 3: check the box. We're not gonna be allowed to go
• 54:22
  Speaker 3: in the bedroom. How do you figure this out as
• 54:24
  Speaker 3: a young male? Like this is what goes through on market?
• 54:27
  Speaker 3: So like and then when you if you go down
• 54:28
  Speaker 3: the basement, if it's a if it's a narrow hallway
• 54:31
  Speaker 3: going down, or where you got to turn left to
• 54:32
  Speaker 3: get to the TV room, you're thinking there's enough time
• 54:35
  Speaker 3: to where you could hear something coming down, Like this
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: is instinctively how the male brain operates.
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm well aware, and now apply all those thoughts
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: to your daughter. And you wonder why I want to
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: like locker in the basic Yeah, I take back every
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: single thing I've said.
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: For the last forty minutes.
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, but this is like real shit that
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: I think about, like where.
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: I don't have only you know, I haven't been to
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: your basement. I don't know, Like it's fair we open
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: the next time I fly to Charlotte, I'll go.
• 55:02
  Speaker 4: When you've come, we can do a walk, we can
• 55:04
  Speaker 4: do like a security chance, sit on the.
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: Couch, all come down, let me know how loud I
• 55:08
  Speaker 2: want to stop. Stop?
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: How from when you first heard my footstep? How much
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: time you saw my body? Yes, and we're timing it.
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: I'm writing it in a journal and then we're like
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: marking different. All right, you guys can sit in this couch.
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: This room's too far removed. That's an ex.
• 55:25
  Speaker 5: Greg needs to be the one walking down the stairs
• 55:27
  Speaker 5: and we need to be cuddled on the couch and
• 55:29
  Speaker 5: the same blank.
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: Can we repeat that? Yeah, see if you can kind
• 55:32
  Speaker 2: of get readjusted.
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: Why you had the blanket, your your your completely red
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: face even making out for an hour?
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Greg, Greg's like, why are you guys doing this? This
• 55:43
  Speaker 2: is my daughter?
• 55:43
  Speaker 3: Like, Greg, We've got to give you real, real example,
• 55:46
  Speaker 3: that's real.
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: This is how we were.
• 55:48
  Speaker 5: Bro.
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: I think that's a that might there might be a
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: business there, Like do you guys go around.
• 55:54
  Speaker 4: Houses and scope out that's not a bad idea.
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: You know people checks, Yeah, they check like your windows
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: and your shrubs, and you don't want to cover certain
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: areas of egress. And like there could be like a
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: company that goes around and gives you like a report
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: on your household for teenage kids, Like, all right, in
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: our opinion, we might be onto something here. Yeah, these
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: are the rooms that you can safely allow access. These
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: are the rooms that you should not allow access.
• 56:20
  Speaker 2: Greg, These are your danger zones right here. These are
• 56:22
  Speaker 2: your corners that you need to watch. You're not a
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: bad idea. You think dating, So do you think sports?
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: We just put dating on the end. Yeah, yeah, I
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: feel like we're onto something. There's something there, But.
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: I think about that a lot, like there is and
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: then you've got to apply the same logic to like
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: who they're dating, Like do they.
• 56:39
  Speaker 4: Have any rules?
• 56:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: They allowed anywhere? Do I if they are allowed anywhere?
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: Do I like get involved? Do you get it's like,
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: what are the rules there? Like I don't want to
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: tell another man how to run his house, but like
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: you got my daughter at your house home?
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: Bok, Yeah, I do feel like I don't know what?
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: Do you dot to be some type of relationship that
• 56:57
  Speaker 3: has to be formed so you guys can be aligned
• 56:58
  Speaker 3: in on the same page.
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: You know the game, Like can you take them golfing? Golf?
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: You got good crew? You take him out to you
• 57:07
  Speaker 2: take him out to golf it's you, it's keik Lee,
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: it's Swan.
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 57:14
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, but like that ship's real.
• 57:19
  Speaker 5: Yeah, man, and Greg, just just because we are trying
• 57:23
  Speaker 5: to hit a good time for you.
• 57:24
  Speaker 2: We get lost in the sa We could get lost
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: in the sauce. Oh you're good.
• 57:28
  Speaker 4: We've got a couple more minutes.
• 57:29
  Speaker 2: Okay, cool? What things do we need to hit? One?
