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Mother's Day Special · Nick and Kristen in the Podcast

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Hello and welcome to Nick and Kristen in the podcast.
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Yes, we're still doing this, surprisingly.
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We are married, we have a 7 year old daughter and we used to be
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on the radio. Now we're just on your YouTube
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or your Spotify or your podcast. Yes, we are here and having fun
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and doing basically the show that we know how to do only in a
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smaller condensed form that you take with you exactly.
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So thank you for watching, thank you for listening, thank you for
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liking, subscribing hopefully, and hopefully you'll come back
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for more episodes. This is really kind of like the
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Mother's Day wrap up episode. Yes.
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So you're gonna get to know us a lot.
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So we're gonna call this basically the Mother's Day
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special? Yes, first I want to talk about
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a mom that went viral because of this hot tape.
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So dads are going to get something wrong on Mother's Day.
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That's just the way it is. She says says dads don't stand a
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chance because decisions still need to be made and they going
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to do something that isn't the way that she would do it and
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that causes her added stress. So how was Mother's Day?
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Yeah, I mean, I, I think my expectations are low on Mother's
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Day, and I don't mean that in like a mean way.
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Felt mean but no, it's like. I don't expect much.
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You know, like if you go through, if you expect an entire
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day of you not having to do anything or make any decisions,
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like are you alive at that point?
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Because I just feel like, well, at some point you're going to
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have to make a decision about something like, or somebody's
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going to ask your opinion. And you can't be like, but it's
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Mother's Day. Like if, well, you came to me a
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like 2 days ago or something and you're like, what do you want to
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do? And I was like, Nope.
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Like, that's the decision I don't want to make, right?
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Like you saying, hey, do you? I, I was thinking like, we could
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go out for pizza tonight. And I was like, OK, like that's
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technically checking in with me. And I don't.
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Really. Consider that like a fail.
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I was like, Oh no, OK, great. Yeah, I was going to.
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I was going to ask it in the form of a question.
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I was going to say we should go out tonight.
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Where? Somewhere you want to go?
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Oh no, I. Deleted it.
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That's the problem. I know.
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And I deleted it and I said we're going to pizza.
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Yeah, exactly. It's on board.
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That's no, that's totally like that's great.
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Like, I love the decisiveness, but Mother's Day was great.
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Lily took my breakfast order the night before, wrote it down on a
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piece of paper and so she was very excited to give me
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breakfast this morning and she presented me with a her cards
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that she had. Given yeah, she they made a lot
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of cards for you in school, like a lot of stuff and they they
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made like little flowers that we'll get into in a little bit.
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So here's the card that. She made it's like all water
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colored and really pretty. And like if she threw.
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Two birds on it. That's apparently us.
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If you're just listening to this podcast, please go to our
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YouTube. You'll see it there, but I'll
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read it. So there's like an All About Mom
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Yeah section here. Which did she?
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How'd she do? Cuz there's a couple I read over
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it. There's some wild cards in.
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Here. Yeah, whenever I was like, did
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she tell you that? Yeah, I was like, this is very
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strange. So all about mom.
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Mom is 43. That is incorrect.
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OK, I am. 43 Mom is 29, I'm 29. Yeah, mom like so yeah, OK the
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best thing she cooks is cookies and cupcakes.
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It's really the only thing that makes.
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I mean, she's a Baker, so that she nailed it, OK?
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My favorite food is chicken salad.
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That's where I was like, did mommy mention her chicken salad?
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That was. A huge question mark.
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I was like, well first of all, I cannot stand chicken.
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Like it's not my favorite food at all.
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I'll eat it. Discussion.
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Yeah. I'll have chicken salad, but
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like, I never order it when we're out or anything.
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Yeah, Her favorite thing to do to relax is sleep, which kind of
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tells me a little bit about me. Yeah, that she nailed that,
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yeah. We like to clean my room
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together. She's on kind of a cleaning
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kick, so I'm going to give that to her.
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She's really good at catching flies.
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We've had a fly issue lately because there's been a lot of
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flies around. Well, everybody keeps leaving
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the door open. Well, because when I see
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everybody, I mean you and Lily. Yeah, there's a bunch in the
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garage. And so they've been making their
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way in the house. And there was like an epic
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battle between me and a family a couple weeks ago.
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And Lily was there. And so it was, it took up our
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morning and we were like trying to destroy this fly.
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We finally got him. And then I it landed and I was
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like, and she was like, you're so good at that.
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And I was like, just got to wait there.
