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5 Autism Meltdowns Triggers A Kid vs YOU Now (NEED TO KNOW) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  OK guys, so here are five autism meltdown triggers that differ
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  from being a kid to me being my age now.
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  All that and more coming up. Hey guys, welcome back to the
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  aspy world. My name is Dan.
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  I have autism, ADHD, OCD and dyslexia.
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  So in this video, I basically want to outline 5 things that
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  were like trigger factors that could cause autism triggers and
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  meltdowns, anxiety meltdowns from when I was a kid to how I
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  am now. Because, you know, I'm 34 years
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  old and when I was a kid, that was a long time ago.
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  And so some of those things, did they change?
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  Did they not change? And this is quite a fun
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  exercise. So I basically listed out five
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  things that I feel like quite interesting things to talk
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  about. And then I went through and
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  thought about how they were when I was a kid and then how they
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  are now. And it was insightful for me
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  because I was learning because I was writing this down, was like
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  an exercise for myself. We're going to go through each
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  one of these right now. Love yourself a cup of tea,
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  chill out, relax and dance. Going to do the talking like I
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  feel like I talk all the time anyway.
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  Appreciate it. Love you.
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  So #1 is days out now. When I was a kid, I had an issue
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  with if we went somewhere like somebody's house and never
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  making food, I have a huge issue because I'd be like, oh Dang,
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  I'm not going to like any of the food.
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  And I start freaking out and I'm like, so we go on a day out
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  somewhere. I knew that the cafeteria
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  wouldn't have any food that I want or like, you know, so we'd
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  have to like food at home and we take them out if there wasn't,
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  the food was there and there's all the big thing.
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  And then I would get into a tizzy where I just freak out,
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  probably not even eat, and I wasn't not bothered about it.
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  Such a fussy eater anyway, really get like super hungry.
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  But like in terms of actually just having food and knowing
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  that I was taken care of with something quite.
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  It was a huge, huge issue because food is a huge issue
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  because I was, I was you know a version to certain textures and
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  taste and smells. So it was really difficult for
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  me to to actually find food when we were out unless it was like,
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  you know, your super simple kind of like hamburger and fries
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  which is a plain burger in a bun with just fries, you know, no,
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  no sauces, no no onions, no nothing.
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  But you know, get that was me as a kid.
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  Now if we Fast forward and look at me now, when I go for days
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  out, I think the issues I have is communicating my needs and
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  what my needs are to other people like.
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  If we go to like the zoo or we go to like.
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  An activity center or something like that?
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  We go to do I. Think I went outing.
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  It has me to explain to the staff or the other people where
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  I need if they have, if I have issues with certain things and
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  this I know you guys can totally relate to this.
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  So yeah, drop me a comment down below if you can totally relate
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  to what I'm saying right now. I just feel like when I'm trying
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  to say things, I feel like I'm talking to the people and then
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  they look at me, blank faces if they don't understand what I'm
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  actually saying. And they ask me a couple times
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  to clarify and I'm thinking, Oh my goodness, am I making any
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  sense? Is this gibberish?
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  Am I blubbering right now? And I guess to a certain extent
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  I probably am. But you can see how they differ.
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  You know, like, because I'm older, I can take care of my own
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  food and I I can take food with me and I'm in control of that
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  because I'm in control my whole my own life the whole time I'm
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  out. But the things I can control,
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  the exterior, things like communicating my needs to other
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  people, where my parents would have been the people taking care
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  of that when I was a kid. So it's really funny how that,
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  like, flipped itself around. OK, #2 is work slash school.
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  So when I was a kid, I had like super sensory issues with
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  anxiety and of the kids and trying to focus on what the
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  teacher was saying, you know, like, so I didn't go outside and
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  play in the playground with other kids.
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  I stayed indoors and I played on the computer and when they went
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  to their swimming lessons, I actually stayed indoors and they
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  they locked me in a classroom. And that's kind of weird.
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  I mean, the 90s was a bogus place, like locking a kid in a
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  classroom. I wasn't a fire, you know?
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  I was in there alone as well. I was only like 7 or 8 crazy
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  times to be alive, huh? So I had super anxiety going
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  outside to be all the kids going to the auditorium, assembly
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  sessions and all that kind of stuff.
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  And it was just really difficult to focus on what the teacher was
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  saying. I kind of just like blanked out
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  and I kind of just you know sat there doing my own thing and I
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  didn't really learn an awful lot because of those malpractices
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  that I weren't getting from the school.
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  Now if you Fast forward to like now, when when I last had a job
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  where I was sitting in a desk job, one of the biggest issues I
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  had was understanding what my bosses requests were like what
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  he was asking me to follow tasks and I'm following tasks and I
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  was like trying to sit that, listen, I'm like I'm really
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  going to focus listen to this task and I'm.
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  Going to get it. I'm going to get it.
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  And I didn't get it. And I'm like, Dang it.
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  I didn't get it. Dang it, I.
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  Didn't get it. I don't know somebody saying I
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  had to e-mail and ask all the time.
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  So trying to understand what my boss was saying.
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  Trying to understand the complex nature of offices and the sounds
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  and the. The he.
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  And the phones going and the ah, you know, that was a vast
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  different world to that when I was a kid.
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  Because when I was a kid I all I had to do was worry about
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  focusing. But when I was an adult,
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  focusing and taking on tasks and answering the phone and being
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  around other people in a strange environment.
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  Yeah. There's no big question of the
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  why I became self-employed. Really.
