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5-MINUTE Friday: An Honest Look In the Mirror · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's EMILYA.
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  Speaker 2: Badi here chiming in with another installment of five Minute Friday.
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  Speaker 2: I have a favor to ask you right off the bat,
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  Speaker 2: the first thing you hear in this episode, I want
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  Speaker 2: your feedback in the show notes. I'm including a link.
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  Speaker 2: I am doing a lot of planning for Hurdle in
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  Speaker 2: twenty twenty one, and I want to know what you like,
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  Speaker 2: what's sticking, what's resonating. All the good things, maybe some
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  Speaker 2: of the bad things. I just want to get on
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  Speaker 2: the same page because I want, if you're coming back
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  Speaker 2: to this feed week after week, to be giving you
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  Speaker 2: content that you care about and that resonates with you,
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  Speaker 2: and that I I am just doing something good. So
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  Speaker 2: please show notes, Google form Hurdle Feedback Survey.
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  Speaker 1: I'm all heres. This week, I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Chatting about my hair. I know that's like a random
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  Speaker 2: thing to bring up on the podcast, but for a
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  Speaker 2: few days this week, I wore my natural hair and
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  Speaker 2: I was getting a ton of feedback on it, and
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  Speaker 2: it made me want to bring this conversation to the show.
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  Speaker 2: So here's the deal. When I was in high school,
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  Speaker 2: I used to wear my natural curly hair all the
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  Speaker 2: time and I'm not talking about like the curling iron
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  Speaker 2: waves that you might see.
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  Speaker 1: Like, I don't even know who to give an example of.
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  Speaker 2: I always feel like I want to say Kardashian curling
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  Speaker 2: iron waves, but maybe that's like Kardashian circa two thousand
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  Speaker 2: and seventeen.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe not now. I don't know. A lot of people
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  Speaker 1: wave their.
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  Speaker 2: Hair with a curling iron I am one of them.
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  Speaker 2: I love to do it that way. It makes me
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  Speaker 2: feel really pretty and attractive. I'm sitting here with my
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  Speaker 2: hand under my chin, like if you could see me.
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  Speaker 2: It just makes me feel nice.
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  Speaker 1: Anyway.
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  Speaker 2: I used to wear my hair though my natural curls
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  Speaker 2: all the time, which are definitely tighter. It's like a
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  Speaker 2: bigger style. If you go on over to the newsletter
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  Speaker 2: plug link in the show notes, you'll see a photo
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  Speaker 2: of me with my curly hair. In high school, I
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  Speaker 2: was doing a lot of weight cycling. Then I was
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  Speaker 2: constantly in and out of weight watchers meetings, and at
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  Speaker 2: this time, when I was wearing my hair like this
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  Speaker 2: from high school to college, I was feeling really uncomfortable
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  Speaker 2: in my own body. I was also constantly wearing my
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  Speaker 2: hair like this when I was at my heaviest my
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  Speaker 2: freshman year of college. And so when I think about
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  Speaker 2: that time in my life when I wasn't the happiest,
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  Speaker 2: when I didn't have a really good self image, I
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  Speaker 2: envisioned myself with this hairstyle. So fast forward to now,
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  Speaker 2: it's like, God, ten years or so at least, I
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  Speaker 2: look completely different than I did in high school and
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  Speaker 2: at the beginning of college. I have had for a
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  Speaker 2: long time trouble disassociating this hairstyle with the emily that was.
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  Speaker 2: Like when I look at myself in the mirror and
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  Speaker 2: my hair is naturally curly, I'm like seeing something that's
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  Speaker 2: not real. Like I know that I do not currently
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  Speaker 2: look like I did back then, but I look in
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  Speaker 2: the mirror and I feel like I see the rounder cheeks.
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  Speaker 2: I see some of that, you know, negativity, maybe that
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  Speaker 2: surrounded how I felt at that time. It's like I'm
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  Speaker 2: instantly transported back to so many of the scenarios that
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  Speaker 2: made me feel lesser than, like my high school cafeteria
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  Speaker 2: and the people that would make fun of me, or
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  Speaker 2: god knows what. It's been interesting this week because I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what got into me on I think it
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  Speaker 2: was Wednesday to just like rocket naturally, but I did
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  Speaker 2: and maybe for the first time in a I don't know,
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  Speaker 2: like I don't want to say ever, but maybe the
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  Speaker 2: first time in a life long time, I did my
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  Speaker 2: hair like this, which it's currently the same curls right now,
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  Speaker 2: and I felt really confident and really just home, like
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  Speaker 2: this is who I am. I'm not sitting here saying
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  Speaker 2: like I'm just gonna suddenly wear it like this exclusively
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  Speaker 2: all the time, but I am saying, and I'm telling
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  Speaker 2: you the story because I want to articulate that just
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  Speaker 2: because someone changes, maybe losing weight made you a happier person,
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  Speaker 2: maybe gaining weight made you a happier person, that doesn't
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  Speaker 2: mean that there isn't going to be legacy work to do.
