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Brett Cotter – The Stress is Gone Method · Destination Unlimited with Victor Fuhrman

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Speaker 1: My name is Victor Furman. Some call me the Voice.
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Speaker 1: I've always been fascinated with human nature, spirituality, science and
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Speaker 1: the crossroads at which they meet. Join me now and
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Speaker 1: we will explore these topics and so much more with
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Speaker 1: fascinating guests, authors and experts who will guide us to
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Speaker 1: Destination Unlimited. Is there a natural, proven method to break
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Speaker 1: free from emotional pain, trauma and anxiety? My guest this
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Speaker 1: week on Destination Unlimited, Brett Catter, worked from his personal
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Speaker 1: experience to develop the Stress Is Gone Method. Brehtt has
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Speaker 1: twenty five years of experience helping clients to overcome stress
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Speaker 1: and other emotional challenges. He's a Claire Audience Clare sentient
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Speaker 1: mpath who has taught his signature method in fortune five
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Speaker 1: hundred companies, recovery centers, military bases, schools, the Veterans Administration, hospitals,
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Speaker 1: and world renowned wellness centers including the Omega Institute, Kripalu
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Speaker 1: Shivananda Ashram, and the Himalayan Institute. He is the Trauma
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Speaker 1: expert for Meditation University's Teacher Training program, certify students and
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Speaker 1: mental health professionals online, and trains VET to VET peer specialists.
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Speaker 1: In his suicide prevention protocol. His website his stress isgne
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Speaker 1: dot com, and he joins me this week to share
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Speaker 1: his path and book, The Stress Is Gone Method Break
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Speaker 1: free from trauma, emotional pain, and anxiety to reclaim your destiny.
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Speaker 1: Please join me in welcoming to Destination Unlimited. Brett Kotter, Welcome, Victor.
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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me on. I'm really
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Speaker 2: excited to be here, Fret.
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Speaker 1: I had the pleasure of meeting you through the AI
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Speaker 1: of New York City when you did your presentation, and
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Speaker 1: I was so thrilled with what you shared that I
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Speaker 1: decided to be a wonderful topic for this show. So
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Speaker 1: let's start by sharing your early path with us and
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Speaker 1: the events that led up to a life changing healing
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Speaker 1: in nineteen ninety nine.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so that feels like a few lifetimes ago, but
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Speaker 2: let me jog my memory. And the first major thing
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Speaker 2: that happened was I was twenty seven. I was I
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Speaker 2: reached a financial goal that I always wanted to reach.
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Speaker 2: I was on pace to make a quarter million dollars
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Speaker 2: a year. I had the car, I wanted, the girlfriend,
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Speaker 2: the house, the dog. But something felt incomplete, something felt
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Speaker 2: like it was missing, and I was like I had
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Speaker 2: arrived at a place I always thought I wanted to be,
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Speaker 2: but something felt like it was just it wasn't complete,
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Speaker 2: it wasn't all there. So one night I was woken
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Speaker 2: up by an ex girlfriend calling me at like three
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Speaker 2: in the morning. She said, Brett, I know it's the
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Speaker 2: middle of the night, but I just had an inspiration.
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Speaker 2: I had to share this with you. I'm being guided
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Speaker 2: to tell you that you need to learn how to meditate.
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Speaker 2: So we talked for like another two or three minutes.
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Speaker 2: We got off the phone. I was like, Okay, that
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Speaker 2: was weird. I couldn't get back to sleep. So I
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Speaker 2: opened up a book that I was reading on technical
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Speaker 2: remote viewing, and the chapter I opened up to the
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Speaker 2: next chapter said you cannot proceed until you learn how
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Speaker 2: to do this certain type of meditation. So I was like, oh, wow,
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Speaker 2: this is weird, right, So I read a little bit
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Speaker 2: of that chapter.
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Speaker 3: And then put the book down.
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Speaker 2: Kind of was like bugging out a little bit, Like
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Speaker 2: I had the phone call, and then I pick up
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Speaker 2: the book and it.
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Speaker 3: Was about meditation.
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Speaker 2: And then I couldn't get asleep, so I turned the
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Speaker 2: TV on and there is this preacher for the first
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Speaker 2: time i've ever seen him, Joelstein saying with his hand
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Speaker 2: out like almost like it was coming through the TV screen.
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Speaker 2: You got to learn how to meditate. So that weekend
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Speaker 2: I went to a three day transcendental meditation workshop and
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Speaker 2: my first solo meditation on Sunday morning. Right before I
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Speaker 2: went there, they you know, they we did our Friday
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Speaker 2: night program, the Saturday program. They said, Okay, tomorrow Sunday morning,
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Speaker 2: when you wake up, do your first solo meditation for
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Speaker 2: twenty minutes, and then come to the Sunday afternoon session and.
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Speaker 3: We're going to discuss it.
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Speaker 2: So my first solo meditation on that Sunday morning, I
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Speaker 2: had a triple out of body experience. So I was
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Speaker 2: sitting and meditating. I closed my eyes, went deep with
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Speaker 2: my mantra, and then all of a sudden, I was
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Speaker 2: able to see the room around me perfectly clear with
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Speaker 2: my my eyes closed, and then I had the viewpoint
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Speaker 2: from about fifteen feet above me where there.
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Speaker 3: Was a loft.
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Speaker 2: I had a loft in this apartment, and I was
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Speaker 2: overlooking the whole apartment and I was like wow. I
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Speaker 2: remember just feeling like wow, this is this is pretty crazy.
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Speaker 2: Then over to the right of me. There was a
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Speaker 2: lot of light in the room, so I took my
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Speaker 2: conscious back in the chair where I was sitting, and
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Speaker 2: then I kind of just gently moved over to where
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Speaker 2: the light was. So I walked over about and when
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Speaker 2: I say walked, I mean just walk with my mind
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Speaker 2: over about ten feet to the right where the light was.
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Speaker 2: And it was an image of my light body.
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Speaker 3: It was me.
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Speaker 2: In the form of light, laying flat on my back
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Speaker 2: about four feet in the air, surrounded in a tube
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Speaker 2: of light. It was like a chamber. And the only
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Speaker 2: way I could describe it is about three hundred hulu
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Speaker 2: hoops made of different colors, connected together light in different directions.
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Speaker 2: It was almost like a colorful rainbow. And I remember
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Speaker 2: just sitting there looking at this, looking at this part
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Speaker 2: of myself, and then looking over at my body in
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Speaker 2: the chair, which was off to the side. And then
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Speaker 2: I came back to the body, got back in the body,
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Speaker 2: and brang my consciousness back to center, and was just
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Speaker 2: kind of dumbfounded, right, I was just kind of blown away.
