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Love Bombing from a narcissist is different for everyone · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist Mr. Lee Hammett
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This is the first time I see my
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  face and hearing my voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and they use my platform on social media to
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  raise awareness for NPD, get more people in the therapy and
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  also validate the victims, survivors and thrivers of said
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  disorder, said toxic people said toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about goodness races y'all.
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  It's going to be about how love bombing is different for
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  everybody. Y'all love bombing.
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  How love bombing is specifically catered to the person that is
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  experiencing said love bombing. Before we hop into today's
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  episode y'all make sure you hop over to Amazon.
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  Take a look at the self love journal.
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  I love me a self love journal about Lee Hammock.
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  Help me rebuild their self love and identity after that before
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  doing after that types of relationship dynamic.
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  Y'all but yeah, yeah, yeah, hop into it.
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  Y'all. Love bombing from a narcissistic
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  person looks different for everybody but Lee.
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  What do you mean love? Bombing is extravagant gifts,
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  you know? This is what people say.
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  Love bombing is just based on extravagant gifts.
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  A lot of different things. Gifts, money just take you out
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  on a dates being everything that you've ever wanted and needed in
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  a significant other or a person or a job or whatever situation
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  you that you're involved in. Like love money process
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  involved, the narcissist, the person giving you everything
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  that you've been praying for, everything that you wanted and
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  needed and and answer to your dreams so to speak.
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  You know what I mean? It did, and this is what happens
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  a lot of times. But like the key phrase in that
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  y'all is everything that you've wanted and needed, everything
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  you've been asking for. Everybody doesn't want and need
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  the same exact thing outside of food, shelter, water, whatever.
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  Everybody doesn't want the same exact thing.
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  You mean everybody has different wants?
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  Some people want Louis Vuitton, some people want Nike.
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  You see what I'm saying? Everybody has different wants
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  and needs and whatnot. So love bombing is going to be
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  different for everybody. Love bombing doesn't have to be
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  extravagant gifts. Love bombing could just be an
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  ear to listen to like you never had somebody listen like this.
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  You can feel love bomb because somebody is overwhelming You
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  would attention just giving you attention.
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  You mean just talking to you? Just being your friend, you
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  know, just getting to know you on a more serious level.
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  Love bombings can look different to every single person.
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  Y'all love bombing doesn't mean that they're going to go out
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  here and buy you a yacht. Love bombing could be them
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  buying you your favorite book, which could be the Self Love
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  Journal on Amazon. That's what love bombing could
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  look like. I was like Lee, but I'm sorry.
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  Yeah, but seriously, love by me is going to look different for
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  every single person. Y'all.
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  Everybody is experiencing it. They could just give you
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  something small. They could, you know, get put.
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  Yeah. Love by me is going to look
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  different for every single person.
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  That's just the way it goes. You know what I mean?
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  When people say the love by me was intense, what do you think
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  when people you think of a matter of fact when you think of
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  love by me? This, this.
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  Today's like the homework today. When you think about the the
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  phrase love bombing, what pops into your head?
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  Write it. Write it in the comment section.
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  Y'all what pops do you hear when you hear the phrase love
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  bombing? Because people think it's a when
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  you hear, I mean it sounds like something's blowing up a love
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  bomb. It's not like somebody dropped
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  the heart-shaped bomb from a helicopter and it just blew up
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  in your life. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's a love bombing. See, that's what people think it
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  is. But love bombing could just be
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  extra. It just could be an addon.
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  They just can be going going the extra mile and you can be feel
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  and you can feel love bombed. You mean because everybody
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  doesn't get the extravagant things.
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  Everybody doesn't like that. Everybody doesn't have the means
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  to provide you extravagant things.
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  Because I've heard people that I've done one O ones with.
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  It's like this person loved bombed me, but they were a bum,
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  you know, they didn't have anything to offer.
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  They were homeless or whatever they loved.
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  Bombed me with homelessness, you know what I mean?
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  I was just like how they love bombed me with no income, no
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  bad, no nothing. They they love bombed you and
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  moved in with you because they might have been providing you
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  that. The the love bombing from that
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  bum bum type person might have been sexual in nature.
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  They could have just clapped the cheeks really, really well.
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  You see what I'm saying? They could have just put it on
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  you really, really well. And that felt like love bombing.
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  Like I said, because it doesn't always have to be this intense,
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  huge thing. It could be something very
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  minute. If you love bombing, it just it
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  could just be an extra addon. It could be writing you poems or
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  letters if that's what you like. Love bombing is giving you more
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  of what you already like. You know what I'm saying?
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  If you are very frugal person who doesn't, who doesn't really
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  care about fancy things, somebody buying you a $40,000
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  watch isn't going to necessarily seem like love bombing to you.
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  It's going to be too intense. You see what I'm saying?
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  Love bombing to you might not be a fancy watch or new car or
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  something along those lines. Love bombing to for you could be
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  something way more you can be. They can just be good to your
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  kids. You see what I'm saying?
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  They can be the first time meeting your kids.
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  Your kids can love them because they get they shower your kids
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  in gifts. You see what I'm saying?
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  They they're different with your kids than they were than they
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  are with you, Especially doing a Love by me face, you know what I
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  mean? But it's going to happen quite a
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  bit though. Yeah, that's what you tell
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  people love by me. Doesn't always have to be this
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  huge, massive thing like we went on trips with.