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They're tired, babe. Why you trying to catch him on
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the air? They got to land at some point.
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As you can see, my mom is special because she is the best
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mom ever. That's sweet.
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Then on the other side, there's like a whole paragraph.
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Look at the detail. I know go her that's.
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Great. About 60. 5% of it is spelled
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right. About about 1/3 of the way it
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starts to become about her though.
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Well, yeah, we all knew that was going.
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To happen. My mom is special.
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My mom is good at making necklaces.
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My mom helps with belt tests. Very specific.
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Yeah, I. Don't, though.
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She's in karate. My mom helps me learn to sew.
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My mom helps me when I'm hurt. My mom makes the best pancakes.
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Which she looked at me after she said that she was like reading.
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She's like my mom makes the best pancakes.
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She's like. Yeah, she doesn't like your
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pain. Was that a shot?
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She what? Yeah.
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She thinks I make the best pancakes.
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That's fine. Yeah, she.
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Can have that, but then it gets but then it gets wild here, but
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then it gets wild in here. My mom makes the best lunch and
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waffles. I'm like, first of all, I don't
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think I've ever made a waffle in my life unless it was Eggo.
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You're welcome. And like, it's a crapshoot if I
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make a lunch or not. My mom helps me.
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My mom makes them, helps me bake cake and cupcakes.
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I like baking, coloring, drawing, taking a walk, bike,
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riding, gardening, cleaning the house.
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What? Were we talking about again?
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Oh, Oh, by the way, you are wonderful, kind, sweet, the best
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soft, the best mom ever. I love you to the best mom from,
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from Lily Flowers. She's like her dad.
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She, she, I I only have one child.
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And then they took a little photo shoot.
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Yeah. And I thought that was cute.
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Too. And then on this one, it was
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like, I love you because and she said you do great pictures
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because we draw together. You let me bake with you.
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You are the best. You make me.
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Happy you and baking are the are what she remembers.
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Thank you for everything very sweet.
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And now, in the back, there's a poem.
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Yeah, there's a lot going on. She.
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Didn't write the poem, but the but she drew the pictures and
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there's me and her and stuff and then there was a card and it's a
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little tea and they put a little tea in it.
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They went all out. And then they made these flowers
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but, and we're going to get to the flowers, but you were
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annoyed when you saw all of this because you're like, well, they
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better go all out for Father's Day.
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And I said, well, they're not doing a darn thing for Father's
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Day because the school will be out by then.
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Yeah, Dad's kind of got screwed when it comes to school stuff,
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and I think maybe that's why we're as hard and as cold as we
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are. Sure.
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Yeah, Because sure, we show you love and affection your whole
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life and we are very much back seated for most of your
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childhood. It's not your, it's not your
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fault that the Father's Day is in June.
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And they know, but like they're definitely not going to make
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anything for Father's Day before that.
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And, and I think dads have just just, we don't ask for anything
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for Father's Day. We're just, we're required.
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We require nothing. And that's like the the way it
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goes. Maybe, but I mean like you
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expect something. Well, I have the one tradition
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that I wanted, and that's all I want.
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Gosh, every year, Father's Day, isn't it?
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Yeah. So Father's Day is Lily takes a
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picture dressed as one of my cosplaying as one of my favorite
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characters in anything. Of all the things that I'm nerdy
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in, she can choose or Mommy can choose basically whatever she
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wants to cosplay as and then like, take a picture.
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So I've got her dressed up as Princess Peach from Mario
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Brothers. I've got hers, Michael Jackson.
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Last year she was Al. Oh no, Al Bundy.
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Al Bundy was last year. Michael Jackson the year before
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a Charizard from Pokémon. She was Superman.
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She was she. Was yeah.
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So she's like tapping into all the nerddoms.
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At one point you were going to get her to dress up as.
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Audrey. Audrey 2 from Little Shop of
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Horrors, which is my favorite. I got the like Venus flytrap and
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I got a pot for her to sit in and it was she was little so she
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must have been like 4 because I ended up going with Princess
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Pete and she. Hated that because.
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She was terrified of the the headpiece, the the Venus try
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fly. And I was like, oh, honey, it
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will be so great. And she was like, yeah.
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And so I ended up going, I was like, well, let me get something
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pink and pretty and that, like, ease her into this tradition.
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And when she got Princess Peach, she sobbed hysterically.
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And I took the pictures anyways. I love.
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Those are my favorite favorite pictures.
