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What Is Self-Serving Bias? Understanding Its Causes, Effects, and Importance · Reformed Thinking

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Welcome to Reformed Thinking. Today we are embarking on a deep
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dive into some truly fascinating source material.
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We are looking at a universal, yet almost entirely invisible
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habit of the human mind. We're talking about the innate
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human instinct to eagerly take full credit for every success
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while frantically shifting the blame for every single failure.
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I am your host and I am thrilled to get into this.
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And I am your resident theologian.
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For this deep dive. We have an incredible stack of
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material to guide our analysis today.
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On one side, we have a comprehensive clinical
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psychological overview. This paper details what the
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secular world calls a self-serving bias.
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It maps out the mental reflexes that protect our egos.
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On the other side, we have a rigorous reformed theological
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text titled The Anatomy of Pride.
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This text critiques the psychological phenomenon through
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the lens of Scripture and Westminster Standards.
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Yeah, and we are going to put these two texts in dialogue with
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one another. We want to see where secular
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psychology accurately diagnosis the symptom, and then where
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reformed theology steps in to diagnose the underlying terminal
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disease. But before we get there, I want
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to pose a direct question to you, the listener.
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Think about your own life for a second.
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When was the last one time you failed at something?
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Maybe a project at work, a conflict in your marriage, a
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missed goal, and your very first instinctual thought was to look
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around for a scapegoat. Right.
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When did you last search for an external circumstance, maybe bad
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luck, or just another person to hold responsible for your own
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shortcoming? Hold that thought in your mind.
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What we are going to uncover today will fundamentally
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challenge how you view your own innocence.
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Our goal for you in this deep dive is threefold. 1st, we want
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you to understand the mechanics of how the mind naturally and
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automatically protects its pride.
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The psychological data is striking in its accuracy
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regarding human behavior. It really is.
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It maps out precisely how we filter information to favor
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ourselves. And 2nd, we want to recognize
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this not simply as a mental quirk or, you know, a harmless
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evolutionary survival mechanism. We need to see it as a severe
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condition of the heart. The secular world diagnosis A
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cognitive distortion, but scripture diagnosis rebellion.
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Yes, well said. And 3rd, our mission is to lead
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you to discover the true freedom found only in the Gospel of
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Jesus Christ. We are going to look at how
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abandoning your relentless self-defense mechanisms is the
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only path to genuine peace. So, to begin, we have to define
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our terms clearly. We need to contrast the
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psychological definition with the reformed theological
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critique. Looking at our psychological
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source, the definition of this ego protecting bias is laid out
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with startling clarity. It is defined as the habitual,
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almost reflexive tendency of individuals to make what
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psychologists call internal attributions for their successes
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while simultaneously making external attributions for their
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failures. Let me break that down with the
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real world scenario. Let's say you get a major
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promotion at work, or you ace a highly difficult certification
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exam. Your brain immediately
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attributes that positive outcome to internal factors.
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You tell yourself, and really anyone else who will listen,
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that you succeeded because of your superior intelligence.
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You point to your unmasked work ethic, your discipline, or your
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inherent talent. You claim the victory as a
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direct reflection of your own internal virtue.
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Spot on. But when you fail, when you lose
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the biggest client of the quarter, bomb that same
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certification test, or ruin a relationship with a harsh word,
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your brain flips the script entirely.
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Suddenly you make external attributions.
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The failure is attributed to bad luck, an unfair boss, poorly
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written exam questions, a struggling economy, or the
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mistakes of your Co workers. What the secular text makes
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incredibly clear is how this operates automatically.
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That automatic nature is key. People are not always
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consciously lying to themselves or plotting deception in a dark
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room. Rather, their minds filter
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reality to protect their ego before they even realize what is
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happening. The brain acts as an aggressive
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defense attorney, automatically suppressing evidence of your
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guilt and highlighting evidence of your virtue.
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And it does all of this just to keep your self esteem entirely
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intact. The psychological text observes
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the behavior perfectly, but it fails to understand the root
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cause. The secular world calls this a
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bias. They frame it as a cognitive
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evolution designed to shield the human ego so we can maintain
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motivation and social standing in tribal communities.