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  Is that OK? So #3 is supermarkets and this
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  is interesting. So when I was a kid the biggest
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  issue for me, and that's why I wrote down was sensory issues
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  with lights, sensory issues with sounds, sensory issues with
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  smells. Because like you know, the lines
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  were to Brian. I was in my in the trolley, my
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  mum was like pushing me around on the shopping cart.
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  You know when you have those kids seats and you sit in and
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  then she can be some like Billy Bear me, I know you guys know
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  exactly what I'm saying. Smash that like button if you
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  have had Billy bear me. And so yeah, I'm like driving
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  around eating this meat. But then like, there was also
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  smiles from the deli counter was overpowering.
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  And then there was like loads of lights and sounds and it was
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  just like, Oh my God, there's loads of stuff now.
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  I really didn't like going to the store.
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  I like being with my mum and sitting in the trolley being
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  pushed around, but I didn't like the sensory overloads.
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  But if you Fast forward to that, now I have sensory issues with
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  people. Which are just people, like
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  bumping into me or getting too close to me, or like, you know,
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  people being weird, like when you're.
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  Trying to get something and they push past and just people in
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  general or loud and which is just obnoxious but also have
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  issues with sensory issues with light sensory issues, sound and
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  sensory issues and smells. Those never changed.
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  Like though it was really interesting.
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  The only difference between a now and a kid is that now I have
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  issues with people because I'm not sitting in a trolley cat
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  being pushed around by my mum. So yeah I mean those are really
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  really close together. OK.
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  So #4 daily routines. So when I was a kid the biggest
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  issues I'd have if there was a bump in the daily routine that
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  created like a mass panic. Like not knowing what's going to
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  go on. Like, I anticipated to go on a
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  school trip with the school, but then like the bus would break
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  down and that kind of bump in the road and we'd be late going
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  there or whatever. That would all like freak me out
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  and I'd have like a huge kind of like worry attack about that.
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  And it was something that I didn't like, you know, I was all
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  that quiet and it was just, it was just not a nice experience.
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  But if you Fast forward to today, my my biggest issues now
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  is trying to plan my routine with actually having external
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  pressure from outside. So I'm trying to plan my day,
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  but then you have unexpected external pressure from outside,
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  like, oh, you know, the doctor calls me to go to the doctor's
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  office or like. You know.
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  There's something wrong with the the the Internet in the house.
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  I have to phone somebody to do the Internet, you know, And it's
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  it's kind of weird. It's like the responsibilities
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  have changed rather than just focusing on the routine and I
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  have to focus on the routine and hopefully nothing goes wrong in
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  that. But also all this external
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  stimuli, which I was protected from because my parents should
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  take care of it all. All that stuff gets lumped on
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  top as well, becomes quite overwhelming.
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  And that can send me into a triggered meltdown.
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  Which is quite interesting because about a year or two ago,
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  I actually had a huge trigger where the postman would knock
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  the door. I put a letter through the door
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  I'd like freak out. And like, I have such bad
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  anxiety that I wouldn't even go outside.
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  I wouldn't go out anywhere because, like between 8:00 and
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  10:00 in the morning, I just worried of sitting in the office
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  here like shaking like, Oh my goodness, you know, like what's
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  going to happen? The postman is going to lock the
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  door. And it's like just worried me
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  even to the fact that Naomi, my girlfriend, had to come down and
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  like, get the the, the postman, the deliveries when they came.
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  But yeah, with a bit of like therapy into medication that I
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  kind of overcame that. But still, it's things like that
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  that really impact me in today's society.
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  And #5 is clothing. Now this is really interesting.
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  When I was a kid, I just have century issues with certain
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  types of clothing and colors and textures of clothing.
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  Like I would wear jeans and I had to wear like comfy, like,
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  you know, jogging track pants. And I used to have like pockets
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  with everything. I had to have pockets which
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  actually called pox, which is kind of funny because I was such
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  a cute little. Kid, you know nothing changed.
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  But I had to have pox in my trousers and I had to have like,
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  you know, comfy, just like dead software.
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  But if you Fast forward it now, the really interesting thing
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  with clothes for me was having to choose the choice of wearing.
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  Clothes those two. Things really.
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  The one is the choice of wearing clothes.
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  Like I come down, I look at my wardrobe and I'd be like, Oh my
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  goodness, like what do I wear? That, that, that that choice
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  factor was really wearing and and gave me anxiety into the
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  fact that I just to wear like just wear hat on the pajamas or
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  whatever, just bit sloppish really I guess.
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  But then I made the decision to actually change my wardrobe to a
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  capsule wardrobe to make it minimalist.
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  So everything I weigh is everything that I feel really
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  comfortable in and works. And I spent some money buying
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  some clothes from Abercrombie because they were like, they
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  have like a very soft sensory kind of clothing line which I'm
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  wearing right now. And it was just really good
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  because now I don't have that pressure of my wardrobe.
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  And then the other thing was like prints on T-shirts, like
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  prints used to freak me out. Like I get too triggered by I
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  used to have like Marvel tops, like, you know, Flash and stuff
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  on it. They were cool.
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  I love those movies and the comic books and stuff.
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  But the problem is that those were too triggering, Like those
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  those prints, those animations on my shirts were too triggering
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  and sent me off into a tizzy. So yeah, the capsule wardrobe
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  thing is, is is excellent if you'd like to see a video on I
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  like organized capsule wardrobe to give ease of choice, to give
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  ease of patterns and to really sensory calm me down.
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  I would love to do a video on that, but I want to know.
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  If you want to see that, please let me know in the comments.
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  Say Dan, do the video on the capsule wardrobe.
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  I want to know what on earth you're talking about.
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  Boom. That'll be super awesome.
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