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I have a it's a series of four pictures, her sobbing, her being
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comforted by me, her getting like kind of into it, and then
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her being like, yeah, I'm Princess Peach.
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And so I was like, that's how my day went taking this photo.
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So you get to see it too. So that's all I want for my
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tradition. I just, I think that's funny and
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I get to see a picture of her every year as she grows and one
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day she's going to be super into it and she'll and she'll come up
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with it on her own. So I'm excited for that.
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It would be great. But As for the schools, I get
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nothing. There's no acknowledgement.
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I just have to be the guy that just wants coffee or like a tie.
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Or yeah, it's going to be like some tie card or something.
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You've never worn a tie a day in your life?
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Yeah. But OK.
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So part of this Mother's Day thing was that I went into the
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school and I helped the kids make these tissue paper flowers.
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They were making bouquets of flowers for their moms for
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Mother's Day. Again, so many gifts for.
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Moms so many things. I'm just saying important every
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every time she pulls on. I was like, you made you made
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another and then she made her own card.
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Yeah, I got at home, she drew. A picture and drew a.
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Picture like this last week has been all about moms and it's
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like I mean that's great show your mommy lover.
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I just like I expect this on Father's Day.
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We can I get some sort of energy?
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Yeah, she's going. To hate you.
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OK, so. Refuses to watch anything I want
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to watch. She hates all the things that I
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hate. She hates all my cooking.
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Here's the energy that you're going to get.
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The energy you're going to get is I worked really hard on it.
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So I'm going to keep it because that's what I got.
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So I went into the schools. I helped make these tissue paper
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flowers, bouquets and like, so I'm helping Lily as she's making
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it. And so she's and I was like, by
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the way, everybody, this is for Mother's Day.
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So Lily makes it and she looks at me afterwards and she goes, I
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had a lot of fun doing this. My flowers came out really
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pretty. I know they're for Mother's Day,
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but I'm going to keep them. And I was like, OK, And I was
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like, why? And she goes, well, I worked
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really hard on them. And so I, I'm going to keep
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them. And that's sort of a theme
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that's been rising up a little bit in the house.
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Every time she works hard on something, which is a lot of
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things. Like pictures, arts and crafts,
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whatever it is. Mostly for things to give to
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mommy or to give to people, right?
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She wants to keep them because she likes them so much.
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Like if she writes a nice message in a card for a teacher
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or like up somebody's birthday, she'll be like, this sounds
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really nice. I'm going to keep it.
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I'm like, no, you can't keep it. And so I was like, look, you
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know, the whole point is that you're supposed to put effort
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in. And the whole point is that it's
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supposed to be you're you're giving something up to somebody
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else. Yes, of course I know you'd love
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to keep it, but you're giving it to me and that shows that you
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love me. She goes, you're not going to
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get it. And I was like fine, whatever
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this. Is a weird conversation to have.
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It's a hard. It is hard.
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It's a hard like problem to solve.
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Because I'm like, well, whatever then, you know.
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Yeah. And you don't want to make her
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feel bad and you don't want to, like, say that.
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No, you give. You have to give it to me
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because then you don't want it. Yeah.
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You want to instill what gift giving is supposed to be the.
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Spirit behind you, I want you to want to give it to me because
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you work so hard on it. So how do you like, how do you
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instill that? So my, my only way that I feel
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like we can combat this, and I'm probably wrong because I'm wrong
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about most things, is doing it to her is making something that
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I really, I want to make something for her.
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Or you make something for her because you love knitting and
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sewing and make it so good and be like, oh man, I was totally
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going to give this to you, but I like it so much that I'm going
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to keep. OK, so first of all, that's
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awful. I've been there's some
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manipulation and that's. My life, absolutely no way I
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would ever do that, but I did have.
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Only way she's going to know, right?
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But I had a but I had a conversation with her because
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she wants to make this heart purse.
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She wants me to help her sew it. And I said, how would you feel
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if I made the heart purse? And afterwards, I said, well, I
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worked really hard on this and I did most of the work, so I'm
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going to keep it. And she goes, oh, I'd be really
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sad. And I was like, that's how mommy
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feels. And she's like, well, it makes
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me sad to give you the flowers. And I was like, I understand,
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but like they were meant for me. Yeah, you've made them with me
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and mine. And like, do I care?
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Not really. But like, it's one of those
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things where it's like, I need her to understand that, you
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know, if she makes something for somebody, like she's supposed to
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give it to them. That feeling is why it means so
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much to somebody else of. Course, I know you would rather
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have it. Yeah, if you didn't work hard on
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it, I want your garbage. Like if I want you just like
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throwing something together and give it to me.