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Speaker 2: And that opened up my mind. That experience totally opened
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Speaker 2: me up. I felt like it was an initiation and
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Speaker 2: a introduction to where my light body was resting in
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Speaker 2: a different dimension, on a different plane. Now the backdrop
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Speaker 2: of that. For about six months, I was trying to
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Speaker 2: reach this psychic because six months prior, my mother met
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Speaker 2: the psychic at a party in Long Island, New York.
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Speaker 2: And she's like, Brett, I'm not you know, my mother's
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Speaker 2: not into psychic shows an into things like that. But
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Speaker 2: she goes, Brett, she was right on about you, your brother,
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Speaker 2: and me, So I want you to talk to her.
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Speaker 2: So I was trying to call this lady for like
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Speaker 2: six months. So on my way back from that meditation
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Speaker 2: retreat session that Sunday afternoon, as I'm pulling into my driveway,
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Speaker 2: I felt like these three waves come through me and
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Speaker 2: I saw glimpses of my future in my life, and
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Speaker 2: I said, you know what, I bet you. She picks
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Speaker 2: up the phone. So I got into the house, called her,
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Speaker 2: and the first thing she said to me was thanks
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Speaker 2: for hanging in their, kiddo. She didn't say who is this,
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Speaker 2: she didn't you know, She just said thanks for hanging
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Speaker 2: in there, kiddo. So we scheduled time to talk a
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Speaker 2: week later. She told me when we did our session,
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Speaker 2: she told me three things that happened to me that
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Speaker 2: I never told anyone in my life. Okay, right off
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Speaker 2: the bat, just to create credibility with me, she mentioned
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Speaker 2: that I was sexually abused when I was eleven or twelve.
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Speaker 3: I never told her that.
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Speaker 2: She mentioned I saw my grandfather after he had passed away.
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Speaker 2: I've never told anyone that up to that point. And
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Speaker 2: then she mentioned that I saw a spaceship in my
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Speaker 2: room when I was five. I never told anyone that
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Speaker 2: right off the bat when we did our session, so
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Speaker 2: right away I knew she was dialed in to some
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Speaker 2: intelligence and I had a thirst for it. I had
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Speaker 2: a really big thirst for that intelligence. So towards the
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Speaker 2: end of that session, she knew that I was working
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Speaker 2: with an issue of jealousy. Around this time, I realized
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Speaker 2: that I had a problem with jealousy. I realized once
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Speaker 2: I started meditating that from age fifteen to now twenty seven.
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Speaker 2: At that time, all of my relationships with women. Around
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Speaker 2: the eighteen month mark, I became very jealous and that
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Speaker 2: pattern became clear to me, and it was starting to
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Speaker 2: happen in the relationship I was in at that point
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Speaker 2: in my life. So she referred me to a healer
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Speaker 2: and so don't Arizona. And then I drove out to
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Speaker 2: him that next weekend, so you could kind of see
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Speaker 2: the speed in which the universe was working with me.
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Speaker 2: And at that point I realized that if I take
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Speaker 2: one step towards God, God takes ten steps towards me.
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Speaker 2: So I started acting on my inspiration at that period
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Speaker 2: of my time, in that period of my life, and
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Speaker 2: I still do to this day, but at that moment,
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Speaker 2: it was like a quickening. It was like a catalyst
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Speaker 2: was changing me from the inside out. So that's how
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Speaker 2: I you know, that's part of the story of how
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Speaker 2: I got into this.
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Speaker 1: And tell us about the healing you experienced.
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Speaker 3: So I sat down with this man.
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Speaker 2: In the first five minutes, a memory popped up from
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Speaker 2: when I was five years old, and all the jealousy
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Speaker 2: started vibrating up out of my body like I was
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Speaker 2: feeling it viscerally, and then it unlocked and released, and
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Speaker 2: then a layer of anger and rage underneath it. It
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Speaker 2: came up and I was feeling it in my body
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Speaker 2: like viscerally, and then that unlocked and released, and then
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Speaker 2: all the sadness came up that the anger was protecting,
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Speaker 2: and then that unlocked and released, and then the fear,
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Speaker 2: particularly the fear of abandonment, came up. I felt it
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Speaker 2: and then it unlocked and released. And that memory was
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Speaker 2: from when I was five in the household. I grew
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Speaker 2: up in of my parents arguing, and my father was
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Speaker 2: doing the exact same things that I did in all
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Speaker 2: of my relationships with women from age fifteen to that
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Speaker 2: point in time. My parents were in an argument. He
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Speaker 2: was grinding his teeth, clenching his fists, and my mother
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Speaker 2: was like yelling wildly with her hands going, you know,
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Speaker 2: kind of talking with her or arms, And that was
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Speaker 2: like the body language of the memory, and I was
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Speaker 2: in it, Like I remember when that memory popped up,
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Speaker 2: I looked down and saw the rug when we first
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Speaker 2: moved into that house, there was a purple rug and
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Speaker 2: it was it wasn't there long. And when I looked down,
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Speaker 2: that was that it was there, like I could see
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Speaker 2: my fingers on the rug. Like when I say the
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Speaker 2: memory came up, it wasn't like, oh, a memory came
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Speaker 2: up to mind. I was watching it like I was
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Speaker 2: watching a movie, but I was also in it. And
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Speaker 2: the healing light that came through was unconditional love. I
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Speaker 2: once that fear of abandonment released.
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Speaker 3: I was being.
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Speaker 2: Saturated with this constant wave of unconditional love beautiful, and
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Speaker 2: I felt it in every cell in my body, even
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Speaker 2: in my fingernails, my toenails, my eyebrows, my hair, like
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Speaker 2: I felt every cell in my body as the waves
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Speaker 2: were just pouring through me. It was almost like if
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Speaker 2: you were laying down at the beach. Imagine like a
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Speaker 2: beach in Florida where the.
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Speaker 3: Water is really warm.
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Speaker 2: You're laying on the beach and the waves are just softly,
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Speaker 2: kind of softly flowing over your body, and then the
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Speaker 2: water is now sinking through your body, just cleansing you.
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Speaker 3: That's what it felt like.
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Speaker 1: Beautiful And how did that change your life?
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Speaker 2: So there were biological, physiological, emotional, mental, spiritual changes. I'll
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Speaker 2: start with the physical and biological. So when we got
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Speaker 2: back to California, every morning at that time before work,
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Speaker 2: I was going on the treadmill and and running a
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Speaker 2: mile and doing a little bit of work out before
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Speaker 2: I went to work. So that morning I was running,
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Speaker 2: I felt really free, it felt really easy, So I
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Speaker 2: just decided to go a little bit faster. It was
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Speaker 2: still easy, so I to go a little bit faster
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Speaker 2: and faster. So up to that point, I was running
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Speaker 2: like a ten minute mile every day, and that day
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Speaker 2: I ran a six and a half minute mile without
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Speaker 2: breaking a sweat. So right there, I knew that there
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Speaker 2: was a deep physiological, biological change inside my body. It
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Speaker 2: wasn't just a quote unquote spiritual or emotional healing. I
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Speaker 2: changed when I went into work. Now I had five suits, right,
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Speaker 2: I had my Monday suit, Tuesday suit, you get the picture.