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But our theological source, the anatomy of pride, calls it what
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it truly is. It calls it a severe disease of
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the heart. Absolutely.
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As Reformed Christians, we analyze this phenomenon through
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the doctrine of total depravity. For anyone listening who might
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not be familiar with that specific theological term, total
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depravity does not mean that human beings are as utterly evil
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as they could possibly be at all times.
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Rather, it teaches that every part of the human faculties, the
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mind, the will, the emotions, the physical body, is corrupted
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and tainted by sin. There is no neutral territory
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within the human heart. Right.
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So this automatic defense mechanism, the psychologists
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observe, is not a neutral evolutionary trait.
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It is the ancient sin of pride masquerading in the language of
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modern therapy. This bias opposes objective
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truth. It is an act of suppression of
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reality. When you selectively filter your
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successes to glorify yourself and filter your failures to
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absolve yourself, you are attempting to rob God of His
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proper glory. And at the same time you are
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excusing your own human rebellion.
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You are acting as your own judge and jury, declaring yourself
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righteous and innocent apart from the cross of Christ.
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It is a legal maneuver of the unregenerate heart.
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It is a desperate attempt to maintain the illusion of
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absolute autonomy. I think we need to look at the
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origin of this behavior because this is not a modern phenomenon
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born out of corporate culture or social media algorithms.
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The psychology source describes the emotional sting of failure
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brilliantly and notes that failure brings intense, crushing
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emotions, things like shame, guilt, and embarrassment.
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Because these emotions are so painful, the mind creates an
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emotional shield by blaming outside factors.
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Yes, the secular text argues that if we had to absorb the
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full, unfiltered weight of our failures, we would be paralyzed
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by despair. So the mind constructs A
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narrative where the failure is someone else's fault.
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This emotional shield softens a blow, making the failure seem
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less personal and less revealing of our own flaws.
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It is an attempt to escape the crushing weight of guilt.
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But hearing you describe the theological reality of total
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depravity makes me wonder how far back this goes.
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If this is a disease of the heart, we have to look at the
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very first humans. This attempt to escape guilt
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takes us directly to the biblical text.
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It takes us specifically to the Garden of Eden right after the
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fall. In Genesis chapter 3, verse 12,
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we see the prototypical anatomy of blame shifting.
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This is The Fountainhead of the psychological phenomenon we are
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discussing today. When the Lord confronts Adam
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after he's eaten the forbidden fruit, Adam does not fall on his
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face in repentance, sorrow. He does not own his rebellion or
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confess his treason. Instead, he constructs an
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incredibly sophisticated linguistic defense.
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The theological source examines the precise Hebrew syntax of
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Adam's response to God. Adam says the woman whom you
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gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.
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We have to analyze the deliberate use of the Hebrew
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verb natan, which translates to give.
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That verb is crucial. Adam uses this verb twice as the
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pivot for his entire defense. He says the woman whom you gave
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pointing directly at God, and then says she gave me pointing
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at Eve. By looking at this syntax, we
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see Adam constructing A strict hierarchy of causality to
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deflect his own agency. He implicates God first is the
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ultimate cause of the disaster. He is essentially saying, if you
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had not given me this woman, I would not be in this mess.
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This is a design flaw on your part.
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Then he implicates his wife as the intermediate cause.
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And where does he place himself? He positions himself as a
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passive, helpless victim of circumstances outside his
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control. Exactly.
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He entirely abandons his covenantal headship.
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He refuses to take responsibility for the garden,
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his wife, or his own actions. He uses the very gift God gave
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him as a weapon of self-defense. That is such a vivid picture of
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what we do every single day. I can think of a dozen times in
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my own life where I have played that exact same card.
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Just recently I was late leaving the house for a meeting and I
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snapped at my spouse because they had misplaced the car keys.
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My immediate reaction was if you had just put the keys on the
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hook, I wouldn't be yelling right now.
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That is a perfect example. I completely ignored the fact
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that I had been scrolling on my phone for 20 minutes prior,
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which was the actual reason I was running late.
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My mind literally deleted the memory of my own procrastination
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to preserve my moral high ground, and I blamed the person
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closest to me. Every time you sit in your
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office and blame a missed deadline entirely on your team,
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or every time you argue with your spouse and claim your harsh
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words were just an unavoidable reaction to their attitude, you
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are repeating the exact script Adam wrote in the garden.
