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Big Homie · We Talk Back

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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.
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Speaker 1: What's up y'all? At your girl a j holiday? What's
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Speaker 1: up to? Dam?
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Speaker 2: I love y'all, Havy Thanksgiving folks, I love y'all. How
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Speaker 2: do we get to?
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Speaker 1: I like to say what you're grateful for this week?
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Speaker 2: Well, that's a good question. I am grateful for good health.
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Speaker 2: I'm grateful for healthy relationships. I'm grateful for bundle deals tomorrow.
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Speaker 2: I'm grateful for my side teeth. Yo, I am. I
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Speaker 2: was just looking on I'm grateful for that the Lord,
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Speaker 2: and I'm grateful for we talk about podcasts. What about
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Speaker 2: to hear it?
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Speaker 1: Let me see what I'm grateful for this week? Mmmm? Family? Right?
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Speaker 1: Always grateful for good good health. If you can't find
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Speaker 1: anything to be grateful for, but your ass have have
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Speaker 1: a good bill of health, there goes your reason. Definitely grateful,
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Speaker 1: Definitely grateful for We Talk Back. Okay, grateful for this
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Speaker 1: macaroni and cheese I make because it's really all I
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Speaker 1: have to eat for Thanksgiving. You know, I'm eating a
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Speaker 1: nigga food and yeah, family, friends, all the good things.
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Speaker 1: That's what I'm grateful for.
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Speaker 2: Man, what are you cooking? Just mac and cheese? That's it.
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Speaker 1: Cheese is seafood, salad, and I got to make my own.
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Speaker 1: Like I'll probably make like some salmon and something like that,
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Speaker 1: like a filet salmon, because I don't need the meats,
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Speaker 1: some pies and what else am I responsible for? I
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Speaker 1: make a crap some crab rice.
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Speaker 2: M h that's it, and almost some of the up
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Speaker 2: put some in the milk.
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Speaker 1: It be busting too. I put a little bit of
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Speaker 1: coconut cream in there. M hmm.
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Speaker 2: That sounds nice. I'm first of all, I'm responsible for
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Speaker 2: five different family families macaroni and cheese, and I don't
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Speaker 2: know how I set myself like charging it. Yeah, I'm selling.
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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm about to say, y'all. One year, me and
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Speaker 1: Tammy swapped rare rice for macaroni, Like, but I wait
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Speaker 1: a minute, I actually made the red rice for you,
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Speaker 1: and all you gave me was the macaroni cheese recipe.
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Speaker 1: What wake a minute? What's happening? What that has has
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Speaker 1: tweaked a little bit bit because I'm not putting all
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Speaker 1: that goddamn heavy whooping cream. Y'all. See how many calories
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Speaker 1: and heavy whooping cream?
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Speaker 2: You just only eat it on Thanksgiving and like Eastern Christmas,
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Speaker 2: that's the only time you eat that type of macaroni
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Speaker 2: and cheese cake.
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Speaker 1: Take for us to get them calories off from Thanksgiving,
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Speaker 1: I'm taking I take a laxative on Thanksgiving.
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Speaker 2: Mhm. So there's that. Don't do that, folks, though, because
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Speaker 2: I think that might be called laxative abuse. I'm not sure,
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Speaker 2: but I do take one so I can't empty out
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Speaker 2: all of that stuff right right, drink that tea baby. Anyway,
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Speaker 2: I'm responsible for macaroni and cheese, the dressing, a banana pudding,
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Speaker 2: and corn bread, all carbs, heavy carbs. That's so that's
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Speaker 2: all my job.
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Speaker 1: That's all good. How you do your corn brand, I
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Speaker 1: should be damning like a cake girl with a little
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Speaker 1: crusty little top. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Same, It be kind of cakey, it be kind of sweet,
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Speaker 2: and I put a cane butter on mine. Let me
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Speaker 2: tell you what. Let me tell you a secret ingredient.
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Speaker 2: And y'all might think it's bad, but it tastes so good, y'all.
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Speaker 2: It's a can of cream corn in there, like Yeah,
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Speaker 2: I've seen people make it like that, but I don't
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Speaker 2: want the corn.
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Speaker 1: That doesn't make it extra sweet, but I don't want
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Speaker 1: the corn in there. And then depending on where brand
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Speaker 1: and cream, corn that should be starchy as hell, be
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Speaker 1: sticking to you teeth.
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Speaker 2: It is start teeth, but so good. It's so good.
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Speaker 2: So I'm making that. I got, you know what, this
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Speaker 2: recipe I got from my friend. I haven't tried it yet,
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Speaker 2: but I've tried hers and it was so good. You know,
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Speaker 2: hit her up like can you I have your corn
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Speaker 2: bread recipe and she's sitting mm hmm yeah, kind of
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Speaker 2: like a hush yep. So good. So you have carbub
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Speaker 2: Tanya is doing the greens and yams. I typically do
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Speaker 2: the yams too, but I'm not doing everything. You know,
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Speaker 2: I ain't got my own house yet, so how I'm
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Speaker 2: cooking all the damn food.
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Speaker 1: So that part you ain't put out no Christmas tree
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Speaker 1: yet this year, I guess to be up until March.
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Speaker 2: I can't put up like I don't move into it.
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Speaker 2: So I found a place, but I'm gonna move in
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Speaker 2: till January, so I can't put it. I ain't putting
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Speaker 2: up on Christmas tree. But my mom is. I'm sure
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Speaker 2: she's gonna put up a tree at some point.
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Speaker 1: I ain't putting up shit, bitch. I don't even got
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Speaker 1: a couch in it, so I do have chairs, have
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Speaker 1: a couch that I want yet, So maybe if I
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Speaker 1: get a couch within the next week or two, I'll
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Speaker 1: get a Christmas tree.
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Speaker 2: Why don't you? It's Black Friday sales that like, I've.
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Speaker 1: Seen a so far went from Ashley Furniture yesterday, So
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Speaker 1: I need the black fat Friday sale. Is not black
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Speaker 1: enough for me? Oh yeah, but just enough.
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Speaker 2: The Black Friday sales used to be just on Friday,
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Speaker 2: and they used to be super sales. Now they start
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Speaker 2: on the week before and it just based a regular sale.
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Speaker 1: No I need like this fucking couch is almost five
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Speaker 1: thousand dollars. No, right the fuck? I need forty percent off?
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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, that's how it used to be on Black Friday.
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Speaker 1: No no more, ain't no damn sales. It's finesse.
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Speaker 2: Zara opens up December first, and Charlotte and you know
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Speaker 2: it's gonna be madness, and my friends are.
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Speaker 1: Like, all and Charleston, man, what the hell?
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Speaker 2: My friends are like, we don't want to go into January.
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Speaker 2: I'm going right on be out there with the whole
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Speaker 2: the masses on December first, fighting over. I had it first, No,
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Speaker 2: I had had at first, like I can't wait.
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Speaker 1: Because I wanted to order some airrings from Zara, like
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Speaker 1: I need a local Zara mm hm, because they be
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Speaker 1: having all a cute shit, last minute shit. You always
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Speaker 1: could find you something Zara. Yep, I'm excited anyway. Weekend,
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Speaker 1: y'all know what it was. Y'all know what time it is.
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Speaker 1: I't do much this weekend. He did max it out again.
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Speaker 1: I did find a comforter that I was looking for
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Speaker 1: last week. Some said, actually go back a home Goods today.
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Speaker 1: I went back in home Goods. I got my comforter. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so that's all I had going on this weekend, and
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Speaker 1: my boot thing in town for the holidays.
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Speaker 2: So boo boot up m I did. I worked like
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Speaker 2: a Hebrew slave this weekend. You know, right before the holidays.
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Speaker 2: Everybody wants to hurt them when I tell you I worked.
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Speaker 2: I put it in forty eight hours in four days.
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Speaker 1: Mmmm.
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Speaker 2: And that's I feel like. That's all I did was
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Speaker 2: work and sleep for four days straight, like, and not
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Speaker 2: a lot of sleep either, and my feet hurts so bad. Like,
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Speaker 2: I went out and bought me some Hokahs because I
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Speaker 2: can't live.
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Speaker 1: Like six a six They good standing and running.
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Speaker 2: Boy, I went and got them ships because when I
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Speaker 2: tell you, my feet was on fire so bad. I
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Speaker 2: was supposed to apply to New York, I couldn't even go.
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Speaker 1: You know you're supposed to wear them little old lady's shoes.
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Speaker 1: I'm a little They look like penny loafers, a little
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Speaker 1: bit like round the square tow in the front. That's
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Speaker 1: oide of all the ladies who used to do it
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Speaker 1: do here back in the day. Those are the shoes
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Speaker 1: they wore that. Those are for standing all day long,
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Speaker 1: stothing cute.
