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Autism In Girls (Socialising Info YOU Need To Know) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So This is why girls with Asperger's syndrome may struggle
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  with social interactions. Let's get into it guys.
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  Welcome back to the aspy world. My name is Dan.
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  I've autism, ADHD and OCD and dyslexia.
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  And I make weekly videos all about this stuff because I
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  believe it's my journey, my passion, my my.
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  My goal in life is to help educate and help boost autistic
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  people to their full capacity of being awesome on the autism
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  spectrum. So if you want to join me on
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  this journey, make sure to hit the subscribe button by clicking
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  Join me on this, Jen. So guys, why why do girls with
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  Asperger's syndrome struggle so much with social interaction?
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  Well, it's really interesting because autistic people in
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  general will have an issue with social interaction because
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  social conventions are something that people pick up generally as
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  they grow through high school and primary school and meeting
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  friends and going out and doing all these things.
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  But autistic individuals are very much more conservative in
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  their value of where they go and how they communicate.
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  And so having a social interaction will be few and far
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  between and maybe a massive struggle for people on the
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  autism spectrum because they're not as used to it and not as
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  absorbent of those things as typical people.
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  Now girls and Nelson Spectrum have a harder time with this,
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  and this is because social interaction between women or
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  females is very different because females are more of a, I
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  don't know how best to say, more of a clicky type of of
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  interaction where girls want to impress other girls so they feel
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  part of that tribe, right? And this means that the girls
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  will try to do a lot of things to fit in, but when you're
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  fitting in with a group of people that you don't really
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  fully understand how to communicate with you, you're
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  going to come across problems. Now, these problems could come
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  out in all kinds of ways where you you don't really know how to
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  maintain friends properly. You're not going to be able to
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  talk to friends in a way where you know your boundaries, what
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  you should talk about, what you can talk about, what's kind of
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  like release sensitive topics and things like that.
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  And then also how to keep up with friends, messaging them,
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  maintaining the friendships for a long time, like knowing that
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  hey don't reach out every single day and talk to that person
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  incessantly because that's going to annoy somebody.
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  All of these factors come into social interaction and are big
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  issues for girls on the autism spectrum.
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  This is why you'll see autistic girls or girls diagnosed with
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  autism or Asperger's syndrome will have quite 1 hatch issues
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  on maintaining friendships with other girls.
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  They may actually have an easier time maintaining friendships
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  with other boys because boys have a different way of kind of
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  communicating their their emotions in terms of masking and
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  things like that. They kind of just just fall into
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  it really. They just kind of go along with
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  it. And and boys are a little bit
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  outside of the area of trying to oppress each other to be a part
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  of a group, the quite a more accepting, incisive group.
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  Now I'm not saying all girls even they try to make people
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  conform to their ideas or social ideas.
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  That's what I'm sorry to say. What I'm trying to say is that
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  the behavioral traits of hunter gatherers are more kind of like
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  they want to be accepting because mothers are protectors,
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  they're carriers, they're people who who pull the tribe together,
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  as when we were going back to gather days, would be the people
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  who were pulling the people together, making sure that we
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  were safe. The men would be out hunting and
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  fighting off Saber to tigers, but the women would be keeping a
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  social commune very close together.
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  So This is why all the other females want to be very
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  accepted, so they can move the tribe on.
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  That's the kind of like anthropological idea there.
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  So I do understand that girl singles instruction will have
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  issues with social interactions. But there are ways to overcome
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  it by spending time more with people who are more social than
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  you, so you can ask questions and learn from those people.
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  And then also putting yourself out there in more social
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  situations will get you more accustomed to what typical
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  conversations are like. Super interesting guys.
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  If you'd like to download my PDF Life Hacks autism book, you can
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  do from autismhacks.net right now.
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  I'll see you in the next video, guys.
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  Peace.