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You are adopting the posture of a victim to avoid the posture of
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a Sinner. The secular source notes how
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seamlessly we do this, pointing out that we are rarely conscious
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of our own mental gymnastics. We genuinely start to believe
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our own filtered narratives. We convince ourselves that our
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anger was justified by the circumstances or our failure was
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strictly the result of bad luck. Adam was not confused about what
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happened. He was terrified of the
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consequences, so he weaponized the circumstances to shield
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himself. But if this instinct is so
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hardwired into us from the garden, how does this affect the
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way we view the human will today?
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Because a lot of people operate under the assumption that deep
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down, people are basically good and possess A neutral ability to
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choose right from wrong. That assumption brings us to a
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major conflict within the broader theological landscape.
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Adam's response in the Garden proves the truth of Jeremiah 17,
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verse 9, which states that the heart is deceitful above all
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things and desperately sick. Who can understand it?
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The theological source details how this reality absolutely
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refutes false doctrines like Pelagianism and certain Armenian
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notion. For the listener who might not
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be familiar with church history, Pelagianism is named after a
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British monk named Pelagius from the 4th century.
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He taught that the human will remains completely neutral after
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the fall of Adam. He believed that every person is
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born with a blank slate, fully capable of choosing perfect
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obedience to God without any special intervening grace.
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And then Arminianism, which arose much later, acknowledges
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the fall but suggests that God gives a universal grace to all
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people that restores their free will just enough to make a
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neutral choice for or against the gospel.
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But Reformed theology, drawing from the clear witness of
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Scripture, argues that the will is in bondage to sin.
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If the human will were truly neutral, Adam's first instinct
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upon encountering the holy, loving Creator would have been
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honest, broken confession. Right.
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But instead his first instinct was aggressive self
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justification and divine accusation.
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The will is fiercely bound to the preservation of the self.
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This reality stands in stark contrast to the modern
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therapeutic preaching trend we see in many churches today.
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This trend treats sin as a wound requiring healing, rather than a
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crime requiring confession and atonement.
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When pulpits treat sin simply as brokenness caused by external
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traumas, they feed the very idol of the invincible self that
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Genesis 3 dismantles. They coddle the Adamic instinct
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to say, The circumstances you gave me cause me to fail.
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We must recognize that while we certainly suffer from the
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effects of a fallen world, our act of rebellion against God's
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law is our own criminal act. It demands a legal substitute,
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not just a therapeutic remedy. So if our default setting is to
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dodge the blame when we fail, what happens when we actually
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get something right? Because it seems like the mind
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is just as aggressive about stealing the spotlight as it is
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about hiding in the shadows. Looking again at the
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psychological side of success, the secular source explains how
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the human mind eagerly claims positive outcomes to boost self
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esteem and elevate our social standing.
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When things go right, we want the world to know what was our
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doing. We want our intelligence, our
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grit, and our late nights to be recognized and applauded.
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The psychology text points out that this inward attribution of
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success gives people a sense of control and fuels their
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determination. We want to believe we are the
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masters of our fate, the captains of our souls.
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We crave the recognition that comes from a victory because our
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identity in the secular framework is entirely tied to
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our achievements. You see this heavily in academic
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and corporate environments. Someone launches a successful
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startup and suddenly they're writing books and giving
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seminars on their morning routines, their relentless work
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ethic, and their visionary foresight.
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Yes, and they completely edit out the favorable market
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conditions. They ignore the wealthy
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inherited to start the business or the brilliant team members
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who executed the daily operations.
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They build a monument to their own hustle.
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Scripture treats this instinct as a fatal spiritual threat.
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It really does. The theological text brings in
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Moses severe warning to the Israelites.
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In Deuteronomy chapter 8, verse 17.
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The Israelites are standing on the edge of the Promised land,
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preparing to enter a time of immense prosperity, abundant
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harvests, and secure cities that they did not build.
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Moses warns them with chilling foresight.
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He says Beware lest you say in your heart My strength and the
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might of my hand have gotten me this wealth.