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  Speaker 2: I am still doing the work. I am still working
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  Speaker 2: on my inner dialogue and my overall body positivity and
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  Speaker 2: embracing who it is that I've become because I am
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  Speaker 2: proud of her. And I'm sure that maybe you have
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  Speaker 2: something that you struggle with that transports you back to
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  Speaker 2: a different point. And it's just so important for us
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  Speaker 2: to recognize who it is that we really are and
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  Speaker 2: to see what is actually happening in front of us.
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  Speaker 2: If we want to continue to move forward. So I
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  Speaker 2: prompt for you this week, what is one story that
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  Speaker 2: you are telling yourself that is not true? What is
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  Speaker 2: one story that you are telling yourself that is not true?
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  Speaker 2: And you need to let go of listener question of
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  Speaker 2: the Week this week. I feel like I cannot stick
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  Speaker 2: with journaling no matter how many times I try. How
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  Speaker 2: do I do it? I have gone through so many
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  Speaker 2: different evolutions of journaling, Like I had a one line
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  Speaker 2: a day journal that I used for about a year.
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  Speaker 2: I've had like other various prompted journals, some that I
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  Speaker 2: still use sporadically. I've used simple mind journals, like I've
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  Speaker 2: done all of the things and the two biggest tips
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  Speaker 2: that I can offer you one journal at a time
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  Speaker 2: that invigorates you instead of makes you feel dread like
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  Speaker 2: for me, I'll compare this to meditation. I do not
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  Speaker 2: love meditating first thing in the morning, but I do
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  Speaker 2: love meditating like in the middle of my work day
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  Speaker 2: when I need a breath of fresh air. The middle
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  Speaker 2: of the day at meditation practice works for me. The
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  Speaker 2: morning meditation practice does not. So find a time for
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  Speaker 2: journaling that invigorates you and feels right my next tip
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  Speaker 2: is then find a journaling style that feels good for you.
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  Speaker 2: I mentioned a variety of different ways that you can
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  Speaker 2: do it for me. Right now, the lined journal and
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  Speaker 2: ending each day with something I'm grateful for just feels right.
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  Speaker 2: It might not feel that way forever, but for now
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  Speaker 2: it feels good. So lean into a journaling practice that
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  Speaker 2: is convenient and invigorates you and also excites you in
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  Speaker 2: the style that you are journaling. If you have a
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  Speaker 2: listener question, I'm all ears, you can always send those
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  Speaker 2: over to me via email or DM at Emily at
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  Speaker 2: Hurdle dot us or on Instagram at Hurdle Podcast or
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  Speaker 2: at Emily a Body. And now finishing off with highlights
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  Speaker 2: of the week. Links to all this goodness can be
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  Speaker 2: found in the show notes read Uncomfortable Conversations with the
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  Speaker 2: Black Man by Emmanuel at Sho. So I've highlighted a
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  Speaker 2: manual before this. This man is such a good hearted human.
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  Speaker 2: You have definitely by now watched his viral videos on
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  Speaker 2: YouTube or Instagram or Facebook. And this week he released
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  Speaker 2: his first book. I obviously haven't read it yet. The
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  Speaker 2: reviews are calling it a perfect read for those who
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  Speaker 2: might be intimidated by Waightier books like How to Be
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  Speaker 2: an Anti Racist, so I'm amped for him. I loved
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  Speaker 2: thousand copies in the first day, so definitely give that
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  Speaker 2: We met a couple of years ago, maybe just over
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  Speaker 2: a year ago, at Nike World Headquarters, and have stayed
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  Speaker 2: in touch ever since. This week on the show, she
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  Speaker 2: is chatting with Kelly Roberts. Kelly is a friend of mine.
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  Speaker 2: And lastly, I talked about journaling, so this is appropriate, right.
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  Speaker 2: the coolest gift idea. Baron Fag has a limited edition
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  Speaker 2: Letters to the Future journal. It is basically designed to
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  Speaker 2: write letters to yourself and it comes with envelopes that
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  Speaker 2: you can seal to open at a later date. I
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  Speaker 2: know it's kind of wacky, but I think that's what
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  Speaker 2: makes it a really cool gift idea, because how cool
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  Speaker 2: would it be if you once a month wrote a
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  Speaker 2: letter to yourself that you would then open that month,
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  Speaker 2: a year, two years, three years later.
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  Speaker 1: Now.
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  Speaker 2: I know some of you who are maybe organization freaks
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  Speaker 2: or minimalists unlike me, maybe may.
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  Speaker 2: I do, I do.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's it for now.
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