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Hypnosis to Feel Worthy of a Loving Desirable Relationship · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by the hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  all about creating a powerful, positive sense of optimism and
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  worthiness to find a relationship.
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  Not a relationship of settling, but a relationship that really
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  feels that you've hit the jackpot.
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  And I was working with a client that had feelings of.
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  Loneliness and sadness. Because they really wanted a
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  passionate, loving, connected relationship, but they weren't
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  in that place. And there was a feeling of
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  feeling tired and kind of jaded and.
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  Kind of what's the point? And part of that was circular
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  because they were linking this idea of the dates not leading to
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  the kind of relationship that they want, that it was a
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  reflection of their self worth rather than the other way round,
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  which is that it just wasn't kind of connecting and that they
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  were. Good enough, but.
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  It just wasn't leading to the kind of relationships that they
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  were wanting. So what this is really about is
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  an element of feeling worthy to not just date, but to go on
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  dates that could lead to a wonderful relationship that is
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  desirable, passionate and loving for them and for them.
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  Part of their criteria was someone that is healthy, active,
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  with a sense of adventure, lights, hiking and going on
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  boats and and those kind of things.
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  So I use that to almost do future pacing in reverse.
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  So seeing them in an amazing relationship, seeing a photo of
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  a time that gives them evidence that they are adventurous and
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  outdoorsy, that would lead to that, and then the three dates
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  that would have found that type of person.
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  So it's almost like working backwards and it connects to
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  this idea of starting with the end.
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  In mind. Which is a powerful way to
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  unleash the resources, because if you know what you want and
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  you know that that thing is desirable and you value it, you
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  massively increase the thoughts, ideas and.
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  Strategies. To increase the probability of
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  having that particular thing. And that's the essence of this
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  session. It was to help a male.
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  Client find a. Female partner that they would
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  want to be in a long term exclusive relationship with.
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  And it might be that you want to be in a relationship or you want
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  to feel worthy to be in a relationship.
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  In which case this session might be very useful for you.
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  But just bear in mind that it was created for an individual
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  and some of these references like dating sites and boating
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  and those kind of things might not quite relate to you because
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  it's a different situation. They wanted a long term
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  relationship. Maybe you don't.
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  Maybe you want lots of short term relationships.
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  You get to choose. So this session may be helpful.
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  But if you do like the idea of a bespoke session working with me
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  directly, then there will be a link in the description where
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  you can schedule that free consultation call to explore
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  working with me. For now, though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in and as you
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  breathe in, breathe in that slow, long, relaxing breath.
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  And as you exhale, just allow any feelings of stress, worry,
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  or tension to feel like it's leaving your body in that
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  outward breath that's in and quickly scan your body for any
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  clues of tension. Perhaps there, your forehead,
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  your jaw, your neck, or your shoulders.
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  Just get a sense of releasing that tension, allowing it to
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  feel like it's leaving your body in that outward breath, just
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  dissipating, dissolving and releasing in that exhale.
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  And as you bring your attention to the tension, allow the
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  tension to be released, feel it leaving your body as you breathe
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  in relaxation and continue to exhale that stress, worry or
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  tension. And I want you to think of what
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  colour would best represent worthiness and self acceptance.
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  And maybe it's one colour or a combination of two.
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  And when you can think of that bright colour that represents
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  worthiness and self acceptance, let me know by nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  And just imagine breathing in that bright colour of worthiness
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  and self acceptance. Feel how you would feel if it
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  was going in through your nose into your lungs.
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  But imagine on the outward breath you are releasing the
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  opposite. Any insecurities, any feelings
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  of low self worth, just allow that to leave your body as grey
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  shadows in your outward breath. Breathing in the worthiness and
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  exhaling. Any of those things that feel
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  like judgement, inferiority, but feel somehow bringing you down
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  to low self worth. It's not a case of what if
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  they're wrong, they are wrong. False evaluations.
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  There are smart people that were told they were stupid, believe
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  they're stupid, but what if by believing that they're.
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  Stupid, they don't. Even attempt to do those things,
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  that would require the very intelligence that they have in
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  abundance. And if that's true that smart
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  people can believe they're stupid, it's also true that
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  confident, worthy people, valuable people, could believe
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  that they are unworthy. Not good enough.
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  And it's those thoughts that are the shadows that you are
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  exhaling in that outward breath. Continue to breathe in that
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  feeling of worthiness, self acceptance, that bright light
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  and exhale those shadows as you consider this a transfusion of
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  self worth. Breathing in the self worth and
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  exhaling any doubts, any insecurities, just allow them to
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  leave your body in that outward breath.
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  That's it. Deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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  And I want you to use the power of your imagination to imagine a
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  crystal ball, the kind of crystal ball that fortune
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  tellers might use as a prop in a circus tent.
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  I want you to see the size of it, the location of it, maybe on
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  the table, table that you know as you breathe in that self
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  worth and exhale those self doubts.
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  I want you to imagine staring into that crystal ball.
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  And I want you to see yourself two or three years into the
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  future, but I want you to see a version of you who's in
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  confidence and smiling broadly. I want you to see a version of
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  you that is happy and connected. And as you stare into that
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  crystal ball, seeing your own future, I want you to see
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  yourself in a shared home. A home where it isn't just
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  yours, but you live in this home with someone that you are in a
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  long term, exclusive, committed relationship.
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  And there'll be clues, pictures on the wall, a car parked
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  outside, even things like the decoration and the furniture.
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  I want you to get a sense that choices here are based on
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  agreements. It's not quite your home, it's
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  not quite their home. It's a shared home, and as you
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  look into that crystal ball, I want you to imagine seeing a
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  bedroom or an alarm clock is alerting you to wake up.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing yourself waking up alongside
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  your partner. I want you to see you smiling.
