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Episode #159 w/Dr. Enola Pillard · Kickin’ It With KeKe: Life, Love, & MINDSET

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Kicking In with Kiki. Kicking it you Ki Ki.
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Speaker 2: Kicking it the ki key for a little personality, switching
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Speaker 2: up the storyline on God we making this story.
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Speaker 1: And hooks one day at the time. How much problems
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Speaker 1: to the side, enjoy yourself, free your mind. Kick in
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Speaker 1: It with Ki.
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Speaker 3: Keep Welcome to Kicking in with KICKI Life, Love and Mindset,
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Speaker 3: the podcast where mindset sets.
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Speaker 2: Movement, healing, meats, action and conversations create transformation. I'm your host,
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Speaker 2: Kicky Chanel, award winning author, lifestyle blogger, and owner of
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Speaker 2: nineteen Life magazine. Here we talk about life, love, killing,
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Speaker 2: growth and mindset shifts that help you become the best
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Speaker 2: version of yourself. So pull up a seat. We're kicking
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Speaker 2: it today. I have a very special guest. She is
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Speaker 2: a recurring guest, so it's always fun to have people
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Speaker 2: who want to come back and kick it with me, y'all.
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Speaker 2: I still like to let my guests tell them people
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Speaker 2: who they are and what they do, so she knows
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Speaker 2: what to do. I'm gonna go ahead and turn it
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Speaker 2: over to her and let her tell you what she's doing,
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Speaker 2: who she is. Thank you for coming to Kicking it
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Speaker 2: with me again. So tell the people who you are
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Speaker 2: what you do.
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Speaker 1: Hi, I'm doctor you know La Pillard. I'm from La Fian, Louisiana.
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Speaker 1: I am a hair stylist, a tricologist, a life coach,
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Speaker 1: an author. I wear a few hats and I'm so
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Speaker 1: excited to be back on the show. I always love
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Speaker 1: to come on this show.
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Speaker 2: Well, I'm glad to have you back. Thank you for
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Speaker 2: coming to kick it with me again. I'm super excited
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Speaker 2: because I did a little formatting, different formatting for the podcast,
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Speaker 2: just to liven things up a little bit. We're talking
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Speaker 2: more about life, love and mindset instead of all the
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Speaker 2: other stuff that we used to talk about, which still
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Speaker 2: entails all of those things. What mindset help you survive
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Speaker 2: your hardest season? So we're going to talk about the
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Speaker 2: mindset moment right now?
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Speaker 1: Well, God, I tell you it's only through prayer and
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Speaker 1: meditation and you know, sticking to my tribe. I have
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Speaker 1: a tribe and one time I don't have a tribe,
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Speaker 1: but I do have a tribe and grabbing hold to
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Speaker 1: those that say called when you need you know, that's uplifting.
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Speaker 1: I cannot say where I am right here, sitting right
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Speaker 1: here is because.
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Speaker 2: Of that yeah, I love that love. We all need
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Speaker 2: our tribe, We all need people in our space that
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Speaker 2: don't require us every day, but know that we are
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Speaker 2: with them every day. Because my tribe, we may not
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Speaker 2: talk or see each other for weeks or months at
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Speaker 2: a time, but if they need me, they know them
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Speaker 2: there and vice versa. Because we all have lives and
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Speaker 2: things happen, so we can't just sit up on the
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Speaker 2: phone all day every day. We can't text back and
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Speaker 2: forth all day every day. It is always great to
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Speaker 2: have people who pour into you as you pour into them.
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Speaker 2: So what belief did you have to unlearn to grow
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Speaker 2: and change your mindset?
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Speaker 1: Well, I have to honestly say, at one season, I
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Speaker 1: it was a struggle because those that I thought that
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Speaker 1: would support me, it's not supporting me. And I saw
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Speaker 1: where it was taking away my strength and it was
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Speaker 1: beyond my control. So I had to shift my mindset
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Speaker 1: to see things completely different in order to move forward,
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Speaker 1: where instead of me getting substracted the tracting strength that
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Speaker 1: I gained strengths. So I had to get the revelation
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Speaker 1: that you cannot force people to care, to have compassion,
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Speaker 1: and to love like you love. But what it did
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Speaker 1: for me is be more mindful, to have more self
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Speaker 1: awareness of how I am with others. And that's what
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Speaker 1: keeps me going. And especially when someone call and say, look,
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Speaker 1: you help me just on time. Guess what breakthrough I got?