• 57:33
  Speaker 2: Do you want to ask a question that somebody had
• 57:34
  Speaker 2: for Greg? Yes?
• 57:35
  Speaker 5: I thought it'd be fun if we hit the questions
• 57:38
  Speaker 5: for Greg. We reach out to some of our listeners.
• 57:42
  Speaker 5: They got some nice, easy, fun questions for you.
• 57:45
  Speaker 3: Okay, here we go. This one is from b Bat
• 57:47
  Speaker 3: one oh four on Discord. As a sports dad, what's
• 57:50
  Speaker 3: the top three items Greg has in his survival kid
• 57:54
  Speaker 3: Whether it's on game day, for practice, training, or raising
• 57:57
  Speaker 3: athletes at home, these are necessities.
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: Number one is my is my shoe choice. I'll spend
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: countless hours a day on my feet most of the
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: time in the heat of North Carolina. A lot of
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: our stuffs in the summer and it's pretty warm all
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: year round, So my shoe.
• 58:15
  Speaker 4: Choice every day is critical.
• 58:17
  Speaker 2: My my.
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: If I can't be on my feet all day and
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: on my feet my feet ended my career, so I'm
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: very sensitive to what I put on my feet. So
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: number one is shoe choice, and I have three pairs
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: of shoes.
• 58:32
  Speaker 4: Shout out on Cloud. Not a sponsor by them all.
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, great shoes for my career, but not a plug.
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: They I have zero relationship with on Cloud for the record,
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: I have three pairs of on Cloud shoes and any
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: given rotation, I have a dirty pair of on cloud sneakers,
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: I have a less dirty pair of on cloud sneakers,
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: and I have like a relatively dressy that I would wear.
• 58:56
  Speaker 2: With like pants. Oh, the street shoes they're like, yeah.
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: They're like flat bottom like they're sneakers, but they're like
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: flat bottom like they're a little bit more addressed the
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: wear with jeans, like the Genos or whatever. As the
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: clean normal sneakers over time become the dirty ones, then
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: I buy a new pair of clean ones.
• 59:15
  Speaker 4: And then they just cycle their way through.
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: So when I leave the house, yeah, mental check, Am
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  Speaker 1: I going to practice? Am I going to grind on
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: the field all day dirty on clouds all day long?
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: And then I make my decisions from there. So I
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  Speaker 1: got three shoes in the rotation. That's number one.
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  Speaker 4: Number two.
• 59:32
  Speaker 5: My dad's fist bumping by the way he my dad
• 59:35
  Speaker 5: is a big believer.
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: I'm a big but when my kids leave that and
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: this is a we could go on and on, like
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: my kids love leaving the house with poor footwear. It's
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: a teenage thing. Yeah, Like there will go to like
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: a baseball game, like a say, we're going to like
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: the Charlotte Knights.
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: Which is like a minor league baseball team uptown.
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: They'll walk out of the house and like flip flops,
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, swag man, No, I'm like, like, what
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: happens if all of a sudden, you got you get
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: called to run the bases at the seventh inning stretch?
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: Like That's how my mind is. You never know when
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: a basketball game breaks out and you got bad shoes.
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 2: You're not ready for opportunity. You're not ready.
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: Like what if all of a sudden, it's like we
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: need a kid to come and catch a ball in
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: center field for season tickets and you wear in flip flops.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: They wear flip flops and crocs. There's times they've gone
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: to school with no shoes on. It's a very weird thing. Anyway,
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: to answer your question, shoes. Number one. If I'm going
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: to like we do a lot of baseball with the boys,
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: I have a bucket in my car, so I have
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: to have a bucket of baseballs at all time. Number one,
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: you never know when you got to do flips. But
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: more importantly, it's my chair. That's what I sit on,
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: carried around, put it down. That's my chair, whether I'm
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: coaching or just as a parent. So I got my
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: bucket at all times.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 2: Some soft toss in.
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: Never know when you need soft toss, and never know
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: when you need a seat, especially if your shoes are uncomfortable.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Number three, because there's a lot that I that I
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: have on me at all times. But those are probably
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: the two biggest ones.