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  Maybe there's a hug, a kiss, some kind of phrase, maybe like
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  good morning in a particular tone that lets you know that you
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  are loving and loved simultaneously.
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  I want you to see yourself in a relationship that you're happy
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  to be in. That even if you could date and
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  see anyone else, you don't want that.
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  I want you to see yourself in a future where you're happy to be
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  in that exclusive, committed, connected relationship.
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  And I want you to say that because you're in that
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  relationship. Everything.
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  About you seems to be amplified. Positively.
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  You look healthier, happier, there is an energy and aura to
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  you that is oozing confidence, self assurance and a feeling of
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  gratitude. And somewhere in this home,
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  perhaps in a lounge or a dining room, is a wall of.
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  Photos Photos of. Adventures spent together before
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  you were living together. And one of these photos.
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  Is a photo. On a boat, and maybe maybe it's
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  a selfie taken where both of you are on that boat, I want you to
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  get a sense of how good it feels seeing that version of you with
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  someone that shares a sense of adventure and there's clues.
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  The clothes they're wearing, the smile on board that boat,
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  they're not faking it. They're not pretending to like
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  this adventure and activities. You can tell their values align
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  with your values. This is someone that likes the
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  outdoors, likes to eat well, be active.
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  But imagine stepping into that picture.
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  You're now an invisible entity, also on the boat, seeing
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  yourself like you're someone else.
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  And I want you to see evidence. Evidence from them of a kind,
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  loving, considerate and respectful nature, but also
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  evidence from you, that version of you on that boat that they
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  are confident, self assured, purposeful.
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  And if you can see in that crucial stepping stone before
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  that relationship became more more long term, that it gave you
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  clues that it was the kind of relationship that you.
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  Would have been. Happy with?
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  Just let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to imagine stepping into that version of
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  you, feeling that level of confidence, self assurance.
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  You accepted yourself, you felt very comfortable being you.
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  But I want you to pay attention to yourself.
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  Dialogue that voice inside and notice no criticism.
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  Notice how complimentary it is. Consider it an encouraging,
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  supportive voice, pointing out positive qualities in them, but
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  also positive qualities in yourself.
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  I want you to get a sense that what if this is part of your own
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  evolution, to learn to like, love and respect yourself as a
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  crucial stepping stone so that when you find someone that
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  likes, loves and respects you also, you can accept it fully,
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  completely. I want you to leave that photo
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  and then just imagine finding an old phone, an old tablet perhaps
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  in that future home of yours. And I want you to find a place
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  on that phone of an old dating profile or app that you hadn't
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  logged into for a while or a messaging platform.
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  And I want you to imagine going back two years or so, seeing the
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  messages, the interactions with dates that led to this future
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  relationship, and you realise it wasn't a case that you went on
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  one date and found the ideal relationship, you felt
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  confident, worthy. Using dating not as a
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  distraction, but. Purse purposefully and.
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  Intentionally to find that ideal relationship for you, I want you
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  to get a sense that it was discernment that led to this
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  ideal relationship. Discernment on who to message,
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  who to date, who to follow up with, but also tenacity.
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  A sense of listening to your intuition that when.
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  You thought there might. Be the possibility of that long
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  term relationship. You confidently and directly
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  made the effort to create a wonderful self fulfilling
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  prophecy. I want you to get a sense that
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  there is a cause and effect relationship.
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  In order to go on these dates, you needed to be proactive,
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  tenacious, and you needed to believe in your future value in
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  advance to be the very person you would need to be to attract
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  the kind of person you would want to be with.
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  There is no settling, no lowering of standards.
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  Either they make the grade and meet your standards, or they
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  don't and anyone that wouldn't want you, then you're lucky that
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  you avoided a relationship with someone like that.
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  I want you to get a sense that you are now unleashing a new
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  level of playfulness, fun and optimism to create a wonderful
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  chain reaction. The playfulness leads to the
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  dates. The dates leads to reflection.
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  Reflection of what to accept and what to change.
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  And by you accepting and changing, you learn to
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  appreciate like yourself and love yourself to a whole new
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  level. And the absence of critical in a
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  dialogue, especially when dating.
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  It's the Canary in the coal mine to show you that you're making
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  progress. You can enjoy the journey to a
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  wonderful destination, and by doing so, you increase the very
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  probability of finding someone that makes you no longer want to
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  go on dating apps ever again. I want you to get a sense that
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  all of this starts with a deep conviction.
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  Not that it's possible for you to find that long term
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  relationship, but that it's inevitable.
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  It simply will happen, and all you're doing is loading the dice
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  to increase the probability that it happens sooner rather than
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  later. And if your unconscious is
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  willing to unlock all of the beliefs, resources and
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  strategies required to create a wonderful, self fulfilling
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  prophecy to give you the very relationship that you desire and
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  deserve, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's in. And then imagine putting that
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  device down, walking back up to that bedroom, and imagine that
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  it is now the evening. And just imagine that you're
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  falling asleep with that person that you love, care for, and
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  want to be with. And maybe you fall asleep with a
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  big smile on your face, feeling that this is now the coordinates
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  in a SAT NAV for your unconscious mind.
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  That your unconscious now knows exactly what you want and will
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  unleash and unlock all of the resources required to steer you
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  in this direction. But it's time to leave this
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  thought as you start to reconnect and calibrate with
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  your present, knowing where your future is taking you.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now. That's it.
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  So I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you starting to
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  count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8 open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes, 910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on this episode of The Hypnotist, and if you've got
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  Thank you so much again for joining me on this episode and
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  I'll see you again soon in the next one.