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Speaker 1: You know? So that's what worked for me. That the
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Speaker 1: change I want to see, let us start in myself
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Speaker 1: and instead of looking at it so much from others,
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Speaker 1: for me to apply to how I interact, react and
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Speaker 1: respond to others.
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Speaker 2: Absolutely, And when it comes to life and love, how
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Speaker 2: have you allowed your mindset to shift so that those
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Speaker 2: things can balance and flow so that you are able
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Speaker 2: to walk in your God given purpose.
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Speaker 1: To allow love to be action, collect to take out
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Speaker 1: of my vocabulary I'm gonna I'm gonna see and one
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Speaker 1: day actually making that priority to love our loud, to
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Speaker 1: allow love to be action, not counting the score of
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Speaker 1: who called last, or I don't want to bother her,
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Speaker 1: not even thinking that way, to just for me to
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Speaker 1: do it. And I tell y'all feel so free, I
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Speaker 1: feel lighter, I feel happier, and it just made my
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Speaker 1: love walk even more because I feel that's part of
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Speaker 1: my DNA to love. That's what I grew up on,
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Speaker 1: you know, we grew up with our moms, our grandparents,
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Speaker 1: just seeing how they are. You know, the way things
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Speaker 1: were then is not the way it is now. But
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Speaker 1: your roots, your foundation, what you know, that's who you are.
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Speaker 1: And I found myself at one time, you know, I
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Speaker 1: felt that if I'm quiet, I'm to myself. I'm by myself.
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Speaker 1: You can't lie to me, you can't misunderstand me, you
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Speaker 1: can't judge me. You can't tell me if I'm good enough,
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Speaker 1: smart enough, small enough, tall enough, bright enough, my hair
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Speaker 1: a certain way. You can't judge all of that. But
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Speaker 1: I realized when I was shifting and elevating in my
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Speaker 1: career and just as a woman alone, that just would
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Speaker 1: not work for me. So I had to shift. And
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Speaker 1: I just got the revelation on how I'm working on
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Speaker 1: a time clock that has no snooze button because you
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Speaker 1: know what it's time to shift. It's no god, I
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Speaker 1: don't know. It wakes you up in the middle of
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Speaker 1: the night. You'll see a bumper sticker, You'll see a
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Speaker 1: billboard sign. That word will keep chasing after you until
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Speaker 1: you get it that you must embrace with you. Absolutely.
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Speaker 2: I love that we're not living we're not living on
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Speaker 2: a snooze button. Oh my goodness, because you know I
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Speaker 2: don't like to hit the snooze button, but I have
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Speaker 2: done it in the past. It just gives you a
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Speaker 2: little bit more. I get fifteen more minutes or ten
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Speaker 2: more minutes or whatever. But life doesn't stop. Life is
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Speaker 2: always going. It does not stop. Although we have curve
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Speaker 2: balls and speed bumps that can hold up some process,
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Speaker 2: we still going along the way. So I love that
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Speaker 2: revelation that you got about that like make glove action,
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Speaker 2: And if more people thought that way, life would probably
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Speaker 2: be so much better and we could be farther in
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Speaker 2: our relationships, in our you know, careers or whatever. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: I love that. Thank you for sharing that with the audience, y'all.
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Speaker 2: I know y'all heard that, If not get every one
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Speaker 2: so that you can hear it again. What one mindset?
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Speaker 2: What is one mindset that people need to adopt right now.
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Speaker 1: To join the movement. Join the movement, get out of
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Speaker 1: being stuck, Get out of your comfort zone. You will
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Speaker 1: not be last in your comfort zone. And I can
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Speaker 1: speak from experience, and as you work on yourself, is
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Speaker 1: no way things can remain the same. Your finances won't
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Speaker 1: remain the same. And when you actually get in cruise control,
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Speaker 1: just just get on cruise control. It's so much easier
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Speaker 1: because you're fitting in who your call to be. You're
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Speaker 1: able to define what's your purpose, what's the plan, and
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Speaker 1: you're just on cruise control. It's not without force. See.