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Speaker 2: Well, no, I got them ugly, that's hokah them. She's
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Speaker 2: as ugly as hell. But I got them because I
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Speaker 2: will never put my feet to fed again.
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Speaker 1: The so of them Hoka's like four inches.
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Speaker 2: They're urguly fuck but they feel like you're walking on
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Speaker 2: the cloud and I need that. Let's get into Sandy.
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Speaker 1: I know the whole world saw Summer Walker this past weekend.
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Speaker 1: Missus Pizza hut okay sparked a lot of it. Did it?
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Speaker 1: Did I feel like I've been bamboozled with these albums. Right,
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Speaker 1: I feel like I've been bamboozled because I don't know that. Okay,
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Speaker 1: let's back up a little bit. Okay, So over this
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Speaker 1: past week, Summer Walker had a lot of controversy right
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Speaker 1: between her and I don't know why the hell I
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Speaker 1: kept wanting to call his boy rich Omi Kwan but
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Speaker 1: Rich the Kid, Okay, Rich the Kid who is who
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Speaker 1: has been in a long term relationship with Tory Briggs. Right, No,
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Speaker 1: they're not married. Do they have one or two? I
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Speaker 1: think they got like two kids together or something like that.
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Speaker 1: But she's been known for having to beat bitches up
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Speaker 1: over him. Okay, going to jail this type of shit.
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Speaker 1: These are the things that have transpired over the years.
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Speaker 1: So Summer Walker. This weekend, Tory Briggs released audio of
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Speaker 1: her basically telling Rich the Kid how he can just
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Speaker 1: just get a second cell phone and save her number
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Speaker 1: as pizza hut. She don't give a fuck like she's
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Speaker 1: cool in the position that she's currently playing, which is
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Speaker 1: side bitch, and she says she has been in this
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Speaker 1: position for many years. At this point, they've been fucking
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Speaker 1: run off and on and if he's opening the wallet,
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Speaker 1: her hands is out like this. Remember that means she
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Speaker 1: had what she was giving her baby, baby daddy back
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Speaker 1: to the niggas, I mean, back to the streets. So
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Speaker 1: she's saying, if the wallet opens, her hands is open
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Speaker 1: like obviously the legs is open to How are you
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Speaker 1: feeling about Summer Walker right now?
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Speaker 2: I'm disappointed in her. You know when she said when
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Speaker 2: she was coaching a nigga on how to keep her
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Speaker 2: a side bitch, like save my number, it's pizza hut.
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Speaker 2: That was just the lowest of the low. You don't
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Speaker 2: think you deserve better than that, baby girl. You are
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Speaker 2: not a pizza place. You are a whole mother, a
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Speaker 2: whole You're a singer with a beautiful voice. You have
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Speaker 2: so much to give to the world, and here you
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Speaker 2: are minimizing yourself. Dude, they got what don't They got
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Speaker 2: five dollar personal pans right now? Like girl get.
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Speaker 1: She's a five dollar foot log. So that made me
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Speaker 1: say why I say side bitches could get beat up sometimes, right?
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Speaker 1: So no, they're not married, they're allegedly engaged Tory Briggs
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Speaker 1: and Rich the Kid. Summer Worker Walker. You notice you
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Speaker 1: make albums about how many and shit, how you know,
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Speaker 1: the heart of a woman is the only reason why
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Speaker 1: these niggas is breathing. But here you are doing the
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Speaker 1: same shit that you sing about to the next woman.
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Speaker 1: That's this is why side bitches have to take accountability. Yes,
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Speaker 1: the homeworkerd is the motherfucker that's in the home. But
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Speaker 1: your man cannot cheat unless there is a nigga. Excuse me,
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Speaker 1: she had nigga too, unless there is a nigga bitch
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Speaker 1: willing to complete, willing to compete, right, so there's always
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Speaker 1: somebody willing to compete. Rich the kid. Now ever since
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Speaker 1: this now I have been tallying up her bodies, I'm
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Speaker 1: now taking a look at the men she has let
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Speaker 1: have access to her box. Right, and y'all that just
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Speaker 1: ain't who y'all think. Y'all are? Rich the kid? God
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Speaker 1: damn uh Low funky Mac, what's the what's the low one? Uh?
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Speaker 1: What's the name? Says musty.
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Speaker 2: Little meach Low meach.
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Speaker 1: Her baby daddy, the two baby daddies, and then the
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Speaker 1: nigga who she was just dating recently, who just came
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Speaker 1: home from prison. It was like he was in her
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Speaker 1: DM for years, and I guess she finally gave him
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Speaker 1: a chance in any video I saw her in with
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Speaker 1: this nigga. She was looking uncomfortable, like, why am I
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Speaker 1: fucking with him? You know what I'm saying. He would
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Speaker 1: be saying, its a big shit.
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Speaker 2: She's just a broken girl, That's what I think. You know,
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Speaker 2: she's broken. I just think she kind of she's a
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Speaker 2: fucking hood rat and she like her rat niggas like
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Speaker 2: they're doing her rat shit and it's cool. Well, I
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Speaker 2: mean hood rat. I don't know. I don't know she's
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Speaker 2: a hood rat, but I think she's just making poor choices.
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Speaker 2: She's mismanaging her body for sure.
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Speaker 1: Somemawaka Suki Hannah, Sexy Red, that's her click. Oh they
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Speaker 1: are all, Yes, they are all friends. They be hanging
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Speaker 1: out and listen them bitches is comedians as far as
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Speaker 1: that with certain when I them bitches as funny as hell,
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Speaker 1: all of them. Someone Walker is hilarious to me, just
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Speaker 1: on some regular goofy shit. But this is not putting
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Speaker 1: her in a good light. And then for you ton't
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Speaker 1: on live disparaging toy bricks the way you did, like
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Speaker 1: she's wrong. Yeah, this do for her relationship.
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Speaker 2: That's the other thing. If you are complicit in being
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Speaker 2: on the side at least have the slightest amount of
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Speaker 2: ego about yourself to not be coming at the other woman,
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Speaker 2: like damn, that should be embarrassing that you shouldn't be embarrassing.
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Speaker 1: At her because she put that some Walker didn't like
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Speaker 1: the light she was being shining because of that video
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Speaker 1: that Tory Briggs posted with her saying how she is
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Speaker 1: okay being aside you know what I'm saying. She even
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Speaker 1: liked that nigga. Yeah, so she Tory posted a video, right,
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Speaker 1: and then someone Walker went on a live talking about
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Speaker 1: her relationship with Rich the Kid and talk about basically
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Speaker 1: Rich the Kid's relationship with his kid's mom, and in
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Speaker 1: the midst of that, she's disparaging another woman. It was
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Speaker 1: just kind of mean, girlish. I understand, Like, yeah, listen, yeah,
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Speaker 1: Like I said, the home record is the motherfucker in
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Speaker 1: the home. But you have to take some responsibility for
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Speaker 1: the bullshit because you're not looking. You don't look cute
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Speaker 1: in that situation at all.
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Speaker 2: Nothing about it makes you look good.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, nothing you could say a dude.
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Speaker 2: Sweetpea baby, I wouldn't have never went live. I would
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Speaker 2: have been if I went live, I would have promoted
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Speaker 2: my album. Since everybody looking over here, y'all go, y'all
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Speaker 2: go listen to my album right now. It's been out
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Speaker 2: since Thursday. Y'all sit, make my shit training something. I
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Speaker 2: would never have mentioned that woman or that man period.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. I definitely would have tried to like make some
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Speaker 1: make some live shit out of it, because it ain't
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Speaker 1: no way I would get up there talking crazy about
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Speaker 1: that girl like you ain't wrong?
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Speaker 2: Right?
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Speaker 1: Did you wrong as a mother for? And this is
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Speaker 1: rich to kid? How much money he got? I know
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Speaker 1: Summer Walker got more money to him. You got to
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Speaker 1: actually like that nigga? Why you fuck with him? Ain't boy?
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Speaker 1: No check. You try to convince us that you don't
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Speaker 1: like him. You like him, right, because you got enough
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Speaker 1: money you're getting like it cannot He's not giving you
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Speaker 1: that much money to where you like you. You want
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Speaker 1: to play a side bitch to this nigga for this,
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Speaker 1: I don't understand.
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Speaker 2: It's given like so rich men. You know how some
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Speaker 2: women like whoever liked them. That's what it feels.
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Speaker 1: But he don't like you, you know what I'm saying.
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Speaker 1: Rather you like people. What I don't like about women
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Speaker 1: who be like in the side position, like they always
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Speaker 1: want to down the main person, right and say how
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Speaker 1: stupid she is. Both of y'all getting the same raw dick.