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Speaker 2: I went in with my Monday suit. Before I even
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Speaker 2: got to the office. When I was seeing like my
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Speaker 2: friends that you know, worked in the building, as we're
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Speaker 2: all walking in together, like, is that a new suit?
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Speaker 3: No? Like you get a haircut?
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Speaker 2: I'm like no, But inside I'm like giggling. I'm like
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Speaker 2: I know, I know I'm different, you know. And from
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Speaker 2: that session, jealousy never ruined another relationship in my life.
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Speaker 2: Prior to that session, jealousy ruined all the relationships with
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Speaker 2: women in my life. So I would say the big
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Speaker 2: change within me was that in that session, I was
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Speaker 2: anointed by unconditional love and light, which is all of
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Speaker 2: our birthrights right, but it was given back to me
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Speaker 2: in a way that changed me forever. And the things
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Speaker 2: I chose.
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Speaker 3: To do.
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Speaker 2: With my time changed. So before that session, I was
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Speaker 2: working seventy hours a week. The culture was a very
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Speaker 2: young company. We would almost five nights a week, some
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Speaker 2: nights even six go out to the bars and then
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Speaker 2: blow off steam by going to the clubs on the weekends.
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Speaker 3: Right, So that all changed. That all changed.
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Speaker 2: I started to get up earlier and earlier, take my
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Speaker 2: meditation practice more seriously. I learned technical remote viewing, and
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Speaker 2: I was doing that in the morning after my meditation,
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Speaker 2: I was doing a channeling, a higher self channeling that
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Speaker 2: I learned from some old cassette tapes that Snaia Roman
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Speaker 2: put out decades ago. And then I started learning from teachers.
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Speaker 2: So I followed that healer around for a number of
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Speaker 2: years and started to get a feel for what the
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Speaker 2: work was. And right away in that first session, I
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Speaker 2: knew that that's what I want to do for the
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Speaker 2: rest of my life. I just had no idea what
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Speaker 2: it was and how to.
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Speaker 3: Do it, but I knew I wanted to do it.
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Speaker 2: And then I learned from a thirty fifth generation Shallon
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Speaker 2: grandmaster from China, the late kim Ewan from California, and
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Speaker 2: then Vianna Steebel who created the Fatie Healing So I
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Speaker 2: took multiple levels of training with those teachers.
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Speaker 1: So that experience literally changed your life.
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Speaker 3: Absolutely.
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Speaker 2: I would say it brought out a new me.
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Speaker 1: Or were you that was already there but had to emerge.
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Speaker 2: Yes, it came out from within and I was like
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Speaker 2: a moth to a flame to the light of love.
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Speaker 1: Beautiful, When did you become aware of your gifts of
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Speaker 1: Claire audience and Claire sentience and how did they manifest
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Speaker 1: for you?
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Speaker 2: So right after that weekend, that first weekend when we
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Speaker 2: drove out to Sedona, Arizona and I had that first session.
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Speaker 2: When I came home, I started doing the work on myself,
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Speaker 2: the work that you experienced with me, Victor and the groups.
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Speaker 3: That we've done with the Are Center.
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Speaker 2: I started doing that on myself, which is whenever we started,
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Speaker 2: whenever I started to feel some emotion, I would call
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Speaker 2: in the Holy Spirit, that was the energy that I
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Speaker 2: was really loving calling upon at that time and opening
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Speaker 2: up to my feelings, expressing my feelings and then commanding
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Speaker 2: the Holy Spirit to shine light through the center of
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Speaker 2: the pain, to unlock it and release it from the
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Speaker 2: inside out. Then I started doing a little bit of
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Speaker 2: work with my girlfriend at the time, and then I
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Speaker 2: started to realize that I can do this, that the
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Speaker 2: energy's right there at our fingertips, like this is this
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Speaker 2: is something that I can do.
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Speaker 1: Right.
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Speaker 2: And I remember asking my first teacher, how do you
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Speaker 2: know what to say right? Especially after we did I
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Speaker 2: was in a retreat with him. The first retreat, I
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Speaker 2: was just blown away, like the one on one sessions
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Speaker 2: are like incredibly powerful, but when I saw the energy
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Speaker 2: being facilitated in a group, I was just even more
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Speaker 2: blown away. And I asked him. I was like, how
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Speaker 2: do you know what to say? He's like, I never
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Speaker 2: know what to say. And I didn't know what that meant,
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Speaker 2: because up to this point, I was a sales trainer
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Speaker 2: and a sales manager, so I always prepared my trainings
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Speaker 2: every word right. And then as I got better as
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Speaker 2: a trainer, I would prepare bullet points and concepts and exercises.
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Speaker 2: But I would always prepare, So I was like, what
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Speaker 2: do you mean, and he said, well, I'm always listening,
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Speaker 2: and he tapped the ear lobe of one of his ears.
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Speaker 2: I'm always listening. And I didn't really know what he meant.
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Speaker 2: But then when I started practicing this more and more,
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Speaker 2: you're not speaking from your ego, you're listening with your
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Speaker 2: inner ear for the guidance. And once you start listening
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Speaker 2: with the inner ear for the words, they start to come,
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Speaker 2: especially when you start to open your mouth as you're
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Speaker 2: listening to your inner ear and you're trusting, You're like,
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Speaker 2: now you're a conduit for spirit to come into the
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Speaker 2: physical reality from eternity. So the universe recognizes you as that,
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Speaker 2: and the more you play with it, the more you
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Speaker 2: use it, the wider the conduit gets. So it started
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Speaker 2: with me with hearing the words, and what helped me
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Speaker 2: a lot was going into deep meditation, was aligning with
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Speaker 2: my higher self and learning how to listen not to
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Speaker 2: my ego but from a much deeper place, from like
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Speaker 2: the sparks of the universe. The signals of the universe
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Speaker 2: was sending me, learning how to be a receptor, a
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Speaker 2: true receptor. And then there's a whole other aspect. So
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Speaker 2: that's just the clare audience part. The other part is
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Speaker 2: feeling what someone else is feeling like when I'm coaching somebody,
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Speaker 2: even if they're on another side of the world and
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Speaker 2: we're talking on the phone, I tune into their body
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Speaker 2: and I could feel where their pain is, I could
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Speaker 2: feel where their tension is. So there's emotional receptors almost
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Speaker 2: like imagine arms coming out with your fingers wide open,
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Speaker 2: just receiving like a receptor, and they're feeling. They're all
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Speaker 2: feeling for different emotions and different intention And when I'm
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Speaker 2: connecting with a client, right is coming to me for
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Speaker 2: that healing, I'm feeling them, and I'm feeling them just
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Speaker 2: enough to identify where the issue is and what it is,
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Speaker 2: just like a parent that would be taking a child's
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Speaker 2: hand moving it towards the stove to teach them what
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Speaker 2: hot is. Right, So I feel it just enough to
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Speaker 2: identify it, where it is and what it is. I
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Speaker 2: don't put my hand on the flame and let it
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Speaker 2: fry me. Okay, that's what people that are highly empathic
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Speaker 2: and highly sensitive, we get fried by other people's emotions.