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  Speaker 5: A good hat, I feel like you have a yeah yeah, Greg, Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: That's a great one.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 1: The shades I more hit or missed. But there's one
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: hundred percent of the time if you see me outside
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: at any of the kids sports stuff, I got a
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: hat on. And it's got to be a hat you're
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: willing to that's a really good call. It's got to
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: be a hat you're willing to get sweaty. So I
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: have certain hats at home that if I know there's
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: any chance, like I go my wife walks me to
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 1: walk the dog with her, it's got to be a
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: sweat hat.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 4: And then there's hats.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: That you you might get them a little damp, but
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: like they're not going to be sweat through.
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 4: Because you got to keep those nice. So I have
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 4: sweat hats.
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: I have casual hats, and then like nicer hats that
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: you know you're not going to mess up.
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 4: So yeah, good hat, good shoes.
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 2: And I gotta have my bucket. Gotta have the bucket.
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 5: And then I got a question here for you. I
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 5: thought it'd be fun if you read it. And we
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 5: usually we shout the tag at the top.
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 4: All right, here we go, Joe Underscore. Is that what
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 4: you call those?
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: Yes? Yeah, yeah, yeah, union still called all right?
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: So on Instagram, this is Joe Underscore, Sarcos ninety one
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: Underscore Instagram. He has Instagram in his handle, Like that
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: just means.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 2: It's from its So is that wow?
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 3: Underscore, Joe underscorees Sarcos ninety one.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 2: Got it all? Joe.
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 1: I'm not a I'm not a great SOI media guy,
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: Joe Underscore. I was like, this guy has Instagram in his.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 5: Handle Dad convention, Like, my entire process is gone now
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 5: I gotta read.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 1: Joe Sarcos have multiple handles, but he just can't keep
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 1: them all straight, so he enables him like Underscore TikTok,
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: Underscore Snap Joe Sarcos, We got it anyway, all right,
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: question by.
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 4: Joe Underscore Sarcos ninety one. It's written better here.
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: What is the biggest dad win and dad fail you've experienced.
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 4: We've we've have assumed to be we error on the.
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 2: Grand this is this is good, This is good. I
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  Speaker 2: do that and everybody like you.
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 1: No, it's not dumb, it's grammatic incorrect, but it's fine.
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we have not weave, have they?
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: So the apostrophe the apostrophe ve is the contraction for
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: the word half, so we don't need weave and have
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: they're both the same anyway, gumbling Anyway, we have a
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 1: soon to be three year old quote parentheses Noah and
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: as soon to be one year old Violet. So I've
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 1: had a lot of both. My biggest dad wink.
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 3: This is probably when the missus was wrong on something
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 3: she likes. Yeah, the steer and you're kind of like, hey,
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 3: I was kind of right on that I'm.
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 2: Trying to think.
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: You know, it's amazing. I'm thinking so hard that I
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: haven't had that. I I've had way less wins than
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: right now.
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 4: You would think I'm really playing this uff, like.
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I got a laundry list. I have
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 1: a lot more fails. What about biggest win from this
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: week with your daughter? Try my biggest biggest win this week?
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 1: I think the biggest win this week was like my
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: daughter the first night, going in, getting to like walk
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: that like little like mini red carpet of the first night,
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: and like everyone takes a picture with their date, you know,
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 1: their plus one, and like probably is the only time
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 1: I've ever done any like event with just her, without
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 1: my wife or without the boys, So just the two
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 1: of us. Like she got all dressed up, did her hair,
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 1: couldn't help her much, but did her. She did her hair,
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: did her little makeup routine. She looked cute in her
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 1: little dress, walked in together, got to stand in front
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: of the step and repeat, like take a picture. And
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 1: immediately after she's like, Dad, will you send that to me?
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 1: And I was like, she wants.
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: To share this, like she wants to crack a cold
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 2: one that she.
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 1: Wants to She wanted to share it like it's she
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: thought it was cool to share a picture of her
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: and her dad, so like that felt that felt good.
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 2: Greg, That's a huge win.
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 4: That is a huge win.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: Guys, we know what that sound is. That is lollipop.
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 5: I got one of their new flavors, BlackBerry Vanilla right
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 5: here in front of me. We also have our raspberry
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 5: Sherbet right there in front of Will. We're crazy about
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 5: these new flavors. We're really crazy about any.
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 2: And all of the flavors. Will's also God, the Chris Apple.
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: Is that a classic grape? I see? Yeah?