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I love it because you worked so hard on it with me and mine.
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Do you think the Jewelers like that put like put diamonds into
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bracelets are like, Oh, well, I worked really hard on this, like
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I'd like to keep it like, so I'm going to sell.
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This or the things you do at your work, like if you helped
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build a house. Like I worked really hard on
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this. House build this house.
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So I just, I'm just going to give.
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This. So I need.
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Yeah, we need, I need her to understand this is really, it's
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a really hard subject to navigate.
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So I'm gonna go with mind manipulation.
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No, I think that's awful. No, I think we, I think we
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punched home. I think we, we, we hit the
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point. We.
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I mean, I think this is a multiple conversation.
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I don't think she's gonna be like, oh, yeah, I got it.
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Never have to say this again. Yeah.
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She's definitely gonna grow out of it.
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Yeah, of course. But it's like it's, I can see it
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hurting your feelings, of course.
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So it's hard for me to just kind of like, let her do that.
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It hurts my feelings and I don't know why I let it because I know
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she's 7 and it's tissue paper flowers.
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Right. Yeah, the only ones that garbage
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anyway. And well, no, I mean, but it's
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like, I think it's the thing and maybe I'm just speaking for me.
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Maybe I'm not speaking for all women, but maybe I hopefully I
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will be like I feel like being a mom is one of the most
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underappreciated jobs. Like it looks really easy.
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And I think that, you know, people go, Oh yeah, you're doing
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great. And it's like born to do this.
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You don't understand like how hard this is.
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And I and I, and I'm not saying being a dad isn't hard.
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I think there's different challenges, but I but I think
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that when it comes to like the emotional labor of the house,
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like that's all me in in this house.
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It is. And so it's like, yeah, I want a
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day where I feel like I'm appreciated for the effort that
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I put in. And so it's, yeah, like I, it's
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me with the paper flowers, like I'm giving and I'm not getting
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like I want to give a little something too, you know?
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It'll all pay off in the end, like is what they tell us.
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I know, like, in the end, she's going to be a good person.
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She's going to be nice and kind and sweet and she's going to
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have a really good relationship with you.
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And so in the end, this is all going to work out.
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And what is she? What are you doing to instill
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she's going to have a good relationship?
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With you, with me, I'm just there.
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I'm trying to. I'm trying to be there.
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It could be more than that. You know that well, no, I'm, I'm
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like, I, I invest in her like, and I give her time and I play
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with her and I like try to teach her new things and like I want
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her to walk away with some sort of skill in life because of me.
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So I'm like, I'm there. No, I'm not just like there.
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No, no, I'm mentally and physically.
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There you are, you're very present.
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We go to all these things where parents are there and it's
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always the moms and like it's always the two of us, which, you
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know, at the end of the day, it could just.
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Be we don't need both of us. We don't.
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Need to be always there all the time.
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I know, but I'm there to show that like, hey, daddy comes to
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stuff. But yeah.
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It's but it's like, hey, we support you.
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And so, yeah, you're wonderful at that.
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We have a thing where she's going to be an artist when she
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grows up and I've already claimed the first one.
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So she's like, I'm going to paint, I'm going to become an
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artist. And I said as soon as you open
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your gallery, I'm buying the first painting.
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Yes, but there's a caveat to that because she thought that
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was so sweet that Daddy was going to buy her first painting
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or her first painting. And I said, well, here's what's
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going to happen, is Daddy's going to pay for it, but I'm
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going to pick it out. She thought that was hysterical.
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So she's like, I'm going to paint all these cool Superman
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and Star Wars theme. She doesn't know they're
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trademarks yet and I'm and Mommy's not not going to pick
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those, but daddy has to pay for it.
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See like. See how loving and supportive I
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was and then immediately got shot in the foot for it like.
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I'm sorry. That's fine Dad, it's OK.
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I'm just happy to be. Here, well I'm we're going to
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wrap up this podcast. I'm going to go and I'm going to
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open my tea. I have vanilla caramel from.
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Delicious. Yes, and why not?
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I will have it. I have no idea if this is
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caffeinated or not. This is going to be a big, big
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challenge either today, like, I'm going to be so exhausted,
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yeah, or I'm going to be like, whoo, let's do it.
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Happy Mother's Day to everybody listening for the Mother's Day
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special. Happy Mother's Day to Kristen.
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