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  Does that happen? Yeah.
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  You can go on trips and vacations and spend a lot of
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  money, get a new car. Some people would love that
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  $40,000 watch, $50,000 pair of shoes.
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  I was like $50,000 pair of shoes.
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  I'm pretty sure there's some shoes out there that cost
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  somewhere around there, but let's just say let's get it down
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  like $500 shoes you don't like. I said that might work for some
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  people, but it might not work for others.
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  Your love bombing is going to be different than your the the
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  person commenting above. Use love bombing.
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  Don't put what you like. Y'all.
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  If you are here single and look in the mingle, don't put what
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  type of love bombing will work on you.
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  Don't do that because you might get a narcissist.
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  The person that looks in the comment section.
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  Hey, I like that too. Hey, like that.
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  Let's go out on a date. And y'all don't got a little
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  bomb from my page or something like that.
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  They'll do that. Y'all don't.
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  Don't do that. Don't do not do not do that.
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  Don't, don't not do that. You know what I'm saying?
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  Because like I say, love bombing can look differently for
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  everybody experiencing it. Y'all your love bombing.
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  It's going to be different than your neighbors love bombing,
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  than your best friends love bombing, than your mom's love
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  bombing, the love bombing that your mom received or your dad
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  received. Because back in the day, you
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  know you can love bomb. Somebody was just having a job,
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  you know? But this is the thing right here
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  about love bombing though. Y'all love bombing does require
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  you know if they a lot of time, what a what, what a yours is a
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  lot of times what a narcissist uses to love bomb you.
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  It's what they learned from the previous relationship.
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  Y'all if they don't know you or they're trying to get to know
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  you, if they're being very analytical with you and trying
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  to study you and things like that, they're trying to learn
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  how to love bomb you. A lot of times they're trying to
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  see what works, you know what I'm saying?
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  Because again, I can't. Certain things that work for my
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  ex might not work on you. You might you, you might be a
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  high heeled person. My ex was a tenantship person.
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  You see what I'm saying? There's so many different
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  aspects that go on here into these scenarios in these
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  situations. Like Love bombing is catered to
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  you just like you catering for a wedding, Love Byman is catered
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  to you. And like I said, a lot of times
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  the narcissist is just using things that worked to love by
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  Love bomb an ex, you know, an ex partner or whatever.
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  They they're using techniques that they learn from listening
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  to their ex. But if that doesn't work out,
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  they might become a very astute listener to you.
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  They might listen to you and things like that, you know, it
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  just happens that way. Y'all So protect yourself
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  against the love bombs. I hear y'all we're actually
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  writing a song right now called Love Bombs.
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  But like I said, you love bombing is going to look
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  different for every single person experiencing it.
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  That narcissistic person is going to sit right there, listen
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  to you, Absorb what you have to say about yourself, what you
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  like, your likes and dislikes, and use that to use that to have
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  the ingredients for their own personal life.
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  Love bomb you may a song playing like whatever song you listen to
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  your favorite song from back in the day, they might have that
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  plan on the radio or something like that.
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  They can feel like a love bomb, you know?
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  It seems like it's just like really doesn't classify as a
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  love bomb. What is your definition of love
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  bomb? Because it doesn't always have
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  to be, you know, some bombs have little, have little explosions.
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  Not every single bomb is going to blow up like a like damn T&T
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  or something like that. It's not going to blow up like
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  the an atomic bomb or something along those lines, a nuke so to
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  speak and whatnot. But like I said that this is
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  going to keep the use of happening out.
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  Like like make people earn your information generic love
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  bombing. They can they can start off with
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  some generic love bombing but eventually if they want to make
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  it work with you or try to snare you in, they're going to cater
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  the love bombing to the things that you like and you dislike.
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  And well, Lee, how do they know what we like and we we well Lee,
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  how do we how do they know what we like and dislike?
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  Check. Go check your Facebook, check
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  your TikTok. Check your Instagram, Check your
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  likes and dislikes on there you listed it.
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  Check your dating profile, your likes and dislikes.
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  Y'all are helping narcissists. When you have your wants and
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  needs on your dating profile, you are helping narcissists
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  become like relationship scammers.
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  Are they relationship scammers? They really love scammers.
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  They love scammers. Like when you are, all your
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  information is readily available online.
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  You become like, say they become a love scammer.
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  Like a love scammer, they will absolutely scam the steam off of
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  you. You know what I mean by using
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  you, using the information that you you provided them to
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  personalize your love bomb. It's coming.
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  I said. They're going to personalize
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  that love bomb for you. Get inside of their head of your
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  and mess with you because that's what a lot of narcissistic,
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  toxic people do. Y'all they're going to concoct
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  their own personalized love bomb for you is going to.
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  It's going to blow up and whatever.
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  But like I said, they could very well just use what they learned
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  from the previous. They could just use what their
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  ex ask them to do, and they never did it.
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  They could be giving you everything that they promised
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  their exes and that they can they can use that to formulate a
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  love bomb as well. Y'all but it was y'all I had to
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  hop off of this thing at one last one-on-one for the tour
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  peace. What is going on beautiful
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  video, watching it all the way through.
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