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Speaker 3: I teach our coaches how to.
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Speaker 2: Just sense enough of it to feel it, to identify it,
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Speaker 2: to know where it is and what it is. And
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Speaker 2: then as you sense it a little more and you
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Speaker 2: really open up to being clear sension, and then you
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Speaker 2: start to feel the source of it is it coming
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Speaker 2: from their mother's side, their father's side. Is it coming
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Speaker 2: from a trauma from you know, childhood, adolescents, adulthood right,
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Speaker 2: coming far down their bloodline on their mother's side, their
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Speaker 2: father's side, right, So you're kind of feeling interdimensionally now
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Speaker 2: the source of it. Once we get to the source,
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Speaker 2: then I listen to our own divine essence for that
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Speaker 2: divine guidance.
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Speaker 3: Right.
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Speaker 2: So if I'm working one on one, I'll just listen
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Speaker 2: to their higher self and I'll hear words that their
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Speaker 2: higher self wants them to say to release the pain
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Speaker 2: from their body, to release the pain for their ancestors.
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Speaker 2: So the way it looks like if you could think
22:38
Speaker 2: of a triangle. So there's a person in front of me,
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Speaker 2: and there's a triangle between us. There's a high point
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Speaker 2: between us. Then the triangles coming to the back of
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Speaker 2: my ear where I hear. Then it's connecting from my
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Speaker 2: mouth to them, and then it goes.
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Speaker 3: Back up to that higher self.
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Speaker 2: So the higher self tells me in my inner ear
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Speaker 2: what the correction is. I say it, the person in
22:58
Speaker 2: front of me repeats it, and that's when the tension
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Speaker 2: starts to release from their organs, their memories, their bones,
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Speaker 2: their DNA. My first teacher would refer to it as
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Speaker 2: a self purification process.
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Speaker 1: Beautiful. My guest is Brett Cotter. We're going to be
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Speaker 1: Back on Destination Unlimited. My guest this week is Brett Cotter.
25:39
Speaker 1: We'll be talking about his book, The Stress Is Gone
25:42
Speaker 1: Method Break Free from trauma, emotional pain, and anxiety to
25:47
Speaker 1: reclaim your destiny. But while we were offline, when we're
25:50
Speaker 1: talking about experiences that we've shared throughout our lives, and
25:54
Speaker 1: you had talked about seeing your grandfather in spirit as
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Speaker 1: a child, and I had the same experience when I
26:03
Speaker 1: was six and a half years old, where I was
26:06
Speaker 1: in my room looking at a book and I looked
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Speaker 1: up and my grandfather was standing there and I said, Grandpa,
26:11
Speaker 1: when did you come in? And he didn't say a word,
26:14
Speaker 1: and then he sort of slowly vanished disappeared, and I
26:17
Speaker 1: went into the living room and I said to my parents,
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Speaker 1: Grandpa was here, and they said, you're imagining things. I
26:22
Speaker 1: was one of these kids was labeled with an overactive imagination.
26:26
Speaker 1: I unbeknownst to me, he was actually in a hospital
26:29
Speaker 1: at the time and very seriously ill, and a couple
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Speaker 1: of minutes later, the phone rang with word that he
26:34
Speaker 1: had passed away. And then my parents looked at each other. Obviously,
26:37
Speaker 1: my father was my father's father. My father was going
26:40
Speaker 1: into mourning at that point, but the fact that I
26:42
Speaker 1: had that vision of him was something that planted a
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Speaker 1: seed in my life for later on and similar with yours.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it planted a big seed. And I wish the
26:54
Speaker 2: listeners were on the break with us because it was
26:57
Speaker 2: just fascinating learning about all the synchronicities in our lives,
27:02
Speaker 2: you know, and the interconnections. But so, when I was five,
27:05
Speaker 2: my grandfather had passed away, my mother's father, and I
27:08
Speaker 2: remember that, you know, at the funeral and awake and
27:11
Speaker 2: that was like the first time I really saw my
27:13
Speaker 2: mother upset and crying. And I would say is about
27:17
Speaker 2: maybe one or two weeks later, after we got home,
27:21
Speaker 2: my brother and I were laying in bed, sleeping.
27:24
Speaker 3: With my mom.
27:25
Speaker 2: I was awake and the light on was the light
27:29
Speaker 2: was on in the hallway, so the door was open
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Speaker 2: from the bedroom and I was just kind of looking
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Speaker 2: out and there emerged my grandfather just standing there watching
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Speaker 2: over us. And I wasn't scared, I wasn't questioning. I
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Speaker 2: don't even know if I had a thought. I was
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Speaker 2: just like in the moment with him, and I was
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Speaker 2: like from that point forward, and I remember actually in
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Speaker 2: that moment like this isn't all there is, But what
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Speaker 2: we normally see in reality is not all there is.
28:09
Speaker 2: Because he left here and now he's back here, and
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Speaker 2: I sensed him as a little bit different, like he
28:14
Speaker 2: wasn't there, wasn't like the weight to his body, but
28:19
Speaker 2: he was there, you know, the shirt he used to wear,
28:22
Speaker 2: the pants he used to wear. Everything, Just he was
28:24
Speaker 2: right there and exact same size, and it was just
28:30
Speaker 2: like it was just so loving, like it was like
28:32
Speaker 2: a loving presence watching over us, like I felt the
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Speaker 2: connection and the love. And then after I don't even
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Speaker 2: know how long it was, I was just kind of
28:42
Speaker 2: like in awe looking at him. And then after he
28:44
Speaker 2: just kind of like faded away. There in the room
28:50
Speaker 2: was a ship. There's a little bit bigger than like
28:52
Speaker 2: a football. It was like a shape of almost like
28:55
Speaker 2: a football, and it was slowly going in a circle
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Speaker 2: in the room slowly, and I remember just being in
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Speaker 2: all that and just looking at it like it was
29:09
Speaker 2: a model of a spaceship going around the room. And
29:13
Speaker 2: wasn't afraid of it, wasn't shocked by it, wasn't really
29:17
Speaker 2: just being present with it, you know, as a little kid,
29:20
Speaker 2: like in awe, almost like watching an amazing movie scene.
29:25
Speaker 2: And then I remember in high school always being fascinated
29:35
Speaker 2: by psychology. I was actually able to take my first
29:38
Speaker 2: psychology class when I was a junior, and I was
29:42
Speaker 2: just always fascinated with understanding myself. I wanted to understand myself.
