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Men! This is How to Step Up your Dating Game! · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  OK, this is for the men today. Yes, guys, You want to step up
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  your dating game? Then listen up.
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  All right? I'm about to play a video for
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  you and a girl shows the perfect example of why you guys don't
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  get more dates and do better on the dating apps.
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  So hang on, watch it. I'm going to come back in and
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  then give you some more specific tips on how to crank it into
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  high gear. All right.
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  Talking to a man on Hinge and why I'll probably be single and
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  alone forever. So this guy John had a prompt
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  and it said what I would love to know about you is what book are
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  you reading at the moment? So I was like, amazing.
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  I'm in my reading era. I like reading.
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  We can chat. We have a nice conversation
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  about books. So I sent the first message.
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  I said, hey John, what's up? Right now I'm reading Animal
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  Farm. I'm trying to reach my reading
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  goal for the year and it's only 100 pages.
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  You very good. I'm reading bullshit jobs by
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  whoever. This book is very good.
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  That's all I got from this. Just very good.
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  Doesn't want to know. Oh, what's your reading goal for
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  the year? Doesn't want to know.
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  Are you enjoying the book? Nothing.
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  Doesn't actually care. I'm so desperate and lonely that
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  I power through. Is it any good?
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  Give me an example of a bullshit job.
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  Most corporate work. Cool.
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  This is the part where I lose the will to live.
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  But I was like, you know, I was going to ask him one more
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  question. I'm going to give him one more
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  chance to ask me something so very basic.
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  I just asked, do you read a lot? I would do, yes, I said.
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  John, are you planning on asking me any questions or shall I
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  continue the interview? John.
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  OK, so in the messaging phase, it is make it or break it.
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  Time and men, if you get a shot up to bat, you need to come in
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  hot. If you're interested in these
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  ladies and ladies, like I tell you, if he's not coming in hot,
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  you already have a problem out of the gate.
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  All right, so men, when you get up to bat and you're in the
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  messaging phase, please have something more to say than how
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  was your day or how is the weather?
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  Read her profile. Kick things out of her profile.
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  This is great Intel that you have.
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  If you look at her profile, you can certainly ask her about
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  where she lives. You can ask her about her
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  career. You can ask her about what
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  hobbies and interests she's put down.
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  That is always a great opener. And then, for God's sakes, you
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  have to look at this conversation like a tennis
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  match. OK?
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  You can't go from zero to 100. As in Hi, nice to meet you.
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  Let's get on a call. No, that's not going to work,
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  OK? It's got to be some foreplay
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  happening. All right.
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  So you have to at least say, you know, I saw that you loved, I
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  love you love to stand up, paddle board.
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  How often do you go? Where do you go?
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  Pickleball. Where do you play?
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  How good are you? You know, ask some good
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  questions. And then, ladies, it's on you to
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  come back and say, oh, I play pickleball at XYZ.
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  Have you ever played pickleball? How often do you play?
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  You need, you guys need to be asking questions back and forth.
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  Because here's the thing. If you're asking a question and
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  somebody'd answering it and giving somebody nothing to work
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  with, that thing is going to die on the vine, all right?
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  And it should be 3 or 4 great back and forth vibe messages
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  happening. Not about your laundry, not
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  about walking the dog or boring shit.
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  OK, you need to look at each other as like, oh, sexy flirty
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  time. Sexy flirty time.
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  OK, be fun and flirty guys. Don't be too sexual.
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  Do not be too sexual. And don't compliment just on
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  their physical appearance. Compliment them on their
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  interests. Compliment them on their brains.
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  Three different men, think outside the box.
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  One other thing I want to add. All right, 3-4 good messages.
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  Vibe back and forth. And then somebody needs to say,
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  hey, it would be better to get to know you on a call.
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  What do you think? All right, whether the lady says
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  it where the guy, whether the guy says it.
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  If if the conversation requires more than a few sentences or a
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  few 434 back and forth messages, it's time to move it on a call.
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  Otherwise going into these long long text things and the
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  messages go on for days and all this, it's going to start to die
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  on the vine all right, It's all about pre qualifying, people
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  having a fun flirty conversation, getting on a call.
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  If the call goes well, ask them out on a date.
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  OK, there you go. Hope it helps.