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Speaker 1: Sometimes it takes tests and trials, and it's just like
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Speaker 1: an olive that as it gets crushed. Through the crushing,
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Speaker 1: it's olive all. It's an anointing that comes for and
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Speaker 1: when we realize that even what we do, it is
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Speaker 1: not by power, and it is not by might, but
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Speaker 1: it's only by the spirit of the living God. And
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Speaker 1: it's the anointing that destroyed yolks, the uproot generational curses
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Speaker 1: and uproot cycles where you'll find, well, this time last year,
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Speaker 1: you was in the same place. And it's only you
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Speaker 1: can make up your mind and say no, no, I
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Speaker 1: cannot stay in this place. And you know, as I mentioned,
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Speaker 1: I just feel freer. I feel that things are just
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Speaker 1: coming to me, you know, instead of me working so
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Speaker 1: hard trying to make things work, it just come to me.
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Speaker 1: Opportunities to just come. And I feel that when we
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Speaker 1: and Cruise Control were letting God take control. It's like
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Speaker 1: sometime you want to surprise us. You know, we think
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Speaker 1: even as parents, you know what our kids, we may
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Speaker 1: hear want something and they don't know we already have it.
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Speaker 1: We already have it, just waiting till their birthday two
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Speaker 1: more days. And I think about God saying, look, two
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Speaker 1: more hours. Only she knew just two more hours. And honestly,
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Speaker 1: a book was a birth through that and it just
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Speaker 1: was published. And the name of it is one Wish.
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Speaker 2: Tell the audience about one wish.
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Speaker 1: I love that congratulation, Thank you, thank you, Yes, one Wish.
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Speaker 1: It's it's actually a children's book and it's about a
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Speaker 1: lady and we could define with her. Her name is Test. Test.
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Speaker 1: This was an entrepreneur. She had on beauty salon. He
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Speaker 1: worked hard in the community. She helped anybody she knew.
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Speaker 1: She served in the church, and she shared with the
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Speaker 1: pastor over a decade ago that her desire was for
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Speaker 1: a daughter. And he sat back and watched watch her grow,
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Speaker 1: watch her elevator, watch her pursue her dreams. But he
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Speaker 1: knew it was that one void and it was one
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Speaker 1: Sunday morning, all of that change. It was a grandmother
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Speaker 1: that was taking care of a little girl that had
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Speaker 1: sick of seal and she couldn't take care of her anymore.
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Speaker 1: And she asked the pastor, is there someone that he
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Speaker 1: knew for sure that would love her like she loves her,
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Speaker 1: that can care for her the way that she can
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Speaker 1: no longer. And it was Tests. So one day Test
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Speaker 1: life change and she gained that one wish and she
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Speaker 1: was able to press fast forward with Zoe. Her name
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Speaker 1: is Zoe. And when the grandmother couldn't get her nails
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Speaker 1: polish and get her ear rings, get her ears peers,
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Speaker 1: then decorate her room everything the grandmother couldn't do, Tests
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Speaker 1: was able to press fast forward and do it for her.
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Speaker 1: But then she got a crisis. And when she had
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Speaker 1: that crisis, Test was able to tell her how she
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Speaker 1: had one wish and that was for her, she can
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Speaker 1: have a wish and she can get better. And she
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Speaker 1: asks her what does she want to do when she
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Speaker 1: get out of the hospital, and she wanted the tea parties.
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Speaker 1: So that's how the book, uh, that's how it ends.
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Speaker 1: But it's so many points to that book that can
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Speaker 1: speak to so many women. You know, for us, it
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Speaker 1: may not be a daughter, it may be something else,
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Speaker 1: but for whatever it is. It's going to give hope
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Speaker 1: to those that feel all hope is gone, even to
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Speaker 1: the little girls. You know, there are so many young
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Speaker 1: kids that have disabilities, that have illnesses that they need
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Speaker 1: to know that they can find even with what their circumstances,
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Speaker 1: they can find a norm you know, they can find
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Speaker 1: some normalcy in their life. So that book can speak
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Speaker 1: on so many different areas. And when I tell you,
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Speaker 1: so far that book has been in three different settings.
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Speaker 1: And when I tell you I literally have maybe two
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Speaker 1: books left, right.