29:46
Speaker 2: And I remember starting from age like twelve, looking at
29:52
Speaker 2: myself from the mirror, peering deep into my own eyes
29:56
Speaker 2: and saying, what the hell is back there? Like what
29:59
Speaker 2: is beyond that? Like what's where am I coming from?
30:05
Speaker 3: Right?
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Speaker 2: Like what am I What's behind my eyes? Like I
30:10
Speaker 2: felt like that was the other side of the projector
30:13
Speaker 2: like going in through the lens, and then there was
30:17
Speaker 2: the real part of the universe was through that. I
30:23
Speaker 2: felt like it was expansive. It was, yeah, just expansive
30:28
Speaker 2: in every direction, right on the other side of.
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Speaker 3: My own eyes.
30:31
Speaker 2: And when I started getting into this work pretty soon,
30:36
Speaker 2: I realized when I started doing one on one sessions
30:39
Speaker 2: with people and we kept our eyes open and we
30:41
Speaker 2: were in person, we would actually start to see shape
30:45
Speaker 2: shifting in our faces. And I remember I did a
30:48
Speaker 2: one and a half hour talk at a center in
30:51
Speaker 2: Long Island and there was twenty people there that normally
30:54
Speaker 2: attended that center, and I guided them through this exercise
30:58
Speaker 2: where people paired up in two's and they would just
31:02
Speaker 2: look at each other. They would pick one eye that
31:04
Speaker 2: they were more comfortable. They would look through the eye,
31:07
Speaker 2: like almost imagining looking through at like twenty yards out
31:13
Speaker 2: through the person. And then I don't know if you
31:15
Speaker 2: remember this, but when I was in college, there were
31:17
Speaker 2: these posters that were made out of all these dots,
31:20
Speaker 2: but if you stared in to the poster long enough,
31:22
Speaker 2: an image would come out. Yes, okay, so that's what
31:26
Speaker 2: we would do. We wouldn't blink, we would stare through it,
31:29
Speaker 2: and everything else would get fuzzy around that one eye,
31:34
Speaker 2: and then you would start to see other faces appear.
31:37
Speaker 2: And every there were ten pairs, there was twenty people.
31:40
Speaker 2: Every person in each pair saw another face on the
31:44
Speaker 2: person that they were doing this with. And I can't
31:49
Speaker 2: tell you the things that I've seen doing this work
31:51
Speaker 2: looking into a person's eye. And I don't do that
31:54
Speaker 2: much coaching in person one on one. I usually do
31:56
Speaker 2: it over the phone, and then I do my retreats
31:57
Speaker 2: in person. So where people have come up to me
32:02
Speaker 2: after really intense releases in retreats and told me what
32:06
Speaker 2: they have seen around me. So yeah, there's like a
32:10
Speaker 2: lot of energy that is coming in from like interdimensionally
32:14
Speaker 2: that comes into the moment when we're really connecting with
32:17
Speaker 2: each other and letting the love flow and letting the
32:20
Speaker 2: healing come in.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely. Before we discuss your latest book, The Stress Is
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Speaker 1: Gone Method, please tell us about your earlier works, Three
32:30
Speaker 1: Keys to Managing PTSD, The Warriors Guide to Overcome and
32:34
Speaker 1: Combat Trauma, and The Suicide Prevention Family Handbook. What inspired
32:39
Speaker 1: these books and what do you share with readers.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so my first book was The Three Keys to
32:45
Speaker 2: Managing PTSD, and this is how that one came about.
32:51
Speaker 2: In twenty fourteen, I was creating a mobile app called
32:55
Speaker 2: PTSD Free and I wanted my father to test it
32:58
Speaker 2: for me.
32:59
Speaker 3: Right. He was a Vietnam Marine veteran.
33:02
Speaker 2: He was in New York City for firefighter retired and
33:07
Speaker 2: I wanted to test the app for me. So he
33:09
Speaker 2: was like ducking me for a month. I was like
33:11
Speaker 2: counting him. I'm like, why is this guy not get
33:13
Speaker 2: back to me? So he finally called me back. It
33:15
Speaker 2: was on a was a it was a Tuesday night.
33:20
Speaker 2: He calls me back and he's like, Bret, I'm so sorry.
33:27
Speaker 2: I'm not an app guy. He's like, I feel terrible.
33:29
Speaker 2: He's like, I'm trying to press the buttons. I just
33:32
Speaker 2: He's like, I'm having trouble with it now. My father
33:34
Speaker 2: had tremendous hands. He was also a master mechanic construction.
33:39
Speaker 2: He could build a building, a car with his own hands, right,
33:41
Speaker 2: So his fingers were huge so he couldn't hit that.
33:44
Speaker 2: He felt bad about it, and I said, Dad, there's
33:48
Speaker 2: no big deal. I'm working a lot with veterans right now,
33:53
Speaker 2: and I would feel terrible if I let the veteran
33:58
Speaker 2: that's most important to me slip through my fingers.
34:02
Speaker 3: Right.
34:02
Speaker 2: I started doing some work at the VA, leading classes,
34:05
Speaker 2: working with a lot more veterans, especially doing this, you know, getting.
34:08
Speaker 3: This app out there.
34:10
Speaker 2: I was like, let's just do a coaching session and
34:13
Speaker 2: he jokingly said, he goes, do you really want to
34:15
Speaker 2: pop the lid off this top?
34:16
Speaker 3: I said, yeah, Dad, I do.
34:18
Speaker 2: He always stood his demons were bigger than him, right,
34:21
Speaker 2: And he's like, okay, we'll do it on Friday. Said awesome.
34:25
Speaker 2: We got off the phone. We had a session scheduled
34:28
Speaker 2: for Friday. That next day, he was shopping with his
34:35
Speaker 2: buddy from the fire department for their barbecue that they
34:38
Speaker 2: would do every Wednesday, and he had a bleeding stroke
34:42
Speaker 2: in the center of his brain, and eleven days later
34:48
Speaker 2: we buried him, so we never had that chance to
34:52
Speaker 2: do that session. So I cried like a baby, learned
34:59
Speaker 2: a lot about how to reconnect with a loved one
35:03
Speaker 2: who's on the other side. And then after six months
35:07
Speaker 2: of processing the pain, decided to start writing. I wanted
35:12
Speaker 2: to write a book for veterans like my dad that
35:15
Speaker 2: might not be app savvy, but anyone could use a workbook.