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When we examine the Hebrew text there, the words used are Kira,
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referring to strength or physical force, and irim,
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referring to might, sturdiness or vast power.
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The historical context here is vital for understanding the
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weight of this warning. These exact terms were heavily
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utilized in the ancient Near Eastern royal inscriptions by
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Pagan King's rulers like Sinatra of Assyria and Nebuchadnezzar of
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Babylon. Think of the Taylor Prism, an
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ancient clay artifact where Sinatra boasts of his military
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conquests. He carved these concepts into
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stone monuments to boast of his own absolute autonomy, claiming
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his own hands built his empires and trapped his enemies like
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birds in a cage. He attributed his victories
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entirely to his own strategic genius and the favor of his
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false gods, but predominantly to his own inherent strength.
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And Moses is telling Israel that adopting this mindset, crediting
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your own strength for your success, is adopting a
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completely Pagan secular philosophy is the theft of
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divine glory. It is taking the crown that
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belongs to the Sovereign Lord, the one who sustains your very
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heartbeat, and placing it on your own head.
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I want to tie this directly to the Westminster Confession of
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Faith for you, the listener, because this is where the
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theology meets the pavement of our daily lives.
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If you look at chapter 5 of the Confession concerning
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Providence, it declares that God, the great Creator of all
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things, upholds, directs, disposes, and governs all
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creatures, actions and things. It specifies that this
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governance covers everything from the greatest to the least.
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Every single atom in the universe operates under His
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sovereign decree. Therefore, arguing that your own
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grind, your superior intellect, or your brilliant networking
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skills are the ultimate cause of your success is a form of
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practical atheism. It is a functional denial of
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God's Providence. You might sing songs about God's
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sovereignty on Sunday morning, but if you walk into your
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workplace on Monday believing your recent promotion is solely
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the result of your own hustle, you are acting as an atheist.
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In practice, you are operating as if the universe is a closed
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system where you generate your own blessings.
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Furthermore, this directly opposes the modern prosperity
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gospel. The prosperity gospel treats God
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as a cosmic vending machine, making him a debtor to man's
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faith or man's effort. It suggests that if you have
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enough faith, or so enough financial seed into a ministry,
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God is obligated to grant you success.
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It turns the Creator into an employee of the creature.
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But the Reformed view, grounded heavily in Scripture, insists
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that every success, every breath, every promotion is a
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pure gift of grace. Even the success of the
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unbeliever is a demonstration of common grace.
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Common grace is the goodness God shows to all people, regardless
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of their spiritual state, providing reign for the crops of
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both the just and the unjust. That success is an act of
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sovereign mercy intended to lead that person to repentance, not a
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monument to their own inherent greatness.
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To fully grasp how we execute this theft of glory and shifting
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of blame, we need to understand the internal machinery of our
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own minds. The secular text details the
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heavy role of memory and emotion in maintaining this bias.
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Memory is highly selective, and human beings are incredibly
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skilled editors of their own life stories.
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The psychologists note that we vividly, intensely recall our
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own long hours of preparation, our own sacrifices, and our own
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sweat. If you studied for an exam, you
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remember the late nights and the coffee you drank.
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But we incredibly quickly forget the hidden advantages we had.
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We forget the support from our colleagues, the favorable
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economic conditions, the fact that we had a quiet home to
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study in, or the doors that were open for us by mentors.
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We edit the movie of our lives to make ourselves the solitary
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hero, cutting out the supporting cast and the director entirely.
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We do this, the text argues, because of the human desire to
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maintain worth, dignity and competence in a highly
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evaluative world. We live in a society that
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constantly judges us based on output, financial success and
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visible achievements. Our brains aggressively curate
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our memories to defend our value in a marketplace that threatens
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to deem us worthless if we fail. The social pressure of our age
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amplifies this exponentially. Think about the highly
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competitive environments you walk through everyday.
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Corporate workplaces with cut pro performance reviews,
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academic institutions grading on strict curves, even competitive
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parenting circles where people constantly compare their
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children's milestones. Those environments force people
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to constantly defend their identities.
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In a culture built on strict meritocracy, admitting fault
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feels like surrendering your status.
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It feels like handing live ammunition to your competitors.