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Speaker 1: You're getting the same money. You're not getting any better
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Speaker 1: treats than she is, Like she might be having to
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Speaker 1: deal with a little bit more headaches from him, But
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Speaker 1: in those audios, she was saying, like, you know how
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Speaker 1: he is, like you start trying to stop talking to him,
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Speaker 1: he's calling your manager, he's stalking like so basically like
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Speaker 1: he's keeping you wrapped up in this thing and you
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Speaker 1: love it. Mm hm because they got law enforcement change
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Speaker 1: your number. You are a Summer Walker. This is all
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Speaker 1: I'm like, who are you? And now at this point,
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Speaker 1: I don't know not to say that we even know
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Speaker 1: like celebrities, like we don't know who these people are.
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Speaker 1: But she's a fucking at this point, That's how I'm
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Speaker 1: looking at her, Like, girl, what And I love somemer Walker. Man,
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Speaker 1: I love Summer Walker.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, me too. I hope she finds a way to
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Speaker 2: redeem herself from this.
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Speaker 1: This is the bitch story.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and we've all been wanted once or twice, but
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Speaker 2: this is this is a dumb bitch Olympics.
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Speaker 1: Like big lot meech like he was lying saying he
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Speaker 1: was just dropping groceries off to his cousin. He like
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Speaker 1: on the ring cam, like going to a bitch apartment,
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Speaker 1: like playing with Summer Walker. Right, So when you think
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Speaker 1: you who you are, right and niggas be playing in
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Speaker 1: your face like this, that shit has to fuck with
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Speaker 1: your esteem. And I think that's what we're looking at, right,
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Speaker 1: You're not looking at a confident woman. No, that's not
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Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because you wouldn't be you wouldn't be
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Speaker 1: second best to any bitch. And Tory Briggs is a
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Speaker 1: beautiful girl, you know what I'm saying. He should not
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Speaker 1: be dealing with the shit she's dealing with from him.
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Speaker 1: But she's now she has two kids with him, you
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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So whatever whatever her reasons are
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Speaker 1: for staying with him, or her reasons, and some Walker
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Speaker 1: was like, if I really wanted him, you would be
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Speaker 1: homeless today. That is so mean.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's gross. But you know what we were
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Speaker 2: talking about them he has He is the problem. He
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Speaker 2: is the real problem. Some of it has her problems too,
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Speaker 2: things that she needs to fix. But rich the kid
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Speaker 2: needs to be rich the man and stop playing with
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Speaker 2: these women in their hearts.
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Speaker 1: These are people who are in public relationships. And Tory
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Speaker 1: Briggs has been with Rich the Kid throughout all the
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Speaker 1: relationships some of Walker has had publicly, right, So as
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Speaker 1: long as you've had these relationships, you know, had a
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Speaker 1: set of twins, another kid, you've known that this woman
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Speaker 1: has been with this man. So what point do you
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Speaker 1: know fuck with this man knowing this? Like when do
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Speaker 1: we are not saying you got to be a girl's girl,
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Speaker 1: but you know, the man in relationship, no matter what
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Speaker 1: the fuck he say, he's publicly in a relationship with
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Speaker 1: this woman. So at some point we gotta we gotta
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Speaker 1: have a little onus, you know, in the in the situation,
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Speaker 1: this ship is not fucking cute. Yeah, and you be
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Speaker 1: singing about niggas not being shipped, because oftentimes, if you've
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Speaker 1: never experienced a man who is this ship, chances out
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Speaker 1: you ain't shit either. Anybody you fucked with it ain't shit.
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Speaker 2: That part. What about speaking of side bitches, This side
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Speaker 2: bitch hopped in the grave in front of the wife
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Speaker 2: in the family of her dead person.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, their dead nigga, This is she deemed it. My
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Speaker 1: thing is you hopping in the grave. You ain't paid
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Speaker 1: for a bitch, did you? Did you put in on
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Speaker 1: this coffin? You don't put a d in hopping in
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Speaker 1: this six foot hold.
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Speaker 2: Oh they didn't lower it in front of the family,
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Speaker 2: no more for this specific reason people jumping in.
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Speaker 1: No, yeah, I just I mean I with my home
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Speaker 1: girl funeral. They definitely lowered it in the ground. But
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Speaker 1: I don't know if we had any used to people
19:00
Speaker 1: out there who about to hop in, right, they should
19:03
Speaker 1: have start throwing that dirt and see she would have
19:06
Speaker 1: hopped out. And it was a white woman?
19:09
Speaker 2: Was she white? Because I couldn't tell.
19:11
Speaker 1: I saw a real beige black back. And then yeah,
19:14
Speaker 1: I got her and they was all around her beating her.
19:17
Speaker 2: Yeah, she could have been been theirs because they sounded
19:20
Speaker 2: like black with folks, and you.
19:22
Speaker 1: Know that women were black, right, the white and all
19:26
Speaker 1: the man who passed his black, the family's black. But
19:29
Speaker 1: the person who jumped in that grave was definitely looking
19:34
Speaker 1: like a slim, crackhead white lady.
19:36
Speaker 2: You couldn't tell. All you saw was the slither of
19:38
Speaker 2: her back. But that hair.
19:41
Speaker 1: Looked kind of sticky, it's getting sticky. It looked kind
19:45
Speaker 1: of sticky.
19:45
Speaker 2: That could just be the weave, could have.
19:48
Speaker 1: Been could have been a twenty seven piece cutting a
19:49
Speaker 1: little morehawk looking.
19:52
Speaker 2: Yeah, there was a waiting. I'm so glad that her
19:54
Speaker 2: face wasn't shown, just for her sake, because how embarrassing.
19:58
Speaker 2: What are you doing?
19:59
Speaker 1: I thought they had possibly pushed her in there.
20:02
Speaker 2: No, she was just so broken by the loss of
20:05
Speaker 2: this person. I don't know. I ain't never see nobody
20:08
Speaker 2: that much in grief that they jump on the grave.
20:11
Speaker 2: But they tore her ass up. She learned a valuable lesson.
20:15
Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, just keep it quiet to the end.
20:19
Speaker 2: I mean, he gone. He was silent in life, be
20:21
Speaker 2: silent in.
20:22
Speaker 1: Death, or at least pay for something. If it's if
20:26
Speaker 1: I got to bury my husband that you've been fucking on.
20:29
Speaker 1: You better not show up at this goddamn funeral empty handed.
20:33
Speaker 1: Need I need of what I spent on this funeral.
20:37
Speaker 1: You ain't just about to come enjoy a damn chicken
20:39
Speaker 1: and fried chicken plate and macaroni and cheese.
20:42
Speaker 2: You can't come to the repair at all, Like, please,
20:44
Speaker 2: I listen, I won't tell you can't come to the funeral,
20:47
Speaker 2: but please don't come to the repair.
20:49
Speaker 1: Why would you. Why would you be coming to the
20:51
Speaker 1: funeral as a side bitch. This d side bitch is
20:55
Speaker 1: getting out of control in mourning. She mourning at the house.
21:02
Speaker 2: Don't come. You can't come to the repairs though you
21:04
Speaker 2: were areen.
21:06
Speaker 1: So this America's next top model model I think is
21:10
Speaker 1: her name, Kenya Kenya Hill. M h uh. She is
21:14
Speaker 1: now threatening to sue this streamer he pulled up. You know,
21:18
Speaker 1: they be on the streets pulling up telling people they
21:21
Speaker 1: are putting them on stream talking or whatever. But she started,
21:25
Speaker 1: you know, recording them on her live excuse me, not
21:28
Speaker 1: on her live on her story. She started recording a
21:29
Speaker 1: video for her story, and she asked him for a
21:34
Speaker 1: kiss on the cheek, and this young man declines and
21:37
Speaker 1: walks off like people are crazy. Now she's on a rant.
21:43
Speaker 1: She's ritting off all over social media now wanting to
21:46
Speaker 1: sue because she said she asked him not to use
21:49
Speaker 1: the footage. Mind y'all, this is streaming. The footage is live.
21:54
Speaker 1: Is no way of deleting it, right, So obviously the
21:59
Speaker 1: incident was our aready clipped. And I feel like this
22:03
Speaker 1: just shows just how women cannot take rejection like men do,
22:07
Speaker 1: because why you thought, why would he want to kiss
22:10
Speaker 1: you on the cheek? Who are you? And why does
22:12
Speaker 1: he have to kiss you on the cheek? And now
22:15
Speaker 1: you're upset he didn't kiss you on the cheek and
22:17
Speaker 1: you want all the content removed our social media because
22:21
Speaker 1: you look crazy.
