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Ladies Beware...When Looking for a "Traditional" Relationship · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  It is a popular topic these days. You
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  don't want a man who wants 50 -50, you want a man who
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  has a provider mindset, traditional male -female
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  roles, and I get all of that. But
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  be careful what you wish for. So
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  let's talk about it. As a professional matchmaker
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  for 16 years, I have learned so much and I
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  think it's so easy to pick up these words and phrases
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  and even ideas from social media, okay? And
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  there, but there's a lot more that you need to know
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  if you want to toss out those things, okay? Like
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  I want a man who's a provider, traditional male
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  -female role. You have to really be careful
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  because here's what's gonna happen. First
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  of all, God forbid anything goes south and the
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  relationship goes sour. But you do have to prepare for
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  the worst, right? Because you're a smart cookie. You
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  don't want to go in just wanting him to pay for
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  everything and you being, you know, his lady who
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  keeps the house and all the money is his and he
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  controls the money. You don't ever want to do
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  that. That's not a good move. I
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  know a lot of ladies who end up in really bad
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  marriages down the road, down the road when things
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  take a turn and they don't even have the money to
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  leave him, not even to leave him, much less
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  divorce him. They can't even leave because
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  they don't really work. They
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  can't get a job that would pay any kind of amount of
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  money for them to have the money for a deposit on a
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  place or moving fees, etc. I
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  know these women. I know it's real and guess
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  what they have to do? Put up with this shit. They
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  have to stay while secretly being very, very unhappy,
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  trying to plot something so that they could make their
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  escape, but they just can't. They
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  just can't. So be careful when you get
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  into these relationships where he makes all the
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  money and he controls the money and you're just, you
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  know, on his payroll in that sense. Okay?
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  You're his wife. You're his, you know, long -term
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  partner, but you just always, I think the smarter
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  move is to always have something going on for
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  yourselves. It makes you more interesting
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  as a person. It makes you sexier. It
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  makes you more of a challenge and let's face
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  it, men are hunters. They do like a challenge and if
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  you've got nothing going on and all of your whole life
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  revolves around him or your kids and that's good too,
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  but you've got to have something going on more
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  than that just to keep the relationship exciting, to
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  keep you on the cutting edge of what's going on in
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  the world, knowing what's up outside your home, and
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  then having some money for yourself. Okay?
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  That's the smartest move. I hope it helps.