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If you admit to your boss that a failed project was entirely your
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fault due to poor time management, you risk losing your
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bonus or your job. So the secular text shows us the
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exact mechanisms. It points to selective memory,
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emotional shielding, and social defense strategies.
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We build massive psychological fortresses around our egos
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because we are terrified of being exposed as incompetent,
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inadequate, or fundamentally flawed.
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We use these biases as armor to survive the daily evaluation of
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our peers. Theology steps in to explain the
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deep spiritual motive behind this machinery.
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The unregenerate heart is desperate to deploy these
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mechanisms because of a persistent craving for human
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praise over the fear of the Lord.
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The heart that does not rest in the justification provided by
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Christ must justify itself. That is a terrible, exhausting
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burden to carry. It really is.
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If you do not believe that God has declared you righteous
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through the finished work of Jesus, you have to constantly
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prove your worth to your boss, your spouse, your peers, and the
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face staring back at you in the mirror.
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You have to manufacture your own righteousness daily.
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The secular text maps the terrain of the mind, showing us
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the psychological tactics, but the theological text maps the
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idolatry of the heart. We shift blame and steal glory
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because we have replaced the Creator with a creature.
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We want to be God. We want to be sovereign over our
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own reputations and dictate the verdict of our own lives.
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We're terrified of the judgement of God, so we try to
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preemptively declare ourselves innocent.
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Let's bring this down to the ground level and look at
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everyday manifestations of the psychological, logical, and
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spiritual phenomenon. The psychology source walks
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through incredibly tangible, highly relatable examples that
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we see in our normal routines. Let's start with academic and
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professional life. Think about a college student.
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When they get an A on a difficult final exam, they will
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tell anyone who will listen that they got that grade because they
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are naturally smart. They studied relentlessly for
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weeks, and they master the material.
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They own the victory, but if that exact same student takes a
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different class and gets an F, the narrative shifts instantly.
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Suddenly the professor was completely unreasonable, the
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test questions were designed to trick them, or the textbook was
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poorly written. It is never their lack of study
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or their inability to grasp the concepts.
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It is always an external injustice inflicted upon them.
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We see the exact same thing in the corporate world.
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A sales employee hits their quarterly targets and
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immediately credits their own natural charisma, their
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brilliant sales tactics and the relentless drive.
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But if they missed the target the next quarter, they blame a
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poor economy, bad marketing from the corporate office or supply
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chain issues causing shipping delays.
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They insulate themselves from the failure while bathing in the
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glow of the success. We see this vividly in sports
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and athletics as well. The psychological text points
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out how athletes and fans constantly filter outcomes
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through this exact bias. When a team wins A championship,
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the players and fans credit their unmatched grit, brilliant
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coaching strategies, and superior athletic talent.
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They claim the victory is proof of their inherent superiority.
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But when they lose, they immediately point to bad
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referees making bias calls, unfair weather conditions, or
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just highly unlucky breaks. The lens is always tinted to
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favor the self and protect the ego of the group.
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But where this bias becomes truly devastating is in
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relationships and conflict. Think about marriages and long
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term friendships. We constantly judge our own
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intentions generously while judging the actions of others
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harshly. Psychologists call this the
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fundamental attribution error when applied to others.
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When you snap at your spouse, you excuse it because you had a
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stressful day at work, the traffic was terrible, and you
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are operating on very little sleep.
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You know your intention was not to hurt them, so you grant
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yourself massive grace based on your circumstances.
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But when your spouse snaps at you, you do not consider their
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stressful day or their lack of sleep.
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You judge their action as a massive character flaw, a find
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of inherent selfishness or disrespect.
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This double standard destroys trust and breeds severe
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resentment. Over time, you become a
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relentless defense attorney for your own mistakes and a ruthless
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prosecuting attorney for everyone else's.
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The theological implication here is immense, especially for the
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successful person listening right now.
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If you are a high achieving professional, a successful
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parent whose kids are thriving, or a leader in your community,
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the culture is screaming at you to own your win.
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The world tells you to stand on the podium, accept the applause,
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write the memoir, and attribute your success to your own hustle
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and determination. But the Word of God tells you to
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own your dependence. Every ounce of intellect in your
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brain, every breath in your lungs, every random opportunity
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that came your way was handed to you by a sovereign God.
