When You Just Need Them to Admit It (and they won’t)

Doing The Work from Naples Integrated Recovery · Jul 15, 2026 · 44m

A construction project that began around a $150,000 estimate grew into something that may approach half a million dollars. Between surprise costs, “change orders,” restrictive contract language, and a contractor who would not acknowledge obvious problems, Brian found himself replaying arguments and becoming consumed with getting someone to admit what had happened. Then a morning Dharma talk about a six-hundred-year-old Zen painting of a man trying to catch a catfish with a gourd gave him a useful way to understand the pattern.

This episode explores grasping through Buddhism, dopamine…