35:20
Speaker 2: And I wrote that book in a language that veterans
35:24
Speaker 2: really appreciate, in love. It's written for them. And the
35:30
Speaker 2: three keys to managing PTSD are learning how to stop
35:34
Speaker 2: a stress reaction, and the book shows them how to
35:36
Speaker 2: do that. It's process the traumatic memories and the book
35:41
Speaker 2: guides them through that. And then the third key is
35:44
Speaker 2: meditate a little bit every day, and the book shows
35:47
Speaker 2: them how to do that, and then the app would
35:50
Speaker 2: set up their meditation practice and help them do those
35:55
Speaker 2: other the first two keys as well, process the trauma
35:58
Speaker 2: and learn how to stop a stress reaction.
36:00
Speaker 3: So that's how the.
36:00
Speaker 2: First book came about. It was dedicated to my dad.
36:04
Speaker 2: And whenever I do a veteran focused event, often I'll
36:08
Speaker 2: bring like a case of books with me, and I
36:10
Speaker 2: always feel like he's right in the passenger seat.
36:13
Speaker 3: With me in the car. Always nice. So that's the
36:17
Speaker 3: first book.
36:18
Speaker 2: Any questions, any follow up questions, there.
36:20
Speaker 1: No, just I'd want to thank you for being of
36:22
Speaker 1: service to those who have served. Thank you, Thank you
36:25
Speaker 1: very much.
36:26
Speaker 2: I feel like it's an honor and a privilege to
36:28
Speaker 2: be in that position, and it is a beautiful position
36:33
Speaker 2: to be in.
36:34
Speaker 1: And then the Suicide Prevention Family Handbook.
36:37
Speaker 2: Yeah, so that I published in January of this year,
36:41
Speaker 2: twenty twenty five, and that is a culmination of all
36:48
Speaker 2: of my experience working and coaching people that came to
36:53
Speaker 2: me when they were suicidal. So towards the end of
36:57
Speaker 2: twenty twenty four, I had a number of clients that
37:01
Speaker 2: were coming to me in that state and I was
37:06
Speaker 2: being called to compile everything, all the information, all the advice,
37:14
Speaker 2: and my wife had scheduled us to have a table
37:19
Speaker 2: at the American Foundation Suicide Prevention their walkathon in Long Island, right,
37:26
Speaker 2: And what I wanted to do was get a little
37:28
Speaker 2: booklet done before that event. So I was on a
37:31
Speaker 2: race to get it done in four weeks, and I
37:34
Speaker 2: got the first version done that I printed at a
37:38
Speaker 2: local printer of the book for that event, and we
37:43
Speaker 2: were able to you know, hand it out for free.
37:45
Speaker 3: And the book helps parents and loved ones of.
37:51
Speaker 2: Those suffering, helps those people supporting someone suffering learn how
37:57
Speaker 2: to talk to the individual so they feel the individual
38:01
Speaker 2: feels safe enough to open up and share the depths
38:04
Speaker 2: of their pain. It also shows those that are supporting
38:09
Speaker 2: individuals that are suffering the proper body language to help
38:13
Speaker 2: someone feel safe, the proper tone and the proper verbiage
38:17
Speaker 2: that serenades their deepest pains from the depths of the
38:21
Speaker 2: subconscious up and out of the mind and the body,
38:25
Speaker 2: so they can begin to heal emotionally. So it's a
38:28
Speaker 2: very transformational communication technique. In chapter one, Chapter two is
38:34
Speaker 2: a culmination of all the exercises that I directly shared
38:38
Speaker 2: with those that were suicidal that worked amazing, that people
38:42
Speaker 2: got a lot out of.
38:43
Speaker 3: And that's in chapter two.
38:44
Speaker 2: So the chapter two is for somebody that's suffering from
38:46
Speaker 2: suicidal ideation or deep dark depression. And chapter three is
38:51
Speaker 2: for anyone that's lost a loved one that wants to
38:54
Speaker 2: reconnect with them in dreams and feel completely reconnected with
38:59
Speaker 2: them intionally and spiritually, and that's what that's how that
39:05
Speaker 2: book came about.
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Speaker 1: How did you create and develop the Stress Is Gone Method?
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Speaker 2: So the Stress Has Gone Method is an ongoing process
39:19
Speaker 2: that continues to grow. It's like a field of mushrooms
39:24
Speaker 2: or dandelions that continue just to pop up.
39:27
Speaker 3: Right and.
39:30
Speaker 2: Early on in my career, when I moved back from
39:33
Speaker 2: California and was living in New York, I was coaching
39:37
Speaker 2: one on one a lot of people, and I was
39:39
Speaker 2: just focused on physical and emotional pain, releasing that and
39:43
Speaker 2: helping people heal deep trauma. Right, And within one week,
39:50
Speaker 2: I think it was around two thousand and six or seven,
39:56
Speaker 2: within one week, a bunch of clients came back to
39:58
Speaker 2: me like, look, that was total transformational. I'm not plagued
40:02
Speaker 2: or worried or stressed out about that trauma, But what
40:05
Speaker 2: do I do the next time I'm stressed? And I
40:09
Speaker 2: just started to think of that sign in a restaurant
40:13
Speaker 2: that shows someone how to help someone else who's choking, right,
40:17
Speaker 2: It's like what to do if someone's choking. I'm like,
40:19
Speaker 2: I want to make one of those for when you're stressed,
40:23
Speaker 2: Like what can you do for yourself when you're stressed?
40:26
Speaker 2: So Over the years, this method stressed up or breathwork,
40:32
Speaker 2: has been developing, and right now it's in a state
40:35
Speaker 2: of the three steps of touch the tension. Breathe deep
40:40
Speaker 2: and slow, and once per breath silently say I'm okay. Now,
40:47
Speaker 2: if you're really stressed out, you could say I'm gonna
40:50
Speaker 2: be okay, and then you breathe and you say it's
40:54
Speaker 2: gonna be okay, And then you breathe I'm gonna be okay.
41:00
Speaker 2: And then you breathe and as you're breathing deeply and slowly,
41:04
Speaker 2: letting the airflow soak into the tension that you're touching,
41:08
Speaker 2: the stress starts to unlock and release, usually within a
41:11
Speaker 2: minute to two minutes.
41:13
Speaker 3: And there's many.
41:14
Speaker 2: Reasons why those three steps work amazing together. Number one,
41:18
Speaker 2: the touch is healing. There's science that shows that touch
41:23
Speaker 2: is therapeutic. And I would always go back to like
41:26
Speaker 2: when I was five years old and I stumbled and
41:28
Speaker 2: my knee was bleeding and I was panicked from seeing
41:30
Speaker 2: the blood and in pain, and then my grandmother would
41:32
Speaker 2: grab me and start to rock me back and forth
41:34
Speaker 2: in the rocking chair, and it was like her touch
41:38
Speaker 2: and her love and her hug all of a sudden
41:40
Speaker 2: all the pain would be gone from that touch. Right,
41:44
Speaker 2: the touch is therapeutic.
41:45
Speaker 3: Now.