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Speaker 2: I'm so happy not for you, Yes, yes, I love that.
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Speaker 2: So working listeners purchase the book if they wanted to
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Speaker 2: get a copy of support you, how can they get
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Speaker 2: a copy of one wish.
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Speaker 1: On a Chante Enterprises dot com. That's my website, and
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Speaker 1: they can purchase it off that site. And I mean
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Speaker 1: Nola Pillard on Facebook. And I'm always keeping up today.
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Speaker 1: It's always somewhere I'm at, you know, there's there's I'm
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Speaker 1: really to up until October. I have things that's already
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Speaker 1: on my schedule. So wherever I show up as a
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Speaker 1: vendor or as a speaker, I make sure that I
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Speaker 1: have new release copy. It's on me. So I would
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Speaker 1: say to them, you know, just watch my page, watch
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Speaker 1: what's going on, because I may be in their city
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Speaker 1: and they can get a copy and get a signed
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Speaker 1: by me.
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Speaker 2: Come into a city, New Year, y'all, stay on the
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Speaker 2: look out for all of that. So we are moving
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Speaker 2: into the reality check where growth sounds in theory, like
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Speaker 2: the truth behind everything that's uncomfortable becoming comfortable. So I'm
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Speaker 2: going to ask you these questions and you just the
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Speaker 2: first thing that pops to mind, that's what you that's
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Speaker 2: what you got to answer with. Okay, right, reality check?
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Speaker 1: All right?
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Speaker 2: What's the uncomfortable truth people avoid when it comes to
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Speaker 2: personal growth?
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Speaker 1: To get out of the way, To get out of
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Speaker 1: the way, and look in the mirror, look at the
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Speaker 1: look at the woman in the mirror, look at the
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Speaker 1: man in the mirror, and embrace who you really are.
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Speaker 1: You see. That's why I mentioned that quiet, sheltered person
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Speaker 1: that always sat to the back, that didn't fit for
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Speaker 1: me anymore. Because I embraced being an author already, I
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Speaker 1: embraced being a life coach already, I embraced being a hairstylist.
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Speaker 1: So all those avenues, it involves people you know, and
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Speaker 1: you're not gonna fulfill your purpose. My purpose was people,
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Speaker 1: to serve people, to give a message to people. So
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Speaker 1: that mean that mindset of being quiet, it just didn't
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Speaker 1: work anymore. So I had to pursue and guess what,
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Speaker 1: let me tell you. From being that having that reality check,
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Speaker 1: I've went from speaking amongst hundreds till now I'm a
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Speaker 1: TV and film hairstylist and you you just might see
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Speaker 1: me on the next movie.
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Speaker 2: All right, Listen, that makes me so proud because we
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Speaker 2: hadn't talking a while, but you know, I see I
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Speaker 2: see you on social media.
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Speaker 1: Movie I just be smile.
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Speaker 2: I'm like, she don't never sit out, but I'm so
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Speaker 2: happy for you. That is amazing, And I think that
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Speaker 2: it is very important to get out of your own
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Speaker 2: way and when you know that your purpose is bigger
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Speaker 2: than you, to help other people fulfill their purpose. You
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Speaker 2: can't sit quiet. You can't sit in the back because
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Speaker 2: God is ushering you for for a reason, your gifts
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Speaker 2: make room for you. You have to make sure that
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Speaker 2: you're listening and hearing the voice of God, because we
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Speaker 2: know that the enemy can speak as well. But we
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Speaker 2: serve a God that is mighty and everlasting. He will
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Speaker 2: not forsake us or leave us. He is not the
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Speaker 2: author of confusion. So we just have to know that
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Speaker 2: it is him who is speaking to us so that
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Speaker 2: we can get our own reality check and get out
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Speaker 2: of our own way.
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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, and you know some there. I can't tell you.
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna tell the listeners that it was easy.
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna tell you that it happened over night.
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Speaker 1: It was birth and pains that came through that you
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Speaker 1: hear about in the Bible, about about him being the
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Speaker 1: potter and we are the clay, and how he's shaping
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Speaker 1: and molding. Do you know through that process there was
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Speaker 1: things I found out by myself and I was like, no,
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Speaker 1: not me, me, me a people pleaser, me, me allowed someone.