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To claim the success as your own independent creation is an act
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of spiritual treason. It is a failure to recognize the
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origin of your gifts. We must carefully weigh the
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perceived benefits of this mindset against its fatal
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dangers. The psychology text is
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intellectually honest enough to admit that this bias actually
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has short term benefits for human functioning.
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It creates an illusion of resilience.
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By shifting blame to external factors, people preserve their
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motivation to try again. If you believe your failure was
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just bad luck or a fluke, you are much more likely to attempt
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the task a second time. It acts as an emotional buffer
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against total despair, preventing fragile people from
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being completely crushed by the weight of their own
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inadequacies. Furthermore, it helps maintain
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social confidence. A leader who projects absolute
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certainty in their own success while aggressively ignoring or
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spinning their failures often commands a room effectively in a
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corporate setting. They project strength which
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makes others want to follow them, even if that strength is
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built on a distorted view of reality.
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But the severe consequences absolutely dwarf those short
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term benefits. The secular text outlines the
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psychological dangers clearly. First, it distorts reality.
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You stop seeing the world and yourself accurately.
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You start living in a fantasy world where you are the flawless
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protagonist of the universe and everyone else is either a
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supporting character or an antagonist trying to bring you
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down. Second, it creates massive
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overconfidence, which inevitably leads to reckless decisions.
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If ACEO believes their past financial success was entirely
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due to their own brilliance, ignoring the incredibly
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favorable market conditions that actually drove the profit, they
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will make disastrous high risk choices in the future believing
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they cannot fail. 3rd, it traps people in repeated patterns of
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failure because they absolutely refuse to learn.
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If you never admit you are the problem, you will never change
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your behavior. You will carry the same toxic
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habits into every new job and every new relationship,
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wondering why things always go wrong.
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And 4th, as we mentioned with the marriage example, it breeds
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deep toxic resentment in relationships.
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Absolutely no one wants to live with or work for someone who
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eagerly takes all the credit when things go right and accepts
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none of the blame when things go wrong.
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It destroys team cohesion and marital intimacy.
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Those psychological dangers are severe and well documented, but
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the theological danger is fatal. The theological text points out
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the ultimate spiritual catastrophe of this mindset.
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A mind determined to justify itself cannot receive the grace
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of God. If your hands are full of your
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own self righteousness, you cannot grasp the cross.
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If you constantly, reflexively shift the blame for your
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actions, you cannot practice true biblical repentance.
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Repentance is not just feeling sorry for the consequences of
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your actions. It requires you to stand before
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the Holy God and say, I am the man, I am the guilty party.
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I have no excuses, no scapegoats and no mitigating circumstances.
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Furthermore, if you claim all the glory for your successes,
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you live in direct violation of the First commandment.
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You're policing another God yourself before the face of the
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Almighty. You're building monuments to
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your own coat, your own strength, while entirely
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ignoring the God who gave you the strength to stand in the
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first place. This bias is a direct barrier to
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salvation because it refuses to acknowledge the reality of our
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desperate need for a Savior. So how do we break free?
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This is the most crucial part of our discussion today.
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Looking at the gospel remedy in the Great Exchange, I want to
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ask how can a person ever break free from the suffocating,
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exhausting cycle of self-defense?
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We spend our entire lives managing our public relations,
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spinning our failures to look like learning opportunities, and
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polishing our trophies so everyone can see them.
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It is a heavy crushing burden to constantly maintain this facade.
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The theological source provides the only viable answer to this
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exhaustion. It points us directly to the
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Apostle Paul in Philippians chapter 3, verses 7 through 9.
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If anyone in human history had the earthly right to indulge in
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a self favoring narrative, it was Paul.
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He details his resume in that chapter.
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He was circumcised on the eighth day of the tribe of Benjamin, a
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Hebrew of Hebrews. As to the law of Pharisee, as to
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Zeal, a persecutor of the Church, as to righteousness
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under the law, blameless. He had the pedigree, the elite
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education, the intense religious zeal, the flawless public
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resume. He was a high achiever in the
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strictest sense of the word. He possessed every internal
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attribution for success a Jewish man of his day could possibly
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want. Yet Paul experienced a total
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shattering dismantling of his cognitive framework on the road
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to Damascus. We need to analyze his authorial
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word choice in the Greek text of Philippians to understand the
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magnitude of his shift when evaluating all of his earthly
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merits, his massive success. This is his flawless religious
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reputation. Paul uses the word Skybalon.
