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What Changes In Your Life If the Narcissist Disappears? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So if the narcissist or toxic person in your life were to
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  disappear, like poof, they were gone, they vanished.
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  What would change in your life? What differences?
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  What would happen to you immediately, like right now in
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  the future? What would change?
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  That's what we're talking about today, y'all.
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  The narcissist in your life would disappear.
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  It's about healing and growth and whatnot.
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  Y'all. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and welcome to yet another episode of The
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  Narcissist Code. Let's get it.
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  My theme music get me hype. Does it get you hype?
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  It gets me hype, gets me hype. Seriously, this is what goes on
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  y'all narcissistic people, Toxic people tend to try to ruin your
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  life. They tend life without trying
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  sometimes because they're deeply involved and deeply ingrained in
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  your life. Because that's what we're
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  talking about today, y'all? Healing from narcissistic abuse.
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  Like one of the things that you need to realize is that you
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  don't need the narcissist. You don't need the toxic person.
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  You don't need the abusive person in your life because
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  that's one of the most important questions that you're going to
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  answer on your healing and growth journey.
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  What happens if they would disappear?
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  What happens if they vanish? It if like if Thanos, if y'all
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  know who Thanos is from The Avengers.
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  Like the person who snapped his fingers and half the universe
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  disappeared was unaloged. If Thanos were to snap his
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  fingers and your partner were to vanish in your life, what what,
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  what, what differences would happen?
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  Because that's one of the questions that's going to help
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  you heal, help you grow and help you thrive.
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  What changes like in order to heal, in order to you have to
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  understand that you do not need this person in your life.
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  I know so many people be like, well, Lee, yes I do.
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  You don't if this person were to disappear, right What what
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  changes in your life right now if this poof has be gone?
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  I'm asking you don't just look at me.
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  What changes what happens in your life if this person because
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  this is what you need to understand is the fact that you
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  need to understand that you can heal live without this person
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  around. The important fact need to
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  understand, and that's why I'm just so big on harping.
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  You don't need this person in order to heal.
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  You don't need in order to. What you need to understand is
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  that you don't need them. That's one thing you need to
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  understand is you don't need them.
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  So get clear on it right now. What changes in your life if
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  this person were to disappear? No, no, no, I know I need to say
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  this right now. I'm not telling you to make them
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  disappear. I'm not telling you to make them
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  vanish and they never found again, right?
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  This is not what I'm saying. I'm saying that what happens if
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  this person want to break up with you?
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  If this person were to find a new supply, would you just give
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  up or would you fight to keep going forward?
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  Do you have kids? Do you have to survive and
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  thrive? For what changes, get clear on
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  it. Because a lot of times your life
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  would not cease to exist because you, you, you're like, yo, let's
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  be real. You don't have a damn umbilical
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  cord attached to them. Like you're not.
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  If they were to disappear, it's not like you're going to be
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  like, oh, my umbilical cord is gone, so they're gone too.
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  That's not what's going to happen, is it?
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  That's not going to happen. But you, just because this
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  person disappears doesn't mean that your life is going to end.
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  It doesn't mean that your life is going to be over now, does
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  it? It's important to get clear on
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  this. I talked about this yesterday.
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  I know if y'all were here today, I thought, right, You have to
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  understand that this person, you have to understand that this a
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  necessity for survival. I'm I know that everybody's
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  situation is going to be different, right?
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  I know you might depend on this person financially, but if if
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  this person were to vanish, what would you do?
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  Would you just sit there and let your kids start get to and make
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  some shit fucking shake? Would you make some shit happen
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  if this person would disappear, if this person was to ghost you
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  and run off into this broad to the sunlight or the moonlight or
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  go to straight to fucking hell with someone else?
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  Would you just give up? No, you would that this.
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  That's why I want you to get clear on it in this video today.
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  Do not need this person in order to survive.
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  You do not need this person in order to heal and move forward
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  and to give yourself the opportunity to grow.
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  Like what changes in your life if this person is no longer here
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  with you? I'm not telling you this.
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  I'm not saying this person lives or dies or passes away, but this
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  person might leave you. I know you might be attached to
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  this person. I know that you yourself might
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  be trauma bonded to them, but in it it still that doesn't matter
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  at the end, at the end of things, because what actually
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  changes if this person goes away?