22:22
Speaker 2: I'm confused as to why she wanted this stranger to
22:25
Speaker 2: kiss her on in the first place, where she just
22:28
Speaker 2: found him attractive or something, or what was that about.
22:31
Speaker 1: It was kind of weird, right, Yeah, I think it's
22:33
Speaker 1: just for content purposes, possibly, you know what I'm saying,
22:37
Speaker 1: Like he's saying how he's up for a Grammy this.
22:40
Speaker 1: I guess she might have perceived him as somebody who
22:42
Speaker 1: was possibly lit and I'm just assuming from one of
22:47
Speaker 1: these content creators minds, maybe this is what it was. Yeah,
22:53
Speaker 1: but I don't know. I just I that would never
22:55
Speaker 1: be a goal too.
22:55
Speaker 2: To be like, put one right here, boy, If you
22:59
Speaker 2: don't get out on face, I don't know where your
23:01
Speaker 2: mouth been.
23:03
Speaker 1: Yeah. So it was weird, and it was a weird
23:06
Speaker 1: exchange in her part, and I think that that's why
23:08
Speaker 1: she wanted the video to be taken down. But it's
23:12
Speaker 1: already live, sweety, so people saw you getting curved for
23:16
Speaker 1: a fake kiss on the streets, and in the video
23:20
Speaker 1: looks like she was stopping him to talk. I don't know,
23:23
Speaker 1: it's just weird. She got her a little five minutes, right.
23:28
Speaker 2: So this is gonna take us into our topic today.
23:33
Speaker 2: I don't know if y'all saw, but Candy Birds has
23:37
Speaker 2: fouled for divorce from Todd Tucker. Candy Birds Tucker excuse
23:42
Speaker 2: me has fouled for divorce from Todd Tucker. A video
23:47
Speaker 2: resurface of showing Todd saying women who don't want to
23:51
Speaker 2: share their wealth will end up by themselves. We just
23:53
Speaker 2: want to have a conversation about can women be more
23:56
Speaker 2: successful than their spouse and stay in a relation ship
24:00
Speaker 2: or stay married? So we're gonna get into that when
24:03
Speaker 2: we come back. All right, y'all went back? Hey, y'all,
24:10
Speaker 2: AJ was making your face? Y'all you crazy? Or the
24:13
Speaker 2: topic is kim relationships last if the woman is more successful? Now,
24:18
Speaker 2: I wanted to talk about this. I don't know if
24:20
Speaker 2: that's why their marriage is dissolving. Let me just say
24:23
Speaker 2: that it could be many reasons. Who knows what it is.
24:27
Speaker 2: But because that conversation that video resurfaced, I wanted to talk.
24:31
Speaker 1: About, like.
24:34
Speaker 2: Successful women in their relationships with men, if they're with
24:38
Speaker 2: a man who is not as successful as them, do
24:41
Speaker 2: we know a lot of them? Are they healthy relationships?
24:44
Speaker 2: Are they happy? Are the men happy? Are they bitter?
24:46
Speaker 2: Do they resent the woman? Because I feel like a
24:49
Speaker 2: lot of times we are society, a man's value is
24:55
Speaker 2: directly tied to what he brings to the table. So
25:00
Speaker 2: if he's not the bread winner, is he a valuable partner? Yeah?
25:06
Speaker 1: I mean just because the everybody, including men, know that
25:13
Speaker 1: they have to produce. It's just it is what it is.
25:16
Speaker 1: And I think that sometimes men, instead of working towards
25:21
Speaker 1: putting themselves in a position to produce more, they will
25:25
Speaker 1: create issues elsewhere, right, like the woman or the relationship
25:30
Speaker 1: will become the problem as to why they aren't producing.
25:34
Speaker 1: Men like men with money, women like men with money.
25:38
Speaker 1: It's just, it is what it is. It's one of
25:40
Speaker 1: those double standards. But I think when you have women.
25:45
Speaker 1: We kind of talked about this a couple episodes ago.
25:48
Speaker 1: What was it was one of your friends we had
25:50
Speaker 1: on the show and she was in corporate and we
25:53
Speaker 1: were talking about, you know, women, black women with their
25:56
Speaker 1: degrees and money. Women sometimes yeah, they sometimes, you know,
26:01
Speaker 1: and not not just tech obviously, right because because Candy is,
26:04
Speaker 1: she's been in entertainment since they were, since she was
26:06
Speaker 1: a teenager. This like the world has known who Candy
26:11
Speaker 1: was for a very long time, right, so her success
26:14
Speaker 1: did not just start with Todd right right now? What
26:19
Speaker 1: they build together, that's it's just separating. Sorry, And I
26:25
Speaker 1: even feel the same way if it were the man
26:27
Speaker 1: who was was a bread winner. I don't. I don't
26:29
Speaker 1: believe in like taking somebody's somebody for everything they are
26:34
Speaker 1: they have. I don't believe in that at the end
26:36
Speaker 1: of a relationship that ship has kind of fucked up.
26:38
Speaker 1: To me, you you leave with what you came with
26:40
Speaker 1: or whatever we acquired together. But I think that men
26:43
Speaker 1: say that they can deal with that with making a
26:49
Speaker 1: funny face, I wonder why they say. Men say that
26:54
Speaker 1: they can deal with that, But I really don't think
26:56
Speaker 1: they can. And as much as a woman will try
26:59
Speaker 1: to like coddle them and make them feel like, hey,
27:01
Speaker 1: it's okay, it is something in the man, right, he
27:06
Speaker 1: wants to produce, he wants to do more, and whatever
27:09
Speaker 1: is prohibiting that it has nothing to do with the woman.
27:11
Speaker 1: But I have seen this in real life. Okay, women
27:15
Speaker 1: making the more more money, the women making moves, and
27:18
Speaker 1: then they have this failure to launch as dude. And
27:21
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that's Todd's position, right, I'm just saying,
27:25
Speaker 1: in like real life situations I've seen and woman, the
27:29
Speaker 1: woman is always like overcompensating for him.
27:32
Speaker 2: Yeah, this one's about to say, do you feel like
27:34
Speaker 2: when women are more successful they have to shrink or
27:39
Speaker 2: downplay their accomplishments to make that man feel secure. Do
27:46
Speaker 2: you feel like that's.
27:48
Speaker 1: It may not be necessary and men may say they
27:50
Speaker 1: don't need it, but there's a reason why this woman
27:54
Speaker 1: starts doing that because men will have like little big
27:56
Speaker 1: money or I can't you be like trying to clock
28:00
Speaker 1: with the woman is spending money on I know a
28:03
Speaker 1: guy who was in a relationship with a woman and
28:05
Speaker 1: she was a doctor. He's like in tech, like its
28:08
Speaker 1: for the government. But this woman she was a doctor,
28:11
Speaker 1: but and she worked in the emergency room, so she
28:14
Speaker 1: just worked all day long, outsourced everything. She even wanted
28:18
Speaker 1: to outsource a baby if they were to get married
28:20
Speaker 1: and have a kid, Like she's like, I don't want
28:22
Speaker 1: to have the baby, like I want to pay for
28:23
Speaker 1: a zarrogan so because she was in a position to
28:26
Speaker 1: spend the money, and she never once said anything to
28:29
Speaker 1: him about not making as much as she did it.
28:34
Speaker 1: Once they broke up, it played out in all his
28:36
Speaker 1: relationships after that. I just felt like he's he always
28:39
Speaker 1: felt inadequate in every relationship after that, even though he
28:42
Speaker 1: made money, he just never made four hundred thousand dollars
28:45
Speaker 1: like this, But she was with, Yeah.
28:46
Speaker 2: That's what I'm about to say, Like, because he could
28:48
Speaker 2: be successful still, but as long as he's not as
28:51
Speaker 2: successful as his counterpart, there is some type of ego
28:56
Speaker 2: thing going on where he can't he doesn't feel like
28:59
Speaker 2: the man.
29:00
Speaker 1: But then we do it, and I think the women
29:02
Speaker 1: are like this, this is our as long as we together,
29:04
Speaker 1: this is our money. But you're not about to leave
29:06
Speaker 1: and take half my shit. No nobody wants that.
29:08
Speaker 2: Man don't want, right, but oftentimes women do. When they leave,
29:12
Speaker 2: they get a lot, you know.
29:15
Speaker 1: Well, because oftentimes the woman leaves with the kids too,
29:18
Speaker 1: So you think you're supposed to put three babies in
29:21
Speaker 1: and they're not supposed to have the same lifestyle that
29:24
Speaker 1: you afforded when we were together. That's where the extra
29:27
Speaker 1: money comes in at right, So you still gotta pay
29:30
Speaker 1: for the private school. We gotta You have to still
29:32
Speaker 1: pay for those kids to live as if they were
29:34
Speaker 1: living with you. And you could take Shaquille O'Neil for example,
29:38
Speaker 1: when Shannie left, like he he would rather pay Shanni
29:40
Speaker 1: all this money than they have to deal with them,
29:42
Speaker 1: fucking kidding night. So we got the money to do it,
29:45
Speaker 1: why not? Right?