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Speaker 1: If you know you hear about a roaring line that
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Speaker 1: has no bite. I just discovered that there's someone that's
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Speaker 1: that's an authority that I look up to. Do you
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Speaker 1: know that I had, literally I had to come to
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Speaker 1: the reality. I looked at them as a god. Anything
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Speaker 1: you see higher than God. Anything you talk about a lot,
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Speaker 1: you complain about a lot, no matter what, that's the
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Speaker 1: thing that keeps you inferior. That was a human being
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Speaker 1: that's walking around right now, and that person didn't even
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Speaker 1: know they had that, but I was in fear of that,
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Speaker 1: and I had to I had to walk up to
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Speaker 1: that lion. I had to walk up to that lion
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Speaker 1: and realize it was just roaring, but it had no bite.
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Speaker 1: And it's a process because I was so accustomed to
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Speaker 1: it for so long. I have to allow God to to,
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Speaker 1: you know, to help me to adjust, because it just
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Speaker 1: became a part of me. No matter what I did,
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Speaker 1: that person opinion mattered. No matter what I accomplished with that,
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Speaker 1: how that person will react that's what matters. And I
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Speaker 1: had to repent. I had to honestly repent and tell
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Speaker 1: God I was sorry, because there's someone that's looking for
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Speaker 1: a door to open, There's someone that was looking for
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Speaker 1: a breakthrough, and here I was walking in my breakthrough
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Speaker 1: and not even saying thank you because I was looking
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Speaker 1: at man's opinion. And when I had to realize who
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Speaker 1: had the problem. I didn't really have the problem. That
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Speaker 1: individual have a problem that they can't handle the increase,
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Speaker 1: They can't handle the influence that I have. They can't
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Speaker 1: handle that they not doing what I'm doing. So even
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Speaker 1: through all of that, I realized who had the problem
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Speaker 1: when it seemed like I had the problem. But I
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Speaker 1: don't have the problem no more, you know. So though
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Speaker 1: it's a lot that I said, but I know I
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Speaker 1: feel that it's somebody that needed to hear that today.
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Speaker 2: Absolutely, And that's what I like about adding this new
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Speaker 2: segment called the Reality Check. It allows you, as the guests,
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Speaker 2: to be real with the people and pour into them
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Speaker 2: in a way that they can understand because it's relatable.
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Speaker 2: So thank you for sharing that with us and being vulnerable.
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Speaker 2: I appreciate it so much. With this question, I love
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Speaker 2: this question that I've only asked three other guests because
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Speaker 2: it is new and it's coming up on the next
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Speaker 2: part of the podcast when the new season drops. What
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Speaker 2: habits are quietly keeping people stuck? Oh?
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Speaker 1: As I mentioned people pleasing not dealing with the root
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Speaker 1: for myself, I speak, I speak about myself. When it
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Speaker 1: was time for me to deal with these these issues,
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Speaker 1: I swept it under the rug, I tuck it, I
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Speaker 1: tucked it in, I tucked it away. I found something
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Speaker 1: else to replace it because I felt I couldn't handle
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Speaker 1: the pain. But the pain just kept coming up at
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Speaker 1: opportune time. So I had to deal with that pain.
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Speaker 1: I had to deal with it. And guess what today,
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Speaker 1: all I can think, I'm taking one day at a time. Today,
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Speaker 1: I'm smiling today, I feel free. Today, I feel vibrant,
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Speaker 1: I feel I feel productive. I feel like I'm not busy.
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Speaker 1: You know there's times we can be busy and not
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Speaker 1: doing anything. Uh huh you know, so yeah, yeah, I
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Speaker 1: know I may keep saying the same thing, but it's
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Speaker 1: the truth. It's really the.
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Speaker 2: Truth, right, and you've experienced it, so you know that
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Speaker 2: it happens like it's the reality. We all get in
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Speaker 2: our own way. We all become people pleases at one
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Speaker 2: part of our lives or another, whether you want to
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Speaker 2: acknowledge it or not. We all get comfortable being in
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Speaker 2: the comfort zone, but there's no growth that happens there.