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Most English translation soften this word, translating it as
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rubbish or loss, but the literal Greek meaning is much harsher.
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He calls his self righteousness refuse dung excrement and the
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filthy table scraps that only to be thrown to the wild dogs in
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the street. This is a shocking, highly
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offensive term in the refined Greco Roman context.
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Paul's making a staggering theological claim here.
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He's not just saying his successes were good things, but
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Christ is simply a better thing. He's saying that when compared
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to the absolute blazing, perfect holiness of God, his very best
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efforts to justify himself are morally loathsome.
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They're filthy garbage. The significance of this
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realization is absolute. When you truly view your own
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merits, your own resume, and your own good deeds as Sky
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Blonde, you know no longer have an ego left to defend.
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The self protecting bias dies right there in the dirt.
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You stop scrambling to steal glory because you realize your
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hands are entirely empty. You stop shifting blame because
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you freely admit your total moral bankruptcy.
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That realization completely reorient a person's life, and
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this leads directly to the absolute core of Reformed
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theology. We are talking about imputed
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righteousness as outlined in the Westminster Confession, Chapter
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11. We need to detail what
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theologians call the Great exchange that occurred at the
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cross of Calvary. Jesus Christ is the only human
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being in history who possessed the actual objective right to
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claim perfect merit. He had a flawless record of
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obedience to the Father. Yet at the cross He took the
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blame for massive failures He did not commit.
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He absorbed the external attribution of our sin.
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Let's define imputed righteousness clearly for you,
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the listener, because this is the bedrock of the Protestant
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faith. It is a foreign, external
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righteousness credited to your account.
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You do not generate it from within.
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You do not earn it through good behavior.
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God takes the perfect, flawless obedience of Jesus Christ and
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legally credits it to your account, declaring you
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righteous. Simultaneously, He takes your
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filthy rebellion, your blame shifting and your glory stealing
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and places it on Christ to be punished under the wrath of God.
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The great exchange means he gets your sin and you get his perfect
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record. This profound exchange
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establishes the reality of similistas at Picotour, a Latin
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phrase champion during the Reformation, meaning we are
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simultaneously righteous and a Sinner.
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In your daily experience, you remain A Sinner who fails, who
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struggles with pride, and who makes mistakes.
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But legally, in Christ, you're declared perfectly righteous
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before the throne of God. Understanding this frees you
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entirely from the exhausting pragmatism of needing to prove
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your worth to everyone around you.
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You no longer need to spin your failures or blame your spouse,
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your boss, or the economy because your absolute worst
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failures are already fully paid for in the blood of Christ.
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You no longer need to boast in your successes or demand
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recognition for your hard work because your greatest success is
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the borrowed righteousness of the Son of God.
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The great exchange is the definitive permanent cure for
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the prideful heart. It destroys the need for the
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self-serving bias because your identity is no longer tied to
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your performance. It is anchored in Christ's
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performance. Let's ground this high theology
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in your daily life. We want to look at practical
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application for your head, your heart and your hands.
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Let's start with the head, what you need to believe on a daily
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basis. We must actively reject the
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modern seeker sensitive focus on self esteem that permeates so
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much of modern culture and even modern Christianity.
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The goal of the Christian life is not to feel better about
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yourself. It is to think less about
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yourself and infinitely more about Christ.
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You must ground your intellect firmly in what theologians call
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the indicative of the Gospel. In grammar, the indicative moves
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states a reality or a fact like you are loved.
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The imperative mood states a command like love your neighbor.
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We constantly try to build our identity on the imperative, what
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we are doing for God. But you must build your mental
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framework on the indicative, what Christ has already achieved
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in history on your behalf. You're standing before the
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Creator is secure, so your mind can stop playing defense.
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You can stop acting like a lawyer trying to win a case that
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has already been dismissed. Moving to the heart, what you
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need to feel. I want to address the weary
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Christian listening to this right now.