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 3: Dude, do you get new designs? I don't know the
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 3: allipop siicos out there.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 2: You're gonna understand. These are new designs, sleek, badass.
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 5: They're getting all the cans refresh, not that they needed them,
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 5: but these new logos, these new kind of like.
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 2: The stronger color. Yeah, in a metallicke machine to it. Yeah,
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: cooking with gas. Tell them how they're gonna get a
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 2: free one. Well, they've been cooking with gas as well.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 5: Just said, you can get any lollipop, you get two flavors,
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 5: doesn't matter, mix or match. You will get one for free.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 5: That's by any two cans of lollipop in store, and
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 5: they will pay you back for one works on any
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 5: flavor at any retailer. Go to drinkollipop dot com, forward
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 5: slash BWTB to redeem and Ollipop is sold online at
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 5: drinkollipop dot Com and Amazon and available in the soda
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 5: aisle with the Chill beverages at thousands of retailers nationwide,
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 5: including wal martin Target, Amen, Ptsikos. Let's get back to
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 5: Greg Olsen for your teenage daughter to want to spend
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 5: time with you in those settings, as silly as it sounds,
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 5: and I think for people that have younger kids like
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 5: it probably sounds like a given.
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not a given.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: So I'll take any of those wins that I can get.
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 1: One on one time when you have multiple kids is
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: super special, and I need to do a better job
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 1: making sure that that one on one time is not
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: always doing things that I want to do when I
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 1: want to do it and they just tag along. But
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 1: also being like, what do you want to do on
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 1: your free time, even if it's something I wouldn't necessarily
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 1: be interested in. I think that's important. I don't always
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: do that. But I think that's important and something I'm
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: working on.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 5: And we can we can skip the biggest dad loss
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 5: that was in that question. And uh, just for time
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 5: purposes to close this out, what.
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 2: I have one more were sick. Let's hear it.
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 3: Let's test chlora. Do your kids take any supplements? And
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 3: if so, what and at what age did they say they.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 4: Do not take any supplement?
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: What great is your oldest he'll be a rising freshman, okay, and.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 2: He's not on anything yet. No, my old man had
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 2: me on creatine in middle school.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 4: Any colostrum, sorry, colostrum, isn't colostrum from like breast milk?
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, No, I mean not since they're he ain't
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 1: taking No, I.
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 2: Was wondering if you have. I'm not knocking it.
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 1: We have a lot of friends whose kids are on
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: supplements and stuff, and I think supplements has a has
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 1: an interesting rap Like I don't think there's any problems
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 1: with like having a protein shake. We definitely my dad
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 1: made us tons of like protein shakes when we were
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 1: in middle school.
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 4: In high school, we would pound you.
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 1: Remember, in a carnation instant breakfast and it was like
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 1: that powder and you'd mix it with the milk, and
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: my dad would just make us like drink it until we.
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: Were got to get the.
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 1: I was thin and skinny as a young kid, not
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: so much anymore, but like I would classify like supplements.
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 1: Like my dad in high school made us pack two
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 1: peanut butter and jelly sandwiches every single day to go
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 1: to school with only our backpack. And that was like
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 1: our mid morning and late afternoon snack before practice. In
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 1: today's day and age, you would get it in like
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 1: a fancy protein bar or a shake or something, but
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 1: that's a supplement. It's a calorie dense, protein rich snack.
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 2: And you got your boy on some snacks.
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 1: And then we try to and yeah, we try to
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 1: have them bring like whether their protein bars or just
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 1: you know, there's a bazillion of them, and once they
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: find some that we like, we just try to fill
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 1: up the drawers at home. And instead of grabbing a
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 1: bag of cheese, it's or a bag of re sized candy,
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 1: like yeah, some more something decent, but not we're not
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 1: taking like pills run doing.
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 2: Like no powers, no, no injections. We're thinking about the injection.
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 5: It's more so dead so dad, Yeah, sos dot c
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 5: l o R on Instagram.
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 2: Thank you for the questions. That's like zero supplements.
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 4: As of this moment, we are all of our nutrition
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 4: is coming through what we eat.
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 2: I love you should check out the monohydrate.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 5: We check out the gloster too, Coloster, that's where it's
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 5: at for just final words, final thoughts.
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 2: You got two guys here with kids all under five.
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 2: Do you have any advice?