29:48
Speaker 2: But I can imagine Candy being like, you can get
29:51
Speaker 2: the fuck out like real quick to tie you know.
29:54
Speaker 1: I can't though my mother Candy is a nice No,
29:58
Speaker 1: I think Candy is nice. I can't imagine Candy because
30:02
Speaker 1: I feel like Candy would be one of those women
30:04
Speaker 1: over compensating for him because remember her mama did not
30:08
Speaker 1: at some point, Yeah, okay, her mama didn't like Todd initially,
30:12
Speaker 1: and you know she was already on house eves of
30:14
Speaker 1: Atlanta before even being a house housewife. She had like
30:17
Speaker 1: a boyfriend or fiance is somebody that got help club
30:19
Speaker 1: or some shit in Atlanta, and now she met Todd.
30:22
Speaker 1: Todd is now on the show. What you do see
30:25
Speaker 1: Todd doing on the show is presenting all these different
30:27
Speaker 1: business ideas and shit like that over the years, and
30:31
Speaker 1: like the Old Lady Gang, the restaurant and all that
30:34
Speaker 1: shit like that. Those were all Todd's ideas. And that
30:38
Speaker 1: ship like up right now and that's a failing business.
30:41
Speaker 1: That old a Gang closed down. Yeah, they had like
30:44
Speaker 1: a lot of little legal issues. So maybe I don't know,
30:47
Speaker 1: maybe invested in these some of the business's ideas that
30:50
Speaker 1: he came up with, might have you know, cost her money.
30:54
Speaker 2: Their money that she.
30:57
Speaker 1: That Listen if if you if you come in and
31:01
Speaker 1: cost them money, we'll say that right because that's what
31:03
Speaker 1: Todd would would like to say. But if I had
31:05
Speaker 1: to use my money for the initial investment on this thing,
31:10
Speaker 1: you would have never gotten this thing off the ground
31:12
Speaker 1: had it. Now I could take me for a fucking example,
31:14
Speaker 1: and it God theren food truck trap veggie Okay, nigga
31:19
Speaker 1: kill me with the idea. I'm like, yeah, now, mind you.
31:22
Speaker 1: I would be the cook on the truck too, because
31:23
Speaker 1: he ain't cooking shit.
31:24
Speaker 2: Did it ever come out?
31:26
Speaker 1: He probably still eating you probably no, uh huh. I
31:29
Speaker 1: still own the business, but he has the truck. So
31:31
Speaker 1: whenever I get myself situated, I still want to do
31:34
Speaker 1: my business. My business. I had to argue with this
31:37
Speaker 1: nigga about my business because I invested the initial like
31:41
Speaker 1: how you I've never been able to tell a nigga
31:43
Speaker 1: my dreams, and they invested in the day one like here,
31:47
Speaker 1: let's go buy the truck. Let's I bought the truck,
31:49
Speaker 1: I put the transmission in it. Now I got to
31:52
Speaker 1: argue with this nigga about who owns the actual name
31:54
Speaker 1: of the business, because people be messaging me wanting to
31:56
Speaker 1: buy the business name itself. Hm, you know what? And
32:01
Speaker 1: in his mind he thinks he owns something because he
32:04
Speaker 1: did like the fabrication of the truck. But you don't.
32:07
Speaker 1: You don't own it, like you eventually put more money
32:09
Speaker 1: into the business than I did, but it never got going.
32:11
Speaker 1: I never got my return on investment. At least you
32:14
Speaker 1: still got the truck. So it's it's were you. Would
32:18
Speaker 1: you have ever done this without me? That that would
32:20
Speaker 1: be my question. Could Todd have opened a restaurant or
32:23
Speaker 1: I don't know what he was doing prior to Candy?
32:26
Speaker 1: We know her money was you finial?
32:27
Speaker 2: He was working in production on the show because that's
32:30
Speaker 2: where they met. He was on like the production team.
32:35
Speaker 2: He was in entertainment as well, but so you remember
32:38
Speaker 2: that man. They went to Africa and they threw he
32:41
Speaker 2: threw them bones, and he told Candy that she was
32:43
Speaker 2: gonna get married to somebody who was there with them now,
32:46
Speaker 2: and he told Charay she would never get married again.
32:49
Speaker 1: Well, is that the same episode? Porschia the persons here?
32:53
Speaker 1: Porscha she was gonna be with a woman.
32:55
Speaker 2: Well, I don't remember, but she is dating the woman now?
33:03
Speaker 2: Is I will throw some bones from me and tell
33:04
Speaker 2: me what's gonna happen.
33:05
Speaker 1: So she married him and no getting divorced. I guess
33:07
Speaker 1: he didn't say they would stay together. He just said,
33:10
Speaker 1: you know, I love short man. I love short man, y'all. Okay, go,
33:14
Speaker 1: I said, I'm a short man advocate. But I can
33:16
Speaker 1: see on Todd's face that that niggas a sassy problem.
33:20
Speaker 1: I could see on his face that he would be
33:22
Speaker 1: a fucking problem. Like you short, you're short for meau.
33:30
Speaker 1: Some niggas be like they really have like the Napoleon syndrome. Right,
33:35
Speaker 1: So you short, and on top of that, your woman
33:37
Speaker 1: making more money than you.
33:39
Speaker 2: Yeah, that could cause a problem ego. So all right,
33:44
Speaker 2: so how can it actually work?
33:46
Speaker 1: Like?
33:46
Speaker 2: What what would a woman need in a man for
33:49
Speaker 2: that ship to actually make sense.
33:51
Speaker 1: It work like if she had all the money and
33:53
Speaker 1: he hadn't. I don't. I don't think it can't not work, right,
33:56
Speaker 1: But I don't think that the men would allow it
34:01
Speaker 1: to work. I know another couple who the woman has
34:04
Speaker 1: been a breadwinner the majority of the relationship, and I
34:07
Speaker 1: have heard him say that he's okay with that. He's
34:10
Speaker 1: okay with his wife making more money than him. He
34:15
Speaker 1: speaks about her for on one k as if it's theirs.
34:21
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, she allows it. So who
34:24
Speaker 1: is you know, anybody outside the relationship to say anything. Now,
34:29
Speaker 1: I know for a fact that this woman does not
34:32
Speaker 1: emasculate this man, and if she does, it is never
34:35
Speaker 1: in public. Okay, So she's saying some shit to him
34:37
Speaker 1: in the bedroom, like you ain't even pulling you a weight, nigga,
34:40
Speaker 1: Like that's not even emasculating. It's like it's the truth, right,
34:44
Speaker 1: I would never know if that's happening, right, But the
34:47
Speaker 1: way this person, everything he everything that comes out of
34:52
Speaker 1: his mouth just sounds like he's just trying to overcompensate
34:56
Speaker 1: for not producing.
34:58
Speaker 2: And I think that's just it. Think, but it's also
35:01
Speaker 2: a societal thing because men in this country, men are
35:05
Speaker 2: made to feel less than when they can't produce, right.
35:09
Speaker 1: I think that's all countries. It's just that in other
35:12
Speaker 1: countries it's known that a man has to take care
35:15
Speaker 1: of his family. It's almost like it's up for debate.
35:17
Speaker 1: In America, the fuck it's not up for debate.
35:21
Speaker 2: But in their situation, they ain't even taking care because
35:24
Speaker 2: I think he probably could take care of the family
35:26
Speaker 2: off of what he makes, but they taking care of
35:30
Speaker 2: different life. Yeah, there's a different kind of take care
35:33
Speaker 2: when it comes to Candy Birds and people who have
35:36
Speaker 2: in that tech record.
35:37
Speaker 1: And I don't even see Candy as like super flashy,
35:41
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, I think Candy probably
35:43
Speaker 1: lives made more way more modest than her bank account
35:47
Speaker 1: it actually allowed. Yeah, so I don't I don't see
35:51
Speaker 1: her just being a super flashy person that he got
35:54
Speaker 1: it like she She's just real modest to me. So
35:57
Speaker 1: if a man had to be with any woman that
35:59
Speaker 1: had more money than him, it would be her. But
36:01
Speaker 1: the problem is is that it's the man's ego that
36:04
Speaker 1: couldn't deal with that. So I can't say one little
36:06
Speaker 1: thing to you about finances without you getting upset. I
36:09
Speaker 1: can see that happening, you know what I'm saying, Like
36:14
Speaker 1: or just even like you got to pay the cost
36:17
Speaker 1: to be the boss. It just is what it is.