41:45
Speaker 2: The area that we hold tension when we're stressed out,
41:49
Speaker 2: that's where all this cellular memory lives in our body
41:53
Speaker 2: that just got activated. And those cellular memories are traumatic
41:57
Speaker 2: memories either from our lifetime, our parents, or back down
42:00
Speaker 2: the bloodline neatly wrapped in our DNA. Things trigger us
42:04
Speaker 2: and the area of tension holds all those old memories.
42:07
Speaker 2: When you touch the ten cells, we start to get
42:11
Speaker 2: back to a state of homeostasis. And then the deep,
42:14
Speaker 2: slow breathing science has been telling us for decades that
42:18
Speaker 2: that's how we manually shift gears from stressed to rest.
42:22
Speaker 2: And then the imok mantra is the reverse logic of
42:27
Speaker 2: our fight or flight reaction, which is I must run
42:30
Speaker 2: or fight to stay alive. So when you use those
42:33
Speaker 2: three steps together, it's like a one two three knockout
42:36
Speaker 2: punch for stress. And the best time to practice is
42:39
Speaker 2: when you go to sleep at night, and then you
42:41
Speaker 2: get the muscle memory from practicing. When you go to
42:43
Speaker 2: sleep at night, usually your be out like a light.
42:46
Speaker 2: Even if you have really intense sleep issues. Falling asleep
42:50
Speaker 2: a lot of recurring thoughts. When you do this technique,
42:52
Speaker 2: you'll be out like a light in five minutes. And
42:54
Speaker 2: then you use the technique when you're stressed during the day.
42:56
Speaker 2: That was the first tool of the Stressedgonde method. Then,
43:00
Speaker 2: in when COVID happened, I developed the Anxiety Freedom technique
43:04
Speaker 2: for the doctors and nurses that I was hearing about
43:07
Speaker 2: in the New York City hospitals that were absorbing a
43:10
Speaker 2: tidal wave, a tsunami of stress from the pandemic. And
43:14
Speaker 2: I was hearing more and more stories about doctors and
43:17
Speaker 2: nurses in the parking lot crying before they had to
43:20
Speaker 2: walk in, and then in their driveway crying before they
43:22
Speaker 2: had to walk into their house. So I knew that
43:26
Speaker 2: was a big problem. So I created the Anxiety Freedom technique.
43:28
Speaker 2: Then I created the TNT, which is the Transforming Negative
43:32
Speaker 2: Thoughts for teenagers that are having a tough time with
43:35
Speaker 2: negative thoughts.
43:37
Speaker 3: And then it just kept on going more and more
43:39
Speaker 3: and more.
43:40
Speaker 2: I got on a roll a technique called the traumatic
43:43
Speaker 2: Memory release that you could actually release your own pain
43:47
Speaker 2: from your own traumatic memories. Then I started pulling techniques
43:51
Speaker 2: in that were coming through in our retreats like the
43:53
Speaker 2: Inner Child enlightenment technique, which heals our inner child and
43:57
Speaker 2: bathes it in unconditional love and light and creates a
44:01
Speaker 2: beautiful connection with our adult self and our inner child.
44:05
Speaker 1: Bred and the introduction to the Stress is Gone method.
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Speaker 1: You offer a series of essential questions that the user
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Speaker 1: should ask. Please share some of these and why they're helpful, all.
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Speaker 2: Right, So those questions are designed to get readers in
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Speaker 2: touch with what they really want. And I found the
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Speaker 2: reason why you want the thing you want is actually
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Speaker 2: more important than the thing you want. So the why
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Speaker 2: do you want it? Because when we understand the why
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Speaker 2: we want something, we can just go for that. It
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Speaker 2: kind of cuts to the chase. So the difference is
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Speaker 2: like a dog chasing its tail versus when a dog
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Speaker 2: remembers where the bone is buried in the backyard. Even
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Speaker 2: if the dog doesn't see the bone, it just remin
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Speaker 2: members where the bone is. The dog tail goes up,
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Speaker 2: it starts wagging, and it runs over and it gets
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Speaker 2: the bone just because it remembers where it is. So
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Speaker 2: I feel that anything we want to manifest in our lives,
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Speaker 2: we already have it somewhere, and we want it here.
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Speaker 2: The universe is a vast place now folks are calling
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Speaker 2: it the multiverse. So there's a version of you somewhere
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Speaker 2: that has this thing that you want here, but you
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Speaker 2: don't see it yet, and that closes our heart because
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Speaker 2: we get disappointed because we don't have it here yet.
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Speaker 3: Right, So, some of the.
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Speaker 2: Questions are, what is the one thing you want more
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Speaker 2: than anything in the world. What would your life be
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Speaker 2: like if you had it right now? So I want
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Speaker 2: people to start to use their imagination to let their
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Speaker 2: mind run wild with what their life would be like
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Speaker 2: if they had it right now. And as you're listening
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Speaker 2: to this, just close your eyes and allow yourself to
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Speaker 2: do that. What's the one thing you want? Why do
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Speaker 2: you want it? Because I want to be happy, I
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Speaker 2: want to be connected, I want to be fulfilled. I
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Speaker 2: want to live my purpose. Okay, now, what would your
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Speaker 2: life be like fulfilling your purpose, feeling connected, being happy.
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Speaker 2: Let your mind is run wild. Let those new connections
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Speaker 2: in your brain, those new neural pathways open up.
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Speaker 3: What would your life.
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Speaker 2: Be like after having it for ten years? Sit back
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Speaker 2: and let those images, those neural pathways, those connections. Let
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Speaker 2: it all happen in your mind as you breathe, what
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Speaker 2: does it feel like having that thing for over a decade,
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Speaker 2: for over ten years. And then the last question is
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Speaker 2: if you knew the thing you wanted would appear, if
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Speaker 2: you lived as if it was already here.
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Speaker 3: Would you?
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Speaker 2: And I think most of us would answer yes. But
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Speaker 2: here's the challenge. And now we're talking about manifestation. Right
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Speaker 2: to me, the heart center is the birth canal for
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Speaker 2: everything we manifest. If you think of the thing that
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Speaker 2: you want and your heart closes because your eyes can't
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Speaker 2: see it yet, you're just going to manifest another moment
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Speaker 2: of that not having it. So our thoughts and our
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Speaker 2: emotions throw paint on the canvas of the next moment.
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Speaker 2: So if our heart closes, we're creating another moment of
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Speaker 2: not having it. But if you just close your eyes
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Speaker 2: and you allow yourself to think of whatever it is
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Speaker 2: you want without saying I have all the money right
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Speaker 2: without saying I'm rich, without saying that, just saying maybe
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Speaker 2: ideas like success, breathing wealth, feeling and breathing money, breathing feeling,
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Speaker 2: allowing your heart to open, just holding those ideas, connection,
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Speaker 2: breathing love, thinking of love. What do we all want?