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If you are exhausted from constantly trying to hide your
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flaws, project project perfection on social media and
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defend your reputation at work, you need to cultivate a specific
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set of affections. You must cultivate the holy
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dissatisfaction with your own self righteousness.
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Learn to be highly suspicious of your own instinct to justify
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yourself in an argument. When you feel that defensive
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wall rising up in your chest during a conflict, recognize it
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for what it is. It is the old Adamic nature
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trying to survive, but you must pair that suspicion with a
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tremendous, affectionate joy in Christ's imputed righteousness.
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Feel the severe. Weight of your sin, yes, but let
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that drive you to feel the infinitely greater weight of His
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grace. Your heart should overflow with
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deep gratitude because the crushing pressure is off.
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Christ has fulfilled the Law on your behalf.
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You are entirely loved, not because of what you've done, but
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despite what you have done. And finally, the Aflers hands
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what you are called to do in your daily interactions.
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This is what reformed theology calls the third use of the law.
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The first use of the law is a mirror showing us our sin.
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The second use is a curb restraining evil in society.
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But the third use of the law is a guide showing the saved
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believer how to live a life of grateful obedience.
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We can look at the secular advice offered by psychologists
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seeking honest feedback, practicing mindfulness and
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self-awareness, and elevate it through the lens of the Gospel.
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Practically, this means you must practice radical confession in
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your daily life. When you fail tomorrow at work,
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or when you snap at your kids at home because you're impatient,
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explicitly own your sin without any caveats.
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Do not say I'm sorry I yelled but you guys were being so loud.
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The word but entirely negates the confession.
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Just say I was wrong. I sinned against you by losing
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my temper. Please forgive me, because your
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identity is eternally secure in Christ.
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You can afford to lose an earthly argument.
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You can afford to take the blame.
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And on the flip side, when you succeed, be highly audible in
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your praise to God. Intentionally attribute your
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provision, your wealth, and your opportunities to His
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providential hand. Refuse to take the credit when
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others try to hand you the crown.
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We also must connect this directly to our worship,
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specifically the means of grace, the preaching of the Word, the
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sacraments, and prayer. Think about what occurs when we
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approach the Lord's Supper. Coming to the communion table is
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the ultimate physical rejection of self justification.
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You do not come to the table waving your impressive resume,
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listing your recent charitable donations, or boasting about
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your moral victories for the week.
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You come eating the broken bread and drinking the wine as a
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starving beggar who has been inexplicably invited to feast at
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the King's table. You boast only in the host who
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provided the meal. The sacraments visibly
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reinforced the reality of that. You contribute absolutely
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nothing to your salvation but the sin that made it necessary.
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Every time you take communion, you are practicing the death of
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your ego and publicly declaring your total reliance on the
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external righteousness of Christ.
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As we wrap up this deep dive, let's summarize the immense
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ground we have covered today. We've examined the vital
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transition from building our lives on the exhausting,
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shifting sands of constant self justification to resting
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entirely on the solid rock of the finished work of Jesus
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Christ. We have seen how secular
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psychology accurately observes our desperate attempts to shift
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blame and steal glory through the self-serving bias, while
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Reformed theology accurately diagnosis the prideful rebellion
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driving those actions all the way back to the Garden of Eden.
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The goal of the Christian life is to live soli de O Gloria, for
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the glory of God alone, not our own fading reputations.
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I. Want to make a direct appeal to
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you, the listener? The gospel demands that we own
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our sin fully so that we may be forgiven fully.
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Stop hiding behind flimsy excuses.
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Step into the light, confess your total bankruptcy, and
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receive the perfect righteousness of Christ.
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It is the only place where true REST is found.
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I will leave you with a final thought to ponder as you go
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about your week. If you're standing before the
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Creator of the universe is permanently, legally secured by
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Christ's perfect record, meaning you absolutely cannot lose His
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love when you fail miserably, and you cannot earn a single
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drop more of His love when you succeed brilliantly, How might
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the complete abandonment of your self-defense mechanisms alter
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the way you handle your next major conflict or failure
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tomorrow? What would happen in your
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marriage, your workplace and your own mind if you simply stop
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fighting to prove you were right?