36:20
Speaker 1: So whoever has more resources, more assets, oftentimes they are
36:25
Speaker 1: going to be the one to make the decisions. You
36:28
Speaker 1: playing with somebody else.
36:29
Speaker 2: Money, right, So here is when it actually can work,
36:32
Speaker 2: because I mean, I just when I listen to you,
36:35
Speaker 2: I think about when it's flipped, and I'd be all
36:37
Speaker 2: for that. You know, when it's the woman, I'll be
36:40
Speaker 2: like and so and so. Well, when it's the man,
36:43
Speaker 2: I'll be like mm hmm. So I know it's like.
36:46
Speaker 1: Because I think women accept that my man is a
36:48
Speaker 1: brand winner. Women are usually you know, and the women
36:51
Speaker 1: are the homemaker, right. And I think men, if the
36:55
Speaker 1: man isn't good with the money, he'll give all his money,
36:57
Speaker 1: how much ever money he's making to them. He's handling
37:00
Speaker 1: a check book, She's handling their lives. Some men do
37:04
Speaker 1: that even if they're the ones making all of the
37:06
Speaker 1: Money's that's what I'm saying. It depends on the man.
37:08
Speaker 1: I don't think a woman can do anything different in
37:11
Speaker 1: that dynamic.
37:12
Speaker 2: So yeah, unless she is complicit in shrinking and playing
37:18
Speaker 2: small even though she is a breadwinner. So it says
37:23
Speaker 2: can it actually work? Yes, when a man is emotionally secure,
37:28
Speaker 2: the roles are flexible dot rigid. Both partners value teamwork
37:33
Speaker 2: over power, and communication is honest and consistent, And it
37:39
Speaker 2: says no when the woman feels she has to shrink
37:44
Speaker 2: when he competes with her, when money becomes a weapon
37:48
Speaker 2: or a scoreboard, or when ego is valued over partnership.
37:55
Speaker 1: That's pretty much it. There's a lot of women out
37:58
Speaker 1: here who have invested in men. You know, the Internet
38:01
Speaker 1: really will be fooling you. Like women ain't shit. We
38:05
Speaker 1: just want to We just want to use all these
38:06
Speaker 1: men for money, you know, when most men do not
38:09
Speaker 1: have as much money as the Internet presents. The average
38:12
Speaker 1: man doesn't, average woman doesn't. Most people are in the trenches.
38:17
Speaker 1: So the situations you find like the people who I know,
38:20
Speaker 1: like in medical profession, like doctors like that, and they
38:24
Speaker 1: get with regular niggas who'd be watching video games and
38:27
Speaker 1: shit like that. It is a recipe for the like
38:29
Speaker 1: for disaster, because first of all, you can't give somebody
38:33
Speaker 1: drive either, right, you still want to find somebody.
38:38
Speaker 2: That's equally Yeah, I agree, but you gotta find somebody,
38:43
Speaker 2: because I definitely have a friend who left her husband
38:46
Speaker 2: because he just was not financially ambitious, right, So she
38:51
Speaker 2: decided to move on, and then she ultimately went back
38:56
Speaker 2: to him because he was an excellent dad. He was
38:59
Speaker 2: so good with the kids, He loved her fully, he
39:02
Speaker 2: never cheated on her, he never did anything wrong, and
39:06
Speaker 2: he was a good dad. But he just wasn't He
39:09
Speaker 2: was okay with working a simple nine to five like
39:13
Speaker 2: that didn't afford him a lot, but he would work.
39:17
Speaker 2: He just wasn't trying to be the CEO of the company.
39:21
Speaker 2: That was not his ambition. And she ultimately went back
39:25
Speaker 2: because she felt like the value he did bring outweighed
39:29
Speaker 2: any money that anybody else could have brought to her ultimately,
39:35
Speaker 2: and I thought that was beautiful. And they're still married
39:37
Speaker 2: now and they're happy. I mean, I'm sure they have
39:41
Speaker 2: their issues like any other couple, but overall they're happy,
39:45
Speaker 2: you know, And I admire that so much because I
39:50
Speaker 2: don't know if I would have went back, you know,
39:52
Speaker 2: I don't know if I would have, but it worked
39:55
Speaker 2: for her and her family, so it can work. I say,
39:58
Speaker 2: all of that to say that can work.
40:00
Speaker 1: Yeah, but he, to me, he's still in the position
40:02
Speaker 1: of just think about women who get left by men
40:06
Speaker 1: and the men the man is the provider, and the
40:08
Speaker 1: man can come and go when they want to. That's
40:10
Speaker 1: essentially what she did to her husband mm. Like she
40:14
Speaker 1: left them, went to see what was outside, realizing shit
40:17
Speaker 1: out there, and came back home. How many men can
40:20
Speaker 1: you really play with like that, whether they got it
40:23
Speaker 1: or not. Not many? So, like, he's definitely in a
40:29
Speaker 1: I don't know what role he playing. I don't know.
40:32
Speaker 1: I don't know what role it is that he's playing.
40:35
Speaker 1: M H.
40:36
Speaker 2: Great, So I have him advice to offer for our
40:40
Speaker 2: listeners male and female. For the women, don't dim your
40:45
Speaker 2: life ever. Choose emotional mature men, emotionally mature men, because
40:50
Speaker 2: if not, they're not there. They're always going to resent
40:53
Speaker 2: you if you make more money than them. And attention
40:56
Speaker 2: to his reaction to your success.
40:58
Speaker 1: Well, that's a big one, y'all. I talk about this
41:00
Speaker 1: on this show before, y'all. Our first episode dropped and whatever.
41:07
Speaker 1: January twenty twenty one, and I'm so happy, tell me happy,
41:11
Speaker 1: Like I'm on a computer, I'm looking at analytics, like
41:13
Speaker 1: I'm trying to see, like what kind of numbers were doing.
41:17
Speaker 1: And my fiance at the time comes downstairs and the
41:20
Speaker 1: first thing he says to me all day that day
41:22
Speaker 1: is you a hope.
41:25
Speaker 2: But it's on the show.
41:28
Speaker 1: You a hoe. I'm like, Yo, this nigga he took
41:31
Speaker 1: me to lunch, He's say congratulation. Oh nothing, that is
41:35
Speaker 1: that's the And he was already walking around the house
41:37
Speaker 1: with a whole fucking attitude. I'm not knowing why not,
41:39
Speaker 1: mind y'all. This nigga wanted to produce our show, like
41:44
Speaker 1: he wanted to be hands on involved with our show.
41:46
Speaker 1: And I'm like, you don't have time, Like we're trying
41:48
Speaker 1: to start one business. You already own a business that
41:51
Speaker 1: you're running one hundred percent of the time yourself. Right,
41:53
Speaker 1: it's not like you can step away from that shit.
41:55
Speaker 1: You don't have the time to fuck with my shit.
41:57
Speaker 1: But that was his way to control have some control
41:59
Speaker 1: over or something I was trying to do outside of him.
42:02
Speaker 1: You gotta be careful with people like that, right, Because
42:05
Speaker 1: he didn't know me prior to knowing me, right, so
42:07
Speaker 1: he didn't like when we met, I wasn't on my
42:11
Speaker 1: shit I just wasn't. It took me a long time
42:14
Speaker 1: to get back on my shit. Bitch. I feel like
42:15
Speaker 1: I was rich in my twenties, Jeremy, and then it's
42:19
Speaker 1: the ebbs and flow of you know what I'm saying.
42:22
Speaker 1: Shit fucking happens. And this is when I met this man.
42:24
Speaker 1: So I don't know if he where he thought he
42:26
Speaker 1: was on a totem pole in comparison to where I was.
42:30
Speaker 1: But the moment I started operating outside of his fucking program,
42:35
Speaker 1: it was a problem. And I ain't never somebody you
42:37
Speaker 1: can control, like I'm not programming. Okay, I'm not controllable,
42:41
Speaker 1: so it's gonna be an uphill battle when you fuck
42:44
Speaker 1: with me. So back to him asking me if I'm
42:47
Speaker 1: a hole? Okay, listen, depends on the week.
42:50
Speaker 2: No more.
42:51
Speaker 1: I'm talking about not even what is a hole? Okay,
42:56
Speaker 1: there's my question? What is a hole? So I took
42:58
Speaker 1: myself to lunch. I took myself to get me a
43:00
Speaker 1: nutting but cupcake, cause what the fuck? Okay, to celebrate myself.