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Speaker 2: What are we made of. What are we disconnected when
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Speaker 2: we come here from that love? Focusing our mind on love,
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Speaker 2: just the idea of love, maybe seeing the letters floating
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Speaker 2: around in your mind, breathing, receiving, letting your heart open.
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Speaker 2: So when we think of the things that we want
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Speaker 2: to create and manifest, step one getting out of the
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Speaker 2: starting gate is opening our heart. Opening our heart. Think
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Speaker 2: about people that complain, right, think about yourselves. I think
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Speaker 2: about myself. When I was complaining, my heart was closed.
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Speaker 2: I was creating more of that lack or creating more
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Speaker 2: moments of being upset about that thing. The thing we
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Speaker 2: have to understand is that the human being is a creator.
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Speaker 2: We are creators. Dogs don't build their own doghouses. We
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Speaker 2: build them. We have ideas and we create it. If
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Speaker 2: you're putting up holiday likes, you have the idea in
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Speaker 2: your head and then you go do it. We're creators.
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Speaker 2: Here's the deal. Most of humanity is creating unconsciously. We're
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Speaker 2: creating from the stress and the body. That's why we
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Speaker 2: see stress all throughout our reality, all throughout humanity because
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Speaker 2: we're creating more of it because we're focusing on it.
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Speaker 2: So this is about learning how to focus our mind
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Speaker 2: on what we want, closing our eyes, seeing it, breathing, receiving,
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Speaker 2: not saying I have love, I am love, just love,
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Speaker 2: just that thing, and being it. When I say we
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Speaker 2: are creators. You might think of the supreme being when
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Speaker 2: you think of the word creator, Okay, but think of
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Speaker 2: it more as supremely being. Not a supreme being, but
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Speaker 2: supremely being. And it's a state of being. It's a
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Speaker 2: state of vibration, it's a state of love. It's a
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Speaker 2: state of supremely being, breathing deep and slow, receiving the airflow,
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Speaker 2: opening up to our own divine essence from the inside out.
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Speaker 2: So before we get into the techniques, those questions just
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Speaker 2: get us to think about things a little bit differently,
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Speaker 2: to kind of open up the playing field so that
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Speaker 2: we can learn something new, so that we could dive
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Speaker 2: into this manifesting machine right of the psyche, the body,
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Speaker 2: and start to cleanse it from the inside out, start
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Speaker 2: to cleanse those old layers of fear and doubt, releasing
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Speaker 2: them so we could breathe again from the inside out,
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Speaker 2: so we could feel safe in our own skin, so
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Speaker 2: we can truly manifest what we're here to do and
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Speaker 2: be and enjoy it along the way, because as we
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Speaker 2: clean out the projector inside of us. If you think
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Speaker 2: of like the body, the human body, and this experience
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Speaker 2: as like a manifesting machine, we're also like a projector.
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Speaker 2: We're actually projecting reality. So what we feel, what we think,
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Speaker 2: and we really what we're programmed to think from our
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Speaker 2: past generations and our upbringing, that's what we're keep on seeing.
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Speaker 2: That's how that's why history repeats itself. When we break
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Speaker 2: that cycle and we look from the inside out with
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Speaker 2: the inner eye, we listen with the inner ear, we're
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Speaker 2: starting to receive the impulses from the universe directly, not
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Speaker 2: from the impulses and the ideas from our family, our community,
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Speaker 2: from our religions, from our political parties, not from that.
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Speaker 2: When we're receiving the impulses from the universe directly, those
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Speaker 2: impulses come through and inspiration, intuition.
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Speaker 3: Deep inner visions, dreams.
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Speaker 2: Right, That's how the universe prings us and sends us
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Speaker 2: those messages. It's learning how to listen to that. So
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Speaker 2: as we go through the stress has gone method. Really
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Speaker 2: what you're doing is you're releasing old layers of fear
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Speaker 2: that have been in your body for generations. It's not
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Speaker 2: our fault, right what our parents did to us, their
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Speaker 2: parents did to them, and so on and so forth,
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Speaker 2: going all the way back down the line. And we're
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Speaker 2: just now having an opportunity to unwind it from our mind,
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Speaker 2: body and spirit, to come back to the present moment,
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Speaker 2: so that we could actually open up to our higher
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Speaker 2: purpose and our destiny and allow the human body to
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Speaker 2: be what it is. It's a receiver of spirit. This
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Speaker 2: vessel right here turns back to dust when the spirit
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Speaker 2: that is us leaves it. So this thing in essence
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Speaker 2: is a receiver of spirit. And when we surrender our pain,
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Speaker 2: we surrender our emotions, they unwind from the body, and
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Speaker 2: then we could actually receive more spirit in the body
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Speaker 2: and be more present in the moment.
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Speaker 1: The wisdom of my guest Brett Catter his book The
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Speaker 1: Stress Is Gone Method. Brett, one more time, please share
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Speaker 1: with our listeners where then get your books and find
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Speaker 1: out more about you and your wonderful work.
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Speaker 2: So Stress Is Gone. Dot Com is the best place
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Speaker 2: to go. It's the hub for relief, emotional healing, relaxation
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Speaker 2: and evolution. It's the best that I have to offer
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Speaker 2: over the last twenty five years of helping people overcome
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Speaker 2: the heartache and tears and get to the next level,
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Speaker 2: that next step of what they want to be in
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Speaker 2: their reality right now. The next big event we have
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Speaker 2: is in the Bahamas January twentieth to the twenty third.
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Speaker 2: We're going to be a part of a trauma Recovery symposium,
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Speaker 2: and then we have an amazing Woman's Retreat from March
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Speaker 2: twenty seventh through the thirty first. We have a weekend
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Speaker 2: option and we actually have a one night option as
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Speaker 2: well on March twenty eighth, called the Dance of Destiny.
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Speaker 2: We have five incredible facilitators. They're going to help us
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Speaker 2: facilitate that event. We have Tony Bergens, the founder of
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Speaker 2: Journey Dance. We have manus Iteen, the singer and percussionist
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Speaker 2: from Michael Fronte and Spearhead. We have Laura Catone who's
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Speaker 2: a sound healer. We have my wife, Stephanie leading chigung
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Speaker 2: and I'm going to be leading the emotional healing section
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Speaker 2: of the retreat.
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Speaker 3: So if any of the stuff that.
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Speaker 2: We had talked about resonates with you, I encourage you
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Speaker 2: to come check us out at the retreat. It is
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Speaker 2: going to be an amazing opportunity to heal and a
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Speaker 2: chance to come vibe with your new tribe.
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Speaker 1: Brett, thank you so much for joining us and sharing
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Speaker 1: this wisdom which this world so desperately needs.
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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me, Victor. It was
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Speaker 2: a true honor to be with you.
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Speaker 1: And thank you for joining us on Destination Unlimited. I'm
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Speaker 1: Victor the Voice Firman. Have a wonderful week.