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Speaker 2: We all have insecurities, we have imposter syndrome where we
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Speaker 2: don't feel like we're good enough. But God says, so,
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Speaker 2: God gave you these gifts, so stop worrying about the
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Speaker 2: approval of man. Do it with your whole heart, with
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Speaker 2: integrity and humility and grace and self compassion, and watch
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Speaker 2: how your life changed. I am a living witness to
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Speaker 2: that because I am so glad that I stopped people pleasing,
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Speaker 2: that I stopped caring about what people thought so much.
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Speaker 2: And when I decided to let that go, I have.
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Speaker 2: It's like you said, it's freeing. You feel lighter, You
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Speaker 2: just look at life different. And I'm not turning back
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Speaker 2: for that. So last question of the reality check, what
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Speaker 2: excuse do people need to stop making?
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it tomorrow, but this time next year.
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Speaker 1: All right, all right, let me work on this first.
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Speaker 1: And once this happened, then that's not gonna work. That's
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Speaker 1: not gonna work. And you know what was happening for
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Speaker 1: me the very thing that I was called to be
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Speaker 1: others that look up to me, that I was mentoring
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Speaker 1: they was a cop from the shit and I had
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Speaker 1: to real lives. How am I known as their mentors
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Speaker 1: and telling them what they can do? And I'm not
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Speaker 1: doing it my own self? Wow?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you have to look in the mirror. You have
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Speaker 2: your own reality check with yourself the same you you
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Speaker 2: know how to get it done. You helping other people
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Speaker 2: do it? Why not do it for yourself?
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Speaker 1: Yes? M hm, yes, take my take my own advice
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Speaker 1: and even books that I've read, you know, taken a
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Speaker 1: taking a second to to read that my own self,
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Speaker 1: read my own book, read my own mess you know, yes, yes,
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Speaker 1: most definitely. I'm like, wow, I love it.
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Speaker 2: I love that because it is a it's an a
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Speaker 2: har moment because that was just confirmation. Just what you
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Speaker 2: just said. That was confirmation for me. It's like, you happen,
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Speaker 2: you're you're, you're you help the other people do this,
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Speaker 2: so why not you? Yes, that was confirmation about something
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Speaker 2: that I needed to hear. I needed to hear that
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Speaker 2: in this season for something that I'm working on or
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Speaker 2: what's helping somebody else work on. And it's like, you've
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Speaker 2: been wanting to do this all this time, and you're
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Speaker 2: giving them the steps that you can take to get
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Speaker 2: it done because they are doing it. You told them
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Speaker 2: the steps that it take.
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Speaker 1: Yes, Yeah, thank you for that. All right?
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Speaker 2: Got all right, Let's bring this conversation a home with
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Speaker 2: an action step, because mindset without movement doesn't create change.
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Speaker 2: What is one action someone can take today to move forward?
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Speaker 1: I would say the action step is to celebrate yourself.
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Speaker 1: Celebrate yourself. I'm actually about to have an event, my
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Speaker 1: own first event, and the name of the event event
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Speaker 1: is I Am the Proof no matter what. You haven't overcame,
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Speaker 1: You overcame something, you confered something, you accomplish something, you're
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Speaker 1: the proof that it can happen. So that would be
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Speaker 1: my advice to celebrate yourself. So celebrate your victories, celebrate yourself,
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Speaker 1: treat yourself. Pat your own self on the back. If
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Speaker 1: nobody else pat your pat you on the back, Pat
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Speaker 1: your own self on the back. Look in the mirror
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Speaker 1: and say congratulations to yourself because there's something you've accomplished.
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Speaker 1: You're not where you were even last week. You know,
25:34
Speaker 1: if you keep listening to a podcast like this, you
25:37
Speaker 1: won't you won't have a choice but to transform. You're
25:39
Speaker 1: gonna shock yourself with me like what I said, what
25:43
Speaker 1: I did? What right?
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Speaker 2: Absolutely?
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Speaker 1: I love it.
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Speaker 2: And that's the overall purpose of podcasts like this to
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Speaker 2: have conversations that are relatable and need necessary to change
25:56
Speaker 2: the narrative in our lives, especially in the black community.