43:05
Speaker 1: And he was still harassing me, calling my cell phone
43:08
Speaker 1: and I finally answered, and he I said, you know what, motherfucker,
43:12
Speaker 1: I am a hoe. Now what Now, what you're gonna
43:16
Speaker 1: do that you're engaged to this whole You were living
43:18
Speaker 1: with each other day in and then out day out. You
43:20
Speaker 1: see my moves, So to even ask me some shit
43:23
Speaker 1: like that. Because of the commentary we have on the show,
43:26
Speaker 1: Tammy and I were trying to find ourselves. We were
43:28
Speaker 1: trying to see how we wanted to present to the world.
43:30
Speaker 1: Were talking about the very first episode and our first
43:32
Speaker 1: few episodes is raunchy as a motherfucking for no damn reason. Okay,
43:36
Speaker 1: but we have sense grown, right, and I just wasn't
43:40
Speaker 1: given a space to do that in that relationship. Like
43:43
Speaker 1: I was being fucking censored in a real in a
43:45
Speaker 1: real way. But yeah, like that was the first thing
43:48
Speaker 1: he said to me, and it really was, you know,
43:50
Speaker 1: to make me feel a way about myself. But when
43:52
Speaker 1: you know thyself, can't nobody do that to you?
43:56
Speaker 2: Right?
43:57
Speaker 1: So self awareness is number one. So if you in
44:00
Speaker 1: a marriage, you're making more money than your man, right,
44:04
Speaker 1: it's making like nobody should ever be making you feel
44:07
Speaker 1: like you and you because.
44:08
Speaker 2: Bitch, and you should never shrink it. And the last
44:17
Speaker 2: one for women is to set boundaries early and for
44:21
Speaker 2: the men, your value isn't only financial. So that's that's
44:26
Speaker 2: the biggest one for men. Your value is not only
44:31
Speaker 2: connected to your money.
44:34
Speaker 1: Largely though unfortunately it's just one of those things. It's
44:38
Speaker 1: just and I think men know that innately. They know
44:41
Speaker 1: that they have to have money, and they feel happy
44:44
Speaker 1: when they do. Men feel happy when they can take
44:48
Speaker 1: care and do stuff for people without blinking an eye
44:50
Speaker 1: like that is that they don't even that is their
44:52
Speaker 1: fucking sweet spot. They don't even realize it. This is
44:55
Speaker 1: why you focus on the fucking money before you start
44:57
Speaker 1: having kids. Yeah, but focus on getting the bag first.
45:00
Speaker 2: But you know, some people are going to have a
45:03
Speaker 2: regular nine to five and that will be their life.
45:06
Speaker 2: It's gonna be some worker bees out here. And I
45:08
Speaker 2: don't want a worker bee person listening to this and
45:11
Speaker 2: feeling like he ain't worth nothing because he ain't the CEO.
45:15
Speaker 2: That's not true because your value is not really financial.
45:21
Speaker 1: M So I feel like I'm a worker bee. You
45:24
Speaker 1: a worker bee, no, and we produce it. You don't
45:28
Speaker 1: think you no?
45:29
Speaker 2: No, I don't.
45:31
Speaker 1: So what are you? What's your what's your? What is
45:33
Speaker 1: the CEO? I just ain't They're just working.
45:36
Speaker 2: I'm a CEO. I'm just not there yet.
45:39
Speaker 1: Oh that's a great example set, right. I can't fuck
45:44
Speaker 1: with a poor man. I cannot fuck with somebody who
45:47
Speaker 1: has a poor mindset. So I feel like most women,
45:50
Speaker 1: I always say this, We're not expecting you to have
45:53
Speaker 1: it today, but you have to have a mindset of
45:56
Speaker 1: a millionaire because if you keep that mindset, you will
45:59
Speaker 1: get you in your family to where you want them
46:01
Speaker 1: to be at. And you can't blame anybody else on
46:05
Speaker 1: the way there because you don't have yet. I feel
46:07
Speaker 1: like that's what I was experiencing. A nigga didn't have
46:09
Speaker 1: a million dollars yet, and he was laming me for it,
46:12
Speaker 1: like you ain't have a million when I met you,
46:14
Speaker 1: and I accepted you where the fuck you were, and
46:16
Speaker 1: in my mind we were going to build the million
46:19
Speaker 1: dollars together. But what I realized is you can't really
46:22
Speaker 1: help men build.
46:23
Speaker 2: And but here's the thing. You can help man build.
46:25
Speaker 2: You can. I've seen a lot of people get a
46:28
Speaker 2: man and it was turn to turn that man into
46:32
Speaker 2: the powerhouse that he It was somebody when he met her,
46:35
Speaker 2: and then when she got into his life, he turned
46:38
Speaker 2: into somebody different. But everybody, how many people got it.
46:42
Speaker 2: I ain't got a lot, but the man stay, he exists.
46:46
Speaker 2: But everybody go ain't to be a millionaire. Some people
46:49
Speaker 2: just want to have a car, food, take a vacation
46:55
Speaker 2: every now and then, and that's it.
46:58
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta know your person Yeah.
47:00
Speaker 2: And and I don't want people to listen and think
47:03
Speaker 2: that they have no value because they not. They don't
47:06
Speaker 2: aspire it to that.
47:08
Speaker 1: When people listen to things. First of all, you gotta
47:10
Speaker 1: have some discernment. You also have to know that this
47:14
Speaker 1: the set, these these conversations are way more vast than
47:18
Speaker 1: we could put into an hour long episode. Right, So
47:21
Speaker 1: of course I'm not saying like women, if you got
47:24
Speaker 1: a man, you gotta build, but Bill wouldn't leave him,
47:26
Speaker 1: absolutely not. But you gotta know your personnel. You gotta
47:29
Speaker 1: have discernment, understand who it is that you're dealing with.
47:31
Speaker 1: Are you dealing with a man that you can help
47:33
Speaker 1: build and he's not going to resent you for having
47:36
Speaker 1: seen him when he haves shit, because that's usually what
47:40
Speaker 1: the first babe mom experience or the woman who went
47:42
Speaker 1: through the trenches with this man. And then he go
47:44
Speaker 1: on and get a woman who never saw him struggle
47:47
Speaker 1: and that's who he marries. Mm hmm, this is what
47:51
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. You gotta be careful. You can't just
47:55
Speaker 1: do this this thing for anybody.
47:57
Speaker 2: No, I agree, you have to choose why. The next
48:01
Speaker 2: one for men is learn emotional contribution. And that's a
48:04
Speaker 2: huge one, I think because I know a lot of
48:08
Speaker 2: women who are in relationships with men who can give
48:11
Speaker 2: them the entire world financially, but when it comes to emotionally,
48:16
Speaker 2: it's a drought and they're suffering in that area. So
48:20
Speaker 2: it's important to learn emotional contribution because your your partner
48:25
Speaker 2: needs that as well. Yeah, and when when you have
48:30
Speaker 2: a partner who's doing well, celebrate her, don't resent her.
48:33
Speaker 2: I know that's hard when you're not feeling adequate, but
48:37
Speaker 2: you got to celebrate because your time will come if
48:40
Speaker 2: you if you practice that energy. And then, like I know, I.
48:45
Speaker 1: Was about to say, I know a couple. You know
48:47
Speaker 1: the couple too, and I can just see that he
48:50
Speaker 1: is not operating in the energy he would like to
48:54
Speaker 1: be in.
48:55
Speaker 2: You. I know exactly who you're talking about.
48:57
Speaker 1: And it's so sad for me to see because I
49:00
Speaker 1: can almost see like his light them and down because
49:03
Speaker 1: he hasn't gotten his opportunity. Yet, like I said, your
49:07
Speaker 1: partner's wins are your wins. That should be your momentum,
49:11
Speaker 1: like your like battery to get you to do your right.
49:17
Speaker 1: So I'm not saying not to get behind because everybody
49:19
Speaker 1: could do a jay Z and what's jay z best friend.
49:23
Speaker 1: Niggas got behind jay Z Ta ta right. All the
49:25
Speaker 1: niggas got behind jay Z because they realized jay Z
49:28
Speaker 1: was that nigga who was going to take them to
49:29
Speaker 1: wherever they was going at right, and they all employed,
49:33
Speaker 1: they're all millionaires now because they support it this person
49:37
Speaker 1: the head. Yes, you gotta sometimes do that for your partner.
49:41
Speaker 1: So if it's your wife in a position or if
49:44
Speaker 1: it's your husband in a position, if they win, you win.
49:48
Speaker 1: That's how you got to look at it, so you
49:49
Speaker 1: can keep like the gratitude going. But I do strongly
49:52
Speaker 1: believe that everybody should have their own little shit separate
49:57
Speaker 1: outside of relationship too. You try to put all eggs
50:00
Speaker 1: in a basket, she can get real messy, especially in
50:02
Speaker 1: divorce and separation, depending on who's making all the money.
