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Start Here — You’re Not Alone · How Not To Give Up with Kathy Tulley

• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: Everything gonna be alright, alright, everything gonna be alright, alright, everything gonna be alright, alright, alright, alright.
• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: Let's go.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: I'm really glad you're here.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: Can I ask you a question?
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_00: You ever notice how sometimes life changes so gradually you don't really realize how much you've been carrying until someone asks if you're okay?
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: Does that feel familiar?
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to know something before we go any further.
• 0:28
  SPEAKER_00: You are not alone.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Kathy Tully, and this is How Not to Give Up.
• 0:34
  SPEAKER_00: This isn't a podcast about pretending everything's okay.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: Definitely not about someone telling you, just think positive, try harder, look at the bright side.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes things are hard.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: Really hard.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes you've been carrying them for so long you've gotten very good at carrying them.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: You keep going.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: You take care of what needs to be taken care of, you figure things out, you adapt, and somewhere along the way you may lose sight of yourself a little.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: I know something about that.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_00: There have been seasons of my life when everything changed.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: Times when I was hurt, I was exhausted, times when I thought the life I was building suddenly looked nothing like the life I was living.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: And there were moments when I genuinely didn't know what came next.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: But there's something I learned.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes your photograph you're looking at, it isn't the end of the story.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: It's just one frame.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes the person you think you've lost is still there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe tired, maybe hurt, maybe buried beneath a whole lot of survival, but still there.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_00: You are still there.
• 1:48
  SPEAKER_00: That's a lot of what we're going to explore here.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: Not how to become some shinier, more impressive version of yourself, but how to notice what's still here.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: How to recognize hope when it doesn't look particularly hopeful yet.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: How to look at ordinary moments, stories, people, sometimes ourselves, a little differently.
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_00: And when we're ready, how to find the next small step.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not the whole staircase, not a five-year plan.
• 2:18
  SPEAKER_00: Just what's possible from here?
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have all the answers.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: That's actually part of the point.
• 2:25
  SPEAKER_00: I'm curious.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: I asked a lot of questions, and I love those moments when we're looking at something we've seen a hundred times, and suddenly, oh, now I see it.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: Those are the moments I'm interested in.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes one different way of seeing something changes what we believe is possible.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what we'll do here.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_00: We'll ask questions, we'll tell stories, we'll look for patterns, we'll investigate some things, we'll probably laugh, and we'll occasionally wander down a rabbit hole or two or ten.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: And together we'll look for those little pieces of evidence that remind us this isn't necessarily the end of the story.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_00: There may be still something here.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: There may be still something positive and possible.
• 3:12
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you don't have to figure it all out today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe today you just need somewhere to sit for a few minutes.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: If so, welcome.
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_00: You're in the right place.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_00: And before you go, I want to leave you with one question, not something you'd have to answer right now, just something to carry with you.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: What if there's more of you still here than you realize?
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Kathy Tully, and this is How Not to Give Up.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: I'm really glad you found your way here.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome home.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you next time.