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  Seriously, I'm asking you because I know it might be tough
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  at first, but you would make it happen.
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  Make a What I'm trying to tell you right now is to make a plan
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  of action in case that this person does go away, in case
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  that this person does ghost you, in case that this person does go
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  out there and find somebody else, go find a new supply and
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  just outright abandoned you because that's what narcissistic
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  people want you to do. They want to get you, get you to
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  the point where you're dependent upon them for so much and they
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  offer you so little and then they flip the script and they
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  leave your ass and you're still, even when they leave you, you're
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  still dependent upon them. Now, I'm not telling you to go
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  out here and leave them to find somebody else.
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  That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that you have to
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  understand you don't need this person in order to survive.
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  Like you don't need this person in order to grow, in order to
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  heal, in order to move forward. You do not need them.
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  You absolutely do not. I know you feel like you might
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  because of things that have transpired and things that have
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  happened, but you don't. It's absolutely healing.
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  Season is absolutely growth. Season is absolutely time to
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  grow and time to thrive. Seriously, that's why I tell
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  y'all. That's why I want y'all to win.
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  I want you to understand that you don't need this bastard.
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  Yeah, I have a whole course. If you don't know, I have a
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  whole course that you can find at mentalillness.net about
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  find the course. You can go straight to the site
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  to find the course, like just Scroll down to mental on
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  though, if I do say so myself, because it's 40 longer videos,
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  25,000 words of script to help you heal.
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  Seriously. But this is important.
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  Get clear on who this person is to you.
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  That's why I'm trying to be in this.
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  I'm trying to just ingrain into your head.
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  And in order to heal, you have to get clear on who this person
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  is to you, who they represent. Like you know, if you like, you
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  can make it on your own. Like if this person is not your
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  parent, you made it this far in life without them.
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  Even if you made them, if you, even if you met them at 1617
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  years old, 1820 years old, you made it 20 years without them.
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  What makes you think you can't make it without what, what what?
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  What makes you think you can't make it longer without them?
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  Narcissistic people want to convince you that you need them
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  to survive, that you need them to move forward, that you need
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  them in order to just progress forward in life.
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  That you, you don't like you nobody without them.
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  Even if they leave you, leave you for someone else, they try
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  to convince you that you will be no one without them.
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  So I want you to understand that you are someone without them.
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  Whether you with them or not, you are someone.
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  You're someone special, right? That's why I want you to
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  understand. That's why I want you to get
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  deep ingrained into your damn minds, because with or without
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  this narcissistic person, you are someone.
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  Again, they're going to try to convince you that you're not,
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  but they don't get you out. They don't get a say in who you
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  are. They don't.
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  So ask yourself this question, y'all.
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  We're going to wrap it up here pretty soon.
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  What happens if this person were to disappear?
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  Write down the positive things. Y'all don't.
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  You can write down the negative things as well, but don't super
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  focus on the negative things. I would be sad.
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  I would be depressed. I would be this.
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  I would be. Yeah, you're going to be that.
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  We. Yeah, we know you're going to be
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  that. But what happens after?
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  Do you give up or do you keep fucking fighting?
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  Mostly, Y'all, y'all, don't you? Look, you're not a fighter.
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  If you follow me like you follow me, you're definitely a fighter.
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  No, I, I mixed it up. If you follow me, you're
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  definitely a fucking fighter. That's why you're here.
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  You understand the fight, not the fight.
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  Stay the fight to be free. Whatever freedom looks like to
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  you, you don't give up. You understand that you there's
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  a fight to be, there's a fight that's going on, a fight that's
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  brewing. And you're cooking up the
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  witch's call, the witch's brew, right?
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  So what happens? This person with a disappear,
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  disappear. Get clear on the positive
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  aspects and understand that you can and you will survive without
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  them. I would just crumble.
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  Not a fuck you wouldn't you just think you would crumble?
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  But you would absolutely survive and move forward.
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  Anyway, y'all hit that subscribe button if you haven't.
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  I'm out. Peace.
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  Thank you so much again. I will see you in the next
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