25:58
Speaker 2: Because I do this for my people. You know, I
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Speaker 2: love all people, but I do this for my people
26:03
Speaker 2: because we have been conditioned for years that we're not
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Speaker 2: supposed to be who God called us to be, that
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Speaker 2: we're supposed to be inferior to other people. That we're
26:16
Speaker 2: not supposed to have education, that now we're not supposed
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Speaker 2: to have a family, or you know, a career of
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Speaker 2: making money, driving certain cars and living life the way
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Speaker 2: that we are supposed to live it. That is a lie.
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Speaker 2: Stop telling yourself that and stop allowing other people to
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Speaker 2: tell you that and make you feel like that. Get
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Speaker 2: out of your own way, like that's the action step
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Speaker 2: that I'll tell everybody. Get out your own way, yes,
26:42
Speaker 2: and get the shirt right. Get out of your own way.
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Speaker 1: What daily habit.
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Speaker 2: Builds long term transformation when it comes to mindset in
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Speaker 2: life and love, I.
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Speaker 1: Would say for bets and spending time with myself, meditating,
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Speaker 1: you know, taking time to evaluate my goals, short term goals,
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Speaker 1: long term goals. Just sitting being quiet and join life God.
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Speaker 1: Sit on the porch, m a walk, go sit in
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Speaker 1: the park, treat yourself to an ice cream. That's that's
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Speaker 1: that's what I've been doing.
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Speaker 2: That sounds like a perfect day with myself. That's the
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Speaker 2: perfect day for me.
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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I love that.
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Speaker 2: And what questions should listeners ask themselves, Like anybody that's
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Speaker 2: sitting with themselves out on the porch, they may be
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Speaker 2: taking their walk or in the park. What questions should
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Speaker 2: they ask themselves today?
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Speaker 1: What are what are the things they didn't say thank
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Speaker 1: you for?
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Speaker 2: Oh?
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Speaker 1: What are the things they didn't say thank you for?
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Speaker 2: Mm hmm?
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Speaker 1: And what that does for me? When I sit back
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Speaker 1: and I just think about my day. You know how
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Speaker 1: I made it home safe, I had a meal. You know,
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Speaker 1: it's not till your ac go out till you appreciate air,
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Speaker 1: When your high water tank go out, you appreciate hot water. See,
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Speaker 1: I had all those situations when you car break down
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Speaker 1: on side the road and somebody actually came to help you.
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Speaker 1: You ain't sitting those things. When you start thinking about
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Speaker 1: just your day, the things that has happened, and you
28:31
Speaker 1: can say thank you. Oh, no matter what you facing,
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Speaker 1: all of that fades away because if all those things
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Speaker 1: worked out, this one little tiny thing is you can
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Speaker 1: be sure that it will work out. Also.
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Speaker 2: I love that thank you so much. Y'all. She is
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Speaker 2: dropping gems. You hear me, y'all, better pay attention before
28:52
Speaker 2: we close out, give us the mic drop one sentence
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Speaker 2: you want every listener to remember from this conversation.
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Speaker 1: I am the proof. I am the proof.
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Speaker 2: I have no words. I have no words for real
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Speaker 2: like I am the proof. That is a mic drop
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Speaker 2: moment for real. So before we close out, go ahead
29:19
Speaker 2: and tell everybody how to follow you your website again
29:23
Speaker 2: so we can have all that information. Go ahead and
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Speaker 2: tell tell the listeners how to connect with doctor Pillard.
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Speaker 1: A Chante Enterprises dot com. It's my website. You can
29:34
Speaker 1: reach me on ig a Shante Enterprises, TikTok. You know
29:39
Speaker 1: the Pillard Facebook, you know the Pillard That's all the
29:44
Speaker 1: ways that you can contact me. You can stay posted
29:46
Speaker 1: with what's new, what's in, what's going on, even to
29:50
Speaker 1: others events. I try my best to post on my page,
29:53
Speaker 1: so that's where you can find me.
29:56
Speaker 2: Absolutely all right, You guys have been listening to another
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Speaker 2: episod so of kicking it with Kiki, Life, love and mindset.
30:02
Speaker 2: Remember that your mindset shapes your reality, but your actions
30:06
Speaker 2: create your future. Thank you for tuning in to this episode.
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Speaker 2: your story has power, your voice has purpose, and your
30:24
Speaker 2: mindset can change everything. I'll see you next episode. Purple
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