50:06
Speaker 1: Now this person like you're trying to take all my
50:07
Speaker 1: money and this person likely when you ain't made no
50:10
Speaker 1: money like it can get.
50:11
Speaker 2: You can get real, real ugly. The last one I hope, Yeah, me.
50:16
Speaker 1: Too, I said, I hope candy shit don't get nasty.
50:18
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah. And then the last one is practice partnership
50:22
Speaker 2: not competition. It ain't nothing worse than two people in
50:27
Speaker 2: a relationship that are in competition with each other. Oh
50:31
Speaker 2: have you ever seen that?
50:32
Speaker 1: Absolutely? And you know, one person could be saying I'm
50:36
Speaker 1: not in competition with you verbally, but all your actions
50:40
Speaker 1: show that you are in competition. That part, right, So
50:43
Speaker 1: make sure you're going off of actions and not what
50:45
Speaker 1: they're saying out their mouth, because they may be gas
50:47
Speaker 1: like you. So bitch, you know what you know. You
50:49
Speaker 1: feel how you feel for a reason, and ask somebody
50:53
Speaker 1: make sure you're not tripping. But yeah, that's essentially what
50:57
Speaker 1: I was what I was saying, focusing on the partnership part.
51:00
Speaker 1: It shouldn't be a competition no matter who's winning, right,
51:03
Speaker 1: if you and I win, that's how it should be.
51:07
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree. I just don't know, man. I
51:10
Speaker 1: think that the sweet spot for men is being a
51:14
Speaker 1: bread winner. I just think that's where they are more comfort.
51:19
Speaker 2: Yes, then you ain't never gotta worried about her.
51:22
Speaker 1: Well, they don't want that. This is why I say
51:25
Speaker 1: men are more shallow than women. Men are two once
51:29
Speaker 1: to ten. Like I feel like women are finding a
51:32
Speaker 1: little space, like we'll make something out of nothing. But
51:36
Speaker 1: if a man is what a woman that's doing worse
51:39
Speaker 1: than him, please believe me. Like men are herpergamas, especially
51:43
Speaker 1: black men. Them niggas is dating up. Fuck with y'all
51:47
Speaker 1: talking while they try to make us feel bad for
51:50
Speaker 1: dating up, you know a black Like when when when
51:54
Speaker 1: a black woman dates like a other, a white person,
51:56
Speaker 1: a white guy, whatever you say, When a black woman
51:58
Speaker 1: dates a white guy, she probably got her life together.
52:00
Speaker 1: She probably got the fucking bag too. And in her
52:03
Speaker 1: mind that person that particular woman's mind, right, maybe this
52:06
Speaker 1: white guy is her who she's equally yoked with. Right.
52:10
Speaker 1: When black men do it, oftentimes they think they sticking
52:13
Speaker 1: it to the man by fucking the white girl. And
52:16
Speaker 1: also you know, they trying to get their credit straight.
52:19
Speaker 1: They're using her as what I'm saying, they're the ones
52:21
Speaker 1: that are dating up to get a leg up in
52:24
Speaker 1: society for sure, while we get looked down on for
52:28
Speaker 1: digging for gold that ain't there.
52:32
Speaker 2: Right, that's the crazy part. I hate when a nigga
52:35
Speaker 2: like or a man let me saying that a man
52:39
Speaker 2: who will call a woman a gold digger and they
52:41
Speaker 2: ain't got no gold.
52:43
Speaker 1: Like, Yeah, what are we talking about? What y'all? Why
52:46
Speaker 1: is this discussion about a woman taking everything you got
52:50
Speaker 1: and you don't have nothing? What are we talking about that?
52:53
Speaker 1: Y'all never even experienced that, So it's just be cool.
52:56
Speaker 1: That is that man's experience. He has millions of dollars
53:01
Speaker 1: to pay all this money and child support.
53:05
Speaker 2: You don't.
53:05
Speaker 1: That's not your situation that the judge will. The judge
53:09
Speaker 1: will assign whatever is good for your pockets if you
53:12
Speaker 1: were able in this situation, if you were ever in
53:16
Speaker 1: this situation, for sure, I promise, Oh no, everybody, get
53:19
Speaker 1: the fucking bag. Would I take care of man? I
53:22
Speaker 1: think my comfortable place is knowing a nigga got more
53:24
Speaker 1: than me too. That's I'm comfortable with that.
53:29
Speaker 2: I think I'm comfortable with that as well. However, I'm
53:34
Speaker 2: not in a I don't right now. I don't think
53:36
Speaker 2: I'm in a position to be with someone making lesson
53:38
Speaker 2: than me. But if I was, if I had candy
53:43
Speaker 2: Birds money, I don't know if I would care at
53:47
Speaker 2: that point.
53:48
Speaker 1: It depends, man, because people who Okay, you haven't accumulated
53:52
Speaker 1: this wealth, right, meaning you don't know how to manage
53:55
Speaker 1: it either. Because the one thing like, once you accumulate
53:58
Speaker 1: the money, you have to then figure out how to
54:00
Speaker 1: manage it because you'll go back and broke. I was
54:02
Speaker 1: just reading an article with this basketball player who ran
54:04
Speaker 1: through seventy million dollars or some shit like that. Seventy million.
54:07
Speaker 2: Was it seventy or was it twenty twenty? I think
54:10
Speaker 2: it was twenty million.
54:11
Speaker 1: Same thing, bitch, you give me twenty or seventy right now, like,
54:15
Speaker 1: you don't have to worry about me for the rest
54:17
Speaker 1: of my life and the next generation because I'm going
54:19
Speaker 1: to flip it, right. But you have to have the
54:21
Speaker 1: financial literacy to do that. So you you get with
54:25
Speaker 1: a person I'm unna say, man and woman you're the breadwinner.
54:28
Speaker 1: You get with a person who doesn't even know how
54:30
Speaker 1: to manage money, and they just think that they just
54:32
Speaker 1: have free access to do whatever the fuck they want
54:34
Speaker 1: to do with your money, and they fucking it up,
54:36
Speaker 1: you'll go broke. And that could be why she's trying
54:39
Speaker 1: to separate herself separate finances with a divorce, same thing
54:44
Speaker 1: what Porscha did. Porsia did with Simon. You know, Simon
54:47
Speaker 1: did appear to have all his money, but obviously it
54:49
Speaker 1: wasn't legal some of it probably.
54:52
Speaker 2: Well, I don't even want to get it to portion
54:54
Speaker 2: to sign me because then it was just a miss
54:55
Speaker 2: how it started and had ended.
54:58
Speaker 1: Yeah it was, but she had had to sever times
55:01
Speaker 1: before she get caught up in his bullshit and whatever
55:04
Speaker 1: else he had going on that she knew of her.
55:07
Speaker 1: So maybe that's what they might just be getting divorced
55:10
Speaker 1: on paper for tax purposes.
55:12
Speaker 2: I don't know, right, we won't know all right, what's
55:16
Speaker 2: your final takeaway at your last last for this?
55:21
Speaker 1: I think I already said it, really, I don't know.
55:23
Speaker 1: Know your personnel. Don't be shitting on your partner is
55:26
Speaker 1: the reason why you got with this person. Okay, don't
55:30
Speaker 1: be shitting on them. But again, ebbs and flow of life.
55:33
Speaker 1: You might not always be up and you're not gonna
55:35
Speaker 1: always be down. Spect you know who you with, especially
55:40
Speaker 1: if y'all got kids together, she can get real nasty
55:43
Speaker 1: and ugly, like this girl had in Vitro. Two babies
55:46
Speaker 1: and no one in vitrol right, and another one they
55:49
Speaker 1: did a surrogate to have mm right. So she had
55:53
Speaker 1: been she's been doing life with him, just still using
55:56
Speaker 1: her as an example for the conversation disrespecting people. Man,
56:00
Speaker 1: I don't know, and find a nigga who make more
56:02
Speaker 1: money than you. That is still the standard in case
56:04
Speaker 1: you could avoid all this so you can avoid problems.
56:08
Speaker 1: Is going to be a problem if you make more
56:09
Speaker 1: money than him.
56:10
Speaker 2: It's just his Yeah, I think my last last week.
56:15
Speaker 2: Success doesn't kill relationships. Ego does. So until you work
56:19
Speaker 2: on your ego, it can fail. It can and will fail.
56:26
Speaker 2: Ego death.
56:27
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's in every relationship, man, you say, that's
56:33
Speaker 1: every relationship. That's every relationship that ego. Yeah, ego definitely
56:38
Speaker 1: has shit fucked up. Yeah, with your mama, with your lovers, work,
56:45
Speaker 1: all of that. You know, sometimes you check it at
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Speaker 1: the door.
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