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: I feel like I've given it for a guy that
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 1: doesn't know a lot. I feel like I've offered a
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 1: lot of advice. I think in closing the best way
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 1: I could summarize my first fifteen years of parenting. And
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know what the next stage looks like. I've
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 1: never had a high school kid yet, so we'll tackle
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 1: that when we get there with the oldest. I'll have
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 1: a high school kid in six months, so I'm sure
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: that'll change a lot. I think the biggest advice that
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 1: I would offer is mostly like anything in my life,
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 1: like through all the shit that I've done wrong, so
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 1: like enjoy them, love on them, embrace all the moments
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 1: that you get, like even we're all in such a
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 1: hurry to like go to the next thing. And that
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 1: was always my personality, Like I was always thinking what's next,
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: what's next. It's never good enough, it's never good enough. Like,
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 1: don't apply those standards to your own kids, because just
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 1: let them be, Like, let them experience life, give them guidance,
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 1: give them advice, tell them when they're wrong, be very
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 1: honest with them, good and bad. But they're gonna mess up,
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 1: and there is you have to give yourself a little grace.
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 1: You have to give them a little bit grace. Don't
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 1: look at their failures like your failures. I think that
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: sometimes is hard, right, Like we all look at someone
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 1: that we're responsible for, and you love so much with
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 1: every ounce of your soul, and when things don't go
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: their way, like you take it personal and you're like,
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 1: I'm failing. I'm doing a bad job as a parent.
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 1: If I did better, they would be better. You know,
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 1: all kids are gonna screw up. All kids are gonna
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 1: have bad days. Like, give yourself a little grace, give
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 1: them a little grace. I have not always been good
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 1: at that, but man, just enjoy special moments with them.
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 1: Love them because I'm three years away from my first
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: one leaving college, and who knows if they ever come back.
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 1: And then five years from my two leaving college, I'm
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: five years away from having no kids in my house.
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 2: So as yes as.
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 1: The days are, and think about that, right, like as
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: busy as our days are and as frustrating at times,
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 1: and we all the lives that we live which are
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 1: so busy, And I'm five years away from all three
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 1: of my kids being out of the house and over
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 1: eighteen and.
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 4: Whether they ever come home.
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: You hope they don't come home, Maybe they do, hopefully
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 1: they want to come visit you. But uh, that's a
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 1: scary part. Like, yeah, your time with your kids yet
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 1: eighteen years of it guaranteed and fifteen of them for
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 1: my oldest is already done.
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 2: Five summers left. Ye dude, Well we thank you. Greg. Yeah.
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 5: I hate that it feels like we're ushering him out,
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 5: but I just know he's got a fun golf tournament.
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: Go au golf that I can sit here and talk
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 1: about all the things that I've done wrong parenting all day.
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 1: So this is actually a great pod for me to
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 1: get on. Yes, it's very therapeutic, isn't it, to like
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 1: just shoot shit with the boys, and no doubt all
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 1: the things you don't know anything about some things you
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 1: think you know about and things that you know virtually
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 1: will completely fuck up.
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 4: It's kind of a very freeing experience.
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 2: Let you get ahead of it. We love you.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 3: We're positioned as we're not experts, we have no pets
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 3: going on, but we're just gonna talk.
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 1: And if I get this wrong, don't hold it against
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 1: me because I told you I was going to screw
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 1: it up.
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 2: So I'm good. Yeah, I'm good.
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 3: Every week we'll come in with an APR reporter after
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 3: pod report from our wives, like, because our wives will listen,
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 3: we'll screw stories.
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 2: Up all that correctly, so we'll have to correct the record.
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 2: I love it. We're just here. It's just all therapy
• 1:12:41
  Speaker 2: for this.
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 1: When my wife listens to me, like do these pods
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 1: where I like, I am just honest. She's like, I
• 1:12:46
  Speaker 1: appreciate your honesty. I think that sometimes you should listen
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 1: to yourself more.
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right.
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 1: She's like, you have great advice, Maybe sometimes you should
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 1: adhere to it. I'm like, you're one hundred percent.
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 2: Right, did Greg? You are the man.
• 1:13:01
  Speaker 3: I'm thankful that we've gotten know each other through the
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 3: media cycle playing against each other for one of those.
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 2: Games we have an awesome story about it. You can
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